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THE FACEBOOK EFFECT! AN ARTICLE BY JANET LEE ROSE!
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Communication has changed with the advances of technology; phone calls and mailed letters have been replaced with texts and tweets. The personal relationship has shifted from face to face interactions to notes and abbreviated words on to someone's public wall. Facebook was introduced in 2005. It was first only accessible to university students, which rapidly grew to include friends, relatives, co-workers, teachers and more. Currently, there are more than 800 million people actively using Facebook. In a world where private relationships are public and displayed online one must ask, where does this leave room for romance in a relationship?!

“I was already a bit jealous and insecure, but I think Facebook has definitely made me much, much, much worse.”!
— Minsky!
National A!airs Reporter with The West Block on Global TV News!

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The strains of Facebook on romantic relationship varies, for some couples it does

not affect them at all but for some Facebook users it can bring upon the end of a relationship or the explosive after effects of a bad break up. Facebook's strain on a relationship mostly stems from mistrust and jealousy; this is a result of keeping a constant eye on a partner. It has become so easily accessible that people use it as a venue where they would say things that they would not say in person. Ultimately hindering the relationship by unmeant words. There is also the issue of having access to their personal information and access to their interactions with others; of course having a window into a partner's past can stem insecurity and hurt. And when the relationship does end, is there a healthy way to do it? Or are all relationships doomed to the public, "too much information" sideshow of a break up? Though it has brought people from across the world together and created a platform for relationships, Facebook has the power to have a negative effect on romantic relationships.!

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. A partner can see where their partner has been and with who.some of which can be disturbingly similar to their own” (Bielski). ! of 4 2 ! . Of course. this can accumulate the amount of photos and information from the past. Feelings of insecurity.JanetLeeRose. “Respondents admitted they had used Facebook to check up on their romantic partners by looking at whom they have been speaking to” (Scott). there's less context.ins. No longer is an "ex" the mysterious person you may never bump into. But what boundaries must be presented? Facebook's public interaction has allowed for amazing interactions with anyone but without proper conduct or control a partner has access to too cub information that can bring ! ! about unnecessary jealousy and strain. become more frequent and more intense online” (Minsky). it can start as simple as checking their wall and grow to obsessively looking at all their photos. With Facebook having been online for over four years now. “They can gaze into their predecessors' lives.com ! The first thing Facebook enables someone to do is to keep watch on their partner. A partner's insecurity can magnify when they see tagged photos or interactions with unknown friends. the assumptions can jump from. how many photos can pile up and how many of these things will contain a past relationship? With the start of a new relationship one can see into the window of the past. there are the positive aspects of having a loved one on Facebook: to keep in touch when they travel.! Facebook collects information from the moment one joins to the moment the account is deleted. to show pride in being with them over a public wall and to send each their notes and inside jokes.. “she's just a coworker” or “that's an old friends”. they can start in the darkness of a bedroom alone with insecurities mounting. dissolving many a relationship status in the process” (Bielski). now they are real and online. interactions and check. Amy Muise. Comparisons don't start from conversation or jokes.D. “The socialnetworking site has rapidly devolved into a surveillance tool. a Ph. "who is she?" to "why were you out with that person?" Mistrust grows when one partner feels they must defend their innocent interactions. from flattering photos to frivolous interests and preferences . which would otherwise be easily quashed when the relationship is explained in person. The other partner can start feeling excluded from their life. also interactions from simply saying "hello" or posting a link can be easily misread. “on Facebook. How many friends does one have.

JanetLeeRose.! ! In the past.! “[A] handful of scenarios the teenagers debated and placed into ‘healthy’ or unhealthy’ categories. The window into the past can also enter the present when the ex starts posting on their wall. but still not healthy).com/4033/the-most-awkwardly.com student in psychology. Don't Facebook It" that addressed healthy break ups. With so much access into a partner's life the past can very much affect the present.! ! of 4 3 ! . comparing their trips.public-break-ups-in-facebook-history/ page/2). says "Facebook gives people access to information about their partner that may otherwise not be accessible.a text message. especially interactions with previous romantic or sexual partners” (Gaudin). dates and Christmas gifts. whether it is celebrating someone's 'single' status or commenting on the quality of sex after a break-up the relationship is no longer for two people. "Face It. Now there are endless possibilities . The phenomenon of bad break ups on Facebook is so large that the Boston Health Commission gave a seminar. A new relationship can be strained when a partner sees the many photo albums with their ex. included posting mean/embarrassing statuses about your ex (unhealthy) and rushing into a new ‘Facebook official’ relationship (understandable. And with the end of the relationship comes the aftermath.”! — Denizet-Lewis! Writer with the New York Times Magazine! ! The effect of post break ups on Facebook is so widespread that humor websites have collected the most atrocious ones and created articles for them (http:// www. relationships were ended in person or through a phone call. Facebook's effect on the personal relationship has created a public forum for a person's relationship.happyplace. a relationship status change or a Facebook message.. the qualms of a relationship are taken public with everyone knowing what happened and why it happened.. Now sorrows are not drowned in a bucket of ice cream and getting drunk. This may include details about their partner's friendships and social exchanges.

Even without constant monitoring of a partner. even when they feel confident in their partner” (Bielski). Facebook's effect on the romantic relationship starts with over access to too much information. “[s]eeing certain things on Facebook could enhance the jealousy that a person was experiencing."! — Bielski! Reporter with The Globe and Mail! ! With today's instant notification and open information into a couple's lives. With the social networking website recording every post and interaction there is also the public break-up. the stains of Facebook are evident.com “In the past.! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! of 4 4 ! . Facebook gives a window into the past photos and memories of a past lover are in plain site. for the most part. to change a relationship status can rock everyone's news feed. which could then expose them to more jealousy-invoking information" (Denizet-Lewis). and that might lead to more surveillance and monitoring of their partner's Facebook page. people in romantic or sexual relationships were not. subjected to daily scrutiny of their social exchanges by their partner.JanetLeeRose. Facebook seems to make it difficult for people to trust.