The Woman i s Al ways Ri ght!

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An Excerpt from Abandoned Shopping Carts: Personal and Spiritual Responsibility
by William Bezanson
I regret that I didn’t understand this earlier in my life: in any sincere man-
woman partnership, such as a marriage, the woman is always right.
Now that’s a huge statement! It is controversial, open to misinterpretation,
seemingly sexist, cosmic in its significance, accusable of triteness and of
being a cop-out, and perhaps silly. Coming from a woman, the statement
could be considered driven by a feminist agenda. Coming from a man, it
could be considered preposterous, misled, and henpecked. But I believe it.
The reason I believe that women are always right has to do with the
different ways that men and women make decisions.
Men are predisposed to use left-brain thinking, which means using logical
analysis, and inductive reasoning: taking particular knowledge and
expanding it to be more general. This style is useful in many
circumstances, but it is nearly always based on incomplete information,
since all of the information about a situation is rarely available.
Women tend to use right-brain thinking, which means using logical
synthesis, and deductive reasoning: recognizing general patterns and
applying them to particular situations. This is women’s intuition. Intuition
taps into the infinite wisdom of the universe and therefore has access to all
knowledge. For example, intuition can see what will happen in the future,
whereas logical analysis might never predict some specific, relevant future
event.
In short, men tend to use their heads and women tend to use their hearts.
Information available to the head is limited, often leading to ill-informed
decisions. Information available to the heart is unlimited, and so decisions
based on using the heart are mostly right.
My point here is not to suggest that women are better than men, or vice
versa. They are simply different. They were designed to be different, and
the manufacturing process is generally true to the design. The differences
should be celebrated and honored.
Of course, many grey areas exist in real situations. Some men are more
intuitive and some women are more rational. Also, I have written from an
idealized point of view, for example: “sincere … partnership” and “intuition
… has access to all knowledge”. In real situations, there might be some
lack of sincerity, pride might interfere, intuition might be wrongly
interpreted, and other such tendencies might mess up my nice, clean
theory. But I am convinced that if each partner in a relationship can do their
very best to take the high road with integrity and sincerity, then each of
them will agree that the woman is always right.
And, of course, we should recognize that “always” is impossible, so a more
realistic title for this article could perhaps be “The woman is nearly always
right!” but I like the snappiness of my chosen title. And, I’ll bet that (nearly)
all women would agree with me.
I include this article in this chapter on civic responsibility because it belongs
here. Recognizing that the woman is always right is one of our civic
responsibilities, and it has the potential to save our society. Happy
relationships and families make for stable civilizations.
Do the right thing! If you are a man, defer to your female partner; you can
learn a lot. If you are a woman, hold your ground; you are very likely right.