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DomesticAbuse

Domesticabuseissomethingthataffectstheworldeveryday.Notonlywomen,butsome
menandchildrenareaffectedbydomesticabuseaswell.Aboutfivemillionwomenayear
areabusedbytheirpartnereachyear.Ourhopeisgetmorewomentoseekhelp.This
couldbedonewithmoreshelters,hotlines,andwebsitestohelpthesepeople.
Picturethis:youwakeuplateintheafternoon,yourclothingstrewnaroundthebedroom.
Youhavebitemarksandscratchesalloveryourbody,andyourwholebodyaches.Youtry
tositup,andyourealizeyourarmsaretiedtothebedframeaboveyourhead.Tearswell
inyourtiredeyesasyourecallwhathappenedthenightbefore.Yourhusbandcamehome
drunk,again,afteranothernightoutinthecitywithhisfriends.Youtriedtonotnoticehim
approachingyou,triednottofighthisirongripashedraggedyouupstairsandtorethe
clothingfromyourbody.Youdidnotfight.Thiswasnormalforyou.Youtryandconvince
yourselfitwasthealcoholthatcausedthis.Butyouknowitsnot.Itsdomesticabuse.
Tobeginwith,Childrenwhogrowuparoundandwitnesstheirabusiveparentsaremore
likelytobecomeabusive,depressed,doselfharm,andthinkthateverythingistheirfault.
Itsnot.Ifthechildrenwitnesstheabuse,theymighttrytointervene,causingtheabuserto
harmthem.Iflittleboysarearoundabusiveparentsfromaveryyoungage,thentheymight
becomeabusivetotheirchildren,andhischildrentotheirchildren,andonandonandon
andthecyclecontinues(Neate).
Also,womenandchildrenwhodoliveinorleaveabusivesituationshavenegativeeffects
ontheirphysicalandmentalhealth.
Inaddition,DeathsofU.S.troopsinAfghanistanandIraq:6,614.Deathsofwomenin
Americaduetodomesticabuse:11,766(Chemaly).InNewYorkcity25%ofhomeless
headsofhouseholdsbecamehomelessduetodomesticviolence(Beasley).Oneinevery
fourwomenexperiencedomesticabuseovertheirlifetime.Womensometimesmaynot
wanttoleavetheirspouseevenifitisanabusiverelationship.Theymaynotwanttocause
sadnesstotheirchildren,growingupwithouttwoparents.Somemaybeinfearthatthey
willbecontinuedtobethreatenedbythatpartnerevenaftertherelationship.Alotofwomen
believetheabuseisnormal.Theyareunawareaboutwhatahealthyrelationshipisreally
like.Thespousemyblamethewomanfortheabuse,tellingthemitstheirfault,thusgiving
themlowselfesteem.Mostwomendonotleaveduetothefactthattheylovetheperson
andcannotseelifewithoutthem.Theymaytellyoutheyaregoingtochangeandyouwant
tobelievethem.(Anonymous).Thethoughtoflosingthispersonismorescarythanbeing
beatenbythem.
Thereasonis,Domesticabusemaystartwhenapartnerfeelstheneedtocontroltheir
partner.Somereasonsapartnermayfeeltheneedtooverpowertheirpartneris,jealousy,
angermanagementissues,lowselfesteem,andsubstanceabuse.Thedominationover
theirpartnermayeventuallyleadtophysical,sexual,orverbalabuse.Thisiswhenis
becomesillegalandtheabusedpartnerneedstoseekhelp.Also,itisntjustwomenthat
aredomesticallyabused.domesticabusecasesaremenbeingdomesticallyabusedby
womenorothermen.Thatleavesarewomenbeingabusedbymenorotherwomen.
(Campbell).
Asaresult,webelievethatifhighschoolstudentsareeducatedondomesticabuse,it
coulddecreasefuturegenerationsfromdoingit,thusbreakingtheCycleofAbuse.If
peopleweremoreeducated,theywouldknowwhattolookforandhowtofindtherighthelp
forfamilyandfriends,andknowtheconsequencesfordoingit.Domesticabusecases
ofteninvolveanumberofcriminalcharges,includingassault,battery,sexualassault,and
rape.Ifcriminalchargesarebroughtagainsttheoffender,itcanresultincriminalpenalties
suchasajailorprisonsentence,aswellasmonetaryfines(LaMance).First,wewould
teachstudentswhatcountsasDomesticAbusePennsylvanialawdefinesdomestic
abuseasknowingly,Intentionallyorrecklesslycausingbodilyinjuryoranykind,causing
fearofbodilyinjuryofanykind,assault(sexualornotsexual),rape,sexuallyabusing
minorchildren,orknowinglyengagingisarepetitiveconducttowardacertainperson(i.e
stalking)thatputstheminfearofbodilyinjury.Theseactscantakeplacebetweenfamily
orhouseholdmembers,sexualpartnersorthosewhosharebiologicalparenthoodin
ordertoqualifyasdomesticabuse.(Reuters)Onephenomenaldomesticabuse
educationprogramforstudentsisHAVEN.Somethingsthatthisprogramteachesto
studentsisSexual assault: This program defines sexual assault and provides examples.
Students are taught that YES is the only form of consent. Dating violence: This
program discusses the importance of forming healthy and supportive dating
relationships. It also explores various forms of dating violence and teaches what the
signs are, how to get help and how to help a friend who is a victim of abuse. Sexual
harassment: This program defines sexual harassment and covers the difference
between sexual harassment and flirting. Students discuss causes of sexual harassment,
strategies for being an effective bystander and how to get help. (HAVEN).
Aswellas,WefeelthatsheltersshouldgotohighschoolsaroundPennsylvaniatoeducate
thehighschoolstudentsontheseverityofdomesticabuseandtheconsequences
associatedwithit.Webelievethatthisisagoodagetostartteachingstudentsabout
domesticabusebecausemostkidsarestartingtogetintotheirfirstrelationshipsandthis
programwillmakesurethattheyareinformedonwhattolookforwhendealingwith
domesticabuse.Weknowthatthisprogramwillhelpinformstudentsonthesigns,
penalties,andwhatcountsasdomesticabuse.Thiswillhelpdiscouragefurther
generationsfrombeingabusive.Thefundingforthisprogramwouldbeprovidedbythe
associationsorshelterspresentingattheschools.
Inconclusion,wewantotherpeopletorealizethateducatingstudentsontheseverityof
domesticabusewillbethebestwaytostopthisproblem.Theycouldhelpusachieveour
goalofaviolencefreesocietybydonatingtoWomensShelters.Foriftheygetthe
donations,theywouldtraveltoschools,educatingstudentsandstoppingthecycleof
abuse.Adearfriendofmineandhermotherisphysicallyabusedbyherfather,andifshe
andhermomwaseducatedondomesticabuseatanearliertime,theabusemighthave
neverhappened.Webelievethatifthishappens,thenumberofdeathsofwomenin
Americacoulddropfrom11,766toalotlower.

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