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PROFILE
This profile is designed to help you understand your results on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

(MBTI

)

assessment. Based on your individual responses, the MBTI instrument produces results
to identify which of sixteen different personality types best describes you. Your personality type
represents your preferences in four separate categories, with each category composed of two
opposite poles. The four categories describe key areas that combine to form the basis of a
persons personality as follows:







Your MBTI type is indicated by the four letters representing your preferences. Based on your
responses to the assessment, your reported MBTI type is ENFJ . Your results are highlighted
below.

Reported Type: ENFJ
Where you
focus your
attention
Extraversion
People who prefer
Extraversion tend to focus
their attention on the outer
world of people and things.
I ntroversion
People who prefer
Introversion tend to focus
their attention on the inner
world of ideas and
impressions.
The way you
take an
information
Sensing
People who prefer Sensing
tend to take-in information
through the five senses and
focus on the here and now.
Intuition
People who prefer Intuition
tend to take-in information
from patterns and the big
picture and focus on future
possibilities.
The way you
make
decisions
Thinking
People who prefer thinking
tend to make Decisions
primarily on logic and on
objective analysis of cause
and effect.
Feeling
People who prefer Feeling
tend to make decisions based
primarily on values and on
subjective values of person
centered concerns.
Hoe you deal
with the
outer world
J udging
People who prefer J udging
tend to like planned and
organized approach to life
and prefer to have things
settled.
Perceiving
People who prefer Perceiving
tend to like a flexible and
spontaneous approach to life
and prefer to keep their
options open.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

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Portrait of an ENFJ -Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling J udging
(Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Intuition)

The Giver

As an ENFJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal with
things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value
system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via your
intuition.

ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities.
More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and
care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others.
ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people.
They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make
things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ's people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to make
people do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people's skins and get
the reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ's motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs
who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power over
people to manipulate them.

ENFJ's are so externally focused that it's especially important for them to spend time
alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to be
hard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs
might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people.
ENFJs tend to define their life's direction and priorities according to other people's
needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It's natural to their personality
type that they will tend to place other people's needs above their own, but they need
to stay aware of their own needs so that they don't sacrifice themselves in their drive
to help others.

ENFJ's tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extraverted
types. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain from
expressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others.
Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people,
they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner,
rather than as individuals.

Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite values
and opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will
be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive
and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. When
faced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's
need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling of
aloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.
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People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people.
They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot of
self-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They
are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually good
at anything which captures their interest.

ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure
and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their
home environments.

In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They are
naturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say
just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling.
They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they
can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.

ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don't understand or
appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they're forced to deal
with logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the world
of people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get
excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless
with the present.

ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they can
use that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their
genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of people
makes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.

ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of
effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal and
trustworthy once involved in a relationship.

An ENFJ who has not developed their Feeling side may have difficulty making good
decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision-making processes. If they
have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and will
judge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without
really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place in
the world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to
worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative and
controlling with others.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals with
richly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to see
growth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the
ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to
remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.


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ENFJ
Work Style Report
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Brief Work Style Report

ENFJs are interpersonally adept, understanding, appreciative and facilitators of good
communication.

Contribution to the Organization

Bring strong ideals of how organizations should treat members
Enjoy leading and facilitating teams
Encourage cooperation
Communicate organizational values
Like to bring matters to conclusion

Leadership Style

Lead through enthusiasm
Take a participative stance in managing people and projects
Responsive to followers needs
Challenge the organization to make actions congruent with values
Inspire change

Preferred Work Environment

Focused on changing things for the betterment of others
People-oriented
Supportive and social
Has a spirit of harmony
Encourages expressions of self
Settled
Orderly

Potential Pitfalls

May idealize others and suffer under the rug when in conflict
May ignore the task in favor of relationship issues
May take criticism personally

Suggestions for Development

May need to recognize the limitations of people and guard against unquestioning
loyalty
May need to learn to manage conflict productively
May need to pay as much attention to the details of the task as to the people
May need to suspend self-criticism and listen carefully to the objective-
information contained in feedback.


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Detailed Work Style Report

ENFJ and Work

At work, the ENFJ will often
Be decisive, organized, motivated, productive, and idealistic
Reliably complete all stages of a project by the deadline
Strongly commit to work that reflects their values and interests
Creatively think of new ideas and possibilities
Generate interest in their ideas
Desire freedom and autonomy to complete tasks
Remain loyal to an organization and its people
Focus on identifying and responding to the needs of others
Believe people work together most effectively when following procedures
Require an environment that supports social interaction among coworkers
Strive to create a positive, harmonious, and supportive work environment
Require positive feedback and encouragement

At work, the ENFJ should be aware that they may
Struggle with incorporating details and creating a realistic project plan
Avoid conflict and experience difficulty working within a competitive environment
Resist inefficient bureaucratic policies and procedures
Be hesitant to request help from others and benefit from delegating tasks
Need to be cautious that their focus on others does not result in neglecting their
own tasks
Struggle with completing tasks that contradict their values
Need to evaluate their ability to complete a task before accepting the project
Experience difficulty accepting criticism
Need to realistically view people aside from how they desire them to be
Desire closure and may make hasty decisions
When feeling unappreciated, become discouraged, excessively pursue harmony,
and incorrectly perceive criticism from others



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Teamwork Style

On a team, the ENFJ will often
Provide encouragement and support
Desire to create a solid and resilient team
Encourage harmony among team members
Be sensitive to difficulties experienced by the group
Contribute their enthusiastic attitude and organizational abilities
Maintain an energetic and fun attitude
On a team, the ENFJ should be aware that they may
Feel frustrated with others who are unwilling to work together, unproductive, or
unorganized
Irritate team members when they only focus on interpersonal issues and naively
supporting causes or people
Become irritated with individuals that are tardy, inconsiderate, or focus only a
task and neglect people
Need to allow people to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes


Leadership Style

The ENFJ tends to enjoy being in a leadership position. As a leader, the ENFJ will
often
Enthusiastically present their ideas and gain support
Encourage input and consider all ideas
Assist others in planning and working together to achieve their goals
Create consensus between opposing viewpoints
Identify the skills and abilities that each member can contribute
Clearly communicate the necessary steps to complete tasks
Need to intentionally enforce rules and boundaries with others




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Communication Style

The ENFJ will often
Easily communicate with others and develop rapport
Clearly explain difficult concepts
Desire to hear positive feedback, personal values, and possible ideas for helping
people
Openly discuss their values and theoretical ideas
Excel at giving public presentations that emotionally connects with their audience
Effectively facilitate group discussions
The ENFJ should be aware that they may need to
Accept criticism without personalizing it
Use a more logical or sequential process for presenting information
Use more practical or applicable wording when expressing their ideas
Learn to effectively address conflict situations


Decision Making Style

When it comes to decision making, the ENFJ will often
Identify various options and possibilities
Need to ensure they spend adequate time gathering information
Consider their personal values and the implications on people
Benefit from including an objective and logical assessment of their options
Use decision making to create closure and facilitate movement to the next idea or
project








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Stress Management

An ENFJ will often experience stress when
Feeling that their values are challenged or violated
Encountering situations where they feel demeaned, put down, or misinterpreted
Working with difficult and uncooperative people
Focusing solely on others and neglecting their own needs
Feeling responsible for causing a problem or conflict
Confronted with unexpected changes
Receiving excessive criticism
Required to complete a task within a limited timeline

When they are affected by stress, an ENFJ will often
Feel negative or cynical and become inflexible
Doubt their abilities or intelligence
Become unfriendly, inconsiderate, or aggressive towards others or themselves
Minimize their contact with family or friends
Rely solely on logic to form critical and judgmental opinions of others or
themselves
With significant stress, focus on the faults of others and become excessively
critical

An ENFJ can reduce stress by
Addressing their personal needs
Spending time resting and reflecting
Participating in activities and interacting with friends
Delegating some of their tasks
Refocusing on their spiritual values
Gaining insight into a situation by discussing their thoughts with others







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ENFJ
(The Public Relation Specialist)
Career Development




















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CareerSatisfactionsforENFJs
Doingworkthat:
1. Letsmeestablishandmaintainwarmandsupportiveinterpersonalrelationshipswithcoworkers,
clients,customers,etc.
2. LetsmedevelopcreativesolutionstoproblemsonprojectsthatIbelieveinandwhereIcanseethe
positiveresultsofmyeffortsforotherpeople
3. Isdoneinanenvironmentwhereexpectationsareclear,contributionsareappreciated,andpersonal
andprofessionalgrowthanddevelopmentareencouraged.
4. LetsmebeapartofateamofothercreativepeopleItrustaswellasbeingbusyandproductive
5. Allowsmetimetodevelopcreativesolutionstoproblemsandthensharethemwithothersupportive
andcaringpeople
6. IsdoneinanactiveandchallengingenvironmentwhereIamabletojuggleseveralprojectsatonce
7. Letsmeusemyorganizationalanddecisionmakingskillsandhavecontrolandresponsibilityformy
ownprojects
8. Givesmeavarietyofactivitiesbutallowsmetoworkinarelativelyorderlyandwellplannedmanner
9. Isdoneinanenvironmentthatisfreefrominterpersonalconflictsandongoingtension
10. Exposesmetonewideasandletsmeexplorenewapproaches,especiallythosethatwillimprovethe
livesofotherpeople

WorkRelatedStrengths
1. Excellentcommunicationandpresentationskills
2. Charismaticleadershipandabilitytobuildconsensus
3. Enthusiasmandabilitytoenlistcooperationfromothers
4. Decisivenessandorganizationalskills
5. Eagertothinkoutsidetheboxandconsidernewpossibilities
6. Empathyandabilitytoanticipateothersneeds;agenuineconcernforpeople
7. Variedinterestsandbeingaquickstudy
8. Abilitytoseethebigpictureandtheimplicationsofactionsandideas
9. Drivetobeproductiveandreachyourgoals
10. Deepcommitmenttoperformworkyoureallybelievein

WorkRelatedWeaknesses
1. Reluctancetoworkonprojectsthatconflictwithyourvalues
2. Tendencytoidealizepeopleandrelationships
3. Difficultyworkingincompetitiveortensionfilledenvironments
4. Impatientwithstructuresandpeoplewhoareinefficientoruncooperative
5. Avoidsconflictandhasatendencytoignoreunpleasantness
6. Tendencytomakedecisionstooquickly,beforegatheringadequateinformation
7. Reluctancetodisciplinesubordinates
8. Tendencytomakeerrorswhenhurried
9. Tendencytomicromanageandresistrelinquishingcontrol

Source: Do What You Are, Paul D. Tieger& Barbara Barron-Tieger, 3rd edition, 2001
Please Understand Me, David Keirsey& Marilyn Bates, 4th edition, 1984.


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CareerPortraitofanENFJ

ENFJs are outstanding leaders of groups, both task groups and growth groups. They have the
charmingcharacteristicofseemingtotakeforgrantedthattheywillbefollowed,neverdoubting
thatpeoplewillwanttodowhattheysuggest.And,moreoftenthannot,peopledo,becausethis
type has unusual charisma. ENFJs place a high value on cooperation from others and are most
willingtocooperatethemselves.

ENFJs are especially vulnerable to idealizing interpersonal relationships, raising these

relationshipstoaplanewhichseldomcansustaintherealitiesofhumannature.Becauseofthis
tendency to raise interpersonal relations to the ideal, ENFJs may unwittingly overpower their
friends,whobelievethattheycannotpossiblyliveuptoanENFJsperceptionofthem.Thefactis,
ENFJsareextraordinarilytolerantofothers,seldomcritical,andalwaystrustworthy.

Found in only about 5% of the general population, ENFJs place people as being of highest
importance and priority. As a result, ENFJs may find themselves feeling responsible for the
feelingsofotherstoanextentwhichplacesaburdenontherelationship.AnENFJcommunicates
caring,concern,andawillingnesstobecomeinvolved.ThuspeopleturntoENFJsfornurtureand
support,whichanENFJisusuallyabletodeliver.Attimes,however,thesekindsofdemandscan
overwhelmENFJs,whofindatthispointthattheylacktheskillstodisengage.ENFJsdonotseem
abletoturnawayfromthesedemandsevenwhentheybecomeunreasonable.Or,ifforcedtolet
gooftheburdenthroughsheerunavailabilityoftimeorenergy,ENFJsexperienceaguiltalloutof
proportiontotherealitiesofthecommitmentmadetotherelationship.

ENFJs take communication for granted and believe that they are understood and that their
communications are accepted. Just as they themselves are accepting, so do they assume that
others are the same. When ENFJs find that their position or beliefs were not comprehended or
accepted, they are surprised, puzzled, and sometimes hurt. Fortunately, this does not happen
withhighfrequency,asENFJshavearemarkablefluencywithlanguage,especiallyinspeech;they
areparticularlyadeptwhencommunicatingfacetofaceasopposedtocommunicatinginwriting.
They are influential, therefore, in groups, having no hesitation about speaking out, no matter
howlargeorsmallthegroupmaybe.

ENFJs have an unusual ability to relate to others with empathy, taking into themselves the
characteristics, emotions, and beliefs of others. This can pose a danger for ENFJs, because they
canunconsciouslyoveridentifywithothersandpickuptheirburdensasiftheyweretheirown.
In the process, ENFJs may risk their own sense of identity. They have a natural ability to mimic
becauseofthishighlydevelopedabilitytoempathizebyintrojections.Theyarelikelytobevery
concernedabouttheproblemsofthoseclosetothem,buttheyalsomaygetasdeeplyinvolved
intheproblemsofthosenotsocloseandmayfindthemselvesoverextendedemotionally.

ENFJs would do well to follow their hunches, for their intuition tends to be well developed.
Decisions made purely on the basis of logic may not be so sound. In the framework of values,
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however, the ENFJ is on certain ground. Generally, they know what they prefer and can read
otherpeoplewithoutstandingaccuracy.SeldomisanENFJwrongaboutthemotivationsorintent
ofanother,hiddenornot.

ENFJs are socially adept and make excellent companions and mates. They also are deeply
devotedtotheirchildren,yettendnottobedomineeringtoeitherthechildrenoramate.Infact,
theENFJissoeventemperedthatheorshecanbevictimizedbyamatewhomighthavebecome
more and more demanding. ENFJ mates always try to please and feel personally responsible
when home life does not go smoothly. They are tireless in their efforts to see that it does,
providing generously from available income, time, and energy. This dedication often exists,
however, side by side with an ENFJs dream of the perfect relationship. Thus an ENFJ has that
longing for the ideal that results in a vague dissatisfaction with whatever is in the way of
relationships,matingaswellasfriendships.

ThislongingfortheperfectcarriesoverintothecareersofENFJs,whoexperiencesomedegreeof
restlessness whatever their jobs. ENFJs have a wide range of occupations with offer success.
Beingverballyadept,ENFJscontributetoanunusuallevelwhendealingwithpeople,particularly
facetoface; the media, the ministry, and the stage and screen are populated with successful
ENFJs. They make superior therapists, charismatic teachers, excellent executives, and
personalized salespersons. Areas that would not permit utilization of the interaction talents of
ENFJs, for example, accounting, should be avoided; otherwise, almost any peopletopeople
occupation where personal, sustained contact is involved capitalizes on the personality of an
ENFJ.

ENFJs like to have things settled and organized. They prefer to plan both work and social
engagementsaheadandtendtobeabsolutelyreliableinhonoringthesecommitments.ENFJsare
very much at home in complex situations which require the juggling of much data. At the same
time,theycanhandlepeoplewithcharmandconcern.ENFJsareusuallypopulartohavearound,
whatever the situation. A welldeveloped ENFJ group leader can provide, almost endlessly,
activities for groups to engage in with almost no preplanning and can find adequate roles for
membersofthegrouptoplay.Insome,thiscanamounttogeniuswhichothertypesfindhardto
emulate. ENFJs act more as a master of ceremonies than as a leader of groups. They value
harmonious human relations above all else; but ENFJs are not so easily crushed by indifference
andaremoreindependentofothersvaluations.
Usingyourstrengthsiseasy.
ThesecrettosuccessforanENFJislearningto:
SLOWDOWN,RELINQUISHSOMECONTROL,ANDTAKETHINGSLESS
PERSONALLY



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ENFJ
Personality Development
Report

By
Brunda Muler

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ENFJPersonalGrowth
WhatdoesSuccessmeantoanENFJ?
ENFJsaremotivatedbyexternalhumansituations,primarilybyotherpeople;theirtalents,their
needs, their aspirations and their cares forming the world in which an ENFJ lives. They thrive
when able to make things right for others, to enable and empower their coworkers, friends
andfamilythroughvaluingtheirhumanstrengthsandabilities.WhengiftedwiththeaddedENFJ
ability to intuitively adapt their feelings to the way they are affected by others, the ENFJ has a
positive drive to find cooperative pathways leading to the best possible outcome for all,
including themselves. Success for an ENFJ comes through involvement in the process of making
things happen for people; through the accomplishments and satisfactions of those they have
helped to enrich the human world with greater value, and through finding that their efforts on
behalfofothershavefulfilledtheirownlifeaswell.
AllowingYourENFJStrengthstoFlourish
AsanENFJ,youhavegiftsthatarespecifictoyourpersonalitytypethataren'tnaturalstrengths
forothertypes.Byrecognizingyourspecialgiftsandencouragingtheirgrowthanddevelopment,
youwillmorereadilyseeyourplaceintheworld,andbemorecontentwithyourrole.
Nearly all ENFJs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace
andnourishthesestrengths:
Makingothersfeelvaluedandimportant
Quicklyseeingthepositiveandnegativeaspectsofahumansituation
Expressingtheirfeelingsclearly
Offeringloyaltyandcommitmenttopartners,familyandworkmates
Tryingtoalwaysfindthesolutionwhichworksforeveryone
Encouraginghumourandselfexpressioninothers
Findingwaystohelpothersfulfiltheirneeds
Affirmingpositivecommunityvalues
Naturallyfallingintoleadershiprolesintheircommunity
ENFJs who have developed their Introverted Intuition to the extent that they can see the
possibilitieswithintheirperceptionswillenjoytheseveryspecialgifts:
Understanding and empathising with the feelings of others; realising where they are
comingfrom.
A talent for creative expression which can turn ordinary things and situations into
somethingmagical.
Anenhancedfeelingofconnectionwithandsensitivitytotheworldaroundthem.
The ability to see many facets of a problem and the many ways it might be resolved for
thebest.
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Theabilitytomakecreativeandvaluableuseoftimespentalone.
Opennesstothespiritualconnectionsbetweenallthings
Theybecomeincreasinglycreative,visionaryandempathetic,andarethereforeeffective
andkindmanagersofbusinesses,people,andvarioussituationsthatlifepresents.
PotentialProblemAreas
With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without "bad", there would be no
"good".Without"difficult",therewouldbeno"easy".Wevalueourstrengths,butweoftencurse
andignoreourweaknesses.Togrowasapersonandgetwhatwewantoutoflife,wemustnot
onlycapitalizeuponourstrengths,butalsofaceourweaknessesanddealwiththem.Thatmeans
takingahardlookatourpersonalitytype'spotentialproblemareas.
MostoftheweakercharacteristicsfoundinENFJsareduetotheirdominantExtravertedFeeling
overvaluingwhattheyseeasobjectivevaluesintheexternalworldandtherebyjudgingtoomuch
by the needs of others, or by appearances. This is primarily due to the ENFJ having not fully
adapted their Introverted Intuitive function sufficiently for them to be able to discern the vast
rangeofwaysinwhichtheymightbebeingmissingtheunderlyingneedswithinthemselvesand
being misled by such appearances. The ENFJ naturally looks outward to find value and
satisfaction, and whilst it is essential that this direction be taken to fulfil their primary needs of
relation and comfort, without the supportive balance of a well developed Intuitive function,
ENFJs can overvalue the external world to the point where they lose sight of themselves,
becomingfixedintheirjudgementsaboutpeopleandtheworld.Insuchcases,theENFJwilltend
to live in a rigid and to others, somewhat surreal world of definite values which often seems
overstatedorobsessivelyconnectedtootherpeopleorhumansituations.
ExplanationofProblems
Nearlyalloftheproblematiccharacteristicsdescribedabovecanbeattributedinvariousdegrees
to the common ENFJ problem of wanting to find the proper value in everything. If the ENFJ
does not learn how to see beneath the appearance of what they quickly judge as good or bad
aboutthepeopleandsituationsintheirexternalenvironment,theywillonlyusetheirintroverted
intuition to support those judgements they feel are good for them and disregardnot only other
possibilities but their own quality of inner life as well. The consideration of these less obvious
possibilities and their own needs requires that the ENFJ recognize that their own value
judgementsareindeedsubjective,andthatitisnotappropriateoreffectivetoapplythemacross
the board to all civilized people. The practice of standing back and looking objectively at their
ownvaluesystemisnotsomethingthattheENFJisaccustomedtodoing;tryingtoavoidabstract
rationalisationofproblemsandthefeelingstheyengenderisanaturalsurvivaltechniqueforthe
ENFJpersonality.ThemaindrivertotheENFJpersonalityisExtravertedFeeling,whosepurpose
isabovealltofindanddiscriminatethevaluesinpeopleandhumansituations.Iftheirabilityto
find a specific and worthy value in a person or situation is threatened, the ENFJ shuts out the
threateningforce.Thisistotallynatural,butunfortunatelytheindividualwhoexercisesthistype
of agenda protection regularly will become more and more rigid in their judgements and
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expectations of people, but even less concerned with the effect such conditions have upon
themselves. Where the unbalanced ENFJ does acquiesce to the images of intuition, these will
generally be skewed to support the subjective agenda of dominant Feeling. In this way they
always find justification for their determinations and their self sacrifices to people, things and
situations,andtheywillbeunablelocatetherealityofanotherstruefeelings,norbeinterested
in discovering that their seemingly objective judgements miss the reasons and subjectivities
underlyingboththeirownandotherslivesorworldlysituation.
Petulance, pensiveness and a sense of being let down by others can often be the end result of
this one sided approach to the world, whilst if the ENFJ is in a strong company or relationship
positiontheymightbecomedriventomanipulateothersandsituationstoconformtotheirown
feeling needs and value judgements, irrespective of any true value to the situation or for the
otherpersonsinvolved.Inthiscase,thebigpicturevaluedforitsgreatworthtoall,becomesa
dominant drive which seeks to blot out or crush any opposition by claiming the moral high
ground,eventothepointwheretheENFJsacrificestheirownlifetothecause.Theinabilityto
recognize the plethora of subjective possibilities their feelings bring into their lives strip the
unbalanced ENFJ of their access to both a deeper connection with others and the possibility of
refininganddevelopingpathwaystothekindofselfunderstandingandselfnurturingtheirfiner
judgementsmightotherwiseleadthemto.
Solutions
Togrowasanindividual,theENFJneedstofocusonpayingattentiontotheirinnerimages.This
means they need to be open to the possibilities that lie beneath their judgements and values,
rather than just accepting the appearance of values which accord with their sense of rightness.
The ENFJ needs to understand that developing their ability to see the subjective possibilities
within themselves and others does not threaten their ability to make correct judgements, but
rather enhances it, and enhances their personal chances for achieving a measure of success in
theirlives.
The ENFJ concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to their motivation for
accepting values that come to them. Are they trying to see the background of circumstance
behindtheirownandothersvaluejudgements,oraretheytryingtomaintaintheirownimageof
howthingsoughttobe?Thegoalistofindabalancebetweenwhatseemscorrectandvaluable
and the many possible ways in which such a judgement might be subjective and not necessarily
thebestforthemselvesorasituation.Obviously,thisisnotentirelypossible,butitistheexercise
tokeepinmind.Theyneedtoseethemanydivergentimagesofvaluesandtheirconflictswhich
affect them, without feeling threatened, and without losing their sense of what is right and
wrong.
LivingHappilyinourWorldasanENFJ
As can be seen from the above, some strongly expressed ENFJs can have difficulty fitting into
society. Their problems are usually due to their Extraverted Feeling function being so dominant
that they are so strongly bound to what they see as objective values that they cannot relate to
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the world except via the objects of their feeling. In such cases the intensity of their judgements
can actually drive others away from them, and the resulting lack of close relationship felt as a
personalfailingforwhichtheENFJfeelsguilty.Suchguiltcandriveevenmorestronglyaffective
behaviour which leads the ENFJ to ignore their own needs entirely, or it can become a negative
drive to manipulate others to conform to their onesided vision of the world. The ENFJ who
consistentlytriestoseetheunderlyingpossibilitiesandthescopeavailableineachsituationwill
beabletoseetherightpathtotakewitheachpersonandsituationintheirlife.Thiswillalways
leadthemtotowardcloserrelationships,happinessandgreatachievements.
ThekeytopersonalgrowthfortheENFJiscompetentexecutionofIntrovertedIntuition.Because
itisoftenhardtodefinewhatthisrepresentssubjectivelytoeachperson,herearesomeaction
oriented suggestions that will help lead you down the path towards more effective use of the
IntrovertedIntuitivefunction.Specificsuggestions:
When confronted by a person or situation which seems to be rejecting or rebuffing your
valuejudgementsandyourmindfillingwithallthearguments,imagesandalternativesto
thesituation,lookcloselyatthoseyouareimmediatelyrejectingasnegativeorunsuitable
waystoproceed.Withintheseimagesoftenliepathstounderstandingandagreementif
youlookmoreclosely.Someoftheseimagesholdthekeytoseeinganothersfeelingsand
pointofviewmoreclearly.Remember,whatseemspositivetoyoumaynotbeeverything
orevenimportanttoanother.
Behind everything of value that you see lies much potential. Try not to be satisfied with
justagoodresult,butletyourselfimaginethewaysinwhichapersonmightfulfilalltheir
creative aspects; the ways in which a situation might become useful to many more than
just what it was made for. Try to imagine everything as a source of untapped magic and
creative power let your mind see all the things it might become. Above all, apply this
exercisetoyourself,asifyouwereseeingyourselfinamirror:justasyouwouldanother
personwhomyoulove.
Whenyouarealonetrytobecomefullyawareofhowitfeelstoyou,trytorecognisethe
emptinessasaplaceofpotential,trytoimaginewhatyoumightbeabletodoforothers
inthisemptytime,trytorealisethatyouarenottrulyalonebutwiththisspecialperson
whoisyourself.Whatwouldyoudoforthispersonifyoucouldmaketheirprivateworlda
betterplace?
Everything wonderful in life proceeds from the qualities which lie behind it. You can feel
these things, these drives and attitudes which seem to come from a place outside,
perhaps from the creator expressing himself within people and nature. Letting thesense
of these background qualities permeate your drive to life will give you purpose and
meaning.Allowyourselftofeelthemeaningsandpurposesoftheworld,letthembecome
avaluablegiftwhichcanbeexpressedinyourdealingswithothersandinthethingsyou
strivefor.
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1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to involve yourself with others in
situationswhereyourinputisvalued.
2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some are
weaknesses. By facing your weaknesses, you can overcome them and they will have less power
overyou.
3.ExpressYourFeelings.Understandthatyourfeelingsareasimportantasothersareintheoverall
situation. Without your feelings and needs being valued the best result is not realised, so value
andspeaktoyourownfeelingsasmuchasyouvaluethoseofothers.
4.MakeDecisions.Don'tbeafraidtohaveanopinion.Youneedtoknowshowothersthequalities
andpotentialsyoucanseeareworthyofaction.
5. Smile at Criticism. Try to see why disagreement and discord indicate the differences between
people,andusethisasanopportunitytomakeyourvaluejudgementsusefulforgrowth,because
that's exactly what they are. Try not to feel responsible for anothers criticism, but try to hear it
and understand the feelings and images it engenders within you. Then you may see a path not
onlytoagreementbuttoasharedandtrulyvaluableend.
6. Be Aware of Others. Remember that there are 15 other personality types out there who see
thingsdifferentlythanyouseethem.Mostofyourproblemswithotherpeopleareeasiertodeal
withifyoutrytounderstandtheotherperson'sperspective.
7. Be Aware of Yourself. Don't stint your own needs for the sake of others too much. Realise you
areanimportantfocus.Ifyoudonotfulfilyourownneeds,howwillcontinuetobeeffectiveand
howwillothersknowyouaretruetoyourbeliefs?
8.BeGentleinYourExpectations.Itiseasyforyoutoseethevalueinothers,butstressingthistoo
muchcandrivethemaway.Trytoshowthatyouunderstandtheirfearsandlimitationsandlead
themgentlytoseehowyoufeel:leadthemgentlyintounderstandingandlove.
9. Assume the Best. Don't distress yourself by feeling that your values are lost upon others they
are not. Perhaps it just has to sit with them too. Let the situation resolve itself and never stop
believingthatloveisthetrueanswer.
10. When in Doubt, Ask Questions! Don't assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing as
negativefeedback.Ifyouneedfeedbackanddon'thaveany,askforit.