¯harls ícr reacir_ cor cacc,'s Lccl¦

THAHKS
¯¦ecia¦ ¦cVe
_ces ¦c.
¦, Ccc
¦, Viíe
¦, ¯crs
¦, ¦cn
¦, ¯is¦er
¦, ¦as¦cr, Joce
¦cocoier
¦, ¯ean, ¦he
Cerera¦icr
Chorch s¦aíí
¦e¦issa Virasril
¯ear 8 Case,
¯¦er¦e
/rc, 8 ¦acee
Jerser
¦ichae¦ `css¦er
! Judah & his dad,
Dr. Wendell Smith on
the 18th hole at Pebble
Beach!
0E0ICATIOH
This book is oèoicatèo to
a man l havè mooèlèo my
liíè aítèr. l havè watchèo
him closèly. l havè workèo
to souno likè him. l havè
strivèo to lèao likè him. l
havè practicèo to prèach likè
him - èvèn oèvèlopèo my
hanowriting to copy him.
Hè's my hèro.
Hè is my mom's oèvotèo
husbano.
Hè is my Dao.
This book is oèoicatèo to
you, Dao.
l lovè you.
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TABLE OP COHTEHTS
Foreword
Py Shaun /lèxanoèr ¹C
Chapter 1
Thè Pèautiíul /íniction ¹5
Chapter 2
Man Vithout Mixturè 39
Chapter 3
Vhy Your Purity Doèsn't Vork 59
Chapter 4
Crouching, Craving, Chasing 75
Chapter 5
Thè Vay oí Escapè 99
Chapter 6
Dating Dèlilah ¹25
Chapter 7
/nciènt Pounoariès ¹49
Chapter 8
Happily Evèr /ítèr ¹75
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POREWOR0 ¯¬/L¦ /LLX/¦LL¦
Vher ¦ vas ,cor_er ¦ vas ¦c¦c ¦ha¦ ¯a¦ar's ¦hree _rea¦es¦
_erera¦s vhere Cc¦c, C¦cr,, arc Cir¦s. Cerera¦ Cc¦c
re¦reser¦ec ¦he ¦cVe cí ncre,. ¬e'c sa,, ¨vi¦h ncre, a¦¦
,cor cesires vi¦¦ Le ne¦.' Cerera¦ C¦cr, re¦reser¦ec ¦rice.
¨íane arc ¦cver is a¦¦ ,co reec ir ¦iíe.' Cerera¦ Cir¦s (Los¦)
re¦reser¦ec ¦he ¦os¦ cí ¦he íesh. ¯he'c sncc¦h¦, vhis¦er, ¨¦
car sa¦isí, ,co, ¦ vi¦¦ nale ,co ha¦¦, ícreVer.'
/¦¦ ¦hree are ircreciL¦e ¦iars, ¦ao_h¦ L, ¦heir ía¦her ¯a¦ar (¦he
¦ir_ cí Liars). ¯heir ¦cL is ¦c _e¦ ¦he vcr¦c hcclec cr ¦hen
irs¦eac cí Ccc's _ccc arc ¦eríec¦ vi¦¦ ícr ¦heir ¦iíe. ¯he LiL¦e
sa,s ir MATTHEW ô:24, ¨¦c cre car serVe ¦vc nas¦ers, ei¦her
he vi¦¦ ha¦e ¦he cre arc ¦cVe ¦he c¦her, cr he vi¦¦ Le ceVc¦ec
¦c cre arc ces¦ise ¦he c¦her. `co car'¦ serVe Lc¦h Ccc arc
ncre,.' ¯hese ¦hree _erera¦s cí ¯a¦ar lrcv ¦he LiL¦e ve¦¦,
¦os¦ ¦ile ¦heir cacc, cces, arc ¦he, haVe Leer nari¦o¦a¦ir_
scri¦¦ores ¦c _e¦ sccie¦, ¦c niss eVer,¦hir_ ¦ha¦ Ccc var¦s
¦hen ¦c haVe. rea¦ ¦cVe arc rea¦ ¦iíe¦
¦¦'s craz, ¦c ¦hirl ¦ha¦ cor sccie¦, vi¦¦ ner¦icr ¦ha¦ ncre,
isr'¦ eVer,¦hir_. ¯ccie¦, vi¦¦ sa, ¦hir_s ¦ile ¨¦cVe ccesr'¦ ccs¦
a ¦hir_.' ¯his íres o¦ Cerera¦ Cc¦c ¦c vcrl harcer ¦c _e¦ ,co
¦c chase aí¦er ncre,. ¯¦ar¦ir_ vi¦h _race schcc¦ ,co're ¦c¦c
¦c _c ¦c schcc¦ ¦c _e¦ ¦he _ccc _races, ,co _e¦ ¦he _ccc
_races ¦c _e¦ ir cc¦¦e_e. ¯her ,co _c ¦c cc¦¦e_e ¦c _e¦ ¦he
_rea¦ ¦cL, ,co _e¦ ¦he _rea¦ ¦cL ¦c _e¦ ¦he _rea¦ ¦a,, ¦eaVe
¦ha¦ ¦cL ícr a Le¦¦er ¦a,ir_ ¦cL, arc ¦he c,c¦e aí¦er Cerera¦
Cc¦c is cr.
¯ccie¦, vi¦¦ a¦sc sa,, ¨va¦ch vha¦ ,co
sa,, rcLcc, ¦iles ar arrc_ar¦ lrcv i¦
a¦¦' cr, as i¦ sa,s ir PROVERBS Jô:J8, ¨¦rice
ccnes Leícre ces¦roc¦icr, a hao_h¦,
s¦iri¦ Leícre ¦he ía¦¦.' ¦r sc nar, va,s
sccie¦, sa,s ¦c each c¦her. ccr'¦ Le
arrc_ar¦ cr ¦ccl ccvr cr c¦hers. `e¦
a¦ ¦he sane ¦ine ve'¦¦ acnire scne cí
¦he ncs¦ ¦riceío¦ ¦ec¦¦e cr ac¦icrs
¦ha¦ ha¦¦er arcorc os. ¯her ve craVe
acce¦¦arce írcn ¦hcse ¦ec¦¦e cr L,
ccir_ ¦hcse ¦hir_s. ¯he rex¦ s¦e¦ is
a¦i_rir_ corse¦Ves ¦c ¦hcse ¦ec¦¦e cr
¦hcse si¦oa¦icrs arc ¦her ¦he chase ícr
Cerera¦ C¦cr, is ir nc¦icr.
/s eVi¦ arc ce¦rac¦ir_ as Cerera¦ Cc¦c
arc Cerera¦ C¦cr, are, ¦here is rc
_erera¦ ncre Vicicos ¦har ¦he Cerera¦
cí Los¦. ¯he is sncc¦h. Vher ,co írs¦
nee¦ her i¦ seens orir¦er¦icra¦, Lo¦
¦ile ¦ saic, she is sncc¦h. `co vere ir
her si_h¦ ¦cr_ Leícre ,co eVer sav her.
¯he is Ver, ir¦er¦icra¦. ¯he s¦ocies ,co
írcn ¦he Le_irrir_, írcir_ va,s ¦c _e¦
,cor a¦¦er¦icr arc nale i¦ ¦ccl ¦ile ,co
ícorc her vher ac¦oa¦¦, ¦he vhc¦e ¦ine
¦his vas a ¦ar¦ cí her ¦¦ar. ¬er rex¦
s¦e¦ is ¦c _e¦ ,co íccosec cr ,co. ¯ha¦
cco¦c Le L, ¦e¦¦ir_ ,co rc¦ice ¦he ¦iece
cí ,cor ¦iíe ¦ha¦ she car í¦¦ cr i¦ cco¦c
Le ir _iVir_ ,co eas, access ¦c ío¦í¦¦ir_
¦os¦ío¦ cesires ,co haVe ir ,cor hear¦.
Lc¦h are rea¦ ¦hir_s. Le¦'s ¦ale ¦he s¦cr,
ir PROVERBS 7.
“I saw among the simple, I noticed among the
young men, a youth who lacked judgment.”
— PROVERBS 7:7 & 8
¬e vas _cir_ ccvr ¦he s¦ree¦ rear her
ccrrer, va¦lir_ rear her hcose.
“So I came out to meet you; I looked for you and
have found you!” — PROVERBS 7:J5
¬e vas L, hinse¦í arc she saic, ¨he, ¦
car í¦¦ ¦ha¦ Vcic.'
“I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and
cinnamon. Come, let’s drink deep of love till
morning; lets enjoy ourselves with love!”
— PROVERBS 7:J7 & J8
¯his is ¦he eas, access ¦c ío¦í¦¦ ¦os¦ío¦
cesires.
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¦c haVe. ¯he LiL¦e is c¦ear vher i¦ sa,s ir J CORINTHIANS ô:J8 ¨íee sexoa¦
inncra¦i¦,. /¦¦ c¦her sirs a nar ccnni¦s are co¦sice ¦he Lcc,, Lo¦ he
vhc sirs sexoa¦¦, sirs a_airs¦ his cvr Lcc,.' ¯exoa¦ sir char_es hcv
,co ¦hirl, ac¦, arc ¦ccl a¦ ¦he vcr¦c arc ,corse¦í.
Ve reec a sc¦o¦icr, arc Jesos is a¦va,s ¦he va,. HOSEA 4:ô sa,s,
¨¦, ¦ec¦¦e ¦erish írcn a ¦acl cí lrcv¦ec_e.' Le¦'s ¦iVe vi¦h Ccc's
lrcv¦ec_e ¦cvarcs ca¦ir_, ¦cvarcs re¦a¦icrshi¦s, arc ¦cvarcs sex.
Jocah ¯ni¦h is cre cí ¦he _rea¦es¦ ¦as¦crs ir ¦he vcr¦c. ¬e is arcir¦ec
L, Ccc ¦c ¦each ¦he ,co¦h cí ¦he vcr¦c hcv ¦c Lc¦c¦, ccríess Jesos
as ¦ir_ arc ¦iVe ¦ile a serVar¦ cí Ccc. La¦ir_ Le¦i¦ah vi¦¦ _iVe ,co
lrcv¦ec_e arc ¦ro¦h ¦ha¦ vi¦¦ se¦ ,co íree írcn nisorcers¦arcir_s
ir re¦a¦icrshi¦s ¦ha¦ cane írcn íani¦, ¦raci¦icrs cr sccie¦,'s va,s cí
¦hirlir_. Le¦ ¦his Lccl he¦¦ nc¦c ,co ir¦c ¦he chi¦c cí Ccc ,co reec ¦c
Le. Crcv vi¦h Jesos. Va¦l as he va¦lec arc ¦iVe as he ¦iVec. ¯¦a, ava,
írcn ¦he Cerera¦ cí Los¦. ¯he has cre _ca¦ arc i¦'s sini¦ar ¦c her ía¦her's
¬ i¦ is ¦c s¦ea¦, ¦c li¦¦, arc ¦c ces¦rc,.
Cr, as i¦ sa,s a¦ ¦he erc cí PROVERBS 7.
“Now then, my sons, listen to me; pay attention to what I say. Do not let your heart
turn to her ways or stray into her paths. Many are the victims she has brought
down; her slain are a mighty throng. Her house is a highway to the grave, leading
down to the chambers of death.”
Lc ¦he Lx¦racrcirar,. LiVe ícr ¦ori¦,
¬¯haor /¦exarcer
¯his Cerera¦ cí Los¦ is sc ¦cverío¦ Lecaose ncs¦
cí ¦he ¦ine ve ccr'¦ í_h¦ a_airs¦ ¦his Cerera¦,
ve í_h¦ a_airs¦ ¦he ¦erscr. Ve'¦¦ sa, ¦c cor
s¦ro__¦ir_ Lrc¦her/sis¦er, ¨ccr'¦ cc ¦ha¦', cr ¨,co
shco¦cr'¦ Le ¦iVir_ ¦ile ¦his', cr ¨,a'¦¦ nessec o¦
a_air', a¦¦cvir_ ¦his sncc¦h, soL¦¦e Cerera¦ cí Los¦
¦c Lreal ,co ccvr írcn ¦he irsice co¦.
Cí¦er Cerera¦ C¦cr, vcrls vi¦h ¬er. Cerera¦ C¦cr,
svcc¦s ir ¦c vhis¦er ¦c ,co, ¨,co're a h,¦ccri¦e.
¬cv're ,co _cir_ ¦c ¦e¦¦ scnecre aLco¦ her vher
,co haVe ¦cs¦ ¦c her ¦cc?' ¯c ,co ía¦¦ ícr ¦he ¦ie.
`co eVer _e¦ ¦c ¦he ¦cir¦ vhere ,co ccr'¦ ¦e¦¦ ,cor
rea¦, ío¦¦ ¦es¦incr, vher aslec. `co share a ía¦se
¦es¦incr,, _iVir_ Cerera¦ ¦rice erco_h ¦cver ¦c
¦rc¦ec¦ ¦he Cerera¦ cí Los¦. /¦ ¦he erc ¦he Cerera¦
cí Los¦ is reVer cea¦¦ vi¦h.
¯c vha¦ ha¦¦ers? ¦¦ ¦e¦¦s os ir PROVERBS 7:2J-23.
“With persuasive words she led him astray; she seduced him
with her smooth talk. All at once he followed her like an ox
going to slaughter, like a deer stepping into a noose til an
arrow pierces his liver, like a bird darting into a snare, little
knowing it will cost him his life.”
¯c vha¦ ha¦¦ers ¦c ,co? `co ¦cse ¦he ¦eríec¦ vi¦¦
cí Ccc. `co haVe vars ¦ha¦ ,co reVer ir¦ercec
¦c í_h¦. `co _air scars ,co reVer vere so¦¦csec

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Chapter 1
THE BEAUTIPUL APPLICTIOH
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¯ex is Leao¦iío¦. Ccc nace i¦ Leao¦iío¦. Ccc is ir¦c sex.
¦r ¦he Le_irrir_ Ccc nace nar arc vcnar ralec arc
orashanec. ¬e crea¦ec ,co vi¦h a sex criVe arc ¬is cri_ira¦
ir¦er¦icr vas ícr ¦ec¦¦e ¦c er¦c, sex. /¦¦hco_h Ccc's cesi_r
ícr sex has Leer ccn¦rcnisec, ¬e is rc¦ ir¦inica¦ec L, ¦he
¦erVersicr cí vha¦ vas ir¦ercec ¦c Le Leao¦iío¦. Ccc is rc¦
ir heaVer vrir_ir_ ¬is harcs arc vcrcerir_, ¨Vha¦ an ¦
_cir_ ¦c cc vi¦h sex?' ¦ Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ Ccc var¦s ¦c res¦cre
¦he Leao¦, cí sexoa¦i¦, L, reVea¦ir_ ¬is cri_ira¦ ¦¦ar arc ¦he
ccr¦ex¦ ir vhich i¦ is near¦ ¦c Le er¦c,ec.
¦'n rc¦ aíraic ¦c ¦a¦l aLco¦ sex. Vè havè to talk
about sèx bècausè what was mèant to
bè bèautiíul has bècomè an aíniction
íor many pèoplè. ¦enenLer ¦he ncVie ¨/ Lo_'s
Liíe?' ¦r ¦he Le_irrir_ cí ¦he ncVie ¦here is a scere se¦ cr
¦he ¦crch cí ar c¦c ncLi¦e hcne vhere ¦vc íies are Lozzir_
arcorc. Cre í, is nesnerizec L, a ca¦¦iVa¦ir_ ¦i_h¦ vhich he
ccesr'¦ rea¦ize is ccnir_ írcn a Lo_ za¦¦er. ¬e íies s¦rai_h¦
a¦ ¦he ¦i_h¦, ¦rcc¦ainir_ ¦ha¦ ¨i¦'s sc Leao¦iío¦.' LVer ¦hco_h
¦his í,'s írierc Le_s hin rc¦ ¦c ¦ccl a¦ ¦he ¦i_h¦, he car'¦
resis¦ ¦he ¦en¦¦a¦icr ¦c _e¦ a c¦cser ¦ccl arc his ¦iíe ercs
vi¦h a ¦ar_e za¦¦ ¦¦'s a Leao¦iío¦ aííic¦icr.
¯cne, ¦ile ¦he nesnerizec í,, are ca¦¦iVa¦ec L, ¦os¦ arc sex,
¦hirlir_ i¦ vi¦¦ sa¦isí, ir ar, ccr¦ex¦. ¯ex is cr¦, Leao¦iío¦ ir
¦he ri_h¦ ccr¦ex¦ a¦ ¦he ri_h¦ ¦ine. LVer,¦hir_ is Leao¦iío¦ ir
i¦s ¦ine, Lo¦ scne¦hir_ ¦aler co¦ cí ¦ha¦ ¦ine arc ccr¦ex¦
car coicl¦, Leccne ar aííic¦icr. ¦í nisosec, vha¦ Ccc
ir¦ercec ícr Leao¦, arc ¦cVe car ac¦oa¦¦, ces¦rc, ,cor
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hc¦c n, harc. ¦ cicr'¦ ¦orr co¦ ¦c Le
¦he sncc¦h c¦era¦cr ¦ erVisicrec
n,se¦í ¦c Le Lo¦, rcv narriec, ve
¦ao_h vher ve rehearse ¦he nencr,.
L, ¦he va,, Che¦sea cic hc¦c n,
harc arc i¦ vas ¦ile ex¦eriercir_ ¦he
¦cor¦h cí Jo¦, ir Jaroar,¦ ¦, s¦cr,
isr'¦ sncc¦h Lo¦ i¦ is ¦ore. Che¦sea
arc ¦ haVe rc re_re¦s cr shane írcn
cor seascr cí ca¦ir_, ¦os¦ ¦he va, Ccc
ir¦ercec.
Vher ¦he ri_h¦ ¦ine arc ri_h¦
¦erscr ccne a¦cr_, Ccc var¦s ,cor
rcnar¦ic re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦c Le a Leao¦iío¦,
exhi¦ara¦ir_ acVer¦ore ¬ ar acVer¦ore
narlec L, ¦ori¦,. ¦'n cr a nissicr ser¦
L, Ccc ¦c res¦cre Leao¦, Lacl ¦c ,cor
sexoa¦i¦,. `co car ¦iVe ¦ore.
A PROPHETIC PICTURE
¦r LUKE 7:JJ-J7 ve see a ¦rc¦he¦ic ¦ic¦ore
cí ¦his _erera¦icr. ¦r ¦his cha¦¦er, Jesos
er¦ers a ci¦, ca¦¦ec ¦air vhere ¬e
ccnes o¦cr a íorera¦ ¦rccessicr ícr a
,cor_ nar Leir_ carriec co¦ ¦c Loria¦.
/s ¦he s¦cr, _ces, Jesos is ncVec
L, ¦he ¦ears cí ¦he Lc,'s nc¦her arc
ces¦ir,. ¦¦ is cri¦ica¦ ¦ha¦ ve ¦ccl ¦c ¦he
LiL¦e ¦c írc co¦ vha¦ Ccc's Vcrc sa,s
aLco¦ sexoa¦ re¦a¦icrshi¦s.
¦ hac rc icea ¦ha¦ ¦he írs¦ ca, cí ¹999
vco¦c char_e n, ¦iíe. ¦¦ vas ¦he ca, cí
n, írs¦ ca¦e arc, a¦ 2O ,ears c¦c, ¦ vas
reac,. /í¦er seelir_ ¦he a¦¦rcVa¦ cí
n, ía¦her, her ía¦her, arc a¦¦ cí n,
¦as¦crs, ¦ ¦ccl n, ¦cr_¦ine írierc
Che¦sea ¦c a ¦cca¦ res¦aorar¦ ¦erchec
a¦ ¦he Lc¦¦cn cí ar ave irs¦irir_
va¦ería¦¦. Vcv¦ ¯he ¦cclec _ccc¦
/í¦er ea¦ir_ cirrer, vhich ¦ Lare¦,
¦cochec, ve ¦ccl a va¦l o¦ ¦c ¦he
Vievir_ Lric_e a¦ ¦o¦¦rcnah ¦a¦¦s.
¦¦ vas ¦here ¦ha¦ ¦ ¦¦arrec ¦c asl ¦he
Li_ coes¦icr.
¦cv ¦acies, ¦ lrcv ,co're ¦hirlir_, ¨Ch
n, _csh, he aslec her ¦c narr, hin
cr ¦he írs¦ ca¦e, hcv rcnar¦ic,' Lo¦
s¦cv ccvr. ¦ hac nencrizec a s¦eech
Leícre ¦he ca¦e, Lo¦ as ve s¦ccc a¦ ¦ha¦
rcnar¦ic ¦¦ace, n, nirc ver¦ L¦arl
¦ L¦or¦ec co¦, ¨oh. ¦as¦cr Joce (n,
,co¦h ¦as¦cr) saic ¦ cco¦c hc¦c ,cor
harc¦' ¯he ¦ccl cr Che¦sea's íace saic i¦
a¦¦. ¯he s¦ccc ¦here s¦orrec, vcrcerir_
vhe¦her ¦ vas aslir_ cr ¦e¦¦ir_ her ¦c
! Judah & Chelsea
on their first date at
Multnomah Falls.
Judah & Chelsea
in 2007, married
eight years "

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ir¦erro¦¦s ¦he íorera¦ L, ca¦¦ir_ ¦he ,cor_ nar ¦c ¦iíe¦ ¯his
s¦cr,, cí ¦he írs¦ ¦erscr Jesos raises írcn ¦he ceac, ¦air¦s
a s,nLc¦ic ¦ic¦ore cí ¦he correr¦ s¦a¦e cí cor _erera¦icr.
¯he ceac ,cor_ nar Leir_ carriec írcn ¦he ci¦, is ¦,¦ica¦
cí ¦cca,'s ,cor_ ¦erscr ¬ ceac ir sir, sorrercerec ¦c
ccn¦rcnise, arc ,ie¦cec ¦c co¦¦ora¦ ¦rercs.
¦¦ is in¦cr¦ar¦ ¦c ¦cir¦ co¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he ,cor_ nar ir ¦he s¦cr,
is írcn ¦air ¬ a vcrc vhich nears ¨Leao¦,' arc ¨aííic¦ec'.
¦cr ¦his ¦ar¦ico¦ar Lc, arc his nc¦her, ¦air vas a ¦¦ace cí
aííic¦icr. ¯ini¦ar¦,, sexoa¦i¦, has Leccne a ¦¦ace cí ¦crner¦
ra¦her ¦har Leao¦, ícr ni¦¦icrs cí ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e.
CARRIE0 AWAY
Leac ir sir, cor _erera¦icr is Leir_ carriec ava, írcn cor
ri_h¦ío¦ ¦¦ace cí irheri¦arce arc ao¦hcri¦,. ¯he ,cor_ nar ir
LUKE 7 cco¦c haVe _rcvr ¦c Leccne a res¦ec¦ec í_ore ir his
ci¦, Lo¦ his ¦iíe vas co¦ shcr¦ arc his ces¦ir, arc ao¦hcri¦,
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reVer rea¦izec. ¯exoa¦ ccn¦rcnise has ¦he sane eííec¦ cr
ces¦ir, arc ao¦hcri¦,. ¯he ¦iVes cí ccor¦¦ess ,cor_ ner
arc vcner are cic¦a¦ec L, ¦he c¦iricrs arc eVer char_ir_
icea¦s cí a ce¦ericra¦ir_ co¦¦ore. ¦r a¦¦cvir_ ¦hense¦Ves ¦c Le
eíícr¦¦ess¦, carriec L, soch icea¦s, ¦he, L,¦ass Ccc's cri_ira¦
¦¦ar ícr ¦heir ¦iVes.
¯he íac¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he ,cor_ nar ir Lole is Leir_ carriec ava,
írcn ¦he _a¦es cí ¦he ci¦, is si_riícar¦ Lecaose ¦he _a¦e
re¦reser¦s ao¦hcri¦,. ¦¦ is Ccc's ir¦er¦icr ¦ha¦ ,co ¦iVe vi¦h
arc va¦l ir ao¦hcri¦,. ¯cne¦ines ve ¦o¦ o¦ vi¦h ¦hir_s ir
¦iíe ¦ha¦ ve haVe Leer _iVer ¦he ao¦hcri¦, ¦c cas¦ co¦. `cor
¦c¦erarce na, Le a reso¦¦ cí ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ ,cor ao¦hcri¦, has
Leer ci¦o¦ec ¦hrco_h in¦ori¦, arc ccn¦rcnise. Lacl cí
¦ori¦, aííec¦s ir¦ercec iríoerce. Thè truth is that
you oo not havè to bè a proouct oí thè
culturè. Chccse ¦c s¦arc o¦ arc ¦ale ¦he ao¦hcri¦, ,co
haVe as a íc¦¦cver cí Chris¦.
¦¦ ¦ales cr¦, ncner¦s cí ex¦csore ¦c ¦he so¦er sexoa¦izec
necia ¦c serse ¦he sor_ir_ correr¦ a¦¦en¦¦ir_ ¦c carr,
,co ¦as¦ ,cor ¦rirci¦¦es. ¯he írs¦ ¦ine ¦ sav ar, ina_es
cí ¦crrc_ra¦h, ¦ vas cr Vaca¦icr vi¦h n, íani¦,, íi¦¦ir_
¦hrco_h ¦he charre¦s ir a hc¦e¦ rccn ¦r,ir_ ¦c írc a
Lasle¦La¦¦ _ane. ¯he Cc¦cer ¯¦a¦e Varricrs vere ¦¦a,ir_
arc ¦ cco¦cr'¦ vai¦ ¦c see Chris VeLLer ir his rcclie seascr.
Lo¦ corir_ n, search ícr ¦he _ane, ¦ cane ¦c ¦he hc¦e¦'s
¦reViev charre¦ ícr ¦crrc_ra¦h,. ¦ cco¦cr'¦ Le¦ieVe ¦he
ina_es ir írcr¦ cí ne. ¯here ¦ vas, ¹o,ears c¦c, ¦r,ir_ ¦c
va¦ch Lasle¦La¦¦ ¬ LcnLarcec L, ¦crr. ¦í ve cc rc¦ í_h¦
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¦ec¦¦e ccrsonec vi¦h Chris¦ arc ¬is ccrVic¦icrs are ¦he cr¦,
hc¦e ícr ¦cncrrcv's chorch arc ¦cncrrcv's vcr¦c.
¦r crcer ¦c orcers¦arc ¦he in¦cr¦arce cí ,cor ¦ori¦,, ,co
nos¦ rea¦ize ¦ha¦ correr¦¦, cr¦, -% cí ¦eera_ers ir /nerica
(Lcrr aí¦er ¹98-) ccrsicer ¦hense¦Ves LiL¦eLasec Le¦ieVers.
¹

Your purity isn't |ust about you. `cor
cecisicrs haVe vices¦reac iríoerce arc ,cor ccn¦rcnise is
hor¦ir_ ¦he ío¦ore cí ,cor ra¦icr¦ `co na, ¦hirl ,co are ¦os¦
íir¦ir_, ¦os¦ haVir_ íor, checlir_ scne¦hir_ co¦ ¦a¦e a¦ ri_h¦,
haVir_ rc icea ¦ha¦, L, ,cor ac¦icrs cr irac¦icr, ,co haVe
aLcica¦ec ,cor Ccc_iVer ao¦hcri¦,. Cerera¦icra¦ ¦a¦¦errs
are es¦aL¦ishec vher ,co nale Ccc¦, cecisicrs ícr ,cor ¦iíe.
Ve are ¦he chorch ¬ ¦he hc¦e cí ¦he vcr¦c. ¦ Le¦ieVe ve vi¦¦
¦ale cor ri_h¦ío¦ ¦¦ace cí ao¦hcri¦, arc cor iríoerce vi¦¦
char_e ¦he ccorse cí ci¦ies arc ¦he ¦iVes cí c¦hers arcorc
os. Las¦ ía¦¦ vhi¦e ¦reachir_ a¦ a ,co¦h ccríererce ¦ vas
irs¦irec L, a ¹o,ear c¦c ,cor_ nar cr a ¦erscra¦ nissicr ¦c
erc s¦aVer, arcorc ¦he vcr¦c. ¬is caose, Char_e ¦c Lccser
Chairs, ircreases avareress cí s¦aVer, arc sercs íorcs ¦c
re¦o¦aL¦e cr_ariza¦icrs ¦c s¦c¦ ¦he honar s¦aVe ¦race. Las¦
sonner a¦cre Zach ¬or¦er s¦cle ¦c horcrecs cí ¦hcosarcs
cí s¦ocer¦s ir nar, ciííerer¦ ra¦icrs ¦c ircrease avareress
cí ¦he ¦rcL¦en. ¬e is ¦alir_ his ¦¦ace cí ao¦hcri¦,. Vha¦ is
,cors?
ícr cor ícc¦ir_ ir ¦he area cí ¦ori¦,,
ve are cccnec ¦c Le sve¦¦ ¦as¦ ¦he
¦eachir_s cí ¦he LiL¦e ¬ ces¦irec ¦c
aLarccr ccrVic¦icr arc Le carriec L,
ccn¦rcnise. ¯he ¦ro¦h is, ¦ ¦eí¦ ¦he ¯` cr
¦ha¦ charre¦ a íev ncner¦s ¦cr_er ¦har
¦ shco¦c haVe. ¯ha¦ ri_h¦ as ¦ ver¦ ¦c
s¦ee¦, ¦ cco¦cr'¦ Le¦ieVe vha¦ ¦ hac ccre.
¦ vish ¦ vco¦c haVe _cre ¦c n, Lac arc
¦c¦c hin aLco¦ i¦, Lo¦ ¦ íe¦¦ ¦cc _oi¦¦,
aLco¦ seeir_ scne¦hir_ ¦ cicr'¦ eVer near ¦c Viev. Jesos is
¦he cr¦, arsver ¦c ¦he crs¦ao_h¦ cí ¦erVersicr ve vi¦ress
eVer,ca,. ¬e has ccne ¦c he¦¦ os cVerccne ir ¦he nics¦ cí
cor co¦¦ore.
A GEHERATIOH OP 0ESTIHY
Vher Jesos shcvs o¦ ir ¦he ci¦, cí ¦air i¦ is ac¦oa¦¦, ¦he
¦ears cí a cr,ir_ ncn ¦ha¦ ca¦¦ore ¬is a¦¦er¦icr arc caose
¬in ¦c s¦c¦ ícr ¦he íorera¦. Jesos is ncVec L, ¦ears shec cr
Leha¦í cí a ,cor_er _erera¦icr.
¦ Le¦ieVe ¦here is a ¦rececir_ _erera¦icr cr,ir_ Lecaose ¦he,
are _rieVec L, ¦he s¦a¦e cí ¦cca,'s ,co¦h. ¯he, are aslir_
¨Vha¦ car ve cc?' vhi¦e sheccir_ ¦ears as ¦he, a¦¦en¦¦ ¦c
recirec¦ ,co¦h ava, írcn ¦he ccn¦rcnise ¦he, hac er_a_ec
¦hense¦Ves ir. ¯harl Ccc scneLcc, is ¦ra,ir_. ¯his
orranec ,cor_ nar ir LUKE 7 is ¦he cr¦, scr cí his nc¦her
arc ¦he cr¦, hc¦e she has cí carr,ir_ cr her ¦e_ac,. `cor_
! Judah at his 13th
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SIT UP
Lacl ¦c cor s¦cr,. ¬ere is Jesos haVir_ ¦os¦ ir¦erro¦¦ec ¦he
íorera¦ ir ¦air. ¬e _raLs ¦he Lc,'s c¦er ccíír arc cec¦ares
Lc¦c¦,, ¨`cor_ nar, ¦ sa, ¦c ,co arise¦' ¯here is s¦i¦¦ress ícr a
ncner¦. ¦ Le¦ eVer,cre is ¦hirlir_, ¨¬e cic rc¦ ¦os¦ sa, ¦ha¦.'
`co lrcv vha¦ ¦ ¦cVe aLco¦ ¦his ¦assa_e? ¯he LiL¦e sa,s ¦he
Lc, is ir ar c¦er ccíír. ¯cne cí ,co ¦hirl ,co'Ve L¦cvr i¦
arc ,cor ces¦ir, is si_rec, sea¦ec arc ce¦iVerec. `co na,
íee¦ ¦ile ¦here is rc¦hir_ ,co car cc ¦c esca¦e ¦he si¦oa¦icr
,co haVe _c¦¦er ,corse¦í ir¦c. ¯he ¦ro¦h is ¦ha¦ ¦here is hc¦e
ícr ,co. Ve serVe ¦he Ccc cí ¦he c¦er ccíír. Ve serVe ¦he
¯aVicr cí ¦he c¦er ¦cnL. ¦¦ ccesr'¦ na¦¦er hcv íar ,co'Ve
s¦ra,ec cr vha¦ cisease ,co'Ve ¦rarsni¦¦ec. ¦í ve ccríess cor
sirs Ccc is íai¦hío¦ ¦c ícr_iVe arc ¦orií, os (J JOHN J:9). ¦í Ccc
car resorrec¦ a Lcc,, ¬e car hea¦ i¦ ¦cc. ¬e car ¦ale ,co co¦
cí a ¦¦ace cí ces¦era¦icr arc ccn¦rcnise arc res¦cre ,co ¦c
¬is ¦or¦cses.
/ írierc ¦ ver¦ ¦c Joricr ¬i_h vi¦h, /rc,, has ¦he ncs¦
anazir_ s¦cr, cí Ccc res¦crir_ his ¦iíe aí¦er he nessec i¦ o¦.
¯his is hcv he ¦e¦¦s ¦he s¦cr,.
I lived for myself most my life, caught in the desires of things
and feelings. I started drinking in 8th grade. I was by myself in
the beginning but quickly found older groups to hang with that
drank and smoked. I became a teenage alcoholic, which was
normal from my perspective. I met a girl I went to High School
with at a party. All of us in the group went through phases of
drug use. Some made it out, some didn’t. We did, but kept the
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At that point God came to me. He came to me at the ugliest time
of my life. I didn’t want God, but He wanted me. He chased me,
with hope and deliverance and with people. I gave up, gave in
and gave it all away. I asked God to help me, I couldn’t do it on
my own and I didn’t want this life anymore. The next morning
I woke up with the desire and hunger to drink completely gone,
overnight! It was a miracle. The desire to drink had been with me
most of my life. You can die for quitting drinking that fast. The
Lord healed me. The story of my life since then has been that of
restoration and God-directed right choices. God has redeemed
the time in my life.
My mom invited me to dinner on a Wednesday night. On our
way we decided to go to Generation Church instead. As soon
as I stepped foot in the sanctuary I felt the presence of God like
never before. My life was forever changed. I made a commitment
to God that I would fully follow Him in every area of my life,
and He would restore me. Over the next four years God
supernaturally rebuilt my life. I got plugged into the
best church and small group that helped grow my relationship
with God. I can’t believe the people He surrounded me with.
Through the Word, prayer and obedience to the pastors and
leaders speaking into my life, I found the right way to live; God’s
way. It took years to wash my mind of the foul life I was accustom
to, but with God’s grace I lived a life of higher standards and
purity set apart for His purpose and His will for my life.
When it came time for me to date again, I didn’t want my old
life to happen again and step out of all of what God had done for
me. I wanted to do it right, God’s way. I wanted to live the same
lifestyle and the drinking. All the time
we were dating and sleeping together our
relationship was pretty shaky. We got into
a lot of fights and had lots of problems,
but we moved in together as soon as
I graduated and she quickly became
pregnant. So naturally we got married.
I worked as much as I could to try and buy
the latest and greatest stuf, neglecting
my family and falling deeper into
alcoholism. We seemed to be successful,
had a beautiful son, bought a house, had
four cars, a boat, hot tub, four wheelers,
parties every weekend sometimes every
night, living the dream. All the while my
life was falling apart behind my back. My
wife of four years left me for another guy
who had just a little bit more stuf than
me and paid a little more attention to her
than I did. She was pregnant with his son
while still married to me. I thought I had it
all but in an instant it was all ripped away.
The same thing that brought us together
tore us apart. I have never felt, or can
describe the feeling and pain of divorce.
In many cases I feel it’s worse than death.
The reality of the situation hit me so hard,
my life didn’t work. It failed. All that I had
done and worked for ended in pain.
! Andy in High School.
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a long time to get her phone number. We
always hung out in groups. When she
invited me to a Christmas party I realized
she had feelings for me too and God was
about to answer my prayer.
First I asked her dad. Then I asked our
Senior Associate Pastor, and my pastor.
They all said yes! I could go on a date!
The first time Kacee and I were alone
was going to dinner four months after we
started hanging out. It was amazing and
right. God continued to bless and grow
our relationship. Kacee and I agreed to
not get physical but to continue to get
to know one another. We didn’t want to
life of consecration
while dating and in
marriage. I prayed
and asked God to
bring my wife into
my life. The one
He had for me, and
I would wait for
her. Soon after that
prayer God picked the apple from the top
of the tree for me. The most beautiful,
holy, anointed woman of God started
hanging out with me and my friends.
She was on staf at GC and practically a
pastor. I thought that only pastors could
date pastors. I looked up to her as a leader
and admired her love for God and people.
I thought more than once, “How in the
world can a guy with a past like mine
ever get to date such a gift of a person as
Kacee?” My chance to be around her came
after staying late at a GC service, a few
of us would be left including Kacee and
we would all go out to Red Robin to eat. I
started to really like Kacee, but I waited
Andy & Kacee with
Cameron.
!
compromise our destiny. Kacee and I found out that we are so
right for one another in so many ways and it is truly a divine fit.
At summer camp I asked God to speak to me about marrying
Kacee. It turned out after camp God had spoke to both of us,
and soon after I asked Kacee to be my wife. She said yes! Not
once during our nine months of dating did we cross the line. We
honored God with our relationship. God blessed our engagement,
our wedding and our honeymoon in everyway possible. It was
the most beautiful process of my life. My son Cameron loves
Kacee and family has been restored to my life. We all go to
church on Sunday as a family now. I can hardly believe how
good my life is because of the grace and mercy of God. He truly
pulled me from the mire and set me on a rock. He has blessed me
beyond what I imagined. She is my reward for doing it right.

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¦c na¦¦er vha¦ ,cor ¦corre, has Leer o¦ ¦c ¦his ¦cir¦, Ccc
car ¦o¦ ,co Lacl ir ¦he ¦¦ace cí iríoerce ¬e has ícr ,co. ¯he
ncner¦ Jesos s¦cle ir¦c ¦he ccíír ¦he Lc, cic ¦vc ¦hir_s.
he sa¦ o¦ arc he s¦cle o¦. ¦¦ is ¦ine ícr os ¦c si¦ o¦¦ ¦ Le¦ieVe
,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e are s¦ar¦ir_ ¦c si¦ o¦ as Ccc is ¦csi¦icrir_
¦hen ir sccie¦,. Ccc vi¦¦ _iVe os íar reachir_ iríoerce as
ve ¦earr ¦c Le hc¦, arc ¦ore. 2 TIMOTHY 2:2J ¦e¦¦s os ¦ha¦ ¦hcse
vhc c¦earse ¦hense¦Ves írcn in¦ori¦, are oseío¦ ¦c ¦heir
¦as¦er ícr eVer, _ccc vcrl. ¯c si¦ o¦¦ Ccc lrcvs vhere
,co'Ve Leer. ¬e's íani¦iar vi¦h ¦he ccíír ,co'Ve Leer ¦a,ir_
ir, Lo¦ ¬e is ca¦¦ir_ ,co ¦c si¦ o¦ Lecaose ¬e lrcvs vhere ¬e
ir¦ercs ¦c ¦ale ,co. ¦cv is ¦he ¦ine ¦c res¦crc ir cLecierce
arc íai¦h arc si¦ o¦.
SPEAK UP
/í¦er si¦¦ir_ o¦ ¦he ,cor_ nar ir ¦he ccíír s¦eals o¦.
¯he LiL¦e ccesr'¦ reccrc vha¦ he sa,s Lecaose eVicer¦¦,
¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ he s¦eals o¦ is vha¦ is ncs¦ in¦cr¦ar¦. Ccc
is ¦cclir_ ícr a _erera¦icr vhc vi¦¦ sa, scne¦hir_, eVer
ií ¦he, ccr'¦ a¦va,s lrcv exac¦¦, vha¦ ¦c sa,. ¦ s¦ar¦ec ¦c
s¦eal o¦ a ¦cr_ ¦ine a_c arc ¦ haVer'¦ s¦c¦¦ec sirce. /s a
sericr ir hi_h schcc¦ ¦ s¦ccc o¦ ir n, ¦orch rccn, ir¦rccocec
n,se¦í, arc ¦c¦c ¦he ¦es¦incr, cí vha¦ Ccc hac ccre ir n,
¦iíe. ¦ _c¦ a s¦arcir_ cVa¦icr. ¯he s¦eech ¦eacher osec n,
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,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e ir ¦he ¦cr¦hves¦. ¦ cco¦cr'¦ Le¦ieVe i¦¦ Cor Vcice is Leir_
hearc as ve s¦eal co¦.
THE BEAUTIPUL APPLICTIOH
Jos¦ as Jesos res¦crec ¦iíe arc Leao¦, ¦c a íani¦, arc ci¦, ¦ha¦ hac
Leccne aííic¦ec, ve reec ¦c res¦cre Leao¦, ¦c sex. ¯ex is Leao¦iío¦
ií ve are va¦lir_ ir ¦ori¦,, Lo¦ ccn¦rcnise ¦orrs i¦ ir¦c ¦crner¦ arc
aííic¦icr ¬ i¦ vi¦¦ ei¦her Le cre cr ¦he c¦her.
¦, ¦assicr ícr ¦ori¦, s¦ens írcn a ¦rccess ¦ n,se¦í haVe Leer ¦hrco_h
ir n, re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h Ccc. /s a six¦eer ,ear c¦c Lc,, sicl cí n, sir
arc ¦he ¦os¦ ir n, cvr hear¦, ¦ criec co¦ ¦c Ccc sa,ir_, ¨¦ ¦os¦ var¦ ¦c
Le hc¦,. ¦ ¦os¦ var¦ ¦c Le ¦ore. ¦ ccr'¦ var¦ ¦c Le cao_h¦ o¦ vi¦h ¦he
ccn¦rcnise ir n, _erera¦icr.' /¦ ¦ha¦ ¦cir¦ ¦ hac rc icea ¦ha¦ cre ca,
¦ vco¦c ¦as¦cr Cerera¦icr Chorch. ¦ vasr'¦ avare cí ¦he va, n, correr¦
cecisicrs vco¦c in¦ac¦ n, ¦iíe arc ¦eacershi¦ ¦cca,. ¦ ¦os¦ var¦ec
¦ori¦,. ¦ var¦ec ¦c lrcv Ccc arc Le vi¦h ¬in. ¦cv ¦ ¦ccl Lacl arc
rea¦ize ¦ha¦ ¦his cesire ¦ec ¦c a ceírir_ ncner¦ ícr ne. ¦ ce¦ernirec ir
n, hear¦ ¦ha¦ ¦ vco¦c ¦iVe ¦ore rc na¦¦er vha¦ i¦ ccs¦.
Ccc ne¦ ne arc ¦ Le¦ieVe ¬e vi¦¦ nee¦ ,co. ¦ Le¦ieVe ,co car char_e
,cor nircse¦s arc ¦he cecisicrs ,co nale. ¦ Le¦ieVe ,co car írc ,cor
icer¦i¦, ir ,cor ¬eaVer¦, ¦a¦her arc Le nc¦iVa¦ec L, a cesire ¦c ¦¦ease
¬in ¦ha¦ cic¦a¦es ¦he va, ,co ¦iVe ,cor ¦iíe. ¦ Le¦ieVe ,co car ¦iVe ¦ore.
serncr ícr ¦vc veels as ar i¦¦os¦ra¦icr cí eííec¦iVe
ccnnorica¦icr. ¯he ercec o¦ ¦reachir_ ¦he
_cs¦e¦ cVer arc cVer. Vh,? Lecaose scneLcc,
s¦cle o¦. ¦ vasr'¦ coi¦e sore vha¦ ¦c sa, arc ¦ vas
sc rerVcos i¦ vas craz, ¬ Lo¦ ¦ saic scne¦hir_.
l was not willing to rèmain silènt
whilè my pèèrs wènt to hèll. Ccc
var¦s ¦c ose ,cor vcrcs ¦c char_e ¦he ¦iVes cí
¦ec¦¦e arcorc ,co vhc are hor_r, ícr ¦ro¦h arc ir
ces¦era¦e reec cí Jesos. ¯a, scne¦hir_.
Cerera¦icr Chorch correr¦¦, has ¹oOO
racica¦ s¦ocer¦s. LVer, veel ¦ _c ¦c
¦he LiL¦e arc ¦reach ¦he ¦ro¦h aLco¦
Ccc's ¦¦ar ícr ¦heir ¦iVes. `cor_ ¦ec¦¦e
are _e¦¦ir_ saVec arcorc cor ci¦,. ¦ _c¦
vcrc ¦ha¦ a ¦hree s¦a¦e sonni¦ vas he¦c
L, a ra¦icra¦ aLcr¦icr cr_ariza¦icr ¦c
ciscoss ¦eer sexoa¦i¦,. ¦'Ve Leer ¦c¦c
L, Chris¦iar re¦reser¦a¦iVes írcn ¦he
sonni¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he ¦eacer, a ¦rcaLcr¦icr,
íree sex lirc cí nar, _c¦ o¦ cr s¦a_e arc ¦o¦¦ec
co¦ ícor ¦a_es cí rc¦es cr ne¦ ¬e ¦c¦c ¦he _rco¦
he vas ccrcerrec aLco¦ a ,cor_ nar ir ¯ea¦¦¦e
vhc is ¦rc¦a_a¦ir_ a rev ,co¦h ncVener¦ ca¦¦ec
Cerera¦icr Chorch. ¬e accosec ¨¦his ncVener¦'
cí s¦ealir_ co¦ a_airs¦ aLcr¦icr arc ¦eera_e
sex. ¨Ve'Ve _c¦ ¦c cc scne¦hir_ aLco¦ i¦,' he
ccrc¦ocec. ¬e hac eVer ceVe¦c¦ec ícor ¦cir¦s
cr hcv ¦c ccnLa¦ vha¦ ve're ccir_ ir ¦he ¦iVes cí
! Judah preaching
at Generation Church

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MAH WITHOUT MIXTURE
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¨¯aíe sex¦'
¦r a ¦oL¦ic hi_h schcc¦, a ,cor_ nar vas Leir_ aslec ¦c
ceíre ¦he vcrc ¨¦ori¦,.' /s ¦ar¦ cí a Vicec sorVe,, ¦eers
s¦ocl a canera ir his íace arc, vi¦h ccrVic¦icr ir his Vcice,
¦his s¦ocer¦ ¦rcoc¦, cec¦arec vha¦ he Le¦ieVec ¦c Le ¦he
arsver. saíe sex. Vher ¦ sav ¦he Vicec, ¦ vas ¦re¦arir_ ¦c
¦reach a¦ a ,co¦h ccríererce, arc rea¦izec ¦ha¦ ve hac ncre
vcrl ¦c cc ¦har ¦ ¦hco_h¦.
Vè arè part oí a gènèration that ooès
not know thè mèaning oí thè woro
¨purè.¨ /¦ six¦eer ,ears c¦c ¦ var¦ec ¦c cisccVer Ccc's
ceíri¦icr cí ¦ori¦, sc ¦ Le_ar a ¦ve¦Ve ,ear s¦oc, ¦ha¦ ¦ccl
ne írcn Ceresis ¦c ¦eVe¦a¦icr. ¦ cicr'¦ cc ¦his Lecaose
¦ var¦ec ¦c Le lrcvr scneca, as ¨¦he ¦ori¦, nar,' Lo¦
Lecaose ¦ vas seelir_ a LiL¦ica¦¦, Lasec arsver ¦c vha¦ ¦
Le¦ieVe ¦c Le a cri¦ica¦ coes¦icr ir cor ca,. Vha¦ is ¦ori¦,?
¦¦ is n, ¦assicr ¦ha¦ aí¦er reacir_ ¦hese vri¦ir_s ,co vi¦¦ Le
aL¦e ¦c ¦ccl cirec¦¦, ir¦c a canera arc ex¦¦air, ¦recise¦, arc
LiL¦ica¦¦,, vha¦ ¦ori¦, is. ¦ shoccer a¦ ¦he rea¦iza¦icr ¦ha¦ ií ¦
! Judah, age 16.
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Ccc's cri_ira¦ ir¦er¦icr vas ícr nar ¦c
Le vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore.
Le¦'s ina_ire a sea¦ec va¦er Lc¦¦¦e.
¯he vcr¦h cí ¦he va¦er is Lasec cr i¦s
¦ori¦,. ¦í ¦ vere ¦c _iVe ,co ¦he sea¦ec
va¦er Lc¦¦¦e ¦ an sore ,co vco¦c haVe
rc ¦rcL¦en crirlir_ írcn i¦. Vh,?
Lecaose i¦ is ¦ore ¬ Lc¦¦¦ec a¦ ¦he
scorce, sea¦ec, arc _oarar¦eec. ¦í ¦
c¦erec ¦he Lc¦¦¦e arc crarl írcn i¦,
nar, cí ¦he ¦ec¦¦e reacir_ ¦his Lccl
vco¦c Le hesi¦ar¦ ¦c crirl aí¦er ne
Lecaose ¦he va¦er vco¦c haVe Leer
ccn¦rcnisec L, n, ¦i¦s. Lo¦ ¦'n sore
¦here are ¦¦er¦, cí Joricr ¬i_h Lc,s
vhc vco¦c s¦i¦¦ crirl i¦. Lo¦ vha¦ ií ¦he
va¦er vere ccr¦anira¦ec eVer íor¦her,
vha¦ ií ¦ accec s¦i¦ cr cir¦ cr c¦c ni¦l.
¦c cre vco¦c var¦ ¦c crirl i¦ Lecaose
i¦ vco¦c rc ¦cr_er Le ¦ore ¬ rc ¦cr_er
ccrsis¦er¦ vi¦h i¦s ¦aLe¦. ¦r ¦he sane
va,, cor ¦iVes are irccrsis¦er¦ vi¦h
Ccc's cri_ira¦ ir¦er¦icr Lecaose ve
haVe Leer ccn¦rcnisec L, in¦ori¦ies.
¦rcn ¦he Le_irrir_ cí crea¦icr, Ccc
ir¦ercec ícr ,co ¦c Le ar irciVicoa¦
cecica¦ec sc¦e¦, ¦c ¬is ¦or¦cses.
GENESIS J:2ô sa,s ¦ha¦ Ccc crea¦ec nar
¦o¦ ,co cr ¦he s¦c¦ arc he¦c a canera
ir írcr¦ cí ,cor íace a¦ ¦his ncner¦, ,co
ni_h¦ s¦o¦¦er arc rc¦ lrcv ¦he arsver
¦c ¦his si_riícar¦ 2¹s¦ Cer¦or, coes¦icr.
Vha¦ is ¦ori¦,? ¯he ,cor_ nar ir ¦he
Vicec ¦hco_h¦ ¦ha¦ he hac ¦he arsver.
¬is arsver vas esser¦ia¦¦, ¦ha¦ ¦ori¦, is
osir_ a ccrccn. ¯he ¦rc¦a_arca ir cor
co¦¦ore has ¦vis¦ec ¦he ¦roe nearir_ cí
rea¦ sex arc rea¦ ¦ori¦,.
WHAT IS PURITY7
¦r ¦he ¦as¦ cha¦¦er ve ciscossec cor
sccie¦,'s ¦csi¦icr ir re_arcs ¦c Ccc's
ceíri¦icr cí ¦ori¦,. ¦cv ¦ var¦ ¦c c¦arií,
ícr ,co vha¦ Ccc's ceíri¦icr cí ¦ori¦,
is. Vha¦ is ¦ori¦,? ¦ori¦, is ¦he s¦a¦e cí
Leir_ vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore. Vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore¦

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ir ¬is ina_e. Vher Ccc nace /can
arc LVe ir ¬is ina_e ¬e nace ¦hen
ccn¦¦e¦e¦, ¦ore. ¯he, vere ccrsonec
vi¦h ccir_ Ccc's vi¦¦. Lrícr¦ora¦e¦,,
ve reac ¦a¦er ir ¦he sane cha¦¦er ¦ha¦
¦heir ¦ori¦, vas ccn¦rcnisec L, ¦he
írs¦ ac¦ cí sir, vhich hac ¦c cc vi¦h
¦he ccrson¦¦icr cí ícrLiccer íroi¦ ir
ciscLecierce ¦c ¦he vi¦¦ cí Ccc.
MIXTURE EHTERS MAHKIH0
Ve haVe ía¦¦er íar írcn Ccc's cri_ira¦
¦¦ar ícr narlirc. Ve reac ir Ceresis
¦ha¦ sir er¦erec narlirc ícr ¦he írs¦
¦ine ¦hrco_h ¦he ci_es¦icr cí ícrLiccer
íroi¦. ¦ar's írs¦ ac¦ cí sir vas ir¦erra¦.
¯he ¦rcL¦en ir ¦his case vas rc¦ ¦he
íroi¦ i¦se¦í, Lo¦ ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ as íroi¦
í¦¦ec ¦he s¦cnachs cí /can arc LVe,
sir í¦¦ec ¦he Leir_ cí nar. ¦ar's
ccrson¦¦icr cí ¦he íroi¦ vas ar ac¦ cí
ciscLecierce arc a ce¦iLera¦e cecisicr
¦c _iVe ir ¦c se¦ívi¦¦ ra¦her ¦har Ccc's
vi¦¦. ¯he nix¦ore cí se¦ívi¦¦ vi¦h Ccc's
vi¦¦ cri_ira¦ec vi¦h nar's chcice ¦c cc
his cvr ¦hir_ arc ¦he LiL¦e sa,s ¦ha¦
írcn ¦ha¦ ¦cir¦ cr, nix¦ore er¦erec
nar. Ccn¦rcnisec ¦ori¦, reso¦¦ec ir
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ccr¦anira¦icr ¬ a ccr¦anira¦icr ¦ha¦ Ccc is s¦i¦¦ vcrlir_ ¦c
res¦cre.
/can arc LVe's res¦crse ¦c nix¦ore vas shane. GENESIS 3 ¦e¦¦s
os ¦ha¦ ¦he, a¦e ¦he ícrLiccer íroi¦ arc innecia¦e¦, ¦heir e,es
vere c¦erec, caosir_ ¦hen ¦c rea¦ize ¦ha¦ ¦he, vere ralec.
¦c¦ice ¦ha¦ ¦heir ccn¦rcnise innecia¦e¦, aííec¦ec ¦heir
sexoa¦i¦,. ¯he, ver¦ írcn shane¦ess íreeccn ccrcerrir_
sexoa¦i¦, ¦c soccer enLarrassner¦ arc irsecori¦,. ¯ini¦ar¦,,
,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e are cisccVerir_ ¦ha¦ ¦he ¨íroi¦' vhich ¦rcnisec
ecs¦as, is ¦eaVir_ ¦hen ashanec.
¯ccie¦, vi¦¦ ¦r, ¦c ¦e¦¦ ,co ¦ha¦ ií ,co ea¦ ncre ícrLiccer íroi¦
eVer¦oa¦¦, ,cor íee¦ir_s cí ccrVic¦icr vi¦¦ _c ava,. ¯he ¦ro¦h
is ¦ha¦ ¦he cr¦, va, ¦c ex¦erierce naxinon sex is ¦c _e¦
ce¦cxiíec. You havè to gèt oècontaminatèo
ano livè thè way Goo originally
intènoèo you to - without mixturè.
/can arc LVe reac¦ec ¦c ¦heir íee¦ir_s cí shane noch ¦ile
,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e ¦cca, ¬ ¦he, a¦¦en¦¦ec ¦c ccVer ¦hen o¦.
¦ea¦izir_ ¦he, vere ralec, ¦he, nace c¦c¦hes ícr ¦hense¦Ves
co¦ cí í_ ¦eaVes. Car ,co ina_ire ¦he scere? /can arc
LVe vere ir a _arcer ¦¦oclir_ ¦eaVes cíí ¦rees arc ¦r,ir_ ¦c
¦csi¦icr ¦hen ir s¦ra¦e_ic ¦¦aces. ¯his is sini¦ar ¦c ¦he asirire
a¦¦en¦¦s ¦ha¦ ¦ec¦¦e haVe Leer nalir_ ícr cer¦ories ¦c
reccVer vha¦ has Leer ¦cs¦ ir sir. ¦r cor cvr eíícr¦s, ve ¦r,
¦c nale corse¦Ves ¦ore. ¦ car'¦ eVer ccor¦ hcv nar, ,cor_
¦ec¦¦e ¦ haVe seer ¦r, ¦his ¦hrco_hco¦ ¦he ,ears cí ,co¦h
niris¦r,.
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criVer, vi¦¦ resc¦Ve rc¦ ¦c ¦ccl a¦ ar,¦hir_ ¦ha¦ ni_h¦ caose
,co ¦c ccn¦rcnise arc vi¦¦ erc o¦ aVer¦ir_ ,cor e,es arc
cas¦ir_ ccvr hi_h ¦hco_h¦s eVer,vhere ,co _c. `co ¦acies,
vhc are enc¦icra¦¦, criVer, vi¦¦ resc¦Ve rc¦ ¦c íar¦asize
aLco¦ vha¦ i¦ vco¦c Le ¦ile ¦c ca¦e ¦ha¦ coar¦erLacl arc hcv
_ccc ,co vco¦c ¦ccl cr his arn. ¦'n a¦¦ ícr ¦cclir_ ava, arc
_oarcir_ ,cor ¦hco_h¦s Lo¦ ,co car'¦ rescr¦ ¦c ¦iVir_ ¦ore ir
,cor cvr s¦rer_¦h.
/¦¦ cí ,cor eíícr¦s, ,cor_ nar arc ,cor_ ¦ac,, are ¦ile
/can arc LVe ¦r,ir_ ¦c ccVer ¦hense¦Ves vi¦h ¦eaVes. `co
ni_h¦ Le ¦r,ir_ ¦c ccVer ,corse¦í vi¦h ccc¦ cesi_rer ¦eaVes
cr no¦¦icc¦cr ¦eaVes. ¦¦'s s¦i¦¦ ¦os¦ ¦eaVes. ¯¦c¦ ¦r,ir_ ¦c nale
,corse¦í hc¦,.
/ íev ,ears Lacl, a s¦ocer¦ ¦eacer ir Cerera¦icr Chorch
¨nessec o¦' arc nace co¦ vi¦h a Lc, she shco¦cr'¦ haVe.
¯he ccríessec ri_h¦ ava, arc íe¦¦ aLsc¦o¦e¦, hcrriL¦e¦ Lo¦
irs¦eac cí cea¦ir_ vi¦h ¦he ccrsecoerces, acce¦¦ir_ Jesos'
ícr_iVeress arc ncVir_ cr, she ¦iVec orcer ccr¦iroa¦
ccrcenra¦icr arc ¦riec ¦c nale herse¦í vcr¦h, ¦c Le a
¦eacer. ¯he ¦rcL¦en vas ¦ha¦ she vas reVer vcr¦h, ir
¦he írs¦ ¦¦ace arc she cco¦c reVer nale herse¦í vcr¦h,.
Lrícr¦ora¦e¦,, she _rev ¦cc ¦irec cí ¦r,ir_ arc eVer¦oa¦¦, ¦os¦
_aVe o¦ arc s¦ar¦ec ¦iVir_ ícr herse¦í. ¯c ¦his ca, she s¦i¦¦ isr'¦
va¦lir_ vi¦h Ccc.
¯he ¦as¦ ¦hir_ ¦ var¦ ,co ¦c cc aí¦er reacir_ ¦his Lccl is ¦hirl
¦ha¦ ,co are _cir_ ¦c ¨vcrl cr ,cor ¦ori¦,' arc char_e ¦he
va, ,co ¦iVe. ¦ haVe Leer ir niris¦r, ¦cr_ erco_h ¦c lrcv
¦ha¦ ,co vi¦¦ ¦as¦ aLco¦ ¦vc ncr¦hs Leícre cecicir_ ¦ha¦ i¦ is
in¦cssiL¦e ¦c ¦iVe a hc¦, ¦iíe. `co _er¦¦ener, vhc are Visoa¦¦,

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Vhi¦e scne ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e a¦¦en¦¦ ¦c ccVer ¦heir sir, c¦hers
¦r, ¦c ¦os¦ií, i¦. ¦ nee¦ vi¦h s¦ocer¦s vhc haVe Lco_h¦ ir¦c
¦he ¦ie ¦ha¦ ¨¦c err is honar' arc Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ eíícr¦s ¦c ¦iVe
L¦ane¦ess¦, are ío¦i¦e. ¯his icea s¦ens írcn ar orLa¦arcec
orcers¦arcir_ cí vhc Jesos is. ¦ec¦¦e ccne ¦c ne sa,ir_
¦ha¦ ¨Jesos is ¦cVe. ¬e ¦cVes eVer,cre ¦he va, ¦he, are ¬
sexoa¦ accic¦icrs arc a¦¦.' ¯his is ¦roe, Lo¦ Jèsus lovès
you thè way you arè so Hè can makè
you into thè pèrson Hè wants you to
bècomè.
`co are ¦rcLaL¦, íani¦iar vi¦h ¦he LiL¦ica¦ acccor¦ cí ¦he
vcnar cao_h¦ ir aco¦¦er, írcn JOHN 8. ¯cne reac ¦ha¦ s¦cr,
arc íccos cr ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦, a¦¦hco_h ¦he vcnar vas ícorc
s¦ee¦ir_ vi¦h a narriec nar ¬ a crine vcr¦h, cí cea¦h
acccrcir_ ¦c Jevish ¦av, Jesos cic rc¦ ccrcenr her. ¦ec¦¦e
Lrir_ ¦ha¦ s¦cr, ¦c n, a¦¦er¦icr as a nears cí ¦rcVir_ ¦ha¦
¨Jesos is a¦¦ aLco¦ ¦he ¦cVe,' vhich ¬e is, Lo¦ ,co haVe ¦c reac
¦he erc cí ¦he s¦cr,. /í¦er assorir_ ¦he vcnar ¦ha¦ ¬e cic
rc¦ accose her, neel, ni¦c, lirc, ccn¦assicra¦e, _racicos,
a¦¦lrcvir_ Jesos irs¦roc¦ec her reVer ¦c cc i¦ a_air. ¬e saic
¨_c arc sir rc ncre.' ¦ Le¦ ¦his vcnar vas ¦hirlir_ ¨Ccne
cr, Jesos. ¯ha¦'s eas, ícr ,co ¦c sa,. /re ,co íani¦iar vi¦h
¦he íani¦, ¦ _rev o¦ ir? Lcr'¦ ,co lrcv hcv ¦ nale a ¦iVir_?
Vhere is ¦he _race?' Lces ¦his scorc íani¦iar? ¦¦ is a nis¦ale
¦c ¦hirl cí Jesos as cr¦, ei¦her _race cr ¦oc_e. Jesos is Lc¦h.
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Le¦ ne ex¦¦air. GENESIS 22 reccor¦s
¦he ve¦¦lrcvr s¦cr, cí /Lrahan's
vi¦¦ir_ress ¦c sacriíce his scr, ¦saac, ¦c
Ccc. /¦ vha¦ vas orccoL¦ec¦, cre cí
¦he ncs¦ si_riícar¦ ncner¦s ir his ¦iíe,
/Lrahan receiVes ¦hese irs¦roc¦icrs
írcn Ccc. ¨/Lrahan, ¦ale ,cor cr¦,
scr ¦saac ¦c a ncor¦air vhich ¦ sha¦¦
shcv ,co arc sacriíce hin ¦here as a
Lorr¦ cííerir_ ¦c ¦e.'
¦cv ,co na, rc¦ orcers¦arc ¦he ío¦¦
nearir_ cí ¦he ¦ern ¨Lorr¦ cííerir_,'
Lo¦ /Lrahan arc ¦saac cic. ¦r ¦he ¦ine
ir vhich /Lrahan ¦iVec, a Lorr¦ cííerir_
irVc¦Vec co¦¦ir_ ar arina¦ írcn i¦s
¦hrca¦ ccvr ¦c i¦s nicsec¦icr, ri¦¦ir_ i¦
c¦er, _o¦¦ir_ co¦ a¦¦ cí i¦s irsices, arc
s¦ar¦ir_ a íre cr ¦he irsice cí ¦he Lcc,
¦ha¦ vco¦c Lorr ¦he sacriíce írcn ¦he
irsice co¦. ¯he ¦cssiLi¦i¦, ¦ha¦ a ¦arer¦
vco¦c a_ree ¦c sacriíce a chi¦c ir ¦his
va, is orina_iraL¦e¦
/Lrahan res¦crcec cLecier¦¦, ¦c
Ccc's recoes¦. ¬e arc ¦saac c¦inLec
o¦ ¦he ncor¦air ¦ha¦ ca,, ícorc ¦he
s¦c¦ Ccc _oicec ¦hen ¦c, arc s¦ar¦ec
Loi¦cir_ ¦he a¦¦ar ¬ a ¦rccess ¦ha¦
vco¦c haVe ¦aler seVera¦ hcors. ¦ car
¬e is rc¦ ¦os¦ ¦he ¨LcVer' cí ,cor sco¦, Lo¦ a¦sc ¦he ¨¦eríec¦er'
cí ,cor íai¦h. ¦í Jesos asls os ¦c ¦iVe íree írcn sir, i¦ nos¦ Le
¦cssiL¦e. Le erccora_ec L, ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ ií Ccc ccnnarcs
,co ¦c cc scne¦hir_ ¬e vi¦¦ _iVe ,co ¦he _race arc aLi¦i¦, ¦c
carr, i¦ co¦.
THE EXPRESSE0 IMAGE OP GO0
¦ar vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore is ¦he ex¦ressec ina_e cí Ccc. Le¦'s
erc ¦he cha¦¦er vi¦h ¦his ¦hco_h¦.
/s ¦ s¦a¦ec ear¦ier, GENESIS J:2ô reccrcs ¦he crea¦icr cí nar, a¦
vhich ¦ine Ccc cec¦arec ¨¦e¦ Ls nale nar ir Cor ina_e.'
Ccc cicr'¦ sa, ¨¦e¦ Ls nale vha¦e, ¦e¦ Ls nale cc_, ¦e¦
Ls nale ¦ree ir Cor ina_e,' ¬e saic ¨¦e¦ Ls nale
nar.' ¦arlirc is ¦he cer¦er¦iece cí Ccc's crea¦icr
arc ¦he cr¦, e¦ener¦ cí crea¦icr ¦ha¦ Lears ¬is
ina_e. ¯hec¦c_iars Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ¦i_h¦ cri_ira¦¦,
enara¦ec írcn /can arc LVe Lecaose
cí ¦heir ¦ore esserce. Lrícr¦ora¦e¦,,
¦he, vere nixeco¦ vher sir
er¦erec ¦heir Leir_ arc Ccc has
Leer vcrlir_ ¦c res¦cre ¦ori¦,
¦c nar sirce ¦ha¦ ¦ine. ¯his res¦cra¦icr
is cri¦ica¦ Lecaose nar vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore is ¦he
ex¦ressec reíec¦icr cí vhc Ccc is.
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rc¦ va¦chir_ ¦rcVcca¦iVe ¯` shcvs. Purity is thè
rèstoration oí thè imagè oí Goo in you.
Lcr'¦ ,co lrcv ,co are ¦he cr¦, Jesos nar, ¦ec¦¦e vi¦¦ eVer
see? ¦r ccn¦rcnisir_ ,cor ¦iíes¦,¦e, ,co ícríei¦ ,cor ca¦aci¦,
¦c accora¦e¦, reíec¦ Ccc's ina_e arc ercar_er ar er¦ire
_erera¦icr's orcers¦arcir_ cí Jesos.
¦r ¦he sane va,, as vi¦h /Lrahan, Ccc var¦s ¦c va¦l ,co
¦hrco_h a ¦orií,ir_ ¦rccess arc rencVe ¦he ¦orl írcn
,cor ¦iíe sc ¦ha¦ ¬is ra¦ore is reíec¦ec ¦c ¦hcse arcorc
,co. ¦ao¦ cescriLec ¦his va¦l as ¦he ¦rccess cí ¨Leir_
¦rarsícrnec ir¦c ¦Ccc's] ¦ileress vi¦h eVerircreasir_ _¦cr,'
(2 CORINTHIANS 3:J8). Ccc a¦sc var¦s ¦c L¦ess ,co. `co nos¦
cecrease sc ¦ha¦ ¬e car ircrease. `co nos¦ _c ¦c Ccc
seelir_ ¬is ciVire eraL¦ener¦ arc irVi¦e ¬in ¦c he¦¦ ,co
¦iVe L¦ane¦ess¦,. `co nos¦ nale i¦ a ¦ricri¦, ¦c s¦erc ¦ine
seelir_ Ccc vi¦h ¦he ¦or¦cse cí Le¦¦er orcers¦arcir_ ¬is
charac¦er arc a¦¦cvir_ ¬is s¦iri¦ ¦c nale ,co ncre ¦ile ¬in
ir ,cor ¦hco_h¦s, a¦¦i¦oces, arc ac¦icrs. ¦ir_ LaVic vrc¦e
¦ha¦ he vco¦c Le sa¦isíec vher he Lcre Ccc's ¦ileress
(PSALM J7:J5). ¦ale a cecisicr reVer ¦c ¦eaVe Ccc arc asl ¬in
¦c nale ,co a ,cor_ ¦erscr vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore.
ina_ire ¦ha¦, vhi¦e ¦he, ¦i¦ec o¦ s¦icls, ¦saac aslec his ía¦her
vha¦ ¦he sacriíce vco¦c Le. /Lrahan hac ¦c ex¦¦air, ¦ile¦,
anics¦ ¦ears, ¦ha¦ his ¦eera_e scr vco¦c Le ¦he sacriíce. ¯his
nar, ¦he ía¦her cí cor íai¦h, ¦iec o¦ his Lc,, ¦aic hin cr ¦he
a¦¦ar, arc ¦ií¦ec his lriíe ¦c s¦a, his scr vher Ccc ir¦erro¦¦ec
a¦ ¦he ¦as¦ ncner¦ arc ¦c¦c hin ¦c s¦c¦. Vh, cic Ccc vai¦
sc ¦cr_? Vh, rc¦ s¦c¦ ¦hen aí¦er ¦he a¦¦ar vas írishec cr
Leícre he crev his lriíe? /Lrahan vas a horcrec ,ears c¦c
a¦ ¦he ¦ine, vha¦ ií he cicr'¦ hear Ccc ri_h¦?¦ Ccc isr'¦ ir¦c
honar sacriíce, Lo¦ vas ¦cclir_ ícr ¬is ina_e ir /Lrahan.
¯vc ¦hcosarc ,ears ¦a¦er, Ccc ¦he ¦a¦her vco¦c cííer ¬is
scr, Jesos, cr ¦ha¦ sane hi¦¦. Vher /Lrahan ¦ií¦ec his lriíe,
Ccc saic ¨s¦c¦, ¦o¦¦ ava,. ¦ see ¦,se¦í ir ,co. `co haVe _cre
íar erco_h.' ¯he ciííererce vas ¦ha¦ Ccc vco¦c ac¦oa¦¦, _c
¦hrco_h vi¦h sacriícir_ ¬is scr.
Ccc a¦¦cvec /Lrahan ¦c orcer_c a ciííco¦¦ ¦rccess ¦ha¦ vas
cr¦, ccn¦¦e¦e vher Ccc's ina_e vas c¦ear¦, reíec¦ec ir hin.
Vher ¦ha¦ ¦rccess vas írishec, Ccc L¦essec /Lrahan ncre
¦har ar, c¦her honar Leir_ ¦ha¦ eVer ¦iVec Lecaose ¬e vas
¦¦easec vi¦h vha¦ ¬e sav ir hin ¬ ¬e sav ¬inse¦í.
¦¦ is n, ¦ra,er ¦ha¦, a¦ scne ¦cir¦ ir n, ¦iíe, Ccc vi¦¦ s¦c¦ ne
arc sa, ¨¦ see ¦,se¦í ir ,co.' Vha¦ ccrcerrs ne is a chorch
¦ha¦ has a nessa_e vi¦hco¦ ¦he ina_e. ¦ an aíraic ¦ha¦ ¦here
are Chris¦iars va¦lir_ arcorc vhc ¦a¦l aLco¦ Jesos Lo¦
ccr'¦ ¦ccl ar,¦hir_ ¦ile ¬in. Ve ¦iVe ancr_ ¦ec¦¦e vhc
are ces¦era¦e ¦c see Jesos reíec¦ec ir ¦iíe ¦iVec _eroire¦,.
¯he, ccr'¦ var¦ ¦c hear en¦¦, vcrcs. ¦ori¦, ex¦ercs íar
Le,crc rc¦ ccir_ vrcr_, rc¦ s¦ee¦ir_ vi¦h scneLcc,,

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¦ an rc¦ a necharica¦ lirc cí _o,. ¦ s¦ro__¦e ¦o¦¦ir_ n, scrs'
¦c,s ¦c_e¦her arc íee¦ he¦¦¦ess vher íacec vi¦h se¦¦ir_ o¦ a
hi_h ¦ech, virec nachire. ¦ acni¦ ¦ha¦ ¦ haVe hac n, Lco¦s cí
irrer hea¦ir_ vher i¦ ccnes ¦c n, ccn¦o¦er arc ce¦¦ ¦hcre.
¦ vas recer¦¦, haVir_ ¦rcoL¦e vi¦h n, ccn¦o¦er arc vas a¦
¦he erc cí n, rc¦e. ¦ var¦ec ¦c crc¦ licl ¦he ccn¦o¦er cíí
¦he ¯¦ace ¦eec¦e Lo¦ resis¦ec ¦he or_e arc irs¦eac harcec i¦
cVer ¦c cor resicer¦ ccn¦o¦er ex¦er¦, Lr,ar. ¦ cicr'¦ ac¦oa¦¦,
var¦ Lr,ar ¦c íx i¦. ¦ lirc cí var¦ec ¦he ccn¦o¦er ¦c soííer.
¯ac, ¦ lrcv. ¦¦ ¦ccl Lr,ar ¦os¦ a íev hcors ¦c sc¦Ve ¦he
¦rcL¦en arc n, ccn¦o¦er cane Lacl ¦c ne a ccn¦¦e¦e¦,
ciííerer¦ nachire ¬ Lri_h¦er, ías¦er, arc ncre res¦ec¦ío¦ cí
ne as i¦s cvrer¦
¦ an a¦sc Laííec L, ¦he LaL, s¦rc¦¦ers ¦he, nale ¦hese ca,s¦
¦aroíac¦orers nos¦ ¦hirl ve haVe íVe harcs. `co haVe ¦c
¦ress arc ¦o¦¦ íVe ¦eVers a¦ ¦he sane ¦ine ir crcer ¦c Lreal
ccvr ¦he s¦rc¦¦er ir¦c a size soi¦aL¦e ícr ¦he car ¦rorl cr a
¦¦are rice¦ ¦ crce he¦c o¦ a ¦cr_ ¦ire cí ¦ec¦¦e vai¦ir_ ¦c _e¦
¦hrco_h air¦cr¦ secori¦, Lecaose ¦ sin¦¦, cc rc¦ ¦cssess
¦he íVe harcs reecec ¦c cc¦¦a¦se a s¦rc¦¦er. Cí ccorse n,
viíe ¦hirls i¦ is eas,¦ ¯he car si¦ her ¦a¦¦e, hc¦c cor scrs, arc
¦a¦l cr her ce¦¦ ¦hcre vhi¦e ¦ressir_, ¦o¦¦ir_, arc ¦oshir_ ¦c
cc¦¦a¦se ¦he s¦rc¦¦er.
¦r ¦hese irs¦arces ¦ hac ce¦ernirec ¦ha¦ ¦he ccn¦o¦er arc ¦he
s¦rc¦¦er vere Lrcler. ¨¯he, ¦os¦ ccr'¦ vcrl,' ¦ vco¦c sa, cVer
arc cVer. ¦ an cí¦er ccrVircec ¦ha¦ a nachire's ¦rcL¦en is ¦he
íao¦¦ cí ¦he naroíac¦orer Lo¦ osoa¦¦, írc ¦ha¦ ¦he nachires
cc vcrl ¦rc¦er¦,, ¦ ¦os¦ ccr'¦ lrcv hcv ¦c vcrl ¦hen.
! Chelsea pushing
Eliott in a stroller
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nar, Chris¦iars are hc¦ir_ ¦c ex¦erierce a Lisre, ¯vir¦ ir
¦heir ¦orsoi¦ cí sarc¦iíca¦icr. Vher ,co ccne ¦c ¦he crcss
¦here is a na_ica¦ exchar_e ¦ha¦ ¦ales ¦¦ace, Lo¦ va¦lir_ co¦
,cor ¦ori¦, eVer,ca, is a ¦rccess, rc¦ na_ic. `cor ¦ori¦, vi¦¦
rc¦ vcrl ií ,co Viev i¦ as a ¦cir¦ ¦c arriVe a¦ ra¦her ¦har a
¦rccess ¦c orcer_c.
¦ haVe ne¦ vi¦h ,cor_ ner vhc ccr'¦ nale ¦rc_ress ir
¦he area cí sexoa¦ ¦ori¦, Lecaose ¦he, are soLccrscicos¦,
vai¦ir_ ícr a na_ica¦ ncner¦ ir vhich Ccc ¦ales a¦¦ ¦heir
sexoa¦ cesires ava,. ¯ha¦ ncner¦ vi¦¦ reVer ccne¦ `co are
rc¦ _cir_ ¦c ex¦erierce ¦he Lisre, ¯vir¦ arc vi¦¦ Leccne
íros¦ra¦ec ¦cclir_ ícr i¦. Ve ¦iVe ir a ía¦¦er vcr¦c vhere ,co
haVe ¦c nale a cecisicr ¦c soLni¦ ¦c Ccc's vi¦¦ ra¦her ¦har
,cor cvr eVer, sir_¦e ca,. Jesos irs¦roc¦ec os ¦c ¦ale o¦ cor
/ ¦c¦ cí ¦ec¦¦e Viev sexoa¦ ¦ori¦,
ir ¦he sane va,. ¯he, are cer¦air
¦ha¦ ¦ori¦, ¦os¦ ccesr'¦ vcrl. ¯he,
na, eVer Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ i¦ vcrls ícr
c¦hers Lo¦ rc¦ ícr ¦hen. ¦ var¦ ¦c se¦
¦he reccrc s¦rai_h¦. You oon't
havè to íèèl hèlplèss or livè in constant
írustration in thè arèa oí your sèxuality.
¦ori¦, car vcrl ícr ,co, ,co ¦os¦ reec ¦c lrcv hcv ¦c vcrl i¦.
¦ var¦ ¦c share vi¦h ,co ¦he ¦hree ¦rinar, reascrs vh, ,cor
¦ori¦, na, rc¦ Le vcrlir_. ¦ Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ¦here are ¦hree
vrcr_ Le¦ieís ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e haVe aLco¦ ¦ori¦,.
¹. ¯eeir_ ¦ori¦, as a ¦cir¦ ra¦her ¦har a ¦rccess
2. LiVir_ ir ex¦renes ra¦her ¦har La¦arce
o. ¯eeir_ ceíea¦ ra¦her ¦har ciscLecierce
¦í ,co ac¦os¦ ,cor ¦ers¦ec¦iVe ,co car ex¦erierce ¦iíe
vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore.
SEEIHG A POIHT RATHER THAH A PROCESS
¯eenir_¦, eVer, c¦assic Lisre, car¦ccr ccr¦airs vha¦ ¦
ca¦¦ ¦he ¨Lisre, ¯vir¦.' ¯he Lisre, ¯vir¦ ¦ales ¦¦ace vher
a Leas¦, a ¦ao¦er, a ¦o¦¦e¦, cr a ¦¦air naic is cao_h¦ o¦ ir
a s¦arr, svir¦ arc ¦rarsícrnec ir¦c vha¦ ¦he, haVe a¦va,s
creanec cí Leccnir_, a ¦rirce cr a ¦rircess. ¦ ¦hirl ¦ha¦

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ra¦ora¦ ¦ar¦ cí ¦he ¦rccess. ¦r íac¦, i¦
is eVicerce ¦ha¦ Ccc is char_ir_ ,cor
ra¦ore ir crcer ¦ha¦ ,co ni_h¦ Leccne
ncre ¦ile ¬in. Vher Ccc reVea¦s ¦he
¦orl ir ,cor hear¦, ¦hco_h¦s, arc ¦iíe,
¦he ¦rc¦er res¦crse is ¦c asl ¬in ¦c
¦ale i¦ ava,. You arè bèing
givèn an opportunity to
oècrèasè so that Goo can
incrèasè in you. Cre cí ¦he
va,s ,co a¦¦cv Ccc ¦c rencVe ¦orl is
L, ¦a¦lir_ vi¦h ,cor ¦arer¦s cr a ¦as¦cr,
irVi¦ir_ ¦ha¦ ¦eacer ¦c he¦¦ ,co ¦ra, arc
slin ¦ha¦ sir cíí ,cor ¦iíe sc ¦ha¦ ,co cc
rc¦ _e¦ cao_h¦ o¦ ir i¦ a_air.
crcss cai¦,. Vh,? Lecaose ¦ori¦, is rc¦
a ¦ire ve crcss, i¦ is a cirec¦icr ve ¦ale.
`co nos¦ ce¦ernire cai¦, ¦c va¦l co¦
¦he ¦rccess cí ¦ori¦,.
¯he LiL¦e ner¦icrs ¦he ¦rccess cí
reírir_ si¦Ver seVera¦ ¦ines. ¯he ¦rccess
cí ¦ori¦, is noch ¦ile ¦he ¦oriíca¦icr cí
si¦Ver. Vher a si¦Versni¦h ¦oriíes ¦his
¦recicos ne¦a¦ he s¦arcs a¦¦er¦iVe¦,
cVer ¦he crociL¦e va¦chir_ ¦he nc¦¦er
¦icoic se¦ara¦e. ¬e ccr¦iroa¦¦, scra¦es
¦he crcss cíí ¦he ¦c¦ or¦i¦ íra¦¦,,
aí¦er ccor¦¦ess hcors, he car see his
reíec¦icr ir ¦he si¦Ver. /¦ ¦ha¦ ¦cir¦ ¦he
si¦Versni¦h rencVes ¦he ¦c¦ írcn ¦he
íre Lecaose ¦he si¦Ver has Leer ¦oriíec.
PSALM ôô:J0 sa,s ¦ha¦ Ccc ¦es¦s os ¦ile
si¦Ver reírec ir a ¦c¦. /s vi¦h ¦he si¦Ver,
orrecessar, s¦oíí vi¦¦ rise ¦c ¦he soríace
cí ,cor ¦iíe vhi¦e ,co orcer_c ¦he
reírir_ ¦rccess. Vher ¦orl is reVea¦ec
,co na, Le irc¦irec ¦c res¦crc vi¦h ¦he
íc¦¦cvir_ ¦hco_h¦s. ¨Ch, ¦ori¦, ccesr'¦
vcrl ícr ne. Lccl vha¦ ha¦¦erec. ¦'n
a ¦erVer¦. ¦ cic i¦ a_air. ¦ ni_h¦ as ve¦¦
rc¦ eVer ¦r,.' Vher ,co orcers¦arc
¦he vcrl cí Ccc hcveVer, ,co vi¦¦
recc_rize ¦ha¦ s¦oíí ccnir_ o¦ is a
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LIVIHG IH EXTREMES RATHER THAH BALAHCE
¦ec¦¦e carrc¦ sorViVe ir ex¦rene ccrci¦icrs ícr ¦cr_ ¦ericcs
cí ¦ine, ,e¦ nar, haVe acc¦¦ec ex¦rene Vievs cí vhc Jesos
is. ¯here are ¦vc ex¦renes ve ror ir¦c vher ¦iVir_ co¦ cor
¦ori¦,. ex¦rene nerc, cr ex¦rene vcrls. ¦í ,co ¦r, ¦c ¦iVe ir
cre cí ¦hese ex¦renes, ¦ori¦, vi¦¦ rc¦ vcrl ícr ,co.
Cr cre erc cí ¦he s¦ec¦ron is ex¦rene nerc,. ¦ec¦¦e vhc
¦ale ¦his Viev ¦erc ¦c Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ Ccc's _race is ¦he ccrs¦ar¦
ccVer o¦ ícr a¦¦ cí ¦heir sir. ¯he, na, ceVe¦c¦ a haLi¦ cí ¦iVir_
ícr ¦hense¦Ves a¦¦ veel, aslir_ ícr ícr_iVeress cr ¯orca,,
arc s¦ar¦ir_ ¦he c,c¦e a¦¦ cVer a_air cr ¦crca,. ¯he, ceíerc
¦he icea ¦ha¦ Ccc ¦cVes ¦hen ¦os¦ ¦he va, ¦he, are, ¦vis¦ir_
¦his ¦ro¦h ¦c ¦os¦ií, ¦heir ¦acl cí nc¦iVa¦icr ¦c ¦iVe acccrcir_ ¦c
LiL¦ica¦ s¦arcarcs. ¦ osoa¦¦, nee¦ a¦ ¦eas¦ cre ,cor_ ¦erscr
vhc í¦s ¦his cescri¦¦icr a¦ eVer, chorch ccríererce ¦ a¦¦erc.
¯eVera¦ ,ears a_c, vhi¦e ¦reachir_ a¦ a ,co¦h ccríererce, ¦
íe¦¦ Ccc ¦e¦¦ ne ¦ha¦ scnecre ir a¦¦ercarce hac a nari¦oara
¦i¦e vi¦h ¦hen. ¦ s¦ccc cr ¦he ¦¦a¦ícrn ¦ha¦ ri_h¦ arc
irVi¦ec ¦ha¦ ¦erscr ¦c res¦crc ¦c ¦he ¬c¦, ¯¦iri¦. ¯ore
erco_h, a ,cor_ nar raisec his harc arc ¦cirec ne o¦
írcr¦. Leícre ¦ra,ir_ ícr ¦his nar, ¦ aslec hin ¦c _iVe ne
his ¦i¦e, Le¦ieVir_ ¦ha¦ Ccc vas _cir_ ¦c se¦ hin íree. ¬is
res¦crse ¦c n, recoes¦ vas shcclir_. ¬e saic, ¨Vha¦ cc
,co near? ¦'n c¦cses¦ ¦c Jesos vher ¦ sncle n, ¦i¦e.' ¬is
¦ers¦ec¦iVe vas ¦ha¦ Ccc sin¦¦, ¦cVec hin ¦he va, he vas.
Ccc cces ¦cVe ¦ha¦ ,cor_ nar, Lo¦ ¬e vas ¦r,ir_ ¦c _iVe hin
¦he c¦¦cr¦ori¦, arc _race ¦c char_e. ¦rs¦eac cí osir_ ¦he
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hin L, Chris¦iar ¦eacers. Li¦her va,, ¦he erc reso¦¦ is ¦he
sane. Lc¦h ¦ec¦¦e erc o¦ ¦eaVir_ ¦he chorch arc _iVir_ o¦
cr ¦heir ¦orsoi¦ cí ¦ori¦,.
LisccVerir_ a La¦arce Le¦veer nerc, arc vcrls is as
sin¦¦e as ac¦ir_ ir cLecierce ¦c ¦he ¦hir_s Ccc asls cí ,co.
¦r his ¦e¦¦er ¦c ¦he ¦hi¦i¦¦iar chorch, ¦ao¦ vri¦es.
“Therefore my beloved, as you have always obeyed not as in my
presence only but now much more in my absence, work out your
own salvation with fear and trembling. For it is God who works in
you both to will and to do for His good pleasure” —PHILIPPIANS 2:J2
¦ao¦ irs¦roc¦s Chris¦iars ¦c re¦, cr Ccc, rc¦ ¦heir cvr aLi¦i¦,,
vhi¦e vcrlir_ co¦ ¦heir sa¦Va¦icr. `cor ccnni¦ner¦ ¦c ¦iVe
acccrcir_ ¦c LiL¦ica¦ ¦rirci¦¦es, soLnissicr ¦c ¦he ao¦hcri¦,
cí _cc¦, ¦eacers, arc cai¦, cLecierce ¦c ¦he ¯¦iri¦ cí Ccc
c¦era¦ir_ cr ¦he irsice cí ,co vi¦¦ eraL¦e ,co ¦c ¦iVe a
L¦ane¦ess ¦iíe.
excose cí ex¦rene nerc,, ve nos¦ access Ccc's _race, ¬is
en¦cverir_ ¦c ¦iVe ¦he ¦iíe ¬e asls cí os, rc¦ a Li_ ccVer o¦.
¯he íi¦ sice cí ex¦rene nerc, is ex¦rene vcrls. ¯he ex¦rene
vcrls ¦erscr ¦hirls ¦ha¦ ií he s¦riVes, vears Chris¦iar ¦shir¦s,
¦ra,s a ¦c¦, har_s co¦ vi¦h ¦he ri_h¦ ¦ec¦¦e, arc e¦inira¦es
ícrns cí necia, he car nale hinse¦í ¦ore. ¦a¦her ¦har ¦iVir_
ir cLecierce ¦c Ccc, his ac¦icrs are cic¦a¦ec L, his cvr
ces¦era¦e a¦¦en¦¦s ¦c Le hc¦,.
`co carrc¦ sorViVe ir ei¦her cí ¦hese ex¦renes ícr ar, ¦er_¦h
cí ¦ine. ¯he a¦¦nerc, _o, is Lcorc ¦c írc hinse¦í ¦iVir_
care¦ess¦, arc irVc¦Vec ir _rcss sir. ¯he a¦¦vcrls _o, vi¦¦
erc o¦ cisccora_ec, cisi¦¦osicrec, arc exhaos¦ec, Le¦ieVir_
¦ha¦ he vi¦¦ reVer Le aL¦e ¦c nee¦ ¦he cenarcs ¦¦acec cr

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SEEIHG 0EPEAT RATHER THAH 0ISOBE0IEHCE
¦ carrc¦ ccor¦ ¦he ronLer cí ¦ines ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e haVe ¦c¦c
ne ¦ha¦ ¦he, are Leir_ ¨ceíea¦ec' L, ¦he ceVi¦. ¦r nalir_
¦his c¦ain, ¦he, soL¦¦, esca¦e ¦erscra¦ res¦crsiLi¦i¦, ícr ¦heir
¦iíes¦,¦e chcices. ¯he, _iVe scne er¦i¦, co¦sice cí ¦hense¦Ves
creci¦ ícr nalir_ ¦hen sir. ¦, LiL¦e sa,s ¦ha¦ ¨¦ car cc a¦¦
¦hir_s ¦hrco_h Chris¦ vhc s¦rer_¦hers ne' (PHILIPPIANS 4:J3).
¦, Ccc is Li__er ¦har ¦he ceVi¦, ¦hereícre he has rc ¦cver ¦c
ceíea¦ ne.
¯he ccrce¦¦ cí ceíea¦ shco¦c Le ca¦¦ec vha¦ i¦ is.
ciscLecierce. Vher ,co ness o¦ ,co co_h¦ ¦c acni¦ ,cor
cecisicr ¦c sir ir ce¦iLera¦e ciscLecierce ¦c Ccc's vi¦¦. ¦¦
vco¦c Le sc reíreshir_ ií scnecre cane o¦ ¦c ne arc saic,
¨Jocah, car ,co ¦ra, ícr ne? ¦'Ve Leer sc ciscLecier¦. ¦'Ve
Leer chccsir_ ¦c sir a_airs¦ Ccc, n, ncn, n, cac, arc ,co
as n, ¦as¦cr.' Crce ,co are vi¦¦ir_ ¦c nale ¦he cis¦irc¦icr
Le¦veer ceíea¦ arc ciscLecierce, arc ¦ale res¦crsiLi¦i¦, ícr
,cor chcices, ,co are cr ¦he rcac ¦c nalir_ ¦ori¦, vcrl ícr
,co.
Vhi¦e ¦ s¦i¦¦ haVe rc icea hcv ¦c íx a ccn¦o¦er, ¦ haVe ¦earrec
a ¦hir_ cr ¦vc aLco¦ s¦rc¦¦ers ¦a¦e¦,. `co shco¦c see hcv
cccrcira¦ec ¦ an íc¦cir_ ccvr ¦he s¦rc¦¦er vi¦h cre harc as
¦ hc¦c Zicr's harc arc lee¦ L¦ic¦¦ írcn rorrir_ cíí a¦¦ a¦ ¦he
sane ¦ine. ¦ car see c¦her cacs ¦ccl a¦ ne ¦hirlir_, ¨¬cv
cces he cc ¦ha¦?' ¦ lrcv hcv ¦c vcrl a s¦rc¦¦er¦ /s ,co ¦earr
hcv ¦c vcrl ,cor ¦ori¦, c¦her ¦ec¦¦e vhc var¦ ¦c Le ¦ore
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¯¦ercir_ ar aí¦errccr a¦ hcne seVera¦ ncr¦hs a_c ¦ hearc
a lrccl cr ¦he írcr¦ cccr. ¦ arsverec ¦he cccr ¦c írc ¦vc
orassonir_ _er¦¦ener vhc aslec ne ií ¦ vco¦c ¦ile ¦c Lo,
scne¦hir_. ¬aVir_ rc ccrce¦¦ cí a¦¦ ¦ha¦ vco¦c ersoe, ¦
scnevha¦ i_rcrar¦¦, aslec ¦he ner vha¦ ¦he, vere se¦¦ir_.
¦r arsver ¦c n, ircoir,, ¦he sa¦esner ra¦ic¦, Le_ar ¦c
or¦cac a Lcx cí Leeí. Leícre ¦ lrev i¦, ¦he íc,er cí n, hcose
vas ¦irec vi¦h Vacoon ¦aclec s¦eals. ¯here nos¦ haVe
Leer a¦ ¦eas¦ ¦vc ccvs vcr¦h¦ ¦ vas cVervhe¦nec¦ /s ¦he
sa¦esner ¦rcVicec ne vi¦h a ce¦ai¦ec cescri¦¦icr cí each
co¦ cí Leeí, ¦ Le_ar ¦c ¦aric arc ca¦¦ec ícr n, viíe. ¦ haVe a
harc ¦ine resis¦ir_ vher ¦'n ¦ressorec ¦c Lo, scne¦hir_. ¦
re¦rea¦ec ¦c ¦he li¦cher vhi¦e Che¦sea ¦is¦erec ¦c ¦he sa¦es
¦i¦ch. ¯he ner vere ¦r,ir_ ¦c ccrVirce her ¦c Lo, ¦he nea¦
vi¦h s¦a¦ener¦s ¦ile. ¨¦í ,co Lo, ¦his cre ve'¦¦ acc arc¦her ícr
cr¦, :¹9.99. ¦r íac¦, ve'¦¦ _iVe ,co a íree cre ícr cr¦, :9.99.'
¦ree? :9.99? Vha¦?
/s ¦ hicco¦, hocc¦ec ir ¦he li¦cher, ¦he ner ccr¦iroec.
¨¯hese are ¦he Les¦ s¦eals ,co car Lo,. ¯he,'re s¦rai_h¦ írcn
¦eLrasla. Ve Vacoon ¦aclec ¦hen corse¦Ves. ¯cne haVe
eVer Leer narira¦ec. ¦í ve ccr'¦ se¦¦ ¦hen ve ni_h¦ rc¦ Le
aL¦e ¦c ¦o¦ íccc cr ¦he ¦aL¦e ícr cor íani¦ies. ¯his is hcv ve
nale a ¦iVir_ arc sc íar rcre cí ,cor rei_hLcrs haVe Lco_h¦
ar,¦hir_. Ve'c ¦ile ¦c nale ,co a Ver,, Ver, _ccc cea¦.' /¦¦
¦he vhi¦e ¦ vas ir ¦he c¦her rccn ¦hirlir_, ¨Ccne cr Che¦sea,
¦os¦ Lo, scne s¦eals,' Lo¦ n, viíe ccr¦iroec ¦c ¦e¦¦ ¦he ner
¦ha¦ ve vere rc¦ ir¦eres¦ec.
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Lo¦¦cr. ¦ ¦ao_h¦ ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e ¦ha¦ ¦hese Li_ Lac Vercir_
nachires vere eVer,vhere, a¦va,s var¦ir_ ¦heir ncre,.
¯his orcers¦arcir_ cí ¦he ra¦ore cí sir vas vrcr_. GENESIS
4:7 sa,s ¦ha¦ ¨sir ¦ies a¦ ¦he cccr arc i¦s cesire is ícr ,co.'
¯ir is rc¦ a Vercir_ nachire. ¬aVe ,co eVer hac a Vercir_
nachire íc¦¦cv ,co arcorc corir_ schcc¦ aslir_ ¨Lc ,co
var¦ a ¯riclers? Lc ,co var¦ a ¯riclers? ¯riclers sa¦isíes.'
¦c¦ `ercir_ nachires are s¦a¦icrar,. ¯cne are Ver, a¦¦orir_.
¦ar, haVe ccces ¦ile C2 cr Lc arc isr'¦ i¦ a Lonner vher
,co ¦ress L¯ irs¦eac cí Lc arc erc o¦ vi¦h a _rarc¦a Lar
vi¦h a¦ncrcs arc ca¦es ra¦her ¦har ¦he ¯riclers ,co vere
craVir_? ¯he vcrs¦ is vher ,co ¦ress L¯ ¦c _e¦ ,cor ¯riclers
Lo¦ i¦ isr'¦ re¦easec arc ercs o¦ car_¦ir_ L, i¦s vra¦¦er. /¦
¦ha¦ ¦cir¦ ,co ¦ccl Lc¦h va,s arc s¦ar¦ shalir_ ¦he nachire
Lo¦ i¦ s¦i¦¦ vcr'¦ cco_h o¦ ¦he carc, Lar.
¯he sa¦es ¦i¦ch ccr¦iroec. ¨Ve haVe ¦hree Lcxes here Lo¦
,co ccr'¦ haVe ¦c Lo, a¦¦ cí ¦hen. Vh, ccr'¦ ,co Lo, ¦vc
Lcxes arc ve'¦¦ ¦hrcv ir a ¦hirc Lcx ícr íree.'
¨¦'n scrr,, ve're rc¦ ir¦eres¦ec.'
¨¦ ccn¦¦e¦e¦, orcers¦arc. `co _o,s ¦rcLaL¦, ccr'¦ var¦ ¦ha¦
nar, s¦eals. Jos¦ Lo, cre Lcx arc ve'¦¦ _iVe ,co ¦vc ex¦ra
s¦eals, íree cí char_e.'
¨¦c. ¦'n scrr,. Ve're ¦os¦ rc¦ ir¦eres¦ec.'
¯his ccrVersa¦icr ver¦ cr ícr a¦ ¦eas¦ ¦hir¦, niro¦es or¦i¦
íra¦¦, n, viíe a_reec ¦c Lo, ¦hree s¦eals ¦os¦ ¦c _e¦ ric cí
¦he sa¦esner.
SIH ISH¹T A VEH0IHG MACHIHE
¦ osec ¦c ¦hirl ¦ha¦ sir vas ¦ile a Vercir_ nachire, ir vhich
,co cco¦c ce¦csi¦ ncre, arc nale a se¦ec¦icr. ¦os¦, ¦,ir_,
chea¦ir_, ceLaocher,, ¦asciVicosress. ¦ ¦hco_h¦ ¦ha¦ sir,
cesire, arc ¦en¦¦a¦icr cco¦c Le re¦easec a¦ ¦he ¦ress cí a

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¨¦'n _cir_ ¦c _iVe ,co ¦he Les¦ cea¦
,co'Ve eVer hac.'
¯ir is ¦ile ¦ha¦. ¯ir vi¦¦ ¦orsoe ,co
a__ressiVe¦,.
THE HATURE OP SIH
¯he va, ,co re¦a¦e ¦c arc cVerccne
sir char_es vher ,co orcers¦arc i¦s
ra¦ore. ¦r GENESIS 4 Ccc ¦e¦¦s Cair ¦ha¦
sir ¦ies a¦ his cccr. ¯his s¦a¦ener¦ na,
_iVe ,co ¦he in¦ressicr ¦ha¦ sir ¦ies
arcorc vai¦ir_ ¦c Le er_a_ec arc is a¦
,cor cis¦csa¦. `co ¦hirl ¨Ve¦¦, ií ¦ var¦
¦c sir ¦'¦¦ cc i¦ a ¦i¦¦¦e Li¦ arc ¦her _e¦
Lacl ¦c ¦iVir_ ¦he Chris¦iar va,.' ¦í ¦his
is ,cor ¦hi¦csc¦h,, ,co ccr'¦ rea¦ize ¦ha¦
sin has a liíè ano agènoa
oí its own.
¯ir is ner¦icrec ir ¦he LiL¦e ícr ¦he
írs¦ ¦ine ir GENESIS 4:7. ¦¦ is in¦cr¦ar¦
¦c rc¦e ¦he írs¦ ner¦icr cí a LiL¦ica¦
ccrce¦¦ Lecaose i¦ cí¦er reVea¦s ¦he
si_riícarce cí a vcrc cr ¦rirci¦¦e
¦ha¦ is ¦ao_h¦ ¦hrco_hco¦ scri¦¦ore.
Vher sir is ir¦rccocec ir Ceresis i¦s
ra¦ore is cescriLec. ¯he LiL¦e sa,s
¯ir is rc¦ a Vercir_ nachire. `co ccr'¦
chccse ¦c sin¦¦, va¦l arcorc sir cr
lee¦ ,cor cis¦arce írcn i¦ ir crcer ¦c
aVcic ¦en¦¦a¦icr. ¯ir is ncre ¦ile ¦he
ner vhc cane ¦c n, hcose se¦¦ir_
s¦eals ¬ i¦ cces rc¦ ¦ale 'rc' ícr ar
arsver.
¦í sir vere se¦¦ir_ nea¦, ¦he
ccrVersa¦icr vco¦c scorc scne¦hir_
¦ile ¦his.
¨¦'n scrr,. ¦'n rc¦ ir¦eres¦ec.'
¨Ch, ¦ ¦c¦a¦¦, orcers¦arc. Vh, ccr'¦ ,co
Lo, cre Lcx irs¦eac cí ¦hree?'
¨¦ ccr'¦ var¦ ar, s¦eals.'
¨Cla,, here's vha¦ ¦'¦¦ cc. ¦'¦¦ _iVe ,co
¦hree s¦eals a¦ ar ircreciL¦e ¦rice. ¦'¦¦
eVer ¦hrcv ir ¦vc ícr íree.'
¨¦c, ¦harl ,co.'
¨¯his is ¦eLrasla Leeí. ¦¦'s Vacoon
¦aclec. ¦¦'s Leer narira¦ir_ ícr ¦hir¦,
íVe ,ears.'
¨Vcv. ¦ ccr'¦ ¦hirl ¦'n ir¦eres¦ec.'
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¦ha¦ sir lies. ¯he vcrc lie nears ¨¦c crcoch'. Lc ,co lrcv
vha¦ a crcochir_ ¦csi¦icr ¦ccls ¦ile? /r arina¦ crcoches
vher ¦re¦arir_ ¦c ¦corce. ¯he vhc¦e ¦cir¦ cí crcochir_
is ¦corcir_. Ccc _ces cr ¦c sa, ¦ha¦ ¨sir is crcochir_ a¦
,cor cccr arc i¦ cesires ,co.' `co nos¦ rea¦ize ¦ha¦ sir is
crcochir_ a¦ ,cor cccr vi¦h ¦¦ars ¦c ¦corce cr ,co, ccr¦rc¦
,cor cecisicrs, arc ces¦rc, ,cor ¦iíe.
¯ir has ar a__ressiVe ra¦ore. ¯hrco_hco¦ ¦he Lccl cí
¦rcVerLs, ¦he craí¦, har¦c¦ is reíerrec ¦c as a ne¦a¦hcr ícr
sir. ¯he craí¦, har¦c¦ is a__ressiVe¦ ¬er íee¦ vi¦¦ rc¦ s¦a, a¦
hcne, she ca¦ches arc lisses i_rcrar¦ ner, she iri¦ia¦es arc
¦orsoes. Sin is so aggrèssivè that you oon't
havè to sèèk it out. ¬aVe ,co rc¦icec ¦ha¦ ir ¦his
ca, arc a_e ,co ccr'¦ haVe ¦c ¦ccl harc ¦c ía¦¦ ncra¦¦,? `co
car ccn¦rcnise ,cor sexoa¦ ¦ori¦, ar,¦ine arc ar,vhere.
`co car ccn¦rcnise ,cor sexoa¦ ¦ori¦, ir chorch ií ,co haVe
a ce¦¦ ¦hcre. ¯ir var¦s ¦c ¦cssess ,co.
lí you arè not aggrèssivè in thè pursuit
oí Goo ano purity, you arè at thè
oisposal oí sin. ROMANS ô:Jô sa,s ¦ha¦ ,co are a s¦aVe
¦c vhcneVer ,co cLe,, Le ¦ha¦ sir vhich ¦eacs ¦c cea¦h cr
cLecierce vhich ¦eacs ¦c ri_h¦ecosress. ¦s i¦ ¦cssiL¦e ¦c
Le a s¦aVe ¦c a Vercir_ nachire? ¦c. ¯ir ¦orsoes ,co ir ar
a¦¦en¦¦ ¦c Leccne ,cor nas¦er.
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his ¦iíe ¦corre, ¦c ¦vc eVer¦s. a í_h¦
arc a race. Lces ¦ha¦ scorc ¦assiVe ¦c
,co? ¦r nalir_ ¦his ccn¦ariscr ¦ao¦
is cescriLir_ ¦orsoi¦. LVer, ca, cí his
¦iíe ¦ao¦ íco_h¦ ¦he eren,, resis¦ec ¦he
ceVi¦, arc ¦orsoec Ccc. `cor ¦orsoi¦ cí
¦ori¦, shco¦c ¦ccl ¦he sane.
GIVE HO PLACE TO SIH
¦í ,cor ¦ori¦, ¦acls ¦orsoi¦, ,co vi¦¦
Le cVer¦aler L, ¦he a__ressiVe sir
ir cor co¦¦ore. ¯ir is crcochir_ a¦
,cor cccr arc a¦¦ i¦ reecs ¦c er¦er
,cor ¦iíe is a cracl. lí you arè
not busy pursuing Goo
ano His purposès whèn
sin knocks, you will
èvèntually opèn thè ooor.
¦r EPHESIANS 4:27 ¦ao¦ varrs Chris¦iars
rc¦ ¦c _iVe ¦he ceVi¦ a ícc¦hc¦c. ¦ar,
,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e nis¦aler¦, ¦hirl ¦ha¦
¦he, car íir¦ vi¦h sir arc reccVer. ¯he,
Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ¦he, car ex¦eriner¦ vi¦h
sir arc esca¦e i¦s ío¦¦ ccrsecoerces.
¯he ¦ro¦h is ¦ha¦ sir has a hcs¦i¦e ra¦ore
arc ar, irVc¦Vener¦ vi¦h i¦ vi¦¦ ¦eac ¦c
ces¦roc¦icr.
rc¦ ¦ori¦, a¦ a¦¦. Ve ¦iVe ir a co¦¦ore ir
vhich sir is ¦orsoir_ ,co, ¦hereícre ,co
nos¦ ce¦iLera¦e¦, ¦orsoe ¦ori¦, cai¦,,
na¦ore ir íai¦h, arc _rcv ir ir¦inac,
vi¦h Ccc. `co carrc¦ Le ¦assiVe arc
Le eííec¦iVe.
¯he /¦cs¦¦e ¦ao¦ sons o¦ his ¦iíe osir_
¦hese íani¦iar vcrcs. ¨¦ haVe íco_h¦ ¦he
_ccc í_h¦, ¦ haVe írishec ¦he race, ¦
haVe le¦¦ ¦he íai¦h' (2 TIMOTHY 4:7). ¦ao¦,
vhc is ar_oaL¦, cre cí ¦he _rea¦es¦
Chris¦iars ¦c eVer va¦l ¦he ¦¦are¦, ¦ilers
TAKIHG 0OMIHIOH OVER SIH
Vher ¦a¦lir_ vi¦h Cair, Ccc cescriLes
¦he ra¦ore cí sir arc cor re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦c
i¦. ¬e ex¦¦airs ¦ha¦ ¨sir ¦ies a¦ ¦he cccr.
Lo¦ ,co shco¦c ro¦e cVer i¦.' Ccc has
_iVer ,co ciVire ¦e_a¦ ri_h¦ ¦c ccr¦rc¦
arc Le nas¦er cí sir ¬ rc¦ ¦he c¦her
va, arcorc. ¯his is _rea¦ revs¦ ¯he
rex¦ ¦ine ,co are ¦en¦¦ec ¦c sir ,co
ccr'¦ haVe ¦c _iVe ir, ¦hirlir_ ¨Ch rc.
¬ere i¦ ccnes. ¦¦'s ha¦¦erir_ a_air.
¦, accic¦icr. ¯he sane sir ¦ car reVer
cVerccne.' ¦¦ is cri¦ica¦ ¦ha¦ ,co lrcv
vhc ,co are. `co haVe ¦he Ccc_iVer
ao¦hcri¦, ¦c resis¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr arc ¦ale
ccniricr cVer sir.
THE PURSUIT OP PURITY
Lecaose sir is a__ressiVe, ,cor ¦ori¦,
nos¦ Le ¦rc_ressiVe. L¦ ¦c ¦his ¦cir¦
¦ haVe ceírec ¦ori¦, as, ¨¦he s¦a¦e cí
Leir_ vi¦hco¦ nix¦ore.' ¦, ccrcerr
vi¦h ¦his ceíri¦icr is ¦ha¦ i¦ na, caose
,co ¦c Viev ¦ori¦, as a íra¦ ces¦ira¦icr.
¦r rea¦i¦,, ¦ori¦, is a ¦rccess ¬ a
¦rccess ir vhich ,co ¦orsoe a ¦iíe íree
cí nix¦ore. ¦ori¦, ¦ha¦ is ¦assiVe is

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¬aVe ,co hearc aLco¦ ¯ie_íriec arc ¦c, ir Las `e_as vhc
¦erícrnec vi¦h vhi¦e ¦i_ers? ¯he ner ¦erícrnec ncre
¦har oO,OOO shcvs vi¦h ¦he ¦i_ers vi¦hco¦ ccn¦¦ica¦icr
¦her a¦¦ cí a soccer, corir_ a shcv, ¦he o8O ¦corc ¦i_er
_c¦ co¦ cí his rco¦ire arc ¦corcec cr his ¦rairer, ¦c,. ¯he
¦i_er ¦her c¦an¦ec his ¦cverío¦ ¦avs arcorc ¦c,'s recl arc
cra__ec hin oO íee¦ cíís¦a_e ¦ile a ra_cc¦¦. ¦c, niraco¦cos¦,
sorViVec, Lo¦ eVer,cre vas shcclec, c¦ainir_ ¦ha¦ ¦he ¦i_er
ver¦ craz,. ¦ec¦¦e a¦¦ cVer /nerica coes¦icrec hcv a ¦i_er
cco¦c cc soch a ¦erriL¦e ¦hir_. /rc¦her arina¦ ¦rairer aí¦er
va¦chir_ ¦he ircicer¦ ccrc¦ocec ¨LVer ¦hco_h ¦he,'re raisec
ir ca¦¦iVi¦, arc ¦he, ¦cVe os, scne¦ines ¦heir ra¦ora¦ irs¦irc¦s
¦os¦ ¦ale cVer.
2
' ¦r rea¦i¦,, ¦he ¦i_er vas sin¦¦, íc¦¦cvir_ i¦s
irs¦irc¦s arc ac¦ir_ acccrcir_ ¦c i¦s ra¦ore. ¯he ¦i_er ver¦
¦i_er¦
¦ar, cí ,co haVe a sini¦ar Viev cí sir. `co ¦hirl ,co car
ccr¦rc¦ ,cor ¨¦e¦ sir' arc ,co vcr'¦ soííer ¦he ccrsecoerces.
`co ¦hirl ¦ha¦ Lecaose ,co haVer'¦ Leer cao_h¦ ,e¦ ,co
reVer vi¦¦. Lcr'¦ Le ceceiVec. Sin is |ust waiting íor
thè most opportunè timè to pouncè arc
Lrir_ ,co ccvr. `co are s¦orrec arc ashanec L, ¦he reso¦¦s
cí ,cor ac¦icrs Lo¦ ,co craclec c¦er ¦he cccr cí ,cor ¦iíe ¦c
¦en¦¦a¦icr. ¯ir is rc¦hir_ ¦c íir¦ vi¦h.
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PLEE YOUTHPUL LUSTS
2 TIMOTHY 2:22 ¦rcVices ¦he íc¦¦cvir_ irs¦roc¦icrs
ícr cea¦ir_ vi¦h sexoa¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr. ¨íee ,co¦hío¦
¦os¦s.' ¯he íac¦ ¦ha¦ ¦here is ar er¦ire LiL¦e Verse
accressir_ hcv ¦c cea¦ vi¦h ¦he craVir_s cí
a ,cor_ ¦erscr ircica¦es ¦he ir¦ersi¦, cí ¦he
craVir_s. `cor craVir_s car _e¦ ,co ir¦c a Ver,
s¦icl, si¦oa¦icr.
Ve haVe a¦¦ reac LiL¦ica¦ acccor¦s cí ner arc
vcner vhc s¦ccc s¦eacías¦¦, a_airs¦ erenies,
Lc¦c¦, íacec ¦heir c¦¦crer¦s, arc ccrcoerec
Vic¦cricos¦, ir La¦¦¦e. ¦r ¦he íace cí sexoa¦
¦en¦¦a¦icr arc ccn¦rcnise hcveVer, ¦ao¦ nales
i¦ c¦ear ¦ha¦ ,co are ¦c ror. Run! ¦í ,co are ir
ar erVircrner¦ ¦ha¦ is ícs¦erir_ ,cor irsa¦iaL¦e
a¦¦e¦i¦es arc cesires ¬ ror¦ Vher ccrírcr¦ec
vi¦h a si¦oa¦icr vhere ,co are ¦en¦¦ec ¦c
ccn¦rcnise sexoa¦¦, ¬ ror¦ ¦or screanir_ írcn
¦he Loi¦cir_.
¬ere is ar exan¦¦e cí a ¦ine vher scnecre
shco¦c haVe ror.
¨Jocah, on, ¦ reec ¦c ¦a¦l ¦c ,co.'
¨Vha¦'s _cir_ cr?'
¨¦ ¦os¦ car'¦ Le¦ieVe i¦. ¦ cic scne¦hir_ rea¦¦, Lac. ¯here's ¦his
_ir¦. Ve're Lc¦h Chris¦iars arc ve ¦cVe Ccc arc eVer,¦hir_.
Ve vere ccir_ a LiL¦e s¦oc, arc.Leícre ¦ lrev i¦.n, harcs
vere vhere ¦he, shco¦cr'¦ Le. ¦¦'s hcrriL¦e, ¦ lrcv¦'
¨`co soccer¦, ¦cochec her ¦here? Vcv. Vere ,co si¦¦ir_
ir ¦he írcr¦ rcv cí ¦he chorch cr ¯orca, ncrrir_ cr ir ¦he
nicc¦e cí a sna¦¦ _rco¦ nee¦ir_? Vher cic i¦ ha¦¦er?'
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Car ,co ina_ire vha¦ i¦ vco¦c Le ¦ile ií ,co hac scne
íriercs cVer arc cre cí ¦hen ¦ccl cíí rorrir_ co¦ ¦he cccr?
¯he rex¦ ca, a¦ schcc¦ vher ,co aslec ¦hen ¦c ex¦¦air
¦heir ac¦icrs ¦he, vco¦c arsver ¦ha¦ ¦he, íe¦¦ scne ,co¦hío¦
craVir_s ccnir_ cr. Le¦'s cLe, scri¦¦ore a¦ a¦¦ ccs¦s.
PLEE AH0 PURSUE
¦¦'s a _ccc ¦hir_ 2 TIMOTHY 2:22 ccesr'¦ erc vi¦h ¦he vcrc
¨íee.' ¦í i¦ cic ve vco¦c a¦¦ Le rorrir_ arcorc rarccn¦,,
írcir_ corse¦Ves ir ¦he sane si¦oa¦icrs cVer arc cVer a_air.
¯he scri¦¦ore sa,s ¨.íee ,co¦hío¦ ¦os¦s, Lo¦.' ¦¦ee Lo¦. / ¦c¦
cí ¦ec¦¦e s¦ar¦ íeeir_ Lo¦ ccr'¦ lrcv vhere ¦he, are _cir_.
¨.íee Lo¦ ¦orsoe...' Thè bèst nèèing is gooo
pursuing. ¦r c¦her vcrcs, ¦he Les¦ ceíerse is a _ccc
cííerse. Ccc cesi_rec ,co ¦c ¦¦a, cííerse vi¦h ,cor ¦ori¦,.
Lecaose sir is rc¦ a Vercir_ nachire, ¦os¦ sa,ir_ ¨rc' ¦c
¦en¦¦a¦icr isr'¦ a s¦rcr_ erco_h ceíerse.
¯he _rea¦es¦ ce¦errer¦ ¦c sir is ¦he ¦orsoi¦ cí Visicr.
`co reec a Visicr ícr ,cor ¦iíe ¦ha¦ ¦rc¦e¦s ,co Le,crc
ncner¦ar, ¦¦easores, a ¦or¦cse ¦ha¦ caoses ,co ¦c see ¦as¦
¦en¦¦a¦icr ¦c i¦s ccrsecoerces arc ccn¦e¦s ,co ¦c chccse
ri_h¦ecosress Lecaose cí i¦s revarc. ¦orsoe Ccc. ¦orsoe ¬is
¦or¦cse. ¦orsoe ¬is ¦¦ar ícr ,cor ¦iíe.
¨Ve¦¦, rc, on. her ¦arer¦s saic i¦ vas ccc¦ ií ¦ cane cVer
Lecaose ve vere ccir_ scne schcc¦ vcrl. ¯her ve var¦ec
¦c ¦a¦l aLco¦ ,cor nessa_e írcn ¦as¦ veel Lecaose i¦ vas
sc _ccc. ¯c ¦ s¦ar¦ec reacir_ ¦he LiL¦e arc ¦ vas ¦ile ¨nar,
checl ¦his Verse co¦.' ¯c ve Lc¦h ¦os¦ rea¦¦, _c¦ ir¦c ¦ha¦ cre
Verse ,co sharec ¦as¦ veel arc Leícre ¦ lrev i¦, ¦ ¦cclec
o¦ arc she ¦cclec cVer. /rc i¦ ¦os¦ seenec ¦ile ¦he ¦eríec¦
¦inir_. ¦cv ¦ lrcv ¦ shco¦cr'¦ haVe ccre i¦.'
¦ haVe ner¦icrec ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ nar, ¦ec¦¦e ir ¦his ¦,¦e
cí si¦oa¦icr ni_h¦ cííer ¦he íc¦¦cvir_ ex¦¦ara¦icr ícr ¦heir
ac¦icrs.
¨¯he ceVi¦ is ¦c¦a¦¦, a¦¦aclir_ ne, ,co lrcv vha¦ ¦ near?
¬e ¦re¦¦, noch nace os liss. ¦ar. ¦ ccr'¦ eVer renenLer
ncVir_ ir ícr ¦he liss. ¦¦ vas ¦os¦ ¦ile.Lccn¦ `co lrcv? Ch
n, _csh¦ Lencrs¦'
¦c, i¦ vas ,co ¬ ,co ver¦ cVer ¦c her hcose. ¯he LiL¦e sa,s
ror.
Le¦'s sa, ¦ha¦ ir a ¦a¦se cí _ccc ¦oc_ner¦ ,co cecicec ¦c
Visi¦ ¦he hcose cí scnecre cí ¦he c¦¦csi¦e sex ¦c vhcn ,co
vere a¦¦rac¦ec. Le¦'s sa, ¦ha¦ ,co ver¦ o¦ ¦c ¦heir Lecrccn
¦c ¦ccl a¦ a si_rec ¦cs¦er cí ¦heir sna¦¦ _rco¦ ¦eacer. Le¦'s
sa, ,co ercec o¦ c¦erir_ a LiL¦e arc sharir_ scri¦¦ores
vi¦h cre arc¦her. Thè Piblè says run! /Lco¦ ¦he
¦ine vher ,co Lc¦h ¦ear ir ¦c ¦ccl c¦cse¦, a¦ ¦a¦achi o.o ,co
shco¦c sa, ¨¯his is Lac. Cc¦¦a _c¦' ¦or ccesr'¦ near ¨¬e,
_ir¦, ¦'¦¦ ca¦¦ ,a ¦a¦er,' ¦her s¦i¦ co¦ ¦he cccr. ¦or nears ror¦

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,co. La,ir_ cr ¦he La¦¦¦e íe¦c reac, ¦c _iVe o¦, ,co ¦hirl ¦c
,corse¦í, ¨¦ car'¦ _c cr. ¦ car reVer Le ¦ore. ¦ ccr'¦ ¦hirl ¦'n
_cir_ ¦c ccne ¦c chorch ar,ncre.' ¦¦ is a¦ ¦ha¦ ncner¦ vher
,co reec a írierc vhc reíoses ¦c ¦eaVe ,co ir ceíea¦ arc is
vi¦¦ir_ ¦c carr, ,co cr ¦heir Lacl ¦c saíe¦,, scnecre vhc
is ccnni¦¦ec ¦c he¦¦ir_ ,co receiVe Ccc's ícr_iVeress arc
ex¦erierce res¦cra¦icr, scnecre vhc Le¦ieVes ¦ha¦ ,co car
¦iVe ¦ore.
¨¦¦ee ,co¦hío¦ ¦os¦s Lo¦ ¦orsoe.vi¦h ¦hcse vhc ca¦¦
cr ¦he Lcrc co¦ cí a ¦ore hear¦.' `co'Ve _c¦ ¦c cc ¦his.
You'vè got to nno a pèèr who sharès
your passion íor purity. `co haVe ¦c es¦aL¦ish
a re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h a ¦as¦cr cr ner¦cr vhc is ccnni¦¦ec ¦c
¦eacir_ ,co arc irVes¦ir_ ir ,co. ¦irc scnecre vhc vi¦¦
cha¦¦er_e ,co vher ,co're ¦a__ir_ Lehirc as ¦he ¦rcc¦s are
ncVir_ cr.
¦ haVe ¦orsoec ¦he ¦or¦cses cí Ccc ícr n, ¦iíe
vi¦h n, ccosir arc Les¦ írierc, ¦ris¦ Vi¦ce.
¦r ¬i_h ¯chcc¦ ncs¦ cí cor creans cer¦erec
arcorc Lasle¦La¦¦ arc vhc cco¦c sccre ¦he ncs¦
¦cir¦s. Lo¦ crce arc a vhi¦e ve creanec aLco¦
¦reachir_ arc ¦as¦crir_. ¦r Lc¦h cases ve vere
_cir_ aí¦er scne¦hir_ ¦c_e¦her, ¦oshir_ each c¦her ¦c
Leccne Le¦¦er. ¦ lrcv ir nar, va,s n, íriercshi¦ vi¦h hin
has le¦¦ ne írcn ccir_ ar,¦hir_ s¦o¦ic. ¦ rea¦izec ¦ vco¦cr'¦
var¦ ¦c íace hin arc acni¦ vha¦ ¦ hac ccre. Vhc are ,co
rorrir_ vi¦h?
PARTHERS IH PURSUIT
¯his Verse _ces cr ¦c sa, ¨.íee, Lo¦ ¦orsoe... vi¦h.' ¯here
are rc ¦anLcs ir ¦he chorch cí Jesos Chris¦. / cecisicr ¦c
seel Ccc arc ¦orsoe ¦ori¦, cr ,cor cvr vi¦¦ se¦ ,co o¦
ícr íai¦ore. ¯he LiL¦e irs¦roc¦s ,co ¦c ¨íee ¦he eVi¦ cesires
cí ,co¦h Lo¦ ¦orsoe.vi¦h ¦hcse vhc ca¦¦ cr ¦he Lcrc co¦ cí
a ¦ore hear¦.' `co var¦ ¦c Le ¦ore? ¯¦erc ¦ine vi¦h ¦ore
¦ec¦¦e. `co var¦ ,cor _ccc ncra¦s ccrro¦¦ec? ¬ar_ co¦
vi¦h inncra¦ ¦ec¦¦e. Vhc are ,cor íriercs? ¯here's a reascr
ve haVe sna¦¦ _rco¦s ir Cerera¦icr Chorch. Crco¦s cí ,cor_
¦ec¦¦e nee¦ ¦hrco_hco¦ cor re_icr vi¦h ¦he ¦or¦cse cí
erccora_ir_ cre arc¦her ir ¦heir ¦orsoi¦. `co reec ¦c ror
a¦cr_sice scnecre vhc is rorrir_ ir ¦he sane cirec¦icr ,co
are.
Ve are rc¦ ir a var ¦ha¦ vi¦¦ Le vcr vi¦h _reraces, ¦arls,
cr roc¦ear vea¦crs ¬ ve are ir a noch ncre ciaLc¦ica¦
var. Ve are ir a ncra¦ var. ¦c¦ cre cí os car sa, ¦ha¦ ve
haVe reVer Leer aííec¦ec L, ¦he var. Ve haVe a¦¦ ercorec
scra¦es, Lon¦s, arc Lroises. Ve haVe a¦¦ íai¦ec ir cre area cr
arc¦her. ¯here na, ccne a ca,, rc¦ ¦cr_ írcn rcv, ¦ha¦ ,co
¦a, vcorcec cr ¦he La¦¦¦e íe¦c cí ¦his ncra¦ var ir reec cí a
írierc ¦c ¦icl ,co o¦. `co reec ncre ¦har ¦os¦ a ¦as¦cr vhc
¦a¦ls ¦c ,co írcn a ¦o¦¦i¦ crce a veel. `co reec scneLcc,
ir ,cor ¦iíe vhc lrcvs ,cor írs¦, nicc¦e, arc ¦as¦ rane, vhc
lrcvs vha¦ ,co ¦ile arc ccr'¦ ¦ile, arc vhc sees ,co vher
,co're ccvr arc vher ,co're o¦. ¯here na, Le a ncner¦ ir
¦his ncra¦ var vher ,co ex¦erierce a Lo¦¦e¦ vcorc cr, care
¦ sa,, eVer a ncr¦a¦ vcorc ¦ha¦ has ¦he ¦c¦er¦ia¦ ¦c ces¦rc,
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/n ¦ ¦he cr¦, cre vhc is irso¦¦ec L, ¦he ¦reíi_h¦ rco¦ire
cr ar air¦¦are? `co lrcv ¦he cri¦¦. ¯he íi_h¦ a¦¦ercar¦ _e¦s
cr ¦he ¦/ arc arrcorces, ¨/¦ ¦his ¦ine ve vco¦c ¦ile ¦c asl
,co ¦c _iVe os ,cor ío¦¦ a¦¦er¦icr. ¦í ,co're reacir_ a Lccl
cr a revs¦a¦er ¦¦ease ¦o¦ i¦ ccvr ícr a ncner¦ arc ¦is¦er
c¦cse¦, as ve _oice ,co ¦hrco_h ¦he ener_erc, ¦rccecores
ícr ¦his íi_h¦.' ¬aVe ,co eVer rea¦¦, va¦chec as ¦he íi_h¦
a¦¦ercar¦ shcvs ,co hcv ¦c ose ¦he ¦¦are's saíe¦, ceVices?
¦a,Le ,co haVe eVer _cre cre s¦e¦ íor¦her arc ¦iclec o¦
¦he saíe¦, irícrna¦icr carc. ¦ rea¦ize ¦ha¦ i¦'s recessar, ícr
¦he air¦ire ¦c ¦rcVice ¦he carc Lo¦ i¦ a¦¦ seens recorcar¦. ¦
haVe ac¦oa¦¦, Leer cr ¦¦are rices vhere ¦ec¦¦e raisec ¦heir
harcs arc aslec coes¦icrs, ¦c vhich ¦he íi_h¦ a¦¦ercar¦
res¦crcec, ¨`es? ¦ see ¦ha¦ harc.' ¦ acni¦ ¦ha¦ ¦ ccr'¦ ¦a,
a¦¦er¦icr ¦c ¦he saíe¦, cencrs¦ra¦icr cr reac ¦he carc. Ca¦¦ i¦
¦rice, Lcreccn, cr cisir¦eres¦.
Vhi¦e í,ir_ vi¦h n, ccosir, Jer,, he ac¦oa¦¦, ¦ccl ¦he iríc
carc co¦ cí ¦he sea¦ ¦ccle¦ arc s¦ar¦ec reacir_ i¦. Vher he
cic ¦his ¦ vas ¦hirlir_, ¨Jer,, are ,co liccir_ ne? ¦o¦ ¦ha¦
ava,. ¦ec¦¦e are _crra ¦hirl ,co're a rev í,er¦' Crce ve
s¦ar¦ec ¦cclir_ a¦ i¦ ¦hco_h, ve cco¦cr'¦ ¦o¦ i¦ ccvr. ¦¦ is
hi¦aricos¦ ¯he _ra¦hics cr ¦he carc are s¦a¦e cí ¦he ar¦. ¯here
is a ¦ic¦ore cí ar air¦¦are íca¦ir_ ir ¦he nicc¦e cí ¦he ¦aciíc
Ccear vi¦h ¦ec¦¦e ca¦n¦, ¦on¦ir_ co¦ cí ¦he ener_erc,
exi¦s cr¦c a ho_e ,e¦¦cv s¦ice. ¦¦ a¦ncs¦ ¦ccls ¦ile Lisre,¦arc.
¯he s¦ice ¦orrec ir¦c a raí¦ arc ¦he ¦asser_ers seen sc
¦¦easec ¦c Le s¦rarcec ir ¦he nicc¦e cí rcvhere vi¦h rc¦hir_
ncre ¦har ¦heir _ir_er a¦e arc ¦iíe ¦acle¦.
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¯he rei_hLcrhccc ¦ _rev o¦ ir vas rc¦ ¦he rices¦ cre ir ¦he
ci¦,. Cr n, s¦ree¦, a hcose vas ccrsicerec o¦sca¦e ií ¦he
Lars cr ¦he virccvs vere ¦air¦ec ¦he sane cc¦cr as ¦he
¦rin. ¦ haVe ¦c acni¦ ¦ha¦ n, hcose hac ¦he rices¦ Lars cr ¦he
vhc¦e L¦ccl. ¯he Li__es¦, ¦co_hes¦ _ar_ ir n, rei_hLcrhccc
vas ca¦¦ec ¨Jchrr,'s Car_.' ¦a¦he¦ic, ¦ lrcv. ¯he, vere a
sla¦eLcarc _ar_.
Cre aí¦errccr scne cí ¦he nenLers cí Jchrr,'s Car_ vere
sla¦ir_ ccvr n, s¦ree¦ ir ¦he cirec¦icr cí n, hcne. /s a
LraVe, s¦rcr_, ¹¹ ,ear c¦c, ¦ vas s¦arcir_ co¦sice cí ¦he hcose
arc cecicec ¦ha¦ ¦ vas _cir_ ¦c ca¦¦ ¦he _o,s ¦he vcrs¦ rane
¦ cco¦c ¦hirl cí. ¦csers¦ l likèo to stir things up
as a kio. /s ¦ ¦eríec¦ec n, ¦¦ar, ¦ ceVe¦c¦ec ar esca¦e
s¦ra¦e_, ir n, nirc. ¦¦ is anazir_ vha¦ ,co vi¦¦ cc ií ,co
lrcv ,cor va, cí esca¦e. /s ¦he sla¦eLcarcers cane rearer,
¦ rehearsec n, ¦¦ar. ¦ vco¦c shco¦ co¦ ¦he irso¦¦, ror ccvr
Vhi¦e ¦asser_ers are so¦¦csec¦, ¦cclir_, ¦he írierc¦, íi_h¦
a¦¦ercar¦ ¦csi¦icrs ¦hense¦Ves ir ¦he írcr¦ cí ¦he ¦¦are
arc cencrs¦ra¦es ¦he ccrrec¦ va, ¦c Locl¦e ¦he sea¦Le¦¦.
¨¦cv ¦c Locl¦e ,cor sea¦Le¦¦,' she Le_irs, ¨¦¦ease irser¦ ¦he
ne¦a¦ ¦iece ir¦c ¦he ne¦a¦ harc¦e.' Cccc ¦hir_ ¦he, c¦earec
¦ha¦ o¦ Lecaose ncs¦ cí os vere ¦os¦ ¦¦arrir_ cr ¦,ir_ i¦
acrcss cor vais¦. ¯he a¦¦ercar¦ ccr¦iroes, ¨¦cv ¦c re¦ease
¦he Locl¦e ¦ií¦ o¦ cr ¦he ne¦a¦ ¦aL.' /_air, _ccc ¦hir_ ¦he,
ex¦¦airec ¦his Lecaose ve vere _cir_ ¦c Li¦e i¦ ir ar a¦¦en¦¦
¦c ¦ear i¦ cíí vi¦h cor ¦ee¦h. ¦c¦ls, ií ,co'Ve Leer ir a car sirce
¹9co ,co car _e¦ co¦ cí a sea¦Le¦¦ ir ar air¦¦are. ¬as i¦ eVer
cavrec cr ,co vhi¦e ¦he ¦¦are is ir ¦he air ¦ha¦ ií scne¦hir_
vere ¦c _c vrcr_ ,co ac¦oa¦¦, vco¦cr'¦ lrcv vha¦ ¦c cc?
¯cne¦ines ¦ si¦ ir exi¦ rcvs arc ¦he íi_h¦ a¦¦ercar¦ vi¦¦ asl
ne ií ¦ an vi¦¦ir_ arc aL¦e ¦c ¦erícrn ¦he íorc¦icrs co¦¦irec
cr ¦he saíe¦, carc. Vher ,co í, i¦'s co¦¦ore rc¦ ¦c va¦ch ¦he
cencrs¦ra¦icr cr reac ¦he ¦an¦h¦e¦, Lo¦ ¦he ¦hco_h¦ cí rc¦
haVir_ ar esca¦e ¦¦ar is orrerVir_.
! Judah with the
skateboard his dad
custom-made for him
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`co nos¦ recc_rize ¦ha¦, rc na¦¦er vha¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr ,co
íace, ,co are rc¦ a¦cre. ¦c¦ cre cí os is exen¦¦ írcn Leir_
¦en¦¦ec. LVer Jesos, cor Lcrc arc ¯aVicr, vas ¦en¦¦ec ir
eVer, ¦cir¦, as ve are ¦en¦¦ec. `co ccr'¦ haVe ¦icerse ¦c
ceíerc ,cor LehaVicr vi¦h ¦he excose ¦ha¦ rc cre e¦se has
Leer ir ,cor si¦oa¦icr cr ex¦eriercec ,cor ¦en¦¦a¦icr. /¦
scne ¦cir¦ ve haVe a¦¦ ccne o¦ vi¦h Varicos ¦os¦iíca¦icrs
ícr cor iraLi¦i¦, ¦c írc ¦he exi¦ ir a ¦en¦¦ir_ circons¦arce,
Lo¦ ¦here is a¦va,s a va, cí esca¦e. ¯his shco¦c _iVe ,co
ccrícerce vher ciscossir_ ¦en¦¦a¦icr. Ccc assores ,co
¦ha¦, ccne he¦¦ cr hi_h va¦er, rc na¦¦er ¦he seVeri¦, cí
,cor circons¦arce, si¦oa¦icr, ¦en¦¦a¦icr, a¦¦orener¦, cr
secoc¦icr, ¬e vi¦¦ ¦rcVice ar exi¦ si_r. ¯here vi¦¦ a¦va,s Le ar
c¦¦cr¦ori¦, ¦c sa, ¨rc', ¦c resis¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr, ¦c ror¦ ¦í ¦ car
_iVe ,co ¦he ¦cc¦s ,co reec ¦c cVerccne ¦en¦¦a¦icr ,co car
ex¦erierce soccess ir ,cor ¦orsoi¦ cí Ccc arc hc¦iress cr a
cai¦, Lasis.
THE HATURE OP TEMPTATIOH
¦¦ is in¦cr¦ar¦ ícr ,co ¦c orcers¦arc ¦ha¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr
i¦se¦í is rc¦ sir. ¯en¦¦a¦icr is ar c¦¦cr¦ori¦, ¦c sir ¦ha¦ is
¦reser¦ec L, ¦he ceVi¦. CiVir_ ir ¦c ¦en¦¦a¦icr vi¦¦ ¦eac
¦c ces¦roc¦icr Lo¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr is rc¦ sir or¦i¦ i¦ na¦es vi¦h
,cor cesire. Janes ex¦¦airs ¦ha¦ nar is ¦en¦¦ec vher he
¦he a¦¦e, rex¦ ¦c n, hcose, arc ¦ea¦ cVer ar ei_h¦ ícc¦ íerce
a¦ ¦he ec_e cí ¦he ¦rc¦er¦,. /s ¦he, a¦¦rcachec, ¦ vai¦ec
ícr ¦he ¦eríec¦ ncner¦ arc ,e¦¦ec ¨¦csers¦' ¦ haVe ¦c ex¦¦air
¦ha¦ ¦ vas a slirr, lic vi¦h L¦each L¦crce hair. `co haVe
reVer seer a scravr, ¦i¦¦¦e vhi¦e coce ror sc ías¦¦ ¦ ¦aorchec
cVer ¦he íerce arc ¦arcec ri_h¦ cr n, íace Lo¦ ¦ hac ccre i¦¦
¦ hac ca¦¦ec Jchrr,'s _o,s ¦csers¦ ¦cr ¦he rex¦ ¦vc veels ¦
Lra__ec ¦c a¦¦ ¦he lics ir ¦he rei_hLcrhccc aLco¦ vha¦ ¦ hac
ccre.
ALWAYS A WAY OP ESCAPE
`co vi¦¦ cc craz, ¦hir_s vher ,co lrcv ¦here is a va, cí
esca¦e. ¯he LiL¦e sa,s ¦ha¦ ¦here is a va, cí esca¦e ícr
eVer, ¦en¦¦a¦icr ,co vi¦¦ íace as a Chris¦iar. J CORINTHIANS
J0:J3 ¦rcnises ¦ha¦ ¨rc ¦en¦¦a¦icr has cVer¦aler ,co exce¦¦
soch as is ccnncr ¦c nar, Lo¦ Ccc is íai¦hío¦, Vhc vi¦¦ rc¦
a¦¦cv ,co ¦c Le ¦en¦¦ec Le,crc vha¦ ,co are aL¦e, Lo¦
vi¦h ¦he ¦en¦¦a¦icr vi¦¦ a¦sc nale ¦he va, cí esca¦e, ¦ha¦
,co na, Le aL¦e ¦c Lear i¦.' Your ability to rèsist
tèmptation is oèpènoènt on Goo's
íaithíulnèss in provioing an èscapè
routè. ¦e¦er assores os ¦ha¦ ¨¦he Lcrc lrcvs hcv ¦c
ce¦iVer ¦he _cc¦, co¦ cí ¦en¦¦a¦icrs' (2 PETER 2:9). Vher Ccc
sa,s ¬e vi¦¦ _iVe ,co ar exi¦, ¬e vi¦¦ _iVe ,co ar exi¦.

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is cravr ava, L, his cvr cesires arc ¨cesire ccrceiVec
_iVes Lir¦h ¦c sir' (JAMES J:J3-J5). ¯he eren, ¦re,s o¦cr ,cor
cesires arc ¦reser¦s ,co vi¦h ¦en¦¦ir_ c¦¦cr¦ori¦ies. ¬e
carrc¦ reac ,cor nirc Lo¦ he car nale asson¦¦icrs aLco¦
,cor vealresses Lasec cr ,cor ¦iíes¦,¦e. ¬e oses ¦hese
cLserVa¦icrs ¦c crea¦e secoc¦iVe ¦¦c,s ¦ha¦ ca¦i¦a¦ize cr ¦he
cesires cencrs¦ra¦ec ir ¦he va, ,co ccrcoc¦ ,corse¦í. Vher
,co are a¦¦rac¦ec ¦c vha¦ he's se¦¦ir_ arc _iVe ir¦c sir, he
_airs a ícc¦hc¦c ir ,cor ¦iíe.
Jesos saic ¦ha¦ ¯a¦ar hac rc¦hir_ ir ¬in, nearir_ ¦ha¦ ¦here
vas rc¦hir_ ¯a¦ar cco¦c cííer ¦ha¦ ¬e
var¦ec (JOHN J4:30). Ccc var¦s ,co ¦c
_e¦ ¦c ¦he sane ¦¦ace. ¦í ,co ccr'¦ cesire
¦ha¦ vi¦h vhich ,co are Leir_ ¦en¦¦ec,
¦her sir has rc ¦cver cVer ,co. ¦ vi¦¦
reVer ícr_e¦ ¦he ri_h¦ n, ,co¦h ¦as¦cr,
¦as¦cr Joce ¦cocoier, ccríessec ¦c os
his secre¦ cLsessicr. ¬e acni¦¦ec ¦ha¦
he vai¦ec or¦i¦ his vhc¦e íani¦, ver¦ ¦c
Lec ¦c s¦ar¦ ¦cclir_ ícr i¦, sne¦¦ir_ i¦ co¦, searchir_ ¦he hcose
ícr.sne¦¦, ¦cc¦, cia¦ers?¦? ¨Vha¦?' cor er¦ire ,co¦h _rco¦
shco¦ec Lacl a¦ hin as he ¦o¦¦ec a ¦cc¦, cia¦er írcn Lehirc
¦he ¦o¦¦i¦. ¬e ¦her Le_ar ea¦ir_ i¦¦ Ve vere shcclec¦ Vh,
vas ¦his sc harc ¦c Le¦ieVe? ¦cLcc, is ¦en¦¦ec ¦c ea¦ ¦cc¦,
cia¦ers Lecaose rcLcc, has a cesire ícr ¦hen. ¦ vas re¦ieVec
¦c ¦a¦er írc co¦ ¦ha¦ he vas cr¦, ea¦ir_ crorch, ¦earo¦
Lo¦¦er, Lo¦ ¦he ¦esscr s¦a,ec vi¦h ne. `co vcr'¦ Le ¦en¦¦ec
¦c ccrsone ¦hir_s ,co ccr'¦ cesire.
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Jcse¦h sharec his creans vi¦h íriercs
arc íani¦, nenLers vhc eVer¦oa¦¦,
_c¦ ¦irec cí hearir_ aLco¦ his ío¦ore
¦¦ars ¦c ro¦e cVer ¦hen. Lc ,co haVe ar
arrc,ir_ ¦i¦¦¦e Lrc¦her cr sis¦er? Jcse¦h
orir¦er¦icra¦¦, Lecane cre, arc as a
reso¦¦ his Lrc¦hers ceVisec a ¦¦ar ¦c _e¦
ric cí hin ¬ ¦he, vere sle¦¦ica¦ cí ¦he
ces¦ir, he c¦ainec arc ¦ea¦cos cí ¦he
íac¦ ¦ha¦ he vas ¦heir ía¦her's íaVcri¦e
scr. ¯he, sc¦c Jcse¦h ir¦c s¦aVer, ¦c
¦he ¦shnae¦i¦es, vhc aoc¦icrec hin cíí
¦c ¦c¦i¦har, cre cí ¦he hi_hes¦ rarlir_
serVar¦s ¦c ¦he ¦harach cí L_,¦¦.
Jcse¦h ercec o¦ vcrlir_ ir ¦c¦i¦har's
hcose arc ¦rcLaL¦, ccoL¦ec ¦ha¦ his
acc¦escer¦ creans vco¦c eVer ccne ¦c
¦ass.
A TEMPTIHG OPPER
Cor s¦cr, ¦icls o¦ ir GENESIS 39, vhere
i¦ cicr'¦ ¦ale ¦cr_ ícr ¦c¦i¦har ¦c rea¦ize
¦ha¦ Jcse¦h vas ciííerer¦ írcn his c¦her
en¦¦c,ees. ¬e vas oricoe, he cicr'¦
í¦ ir. ¦r íac¦, Jcse¦h vas soccessío¦ a¦
eVer,¦hir_ he cic. ¦c¦i¦har ¦o¦ Jcse¦h
ir char_e cí his er¦ire hcosehc¦c.
¦í ¦ car ¦each ,co ¦c írc ¦he va, cí
esca¦e ir ¦ines cí ¦en¦¦a¦icr ¦her
¯a¦ar carrc¦ iríoerce ,co. /¦ ¦his
¦cir¦, ¦he eren, na, haVe a ¦a¦er¦ec
ncVe ¦ha¦ a¦va,s vcrls cr ,co, ¦he
sane ¦¦c, he oses ¦c Lrir_ ,co ¦c a
¦¦ace vhere ,cor cesire _iVes Lir¦h ¦c
sir ¦ine arc ¦ine a_air. Lr¦i¦ ,co ¦earr
¦c recc_rize ¦he esca¦e rco¦e, ,co
vi¦¦ Le cao_h¦ ir a c,c¦e cí re¦er¦ir_,
aslir_ ícr ícr_iVeress, arc Lo,ir_ ir¦c
vha¦ ¦he ceVi¦ is se¦¦ir_. Le¦'s ex¦¦cre
vha¦ ¦he LiL¦e ¦eaches aLco¦ ¦he va,
cí esca¦e ¦hrco_h ¦he ¦iíe cí Jcse¦h.
JOSEPH¹S STORY
Jcse¦h vas cre cí ¦he ¦ve¦Ve scrs
cí JaccL vri¦¦er aLco¦ ir ¦he Lccl
cí Ceresis. Jcse¦h ícorc hinse¦í ir
a si¦oa¦icr ¦ha¦ seenec hc¦e¦ess Lo¦
nace a cecisicr ¦c ror írcn ¦en¦¦a¦icr
¬ a cecisicr ¦ha¦ o¦¦ina¦e¦, ce¦ernirec
his ces¦ir, arc char_ec ¦he ccorse cí
ar er¦ire ra¦icr.
Jcse¦h vas a creaner. /s a ,cor_ nar
he hac ¦vc creans ir vhich ¦ec¦¦e
arc ¦hir_s vere Lcvir_ ccvr ¦c hin.

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/¦¦arer¦¦, Jcse¦h vas a ¦re¦¦, _ccc ¦cclir_ _o,, Lecaose
¦he LiL¦e ¦e¦¦s os ¦ha¦ ¦his vcnar cas¦ ¦cr_ir_ e,es a¦ hin.
¦c¦i¦har's viíe a¦¦rcachec Jcse¦h arc saic ¨¦ie vi¦h ne.'
¯he var¦ec ¦c haVe sex vi¦h hin. ¯his a¦¦rcach is rc¦ or¦ile
vha¦ ve ex¦erierce ir ¦cca,'s a__ressiVe co¦¦ore. ¬aVe ,co
eVer hearc ¦he c¦c scr_, ¨¦ varra hc¦c ,cor harc, ¦ varra
hc¦c ,cor harc?' ¦cLcc, var¦s ¦c hc¦c ,cor harc ar,ncre.
Vè livè in a oiííèrènt agè whèrè pèoplè
want to takè your innocèncè; thèy want
to takè your virginity. ¦rs¦eac cí ¨¦ varra hc¦c
,cor harc' ar¦is¦s are sir_ir_ ¨,co arc ne LaL, air'¦ rc¦hir_
Lo¦ nanna¦s, ¦e¦'s cc i¦ ¦ile ¦he, cc cr ¦he LisccVer,
Charre¦.'
¯he _ir¦ vhc ¦rc¦csi¦icrec ne ir ¬i_h ¯chcc¦ sore cicr'¦
haVe ir¦er¦icrs cí hc¦cir_ n, harc. ¦ vas irrccer¦¦, si¦¦ir_
ir ¦a¦h c¦ass vher she cane o¦ ¦c ne arc saic, ¨¦, írierc
is haVir_ a ¦ar¦, a¦ her hcose ¦cri_h¦. ¯he var¦ec ne ¦c
¦e¦¦ ,co she vco¦c haVe sex vi¦h ,co, ií ,co ccne.' ¦ vas
shcclec¦ /¦ ¦ha¦ ¦cir¦ ¦ vas ¦os¦ a rcrna¦ ¬i_h ¯chcc¦
s¦ocer¦, s¦ro__¦ir_ vi¦h na¦h. ¦ vasr'¦ ¦he ,co¦h ¦as¦cr
cí Cerera¦icr Chorch. ¦ vasr'¦ ¦raVe¦ir_ arcorc ¦he vcr¦c
¦reachir_ ¦c ¦hcosarcs cí s¦ocer¦s. ¦ vasr'¦ ¦he ao¦hcr cí a
¦ori¦, Lccl. `e¦ a¦¦ ¦ha¦ cco¦c haVe Leer ccn¦rcnisec ir cre
ncner¦ cí sir. Vha¦ vco¦c haVe ha¦¦erec ¦c Jcse¦h ií he
_aVe ir?
¦c¦i¦har's viíe cenarcec ¦ha¦ Jcse¦h haVe sex vi¦h her
Lo¦ Jcse¦h reíosec. ¬e orcers¦ccc ¦ha¦ ¦c cc sc vco¦c Le
¦c ¦ale acVar¦a_e cí his ¦csi¦icr cí ao¦hcri¦,, Le¦ra, his
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¯his vcnar vai¦ec or¦i¦ Jcse¦h vas L, hinse¦í arc ¦ccl her
¦rc¦csi¦icr ¦c ¦he rex¦ ¦eVe¦. ¯he _raLLec his c¦c¦hir_. ¦r
¦ha¦ seccrc, Jcse¦h hac ¦c nale a ¦iíea¦¦erir_ cecisicr rc¦
lrcvir_ ¦ha¦ ir ¦hree shcr¦ ,ears he vco¦c Le ¦he seccrc
ncs¦ ¦cverío¦ nar ir ¦he vcr¦c.
¯cne cí ,co ¦hirl ¨¦'n ¦os¦ a Cc¦¦e_e s¦ocer¦, vha¦'s ¦he Li_
cea¦? ¦'n a sc¦hcncre ir ¬i_h ¯chcc¦ sc ¦he ¦hir_s ¦ cc rcv
ccr'¦ rea¦¦, na¦¦er ir ¦he ¦cr_ ror. ¦ car s¦i¦¦ _e¦ i¦ ¦c_e¦her.'
¦r rea¦i¦,, ,co na, Le ¦hree ,ears ava, írcn er¦erir_ ir¦c ¦he
¦¦ace cí ao¦hcri¦, Ccc has ¦re¦arec ¦os¦ ícr ,co. `co na, Le
¦hree ncr¦hs ava, írcn a ceírir_ ncner¦ ¦ha¦ ¦rc¦e¦s ,co
ir¦c ¬is _rarc ¦¦ars.
Jcse¦h cco¦c haVe easi¦, coes¦icrec ¦he ¦or¦cse cí resis¦ir_.
¬e cco¦c haVe ¦hco_h¦ ¦c hinse¦í, ¨¦í ¦ sa, rc ¦c ¦his vcnar
vhc's _raLLir_ n, _arner¦, i¦'s _cir_ ¦c ccs¦ ne ¦he ¦cL
¦ha¦ Ccc has _iVer ne. Ccc has _iVer ne íaVcr vi¦h n,
en¦¦c,er. ¦ car'¦ ¦os¦ ¦hrcv i¦ a¦¦ ava,.' ¦í scnecre vas eVer
¦os¦iíec ir chccsir_ rc¦ ¦c ¦ale ¦he va, cí esca¦e, i¦ vco¦c
haVe Leer Jcse¦h. Vher íacec vi¦h ¦his circons¦arce,
he chcse rc¦ ¦c _iVe ir ¦c ¦en¦¦a¦icr. ¦c¦i¦har's viíe s¦i¦¦
c¦ir_ir_ ¦c his shir¦, he ¦eí¦ his _arner¦ Lehirc arc rar írcn
¦he Loi¦cir_.
`co na, Le ¦hirlir_, ¨Jocah, ,co near ¦c ¦e¦¦ ne ¦ha¦ ií ¦'n a¦
a ¦ar¦, cr ¦rica, ri_h¦, ¦ra¦¦ec L, ¦vc _ccc ¦cclir_ vcner
vhc are _raLLir_ a¦ n, shir¦, ¦'n so¦¦csec ¦c vi__¦e n, va,
co¦ cí ¦ha¦? C'ncr.' ¯ha¦'s exac¦¦, vha¦ ¦'n ¦e¦¦ir_ ,co. ¯cne
cí ,co Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ¦he va, cí esca¦e is ¦os¦ _cir_ ¦c shcv o¦
en¦¦c,er, arc ícríei¦ ¦he íaVcr he hac receiVec írcn Ccc.
Jcse¦h a¦sc íearec ¦he Lcrc, vhich near¦ he recc_rizec ¦ha¦
Ccc vas va¦chir_ eVer,¦hir_ he cic. ¦í ¦ hor_ co¦ vi¦h ,co
eVer,ca, ícr ¦he rex¦ ¦vc veels ,co vco¦c orccoL¦ec¦,
ex¦erierce ¦he ¦ores¦ ¦vc veels cí ,cor ¦iíe. ¯occer¦,,
,co vco¦c haVe a cesire írs¦ ¦hir_ cr ¯a¦orca, ncrrir_ ¦c
reac ,cor LiL¦e irs¦eac cí ¦¦a,ir_ XLcx. Vh,? ¦¦'s ca¦¦ec
¦he íear cí nar. ¯he íear cí Ccc is eVer _rea¦er. ¦¦ is a
ccrs¦ar¦ avareress cí ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ Ccc is a¦va,s va¦chir_.
¦enenLer ¦ha¦ rex¦ ¦ine ,co haVe ¦he c¦¦cr¦ori¦, ¦c
ccn¦rcnise.
¯he LiL¦e sa,s ¦ha¦ ¦c¦i¦har's viíe cicr'¦ _iVe o¦. ¯he
¦es¦erec Jcse¦h cai¦,. ¯he ceVi¦ c¦era¦es ir ¦he sane va,
ir ,cor ¦iíe. Thè closèr you gèt to íulnlling
your orèam, thè haroèr Satan will try to
ènticè you to sin. ¯his is Lecaose ¦he ío¦í¦¦ner¦ cí
,cor ces¦ir, vi¦¦ ¦eac ¦c ¦he eren,'s cenise.
THE GREAT ESCAPE
¯he ¦as¦ ¦ine ¦c¦i¦har's viíe a¦¦rcachec Jcse¦h he vas
a¦cre. PROVERBS J8:J sa,s ¦ha¦ ¨a nar vhc isc¦a¦es hinse¦í
seels his cvr cesire.' ¦ec¦¦e vhc are isc¦a¦ec are cí¦er
oraL¦e ¦c resis¦ ¦en¦¦a¦icr Lecaose sir is ¦ersis¦er¦ arc
vi¦¦ rc¦ ¦ale ¨rc' ícr ar arsver. ¦í ,co aVcic Leir_ a ¦ar¦
cí a sna¦¦ _rco¦, ¦he reascr na, Le ¦ha¦ ,co var¦ ¦c cc
,cor cvr ¦hir_, seelir_ ,cor cvr cesire vi¦hco¦ Leir_ he¦c
acccor¦aL¦e ícr ,cor cecisicrs. `co reec a ¨sna¦¦ _rco¦.'
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soccer¦, ir ¦he ícrn cí a _erie írcn a Lc¦¦¦e, reac, ¦c esccr¦
,co ¦c ¦he esca¦e exi¦. Oítèn timès thè way oí
èscapè prèsènts itsèlí in thè íorm oí thè
Holy Spirit instructing you to gèt out oí
a situation. ¦¦ na, seen ¦cc sin¦¦e, Lo¦ ,cor ccnncr
serse ccnes írcn Ccc. ¦í ,co are ¦hirlir_, ¨¬e's ¦alir_ his
c¦c¦hes cíí. ¦ shco¦c ¦eaVe rcv,' ¦ha¦ cco¦c Le ,cor exi¦.
MO0ERH 0AY GARMEHTS
¦ var¦ ¦c íccos cr ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦, ir ¦he ¦rccess cí íeeir_
¦en¦¦a¦icr, Jcse¦h ¦eí¦ his _arner¦ Lehirc. Vas ¦he _arner¦
i¦se¦í sir? ¦c, Lo¦ i¦ vas ccrrec¦ir_ hin ¦c sir. ¦s ¦e¦eVisicr
sir? ¦c. /re ncVies sir? ¦c. ¦s nosic sir? ¦c. ¦s ca¦ir_ sir?
¦c¦ ¯he LiL¦e ccesr'¦ sa, ¦ha¦ ar, cí ¦hcse ¦hir_s ¦hense¦Ves
are sir Lo¦ ¦here are ¦ines vher ,co car'¦ saVe Lc¦h a
_arner¦ arc ,cor creans. ¯cne¦ines ,co haVe ¦c _iVe o¦ a
_arner¦ ir crcer ¦c ¦reserVe ,cor ío¦ore. Lcr'¦ Le ceceiVec
ir¦c Le¦ieVir_ ¦ha¦ ,co car haVe i¦ a¦¦ arc char_e ¦he vcr¦c.
MATTHEW Jô:2ô ¦e¦¦s os ¦ha¦ a nar cces rc¦ ¦rcí¦ ií he _airs ¦he
vhc¦e vcr¦c Lo¦ ¦cses his cvr sco¦. ¯c ,co'Ve _c¦ ¦he c¦c¦hes,
,co'Ve _c¦ ¦he hcose, ,co'Ve _c¦ ¦he _ir¦s. Vha¦ ií ,co ¦cse
,cor sco¦? ¦s i¦ vcr¦h i¦? Vco¦c ,co ra¦her ccvr¦cac a scr_
írcn i¯ores cr ío¦í¦¦ ¦he ¦¦ar Ccc has ícr ,cor ¦iíe? ¦'n rc¦
sa,ir_ ¦ha¦ ¦hcse scr_s are sir Lo¦ ¦he, na, Le ¦he _arner¦
¦he eren, is osir_ ¦c ¦o¦¦ ,co ccvr. Lile ,co, Jcse¦h hac a
cecisicr ¦c nale. ¨¦ car ¦r, ¦c saVe ¦his _arner¦ arc ¦cse n,
creans. ¦ sa, ¦eaVe ¦he _arner¦ Lehirc. ¦'n co¦¦'
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íac¦ ¦ha¦ scne¦hir_ cee¦ vi¦hir ne var¦ec ¦c svi¦ch i¦ Lacl
cr¦ ¦ haVe Leer ir niris¦r, ícr rire ,ears. ¦ haVe a ¦icerse
¦ha¦ reacs ¨¦eVererc Jocah L¦vccc ¯ni¦h.' /í¦er ¦ve¦Ve
,ears cí a ccrsis¦er¦ ceVc¦icra¦ ¦iíe a ¦ar¦ cí ne var¦ec ¦c
va¦ch ¦ha¦ shcv. ¦ ¦rcLaL¦, cco¦c haVe ¦os¦iíec arc¦her ¦ccl
orcer ¦he ¦renise ¦ha¦ ¦ ¨reecec ¦c _e¦ a Lorcer ícr vha¦
,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e ¦hese ca,s rea¦¦, _c ¦hrco_h,' Lo¦ irs¦eac ¦
irs¦ar¦¦, crc¦¦ec ¦he renc¦e. Ve car a¦¦en¦¦ ¦c ccne o¦
vi¦h s¦iri¦oa¦ excoses ícr sir Lo¦ vha¦ ve reec ¦c cc is ¦e¦ _c
cí _arner¦s innecia¦e¦,. Vher ,co are ¦en¦¦ec ¦c sir, ¦ale
¦he va, cí esca¦e arc ccr'¦ _iVe ,corse¦í ¦he c¦¦cr¦ori¦, ¦c
_c Lacl¦
0IVIHE PROMOTIOH
/í¦er Jcse¦h resis¦ec ¦c¦i¦har's viíe, eVer,¦hir_ ir his ¦iíe
seenec ¦c _c írcn Lac ¦c vcrse. ¬e cLe,ec Ccc, reíosec
¦c _iVe ir ¦c ¦en¦¦a¦icr, arc ¦eí¦ a rice ¦acle¦ Lehirc cr¦,
¦c írc hinse¦í ir ¦he cee¦es¦ cor_ecr ir ¦he ¦a¦ace. L,
¦ha¦ ¦ine Jcse¦h vas ¦rcLaL¦, ccrVircec ¦ha¦ íc¦¦cvir_
GIVE UP THE GARMEHT
Las¦ ,ear n, viíe arc ¦ cecicec ¦c ¦orr cíí cor ¯` ícr a
seascr. Ve cic i¦ Lecaose ve vere vas¦ir_ ¦cc noch ¦ine.
¦'c Le ¦irec vher ¦ _c¦ hcne írcn vcrl arc ccrVirce n,se¦í
¦ha¦ vha¦ ¦ rea¦¦, reecec ¦c cc vas va¦ch L¯¦¦. ¦ er¦c,
va¦chir_ s¦cr¦s, Lo¦ ¦ ercec o¦ s¦ercir_ ¦cc noch ¦ine ir
írcr¦ cí ¦he ¦e¦eVisicr sc ¦ ¦eí¦ ¦he _arner¦ Lehirc. ¦¦'s rc¦
vcr¦h i¦ ¦c ne. /re ¦here _arner¦s ,co reec ¦c ¦e¦ _c?
¦, c¦ces¦ scr vas Lcrr ¦rena¦ore arc s¦er¦ ¦he írs¦ ¦vc
veels cí his ¦iíe ir ¦he hcs¦i¦a¦. Lorir_ ¦ha¦ ¦ine, n, viíe
arc ¦ s¦a,ec ir a hc¦e¦ rex¦ cccr. Ls¦ecia¦¦, ¦irec cre ri_h¦, ¦
Le_ar ¦c íi¦ ¦hrco_h ¦he charre¦s vhi¦e ¦ vai¦ec ícr Che¦sea
¦c ccne Lacl írcn ¦he hcs¦i¦a¦. /s ¦ searchec ícr scne¦hir_
¦c va¦ch ¦ cane acrcss ¦he ncVie charre¦ arc ercec o¦
seeir_ a ¦erriL¦e ina_e
¦ha¦ nace n, hear¦ race. ¦
innecia¦e¦, ¦orrec cíí ¦he
¯` Lo¦ vas hcrriíec L, ¦he
! Judah holding
Zion, born six
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or¦i¦ he vas ca¦¦ec cr L, ¦harach ¦c ir¦er¦re¦ a crean. ¦r
cre ces¦ir,ceírir_ aí¦errccr he vas shcverec, shaVer,
cecccrizec, arc roshec ir¦c ¦he ¦reserce cí L_,¦¦'s ro¦er,
vhere his Cccirs¦irec ir¦er¦re¦a¦icr cí ¦harach's ¦rcoL¦ir_
crean earrec hin ¦he ¦csi¦icr cí seccrc ir ccnnarc cVer
¦he er¦ire ra¦icr.
¦a¦¦ir_ ¦re, ¦c ¦en¦¦a¦icr ícr ncner¦ar, ¦¦easore is rc¦
vcr¦h ícríei¦ir_ ,cor ces¦ir,. Lile Jcse¦h, ,co na, Le
cr¦, a íev ,ears ava,. ¦eVer orceres¦ina¦e ¦he ¦cver arc
¦c¦er¦ia¦ cí ¦alir_ ¦he va, cí esca¦e ir eVer, ¦en¦¦a¦icr ,co
íace. Lach cre cí os vi¦¦ íace ¦en¦¦a¦icr Lo¦ eVer, ¦ine ,co
írc ¦he so¦erra¦ora¦ esca¦e rco¦e i¦ Leccnes easier ¦c resis¦
sir arc ,co ncVe c¦cser ¦c ¦he ciVire ¦rcnc¦icr ¦ha¦ Ccc has
ir s¦cre ícr ,co.
LEAVE IT BEHIH0
¨C¦hers saVe vi¦h íear, ¦o¦¦ir_ ¦hen co¦ cí ¦he íre, ha¦ir_
eVer ¦he _arner¦ ceí¦ec L, ¦he íesh.' (JUDE 23)
¦¦ is ¦ile¦, ¦ha¦ Ccc has Leer s¦ealir_ ¦c ,co aLco¦ a
_arner¦ ir ,cor ¦iíe ¦ha¦ is ¦o¦¦ir_ ,co ccvr vhi¦e ,co haVe
Leer reacir_ ¦his cha¦¦er. `cor _arner¦ cco¦c Le a ci_i¦a¦
nachire, a L`L, ¦he ¦e¦eVisicr, a re¦a¦icrshi¦, a na_azire
soLscri¦¦icr, a haLi¦, cr eVer a íccc. ¦í ,co lrcv ¦ha¦ ¦here is
a _arner¦ ir ,cor ¦iíe ¦ha¦ ¦he eren, oses ¦c secoce ,co ¦c
sir, ¦'n aslir_ ,co ¦c ¦a, i¦ ccvr. LeaVe ¦he hcLL, cr haLi¦.
LeaVe ¦he nachire¦ ¦¦'s sin¦¦e. LeaVe i¦ Lehirc.
his ccrVic¦icrs hacr'¦ ¦aic cíí. ¬aVe ,co eVer ¦aler ¦he
va, cí esca¦e Lo¦ circons¦arces _c¦ vcrse? ¯c ,co ¦c¦c
,cor íriercs ¨rc' arc rcv ,co're ¦he irVisiL¦e nar a¦ ,cor
íra¦erri¦,? Vha¦ ha¦¦ers vher ¦ec¦¦e nccl arc isc¦a¦e
,co? ¦ haVe Leer ¦c¦c L, ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e, ¨Jocah, ¦ ccr'¦ ¦hirl ¦
shco¦c haVe _c¦¦er va¦er La¦¦izec.'
¨Vh,?'
¨¯hir_s are hcrriL¦e rcv.'
¨Vha¦ cc ,co near?'
¨¦ _c ¦c ¦ar¦ies vi¦h n, íriercs arc ¦ ccr'¦ haVe a _ccc ¦ine.
¦¦'s rc¦ íor ar,ncre. ¦'n íros¦ra¦ec. ¦, íriercs are nac a¦ ne.
¦¦'s ¦erriL¦e¦'
¯his ha¦¦ers scne¦ines vher ,co cLe, Ccc. Ve osec ¦c
¦each ¦ec¦¦e ¦ha¦ ií ¦he, resis¦ec ¦en¦¦a¦icr Ccc vco¦c he¦¦
¦hen sccre ncre ¦cochccvrs a¦ ¦heir ícc¦La¦¦ _anes. ¯he
¦ro¦h is ¦ha¦ ,co na, _e¦ co¦ írcn ¦he ¦ean. ¯hirl aLco¦ i¦.
Jcse¦h vas ir ¦he cor_ecr vi¦h a co¦ Learer vhc vco¦cr'¦
s¦c¦ ¦a¦lir_ arc a cr,ir_ Laler. Jcse¦h hac rc icea ¦ha¦ he
vas Lerea¦h ¦he ¦a¦ace he vco¦c sccr ro¦e cVer. ¬e cicr'¦
rea¦ize ¦ha¦ his ex¦ericr cenc¦icr vas ac¦oa¦¦, s¦iri¦oa¦
¦rcnc¦icr. ¯he ca, Jcse¦h ¦eí¦ ¦c¦i¦har's hcose vas a
ca, cí ¦rcnc¦icr ícr hin. Thè way oí èscapè is
actually thè way oí promotion èvèn in
situations whèrè you may initially íèèl
oèmotèo. Jcse¦h sa¦ ir ¦he cor_ecr ícr ¦vc shcr¦ ,ears

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Lc ,co Le¦ieVe ir ar_e¦s? Lc ,co Le¦ieVe ir cencrs? ¯he
LiL¦e nales i¦ c¦ear ¦ha¦ ¦here is ar orseer vcr¦c ¬ a s¦iri¦oa¦
cinersicr. /¦¦hco_h ,co na, rc¦ haVe eVer seer cr íe¦¦ soch
a rea¦n, ¦his ícor¦h cinersicr is a _rea¦er rea¦i¦, ¦har ¦he
cre ir vhich ,co ¦iVe. ¯he s¦iri¦oa¦ cinersicr ¦rececec cor
¦reser¦ cinersicr arc s¦iri¦oa¦ ícrces crea¦ec cor vcr¦c.
EPHESIANS ô:J2 ex¦¦airs ¦ha¦ ¨ve cc rc¦ vres¦¦e a_airs¦ íesh
arc L¦ccc, Lo¦ a_airs¦ ¦rirci¦a¦i¦ies, a_airs¦ ¦cvers, a_airs¦
¦he ro¦ers cí ¦he carlress cí ¦his a_e, a_airs¦ s¦iri¦oa¦ hcs¦s
cí viclecress ir ¦he heaVer¦, ¦¦aces.' ¯here is a var _cir_
cr ir ¦he s¦iri¦oa¦ rea¦n ¬ a var cVer sco¦s. ¯here is a Ccc
arc ¦here is a ceVi¦ ¬ Lc¦h cí vhcn cesire ,cor ceVc¦icr.
¯he cha¦¦er_e is ¦ha¦ ,co car'¦ see ¦he var arc nar, ¦ec¦¦e
ccr'¦ Le¦ieVe ir vha¦ ¦he, carrc¦ see.
Cí¦er ¦ines ¦he ¦orsoi¦ cí ¦ori¦, car _e¦ sc ¦rac¦ica¦ ¦ha¦ i¦
¦acls s¦iri¦oa¦ orcers¦arcir_. Your ability to livè
purè oèpènos upon your bèlièí in thè
rèality that Goo is working íor you whilè
thè ènèmy is working against you. ¦ var¦
¦c ciscoss ¦he soL¦ec¦ cí ca¦ir_ írcn ¦his ¦ers¦ec¦iVe. La¦ir_
ccesr'¦ s¦ar¦ vher ,co _c co¦ cr ¦rica, ri_h¦ vi¦h Li¦¦,, LcL
cr ¯osie. La¦ir_ Le_irs ir ¦he hear¦.
/s a sericr ir hi_h schcc¦, ¦ vas ¦rcoc cí ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ ¦ hac
reVer ca¦ec. Cre aí¦errccr ¦ vas sor¦risec ¦c hear ¦he ¬c¦,
¯¦iri¦ ¦e¦¦ ne ¦ha¦ ¦ vas ca¦ir_ scnecre¦
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¨Lcrc,' ¦ res¦crcec, ¨¦'n rc¦ ca¦ir_ ar,Lcc,. `co lrcv ¦ha¦.
¦ lrcv ¦c¦s cí _ir¦s ¦hirl ¦'n a¦¦rac¦iVe, Lo¦ ¦'n rc¦ ca¦ir_
ar,Lcc,.'
¯he ¬c¦, ¯¦iri¦ saic a_air, ¨¦c, ,co're ca¦ir_ scneLcc,.'
¨Lcrc, ¦'n rc¦ ca¦ir_ ar,Lcc,.'
¨`co are.'
¨Lcrc, ¦his is roce. ¦ an rc¦ ca¦ir_ ar,Lcc,¦'
¨`co are.'
¨¯her vha¦'s her rane?'
¨Le¦i¦ah¦'
¨¬a¦ ¯ee? ¦ ccr'¦ eVer lrcv a _ir¦ ranec Le¦i¦ah. Vhc vco¦c
rane ¦heir cao_h¦er Le¦i¦ah?'
¯ha¦ Lrieí ccrVersa¦icr vas a¦¦ i¦ ¦ccl ícr ne ¦c rea¦ize vha¦
Ccc vas sa,ir_. ¦ hac reac ¦he acccor¦ cí ¯anscr arc
Le¦i¦ah's re¦a¦icrshi¦ ir Joc_es ¹c. ¦ hac eVer ¦reachec cr ¦he
soL¦ec¦. ¦cv ¦he ¬c¦, ¯¦iri¦ vas cea¦ir_ vi¦h ne.

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vhere ,co car sreal ir arc co¦ cí ,cor
sna¦¦ _rco¦. `co car eVer Leccne a
¦eacer vi¦h harcs ¦ha¦ a¦¦ear s¦c¦¦ess
Lo¦ a hear¦ ¦ha¦ is a cess¦cc¦. ¦¦ has
ccre ,co rc _ccc ií ,co haVe a¦¦easec
¦hcse arcorc ,co ex¦erra¦¦, vi¦h c¦ear
harcs Lo¦ cis¦¦easec Ccc ir¦erra¦¦,
vi¦h ar in¦ore hear¦ ccrci¦icr.
“The Lord does not look at the things
man looks at. Man looks at the outward
appearance, but the Lord looks at the
heart.” —J SAMUEL Jô:7 (NIV)
C¦ear harcs are Vi¦a¦ Lo¦ irccn¦¦e¦e.
Ccc cesires ¦he ¦ore hear¦ cí a ¦erscr
vhc vishes ¦c ¦¦ease ¬in arc is
cecica¦ec ¦c ¬is ¦or¦cses. Clèan
hanos arè a natural rèsult
oí a purè hèart. ¦¦ is ícr ¦his
reascr ¦ha¦ ca¦ir_ o¦¦ina¦e¦, s¦ar¦s ir
¦he hear¦.
0ATIHG BEGIHS IH THE HEART
/s ¦ a¦¦cvec Ccc ¦c search n, hear¦,
¬e Le_ar ¦c ¦each ne ¦ha¦ ca¦ir_
Le_irs ir ¦he hear¦ arc rc¦ cr ¦he ca,
,co asl scnecre co¦ ¦c cirrer. ¦ haVe
lrcvr ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e vhc are sc ¦rcoc
cí ¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he, ccr'¦ ca¦e. ¯he,
¦e¦¦ eVer,cre, ¨¦ ccr'¦ haVe a Lc,írierc.
¦c¦e. ¦'n hc¦,. ¯arc¦iíec. ¯e¦ a¦ar¦.'
Cr ¦he, sa,, ¨¦ haVer'¦ eVer hac sex
sirce ¦'Ve Leer saVec. ¦'n va¦lir_ ir
¦eríec¦ ¦ori¦,.' ¯hese ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e
va¦l arcorc ex¦ec¦ir_ ¦c receiVe a ¦a¦
cr ¦he Lacl. Chris¦iars ¦erc ¦c íaor¦
¦heir Vir_iri¦, arc ¦rcoc¦, vear ¦heir
¨`' ¦ile a so¦erherc. Vher scnecre
cí ¦he c¦¦csi¦e sex asls ¦heir rane
¦he, res¦crc, ¨Vhca, vhca. `co ccr'¦
reec ¦c lrcv n, rane. ¦'n a Vir_ir¦'
¯ha¦'s veirc. ¯cnevhere a¦cr_ ¦he
¦ire Vir_iri¦, Lecane ¦he ¦irrac¦e
ex¦ressicr cí ¦ori¦, ancr_ chorch
_cers.
¦í ,co're a Vir_ir ¦'n ¦rcoc cí ,co, Lo¦
,co reec ¦c recc_rize ¦ha¦ Vir_iri¦, vas
rc¦ Jesos' o¦¦ina¦e ccnnarcner¦. ¦'n
a¦¦ ícr Vir_iri¦, or¦i¦ ,co _e¦ narriec Lo¦
Jesos cic rc¦ irs¦roc¦ ¬is cisci¦¦es ¦c
_c ir¦c a¦¦ ¦he vcr¦c arc nale Vir_irs cí
a¦¦ ra¦icrs. ¦r íac¦, ¦he LiL¦ica¦ s¦arcarc
ícr ¦ori¦, is hi_her ¦har ¦os¦ aLs¦airir_
írcn sex. ¦ erccora_e ¦he ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e
ir Cerera¦icr Chorch ¦c chccse rc¦ ¦c
ca¦e corir_ ¦oricr hi_h arc hi_h schcc¦
Lecaose ca¦ir_ is ar ir¦erra¦ issoe ¦ha¦
_ces cee¦er ¦har ¦h,sica¦ re¦a¦icrs.
La¦ir_ irVc¦Ves ncre ¦har si¦¦ir_ ir
¦he ¦cca¦ cirer si¦¦ir_ a s¦ravLerr,
ni¦lshale írcn cre írcs¦, _¦ass vi¦h
¦vc s¦ravs. La¦ir_ s¦ar¦s ir ¦he hear¦¦
CLEAH HAH0S, PURE HEARTS
/cccrcir_ ¦c PSALM 24:4, Ccc cesires
¦ha¦ ,co haVe ¨c¦ear harcs arc a
¦ore hear¦'. ¯here is a ¦c¦ cí ¦a¦l ir ¦he
chorch aLco¦ c¦ear harcs arc c¦ear
ac¦icrs, Lo¦ ¦he, shco¦c rc¦ Le ¦he
o¦¦ina¦e íccos. ¯here are ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e
va¦lir_ arcorc íaor¦ir_ ¦heir c¦ear
harcs Lo¦ i¦ is ¦cssiL¦e ¦c haVe c¦ear
harcs arc a hear¦ ¦ha¦ is ricc¦ec vi¦h
¦os¦. ¯his is vhere ¦hir_s _e¦ a ¦i¦¦¦e
anLi_ocos. ¦¦ is here ¦ha¦ ,co car s¦i¦
ir¦c chorch orrc¦icec as ¦cr_ as ,co
ose ,cor s¦iri¦oa¦ harc sari¦izer Leícre
,co va¦l ¦hrco_h ¦he cccrs. ¯his is
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¦ vas ¦reachir_ ¦he he¦¦ co¦ cí ¦eera_ers a¦ a ,co¦h
ccríererce ir ¦cr¦¦arc, Cre_cr. /í¦er s¦ealir_ ícr ar hcor
cr ¦ori¦,, i¦ _c¦ Lacl ¦c ne ¦ha¦ scne cí ¦he ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e ir
a¦¦ercarce hac saic ¦ha¦ n, nessa_e cicr'¦ re¦a¦e ¦c ¦hen
Lecaose ¦he, hacr'¦ ¦cs¦ ¦heir Vir_iri¦,. ¯ha¦ ¦iclec ne cíí¦
Lcr'¦ ¦e¦¦ ne ¦ha¦ ,co ccr'¦ reec ¦c hear ¦he nessa_e cí
¦ori¦, Lecaose ,co _c ¦c Chris¦iar schcc¦ cr ccr'¦ _c co¦ cr
ca¦es. Lcr'¦ slin cVer ¦his cha¦¦er ¦hirlir_ ¦ha¦ ¦he soL¦ec¦
cí ca¦ir_ ccesr'¦ a¦¦¦, ¦c ,co sin¦¦, Lecaose ,co're rc¦
irVc¦Vec ir a re¦a¦icrshi¦. Ccrsicer ¦ha¦ ca¦ir_ is írs¦ ar issoe
cí ¦he hear¦.
PURITY IS A HEART COH0ITIOH
¯he ¦i¦¦e cí ¦his Lccl s¦ens írcn ¦he s¦cr, cí ¯anscr arc
Le¦i¦ah reccrcec ir JUDGES Jô. Vha¦ is íascira¦ir_ ¦c ne is
¦he íac¦ ¦ha¦ Chris¦iars nale soch a Li_ cea¦ cí ¯anscr
arc Le¦i¦ah's re¦a¦icrshi¦. Le¦i¦ah is cí¦er ¦cr¦ra,ec as ar
ircreciL¦, sersoa¦ vcnar arc ¯anscr a ¦os¦ ncr_er. ¦r
ac¦oa¦i¦,, ¦here is rc ner¦icr ir Joc_es cí sex Le¦veer ¦he
¦vc ,e¦ nar, haVe ¦erceiVec ¦heir re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦c Le sersoa¦.
¯here is rc reccrc cí ¯anscr arc Le¦i¦ah hc¦cir_ harcs cr
lissir_. ¯he ncs¦ ir¦ina¦e ¦h,sica¦ ccr¦ac¦ ¦he, hac, vhich
¦ ccr'¦ reccnnerc, irVc¦Vec ¯anscr ¦o¦¦ir_ his heac cr
Le¦i¦ah's ¦a¦ arc ¦alir_ a ra¦. ¯ha¦'s i¦¦ ¯anscr arc Le¦i¦ah
reVer exchar_ec sexoa¦ vcrcs ,e¦ i¦ vas a¦ ¦he harcs cí
Le¦i¦ah ¦ha¦ ¦he _rea¦ chan¦icr vas ces¦rc,ec.
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,co eVer seer a L¦cclace? ¦í ,co're
ir Lcs /r_e¦es ¦orr cr ¦he ¯` cr ar,
_iVer veelerc arc ,co'¦¦ ¦rcLaL¦,
see a hi_h s¦eec car chase cr ¦he
revs. ¯he chase a¦ncs¦ a¦va,s ercs
ir a L¦cclace. ¯here are ¦c¦ice cars
s¦arrir_ ¦he vic¦h cí ¦he íreeva,,
cíícers s¦arcir_ co¦sice ¦heir cars
hc¦cir_ shie¦cs, arc he¦icc¦¦ers
hcVerir_ cVerheac. ¯ha¦'s a L¦cclace¦
¯he archcr nar ¦erse¦, arrcorces,
¨¯he criVer cí ¦he s¦c¦er Vehic¦e is
ccnir_ o¦ cr ¦he L¦cclace. ¯ha¦
co_h¦¦a s¦c¦ hin¦' ¦rcVerLs irs¦roc¦s
,co ¦c sini¦ar¦, L¦cclace ,cor hear¦.
¯he ¦cir¦ is rc¦ vhe¦her cr rc¦ ,co are
haVir_ sex. Thè main concèrn
is who you havè givèn
your hèart. ¦r ¦he cos¦, s¦ree¦s
cí Jerosa¦en Jesos cha¦¦er_ec C¦c
¯es¦aner¦ ¦av vi¦h ¦he irs¦i¦o¦icr cí
a hi_her s¦arcarc. ¨`co haVe hearc
i¦ saic orcer ¦he ¦av ¦ha¦ ií ,co s¦ee¦
vi¦h scnecre ¦ha¦ is rc¦ ,cor hosLarc
cr viíe, i¦ is sir,' Jesos Le_ar. ¨Lo¦ ¦
sa, ¦c ,co ¦his ca, ¦ha¦ ií a nar ¦ccls
a¦ a vcnar arc ¦os¦s aí¦er her he
has ccnni¦¦ec aco¦¦er, ir his hear¦
(MATTHEW 5: 27, PARAPHRASE).' /cccrcir_
LVer,cre is ¦cclir_ co¦ ícr ¦he ¨Li_
ras¦,' arc a¦¦en¦¦ir_ ¦c aVcic ¦he
ac¦ cí sex a¦ a¦¦ ccs¦s. `co haVe ¦c
rea¦ize ¦ha¦ ¦ori¦, is rc¦ cr¦, aLco¦
ex¦erra¦ ac¦icrs, i¦ is rc¦ ¦os¦ aLco¦
heaV, ¦e¦¦ir_ cr a ca¦e _cre ¦cc íar.
Purity is about thè hèart.
Ve ¦earr írcn ¦he ¦iíe cí ¯anscr ¦ha¦ i¦
is ¦cssiL¦e ¦c ccn¦rcnise ,cor ¦ori¦,
vi¦hco¦ sc noch as ¦cochir_ arc¦her
¦erscr. `co car ¦c¦¦o¦e ,cor hear¦ ir
a ¦re¦¦, c¦ear se¦¦ir_ cr a seenir_¦,
sarc¦iíec a¦ncs¦here. /s a ¦as¦cr, n,
¦rinar, ccrcerr is rc¦ vhe¦her ,co ¦ií¦
,cor harcs corir_ vcrshi¦ arc ¦ale
rc¦es írcn ¦he serncr. ¦'n rc¦ _cir_
¦c irs¦ec¦ ,cor harcs ¦c see ií ¦he, are
c¦ear. ¦ var¦ ¦c Le sore ¦ha¦ ,co haVe a
¦ore hear¦.
GUAR0 YOUR HEART
¦air¦airir_ a ¦ore hear¦ ¦ales vcrl.
`co haVe ¦c Le ce¦iLera¦e aLco¦
¦orsoir_ ¦ori¦,. PROVERBS 4:23 irs¦roc¦s
,co ¦c ¨_oarc ,cor hear¦ aLcVe a¦¦
e¦se Lecaose i¦ ce¦ernires ¦he ccorse
cí ,cor ¦iíe' (¦L¯). ¦r ¦his ccr¦ex¦, ¦he
vcrc ¨_oarc' nears ¦c L¦cclace. ¬aVe

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¦c ¦he rev ccVerar¦, ií ,co haVe sirrec ir ,cor hear¦ ,co're
_oi¦¦,. ¦í ve ¦iVe L, Jesos' s¦arcarcs ¦her ¦here's rc¦ a Vir_ir
ancr_ os. `cor ccrVic¦icrs nos¦ _c Le,crc nair¦airir_
Vir_iri¦, ir ,cor Lcc,.
WHO IS 0ELILAH7
/s ¦ saic ear¦ier, Le¦i¦ah cicr'¦ var¦ sex. Le¦i¦ah is ar orc¦ear
s¦iri¦ arc re¦reser¦s ar orc¦ear a¦¦i¦oce. PROVERBS 7 reíers
¦c ¦his orc¦ear s¦iri¦ as ¨¦he inncra¦ vcnar.' ¯he vcrc
¨Le¦i¦ah' nears ¦c Lrir_ ¦cv, ¦c nale íeeL¦e, ¦c in¦cVerish.
¯here are s¦iri¦s ¦os¦ ¦ile Le¦i¦ah c¦era¦ir_ ¦cca,. ¦ori¦, cces
rc¦ re¦a¦e cr¦, ¦c rcnar¦ic re¦a¦icrshi¦s, ¦he ain cí ¦ori¦, is
sos¦airir_ a hc¦, a¦¦i¦oce. Ccc is ir¦eres¦ec ir ¦he ¦hco_h¦s
¦ha¦ ccco¦, ,cor nirc. ¦í ,co are er¦er¦airir_ orc¦ear
íar¦asies arc a¦¦cvir_ ,cor hear¦ ¦c Le ccrsonec vi¦h
sersoa¦, se¦íserVir_ iceas, ,co are ca¦ir_ Le¦i¦ah¦
WHAT IS 0ATIHG7
¦ec¦¦e scne¦ines asl ne ií ¦ an a_airs¦ ca¦ir_. ¦, arsver is
'rc'. ¦'n rc¦ a_airs¦ s¦ercir_ ¦ine vi¦h scnecre exc¦osiVe¦,
vher ¦he seascr is ri_h¦ arc ,co haVe ¦he so¦¦cr¦ cí ¦arer¦s
arc ¦as¦crs. ¦'n ir íaVcr cí _e¦¦ir_ ¦c lrcv arc¦her ¦erscr
vi¦h ¦he ¦cssiLi¦i¦, cí cisccVerir_ ¦he irciVicoa¦ ,co vi¦¦
narr,. ¦ cc ¦hirl i¦ is vrcr_ ¦c ca¦e, íir¦, hc¦c harcs, liss, arc
nacl cr a ¦erscr ,co haVe rc ir¦er¦icr cí narr,ir_.
¦ cisccora_e ¦he Joricr ¬i_h arc ¬i_h ¯chcc¦ s¦ocer¦s
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¯he vcrc ¨Vex' is osec ¦c cescriLe ¦he ir¦ersi¦, vi¦h vhich
Le¦i¦ah ¦es¦erec ¯anscr. ¨`ex' ircica¦es in¦a¦ierce ¦c ¦he
¦cir¦ cí _iVir_ ir. Lcr'¦ Lo, ir¦c ¦he ¦ie ¦ha¦ ,co car'¦ vai¦.
Lcr'¦ Le ceceiVec ir¦c Le¦ieVir_ ¦ha¦ ,co car'¦ saVe ,cor
hear¦ ícr ¦he ri_h¦ ¦erscr. ¯he orc¦ear, 'Le¦i¦ah' s¦iri¦ vi¦¦
¦ress ,co ¦c sorrercer arc ¦r, ¦c ccrVirce ,co ¦ha¦ ,co car'¦
vai¦ or¦i¦ ,co _e¦ narriec Lecaose ,co ¦cVe ¦his ¦erscr.
Lcr'¦ a¦¦cv ,corse¦í ¦c ¦cor co¦ ,cor hear¦ arc ¦a¦l aLco¦
¦hir_s ¦ha¦ vere cr¦, near¦ ¦c Le ciscossec Le¦veer a
hosLarc arc viíe. Pè awarè whèn you start to
go placès in your mino that you shoulo
only go whèn you'rè marrièo. ¦í ,co're rc¦
careío¦ ,co vi¦¦ ¦cse ¦he Vir_iri¦, cí ,cor hear¦.
¯anscr eVer¦oa¦¦, _aVe ir ¦c Le¦i¦ah's ircoiries. ¬e vas
¦rcLaL¦, ¦hirlir_, ¨¦ car'¦ ¦ale ¦his ar,ncre. ¦'n ¦irec cí
resis¦ir_. /¦ ¦eas¦ ve're rc¦ haVir_ sex.' ¯anscr reVea¦ec
his secre¦ ¦ha¦, as a ¦azari¦e, he vas rc¦ so¦¦csec ¦c co¦ his
hair Lecaose ¦he hair vas ar co¦varc ircica¦icr cí ar irvarc
ccrci¦icr. /s ¦cr_ as his hair renairec or¦cochec, sc cic his
hear¦. ¦r vha¦ ¦ile¦, seenec ¦ile a harn¦ess ccrVersa¦icr a¦
¦he ¦ine, ¦he chan¦icr ,ie¦cec ¦he secre¦ cí his hear¦ arc
_aVe his erenies ¦he ¦cc¦s ¦he, reecec ¦c ces¦rc, hin.
ir n, ,co¦h niris¦r, írcn ¦h,sica¦¦, cr ner¦a¦¦, ca¦ir_
¦os¦ ar,Lcc,. ¯cne Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ¦ se¦ ¦he Lar ¦cc hi_h Lo¦
¦ cicr'¦ se¦ ¦he Lar. ¯he s¦arcarcs ¦ ¦each vere se¦ o¦ L,
Ccc. /cccrcir_ ¦c Jesos, ca¦ir_ s¦ar¦s ir ¦he nirc, vi¦¦, arc
enc¦icrs. ¦a,Le ¦his sceraric ¦ccls íani¦iar.
`cor ncn sa,s, ¨`co are rc¦ _cir_ ¦c ca¦e hin.'
¦r ,cor heac ,co res¦crc, ¨Ve¦¦, ¦ na, rc¦ _c ¦c Lerr,'s vi¦h
hin Lo¦ eVer, ri_h¦ ¦'n _cir_ vhereVer ¦ var¦ vi¦h hin ir n,
nirc¦'
La¦ir_ nears ¦c ¨exc¦osiVe¦, er¦er¦air scne¦hir_ cr
scnecre.' ¯anscr's re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h Le¦i¦ah vas enc¦icra¦
ra¦her ¦har ¦h,sica¦. ¬is cecisicr ¦c sorrercer ¦he secre¦s
cí his hear¦ ¦c arc¦her ¦erscr crea¦ec a cee¦ enc¦icra¦
ccrrec¦icr ¦ha¦ eVer¦oa¦¦, ces¦rc,ec hin.
SAMSOH¹S SECRET
Le¦i¦ah lrev ¦ha¦ she cco¦c access ¯anscr's hear¦ ií she
orcers¦ccc ¦he secre¦ cí his s¦rer_¦h. ¯he cicr'¦ ¦ress hin
eVer, ca, ¦c s¦ee¦ vi¦h her, Lo¦ ¦c ccríce ir her ¦he scorce
cí his _rea¦ ni_h¦. Le¦i¦ah eVer coes¦icrec ¯anscr's ¦cVe ícr
her, c¦ainir_ ¦ha¦ sirce he hacr'¦ ciVo¦_ec his cee¦es¦ secre¦,
he hacr'¦ _iVer her his vhc¦e hear¦. ¦c¦ice ¦ha¦ she cicr'¦
coes¦icr his ceVc¦icr Lecaose ¦he, hacr'¦ hac sex. ¦¦'s rc¦
erco_h ¦c nale a ce¦ernira¦icr rc¦ ¦c Le ¦h,sica¦¦, ir¦ina¦e
vi¦h scnecre. Le¦i¦ah cesirec ar enc¦icra¦ ccrrec¦icr.

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¦cr¦ora¦e¦,, ¯anscr's s¦cr, ccesr'¦ erc ¦here. ¯anscr vas
cVer¦aler L, his erenies, hac his e,es _co_ec co¦, arc
vas ¦cclec ir ¦riscr, oraL¦e ¦c ceíerc hinse¦í Lecaose his
s¦rer_¦h hac Leer sa¦¦ec. /s a L¦irc ¦riscrer hcveVer,
his hair eVer¦oa¦¦, Le_ar ¦c _rcv Lacl. ¯he _ccc revs ícr
ar,cre vhc has ¦cs¦ ¦he Vir_iri¦, cí ¦heir hear¦ is ¦ha¦ Ccc is
aL¦e ¦c res¦cre ¦ha¦ vhich has Leer ¦cs¦ arc res¦cre vha¦ has
Leer ces¦rc,ec.
Cr ¦he ¦as¦ ca, cí his ¦iíe, ¯anscr vas Lrco_h¦ ir¦c a
cc¦iseon ¦c er¦er¦air ar aocierce cí ¦hcosarcs. /s ¦his
ícrner chan¦icr vas ¦ec L, a sna¦¦ Lc,, he recoes¦ec ¦ha¦
he Le si¦oa¦ec Le¦veer ¦he cc¦iseon's ¦vc nair ¦i¦¦ars.
¦r a scere ¦ha¦ ¦cclec Ver, sini¦ar ¦c Chris¦'s ¦as¦ hcors
cr ear¦h, ¯anscr ercorec ¦eerir_ arc ncclir_ vhi¦e he
o¦¦erec his ¦as¦ vcrcs. ¨Le¦ ne cie.' ¯hese vere ¦ile¦, ¦he
vcrcs ¦ha¦ Ccc hac cesirec írcn ¯anscr his er¦ire ¦iíe. Ccc
var¦ec ¯anscr ¦c cie ¦c hinse¦í. ¬is vcrcs ircica¦ec ¦ha¦
he íra¦¦, orcers¦ccc ¦ha¦ ve nos¦ cie ¦c se¦ísh cesires ¦c
¦ro¦, ¦iVe. ¯his is ¦he nessa_e cí ¦he crcss. ¯anscr s¦ccc
írn¦, Le¦veer ¦vc ¦i¦¦ars, his arns co¦s¦re¦chec ir ¦he sane
¦csi¦icr Chris¦ vco¦c assone cer¦ories ¦a¦er cr ¦he crcss.
SOURCE OP STREHGTH
PROVERBS 20:29 sa,s ¦ha¦ ¨¦he _¦cr, cí ,cor_ ner is ¦heir
s¦rer_¦h.' Le¦i¦ah ¦crner¦ec ¯anscr vi¦h ¦he ¦or¦cse cí
¦alir_ his s¦rer_¦h. ¯his sane orc¦ear s¦iri¦ is aí¦er ,cor
s¦rer_¦h ¬ ¦he s¦rer_¦h ¦ha¦ is ce¦ercer¦ cr ¦he ¦ori¦, cí
,cor hear¦, rc¦ ¦he c¦ear¦iress cí ,cor harcs a¦cre.
¯hcr¦¦, aí¦er ex¦¦airir_ ¦c Le¦i¦ah ¦he ccrrec¦icr Le¦veer
his or¦cochec hair arc _rea¦ s¦rer_¦h, ¯anscr vcle o¦
írcn a ra¦ arc cisccVerec ¦ha¦ his heac hac Leer shaVec L,
his erenies. Vher ¯anscr arcse he hac ¦he sane Lice¦s,
¦rice¦s, arc in¦ressiVe ¦h,sicoe, Lo¦ he hac ¦cs¦ his s¦rer_¦h
Lecaose ¦he ¦ori¦, cí his hear¦ hac Leer ccn¦rcnisec
vi¦h ¦he co¦¦ir_ cí his hair. ¦ori¦, is aLco¦ ¦he hear¦. La¦ir_
is aLco¦ ¦he hear¦. Plockaoè your hèart ano
prèsèrvè your strèngth!
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¯anscr exer¦ec his ¦as¦ Li¦ cí s¦rer_¦h ¦c lrccl ccvr
¦he ¦i¦¦ars he vas ¦earir_ cr, reso¦¦ir_ ir ¦he cc¦¦a¦se cí
¦he er¦ire cc¦iseon, his cvr cea¦h, arc ¦he cea¦h cí his
erenies. ¯anscr's ¦i¦era¦ cea¦h s,nLc¦izes ,cor recessar,
cea¦h ¦c se¦í. Liíe is rc¦ aLco¦ ,co. ¯he ncs¦ in¦cr¦ar¦
¦hir_ ir ¦iíe is rc¦ vha¦ ,co var¦ arc ,cor o¦¦ina¦e _ca¦
is rc¦ haVir_ ,cor enc¦icra¦ reecs ne¦ L, c¦her ¦ec¦¦e.
You must surrènoèr your will to Goo's
will èvèryoay. ¦r crcer ¦c nair¦air c¦ear harcs arc a
¦ore hear¦ i¦ is esser¦ia¦ ¦ha¦ ,co recc_rize arc acce¦¦ ¦he
soLs¦i¦o¦icrar, vcrl Chris¦ cic cr ¦he crcss, exchar_e ,cor
irsoíícierc, ícr Chris¦'s soíícierc,, arc ¦a, ccvr ,cor se¦í
serVir_, carra¦ ra¦ore.
¯anscr's ¦rcL¦en vas ¦ha¦ he s¦er¦ ncs¦ cí his ¦iíe re¦,ir_
cr his cvr aLi¦i¦, arc cicr'¦ recc_rize his reec ¦c ¦ear cr
scne¦hir_ s¦rcr_er ¦har hinse¦í or¦i¦ i¦ vas ¦cc ¦a¦e. ¯ini¦ar¦,,
,co reec ¦c ¦ear cr ¦he crcss. `co carrc¦ ¦ros¦ ir ,cor cvr
orcers¦arcir_ cr ir_eroi¦,. Ccne ¦c ¦he crcss cai¦, vi¦h ¦his
¦ra,er. ¨Ccc, ¦e¦ ne cie ¦c vrcr_ cesires.'

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AHCIEHT BOUH0ARIES
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¦¦ a¦va,s sor¦rises ne vher ¦ec¦¦e ¦hirl ¦ha¦ ¦he, car
in¦rcVe cr ¦he s,s¦ens Ccc has es¦aL¦ishec. ¦ hearc cí a
¦s,chc¦c_is¦ vhc ¦hco_h¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he e¦inira¦icr cí Lcorcaries
vco¦c crea¦e íreeccn arc ¦rcnc¦e irciVicoa¦i¦,. ¦r crcer
¦c ¦rcVe his ¦hecr, ¦ha¦ ¦ini¦a¦icrs s¦iíe _rcv¦h ir chi¦crer,
¦his nar ccrcoc¦ec ar ex¦eriner¦ ir vhich ¦he íerces vere
rencVec írcn a recess íe¦c a¦ ar e¦ener¦ar, schcc¦. ¯he
researcher vas sore ¦ha¦ ccrícer¦ s¦ocer¦s vhc osoa¦¦,
a¦¦en¦¦ec ¦c c¦inL ¦he íerces arc ex¦¦cre Le,crc schcc¦
_rcorcs vco¦c íee¦ re¦easec ¦c varcer as ¦he, ¦¦easec. ¯he
reso¦¦s cí ¦he ex¦eriner¦ vere íascira¦ir_ arc orícreseer.
Vher cisnissec ícr recess, ¦he s¦ocer¦s _a¦herec ir a c¦os¦er
ir ¦he cer¦er cí ¦he recess íe¦c. ¦a¦her ¦har ¦alir_ acVar¦a_e
cí ¦heir revícorc íreeccn, ¦he chi¦crer ex¦eriercec
íee¦ir_s cí irsecori¦, arc orcer¦air¦,, arc rescr¦ec ¦c
crea¦ir_ Lcorcaries ícr ¦hense¦Ves. Vher ¦he íerces vere
res¦crec ¦he Ver, sane lics vhc hac hocc¦ec ¦c_e¦her
reVer¦ec Lacl ¦c sca¦ir_ íerces, ¦es¦ir_ Lcrcers, arc o¦i¦izir_
¦he er¦ire ¦¦a,ir_ íe¦c.
Vcr¦c¦, ¦hi¦csc¦hies ¦rcnc¦e ¦iíe vi¦hco¦ Lcorcaries.
¦ar, ¦ec¦¦e ¦cca, ar_oe ¦ha¦ ¦here are rc aLsc¦o¦es. `co
haVe ¦rcLaL¦, hearc scnecre sa, ¦ha¦ ¨vha¦eVer ,co
Le¦ieVe is a¦ri_h¦ as ¦cr_ as i¦ ccesr'¦ hor¦ ar,Lcc,'. ¯his
icea is ccr¦rar, ¦c LiL¦ica¦ ¦rirci¦¦es. PROVERBS 22:28 varrs,
¨cc rc¦ rencVe ar arcier¦ Lcorcar, s¦cre se¦ o¦ L, ,cor
ícreía¦hers' (¦¦`). Pounoariès actually bring
sècurity. Lcorcaries crea¦e íreeccn. Lcorcaries ¦rcVice
cirec¦icr. Lcorcaries a¦¦cv ,co ¦c ex¦¦cre arc es¦aL¦ish ,cor
icer¦i¦,. Lcorcaries _erera¦e ¦or¦cse.
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possess his own vessel in sanctification
and honor, not in passion of lust, like the
Gentiles who do not know God.”
—J THESSALONIANS 4:J-5
¯here is ¦c Le rc sex Leícre narria_e.
J THESSALONIANS 4:3 irs¦roc¦s Le¦ieVers ¦c
aVcic sexoa¦¦, inncra¦ LehaVicr. Vha¦
cces ¦he vcrc ¨inncra¦i¦,' near?
¦nncra¦i¦, ccnes írcn ¦he rcc¦ vcrc
¨ncra¦,' ir reíererce ¦c ,cor ncra¦i¦,.
¯exoa¦ inncra¦i¦, is a nisose cí ,cor
sexoa¦i¦,. ¦r ¦he case cí ar ornarriec
¦erscr, sex is ccrsicerec inncra¦.
¦í ,co chcse ¦c haVe sex co¦sice cí
narria_e ,co vi¦¦ Le rencVir_ ar
arcier¦ Lcorcar, ícr vhich ,co vi¦¦
soííer ccrsecoerces.
¯his Verse _ces cr ¦c en¦hasize ¦he
íac¦ ¦ha¦ ¨each cre shco¦c lrcv hcv ¦c
¦cssess his cvr Vesse¦ ir sarc¦iíca¦icr
arc hcrcr, rc¦ ir ¦assicr cí ¦os¦, ¦ile
¦hcse vhc cc rc¦ lrcv Ccc'. /re ,co
ac¦ir_ ¦ile scneLcc, vhc ccesr'¦
lrcv Ccc? `co are rc¦ ¦c haVe sex
Leícre narria_e. `co na, Le orcer
¦he in¦ressicr ¦ha¦ ¦his is ¦he cr¦,
LiL¦ica¦ sexoa¦ aLsc¦o¦e. ¦c¦ ¦roe¦ Ccc
is ir¦eres¦ec ir ncre ¦har ¦os¦ ,cor
¦echrica¦ Vir_iri¦,.
BOUH0ARY 42t HO 0ATIHG
UHBELIEVERS
“Do not be unequally yoked together with
unbelievers. For what fellowship has
righteousness with lawlessness? And what
communion has light with darkness?”
—2 CORINTHIANS ô:J4
Lcr'¦ ca¦e ar orLe¦ieVer. ¯his is a sexoa¦
aLsc¦o¦e. Lcr'¦ serc ar enai¦ accosir_
ne cí ¦e_a¦isn. ¯his is LiL¦e. ¯his is rc¦
o¦ ícr ceLa¦e.
¦rcrica¦¦,, as íerces are rencVec
írcn sccie¦, ir ¦he rane cí íreeccn,
¦ec¦¦e Leccne ircreasir_¦, irsecore,
nis_oicec, arc niscirec¦ec.
ABSOLUTE BOUH0ARIES
¯here are arcier¦ Lcorcaries ¦ha¦ nos¦
Le o¦he¦c. ¦ an _cir_ ¦c icer¦ií, ícr
,co ¦he ei_h¦ sexoa¦ Lcorcaries cí ¦he
LiL¦e. ¯hese Lcorcaries are aLsc¦o¦e
¬ ¦he, are rcrre_c¦iaL¦e. ¦í ,co cc
rc¦ aclrcv¦ec_e arc achere ¦c ¦hese
Lcorcaries ,co risl ícríei¦ir_ Ccc's
¦eríec¦ ¦¦ar ícr ,cor ¦iíe.
BOUH0ARY 41t HO SEX BEPORE
MARRIAGE
“Finally then, brethren, we urge and exhort
in the Lord Jesus that you should abound
more and more, just as you received from
us how you ought to walk and to please
God; for you know what commandments we
gave you through the Lord Jesus. For this
is the will of God, your sanctification: that
you should abstain from sexual immorality;
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¦ile Jesos? Lc ,co? ¯his is vha¦ i¦ nears ¦c
Le a Chris¦iar. `co are rc¦ ¦c Le ir a rcnar¦ic
re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h scnecre vhc is rc¦ a Chris¦
íc¦¦cver.
¨Lo¦ Jocah, he's ccnir_ ¦c chorch vi¦h ne rcv
¦ha¦ ve are ca¦ir_. /rc ií ¦ Lreal o¦ vi¦h hin rcv,
he'¦¦ reVer _e¦ saVec. ¯c.¦ ¦hirl Ccc var¦s os ¦c
lee¦ ca¦ir_.'
Vrcr_¦ Ccc ¦cVes ,co ¦cc noch ¦c ¦o¦ ,co ir a
si¦oa¦icr vhere ,co cco¦c ¦c¦er¦ia¦¦, _e¦ ,cor
hear¦ Lrcler ir crcer ¦c see scneLcc, saVec. Ccc
s¦eciíca¦¦, ¦c¦c os ¬e vco¦c ra¦her haVe os cLe,
¬is Vcrc ¦har nale sacriíces.
BOUH0ARY 4St HOMOSEXUALITY IS SIH
“Because of this, God gave them over to shameful
lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations
for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also
abandoned natural relations with women and were
inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed
indecent acts with other men, and received in
themselves the due penalty for their perversion.”
—ROMANS J:2ô-27
¬cncsexoa¦i¦, is sir. ¬cncsexoa¦i¦, is rc¦ ra¦ora¦.
Chris¦iars ¦erc ¦c Viev hcncsexoa¦i¦, as ¦he
¨orícr_iVaL¦e' sir arc scne na, _c sc íar as ¦c
¨Lo¦ Jocah, she.she.¦ ¦hirl she
Le¦ieVes ¦here's a Ccc.'
¯he LiL¦e nales a c¦ear cis¦irc¦icr
Le¦veer Le¦ieVers arc orLe¦ieVers. ¯he
¦ern ¨Chris¦iar' vas crea¦ec ¦c cescriLe
¦he ear¦, íc¦¦cvers cí ¦he ¦eachir_s cí
Jesos Chris¦. ¯he vcrc nears ¨¦i¦¦¦e
Chris¦,' vhich vas a¦¦rc¦ria¦e Lecaose
Jesos' cisci¦¦es ac¦ec ¦ile ¬in, ¦a¦lec
¦ile ¬in, arc hac ¬is charac¦eris¦ics.
¯hese ca,s ccor¦¦ess ¦ec¦¦e va¦l
arcorc icer¦ií,ir_ ¦hense¦Ves as
Chris¦iars. Lc ¦he, ¦ccl ¦ile Jesos?
Lc ¦he, ac¦ ¦ile Jesos? Lc ¦he, ¦a¦l
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¦os¦ií, haVir_ sex Leícre narria_e Lecaose ¦he, ccr'¦ Le¦ieVe
i¦ ¦c Le coi¦e as Lac as ccnni¦¦ir_ a hcncsexoa¦ ac¦. ¦r
¦ro¦h, Jesos ciec cr ¦he crcss ¦c ¦a, ¦he ¦era¦¦, ícr a¦¦ sir,
irc¦ocir_ hcncsexoa¦i¦,.
¦¦'s anazir_ ¦c ne hcv cor co¦¦ore is harc¦ir_ ¦he issoe cí
hcncsexoa¦i¦, ir ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e. ¦í ,co haVe cre hcncsexoa¦
¦hco_h¦, ,cor schcc¦ ccorse¦cr vi¦¦ sa,, ¨¯ha¦'s C¦. ¯ha¦'s
¦os¦ vhc ,co are.' ¦í ,co haVe cre hcncsexoa¦ erccor¦er
,cor íriercs vi¦¦ ¦e¦¦ ,co, ¨Ve¦¦, ¦ _oess ,co're _a, arc ve'¦¦
haVe ¦c ¦earr ¦c acce¦¦ ,co ¦ha¦ va,.' ¦í ,co haVe cer¦air
_ií¦ir_ cr ¦erscra¦i¦, ¦rai¦s s¦rar_ers vi¦¦ ¦os¦ ex¦ec¦ ,co ¦c
Le _a, cr a ¦esLiar.
Lcr'¦ _iVe ir¦c ¦he co¦¦ore's va, cí ¦hirlir_¦ Jos¦ Lecaose
,co'Ve hac hcncsexoa¦ ¦hco_h¦s cr erccor¦ers, ,co are rc¦
ces¦irec ¦c Le _a,. `co sirrec arc ,co reec ¦c ¦ale ¦ha¦ sir
¦c ¦he crcss arc a¦¦cv Jesos ¦c ícr_iVe ,co. Ccc's anazir_
orccrci¦icra¦ ¦cVe ícr ,co cicr'¦ char_e vi¦h ¦hese ac¦s.
¬e has a¦reac, ¦aic ¦he ¦rice cr ¦he crcss. ¬cncsexoa¦i¦,
is sir ¬ ¦os¦ ¦ile haVir_ sex Leícre narria_e arc ca¦ir_ ar
orLe¦ieVer. `co serVe a Ccc vhc is rc¦ ir¦inica¦ec L, ar,
¦,¦e cí sir arc car en¦cver ,co ¦c cVerccne ar, cha¦¦er_e
,co are íacec vi¦h.
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rc¦ice ¦ha¦ ¦ _iVe sice ho_s. ¦ cc ¦his
¦c se¦ ar exan¦¦e arc renair aLcVe
re¦rcach. `co
vco¦c Le vise ¦c
ccrcoc¦ ,corse¦í ir
¦he sane narrer.
¦c na¦¦er hcv
,co _c aLco¦ i¦, ií
,cor nc¦iVa¦icr ícr
¦cochir_ scnecre
is in¦ore ,co
are cVers¦e¦¦ir_
ar arcier¦ Lcorcar,. ¯his Lcorcar,
has Leer ¦o¦ ir¦c ¦¦ace ¦c ¦reserVe
¦he sacrecress cí ,cor sexoa¦i¦,. ¦í
ve ccr'¦ ¦a¦l aLco¦ ¦hese ¦hir_s ,cor
¦hirlir_ vi¦¦ Le iríoercec L, co¦¦ora¦
¦hi¦csc¦hies arc ,cor Le¦ieís ceírec
L, ex¦raLiL¦ica¦ icec¦c_ies.
BOUH0ARY 4St TREAT OHE
AHOTHER AS BROTHERS AH0
SISTERS
“Do not rebuke an older man, but exhort him
as a father, younger men as brothers, older
women as mothers, younger women as
sisters, with all purity.” —J TIMOTHY 5:J-2
¦cv ve're _e¦¦ir_ cee¦er. `cor_ ner,
¦rea¦ ¦he ,cor_ ¦acies ¦ile sis¦ers. `cor_
¦acies, ¦rea¦ ¦he
,cor_ ner ¦ile
Lrc¦hers. ¦cs¦
cí ,co vco¦c
reVer ¦ccl a¦ ,cor
Lrc¦her ¦he va,
,co cc ¦he _o,s
ir ,cor schcc¦.
`co ner vco¦cr'¦
er¦er¦air ¦hcse
¦hco_h¦s aLco¦ ,cor sis¦er. `co ¦hirl
¦ha¦'s ras¦,? Ccc a_rees¦
Vièw ano trèat onè
anothèr as brothèrs ano
sistèrs ¬ niros ¦he í_h¦ir_, cí
ccorse. ¯his ccnnarcner¦ char_es
eVer,¦hir_. ¯cne cí ,co ner vi¦¦ reec
¦c reeVa¦oa¦e ¦he va, ,co ir¦erac¦ vi¦h
¦acies. `co _ir¦s na, haVe ¦c ¦hirl ¦vice
aLco¦ vha¦ ,co are vearir_ Leícre
¦eaVir_ ¦he hcose. `co vco¦cr'¦ crean
cí va¦lir_ L, ,cor Lrc¦her's Lecrccn
íaor¦ir_ ,cor Lcc, sc vh, cc ,co cc
i¦ ir ¦he ha¦¦va, a¦ chorch? ¯his ¦eacs os
¦c Lcorcar, ronLer six.
BOUH0ARY 44t HO SEXUAL
TOUCHIHG
“Now concerning the things of which you
wrote to me: It is good for a man not to
touch a woman.” —J CORINTHIANS 7:J
¯he ícor¦h aLsc¦o¦e is rc sexoa¦
¦cochir_. /í¦er reacir_ J CORINTHIANS 7:J,
,co ner are ¦rcLaL¦, ¦hirlir_, ¨Lxcose
ne? ¦ car'¦ eVer ¦coch a vcnar?¦' ¦¦'s
ac¦oa¦¦, cee¦er ¦har ¦ha¦. ¯he vcrc
¦coch nears ¨¦c c¦ir_ sexoa¦¦, ¦c,
¦c ¦coch sexoa¦¦,'. ¯his is ar arcier¦
Lcorcar, ¬ a Lcorcar, ¦ha¦ is ¦os¦
as re¦eVar¦ ¦cca, as ¦he ca, i¦ vas
es¦aL¦ishec.
¨Lo¦ ¦ ¦cVe her.' ¯here's rc exce¦¦icr.
¨Lo¦ she saic i¦ vas a¦ri_h¦.' ¦c
exce¦¦icr.
¨Lo¦ he saic he'c narr, ne.' ¦c
exce¦¦icr.
¨Vha¦ ií ve're ¦cochir_ cVer c¦c¦hes?'
¦c¦ cla,.
¦c sexoa¦ ¦cochir_. ¦c ¦e¦¦ir_. ¦c
¦¦a,ir_ arcorc.
¬aVe ,co eVer Leer sc hor_r, ,co ea¦
a Larara ¦ha¦ isr'¦ coi¦e ri¦e? Lee¦
irsice ,co lrcv i¦'s rc¦ ¦he ri_h¦ ¦ine
¦c ea¦ ¦he Larara Lo¦ ,co ¦e¦¦ ,corse¦í,
¨¦'n sore i¦ vi¦¦ Le _ccc.' /rc i¦ cces
¦as¦e _ccc a¦ írs¦. ¯her ,co rea¦ize, as
,co ex¦erierce ¦ha¦ scoeal, íee¦ir_ cr
,cor ¦ee¦h, ¦he orri¦e Larara vas rc¦
reac, ¦c Le ea¦er. ¦rena¦ore sexoa¦
¦cochir_ vi¦¦ ¦eaVe ,co vi¦h ¦he sane
íee¦ir_. Cre cí ¦he harces¦ ¦hir_s ¦ haVe
¦c cc is si¦ ccvr vi¦h a cco¦¦e vhc has
¨_cre ¦cc íar' arc va¦l ¦hrco_h ¦he
ccrsecoerces vi¦h ¦hen.
¦í ,co see ne ir¦erac¦ir_ vi¦h ,cor_
¦acies ir Cerera¦icr Chorch, ,co vi¦¦
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¦ha¦ ¦erci¦ ,co crc¦¦ec. ¦í ,cor shir¦ is ¦cc shcr¦
¦he ¦ccr _o, rex¦ ¦c ,co vi¦¦ Le cis¦rac¦ec corir_
¦he er¦ire vcrshi¦ serVice vcrcerir_ vha¦ vi¦¦
ha¦¦er vher ,co ¦ií¦ o¦ ,cor harcs ¦c vcrshi¦.
¯he írs¦ ¦hir_ ¦ec¦¦e shco¦c rc¦ice aLco¦ ,co is
,cor ccor¦erarce arc ¦he ircreciL¦e ¦c, ,co haVe.
¦í ,co haVe ¦c ose ,cor Lcc, ¦c _e¦ a¦¦er¦icr, írc
rev íriercs.'
¦ vi¦¦ ¦cir¦ co¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he s¦arcarcs are ciííerer¦
ícr a ¦erscr vhc ccesr'¦ lrcv Ccc. ¯here are
írecoer¦¦, _ir¦s vhc Visi¦ cor ,co¦h niris¦r,
vearir_ c¦c¦hir_ ¦ha¦ Lare¦, ccVers ar,¦hir_
Lecaose ¦he, ccr'¦ lrcv ar, Le¦¦er. ¦'n s¦ealir_
s¦eciíca¦¦, ¦c ¦he ¦acies vhc are íani¦iar vi¦h
¦he s¦arcarcs arc ex¦ec¦a¦icrs. Lcr'¦ va¦l
arcorc ccn¦¦airir_ ¦ha¦ _o,s haVe rc res¦ec¦
ícr ,co vher ,co are shcvcasir_ eVer,¦hir_ Ccc
_aVe ,co. Lressir_ ¦ile a ¦c¦ iccr is rc¦ ccc¦ ir
chorch. `co vi¦¦ ac¦oa¦¦, erc o¦ íee¦ir_ ¦ile ¦ess
cí a vcnar vher ,co cress ir a narrer ¦ha¦
a¦¦rac¦s re_a¦iVe a¦¦er¦icr. `co rencVe ar arcier¦
Lcorcar, vher ,co ¦o¦ cr ¦ha¦ reVea¦ir_ shir¦.
¦ lrcv nar, ,cor_ vcner vhc ¦ccl ¦rerc,
arc Leao¦iío¦ vhi¦e cressir_ a¦¦rc¦ria¦e¦, arc
ncces¦¦,. ¯he LiL¦e sa,s ¦ha¦ ,co shco¦c Le
recc_rizec ícr ,cor _cc¦iress arc _ccc vcrls.
¦ec¦¦e shco¦c Le a¦¦rac¦ec ¦c ¦he Ccc ,co serVe.
BOUH0ARY 46t WEAR APPROPRIATE CLOTHIHG
“In like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest
apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or
gold or pearls or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women
professing godliness, with good works.” —2 TIMOTHY 2:9-J0
¯his ¦cr¦icr cí scri¦¦ore irs¦roc¦s ¦acies ¦c cress vi¦h ci_ri¦,.
¯he cer¦ra¦ issoe here is rc¦ ¦he Lrarc cí c¦c¦hir_ ,co
vear, ¦he íccos is vhe¦her cr rc¦ ,co are cressir_ vi¦h ¦he
ir¦er¦icr cí cravir_ a¦¦er¦icr ¦c ,cor Lcc,. /re ,co ccVerir_
,cor Lcc,, ¦acies? Cer¦¦ener, cc ,co reec ¦c ¦o¦¦ o¦ ,cor
¦ar¦s?
¯he LiL¦e cha¦¦er_es Chris¦iars ir ¦his area. ¯his is a sexoa¦
aLsc¦o¦e. Vhere i¦ _e¦s a Li¦ shac, is ¦he ceíri¦icr cí
ncces¦,, Lecaose ncces¦, is ir¦er¦re¦ec ciííerer¦¦, ir
eVer, co¦¦ore. ¦r ¦rcia ,co car shcv ,cor Le¦¦, a¦¦ ca, ¦cr_
Lo¦ ccr'¦ eVer ¦hirl aLco¦ shcvir_ ,cor lrees¦ ¯c vha¦ is
ncces¦ cressir_ ícr a ¦eera_e _ir¦ ir ¦he 2¹s¦ Cer¦or, _cir_
¦c hi_h schcc¦ ir /nerica?
¬ere is vha¦ n, viíe ¦eaches _ir¦s aLco¦ ncces¦,. ¨¦¦ has
¦c s¦ar¦ cr ¦he irsice. ¦í ¦he vhc¦e _ca¦ cí ,cor co¦í¦ is ¦c
crav a¦¦er¦icr ¦c cer¦air ¦ar¦s cí ,cor Lcc,, ,co're heacir_
ir ¦he vrcr_ cirec¦icr. /sl ,corse¦í ¦his coes¦icr, 'Vha¦ is
¦he írs¦ ¦hir_ scneLcc, vi¦¦ rc¦ice vher ¦he, ¦ccl a¦ ne?'
¦í ,cor recl¦ire is co¦ ¦cv, ¦he írs¦ ¦hir_ ¦ec¦¦e vi¦¦ rc¦ice is
,cor c¦eaVa_e. ¦í ,cor slir¦ is sc shcr¦ ,co car'¦ Lerc cVer,
¦ec¦¦e vi¦¦ Le cis¦rac¦ec vcrcerir_ hcv ,co're _cir_ ¦c _e¦

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BOUH0ARY 47t HO LUSTPUL LOOKS
“You have heard that it was said to those of old, ‘You shall not
commit adultery.’ “But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman
to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.”
—MATTHEW 5:27-28 (NKJV)
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.”
—JOB 3J:J (NIV)
¯he LiL¦e is Ver, c¦ear cr ¦his cre. ner are rc¦ ¦c ¦ccl
¦os¦ío¦¦, a¦ vcner arc Vice Versa. Jesos ex¦¦airs ¦ha¦
¨ar,cre vhc ¦ccls a¦ a vcnar ¦os¦ío¦¦, has a¦reac,
ccnni¦¦ec aco¦¦er, vi¦h her ir his hear¦ (MATTHEW 5:27)'. ¯he
s¦arcarc here is hi_h ícr a reascr. Vh, is ¦he va, ,co ¦ccl a¦
arc¦her ¦erscr sc in¦cr¦ar¦? Lecaose ¨ií ¦he e,e is c¦ear arc
¦he e,e is ¦ore, ¦he vhc¦e Lcc, vi¦¦ Le ío¦¦ cí ¦i_h¦' MATTHEW
22:22. /re ,co í¦¦ir_ ,cor Lcc, vi¦h ¦i_h¦ cr carlress?
Lcclir_ a¦ ¦crrc_ra¦h, is sir. Va¦chir_ ¦evc ncVies is sir.
2TIMOTHY 2:22 ir ¦he ¦ev LiVir_ ¯rars¦a¦icr irs¦roc¦s Le¦ieVers
¦c ¨ror írcn ar,¦hir_ ¦ha¦ s¦irs o¦ ,co¦hío¦ ¦os¦.' ¯here are rc
exce¦¦icrs vher i¦ ccnes ¦c vha¦ ,co Viev.
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acccrcir_ ¦c ¦he s¦arcarcs ,co cc. ¦ec¦¦e vhc ccr'¦ lrcv
Ccc sin¦¦, cc rc¦ lrcv Le¦¦er. `co reec ¦c Levare cí
¦ec¦¦e vhc ¦rcíess ¦c ¦cVe Ccc Lo¦ ccr'¦ ¦iVe ¦ile Jesos.
BE TRAHSPORME0
¯he cr¦, va, ,co vi¦¦ Le aL¦e ¦c nair¦air ¦hese arcier¦
Lcorcaries is ¦c Le ¦rarsícrnec L, char_ir_ ¦he va, ,co
¦hirl. `co cc ¦his L, recc_rizir_, rencVir_ arc re¦¦acir_
orc¦ear ¦hco_h¦s. ¦cnars ¹2.2 sa,s, ¨cc rc¦ Le ccrícrnec
¦c ¦his vcr¦c, Lo¦ Le ¦rarsícrnec L, ¦he rerevir_ cí ,cor
nirc.' `co are ¦ile ¦he vcr¦c vher ,co ¦hirl ¦ile ¦he vcr¦c.
¯his is vh, char_ir_ ex¦erra¦ as¦ec¦s cí ,cor ¦iíe
Lo¦ ccr¦iroir_ ¦c achere ¦c vcr¦c¦, ¦hi¦csc¦hies
is rc¦hir_ Lo¦ Lea¦ir_ ¦he air. You must
changè your thought liíè. ¦ai¦ore ¦c
¦o¦ a s¦c¦ ¦c or_cc¦, ¦hco_h¦s arc iceas ¦eacs
¦c cece¦¦icr arc ar iraLi¦i¦, ¦c ciscerr ¦he vi¦¦
cí Ccc. ¦cnars ex¦¦airs ¦ha¦ ,co nos¦ char_e
¦he va, ,co ¦hirl ir crcer ¦c ¨¦rcVe vha¦ is ¦ha¦
_ccc arc acce¦¦aL¦e arc ¦eríec¦ vi¦¦ cí Ccc.' `cor
aLi¦i¦, ¦c ccr¦rc¦ ,cor ¦hco_h¦s cirec¦¦,
iríoerces ,cor orcers¦arcir_ cí
Ccc's vi¦¦ ícr ,cor ¦iíe.
BOUH0ARY 4St AVOI0 IMMORAL PRIEH0S
“I wrote to you in my epistle not to keep company with sexually
immoral people. Yet I certainly did not mean with the sexually
immoral people of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners,
or idolaters, since then you would need to go out of the world. But
now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named
a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a
reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a
person.” —J CORINTHIANS 5:9-JJ
¯his is ¦he ¦as¦ Lcorcar, ve vi¦¦ ¦ccl a¦. Lcr'¦ har_ co¦ vi¦h
sexoa¦¦, inncra¦ Le¦ieVers. ¯his is Ver, sin¦¦e. `co reec ¦c
co¦ cíí íriercshi¦s vi¦h ¦ec¦¦e vhc ca¦¦ ¦hense¦Ves Chris¦iars
Lo¦ ccr¦iroe ¦c ccn¦rcnise ¦heir sexoa¦ s¦arcarcs.
/_air, ¦he LiL¦e cis¦ir_oishes Le¦veer Le¦ieVers arc
rcrLe¦ieVers ir ¦his irs¦arce. ¦¦ is ¦ernissiL¦e ¦c
haVe rcrChris¦iar íriercs vhc ccr'¦ ¦iVe

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¦c¦ ir¦c cor nircs vi¦hco¦ varrir_.
/rer'¦ ,co _ra¦eío¦ ¦ha¦ ,co ccr'¦
haVe a ci_i¦a¦ reacer Lcarc cr ,cor
ícreheac?¦ ¯he LiL¦e irs¦roc¦s ,co ¦c
_irc o¦ soch ¦hco_h¦s. Lcr'¦ ¦e¦ ¦hcse
¦hco_h¦s ¦ir_er. ¦ar, ,cor_ ¦ec¦¦e
are ¦alir_ ¦he ¦cr_ rcac ¦c ¦ori¦,
Lecaose ¦he, Le¦ieVe in¦ore ¦hco_h¦s
¦c Le harn¦ess. lí you oon't
cast thèm oown, impurè
thoughts will prooucè
wrong actions in your
liíè. / ¦hco_h¦ ¦ha¦ Le_irs as a nere
cis¦rac¦icr vi¦¦ eVer¦oa¦¦, s¦eer ,co ir
¦he vrcr_ cirec¦icr. Vrcr_ cirec¦icrs
reso¦¦ ir ce¦cors, ce¦cors ¦eac ¦c vrcr_
ces¦ira¦icrs, arc vrcr_ ces¦ira¦icrs
erc ir ces¦roc¦icr.
¦í ,co ccr'¦ char_e ¦he va, ,co ¦hirl,
¦hese arcier¦ Lcorcaries vi¦¦ sin¦¦, Le
a ¦is¦ cí ex¦erra¦ ro¦es arc res¦ric¦icrs.
COLOSSIANS 2:23 cescriLes ex¦erra¦ eíícr¦s
as ro¦es ¦ha¦ ¨na, seen vise Lecaose
¦he, recoire s¦rcr_ ceVc¦icr, ¦icos
se¦íceria¦, arc seVere Lcci¦, cisci¦¦ire'
Lo¦ ¨¦rcVice rc he¦¦ ir ccrcoerir_ a
¦erscr's eVi¦ cesires.'
GIR0 UP THE LOIHS OP YOUR MIH0
¦r J PETER J:J3, ¦e¦er irs¦roc¦s Chris¦iars ¦c ¨_irc o¦ ¦he ¦cirs cí
¦¦heir] nirc.' ¯his is a Lizarre s¦a¦ener¦ Lecaose, ¦as¦ ¦ine
¦ checlec, ¦he ¦cirs arc ¦he nirc are ¦cca¦ec ir ccn¦¦e¦e¦,
ciííerer¦ ¦ar¦s cí ¦he Lcc,. Vher ¦ vas a Lc, n, cac osec
¦c sa,, ¨¯cr, Leícre ,co vere Lcrr ,co vere ir n, ¦cirs.' ¦,
res¦crse vas a¦va,s, ¨Lac¦ ¦ ccr'¦ var¦ ¦c lrcv aLco¦ ,cor
¦cirs¦ Lcr'¦ ¦e¦¦ ne aLco¦ ,cor ¦cirs¦ ¯ha¦'s veirc¦' Lcirs reíer
¦c ¦he re¦rccoc¦iVe area cí ¦he Lcc,, Lo¦ ¦he LiL¦e in¦¦ies
¦ha¦ ¦here are ¦cirs ir ¦he nirc. `cor ¦hco_h¦s haVe ¦cirs?
`es¦ ¦r íac¦, ¦he ¦hco_h¦ ,co are ¦hirlir_ ri_h¦ rcv has ¦cirs.
Evèry thought has rèproouctivè powèr
inhèrènt within it. ¯cne ¦ec¦¦e are orcer ¦he
in¦ressicr ¦ha¦ ¦he, car ¦iVe cre va, vhi¦e ¦hirlir_ arc¦her.
¦ec¦¦e ac¦oa¦¦, Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ i¦ is ¦cssiL¦e ¦c carr, cr secre¦
íar¦asies ir ¦heir nirc arc s¦i¦¦ ¦iVe ¦ile a nar cr vcnar cí
Ccc. Le assorec ¦ha¦ ,cor ¦hco_h¦s vi¦¦ ca¦ch o¦ vi¦h ,co
arc Le eVicercec ir ¦he va, ,co ¦iVe ,cor ¦iíe.
¯he vcrc ¨_irc' vas osec ir arcier¦ /siar co¦¦ore ¦c cescriLe
ar irciVicoa¦'s _a¦herir_ o¦ cí a ¦cr_ ícvir_ rcLe. Vher
enLarlir_ cr a ¦corre,, a ¦erscr vco¦c ose ¦ea¦her s¦ra¦s
¦c _irc o¦ ¦heir rcLe sc ¦ha¦ ¦he, vco¦c Le orhircerec
ir ¦he ¦rel. ¦r ¦he sane va,, vher ,co Le_ir a ¦orsoi¦ cí
¦ori¦, ,co haVe ¦c s¦ra¦ ccvr in¦ore ¦hco_h¦s arc _irc o¦
ina_ira¦icrs ir crcer ¦c ircrease ,cor aercc,ranics arc
eííec¦iVeress. ¦ an Ver, ¦eer, cí ¦he rarccn ¦hco_h¦s ¦ha¦
ror ¦hrco_h ¦he nirc Lecaose ¦he, haVe ces¦roc¦iVe ¦cver
vi¦hir ¦hen. Ve a¦¦ haVe ncner¦s vher ras¦, ¦hco_h¦s
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¦í ,cor ¦ori¦, has Leer recocec ¦c a ¦is¦ cí res¦ric¦icrs, ,co
haVe ¦ini¦ec scne¦hir_ ¦ha¦ is near¦ ¦c Le so¦erra¦ora¦ ¦c
,cor ra¦ora¦ eíícr¦. ¯he LiL¦e ¦eaches ¦ha¦ ro¦es seen vise
Lecaose ¦he, recoire s¦rcr_ ceVc¦icr Lo¦ ¦he, are ireííec¦iVe
ir ¦rccocir_ ir¦erra¦ char_e. `co car research se¦íhe¦¦
s¦ra¦e_ies arc a¦¦¦, seVer s¦e¦s ¦c ccir_ ¦his cr cVerccnir_
¦ha¦ Lo¦ ir ¦he erc ,co vi¦¦ s¦i¦¦ Le vres¦¦ir_ ¦he sane íesh¦,
cesires.
¯c, hcv are ,co _cir_ ¦c ¦iVe ¦ore? Chccsir_ rc¦ ¦c ¦ccl
a¦ ¦crrc_ra¦h, is in¦cr¦ar¦ Lo¦ rc¦ ¦he o¦¦ina¦e sc¦o¦icr.
Your purity must start on thè insioè.
¦, ir¦er¦icr arc ¦ra,er ícr ,co is ¦ha¦ ,co vi¦¦ Le ir¦erra¦¦,
arc ex¦erra¦¦, ¦rarsícrnec as ,co ccrsicer ¦hese arcier¦
Lcorcaries arc a¦¦¦, ¦hen ¦c ,cor ¦iíe. ¯hese aLsc¦o¦es vere
se¦ o¦ ícr ,cor secori¦,, sa¦isíac¦icr, ío¦í¦¦ner¦, arc L¦essir_,
arc ¦he, ¦rcVice ¦he ícorca¦icr írcn vhich ,co car nale
vise cecisicrs arc ciscerr ¦he vi¦¦ cí Ccc. LVer ií ,co haVe
¦iVec o¦ ¦c ¦his ¦cir¦ co¦sice cí ¦hese _oice¦ires, ¦here is
hc¦e ícr ,cor ¦hirlir_ arc LehaVicr ¦c Le ¦rarsícrnec arc
a¦i_rec vi¦h Ccc¦, s¦arcarcs. Ccc ex¦ercs _race ¦cvarc ,co
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¦ var¦ ¦c ccrc¦oce L, ¦a¦lir_ vi¦h ,co aLco¦ ca¦ir_, re¦a¦ir_,
arc re¦a¦icrshi¦s. ¯his is a ¦rac¦ica¦ cha¦¦er ¦ha¦ is ¦er¦irer¦
¦c ¦he s¦a_e cí ¦iíe nar, cí ,co are ir arc ¦ an exci¦ec ¦c
share LiL¦ica¦¦, Lasec re¦a¦icrshi¦ _oice¦ires vi¦h ,co.
/¦ ¦his ¦cir¦ ,co haVe Le_or ¦c aclrcv¦ec_e ¦he c¦¦csi¦e
sex, ,co haVe _cre ¦hrco_h ¦oLer¦, arc haVe ccne ¦c ¦he
rea¦iza¦icr ¦ha¦ ner arc vcner are rc¦ ¦he sane. LVer¦oa¦¦,,
,co vco¦c ¦ile ¦c _e¦ narriec. ¦ haVe reVer ne¦ a ,cor_
¦erscr vhc is ¦cclir_ ícrvarc ¦c _cir_ ¦hrco_h ¦vc cr ¦hree
narria_es. ¦ ccr'¦ lrcv ar, sir_¦e ¦ec¦¦e searchir_ ícr a
re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦ha¦ vi¦¦ ¦eaVe ¦hen vi¦h a Lrcler hear¦. LVer,
¦erscr is cesircos cí a vhc¦escne re¦a¦icrshi¦, a rcnar¦ic
re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦ha¦ vi¦¦ ¦rcVice sa¦isíac¦icr arc ío¦í¦¦ner¦ ícr a
¦iíe¦ine.
`co na, haVe rc¦icec ¦ha¦ hea¦¦h, re¦a¦icrshi¦s ccr'¦
ha¦¦er L, accicer¦ cr cccor ccircicer¦a¦¦,. ¯he va, ,co
Le_ir ,cor rcnar¦ic re¦a¦icrshi¦ car ceíre i¦s cora¦icr. ¦r
¦his cha¦¦er, ¦ an _cir_ ¦c share vi¦h ,co ¦er s¦a_es ¦ haVe
cLserVec ncs¦ ha¦¦, arc hea¦¦h, cco¦¦es _c ¦hrco_h as
¦ar¦ cí a ca¦ir_ arc na¦ir_ re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦rc_ressicr.
/cccrcir_ ¦c PROVERBS J8:22, ¨he vhc írcs a viíe írcs a _ccc
¦hir_ arc cL¦airs íaVcr írcn ¦he Lcrc.' Leícre ncVir_ cr ve
reec ¦c exanire ¦he cri_ira¦ nearir_ cí ¦he vcrcs osec ir
¦his Verse Lecaose i¦ vco¦c Le eas, ¦c ¦ale ¦his scri¦¦ore a¦
íace Va¦oe a reach a íao¦¦, ccrc¦osicr. Les¦ ,co nisir¦er¦re¦
¯c¦cncr's s¦a¦ener¦ arc Ver¦ore co¦ cr a ces¦era¦e coes¦
ícr a s¦cose, ¦e¦ ne ¦cir¦ co¦ ¦ha¦ ¦he vcrc ¨írc' ¦i¦era¦¦,
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,co are sexoa¦¦, ccn¦a¦iL¦e. ¯och ar
arrar_ener¦ is irccrsis¦er¦ vi¦h Ccc's
cri_ira¦ ¦¦ar.
Ccc var¦s ,co ¦c ex¦erierce naxinon
ío¦í¦¦ner¦ arc, as ,cor Crea¦cr, ¬e
lrcvs exac¦¦, vha¦ vi¦¦ Lrir_ ,co
¦c,. ¦ recer¦¦, reac a na_azire ar¦ic¦e
aLco¦ a rev¦,ca¦ir_ ce¦eLri¦, cco¦¦e
arc rea¦izec ¦ha¦ ¦he, vish ¦he, vere
¦iVir_ n, ¦iíe. ¯he, vish ¦ha¦ ¦he, cco¦c
ex¦erierce ¦cVe ¦he va, ¦ cc ir n,
re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h n, viíe. ¯he, are
¦cclir_ ícr vha¦ ¦ haVe ¬ naxinon
ío¦í¦¦ner¦ arc sa¦isíac¦icr. ¦, viíe is
¦he cr¦, vcnar ¦ haVe eVer he¦c harcs
vi¦h arc ¦he cr¦, vcnar ¦ haVe s¦e¦¦
vi¦h. Vher ¦ s¦erc ¦ine vi¦h Che¦sea
¦ an rc¦ ¦hirlir_ aLco¦ ¦reVicos
re¦a¦icrshi¦s. Ve cic rc¦ reach ¦his
¦eVe¦ cí ir¦inac, L, ha¦¦ers¦arce.
Ve ¦a¦¦errec cor re¦a¦icrshi¦ aí¦er
LiL¦ica¦ ¦rirci¦¦es arc hac ¦he serse ¦c
aLice L, ¦he _oice¦ires ve es¦aL¦ishec
a¦ ¦he crse¦ cí cor re¦a¦icrshi¦. Ve
are correr¦¦, rea¦ir_ ¦he Lereí¦s cí
¦hcse cecisicrs. `co haVe a sini¦ar
chcice ¦c nale. Cre c¦¦icr vco¦c Le
¦c ¦iVe vi¦hco¦ Lcorcaries ícr ¦he rex¦
seVera¦ ,ears arc eVer¦oa¦¦, reach ¦he
nears ¨¦c ccne ¦c a¦ ¦he erc cí a
¦rc_ressicr'. `co ccr'¦ vale o¦ cre
ncrrir_ arc cecice ¦c írc a hosLarc
cr viíe. /r a¦¦rc¦ria¦e ¦rccess ¦ha¦
cco¦¦es nos¦ _c ¦hrco_h Le_irs vher
¦vc ¦ec¦¦e Leccne a¦¦rac¦ec ¦c
each c¦her, re¦a¦e res¦ec¦ío¦¦, ¦c cre
arc¦her, se¦ re¦a¦icrshi¦ s¦arcarcs, arc
eVer¦oa¦¦, narr,.
THE IMPORTAHCE OP
0ATIHG RIGHT
LVer,cre var¦s a ha¦¦, narria_e.
Lrícr¦ora¦e¦,, ¦ haVe cLserVec cco¦¦es
vhc s¦ro__¦e ¦c ex¦erierce ío¦í¦¦ner¦ ir
narria_e Lecaose ¦he, cicr'¦ _c aLco¦
ca¦ir_ ¦he ri_h¦ va,. ¦¦ is ícc¦ish ¦c
Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ,co car ca¦e irres¦crsiL¦,
¦her er¦er ir¦c a hea¦¦h, narria_e. ¦í
,co car'¦ ¦¦a, ve¦¦ ir ¦he nircr ¦ea_oes
,co vcr'¦ Le aL¦e ¦c íorc¦icr ir ¦he
na¦cr ¦ea_oes. La¦ir_ is ar in¦cr¦ar¦
issoe Lecaose i¦ has ¦he ¦c¦er¦ia¦ ¦c
aííec¦ ,cor narria_e.
GO0 CREATE0 PAMILY
Ccc es¦aL¦ishec ¦he íani¦, ori¦.
¦ani¦, is sacrec ¦c Ccc. ¦ Le¦ieVe ir
¦he sarc¦i¦, cí narria_e Le¦veer cre
nar arc cre vcnar. ¦ Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ ¦he
narria_e Lec is hc¦,. ¦ Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ i¦
is ¦cssiL¦e ¦c ex¦erierce ¦c¦a¦ sexoa¦
ío¦í¦¦ner¦ ir ¦he narria_e Lec. ¯his is
¦he va, Ccc ir¦ercec i¦ ¦c Le. ¦ ccr'¦
ccrccre ¦iVir_ vi¦h scnecre cí ¦he
c¦¦csi¦e sex Leícre narria_e vi¦h ¦he
¦or¦cse cí cisccVerir_ vhe¦her cr rc¦

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¦ile scnecre, ,co liss írs¦, haVe sex,
¦her cecice vhere ¦he re¦a¦icrshi¦ is
_cir_. /s Chris¦iars, ve lrcv ¦ha¦ ¦his
¦rc_ressicr is rc¦ ri_h¦¦ Ve Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦
sex is ncre ¦har a Lic¦c_ica¦ ac¦ ¦ha¦
nee¦s a Lic¦c_ica¦ cesire. Ve Le¦ieVe
ir narria_e arc ¦he sarc¦i¦, cí sex.
Ve acVcca¦e res¦ec¦ir_ a ¦erscr ícr
vhc ¦he, are, rc¦ ¦os¦ acnirir_ ¦he va,
¦heir slir is s¦re¦chec cVer ¦heir sle¦e¦a¦
írane.
¯c ií ,co are rc¦ ¦alir_ coes írcn
¬c¦¦,vccc, vhere cc ,co s¦ar¦ vher
i¦ ccnes ¦c ca¦ir_ arc na¦ir_? ¯he
LiL¦e cces rc¦ ¦rcVice s¦eciíc s¦e¦s
ícr ca¦ir_ re¦a¦icrshi¦s Lecaose i¦
vas cesi_rec ¦c ¦rarscerc ¦ine arc
co¦¦ore. ¯he ¦er re¦a¦icrshi¦ s¦a_es
¦ an _cir_ ¦c ir¦rccoce ¦c ,co are
n, ir¦er¦re¦a¦icr cí ¦he va, cco¦¦es
shco¦c _c aLco¦ ca¦ir_ ir correr¦
co¦¦ore osir_ LiL¦ica¦ ¦rirci¦¦es as ¦he
s¦arcarc. ¦ ccr'¦ Le¦ieVe ¦hese s¦a_es
¦c Le aLsc¦o¦es Lo¦ ¦ an ccrícer¦
¦ha¦ ií ,co in¦¦ener¦ ¦hen ,co vi¦¦ Le
revarcec arc ¦iVe vi¦hco¦ re_re¦.
ccrc¦osicr ¦ha¦ ¦ vas ri_h¦ a¦¦ a¦cr_. /
Le¦¦er a¦¦erra¦iVe vco¦c Le chccsir_
rc¦ ¦c vas¦e ,cor ¦ine arc ¦o¦ ir¦c
¦rac¦ice ¦he ¦rirci¦¦es ¦ an _cir_
¦c share vi¦h ,co. ¦í ,co ¦ale ¦hese
¦rirci¦¦es sericos¦, ,co car Le sa¦isíec,
ío¦í¦¦ec, arc L¦essec ¬ ¦ _oarar¦ee i¦¦
WHERE TO GO PROM HEREt
RELATIOHSHIP STAGES
¦cs¦ cí ,co vco¦c a_ree ¦ha¦ narria_e
is a sacrec irs¦i¦o¦icr. `co ¦rcLaL¦,
eVer orcers¦arc ¦ha¦ ¦he ca¦ir_
re¦a¦icrshi¦ si_riícar¦¦, in¦ac¦s ¦he
soccess cí a narria_e. Coes¦icrs
arise vher i¦ ccnes ¦c iri¦ia¦ir_ a
re¦a¦icrshi¦. ¦ar, are ccríosec
ccrcerrir_ ¦he va, ¦c _c aLco¦ _e¦¦ir_
¦c lrcv ¦he ¦erscr ¦he, are ir¦eres¦ec
ir. / Li_ issoe ir chorches is vhe¦her
ve are ¨ca¦ers' cr ¨ccor¦ers.' /re ve
re¦a¦ers, na¦ers, íriercs, rc¦ íriercs,
ncre ¦har íriercs, rcnar¦ic, rc¦
rcnar¦ic? ¦í ve ccr'¦ res¦crc ¦c ¦hese
coes¦icrs vi¦h LiL¦ica¦¦, Lasec arsvers,
re¦a¦icrshi¦s vi¦hir ¦he chorch vi¦¦
erc o¦ nirrcrir_ ¦hcse ir ¬c¦¦,vccc.
¦ecia has ¦ao_h¦ os ¦ha¦, vher ,co
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THE PAITH PERIO0
/s ciscossec ir ¦he ¦reVicos cha¦¦er, ¦he LiL¦e ¦eaches ¦ha¦
Le¦ieVers arc rcrLe¦ieVers are rc¦ ¦c Le orecoa¦¦, ,clec.
Vher ,co Leccne a¦¦rac¦ec ¦c scnecre ,co reec ¦c s¦erc
¦ine eVa¦oa¦ir_ ¦he soLs¦arce cí ¦heir íai¦h. Lces ¦his ¦erscr
haVe a _eroire íai¦h ir Jesos Chris¦ ¦ha¦ is eVicercec ir
¦he va, ¦he, ¦iVe? Leícre ,co ¦¦ar ar e¦aLcra¦e narria_e
¦rc¦csa¦, i¦ is cri¦ica¦ ¦ha¦ ,co assess vha¦ lirc cí re¦a¦icrshi¦
¦he, haVe vi¦h Jesos. ¦í ,cor res¦crse is, ¨¦'n ¦re¦¦, sore
she's a Chris¦iar. ¯he vears a _c¦c recl¦ace vi¦h a crcss cr
i¦. ¯he eVer _ces ¦c ¬arce¦'s ¦essiah eVer, ,ear a¦ Chris¦nas
¦ine. ¯he nos¦ Le a Chris¦iar,' ,co Le¦¦er s¦e¦ Lacl. ¦í i¦ isr'¦
cLVicos írcn a cis¦arce ¦ha¦ a ¦erscr is a íc¦¦cver cí Chris¦,
i¦ is ¦ile¦, ¦ha¦ ¦he, arer'¦. Cc rc íor¦her ií ¦ha¦ ¦orrs co¦ ¦c Le
¦he case¦
¦ haVe hac ¦he
acVar¦a_e cí
lrcvir_ n, viíe
Che¦sea sirce ve
vere ir ¦he chorch
rorser,. Ve _rev
o¦ a¦¦ercir_
chorch ¦c_e¦her
or¦i¦ n, íani¦,
ncVec ava, vher
¦ vas ¹o ,ears c¦c.
LVer aí¦er ¦ha¦
¦cir¦ ¦ sav her ¦ericcica¦¦,.
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THE PRIEH0SHIP PERIO0
Cre cí n, íaVcri¦e re¦a¦icrshi¦ s¦a_es is ¦he íriercshi¦
¦ericc. / íriercshi¦ nos¦ Le es¦aL¦ishec Leícre a¦¦rac¦icr
is ccnnorica¦ec. ¯he ícorca¦icr ícr a s¦rcr_ narria_e is a
_rea¦ íriercshi¦. ¦, viíe arc ¦ _c co¦ cr a ca¦e crce a veel
arc ¦ an cí¦er cisa¦¦cir¦ec ¦c cLserVe c¦her cco¦¦es si¦¦ir_
ir res¦aorar¦s vi¦h rc¦hir_ ¦c sa, ¦c each c¦her. Le¦ieVe i¦
cr rc¦, ¦he na¦cri¦, cí ,cor narriec ¦iíe vi¦¦ rc¦ Le s¦er¦
haVir_ sex¦ ¦arria_e is aLco¦ ¦iVir_ ¦iíe vi¦h arc¦her ¦erscr
cr a cai¦, Lasis. ¦í ,co íai¦ ¦c es¦aL¦ish a íriercshi¦ ear¦, cr
i¦ vi¦¦ Le in¦cssiL¦e ícr ,co ¦c _c ¦hrco_h ¦iíe ¦c_e¦her. `cor
re¦a¦icrshi¦ nos¦ Le Loi¦¦ cr ncre ¦har ¦h,sica¦ a¦¦rac¦icr ií
,co ir¦erc ¦c ¦rc_ress ar, íor¦her.
¦ vi¦¦ reVer ícr_e¦ ¦he veelerc ir LecenLer cí ¹998 vher
Che¦sea arc her íani¦, cane írcn ¦cr¦¦arc, Cre_cr ¦c
¦ s¦eciíca¦¦, renenLer ¦reachir_ a¦ a Joricr ¬i_h Can¦
ir ¦cr¦¦arc, Cre_cr vhere Che¦sea vas vcrlir_ as ar
acniris¦ra¦iVe assis¦ar¦. ¦ vasr'¦ ir¦eres¦ec ir her rcnar¦ica¦¦,
a¦ ¦he ¦ine Lo¦ reca¦¦ ¦hirlir_, ¨Vcv¦ Che¦sea has a _rea¦
re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h Ccc.' ¦ eVer ¦ra,ec cVer her a¦ cre cí
¦he serVices, cec¦arir_ ¦ha¦ she vas a vcnar cí Ccc vhc
vco¦c cre ca, haVe a niris¦r, cí her cvr arc cicr'¦ reec a
hosLarc ¦c ccn¦¦e¦e her. ¬cv ircric¦
`co vi¦¦ _e¦ ,corse¦í ir¦c ¦rcoL¦e ií ,co sli¦ ¦his írs¦ s¦e¦. ¦í
,co a¦¦en¦¦ ¦c ceVe¦c¦ a rcnar¦ic re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h scnecre
vhc has rc íai¦h ir Ccc ,co vi¦¦ erc o¦ cr ¦he vrcr_ ¦racl.
¦í ,co cVer¦ccl s¦a_e cre Lo¦ ccrcoc¦ ,corse¦í a¦¦rc¦ria¦e¦,
¦hrco_hco¦ ¦he renaircer cí ,cor ¦ine ¦c_e¦her, Ccc vi¦¦
Le oraL¦e ¦c hcrcr ¦he re¦a¦icrshi¦. ¦ ccr'¦ Le¦ieVe ir ¨íir¦
¦c ccrVer¦.' ¦'n rc¦ ir íaVcr cí ¨nissicrar, narria_e.' ¯och
s¦ra¦e_ies are rc¦ LiL¦ica¦.
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¯ea¦¦¦e, Vashir_¦cr ¦c Visi¦ n, íani¦, ícr ¦he
hc¦ica,s. ¯¦ercir_ ¦ine ¦c_e¦her corir_ ¦he
Chris¦nas seascr hac Leer a ¦raci¦icr ícr ,ears
Lo¦ scne¦hir_ vas ciííerer¦ ¦his ¦ine. Cr ¦his
¦ar¦ico¦ar veelerc Che¦sea arc ¦ ¦a¦lec ncre
¦har ve eVer hac ir ¦he ¦as¦. ¦¦ vas sc noch íor¦
Ve s¦er¦ ncs¦ cí ¦he Visi¦ har_ir_ co¦ vi¦h cor
íani¦ies as ve _c¦ ¦c lrcv each c¦her Le¦¦er. Cre
cí ¦he Les¦ va,s ¦c es¦aL¦ish a íriercshi¦ is ir a
_rco¦ se¦¦ir_. ¯¦ercir_ ¦ine vi¦h arc¦her ¦erscr
exc¦osiVe¦, car raise ¦rena¦ore ex¦ec¦a¦icrs arc
re¦a¦icrshi¦ ceíri¦icrs car Leccne orc¦ear. ¯he
saíes¦ arc easies¦ va, ¦c crea¦e a íriercshi¦ is ¦c
har_ co¦ ir _rco¦s. ¦cv ¦ scorc ¦ile ,cor ncn cr
cac cr ,cor cis¦ar¦ orc¦e vhc is a ¦as¦cr, ccr'¦ ¦?
THE PAMILY PERIO0
¯his s¦a_e cí a re¦a¦icrshi¦ car Le easi¦,
cVer¦cclec, ¦ar¦ico¦ar¦, ií ,co are cVer ei_h¦eer
(vhich ,co ¦rcLaL¦, shco¦c Le vher ,co Le_ir
¦he ¦rccess cí ca¦ir_).
¦ haVe ,e¦ ¦c ccne acrcss a scri¦¦ore ¦ha¦ reacs,
¨¯hos sai¦h ¦he Lcrc, '¦cv ¦ha¦ ,co are ei_h¦eer
,ears c¦c ,co are íree ¦c nale a¦¦ ,cor cvr
cecisicrs,'.
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THE PEELIHGS PERIO0
Cer¦¦ener, ,co'Ve _c¦ ¦c haVe ¦he _o¦s ¦c ccnnorica¦e
,cor ir¦er¦icrs. Lacies, ií ,co are a¦¦rac¦ec ¦c a _o, vhc
a¦¦ears ¦c share ,cor ir¦eres¦ Lo¦ ccesr'¦ haVe ¦he ccora_e
¦c ccnnorica¦e his íee¦ir_s ¦cvarc ,co, crc¦ hin ¦ile a Lac
haLi¦. ¦er reec ¦c haVe erco_h serse arc ciscerrner¦ ¦c
recc_rize arc aclrcv¦ec_e ¦ha¦ s¦ercir_ ¦ine ¦c_e¦her
crea¦es scne ¦eVe¦ cí enc¦icra¦ ccnni¦ner¦. ¯och a
rea¦iza¦icr shco¦c nc¦iVa¦e a nar ¦c Lrir_ ceíri¦icr ¦c ¦he
re¦a¦icrshi¦. Co,s, ,co are rc¦ reac, ícr a re¦a¦icrshi¦ ií
,co are ccr¦er¦ ¦c ccr¦iroe íir¦ir_ vi¦hco¦ sharir_ íee¦ir_s.
¦ee¦ir_s arc ir¦er¦icrs reec ¦c Le ccnnorica¦ec ir ¦he
¦rc¦er ¦inir_.
¦ vco¦c ¦ile ¦c sa, ¦ha¦ ¦ harc¦ec ¦his s¦e¦ ¦ile a rea¦ ¦rc, Lo¦
¦ha¦ vasr'¦ exac¦¦, ¦he case. Che¦sea arc ¦ vere ¦a¦lir_ cr
¦he ¦hcre cr Chris¦nas ca, vher ¦ íra¦¦, _c¦ o¦ ¦he ccora_e
¦c ¦e¦¦ her ¦ha¦ ¦ vas _cir_ ¦c asl ícr her cac's ¦ernissicr ¦c
¦orsoe a re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h her. ¨¯c cces ¦ha¦ near ,co ¦ile
ne?' vas Che¦sea's res¦crse. ¦ so¦¦cse ¦ cco¦c haVe Leer
ncre e¦ccoer¦ ir ¦he va, ¦ ccnnorica¦ec n, íee¦ir_s, Lo¦
¦he in¦cr¦ar¦ ¦hir_ vas ¦ha¦ ¦ sharec ¦hen.
THE POUH0ATIOH PERIO0
Crce ,co Le_ir sharir_ íee¦ir_s a ícorca¦icr reecs ¦c Le
¦aic. Vher íee¦ir_s ccne ir¦c ¦¦a, harcs var¦ ¦c ¦coch
¦hir_s, ¦i¦s var¦ ¦c liss. ¦í ,co ccr'¦ ¦a, a ícorca¦icr ícr
¦e_arc¦ess cí ,cor a_e cr seascr cí
¦iíe, ,co nos¦ irVc¦Ve ¦arer¦s arc
íani¦, ir ,cor re¦a¦icrshi¦ L, va, cí
irVi¦ir_ ¦heir ir¦o¦ arc seelir_ ¦heir
a¦¦rcVa¦. ¦ ccr'¦ care ií i¦ ¦ales or¦i¦
,co are ícr¦,six ¦c írc ,cor sco¦
na¦e¦ Ca¦¦ o¦ ,cor ei_h¦, ,ear c¦c cac
arc irc¦oce hin ir ¦he ¦rccess. ¯here
has ¦c Le a íani¦, s¦a_e¦
Vh, is irVc¦Vir_ ,cor íani¦, sc in¦cr¦ar¦? ¦ani¦,
nenLers lrcv ,co Le¦¦er ¦har ar,cre e¦se. LVer rcr
Chris¦iar íani¦, nenLers var¦ ¦he Les¦ ícr ,co arc reec
¦c Le irc¦ocec. ¯his s¦a_e ccnes Leícre ¦he rex¦, vhich is
¨íee¦ir_s', Lecaose ¦he ncner¦ íee¦ir_s are ccnnorica¦ec
ccnni¦ner¦ Le_irs ¦c ícrn. ¦¦ is a¦¦rc¦ria¦e ¦c receiVe ¦he
so¦¦cr¦ cí ,cor íani¦, Leícre ,co s¦i¦¦ ,cor íee¦ir_s. ¯his
¦rccess shco¦c a¦sc irc¦oce nenLers cí ,cor s¦iri¦oa¦ íani¦,,
soch as ¦as¦crs arc sna¦¦ _rco¦ ¦eacers.
¦ lrev ¦ vas cr ¦he ri_h¦ ¦racl vher ¦ sharec n, íee¦ir_s
ícr Che¦sea vi¦h n, ncn, cac, sis¦er, arc ,co¦h ¦as¦cr, arc
a¦¦ vere so¦¦cr¦iVe cí n, ¦¦ars ¦c ¦orsoe her. ¦earvhi¦e,
Che¦sea vas ¦a¦lir_ vi¦h her íani¦, arc ¦eacers aLco¦ ne. ¦
vish ¦ vco¦c haVe lrcvr ¦ha¦ a¦ ¦he ¦ine Lecaose i¦ vco¦c
haVe nace ¦he rex¦ s¦e¦ a ¦c¦ easier ícr ne.
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¦he c¦¦icr ¦c acni¦ irccn¦a¦iLi¦i¦,
arc a_ree rc¦ ¦c _c ar, íar¦her. ¦í ¦ha¦
ha¦¦ers ,co car s¦i¦¦ renair íriercs,
,co car hcrcr cre arc¦her eVer ií ,co
a¦¦erc ¦he sane chorch arc erc o¦
narr,ir_ ciííerer¦ ¦ec¦¦e. `co'Ve _c¦
¦c es¦aL¦ish ¦he ícorca¦icr. `co haVe
¦c ¦eaVe narlers cr ¦rees. ¯c íar ¦ haVe
_iVer ,co íVe narlers.
¦ an ¦rcoc ¦c re¦cr¦ ¦ha¦ ¦ hcrcrec ¦he
¦rc_ressicr, es¦aL¦ishec a¦¦rc¦ria¦e
Lcorcaries, arc res¦ec¦ec Che¦sea
vhi¦e ve ca¦ec. ¦í Che¦sea arc ¦ hac
Lrcler o¦ ¦he ri_h¦ Leícre cor veccir_
ve vco¦c haVe nace i¦ saíe¦, co¦ cí
¦he ícres¦. ¯ore, ¦hir_s vco¦c haVe
Leer orccnícr¦aL¦e ícr a ¦ine, Lo¦ ¦
vco¦c haVe Leer aL¦e ¦c ¦ccl her ir ¦he
e,es arc lrcv ¦ hac Va¦oec her as n,
_ir¦írierc.
THE PUH PERIO0
¦e¦a¦icrshi¦s shco¦c Le íor¦ `co shco¦c
er¦c, _e¦¦ir_ ¦c lrcv cre arc¦her,
_cir_ cr ca¦es, arc ¦a¦lir_. ¯e¦¦ir_
c¦ear s¦arcarcs a¦¦cvs ,co ¦c haVe
íor vher s¦ercir_ ¦ine ¦c_e¦her. ¦r
ca¦ir_ ,cor enc¦icrs vi¦¦ ro¦e ,cor
re¦a¦icrshi¦. Vha¦ cc ¦ near L,
ícorca¦icr? ¦'n reíerrir_ ¦c s¦arcarcs
,co are _cir_ ¦c aLice L, vhi¦e
ca¦ir_. `cor ícorca¦icr nos¦ ¦ire
o¦ vi¦h Ccc's Vcrc arc shco¦c Le
Lasec cr ¦he Lcorcaries ciscossec ir
¦he ¦as¦ cha¦¦er. ¯he ¦or¦cse cí ¦he
ícorca¦icr is ¦c lee¦ ,co vi¦hir ¦hcse
Lcorcaries. ¦ale ,cor Lcorcaries
c¦ear. ¦ reccnnerc nalir_ ,corse¦í
acccor¦aL¦e ¦c ,cor íani¦, arc
¦eacers. Cer¦¦ener, i¦ is ¦rinari¦, ,cor
res¦crsiLi¦i¦, ¦c iri¦ia¦e ¦he ícorca¦icr
s¦a_e.
`co eVer Leer can¦ir_ cr hilir_?
Vher ¦ec¦¦e _c hilir_ vi¦hco¦ a na¦
cr a ccn¦ass ¦he, cí¦er ¦ie narlers
cr ¦rees sc ¦ha¦, rc na¦¦er hcv cee¦
ir¦c ¦he vcccs ¦he, Ver¦ore, ¦he, car
írc ¦heir va, co¦ cí ¦he ícres¦. ¯he
s¦a_es ¦ an ir¦rccocir_ ¦c ,co are
re¦a¦icrshi¦ narlers. ¦c na¦¦er hcv
irVc¦Vec ,co _e¦ vi¦h arc¦her ¦erscr,
,co car a¦va,s ¦orr arcorc arc írc
,cor va, co¦ cí ¦he ícres¦ cí rcnarce
arc re¦a¦icrshi¦. Le¦'s sa, ¦ha¦ ¦he ¦vc
cí ,co s¦ar¦ sharir_ íee¦ir_s Lo¦ ,cor
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Cerera¦icr Chorch ve haVe a sa,ir_. ¨íor isr'¦ íor or¦ess i¦'s
s¦i¦¦ íor ir ¦he ncrrir_.' ¯cncrrcv vi¦¦ ,co Le ¦rcoc cí ¦he
cecisicrs ,co nace ¦cca,? Vi¦¦ ,co re_re¦ ¦ha¦ ,co ¦cochec
her ¦here cr s¦a,ec co¦ ¦cc ¦a¦e? `co var¦ ¦c ¦ccl Lacl cr
,cor ca¦ir_ seascr as a ¦ine ¦ha¦ vas íor¦
¦, viíe ¦cVes ¦c _c hilir_ sc ¦ ¦¦arrec a hile ícr her
¦ver¦,írs¦ Lir¦hca,. ¦ ¦cclec o¦ cirec¦icrs ¦c ¦he ¦rai¦heac,
¦aclec a na¦, ¦acec o¦ n, hilir_ Lcc¦s, arc ve se¦ cíí. Ve
er¦c,ec ¦he car rice ¦c_e¦her arc vere sc exci¦ec aLco¦
¦he acVer¦ore Lo¦ reVer ercec o¦ írcir_ ¦he ¦rai¦¦ Vha¦ a
Lir¦hca,¦ Che¦sea arc ¦ hac íor vhi¦e ca¦ir_, eVer vher cor
¦¦ars cicr'¦ vcrl co¦.
THE PUTURE PERIO0
/í¦er ,co'Ve sharec íee¦ir_s, ¦aic a ícorca¦icr, arc are haVir_
íor ¦c_e¦her, i¦'s ¦ine ¦c ccrsicer vhere ¦he re¦a¦icrshi¦
is heacec. Cer¦¦ener, ,co reec ¦c iri¦ia¦e a ccrVersa¦icr
aLco¦ ¦he ío¦ore cí ,cor re¦a¦icrshi¦. ¯he ¦inir_ cí ¦his s¦a_e
is ciííerer¦ ícr eVer, cco¦¦e Lo¦ ¦here ccnes a ¦cir¦ vher
,co reec ¦c ¦a¦l aLco¦ ¦he cirec¦icr ¦he re¦a¦icrshi¦ is _cir_.
¦'n rc¦ in¦¦,ir_ ¦ha¦ ,co haVe ¦c Lrir_ o¦ ¦he soL¦ec¦ cí
narria_e, Lo¦ i¦ is cri¦ica¦ ¦ha¦ ,co ce¦ernire vha¦ ¦he ío¦ore
¦ccls ¦ile.
`co reec ¦c s¦erc ¦ine ir ¦ra,er arc na, eVer var¦ ¦c
ías¦. /¦¦cv Ccc ¦c s¦eal ¦c ,co aLco¦ ¦he re¦a¦icrshi¦. ¦í
,co arer'¦ _iVer c¦ear cirec¦icr írcn Ccc i¦ vco¦c Le vise ¦c
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¦ericc vhere ,co nos¦ sericos¦, ccrsicer ícr ¦he ¦as¦ ¦ine
¦he ccnni¦ner¦ ,co haVe nace ¦c cre arc¦her. Lc ,co
rea¦¦, var¦ ¦c íc¦¦cv ¦hrco_h vi¦h narr,ir_ ¦his ¦erscr?
LVer ií ,co reach ¦his ¦cir¦ Lo¦ íee¦ ,co are nalir_ a vrcr_
cecisicr ,co car Lacl co¦ vi¦h hcrcr. Lrícr¦ora¦e¦,, ¦ec¦¦e
ir chorch circ¦es seen ¦c Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ crce a cco¦¦e s¦ar¦s
ca¦ir_ ¦he, eVer¦oa¦¦, haVe ¦c _e¦ narriec. ¯his is rc¦
¦he case. `co reec ¦c va¦l ir cLecierce ¦c Ccc's vi¦¦ arc
eVa¦oa¦e vhe¦her cr rc¦ ¦his ¦ar¦ico¦ar re¦a¦icrshi¦ is ri_h¦ ícr
,co.
THE PAVOR PERIO0
¯his is vha¦ ,co'Ve Leer vai¦ir_ ícr ¬ a ¦ine ¦c er¦c, ¦he
íaVcr cí Ccc¦ ¨¯ore¦, ¦here is a revarc ícr ¦he ri_h¦ecos'
PSALM 58:JJ. /s a ¦as¦cr, i¦ is a ¦riVi¦e_e ¦c Le irVc¦Vec ir
narria_es arc cLserVe Ccc's íaVcr cr re¦a¦icrshi¦s. ¦'Ve
¦resicec cVer nar, veccir_s arc rc¦hir_ ccn¦ares vi¦h
va¦chir_ a ha¦¦, cco¦¦e ce¦eLra¦e ¦he Le_irrir_ cí a
narria_e re¦a¦icrshi¦ sorrcorcec L, ¦ec¦¦e vhc ¦cVe ¦hen.
¯och ¦ines cí ce¦eLra¦icr are a reso¦¦ cí ¦he íaVcr cí Ccc.
¦ Le¦ieVe ¦ha¦ i¦ is Ccc's ¦¦ar ícr ,co ¦c haVe a Leao¦iío¦
re¦a¦icrshi¦ arc ío¦í¦¦ir_ narria_e ¦ha¦ ¦as¦s a ¦iíe¦ine. Ccc
ir¦ercs ícr ,co ¦c ¦iVe ha¦¦i¦, eVer aí¦er. ¦ renirc ,co ¦hco_h,
¦ha¦ _ccc na¦ir_ s¦ar¦s vi¦h _ccc ca¦ir_.
s¦erc a seascr a¦ar¦ írcn cre arc¦her. ¦¦ is Le¦¦er ¦c Le saíe
¦har scrr,. ¦í ¦here is rc ío¦ore ir ¦he re¦a¦icrshi¦ ¦his is ¦he
¦ine ¦c íc¦¦cv ¦he narlers co¦ cí ¦he vcccs.
THE PIHAHCIAL PERIO0
/í¦er ,co'Ve ¦a¦lec aLco¦ ¦he ío¦ore ¦acies, ,co reec ¦c
ccrsicer ¦he s¦a¦e cí his írarces. ¦ lrcv he na, Le hc¦. ¦
lrcv ¦ha¦ vher he hc¦cs ,co ir his arns a¦¦ ,cor ¦rcoL¦es
seen ¦c ne¦¦ ava,, Lo¦ asl ,corse¦í, ¨Lces he haVe a
¦cL?' Lcr'¦ narr, scnecre vhc ccesr'¦ haVe ¦he aLi¦i¦,
¦c nair¦air en¦¦c,ner¦. Co,s, has ¦he vcnar ,co are
ccrsicerir_ narr,ir_ ¦o¦ her ¦iíe cr hc¦c ir search cí a nar
vhc car Lrir_ her ceíri¦icr arc cirec¦icr? ¦ cicr'¦ narr, ¦ha¦
lirc cí vcnar. ¦ lrev ¦ha¦ Che¦sea vas _cir_ ¦c char_e ¦he
vcr¦c vhe¦her ¦ narriec her cr rc¦ arc ¦ var¦ec ¦c ¦cir her
¦ean. `co haVe ¦c orcers¦arc ¦ha¦ ,co irciVicoa¦¦, haVe a
¦or¦cse co¦sice cí a re¦a¦icrshi¦ vi¦h arc¦her ¦erscr. Ccc
has a ¦¦ar ¦os¦ ícr ,co¦ ¯his is ¦rac¦ica¦. Vher ,co er¦er
ir¦c narria_e ,co Leccne írarcia¦¦, res¦crsiL¦e ¦c arc ícr
arc¦her ¦erscr. Lces he cr she haVe a ¦cL? ¦s he cr she ir
¦hcosarcs cí cc¦¦ars cí ccrsoner ceL¦? ¯his e¦ener¦ carrc¦
Le cVer¦cclec.
THE PIAHCE PERIO0
¯his is ¦he s¦a_e vhere ¦he Li_ coes¦icr is aslec. ¨Vi¦¦ ,co
narr, ne?' ¯his is a seascr cí ce¦eLra¦icr. ¦¦ is a¦sc ¦he

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Che¦sea arc ¦ ex¦erierce Ccc's íaVcr ir cor
narria_e arc cor ¦iVes. ¦aVcr shcvs o¦ ir ¦he
ícrn cí _rea¦ íriercshi¦, _ccc ccnnorica¦icr,
¦rcVisicr, arc ¦c¦a¦ ío¦í¦¦ner¦. ¦¦ is n, ¦ra,er
ícr ,co ¦ha¦ ,ears ccvr ¦he rcac ,co arc ,cor
s¦cose vi¦¦ si¦ acrcss ¦he ¦aL¦e írcn cre arc¦her
arc s¦i¦¦ haVe scne¦hir_ ¦c ¦ao_h aLco¦. ¦ var¦
,co ¦c ex¦erierce ¦he ccrícerce arc sa¦isíac¦icr
¦ha¦ ccnes írcn lrcvir_ ,co narriec ,cor Les¦
írierc. L, ¦his ¦cir¦ ,co shco¦c recc_rize ¦ha¦
Ccc hcrcrs arc revarcs hc¦iress arc cLecierce.
¦í ,co a¦¦cv Ccc ¦c renair a¦ ¦he cer¦er cí ,cor
re¦a¦icrshi¦s arc ccrcoc¦ ,corse¦í acccrcir_ ¦c
LiL¦ica¦ s¦arcarcs, ,co car ex¦ec¦ ¦ha¦ ¨_cccress
arc nerc, vi¦¦ íc¦¦cv ¦,co] a¦¦ ¦he ca,s cí ¦,cor]
¦iíe' (PSALM 23:ô).
¦ Le¦ieVe ,co car ¦iVe ¦ore.

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Chapter 1 ¯he Leao¦iío¦ /ííic¦icr
1 ¯hcn ¯. ¦airer, ¯he Lric_er Cerera¦icr. /nerica's
¯eccrc Lar_es¦ Cerera¦icr, Vha¦ ¯he, Le¦ieVe, ¬cv
¦c ¦each ¯hen (¦ashVi¦¦e, ¯¦. Lrcacnar 8 ¬c¦nar
¦oL¦ishers, ¹99¯).
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2 /¦arra ¦ash, ¦eacer's Li_es¦, /¦ri¦ 2OO-.
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