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4 annoying things men always do

Meghna Mukherjee,TNN | Dec 21, 2013, 12.00 AM IST

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Surely your guy is great, but there are certain things that he does that get you angry. Here is a list of the annoying things he does and how you can deal
with it

He texts during your date
Surely when you see him texting to someone or taking a business call when he's just supposed to be with you can surely get you annoyed.
Butrelationship experts say that this behaviour does not indicate him to be rude. And you don't have to get upset with this behaviour. You can always tell him
politely that you thought he'd be spending time with you and not worry about his work when he's out with you.

He says, 'I don't care' when you ask for his opinion
When guys have no clue about what you want, they go mute. So if you ask their opinion about something they don't know about - they resort to 'I don't care'.
Make sure that you let him know of your interests. In case he is bored and does not wish to respond - tell him that his opinion is of great importance to you.

He mostly stays quiet when he comes home from work
He's usually tired chasing deadlines during work. When he's back from work, make sure you give him some time to spend on his own. If you immediately
start bothering him with going out for dinner or talking to him - chances are he might get irritated with you. Being alone for sometime will give him some
time to liven up his spirits and recharge his mood before he gets talking to you.

He gets irritated with you when you take more time to get ready
This is very common. Guys usually take less time to get ready and once they are ready, they get bored waiting for you to get done. Make sure he has
something constructive to do once he's ready. Ask him to call up and check whether the reservation at the restaurant is done or ask him to take the dog for a
walk while you get ready in the meantime.

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10 mistakes men make in bed
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When it comes to what women want in bed, men tend to make serious avoidable mistakes like these

While you may give yourself pep talks before a lazy encounter or pat yourself on the back after a great time in bed, don't be too smug about knowing what
women want. A recent survey suggests that most men are not the skillful lovers they think themselves to be. When it comes to the fundamentals, men tend to
make some serious mistakes in the sack. Here are the 10 avoidable ones.

Silent play
No matter the circumstances, most men tend to be eerily silent during the entire act. You may think that's fine, but this makes your woman feel alienated. It
makes her wonder if she's actually pleasuring you. There's no need to exaggerate your feelings, but you can let your partner know you're enjoying her
company in a genuine way. The occasional moans and groans are not such a bad thing.

Foreplay is not a means to an end
Most men tend to breeze through it — the effortless kissing here and caressing there, as they undress. But in too much anticipation of a great act, you may
appear desperate to begin. And that won't score you any brownie points in the long run. Take it slowly. Enjoy every aspect of the encounter as you get to know
the woman you are with. Women enjoy a well-paced build-up — the making-out, the undressing, the reciprocal oral sex. This will also lead to a more fulfilling
encounter. And perhaps, a standing invitation for more.

Forget the big O
Besides, when you approach sex with a clear focus on only reaching an orgasm, you may lose sight of the path to the climactic moment. Don't pressure
yourself, or your partner, to hit the finish line as quickly as possible. Rather than rush it, why not enjoy the experience as a whole. You'll prolong your
pleasure, and your partner will feel like she's with a guy who actually knows what he's doing. The conclusion, though delayed, will be a lot more satisfying for
both.

Avoid the licking
Performing oral sex on a woman means quick licks at the labia majora, followed by brief, orgasm-inducing penetration with your tongue. However, while that
may seem enticing, the labial tonguelashing is not a technique that docs recommend. USE

The fingers carefully
Although digital penetration is considered a normal part of foreplay, some guys get overeager and, confuse their fingers for penises. As a result, they finger
their partners with a vigour reserved for sex. This also reflects that they have no clue what a woman wants, which is why they have resolved to go hard and
fast. Instead, you should aim for a more measured approach; make her get used to the feel of your fingers as you gradually insert more of them. There's room
for intensity, but a little nuance will surely take you a long way.

Sensitise to her wants
If you think that simply pounding away at a woman during sex is a major turn-on, you are wrong. Yet, many men convinced that it will ultimately bring their
partners to orgasm. But women are sensitive souls. They appreciate nuance, feeling and deep emotion. So, rather than thrusting away from beginning to end,
you'll want to vary your speed throughout sex. Gauge your partner's response, take it as a lead and simply go with the flow. If she asks you to go harder,
oblige. But if the moment calls for it, go slowly. The key is to sensitise yourself to what she wants, and not what you want.

Go easy with the clitoris
Women enjoy the clitoral stimulation than any sort of penetration. So never ignore her clitoris. Yet, at the same time, don't treat it like a scratch card and rub
relentlessly in order to make your partner climax. Remember, the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so too much force can actually prove painful.

Keep her entire body in mind
When you have sex, you aim to pleasure the woman you are with. So it makes sense that many guys focus on the one or two sensitive areas of her body like
the neck or thighs. However, the next step is not to look for other ways to please her. Though this notion is understandable, it is also incredibly short-sighted.
The law of diminishing returns applies everywhere — even in the bedroom. If you've worked her neck for a while, move down to her breasts. And you may not
want to focus heavily on her clitoris. Overstimulation can sometimes prove unpleasant. So keep things varied. As the age-old adage goes, variety is the spice
of life.

Rough now, but be sweet later
There's nothing wrong with a little roughness if it's consensual. But you should never take it too far (no one wants to leave the bedroom in need of medical
attention) and you should always remember to show some compassion afterward. When it's all over, make sure you pay attention to her immediate needs,
which will likely mean some snuggling and cuddling.

Don't stress about the G-Spot
The location of the G-Spot (Grafenberg Spot), has long eluded men. It is widely understood to be a couple of inches up the anterior vaginal wall, between the
vaginal opening and the urethra. Your search will probably be less scientific, once you've inserted your fingers into her vagina, curl them as though you were
asking someone to come toward you; the spot you're looking for will feel rippled. But don't let that elusive area become the be-all, end-all of your sex life.
5 signs your man is taking you for granted
Navya Malini,TNN | Dec 21, 2013, 12.00 AM IST

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It is but natural in any relationship to take each other for granted after a certain period of companionship. However, there are ways to ensure this doesn't
happen too often and too long.

Value, respect and equality make for a solid relationship. And when it comes to marriage and companionship, these three attributes matter the most so far as
happiness in a relationship is concerned. Most often, it is when either spouse takes the other for granted and most important, the love for granted is when
there is need to take corrective measures. Here are how to spot whether your man is taking you for granted:

Expectations
It's expected of you all the time that you will be at his beck and call whenever desired. Taking from arranging the bath linen to the bed linen to arranging the
dinner table. And not a single offer from him comes when it comes to sharing the chores.

Spending time with kids
The onus of picking and dropping your kids is always on you because it is imperative. And you are never asked whether the kids are to be dropped by him on
occasions to give you that free time.

Honey, I am too tired
It's always my job, my life - for him. You are always expected to ask him about his day, but how was the day spent at your end is never heard of. And all you
keep him say is, "I had a long day. I am too tired to think about anything."

My world, my friends
He doesn't seem interested in you talking about your likes, dislikes, your friends. In turn, you will all the while be ending up listening to him talking about his
colleagues, his friends and his outings.

Doesn't keep dates for you
You always end up alone on occasions important to you. He never has time or is simply too busy to accompany you to your friends' place.
5 Things women notice about men
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While men ogle women and start forming their opinion, women too notice a few primal things in men as soon as they see them, and this first unspoken
impression opens the door for future communication. We give you five tips to make that first impression count.

Physical appearance
Your physique or physical build is the primary feature that any woman notices within a few seconds of seeing you. This includes everything from height to
weight, features, hair, eyes and more. So, guys spend some time at the gym to stay healthy inside out. And, don't forget about personal grooming. Please keep
your hands and nails clean, for instance.

Style sense
In next few seconds, your fashion and style sense is on her scanning radar. The way you dress up speaks a lot about your personality. This doesn't mean that
you have to look like a movie star all the time, but avoid making silly fashion mistakes like wearing sport shoes on formal pants. You may not know, but she
will notice all these things and more.

Confidence
Women love bold, upfront and confident men who have opinion and views. During initial conversation, she tries to know how confident you are and how you
approach things, positively or negatively. Accordingly, they get positive or negative vibes from you. Be positive and humble while talking to a woman and put
forward your point too. However, don't try to lead a conversation, have a conversation with her. Don't try to act smart.

Communication
Women label you boring if you can't keep up the conversation. So, leave those one-liners, hold her attention and make the session lively. The more you
communicate, the more she will know about you. She might notice your communication skills, so be yourself and avoid arrogance.

Sense of humour
Women love guys who have a good sense of humour and who can make them laugh. They are quite popular with women and they feel comfortable and candid
with such men. Start the first conversation on a light and funny note to churn out the positive results. Avoid dirty jokes during first conversation and earn
bonus points with healthy humour.
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While there are enough reasons and pointers on the kinds of men that women should avoid, here's a look at the kind of women that men should be wary of.

The Big Boss: While she is sweet and well - mannered initially, you soon realises that she's only about bossing him around. Even if you talk to your friends,
you have to give a whole background and history about how you know the person he was talking to. You are also given tips on how to lead your life, maintain
yourrelationships and how ambitious you should be.

The 'Keep on Guessing' type: This girl is always playing hard to get. Even if she says 'yes', you are always left waiting for her to make a plan to meet. She
will always keep you guessing about whether she likes you or not. As a result, you are forever insecure that someday, she might just end up with someone
else.

'I want you to be like me' type: This one is forever imposing her tastes in food, movies, music and everything else on you. If you do not agree to even a
single idea, she throws a tantrum and makes you feel that you have committed a big crime. Steer away from her.

Miss Jealous forever type: She is always insecure that you will leave her. She does not even like you talking with your female colleagues. She is always
guarded and is never at peace in the relationship.

'I live for you and I have nothing else to do': This one is totally dependent on you and her happiness and survival depends on you. She can't think of a
life without you and of course you will love the affection initially, later it will become suffocating and you will want to give up. She will keep messaging you
and ask you for updates every minute and if you don't tell her 'I love you' often in a day she will feel the world is ending for her.

My parents will have a say in everything: The girl is always dependent on her parents for every decision in her life. She will have them solve all financial
and personal decisions in her life.

People are happier than us: This woman is constantly comparing her life with others. She is not happy because her friends are richer, happier, and
successful than her and she is burning inside because she can't have a life like them.
Things great kissers do right
Mumbai Mirror | Dec 21, 2013, 11.44 AM IST

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Tongue-tied? These proven pointers on becoming a smooth kisser should help

Aman's kiss is his signature. When Mae West, one of Hollywood's wittiest sex goddesses, says that, you better ensure your autograph is up to the mark. As it
turns out, there's really no solid set of instructions to follow if you want to blow a woman's mind with a kiss. Here are some proven ways — courtesy research
or science — to turn you into a great kisser.

Enter her space
What perhaps sets off most jitters, than anything else, is not knowing whether she wants to kiss you. Merely assessing this possibility is enough to reduce you
into a bundle of nerves. The solution lies in breaking into her personal space in the most non-intimidating manner and observing her reaction.

To be as near her as being able to smell her hair, you must have some basic level of trust or expectation. If she looks into your eyes, or gives you a friendly
smile or kiss, it may be her unspoken hint at liking you.

The simplest way to find this out is to adjust her hair. Since it's an intimate gesture, she will either flinch — which means stay away — or respond with a smile,
which could indicate she's interested. The best part though is that neither will have to feel awkward post this move.

Every breath you take
Poor oral hygiene is the perfect non-starter you should be wary of. Even if she is hot for you, it can ruin the moment before it begins. Women rely on smell
and taste to a great extent, and also subconsciously make a note of teeth while evaluating a partner.

A man's style of kissing also gives women a fair idea of his potential as a lover or whether to start a long-term relationship. In studies, women have rated the
breath and taste of a man's kiss as critical in figuring whether to kiss him again. Women also value the pleasure of kissing far more than men do, whether it is
before, during or after a sexual encounter.

Rhythm and tempo
Get a hang of her breathing rate and help her breathe easily when you kiss. Women are likely to continue kissing for long only when they don't feel suffocated.

While you are at it, take a moment or two to focus on the way she's kissing. Replicate her tongue action and match her tempo. Take the next step only after
ensuring you are in the same kissing rhythm and pace as she is.

Creative touch
Women commonly complain that their man doesn't pull off enough variations while kissing, which they find 'repetitive', 'mechanical', or 'putting off'. So give
your girl some variety, like liposuction — moving from the upper lip to the lower, or the earlobe kiss — pressing her earlobe lightly between your lips and
tugging gently downward.

While you are trying to spruce up your smooching repertoire, remember the golden rule: Don't stick your tongue into her mouth, especially not until the
situation has sufficiently heated up.

Neck peck
This one's a well-established fact — women love to be kissed on the neck. Not only is it their second favourite spot — first being the mouth — it usually turns
them on no ends. A clean-shaven man who manages to kiss gently, will vouch for this the most. An elaborate study found that only 10 per cent of men like
neck kisses, as opposed to 96 per cent of women.

Move mechanism
It's a cliche but that's possibly because it's true. Getting to know one another is the easiest way to iron out the awkwardness and roll out the red carpet for
some heady intimacy. Once you know her, wait for the right time and context. This means going for a half-hearted smooch on the sidewalk outside the
restaurant may not be a great idea. Take charge of how the atmosphere should be. Dim lights almost always work and so does sharing secrets to ease her into
the moment. Take your time, and let her take hers too.
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French model-turned-actress Lea Seydoux has claimed that red lipstick is a huge turn off for most men.

Seydoux, 28, told British Marie Claire magazine that she has learnt from experience that menhate rouge lips, Stuff.co.nz reported.

Seydoux jokingly added that if she is on a date and does not want to kiss the guy, she'll wear a bright red lipstick with a matte texture so it lasts the whole
night.

1 Men you must never court
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You are the hottest chick in town and your popularity is at its peak in the college. And when that's the situation, you know how easy it is forguys to fall for
you.

However, it's wise to be choosy about who you are going to hang around with. If you are looking for a relationship, then it helps to keep away from these kind
of men.

Delicate darlings: This man think he has to be handled with care. There's no masculinity whatsoever about this guy. If your guy spends more time in front
of the mirror and beauty spas than you, then you know what to expect — he would much rather admire his style than look at you. So no compliment for you
girl!

Judgmental: Although it's easy to say get into a relationship with an open mind, this man draws his conclusions based on your past life. He will convince
you with his theories that will make you die of guilt.

Sports is my first love: Or so he claims. Yes, we all know men love sports than anything else and given a choice between going to a theatre with you and
watching a sports event, he will definitely choose the latter. No matter the crisis, he wouldn't want to fix it until the match is over! Girl, you won't get his
attention for sure.

Stingy: There's absolutely no sense of chivalry in him. He would not like to spend a single pie on you. He wouldn't even agree to go dutch. It's you and you
spending all the way. In fact, you would be expected to provide for all his needs including, food, clothing at times even shelter in terms of paying rent for his
apartment!Now, why would you want to do that?

Never content: This guy is constantly cribbing about you. He has a problem with most of your qualities — be it your hairstyle, the way you talk or even
giggle. He will make you feel miserable.

A happy past: This guys rests on his past glories. He's forever talking about what a great footballplayer he was and how he is a gift to the mankind. He can
go on and on about his past achievements but refuse to talk about the task at hand.

Self-centered: He's so full of himself. At every given opportunity, he will want to establish the fact that he's better than you. You don't want to end up
feeling like a burden to Mother earth!

Deceptive: He's the flirtatious type and would want to woo every good looking girl on the planet. If you don't want to sing 'Unbreak my heart' like Toni
Braxton, then stay away from this guy.

Possessive types: A guy telling the girl 'you were born for him'...rings a bell?Yep! heard this before in film songs. However, it sounds good only on reel and
not in real life. It's good to know someone loves you so much, but not to the extent of giving up your personal space. He hates it when you want to holiday
with your BFF. He wants all your time and attention to himself. Already feeling suffocated? You bet!

Suspicious devils: Irrespective of how loyal you are to him, he has a feeling at the back of his mind that you are still in touch with your Ex, you are cheating
on him. He detests you talking to other men. He hates to see you happy. He constantly fights with you over a trivial issue such as keeping your phone busy.
Spare yourself the horror!

Mission possible: Dating this guy would be disastrous to say the least. It means giving up self-respect. Although he fell in love with you for your style, he
will change all that about you soon as you begin your relationship. Only a few months into the relationship and you already feel like a different person.
There's nothing 'you' about you. You have stopped being yourself so much so that you practically cease to exist! Your friends tell you how much you have
changed since you started dating the guy. He decides your hairstyle, wardrobe, the books you read, music you listen to, movies you watch and even the people
you hang around with... Phew! Where are you?
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There are some things that men can do andwomen can't. There are many other things that women can do and men can't.

Like giving birth for instance. But, aside that, here's a compilation of seven things that men are so perfect at, that they can be really annoying. Enjoy!

1. Sexy morning voices: This one is definitely tops the list. Men have such seductive baritones when they wake up in the morning, while we women end up
croaking like frogs. Although we are quite sure that the sexy 'morning voice' is directly proportional to the sexiness quotient of their normal voices, unofficial
research has shown that men with reasonable voices end up with super sexy morning voices as well. Let's also imagine a George Clooney like face to go with
that voice. Sigh.

2. Ability to give comforting hugs: There's no denying it. Embracing a man is like hugging a life size teddy bear. Only warmer. And human. Not only
does everything feel like it will be OK, the world seems so much safer in that embrace. Know what's even better? The hug comes with a surplus - don't you just
love the way they smell your hair?

3. Their uncanny knack of pissing you off and making you feel good at the same time:Alright, moving on. Only a man can achieve that
impossible task of pissing you off and making you feel great at the same time. A classic example would be when a man watching a woman give birth says,
"Does it really hurt that bad?" and then looks at your annoyed expression and immediately chirps, "But, I am sure you'll be brave honey." Well, at least he's
thinking about having kids with you right?

4. Saying something completely inappropriate and still is charming : This one is a classic. And no, we're not talking about the cheesy pick up lines
that go something along the lines of "do you believe in love at first sight or should I walk by again." We're referring to the smooth talkers here.

5. Ability to eat like a pig and not feel guilty about it: Ever seen a teenage boy wolf down an entire pizza by himself? Or a fully grown man helping
himself onto a fourth helping of biryani? Heck, have you ever heard a man say he's "full"? Maybe they are blessed with excellent metabolism or maybe they
are just built that way, they can eat gigantic quantities of food, and still work it off. We envy you for not having to worry about cellulite on your hips and
thighs.

6. Their ability to fix things: We're not just talking about your feelings here ladies, we're referring to everything from light bulbs and fuse wires to your
personal computer and your mobile phone. Can you imagine what would have happened if they thought the 'chip' referred to Lays?

7. Gods of gaming: This one is again a given. They can beat women hands down in most videogames (unless we're talking about something that involves
too much pink and needless to say a Barbie). In the words of one very wise man, "Men can destroy women at video games. Destroy!"
When your boss is your boyfriend
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Melissa D'costa tells you how to navigate your professional and personal space without drifting apart.

An office romance comes with its own set of rules and complications. However, it gets even harder to deal with when your lover also happens to be your boss.
We tell you how to balance both.

Learn to take no for an answer
There maybe times when you both don't see eye to eye about an issue. Instead of resenting him for it, discuss the same, try and understand his point of view,
even if you can't accept it. When you are back at home be yourself and say remember "It's business, not personal." Also, there will be office gossip, avoid
providing the material for it by arguing at work.

Avoid indulging in too much PDA
The one thing most couples find hard to do when in a relationship is to limit PDA when in public. While it's natural for you to have moments when you just
want to reach out and hold the person, people around you may not be comfortable with it. So as far as possible, avoid PDA in office, a light touch or a peck on
the cheek is okay, provided it's in the confines of your own cabin, and not privy to prying eyes. Also, if possible avoid baby talk in office, and take breaks with
other colleagues. Leave office at different times even a few minutes' difference looks professional.

Learn when to pull the plug on work talk
While it's okay to talk about what happens in office, make sure you also have time for yourselves. Learn to respond to your partner's cues, and that will teach
you when they have switched off mentally, even if they have not said so, and want to discuss anything apart from work.
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Does the fairer sex cheat for fun? A question many have blindly quizzed. Now we find out the truth behind this.

Considered as the epitome of being extremely emotional beings and in our culture the home binders and makers, does or can a woman cheat on her spouse or
partner for fun? Well, this is a question that not many can be affirmative about but it has caused a lot of buzz all around. With women being objectified in
many ways, it wouldn't come as a surprise to many. Arti Mehta a Psychologist says, "I feel it's a person specific thing. We all have been made familiar with the
term that men cheat. I feel that now with many casual relations coming up our culture is changing.

It's not a healthy base for any relation. If this is where you are heading, it's better to sit and communicate with your spouse or partner rather than finding
emotional warmth elsewhere." Most women cheat because they crave for emotional warmth and attention from their partners. The lack of this makes them
want it from another source that is easily available and also gives them the attention and emotional support they need.

But many believe that women cheat just because they can! Being emotional beings women tend to become too close, too fast. They constantly crave for
emotional support and this makes them drawn towards anyone who gives it to them. Piyush Shah an engineer by profession was in a relationship, until he
found out that his girlfriend had been cheating on him, and the reason for cheating was - he wasn't giving her enough compliments! He says, "Women want
constant attention and drama in their life. If you fail to give them a compliment they will make an issue out of it and probably end up cheating on you." Kajal
Aggarwal an MBA student who has seen her friend cheating says, "My friend cheated on her guy just because he didn't have all the traits she needed in a man.
Initially I believed it was wrong but most women are suckersfor unavailable traits in a man. So, they simply cheat to curb that feeling." Many even cheat for
revenge. Lack of attention makes them angry and irritated and this leads them to jump into something they wouldn't normally.

Women want to be happy in a relationship, yes but not the constant happy will suffice with them. They want action and drama and getting constant bouts of
happiness within a relationship is what they aim for. All they want to do is experience lots of happiness and confusion all the times. Kapil Gupta (name
changed) a working professional says, "Women love falling in and out of love at all times. It somehow makes them feel tempting and wanted. With constant
attention from men it's a game they love to play." Even though women crave for attention and end up cheating, they simply don't learn from their mistakes,
because once again - they just simply love the 'attention'. So are you giving enough to yours?
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10 Things a woman should know
Harshada Rege | Dec 21, 2013, 12.00 AM IST


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We list 10 things every woman should know

1. Calling you does not mean we are hitting on you
Most men are left wondering that why's it that just because he called you, you assumed he wants you to fill in the post of his girlfriend. He may actually just
want to hang out with you.

2. You are much prettier without all that makeup
Your basic foundation and kajal is fine, but layers upon layers of makeup only makes you unappealing to your guy. So keep it simple.

3. When you act giggly, it's seriously embarrassing
When you spot your gang of girls while you are out with your boyfriend, don't squeal and go giggly or jump up and down. Most men find it extremely
childish.

4. Gossiping, whispering and writing notes makes you look shallow
When you pass notes or whisper when you and your friends are sitting at a table along with others makes it seem like you are still in your classroom.

5. Boys worry about what you think of their hair, skin, weight and clothes
Do tell your boyfriend if you think his new haircut makes him look cute or if his favourite T-shirt needs to be done away with.

6. PMS is no excuse to be mean
Yes, men do understand that every month you are likely to get crabby for a few days, but that's not reason enough to be mean and cranky all the time.

7. Talking about your butt is boring
It's a known fact that no boyfriend — who doesn't want to be dumped — will ever tell his girfriend that she is looking fat. So no in point discussing, arguing
and then discussing some more, about weight issues with your boyfriend.

8. Tight clothes make you look sort of desperate and insecure
You may be in shape but anything that amounts to too much skin show is not going to be appreciated by your boyfriend. Don't keep showing how desperate
you are. It can be a big put off if the guy is serious about you.

9. Most boys are looking for the right girl
It's not just women who are looking for Mr Right, but boys are looking out for their Miss Perfect too. So don't be scared to play the love game.

10. If you like him, just tell him
Don't pretend to ignore him and then cry when he asks another girl out for dinner. If he's interested in you, and if you feel the same way then respond. Don't
keep the guy waiting too long.
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Whether sprawled sideways across the bed or curled into a ball, we all have our preferredposition when drifting off into a peaceful slumber.

But is there more to this than just personal comfort? Our body language while we sleep can reveal several aspects of our personality. Find out what your
sleeping position says about you...

Fetal position: Curled on to one side with legs bent

What this says about you: Those who prefer sleeping in this position are known to have a tough exterior, but are actually shy and sensitive. Over time,
they ultimately relax and become more social.

Log: Lying on the sides with legs stretched out and both arms resting on the sides

What this says about you: People who sleep in this position are social, easy-going and trusting. But they are also prone to gullibility.

Yearner: Sleeping on the side with both arms stretched out in front

What this says about you: Known as having an open personality, people who sleep in this position are prone to suspicion and cynicism. They are slow at
making decisions, but once a choice is made, they stick to it.

Soldier: Lying on the back with both arms stretched out at the sides

What this says about you: People who sleep like this are disciplined. They set high expectations for themselves and others, and are generally quiet and
reserved.

Freefall: Lying on the stomach with head turned to the side and arms curled near the pillow What this says about you: This style of sleeping reflects that the
person is social and brash. But they are also inwardly nervous and sensitive to criticism.

Starfish: Stretched out on the back with legs sprawled and arms stretched up near the head What this says about you: These people make friendship a
priority and dislike being the centre of attention. They prefer listening to the problems of others and go out of their way to assist those in need.

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The waiting can leave you feeling listless. Instead, do something constructive like taking up a hobby.

You confidence might waver. Don't let your ideal image of what he must be dominate your thoughts. You could feel isolated. Watching your pals settle down
while you are still single and waiting for your better half, can make you feel withdrawn. Don't hide away.
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10 Things women simply love to hear
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If there's one thing that has always kept men wondering about women, it has to be figuring out what they love to hear? Most men would agree that when
it comes to compliments and sweet nothings, women can never have enough of it. The more they get, the more they want!

So, all that you need to do to impress her is - simply tell her all that she already knows. Yes! Strange but true - whether you are in a committed relationship or
worried about her losing interest in you or are an amateur wanting to take your relationship to the next level, here's a complete guide to help you learn exactly
what she wants to hear...

'You look gorgeous!'
If one could list down three things that women can't live without - they would probably be - good food, a wardrobe to die for and hearty compliments. So,
don't be stingy when it comes to wooing her with a shower of compliments. The more you give, the more you are likely to get in return. Say all that she has
been dying to hear - whether it is about her looks, her attire, her figure, professionalism at work or her culinary skills. Anudita Mishra, 34, a homemaker says,
"I love to be showered with compliments as I think most women do. It gives my ego a boost when my hubby says, 'This dress suits you', or something like -
'You look prettier than any of those ladies I know' or saying, 'I wonder how you look so sexy even in your 30s!' It just makes me feel good about myself.'

Hear say: Dr. Sushma Dayal, a clinical psychologist says, "Each of us like to receive compliments as it improves our self-image. It helps us to get rid of our
inhibitions, acts as a motivation and helps us enhance our personality."

'You are the first woman in my life'
Saying this would certainly assure your girl that you are a 'one woman man' and that you don't keep hopping from one girlfriend to another. This is bound to
put her on a pedestal and it will prove to be effective particularly in a long-term relationship. Be careful not to flatter her. Say this only when you mean it so
that she never questions your loyalty.

Abhay Bajaj, 26, a marketing professional says, "When I told my girlfriend that she is the first woman in my life, she was utterly surprised. It's funny, but I
believe most women have a myth that guys are rarely committed to a single woman. Once she was convinced, she was able to free herself from all insecurities
and was head over heels for me."

Hear say: Archana Nanda, a psychologist opines, "Telling a woman that she is the first person you have been so close to is sure to elevate her self-esteem
and assure her of your faithfulness. But one shouldn't do this just to just to flatter a woman, say it only when you mean it from the bottom of your heart. It
will rip your relationship apart if she finds out that you kept her in the dark about your real emotions."


'You are great in bed'
This is sure to make her feel like a sex goddess and sweep away all the inhibitions she had about her performance between the sheets. Praising her
performance in bed and telling her that she is simply irresistible, is sure to set the momentum for a sizzling act later. The more you elevate and understand
her sexuality, the more willing she will be to explore her wildest fantasies.

Don't just be grateful for every little effort that she puts to turn you on - say it aloud!

Anant Joshi, 29, (name changed on request) says, "A few months ago I complimented my wife for her performance in bed and I think that was the greatest
turn on for her since then. She's now more experimental and also more open to my sexual advances. I think it's not just men but women too who like to be
appreciated for the efforts they make in the bedroom."

Hear say: Sunil Garg, an expert on sex-related issues states, "You are sure to boost to a woman'ssexuality when you tell her that she was super in the act. It
will want her to explore more of herself and not just you. She will be able to connect with you in a sexual context."

'You'll make a great mother'
Most women look forward to having kids, but also tend to doubt themselves when it comes to being a good mother. Saying this is bound to put her on cloud
nine - particularly when her man thinks she has all that it takes to be a nurturing mother. In a way, you'll also be assuring her of your commitment and that
you would like to bring up your kids with her. Ritu Jaiswal, 27, who got married a year ago, confesses, "It was my husband who made me comfortable with
the idea of parenthood. I was always scared of having kids, but he made me feel at ease by assuring me that I'll be a good mother and will do an excellent job
as a parent. I am now expecting my first child."

Hear say: "It's important to assure a woman that she will be a good mother and that she has qualities like compassion and endurance being a good parent.
This will make her believe in herself and also prepare her for the new role," adds Dr. Sushma.

'Will you spend your life with me?'
Most women tend to be ultra sensitive and by saying this you are bound to play music on the chords of her heart. You will also affirm to her that you are not
just playing around with her, but are actually looking forward to spending your entire life with her. Tell her how incomplete your life would be without her
and that she has now become an indispensable part of your existence. Don't be surprised if you find her smiling for days!

Richa Nanda, 25, who works with an advertising agency in Delhi confesses, "I had been dating a guy for the last six months. We work in the same office.
Although I like him very much, I was a bit reluctant to commit to him prematurely. He recently asked me whether I would like to get married to him and it
was then that I made up my mind. I was convinced that he is genuinely interested in me and would like to take the relationship further."

Hear say: "I think this is the most difficult thing to ask a woman. It is a very important question and it means asking her for a long-term commitment. So, it
is important to be sure before you speak your mind," adds Archana.

'What do you think about .............?'
Ask for her opinion - whether it is about buying a new car or simply about what you should wear to office. By doing this, you are not just asserting that her
opinion is important to you, but also that you respect her views. And if you are still in doubt, just remember that women love to express their views on
whatever it may be - so let her speak for longer than you may want to hear and let her be the diva who knows it all!

Kanika Shrivastava, 28, who works with a telecom company in Delhi agrees, "I feel really special when my boyfriend asks for my opinion. It boosts my ego.
He consults me before taking any major decisions - whether it is regarding his career or investments. I appreciate the fact that he values me not just for my
looks but also my brains."

Hear say: "It's important for a woman to believe that she is an important part of the decision making process. Asking her for advice - no matter how big or
small the decision - makes her feel special and respected," adds Dr. Sushma.


'You are my dearest pal'
Want to assure her that you are the kind of man who's not just with her for her glam looks and her hourglass figure? Well, then all you need to do is to tell her
that she is not just the love of your life, but also your dearest friend. Try to establish a connection beyond your sexual interest in her. This is sure to give her
ego the much required boost and score you brownie points.

Namita Goswami, 21, a college student says, "The best thing that my boyfriend has ever told me is that he considers me his best friend. Although he has many
gal pals, but when it comes to sharing anything special, I am the one he comes to. It is great to find your best friend in your partner."

Hear say: Manmeet Bhalla, a marriage and relationship counselor opines, "Being a woman's friend is the first step to winning her over. It is important for a
woman to believe that she means much more to you than just being your wife or your girlfriend. What she needs to feel is that you count on her - when you
are in a problem or a dilemma, when you need advice, when you need a shoulder to cry on."

'I am lucky to have you'
Tell her that she is the only one for you. If not her, you would probably have still been single. Women love to be with men who are amiable and there is no
better way to tell her that you are a true gentleman than to thank her for being the person that she is. Tell her that your life is beautiful only because she is a
part of it. Don't be surprised if you find her blushing.

Amit Malhotra, 24, a sales executive says, "A year ago, I just told my girlfriend how special she is to me and how lucky I feel to have her in my life and she was
thrilled to hear that. Since then I have realised how important it is to be expressive with women."

Hear say: "Telling a woman that she is your lucky charm is a sure shot way to pamper her. It makes her feel that you have not just accepted her in your life,
but you are also grateful to her for her presence. It is the most gratifying thought for a woman," adds Manmeet.

'You know what's on my mind'
Want to make her feel like a supreme goddess? Well, then all you need to do is tell her that she knows what's on your mind before even having to tell her.
Whether it is preparing your favourite dish for dinner, buying a gift that you had wanted to buy for yourself or the intensity with which she turns you on in
bed. Once she is convinced she knows you better than you do, she won't mind giving you more than you have asked for.

Madhuri Bhargava, 35, senior manager in a private bank in Noida shares, "I have been married for nine years and my husband always tells me that I know
him better than he knows himself, or perhaps even his mom does. It makes me feel exceptionally good when he says that. It attaches with itself a sense of
belonging to someone and that is what matters the most to me."

Hear say: "Women generally like to be pampered by saying that they know it all. It's important to convince her that she knows everything about you. It will
help keep the spark in your relationship alive," says Dr. Sushma.

'I love you'
Even though you have said it in every possible way - women place much more importance to these three magical words. So, make sure you say it at the right
place and the right time, but when she is least expecting it. Wondering why? Who doesn't love surprises? Especially if you are in a committed relationship,
make sure you say it even more often.

"I was thrilled when my boyfriend recently proposed to me. Although I knew that he loves me right from the beginning, but I was just waiting for him to pop
the question and say those three special words. I had been dying to hear it from him since a year. It was the most memorable moment of my life," says Shruti,
23, a management student.

Hear say: "There's nothing better that a woman would want to hear from her man. No matter how much you say it through your actions but most women
like men who are expressive. It is very important to say what you feel to keep the romance alive. The more often you say, the better it is," says Manmeet.
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From reading your favourite novel or watchingmovies — there's plenty you can do when you are home alone

Prepare for the day
When you know that you will be staying all by yourself in the house today, list down the things that you would like to do. It could be anything from going
shopping, watching movies your TV shows, reading books or simply sleeping.

Make yourself comfortable
This is especially for the ones who would love to laze back and watch movies to listen to songs. Have some pillows tucked by your side and keep some eatables
near you, so that you feel relaxed and happy.

Listen to some good music
There's nothing that can put you at ease than listening to good songs. Not only will it help you relax but will also make you feel happy and keep you engaged.

Watch your favourite movies
Pick and plan what movies you would want to watch throughout the day. You could probably call over some friends at home to give youcompany. You can
either watch the movies online or maybe hire some DVDs.

Read some books
Reading happens best when you are alone with nobody to disturb you. You can spend hours reading your favourite novel or comic. Reading not only takes
your mind off every day worries but also keeps you engaged for a very long time.
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Silence is often sacred. But not for no reason. It could be due to one of these reasons.

The phrase 'silence speaks louder than words' never holds more meaning for when the girl you're close to, pulls down an iron curtain, effectively shutting you
out when the day before, you were chatting about life, the universe and everything.

As is often the case with human behavior, actions (or lack, thereof) are subject to several interpretations. Let us assume that she has gone silent on you
because she is busy with other things. You are not in a relationship with her, and even though you'll might talk everyday, it doesn't mean that it has to carry
on that way every single day. Maybe she's dealing with something that she doesn't want to tell you about for whatever reason. In which case, don't think about
it; do something else to occupy that time in the day you would normally be talking to/spending time with her.

Let's look at another scenario. Maybe she has reservations about getting really close to you. Maybe she's been burned in a previous relationship and doesn't
want to take anything to another level that soon. So, instead of talking about it, her defense mechanism kicks in and she withdraws. Not the best way to deal
with things, but that's a possibility. In that case, asking her what's wrong and so on won't help. You'll only sound desperate. Space is good. But not to the
extent that you completely abandon her. That will actually work against you.

Another scenario is also quite likely. Someone who is playing mind games with you and deliberately not calling or messaging you on purpose, is being
dishonest with you and disrespectful of you as a person. You got to ask yourself one question: even if you DO get her at some point, do you really want a
person who messes with your head? That's not what relationships are about or meant to be.

You do not need to be with people who play mind games. Think of the last good relationship you were in. Think of how it started and blossomed into
something beautiful that you still remember. That's how it should be.

On the other hand, if this is a pattern (women going silent on you) then maybe it's time for some healthy introspection. If everything starts out well, only to
crash and burn, it's not them. It's probably you. And this pattern will continue to express itself until the time you don't sort out what it is about you that
causes other people to react this way.

There are patterns to everything. You might not realize it, but you could have low self-esteem. People are with you vis a vis how you are with them. So, if you
do not respect yourself, how can you expect someone else to respect you?
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May be your man is ready to be awarded this title already. Read on to see the signs...

You must have heard from women who harp about how their men can't do without them. While a part of you goes 'Aww', there's another part that wonders
how clingy their man really is. And then, you're more than convinced about the same when you get to know a man ditto that — Mr. Needy we call him,
someone who wants to be around you 24/7. Here are the signs to know if you're in a relationship with such a man, who doesn't understand the concept of
giving you any space at all.

1. Constant sweet talker: Post first date, this man will sweet talk, but 'always'. Yes, that's the first sign that he just can't do without you ever. If after the
first few dates, a man is constantly texting you throughout the day, narrating to you that he's busy daydreaming about you, naming his unborn kids with you,
and is more than willing to meet you every now and then (embarrassing you outside your workplace with that pretty bunch of flowers), well, he's just too
desperate and clingy. Think of it, either the man is just trying to get hooked on, or he's so in need of a woman.

2. Friends no more: Does he bail out his friends for you? Well, at first this may sound really sweet of him, who doesn't like a man who prioritises his date
over his friends. But if he's the kinds who cancels every single plan with his friend just for you, that's an initial Mr. Needy sign. Come to think of it, he's about
to mould a relationship with you where in he's convinced you he's ok with lying all day on that couch with you rather than being at the bowling alley with
friends (always, that is). And soon, he'll need you to do the same.

3. Do this, not that: When the man starts giving you ultimatums, he's just started off with being needy. Has he ever done that? It starts from asking you to
make a choice between him and the things that you want to do. Such a man should be avoided before you lose your mind pleasing him by the minute.

4. I need you too: He needs to be with you when you are with your friends. Who doesn't like a little 'we time' with friends, without the partner. But what
when your guy is more than adamant to be a part of the girl gang, even if that means when he's uninvited. Imagine what you'd ever feel if your friend got
along a date when you girlies are having that bonding time. Wouldn't you think, he can't leave her alone even once.

5. Let's do this faster: Has he initiated talks about sex, living in, marriage, baby names already! Well, there he is, wants it all at once, actually 'needs it
now'. He needs you to the extent of not willing to even wait for time to pass before he knows you better.

6. On and on: He met you in the morning, calls you in the afternoon to show interest of wanting to meet you at night. Then again the next morning.... This
sequence goes on in the life of a man who can't do without a woman. Whether he has a job, has friends to count on is besides the point, the only thing that
you can decipher here is that he needs a woman in his life.

7. Sly stalker: Is he always liking your posts and pictures, posting comments and you know he checks his social networking page only to stalk your profile.
Well, that's a man who just can't do without you and has you on his mind.
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