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net/web2/articles/26881/1/The-problem-of-Nigeria---missingfathers/Page1.html By Olufemi Fasanya Published on 28/11/2009
The cry of God in the Garden of Eden was, ‘Adam where are you?’ Adam was a husband; he was going to be a father someday and the progenitor of the entire human race.

The cry of God in the Garden of Eden was, ‘Adam where are you?’ Adam was a husband; he was going to be a father someday and the progenitor of the entire human race. If I am going to say that word in the present generation, I will say, ‘fathers where are you?’ If I am going to say to this nation, I will say, ‘fathers where are you?’ Interestingly it wasn’t Adam who first ate what was forbidden, yet he was the one who was called first because he was the one who has the responsibility to guide and guard his family. If he fails in that responsibility, all hell will break loose. I have heard people lament on the problem of Nigeria. They all blame the leadership of the nation. However, I defer from their conclusion. I believe that the problem of Nigeria is the problem of missing fathers; men who have abandon their roles, who have watered values that strengthen a child and the nation. Men who rarely have time to take care of their children because they have concluded that it’s the responsibility of their wives and some other persons to do so; men who love their children to the point that they become of no use to them and the nation that is theirs by birth. There was a time that if a child drove a ‘big’ car into town and his father interviewed him and discovered that it was got in an ill-manner, that child would be disowned because people cherished an unblemished family name. There was a time that parents encouraged their children to work and be responsible compared to some fathers who are only concerned about a child bringing in money, irrespective of what they do for a living. So, you’ll find some of our young ladies travelling abroad for prostitution. Our able bodied men involved in drugs trafficking and our youths sitting in cyber cafes looking for a ‘mungun’ to hit. We may blame the leadership of this great nation, However, we should find out who the fathers of the people are? We need to find out the values that they are brought up with before we condemn them. How can a man say that is my son- the governor, yet he siphons the money of his state into his private account without his been disowned for bringing shame to their family? I really don’t know how a man can be proud to say his son is a senator, yet, the guy hasn’t done anything tangible except siphoning his constituency’s money. How can a father say my son is the chairman of a local government and his local government is still local despite the money that goes there and the agony of the people who live there because of lack of performance? Someone said: "The father of an ‘area boy’ is an ‘area father’. I concur to that. If the father of a condemned robber cannot raise his head except in shame, these fathers are not fit to raise their heads in the society with pride.

I see some things these days that scare me. Some fathers don’t care how their children make money, all they want is that they make it. It’s scary when a child grows up with the feeling that the wealth of our great nation is a national cake. Why will he not have this sense, when he sees his dad embezzle money with impunity, yet, he’s still walking free. How can he be law-abiding when his father is above the law? Why should he be interested in bettering the lot of his fellowmen, when he sees that daddy had made a good chunk of money by taking what should have been spent on many all to himself? Please prove me wrong; men of power usually have the most lawless children around. Where are fathers like Tafawa Balewa, who served this nation selflessly; not bringing religious sentiment to governance? Where are men like Nnamdi Azikwe, Obafemi Awolowo and the present governor of Lagos State, Raji Fashola? Men who are more interested in leaving a legacy behind; men who want to see the development of this great nation. It scares me the kind of leadership that will take over in generations to come with the horrible values some fathers are instilling in their children. I dare to say this: if fathers take the responsibility of teaching their children values that they live by example with, then I can boldly say that there is a great future for this nation. Femi Fasanya can be contacted on 08037257479 www.relationship-daddy.blogspot.com

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