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We can describe the differences of infatuation and love through its actuality of love,
effects on the individual and the final outcomes of the relationship.

A. The first thing a person should consider when trying to decipher the difference
between love and infatuation is its actuality of love.
1. Origin of infatuation and love
a. Infatuation is a foolish and usually extravagant passion or love or admiration,
originates from physical attraction.
b. Love is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. Love
transcends outward physical appearance that is most appealing to many, and
goes beyond it. Love is what exists after infatuation fades.
2. Age as a factor
a. Infatuation is generally in the context of teenage or adolescence.
b. There is generally no age associated with love.

B. The second most prominent aspect that infatuation and love differ in is through its
effects on the individual.
1. The effects of infatuation and love through our feelings.
a. Infatuation often involves insecurity, high risk decisions, and being
i. When a person is infatuated, they may feel so insecure about their
relationship, that they start to over think about things that may not
even happen.
ii. Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity (Landers, 1990)
b. Love induces feelings of confidence, faithfulness and stability.
i. A person in love will never feel the need to compete and feels
confident that their partner is trustworthy.
ii. Love is a special bond held between two people, connecting them
solely through a unified link of trust, intimacy, and interdependence
(Love Sessions, 2009).
2. The effects of infatuation and love through our actions.
a. Infatuation promotes negative behavior.
i. Infatuation gives off destructive and disorganizing effect.
ii. Being born out of physical appearance, individual may be less
tolerant and committed.
b. Love improves overall disposition.
i. Love is constructive and brings out the best in you. (Van Pelt)
ii. Instills positive traits while being in a relationship such as tolerance
and being committed.

C. The third aspect that a person can consider when comparing between infatuation and
love is the outcome of the relationship.
1. The time frame
a. Infatuation is temporary and occurs instantaneously. Lasting at most,
several months before it starts to fade.
b. A relationship that works toward common goals, sharing dreams and values,
has mutual love and compassion towards each other will last for as long as
they would work for it to.
c. When you are in love, feelings grow gradually and it lasts for a very long time
(Villanueva, 2012)
2. What becomes of the relationship
a. Emptiness, consequences of choices made while under the influence of mind
numbing temporary lust.
b. Security, peace, a solid partnership which can provide the ideal atmosphere
to raise children.
We can successfully differentiate what being in love and being infatuated is like by comparing
between its actuality of love, effects on the individual and the outcome of the relationship.