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This Momentous Day - Dr. Ken Gregoire
Youknowhoweverynowandthenyoureadsomethingina
novel or see something in a movie that sticks with you so
stronglythatyoujustcan’tshakeit.Thathappenedtome
awhilebackwhenIreadjustforfunmindyouanovelby
Dean Koontz, From the Corner of His Eye. I have since
foundmyselfwantingtotalkaboutitwithpeople.Ieven
entitled my annual meeting comments this year…..This
Momentus Day….without knowing what I really would say.
SoIstartedwritingaCoffeeCuparticleaboutThisMomen-
tous Day because I knew that you were an audience that
couldreallyappreciateandunderstandthemessage.But
I have struggled with how to articulate the message so I
thoughtwhattheheckI’mjustgoingtoletDeanKoontzdo
thetalking.Followingisaquotefromhisbook:
Not one day in anyone’s life…is an uneventful day, no day
withoutprofoundmeaning,nomatterhowdullandboringit
mightseem,nomatterwhetheryouareaseamstressora
queen, a shoeshine boy or a movie star, a renowned
philosopheroraDown’s-syndromechild.Becauseinevery
day of your life, there are opportunities to perform little
kindnesses for others, both by conscious acts of will and
unconsciousexample.Eachsmallestactofkindness–even
just words of hope when they are needed, the remem-
branceofabirthday,acomplimentthatengendersasmile-
reverberates across great distances and spans of time,
affecting lives unknown to the one whose generous spirit
was the source of this good echo, because kindness is
passedonandgrowseachtimeit’spassed,untilasimple
courtesybecomesanactofselflesscourageyearslaterandfaraway.Likewise,eachsmallmean-
ness,eachthoughtlessexpressionofhatred,eachenviousandbitteract,regardlessofhow
petty, can inspire others, and is therefore the seed that ultimately produces evil
fruit,poisoningpeoplewhomyouhavenevermetandneverwill.Allhuman
lives are so profoundly and intricately entwined–those dead, those
living, those generations yet to come–that the fate of all is the
fateofeach,andthehopeofhumanityrestsineveryheart
andineverypairofhands.Therefore,aftereveryfailure,
weareobligedtostriveagainforsuccess,andwhen
faced with the end of one thing, we must build
something new and better in the ashes, just as
from pain and grief, we must weave hope, for
each of us is a thread critical to the strength–to
the very survival–of the human tapestry. Every
hour in every life contains such often-
unrecognized potential to affect the world that
the great days for which we, in our dissatisfac-
tion,sooftenyearnarealreadywithus;allgreat
days and thrilling possibilities are combined
alwaysinthismomentousday.
I like to think about this quote and the book when I am
feelingalittlehelplessinthefaceofthechallengesweallface
inanincreasinglycomplexandconflictedworld.Ithelpsmefeelless
helplessandfocusesmeonwhatIcandotodaytomakethisamomentous
day….a little like that other prayer we know and love….what is it now? Oh yes, the
SerenityPrayer.
NOTICE OF 2014 VHA ANNUAL MEETING
Valley Hope Association 2014 Annual Meeting will be held at the St. Francis of
Assisi Parish Hall, Norton, Kansas on Friday, August 15, 2014 at 1:00 p.m. The
membershipwill,atthattime,electmemberstotheBoardofDirectorsandconduct
suchotherbusinessasmaybebroughtbeforethemembership.
2014Annual Meeting
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The newly redesigned Valley Hope Association web site,
www.valleyhope.org, launched July 1, 2014. The site is devoted to providing
alcoholanddrugtreatmentinformationandeducationaswellasdetailsonValley
Hope’s17treatmentlocations.

AccordingtoPresident/CEODr.KenGregoire,thenewsite,whichhasbeenunderconstruc-
tion since 2013, features expanded content including articles, streaming media and images in
additiontodetailedinformationonValleyHope’streatmentoptionsandfacilities.
“We’reveryproudofwhatwe'vebuilt,”saidGregoire.“VHAWebDeveloperEdgarJamesonhascreateda
fresh,intuitivesitedesignedforouronlineaudienceofbothgeneralvisitorsandprofessionals.”
Thenewsiteoffersmorethan200pagesofupdatedcontentandnewnavigationaltoolswhichprovidea
seamlessexperienceforvisitors.Itisalsomobilefriendly,makingthenewwebsiteevenmoreaccessibleto
thosesearchingforinformationorassistancesubstanceabusetreatment.TheValleyHopeAssociationisa
nationally-recognized,nonprofitorganizationdedicatedtoprovidingqualitychemicaldependencytreatment
servicesatanaffordableprice.ValleyHopeoperatestreatmentcentersinsevenstates--Arizona,Colorado,
Kansas,Missouri,Nebraska,Oklahoma,andTexas.
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~ Kent F. Olathe, KS
I just love the look and feel of the Coffee Cup.
You guys are rocking the house.
~Larry Black, Program Director, Norton Valley Hope
I came through Valley Hope a year ago and it was the best thing
I have ever done. The program, staff and counselors were great.
I am still working my program and sober. Thanks to VH.
I will be attending Atchison renewal day to pass along words of
encouragement and to pick up my "Painted Cup"
~Darren E.
I think you guys are doing awesome. I love the new Coffee Cup
layout. I would like to see more stories from patients that have
graduated the Valley Hope Program whether it would be
Residential, IOP, or Continuing Care. Keep up the good work
ladies. You guys rock.
~Daniella R. Oklahoma City, OK
Just read the latest edition of Coffee Cup. I do like the bright
"happy" colours. Lots of good articles as well. I can see nothing
that needs changing at this time
~ Eddie T. Alumni GVH
Great issue. I guess I am from the old school. Could you send me
a hard copy please? I prefer reading them this way and then my
wife can read them also. Thanks.
~Gerry L. We got you on the mailing list.
Good morning, The CUP looks great. The improvements are
stunning. Keep up the good work
~John H. Breckenridge, CO
Thank you for your continued efforts in making the Coffee Cup
available to us all. I love the color and layout of the new edition.
However, I found I could not read the comic or one of the letters
in this issue. The print is VERY small in the entire issue and
made it very difficult for me to read. But I LOVE IT! Keep up the
GREAT work!
~Libby H. Thanks Libby! We are working on resizing the text.
Great job on the Summer 2014 Coffee Cup. The color is very nice. The Family Matters article by Donna Schwartz was
really good as well as the Spotlight on the 12 steps. I also like the back page response to summertime fun and the
cartoons. I would like to see more Carry the Message from alumni especially related to the solution. I think it would
be nice for people to give feedback on going to approved conventions, conferences, workshops etc.
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Opiateaddiction,whichincludesaddictiontoheroin,aswellasmanyprescription
narcotic medications, seems to be a growing problem. Some people become
addictedfollowingtheuseofprescriptionpainmedicationsprescribedforaninjury
or for conditions that cause acute or chronic pain. Others are exposed to opiate
medicationswhenexperimentingwithotherstreetdrugsoraccessthesemedica-
tionsinthehomemedicinecabinet.Heroin,whichseemstobemakingacome-
back,canbecomethedrugofchoicewhenitbecomestoodifficultortooexpensive
toaccessprescriptionopiatemedications.
Regardlessofhowopiatedependencedevelops,opiateshaveacommonality
regardinghowtheyareprocessedinthebrain.Longtermuseofopiates,evenat
prescribed doses, leads to physical addiction. When opiates are taken into the
body,theyfloodspecificreceptorsinthebrain,leadingtoasenseofeuphoriaor
extremebliss.Withrepeateduse,thebrainbecomesaccustomedtothislevelof
euphoriasothatwhenthedrugisremoved,theaddictedpersonexperiencesvery
unpleasant withdrawal symptoms. These withdrawal symptoms can include
nausea, muscle twitching, hallucinations, cold sweats, depressed mood, shaki-
ness, insomnia, abdominal cramping, etc. Withdrawal symptoms related to opiate cessation can last for
months,makingitverydifficultforanopiateaddicttomaintainsobriety.Suboxoneisamedicationusedto
reducethosewithdrawalsymptomsandimprovechancesforlongtermrecovery.
SuboxoneisacombinationofbuprenorphineHClandnaloxoneHCl.Buprenorphineisanopiatemedica-
tion which works in the brain much like the opiates the person was addicted to. Buprenorphine leads to a
sensationofwell-beingandpreventstheaddictedpersonfromexperiencingtheseverewithdrawalsymptoms.
Whenusedalone,buprenorphinecanbeeasilyabused.Naloxoneisanarcoticdrugthatisusedtoblockthe
effectsofothernarcoticoropiatemedications.Whenusedalone,naloxonecanleadtosuddenwithdrawal
symptoms.Thecombinationofbuprenorphineandnaloxoneallowstheaddictedpersontoexperienceless
physicaldiscomfort,butduetothepresenceofnaloxone,itismoredifficulttoabuse.
TheprimaryuseofSuboxoneistotreataddictiontoopiates,includingbothheroinandprescriptionpain
medications, although its base product, buprenorphine, is also approved to treat moderate to severe pain.
AccordingtotheFDA(FoodandDrugAdministration)website,“Suboxone[andarelateddrug,Subutex]are
the first narcotic drugs available under the Drug Abuse Treatment Act (DATA) of 2000 for the treatment of
opiate dependence that can be prescribed in a doctor’s office. This change will provide more patients the
opportunitytoaccesstreatment.”
Suboxonecomespillsandsublingualfilm(filmthatdissolvesrapidlywhenplacedunderthetongue).More
recently,animplantableversionofSuboxoneisbeingdevelopedwiththeexpectationthatitwouldbemore
difficult to misuse or divert. Referred to as Probuphine, the implant is touted to deliver stable doses of
buprenorphine for months. Probuphine has not yet been approved by the FDA, but additional studies of
Probuphinearebeingconductedtodetermineit’seffectiveness.
SideeffectsofSuboxoneincludedrowsiness,headache,stomachdiscomfort,afeelingofbeingintoxi-
cated,andinfrequentlymayincludepoorbreathing,jaundice,changesinheartbeatandwithdrawalsymptoms.
Comparedtootheropiatetypemedications,Suboxoneisquitesafe.Evenwithsideeffectssuchasrespira-
torydepression(slowedbreathing),itislesslikelytobelifethreateningthansideeffectsfoundwithopiate
abuse.Thatbeingsaid,thecombinationofSuboxonewithothercentralnervoussystemdepressantssuchas
alcoholorbenzodiazepinemedications,canleadtorespiratorydepressionthatislifethreatening.
In 2002, the FDA approved Suboxone for detoxification of opiate addiction and long term replacement
therapyforthosedependentonopiates.PhysicianswhoprescribeSuboxonemusthavespecialtrainingand
certification. According to Wikipedia, “the medical treatment of narcotic addiction remains the most strictly
regulatedareaofmedicine.”
ItisbecomingfairlycommontoseeSuboxoneusedinresidentialorinpatientdetoxsettings.Suboxone
may be given for 3-10 days in progressively lower doses to ease the physical discomfort of immediate
withdrawalfromopiateaddiction.ItisimportanttonotstartSuboxoneuntilthepatientisalreadyexperiencing
withdrawal symptoms. The use of Suboxone while the patient is actively high on opiate drugs can lead to
severewithdrawalsymptoms.
Onthenationallevel,opiatereplacementtherapyhasshownsuccess.MedicationssuchasSuboxone
havebeenfoundtobebeneficialinhelpingthoseaddictedtoopiatemedications,includingheroin.Suboxone
canbeusedbrieflytoaidthedetoxprocessormaybemaintainedformonths,evenyears,dependingonthe
needsofthepatientandthephysician’sdeterminationofthatpatient’sneeds.Inthelongrun,itappearsthat
SuboxoneiseasiertodiscontinuethanisMethadoneandSuboxoneislesslikelytobedivertedorabused.
Suboxoneisalsousedduringpregnancytoimprovetheoutcomeofinfantsborntoaddictedmothers.Itis
physicallysaferforafetustobeexposedtoSuboxoneinuterothantobeexposedtoopiatewithdrawalsymp-
toms.Therefore,opiateaddictswhobecomepregnantareoftenmaintainedonSuboxone(orothermedica-
tions)andthechildisdetoxedafterbirth.
ItisimportanttorememberthatSuboxoneisgenerallynotdesignedasastandalonetreatmentforopiate
addiction. Drug treatment centers that use Suboxone often employ one or more of the following, as well:
residential/inpatienttreatment,intensiveoutpatientprograms,educationalprograms,outpatientindividualor
groupcounseling,12-stepprograms,frequentappointmentswithphysicians,peermentoring,randomurine
drugscreens,etc.
Thetreatmentofopiateaddictioncanbequitecomplex.Itis,inmostcases,essentialtoworkwithatrained
chemical dependency professional to achieve the best outcome. As the number of opiate addicts has
increased,sohastheskillofthoseprovidingopiateaddictiontreatment.

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Thisisanodtoheroin
anodetomyoldfriend
youtoremeintoshreds
soIcouldberebuiltagain
itseemsthebattlesover
butIstillhaveawartowin
fightingthoughtsshrillyscreamingabout
howI'mmissinghim

Thisisanodtoheroin
notaheroinnod
It'soddnowI'minlovewithpain
andthisbastardslosthisjob
I'mhatefullygrateful
Myfaithain'tshakennow
thoughI'velearnedsometimesgiant
slayers
can'ttakeamidgetdown

Thisisanodtoheroin
adeathsentencetoexecute
I'llplaytheroleofhangman
recovery,yournoose
andasyoutwitchandallturnsblack
listencloselyasIsay:
Thiswilltakeplaceagaintomorrow
thisone'sjustfortoday
ANODTOHEROIN...ByEricH.
Iamagratefulrecoveringalcoholicaswellasagratefulrecoveringfamilymember.Iamthefamilycounselor
atCushingValleyHope!Ilovesharingmyownexperience,strength,andhope.Igrewupastheonlychild
of a precious alcoholic mother and a co-addicted father. My dad died at 50 when I was 13 due to stress,
enablingbehaviorandlackoftakingcareofhimself.Iwasco-addictedbeforeIwasborn,ifthatispossible!
IknowthatIhavebeenanenabler,afixer,amanipulator,aliar,apeoplepleaserandmuchmore.Ididn’t
knowhowtogetalonginthisworlduntilsobriety.Infact,thosethingsweretheveryseatofmyaddictionas
Ifoundoutfairlyquickly.ThehardpartwasstoppingthosethingsthatIoncethoughtofasnecessaryfor
survival.
ThemostdifficultthingIhaveeverbeenthrough,however,isbeingthemotherofanalcoholic,lovinghim,
feelingresponsibleforhimandfearingthathewoulddieifIdidn’tsomehow“help”.Ifinallybegantogoto
Al-Anon.Theprogramhasheldmeaccountableandsavedmyson’slife.Iwaslovinghimtodeathanddidn’t
realizeit,outofmyownfear.Soundfamiliar?IrealizedIwasdoingforhimwhatheneededtodoforhimself.
Now,inmyown“surrendertowin”,Ihadtoalsobearthepainofwatchinghimlearnsomeoflife’slessons.
Wow….Icouldhavecontinuedtofeelguilty,responsibleandvictimizedmyselfbutthroughAl-Anon,Irealized
thatIlovedhimthebestIcould,atthetime.Iwasalsotryingtoescapemyownuncomfortablefeelingsof
fear,worryandfrustrationaboutallowinghimtosuffertherealconsequencesofhisbehavior.
WhatInowknowis,thatIwastakinghislifelessonsawayfromhimandenablinghimtofeelinadequateand
incapableoftakingcareofhimselfasaman!Iprayedandnowprayforforgivenessandstrengthinmyown
behaviorandthinkinginthisregard.Inowhaveaneverimprovingandcloserelationshipwithmyrecovering
sonthatisfreeofresentment,overblownresponsibilityandmistrust!!BytheGraceofGod,heislearning
andhaslearnedsomeofthesedifficultlessonsandheandGODhavebroughthimthroughthisgrowth,not
me.IHADtogetoutoftheway.Iamsogratefulforthatunderstanding,otherwiseIamcertainmysonmight
havediedasa“victim”ofthisdiseaseandtheworld.Iamabsolutelypassionateabouthelpingotherstosee
theirownenablingbehavior.
Oh,mygosh,howsweetitis.Thetruthreallydoessetusfree.Ihavetoldmyson,againandagain,thatI
willnever,ever,withGOD’shelponedayatatime,participateinhisdiseaseordeath.Wewillgoforward,
lovingeachother,respectingeachother,andhonoringeachotherandourselveswithourownrecoveries.I
amoneblessedgirl.Iamabletodothiseverydayandbeenrichedandinspiredbyourbeautifulandwilling
patientsandfamilymembers!
FAMILY MATTERS - LIFE MATTERS
VICTORIAN.,MA,LADC
Different,Scary,Uncomfortable
ChangetomemeantIwouldbedifferent,
IthoughtIlikedmyself,butturnsoutIdidn’t.
Changetomewasveryscary.
I wasn’t sure I would like my real self and that’s pretty
hairy.
Changetomealwaysseemeduncomfortable,
SoInevertriedit,ItoldmyselfIwasn’table.
DenyingchangewastheworstthingIcoulddo.
ButsinceI’vechangedI’vefoundthenewmetobeso
true.
BeingdifferentmeansI’mbeingmyself,
Nooneislikemeandthatbringsmegreatwealth.
Beingscaredisnolongermydevotion.
I’mnotafraidanymoreofshowingmytrueemotions.
Beingcomfortableiswhatit’sallaboutinmyeyes,
Sothat’swhychangeissoimportant,toatleasttry.
CHANGE-ByEricV.-OklahomaCityIOP
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ByKerri,RN
NortonValleyHope
Amanjuststoppedbythenurse’s
stationonhiswaytoColorado.He
saidhisbrothercamebackfrom
Vietnam“adrunk”andhethought
hehadlosthisbrotherforever.
Hisbrother(Bob)checkedinto
NortonValleyHopein1991and
hasbeencleanandsoberever
since.HenowlivesinPhoenix
anddoesalotwithAAthereandis
consideredan“OldTimer”.His
brotherwantedmetopassonhis
sincerethanksforgivinghimhis
brotherback.Heaskedmetotell
everyonewhatanawesomething
itiswealldohere.
TravelerstopstothankNorton
Goodbye,Alcohol,sorrytosay.
Youwereruiningmylifeinmorethanoneway.
Youarecunningandbaffling,andIlikedthehigh.
Butitwastoomuchofagoodthingandacausetolie.
Itistimenowfor,ourwaystopart,
Toredirectmythinkingandmakeanewstart.
Sogoodbyetothealcoholthatfueledmydisease,
Andwithyouthememories,offinthebreeze.
ForIhaveembracednowthe12StepprogramofAA.
Whichpromisesself-seekingwillslipaway.
Ourattitudeandoutlookuponlifewillchange,
AndGodisdoingforus,whatwecouldnotarrange.
Idonotwanttogobacktothepastthatwehad.
Nomoreoftheproblemsyoucausedandforthat,Iamglad.
Onedayatatime;itistimetogetreal.
Tolivewellandbewell,tofeelwhatIfeel.
Thejourneybegins;“TheGreatAdventure”somesay,
Andacceptanceistheanswertomyproblemstoday.
SoGoodBye,youbeast,Ihavenotimetoattack.
ForIamgoingto
HitthegroundrunningandIain’tlookingback!
SusanL.-DenverValleyHope
GoodByeLettertoAlcohol
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Iwasskepticalofyouandhowyouimpactmylife.Initially,thedisease
setoffablaringwarningalarminmyhead–anoisymessagethatyou
were over-rated and too complicated to be worth the effort. I couldn’t
hearyourcalm,steadyvoiceovertherageofinsanityinmybrain.
But then something amazing happened. The minute I started to
welcometheideaofyouinmylife,youbroughtanimmediatewarmth
and glow to the table. It was like throwing a blanket of quiet over the
noiseofthedisease.Icouldhearmyselfthinkforthefirsttimeinalong
time.Icouldhearme,notthedisease.
AsIembracedyou,youbegantochangemyperspective,thoughtsand
behaviors.Inthebeginningofourrelationship,itwaslikefloatingonthe
fluffiest, pink cotton candy cloud ever—or maybe like floating on a life
raft, saved from drowning. I thought I had you figured out—just float
along.Butthen,likeeverycloud,youbegantoreleaseyourmoisture-
rain on my parade—that fell like tears down my face. The flood of
emotions,lockedupforsolong,settledonmeandIfeltlikeIwasfalling
again. But it was only a short distance and into the safety net of my
familyandfriends,mygroupofRose.
Throughtheprocessofgettingtoknowyou,Irealizetheimportanceof
support.Willpoweralonewillnotwinthiswar.Myrelationshipwithyou,
Recovery,islikefabricwovenofallthevitalpartsofahealthy,function-
inglife;thefibersarefamily,friends(realfriends)fellowshipthroughAA
andaboveall,astrongconnectionwithGod.It’sprobablyfabricthat’s
full of texture and color, like my life, there are smooth patches and
challengingbumpsandpricklesandvelvetsoftribbonsofjoy,upsand
downs all woven in and I can finally be proudly, bravely, and joyfully
coherentforitall.
Thankyou,
JustinB.
TempeValleyHope
HelloRecovery,
I’ll steal your soul
Make you feel whole
I’m the door to down below!
What’s my name?
I like the cash
The strange piece of ash
The runway to your crash!
What’s my name?
The base to the beat
Muscles on the street
The grit in your teeth!
What’s my name?
I’m the cries of your child
The reason to go wild
Still taking your smile!
What’s my name?
I’m the evil in levels
Running with Rebels
I’m down with the Devil!
What’s my name?
I’ll lead you to the dark
Then be gone like a spark
Gnash of the teeth before the bark!
What’s my name?
I rob you of your peace
My dreams from beneath
Your will is my release!
What’s my name?
ADDICTION
What’sMyName?-JadeC.
Thereisnogreaterteacherofempathyandcompassionthanhaving
beenthere.It’sapainfulwayofbecomingthebestencouragement
anotherpersoncanhavethatthey,too,willmakeitthrough.
-DonZ.
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ScottEhrlich,Chaplain-BoonvilleValleyHope
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Ihaveneverbeensoafraidofanythinginmylife.
MakingalistofallthepeopleI’dharmedseemedan
impossibletask,becausemasterco-dependentthatI
am,IwasconvincedIhadharmedeverybody.Thank
Godformysponsor!HehelpedmeseethatIhaven’t
harmedeachandeverypersononthewholeplanet
sincethedawnoftime,andhealsogavemesomeof
thebestadviceI’veeverheardregardingstep8:
Lesson #1:“How do you eat a 500 pound
gorilla?”heasked;andthenheansweredhisown
question,“One bite at a time. That’s how you work
step 8. Rather than making a list of ‘all’ the people
you’ve harmed, do it ‘one bite at a time.’ Make a list of
5 – 7 people, make amends to them, come back and
start again.”Oncemy“harmsdone”listwasamanageablesize,Icouldbegintheprocessof,
“cleaningmysideofthestreet.”
Lesson #2:Grasshopper:“I’msorry”isneverenough.Afterawhile,apologiesringreal
hollowunlesstheyarebuttressedbysomekindofreciprocalaction.Besides,ourfamiliesand
friendsalreadyknowhowsorryweare,becausewe’vetoldthemoverandover,onlytogoout
anddothesameoldthingagain…andagain…andagain.Itwasn’tenoughformetoapologize
tomywifeforlying,Ihadtobehonest.Itwasn’tenoughtoapologizetofamilyandfriendsfor
stealing,IhadtorepaywhatI’dtaken.MakingamendsisaboutchangingthewayIlivemylife
anddealwiththepeopleinit.
Lesson #3:Somepeoplewillnotforgiveyou,nomatterhowsincereyouare.Ifyouare
honestandhumbleindealingwiththem,theresultsarenotuptoyou,theyarebetweenthe
personyou’veharmedandGodastheyunderstandHim.
Lesson #4:Thistakestime!Iwantedmywifetostarttrustingmeandtreatingmelike
anadult[insteadofheroldest,mostunrulychild]immediately–eventhoughI’dspent10years
destroyinghertrustinme–andshewasnotgoingtodothat.Shewaswilling–eveneager--to
letmeearnhertrustagain,butshe’dbeenburnedtoomanytimesinthepasttodoitright
away;andIhadtorespectherenoughtolivewiththat.
Finally,ifyouarenotonyourlistofpeopleharmed,putyourselfthere!Rightontop.It
iscrucialthatwerecoveringfolkslearnhowtotreatourselveswiththesamedignityandrespect
we’retryingtogivetoothers,becauseifoursobrietyisnothingbutdrudgeryandself-
flagellation,wewon’tdoitforlong.
Oh!Onemorething:Youknow“the12Promises”intheBigBook?They’rerightinthemiddleof
whatBillW.hastosayaboutworkingsteps8and9!Iwouldremindyou,dearfriends,thatthey
are called the 12 “Promises,” not the 12 “I Hope So’s” or the 12 “Maybes,” or the 12 “Kinda-
Sortas.”Theyarepromises.Andtheyareforyou.
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purposeorleaveasunrestricted
Donateonlinewww.valleyhope.org/donateor
mailVHAFoundation,P.O.Box59,Norton,KS,67654
ContactMeganatmegano@valleyhope.orgorphone(785)877-4483(GIVE)
ValleyHopeAssociationandtheFoundationwillnotacceptgiftsfromapatientinexcessofacumulative$250amount
within the first two years of discharge from any level of care. This amount was determined to allow everyone the
opportunitytoparticipateinfund-raisers,golftournaments,BirthdayClub,etc.Ourethicalpoliciesguideustomain-
tainonlyatherapeuticandprofessionalrelationshipwithpatients,foraminimumoftwoyearsfollowingdischarge.If
webeginacceptingdonationswithinthattwoyearperiod,ourrelationshipchangesfromtherapeuticto“donor-social”.
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Jane L. - Cushing, OK - April 19, 1989
Earl M. June (23 years?)
Kelsey B. - Atchison, KS - Sept. 17, 2012
Megan O. - Norton, KS - June 20, 2001
Shawn H. - Norton, KS - June 13, 2012
Keith D. - Norton, KS - June 21 - (34 years)
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JohnGrieshaber-InhonorofLarenaGrieshabe
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Jay&SusanGraf
NortonChangeaLife
MeganO'Connor-InmemoryofBrianO'Connor
PatientAssistance(books,soberliving)
AnonymousDonor
AlmenaStateBank-Almena
AmbassadorsClass1stChristianChurch
CommunityHospital-McCook
DestinationKitchen
KeithDickey
FarmBureauFinancialServices-JoyJohnson
FittoGo-GloriaZwickle
RogerHansen&BarbaraQuinn
ShawnHayden
HaysPuttPuttBBQParticipants
MarkHolderfield
JBNInc.
CamieKonicek
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Dr.CraigKrizek
LittleBo-tique
ChuckMcGinnis
MoffetDrug
EarlMurphy
Natoma
Nex-Tech
Nick'sDistribution,Inc.
NortonRunRegistrations
Olliff-Boeve
PrairieLandElectricCooperative,Inc.
DonSchlatter
JulieSiefers-InmemoryofDerekZabokrtsky
Bob&AliceStanley
StateFarm
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Doris&RWYeager
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MikeReed-InhonorofAaronEnglund
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JudyandJohnDutra
DeborahandJerryDye
KathleenFavrow
Shana&JeffGadt
LucindaGrove
TimothyHaas
Haren&LaughlinConstructionCo.Inc.
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HerzbergDiamonds
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HorizonMedia-BillKoenigsberg
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MarciaHunter-HallmarkBusinessConnections
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CharlesandMarieJenks
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Janet,Clint&LindseyKraft
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JeanandKyleMead
DavidandRobinMenzel
ValerieMirarchi
JerilynandBillyMoss
RalphMullin&NancyMcClelland
BrookNienstedt
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Prydes
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DonnaReid-Epsilon
BretandDeeRolig
Marianne&LeaRowland
Andrea&JamesScarpelli
Bernie&DonettaShaner
Michele&MikeSwarts
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ChadBurdette
AllysonDamon
DawsonChiropractic
DominionDiagnostics
AnonymousDonor
RothEddings
AngelaFrain
EricFrost
GetArizonaProperty
JosephGleekel
JeffHanley
JaclynHuban
J&JSoberLiving
ChrisKatsaras
GregKeller
DarcyKusak
CherylLaflen-InhonorofAmyLeVan
ChristopherLoera
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PoposMexicanFood
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MeritrustCreditUnion
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MikeHiebConstructionInc.
MonteMiller
O'NeillRideParticipants
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SteveSchaaf
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Jim&MaryBrox-InmemoryofDennisCarmichael
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Atchison, KS
AlumnigroupmeetseachmonthatAtchisonValleyHopeonRenewalDay(3rdFridayofeverymonth)at9AMfora
Businessmeeting,thenwe’llenjoyRenewalDaystartingwithpatientcuphangingsandat10:30RoadtoRecoverybegins
whereweanswerquestionsfromthepatientgroup.
Dodge City, KS
AlumniGroupmeetsthe3rdSun.ofeachmonthforbreakfast,fellowshipandspeakerat9am.Casey’sCowtown,503E.TrailSt.,
DodgeCityDates:Aug17,Sept21,Oct19,Nov16Contact:DamonP.(620)339-0687orconqsports@msn.com
Hays, KS
GroupmeetsoncepermonthonSundaymorningat9:30AMforbreakfast,fellowshipandspeaker.GoldenCorral(southofWalmart).
We’llmeetinthebackroomandenjoythebuffet.Upcomingdates:Aug17,Sept21,Oct19,Nov23ContactRonS:(785)650-1064
Norton, KS
AlumnigroupmeetsweeklyeveryThursdayevening,6:50pmfora1hourmeeting.Comeearlyforcoffeeandcookies.
NortonValleyHopeDiningHall.AlsojoinusforRenewalDaythe2ndFridayeverymonthforalumnimeetings9AMand1:30PM.
Chandler, AZ
AlumniandfriendsmeetinthedininghallofChandlerValleyHopeTuesdayevenings7:15-8:15PMforspeaker&groupdiscussion.
Tempe, AZ
WeeklymeetingsheldatTempeValleyHope,RioSurenoMedPlaza,2115E.Southern,(480)831-9533
Mondays8pm-YoungAdultMeetingwithrotatingscheduleofdiscussion&bookstudies.
Tuesdays6pm–Co-Anon12Stepmeeting&7:15pm–PillsAnonymous12Stepmeeting
Wednesdays4:30pm-AlumniBigBookStudyonehourmeeting
Thursdays6pm–Speakerandopenmeetingformat.Opentopatients,alumni,familyandfriends.
Tucson, AZ – NEW group
Alumni,joinuseveryThurs.eveningat6PM,foragreatspeakermeeting.TheVillageChurch,1926N.CloverlandAve.,TucsonAZ.
(CrossstreetsarePima&Rosemont.)MeetingopentoFriendsandFamilyontheFirstThurs.ofeachmonth.
FacebookpageCVHALUMNITUCSON.CallScottB.at520-647-1213,ore-mailhimatscottb.anewhope@gmail.com.
Denver, CO - New Group
AlumniandcurrentpatientgroupmeetforanopendiscussionintheDenverValleyHopelecturehall.Patientgroupisencouragedto
askalumniquestionsaboutrecovery,meetings,sponsorship,etc.2ndFridayofeachmonthat6PMContact:LexP.(303)809-7777
Parker, CO
AlumniandcurrentpatientgroupmeetforanopendiscussioninthePVHlecturehall.Patientgroupisencouragedtoaskalumni
questionsaboutrecovery,meetings,sponsorship,etc.2ndand4thSaturdayofeachmonthat7PMContact:JohnW.(303)808-4861
Grapevine, TX
AlumnimeeteverySaturdayatGVHintheLectureHallfrom6-7PM.Comeshareyourexperience,strengthandhopewiththecurrent
patientgroup.AlumnialsomeetonthelastFridayofeverymonthforRenewalDay.Contact:SuzanneW.alumnihopeline@gmail.com
North Platte, NE
Groupmeetsthe3rdSaturdayofeverymonthat5PMforaneveningpotluckfellowshipandStepmeeting.BethelChurchin'theloft'
at2700W.PhilipAve.,NorthPlatte.Upcomingmeetings:(noAug)Sept20,Oct18,Nov15Contact:RayandTrendaS.(308)386-8962
Ogallala, NE
JoinusSaturdaySeptember6that6PMforapotluckfollowedbyanOpen12-Stepmeeting.
Location:TraditionsClubhouse1008WestA,St.,Ogallala,NEContact:Roxie(308)289-5509
Omaha, NE - New Meeting
JoinuseveryTuesdayeveningat7pmatOmahaValleyHope,7703SerumAve.,Ralston,NE68127(402)991-8824
ThisisachipmeetingandconsistsofsmallergroupstoincludeBigBookstudy,mediationandothertopicsasrequested.
St. Louis, MO
GroupmeetingiseveryweekonTuesdaynightsat6PM.RenewalNight4thWednesdayeachmonthfrom5:30-7PM.
St.LouisValleyHope,12777OliveBlvd.(314)514-9220bncleannsober.SLAAG2010@gmail.com
Tulsa, OK
EveryThursdayeveningat6:00p.m.joinusforagreatonehourmeeting.Room1ofthemeetinghallatthe
FellowshipChurch,2900S.Harvard.Contact:PeterG.(918)760-6011orLoriG.(918)510-1713

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IhavebeenacounseloratValleyHopeforabout1½years.Ihavebeeninaprivatepracticesince1989.Iworkedwiththe
KingmanHospitalRecoveryprograminthelate80’S(beforeitclosedandwasmovedtoSt.JosephHospital).Iwasraisedin
analcoholichomeandstarteddownthatroadbutchangedthewayIthinkandchangedthewayIlive.IdowhatIdobecause
Icareabouthelpingpeopleacceptthattheyhavevalueandtheyhavemuchtoofferiftheywon’tthrowitawayintheiraddic-
tion.
Oneofthehardestthingstodoinrecoveryistountwistthatblackknotinyourhead.Wecancleanthebodyanditfeels
greatbutthenwegetbackupinsideourheadsonlytodiscoverthatouraddictionisstillthere.Myfavoriterecoverycoinsays
Change,onthefront,andChange the way I think to Change the way I live,ontheback.Inrecoveryyouaregiventhetools
tolearnhowtoliveasober/cleanlife,butlikeanytoolyouhavetogetitoutofthetoolboxtouseit.Justowningtheboxfull
oftoolsmeansnothingifweproudlyshowoffourtoolsbutdon’tusethemtochangethewaywelive.Goingtomeetingsand
securingasponsoraretwoofthemostimportanttoolstolearnhowtouse.Ifyouusethosetoolscorrectly,youwillbuilda
sober/cleanfoundationthatwillhelpyoustaycleanandsoberdowntheroadofyourlife.Learningtousethesponsorteaches
youtoreachoutsideyourselfwhenyouneedthatextrastrength.Whenweleavethesetwotoolsinourrecoveryboxwestart
tofeelinvincible.WeconvinceourselvesthatIcandothisbymyself.Whenyoulistentotheold-timerstheywilltellyouwhen
theystoppedusingthesetwotoolstheyrelapsed.Thequestionbecomesareyouusingthesetwoprimaryrecoverytoolsor
tryingtocutthecornersanddoityourself.UsingthesetoolsisalifelongstrategytobecomethepersonthatIwanttobeand
notgoingbacktothepersonIwas.Whichwayareyougoing?Ihopethatyouareheadedforwardandifyoufindthetime
pleasestopbyonourRenewalDay,thethirdWednesdayofthemonthfrom6PM-9PM.
RENEWAL 3rd Wednesday of the month Wednesday of the month
ThecelebrationkicksoffonthethirdWednesdayofthemonthstartingat6:00PM.Wewillhavealumnisitinonsmallgroup.Former
patientscancomebacktoreceivethecuptheymadewhileinIntensiveOutpatienttreatment,oraValleyHopeCoffeeCupforeach
additionalyeartheyhavemaintainedsobrietyontheirsobrietydate.Weknowthatyourexperience,strength,andhopecanhelp
thosewhoarenewtotheprogramseethatlongtermrecoveryispossible.Wewillhaverefreshments,snacks,andtimeforfellow-
ship.Pleasejoinus!
TroyMatthews-BA,LAC,CommunityServicesClinician
Hereareacouplethoughtsonrelapseprevention.RelapsePrevention101:“HowtobeImmunefromDrinking”
Readpage89intheBigBook,AlcoholicsAnonymous,andputitintoactioninyourlifetoday.That’sit.Seeyounexttime.
(Thebosssaidithadtobelongersoletmeelaborate.)
HereisthepassageIamreferringtofromAlcoholicsAnonymous,page89:
“PRACTICAL EXPERIENCE shows that nothing will so much insure immunity from drinking as intensive work with other
alcoholics.Itworkswhenotheractivitiesfail.Thisisourtwelfthsuggestion:Carrythismessagetootheralcoholics!Youcan
helpwhennooneelsecan.Youcansecuretheirconfidencewhenothersfail.Remembertheyareveryill.
Lifewilltakeonnewmeaning.Towatchpeoplerecover,toseethemhelpothers,towatchlonelinessvanish,toseeafellow-
shipgrowupaboutyou,tohaveahostoffriends-thisisanexperienceyoumustnotmiss.Weknowyouwillnotwanttomiss
it.Frequentcontactwithnewcomersandwitheachotheristhebrightspotofourlives.”
I have been known to ask a simple question when someone comes back to treatment after using again. They say, “I
relapsed.”Isay,“Thatmustbereallytoughonallthepeopleyouwerehelping.”Mostofthetimethiselicitsasheepishgrin;
theygetmypoint.Othertimestheyblurtout,“Oh,Iwasn’thelpinganybody.”Atthispoint,Iexplain,“Soyoudidn’trelapse
becauseyoumissingoutononeofthemostimportantingredientsinthesobrietyrecipe.Ahotfudgesundaewithouthot
fudgeisjustabowloficecream.Youneedtoaddsomehotfudgetoyourprogramtohaveahotfudgesundae.Makesense.”
Ifatthispoint,IbackpedalandqualifyorpostponeorhedgeIamnotbeinghonest.Gettoworkwithotheralcoholics.Itdoes
notsay,“Sponsorotheralcoholics.”Sponsoringpeoplecertainlycountsbutthereareothertangible,practicalthingsyoucan
dowhenyouputthisdown,attonight’smeetingorattomorrow’sIOPsession.
Putthisdownandcallsomebodyfromtreatment,ortextthem,toseehowtheyaredoing.Textingisthenewcalling.Call
somebodyfromthelistofnumbersyougotatNA.Betteryet,callthemall.Notsurewhattosay?Thinkit’sembarrassing?
Justsaythis,“Thanksforgivingmeyournumber.I’mpracticingmakingcalls/texts.Whenareyougoingtoameetingnext?”
They’lltakeitfromthere.Don’tgetdiscouragedifyouleaveamessage.Youstillgetthebenefitoftryingtoreachout.
Thetextsays,“Carrythismessagetootheralcoholics!”Thismessageisthebookanditscontents.Howaboutbuyingan
extrabookifyoucanafforditandgivingittothenextnewpersonthatcomesin.Howaboutshowingsomebodyhowtodown-
loadthebooktotheirphone?Howaboutbuyingalargeprintbookforyourgroupforthosethatmightneedit.Howabout
bringingsomeQuestionsandAnswersonSponsorshippamphletstoyournextIOP(IntensiveOutpatient)meetingorback
uptoAtchisonValleyHope?Literaturecancarrythemessagewhenyoudon’tthinkyoucanyet.
IOPandcontinuingcarecertainlyaregearedtowardrelapseprevention,butwehavetomakesureweareactivelyinrecov-
erybyreachingouttoothersinmanydifferentways.
RENEWAL RE RENEWAL Last Friday of the month Last Friday of thee month
Alumniwillstartarrivingat6:00PMandtheeveningwillendat9:00PM.WewouldliketoinviteAlumniandFriendstosharetheir
stories, experience, strength and hope. We will also provide refreshments for the evening activities. This is a very interactive
sessionforthewholegroup.Wehopethatyoucancomejoinusforaveryfunandexcitingevening.
OverlandParkValleyHope-10114W.105thSt.,OverlandPark,KS(913)432-4037
JennaMaley,LAC,BS-Counselor
Thepastfewmonthshavebroughtsomemuchneededrainfalltoourarea.Farmers
areharvestingandtheweatherhasbeenbeautiful.Withsummerbeginning,kidsare
sellinglemonadeandtreats,thepatientsareenjoyingthelocalswimmingpool,and
everywhere you see change. There has also been many staff changes at
MoundridgeValleyHopesobesuretostopbyandseeus.Remember,RenewalDay
isthelastFridayofthemonthandwehavebeenhavingwonderfultimescelebrating
sobriety.Thecurrentpatientgrouptalkstoalumniaboutthechangestheyexperi-
enceinrecoveryandIhaveheardnothingisofflimitstotalkabout!
InMay,thefirstannualgolftournamentwasheldatHesstonGolfCourse.Thegolf
tournamentwasagreatsuccessandmadepossiblewithallthepeoplethatvolun-
teered.TheMoundridgeboardmembersdidagreatjobwiththeorganizationofthe
tournament, finding “hole” sponsors, providing donations and also gathering raffle
prizes.WecouldnothavebeensuccessfulwithoutthehelpofChris,Eddie,Dustin,
Lauren,Ray,RuthAnn,andJohn-theHopeBuildersBoardmembers.Thisgroupof
peopledonatedalotofenergyandtimetohelpmakethistournamentasuccess.We
also had a lot of great volunteers from the staff at Moundridge Valley Hope-Mike,
Patrick, Linda, Ryan and Stacie along with Megan O’Connor from the corporate
office.Atotalof10raffleprizesweregatheredrangingfromroundsofgolfatarea
countryclubstoabrandnewridinglawnmowerthatwasdonatedbythelocalExcel
Company from Hesston. Golfer’s had great weather and enjoyed the Hesston Golf
Park.Therewereover80golfers!Thegolftournamentraisedenoughmoneytohelp
manypatientsgetintosoberliving.MoundridgeValleyHopeisveryblessedtohave
suchagreatgroupofalumniwhocontinuestosupportusandwearesothankfulfor
all those who took part in the golf tournament or helped out in anyway. We look
forwardtodoingitagainnextyear!
The annual recovery celebration will be October 4th, so clear your schedule and
comevisitusforfood,music,guestspeaker,andfellowship!Besuretocheckyour
emailforfurtherupdatesanddetails.
InApril,celebratingoneyearsoberisToddP.ofKansasCity;JohnD.;DaleR.;BillyH.ofNewton;LeahR.ofHutchinson,and
ArthurL.ofHutchinson.
InMay,oneyearbirthdaysincludeChrisC.ofMcPherson;andcelebrating4yearssoberwasTonyM.ofHutchinson.Forthe
monthofJune,happyoneyearbirthdaytoJenniferW.,Goddard;AprilB.,Wichita;PatriciaM.,Wichita;GrantA.,Wichita;and
LeslieH.,Wichita.CelebratingtwoyearswasMichaelL.ofNewtonjoinedwithhiswifeTamiwhosharedhersupportandlove.
Congratulationson10yearssobertoBillyB.fromSalina!

Last Friday of the month ay off thhe month
Alumnibeginarrivingatthecenteraround8:30AMtovisitintheCommonsareawithotheralumni(andthestaff)orattendthe
8:50AMlecture.10:10AMwebeginanAlumniPanelwhichisaquestionandanswersessionheldinourlecturehallforcurrent
patientstoaskquestionsaboutwhatlifeislikeonthe'outside'aftertreatment.Beginningat11:00AM,wecelebratevarious
lengthsofrecoverytimewithourMedallionsCeremonyinthelecturehall.LunchisatnoonandAlumniGrouphasameetingat
1:00PM.ComeJoinUs!MoundridgeValleyHope-WedelRecoveryCenter
200S.AvenueB,Moundridge,KS67107-Ph:(620)345-4673
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3PM Registration
4PM Speaker/Awards
Dinner/Music
REUNION
LarryBlackMS,LCAC-NortonValleyHopeProgramDirector
This letter from home is sent with wishes that you are having a safe and fun summer. It’s
beenhecticbutmuchfunheresincethelasteditionoftheCoffeeCup.
OnJune13,wewelcomedfriends,alumni,co-workersandmembersofthecommunityfora
freecookout.Theburgersandallthefixinsweremightytastyandweenjoyedseeingallthe
familiarfaces.Whenallwassaidanddone,125peoplewereserved.Thiscontinuestobea
welcomeandenjoyabletradition.
Thisyear,wedecidedtobranchoutandaddasecondeventtotheweekend.TheSecond
AnnualHopeinColorRun/WalkwasheldonSaturdaymorningJune14.Morethan170
peopleregisteredandparticipatedintheevent.Folksofallagesandpeoplefromallwalksof
liferan,walked,strolled,orcheeredthemon.I’vepersonallyneverseensomanysmilesin
oneplaceatthesametime.Mosteveryoneendedupcoveredincolor.Thisyear’sevent
featuredfreesno-conesforeveryonewhoparticipatedandwealsogaveawaythreeE-tablets
to three lucky winners. The event provided a fun environment and we were fortunate to
generate a significant amount of money to help out the patient fund to help Norton Valley
Hopepatientswithpersonalitems,booksandhalfwayhousedownpayments.
Wearefastapproachingourannualcelebration.Thisyear’sAlkathonwillbecelebrating47
yearsofhelpingthoseinneed.Wehavesomeverydynamicspeakersthisyearandweare
servingadeliciousmealofroastbeef,mashedpotatoesandgravy,greenbeansandcake.
Thesilentauctionwilloncebeheldthisyearandtherearesomemagnificentitemsthathave
beendonatedtohelpraisemoneyforthepatientfund.Ifyouwouldliketodonate,pleasefeel
freetocontactNortonValleyHope.
Everyoneiswelcomeandthereisnochargeforthemeal.Welookforwardtoseeingyouon
August16.
AbigthankyougoesouttotheHopeBuildersBoardandtheNVHstafffortheirhardworkwith
both the Hope in Color Run / Walk and with the Alkathon. Your efforts mean so much.
Thanks.
Thatsallfornow.Untilnexttime,keepmakinggoodchoicesanddon’tgiveupbeforethe
miraclehappens.
RENEWAL 2nd Friday of the month EWAL 2nd Fr riid day of the monthh
Meetandgreetat8:00amintheLivingCenterforcoffeeandcookies.
9:00AMwewillmeetasagroupinthe'staff'roominthecounselorbuilding.9:30AMLecture
Hallforcuphangingceremony.10:30AMLectureHallforaMedallionCeremony.Buya$5
mealticketatthenurse’sstationandenjoylunchwiththepatientsandstaff.1:30PMMeeting
inthelecturehall.
Giveusacallifyouplantopickupyourcuporshareabirthday!Callifanyquestions.
MikkiB.celebrates1year
Everyone at Atchison Valley Hope was saddened to hear counselor Larry Van Anne passed
away.HeretiredfromAtchisonValleyHopein2012.Fewpeoplecalledhimjust“Larry.”Hewas
“BikerLarry.”IsawapictureofhimonhisHarleyinthenurses’stationtheotherday.BikerLarry
embodiedmanyqualitiesneededtobesober.Ithinktakingalookatourselves,aspot-check
inventory,basedonqualitiesLarryhadwouldbeanhonortohismemory.
Beinginrecoveryisaboutshowingup.Larryshowedup.HowmanyAtchisonpatientsremem-
ber Larry and his “brother John” (fellow Valley Hope counselor, biker, and graybeard John
Shotts)leaningonthecounterattheAtchisonAAhalllookingoutoverthecrowdedroom?“I’m
Hagar,andI’maWino,”ishowLarryalwaysintroducedhimself.InAA,weshowup.Showingupisaboutwhoyouareandnotwhatothers
aredoingornotdoing.Larryputasidehisownpersonalissuesandwaspresentforhispatients.IfyouwerenotatAtchisonduringLarry’s
timethere,youmaynotknowthathestruggledwithbreathingandwasonoxygenmuchofthetime.Ithoughtmorethanoncetomyself,“IfI
feltasbadasIthinkLarrymustfeel,Iwouldn’tevenshowup.”Larryshowedup.
Inrecovery,wehavetogetridofourselfishnessandstartcaringaboutotherpeople.Jack,ourAtchisonProgramDirector,describedLarryto
anewcounselorsaying,“ThereisprobablynobodyatValleyHopethatcaredmoreaboutpatientsthanLarry.”That’ssayingsomething.
EWAL 3rd Friday of the month 3rd Friday of thee moonth
Alumnistartcomingabout8:30AM.OurfirstofficialactivityisAlumniGroupat9AMinthedininghall.At9:30,we'llwatchpatientcuphangings
intheLectureHall.Aftercuphangings,ouralumnigetintroducedtothegroupandthealumnishareaboutwhentheywereatValleyHope,and
wheretheygotomeetings.ThepatientgroupspendstimewithvisitingalumnitotalktoandgettelephonenumbersforAA/NAcontactsintheir
area.WetakeashortbreakandstartRoadToRecoveryaround10:45AM.Nextwehavemedallionsusuallyabout11:15.Afterlunch,Renewal
smallgroupstartsaround1PMforanhour.Weusuallyhave60ormorealumnivisitingandusually15to20birthdaysthatwecelebrate.
AtchisonValleyHope-1816N.2ndSt-Atchison,KS66002-Ph:913-367-1618
TroyMatthews,BALAC-CommunityServicesClinician
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August 16, 2014
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Saturday, November 1, 2014
Atchison Anniversary
2:00pm Open House
5:00pm Dinner
JanetWorthy,CRADC,-OutpatientProgramDirector
St.Louisisknownforitshotandhumidsummers,andthatkindof
weathercanaddmorestresstothebusyliveswelive.It’sgreat
toseeourValleyHopealumnigroupmembersworkingtogether
to help one another work their way through life’s difficulties—to
identifywhat’sbotheringthemandpickupthetoolstheyneedto
deal with negative emotions like frustration or resentment that
couldbeabarrierintheirrecovery.Thereisnothingliketalking
somethingoutwithagroupoftrustedallies.Issomethingbother-
ingyou?Cometoouralumnigroups.Hereyouwillfindalliesin
yourjourneyofrecovery--thosewhoshareacommonhistoryand
make the time and effort to be here—to help themselves by
helpingothers.Nothingisbotheringyou?Wehopeyouwilljoin
usaswell,andshareabitofthehopeandhappinessyouhavefoundinyourrecovery.
St.LouisalumnisupportthemonthlyRenewal/AlumniGrouponthefourthWednesdayofeachmonth.Thisisa
special time each month when alumni can celebrate with a Medallion Ceremony their first year of ongoing
recovery--oneofthemostrewardingexperiencesforallofusatSt.LouisValleyHope!Wehopeyouwillsharethis
importantmilestonewithus.Giveusacallifyouaregettingclosetoorhaverecentlyreachedyouroneyearrecov-
erybirthday;letushelpyoucelebratethehardworkyouputintothisaccomplishment.
Afewmonthsago,aweeklyalumnigroupwasstartedinSt.LouisinadditiontothemonthlyRenewal/AlumniGroup.
Thisgroup,heldeveryTuesdayfrom6:00to7:00p.m.,continuestogrow.ItallowsthosewhocompletedContinu-
ingCaretocarryontheirconnectionswithoneanotherandwithValleyHopeonaweeklybasis.
All of us in St. Louis hope our alumni will join us at our weekly (Tuesdays 6:00 to 7:00 p.m.) or monthly (fourth
Wednesdayofeachmonthfrom5:30p.m.to7:00p.m.)meetings--orboth!Wealwayswanttohearfromyou,even
ifit’sjusttosayhello.Comebyorgiveusacallat(314)514-9220.Youareoneofourallies—oneofthosevery
importantpeoplewhoaretheretolisten,offerahandofsupport,andreachouttooneanotherintimesofneed.
Hereinourcoolandspaciousgrouproomyoumayfindahavenfromthehotsummerweather.Youmayalsofind
aplacethatfeelslikehomeforyourrecovery.Wehopeyouwilljoinus!
RENEWAL - 4th Wednesday of the Month RRENNEWAL - 4th Wedneesday of the Month
St.LouisAreaMonthlyAlumni/RenewalGroupsmeetonthe4thWednesdayofeverymonthfrom5:30p.m.to
7:00p.m.inthelargegrouproom.ThisistheperfecttimeforthosewhosharetheValleyHopeexperienceto
enjoysomefellowshipandcarrythemessagetothosewhoarejustbeginningtheirrecoveryjourney.Thealumni
returningeachmonthtohangcups,pickupmedallionsandlendsupporttoothersareavaluableassetforSt.
LouisValleyHope—weappreciateallofyou.St.LouisValleyHope,12777OliveBlvd.-(314)514-9220
RENEWAL - NN WAL 2nd Friday of the month 2nd Fridaay of the month
8:30AMRegistrationintheCommonArea.Enjoycoffeeandgoodies.
9:40AMCupHangingCeremonyintheLectureHall.
10:00AMAlumniGroupintheLectureHall
11:00AMMedallionsCeremonyintheLectureHall.
12:30PMLunch-discountedpriceof$2.50
1:30PMAlumniGroups
IfyouwouldliketojoinusforLUNCH,pleaseletstaffknow.Giveusacallifyouplantopickupyourcuporshareabirthday!
Callifanyquestions.BoonvilleValleyHope-1415AshleyRoad-Boonville,MO65233-(660)883-6547
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MywifeandIrecentlycelebratedour33rdanniversary.Don’taskmewhyshestayed–Iguesssomepeoplejust
liketosuffer.Anyway,backtomypoint.Iwaslookingthroughthephotoalbumofourweddingandoneparticular
picturecaughtmyeye:Itwastakenjustbeforewestartedwalkingdowntheaisletogether.Mywifewasabsolutely
radiant–thepictureofconfidenceandhope.Me?IlookedasifI’djuststeppedinsomethingsoftandsquishy.I
stillremembercryingthroughalmosttheentireceremony.
Now,whywouldItellthisstory:Itcertainlyisn’tsoIcanbragaboutwhatamanly-manIam,orevensoIcan
possiblysharealaughwithyou;it’sbecauseIthinkitillustratesatruththatmanyofusalcoholicsandaddictsmay
failtorealizeuntilwe’vesufferedmorethannecessary.Evenpositivechangesarechargedwithemotionsthatcan
sometimes rather easily catch us off guard and overwhelm us. I still remember calling my sponsor in a panic
becausemykidsweretreatingmewithrespectandIdidn’tknowhowtohandleit!
Ifyouhaven’tdonesoyet,readthroughthe12PromisesintheBigBook.Iwouldremindyouthattheseareprom-
ises–not“hopeso’s”“thinkso’s”or“wish-it-wereso’s!”Thesearethemarvelouschangesthatarepromisedto
thoseofuswho,bytheGraceofGod,trudgeourwaythroughthesteps.Butouralcoholicbrainssometimeslay
trapsforusasthesepromisesbegintohappen:Wethinkwe’re“unworthy”ofallthishappiness;westartmissing
thechaos;wegetallparanoidandpessimisticandsimplywaitfortheothershoetodrop–certainthiscan’tlast.Not
forus.
Belovedfriends!Iencourageyoutoclingtowhatyouhavebeengiven:Thewonderfulgiftofsobriety.Someof
thechanges–eventhepositiveones–mayseemtobemorethanyoucanbear;butyouneverwalkalone!Iwish
youpeace.
OMAHA
ShayVasudevaMA,LADC-Counselor,OmahaValleyHope
OmahaValleyHopeisgladtoannounceanew12stepmeetingthatwillbehappeningatthefacilityeveryTuesdaynightat7pm!The
meetingwillbetitled“AlumniandFriends.”
On July 1, 2014 there was a celebratory cook-out that included grilling hamburgers, roasting hotdogs, and included all the fixin’s.
ProgramDirectorKandiMorris,OmahaValleyHopeStaffandAlumnispearheadedtheeventthatwasagreatsuccess!About50-55
AlumniandFriendsshoweduptoenjoythefestivities.ThespeakerwasNickandtherewere4Alumniwhopickedup1yearmedal-
lions.
Thealumnithatwillbechairingthismeetingwillbe:BobN.LisaR.DarrelM.JimM.andDanH.Theformatwillbeanopen12step
meeting,soitisnotdrugoralcoholspecific.Allarewelcome.Thismeetingwillbeagreatplaceforcurrentpatientstobeintroduced
to12stepmeetingsandforAlumniaplacetobeofservice.Soagain,comeone,comeallandtakeadvantageofanonproperty12
stepmeetingthatwillhelpfosteragreatersenseofcommunityattheOmahafacility!
RENEWAL - RRENEWAL 1st Tuesday of the month 1st Tuessday of the mmonth
OmahaRenewalwillstartat7:00pm.Therewillmedallions,aspeaker,andcelebrationcake.WewillstartwiththeSerenityPrayer,introduc-
tions,andcelebrationofvariouslengthsofsobriety.Weaskalumnitosharetheirexperiencestrengthandhopetoothers.Thisisagreat
placetore-connectandmeetnewfriends!Comebepartofthecelebrationofrecovery!
OmahaValleyHope-7703SerumAve,Ralston,NE68127-402-991-8824
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As I am writing this, it is Renewal Day, it’s also the last day of a week of
ProbationOfficertraininghereatO’NeillValleyHope.TheChapelisgoing
throughafacelift,so,noactivitiesinthechapeltemporarily,andallthisis
bringinglotsofthoughtstomind.
SomanypeoplewhocomeforRenewalDaysmakesuretheyarriveintime
for Chapel services at 7:40 AM. Although many of these alumni made a
pointofgoingtoChapelwhentheywereintreatment,othersdidn’tthen,but
makesuretheymakeitnow.Whoknowsifitispossibletoputwordsinto
whatthisisabout;wecertainlyhearthewords“Godwalksthesegrounds”
on a regular basis. Welcome, new Chapel look, but thanks Chapel, for
keepingwhatneedstostay,whateveritisthatmakesyousoimportantto
somany.
AsourProgramDirectorpresentedcertificatestoourProbationOfficersthis
morning,fortheirweekoftraining,hemadesomethoughtfulpoints.Weat
ValleyHopeworkhardtoprovidetreatmentforourpatients,whichwehope
canhelptoturntheirlivesaround.Wearegratefulforthoseworkingwith
thesamegoalsinjobsoutsideours.ThanksProbationOfficersforwilling-
nesstolearnaboutaddictionandgaininginformationwhichcanhelpyouin
helpingfolkswecareabout.
Last but not least, alcoholics and addicts just want to have fun….as
evidencedbythemotorcyclepics!TownstheycamefromincludeValen-
tine, Omaha, Hastings, Grand Island, and some of our local O’Neill folks.
You guys and gals rock--thanks for being here and for helping us raise
fundstohelpbenefitpatients.TheridewasthefirstSaturdayofJune,so
keepthisinmindfornextyear.Gratefully,theweatherthisyearwasmuch
betterthanthesoakingrainlastyear.Wewillhopeforthesamenextyear.
Keepcomingback,we’llbehere!
Renewal - al 1st Friday of the month 1st Frridayy of the montth
EventsstartThursday6:30PMContinuingCaregroup.Chapelservicesat
7:40 AM, lecture at 8:50 AM. The famous "Brunch" 10:00 AM. Medallion
ceremonies at 11:00 AM. If it's your sobriety birthday month, join us and
collect a "Celebrating Recovery" cup no matter how many years you’re
celebrating.Lunchat12:00PMandsmallgroupat1:00PM.Giveusacall
ifyouplantoattendThursdaycontinuingcare.
O'NeillValleyHope-1421North10thSt.,O’Neill,NE66763
(402)336-0008
O'NeillMike&Gailleadthepack
O'NeillChapelrenovation
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Saturday, August 23, 2014
Community Center
12:00pm Registration
1:00pm Speaker/Awards
5:00pm Dinner
“Soldiers of Hope”
GOLF TOURNAMENT
Sunday, August 24, 2014
Call for Details
402-336-0008
GOLF TOURNAMENT
GRAPEVINE
JewelHarper-Simon,M.DivChaplain
ExcitementisintheairhereinourstateofTexas!Wehaveanew
CHAPEL.
WhenyouenterGrapevineValleyHope’sChapelandspendafew
moments in silence you will become aware of a sense of peace
andcalmthatseemstobeapartofitswalls.Slowlythepeaceand
itspurposeofthismeditationChapelbecomesaplaceofrestand
quietnessinthemiddleofatreatmentcenter.Itbecomesahouse
ofprayerforallpeopleofallfaith,andforpeoplewithnofaith.It
hasnofixedorpermanentreligioussymbolsinstalled.
Sittinginthecenterofthemantleisaboxinwhichwecalled“the
God box” where prayer request and letters to a person’s Higher
Powercanbeplaceatthetopinaninsertwherenooneisableto
readorknowtheinformationthatisbeingwritten.
The Chapel has now entered into a new location at Grapevine
Valley Hope community as a “help to healing of mind, body and
spirit”.ItisnowlocatedintheResidentialtreatmentcenteracross
fromthenursesstation.EachChaplainprovidedthereondedica-
tionservicesduringtheweekofJuly14,2014.IwasthefirstChap-
lain to dedicate the Chapel and we had close to 40 patients with
standingroomonly.TheResidentialcommunitywaspresenteda
platetosymbolizeperfectattendance.
LaurenTroublefield,LCDC-ProgramDirector
“Toeverything-turn,turn,turn
Thereisaseason-turn,turn,turn
Andatimetoeverypurposeunderheaven.”
-TheByrds
GreetingsfromGrapevine!Astheleavesslowlybegintochange
colors and we welcome fall and its cooler weather, we at Grape-
vineValleyHopeIOPhavealsoenteredanewseason.Wehave
recently undergone some major changes and are very excited
about all of our new additions. We are excited to announce that
ourcoffeeshopisinthefinalstagesofcompletionandwillsoonbe
opentoourpatientsandalumni.Itisequippedwithcomputersand
anicecozyareatorelaxandchatwithothersinrecovery.Ithas
longbeenourhopethatthiswillbeaplaceforotherstocometo
buildevenstrongerrelationshipswithoneanother.
Inadditiontothecoffeeshop,theGardenofHopethatourAlumni
recently organized and landscaped is now completed and it is
absolutelybeautiful.OurAlumniworkedveryhardonthisproject
and their attention to detail paid off and we could not be more
thankful for their service. Quite simply, the garden is a place of
refugeforourpatientsanditoffersaplaceofrelaxationandreflec-
tion. If you haven’t seen it yet, now that the weather is cooling
down, I encourage you to come see for yourself how amazing it
looks.
As with any change in season, we are excited about what’s to
come.Yetonethingremainsaconstantandthatisourdesireto
offerthebestpossiblepatientcaretothosewhoarefightingaddic-
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RENEWAL - Last Friday of
the Month
I would like to invite you to Grapevine Valley Hope on the last
Fridayofeachmonth.Fewthingshavethepositiveimpactlikeour
successfulalumnireturningbacktothecenter.At8:00AMyouare
welcometoattendCommunicationsfollowedby8:50AMLecture.
At 9:40 AM Cup Hangings in the Lecture Hall. 10:00 AM enjoy
brunch with staff and alumni and 11:00 AM Medallion and Cup
Ceremony for alumni returning for their one year celebration and
multipleyearbirthdays.Ourcurrentalumnigroupisactiveindevelopingnewandentertainingactivities.Wealsohave
opportunitiesforsuccessfulalumnitocomeandspeaktoourpatientsattimesthroughoutthemonth.Giveusacallifyou
plantopickupyourcuporshareabirthday!Callifanyquestions.
GrapevineValleyHope-2300WilliamD.TateAve.,Grapevine,TX76051-(817)-424-1305
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SallyIsom,CheriRutledge,AimeeBlount,
JewelHarperSimon,KenDavilaandKaySeitz
LadiesfromministryareKaren,CaroleandCheri
FinishedGardenofHope
JohnO,DebbieG,AndreaS.EddieT,SuzanneW.
Blankets of Hope Ministry from First United
Methodist Church of Grapevine comes to our
facilityaboutonceevery3monthsanddelivers
to our patients these wonderful, homemade,
fleece blankets, that they make themselves,
oneoftheirsons,whowasapatientherenow
has seven years sober. Thank you for giving
back! What a wonderful gesture, helping the
currentpatientsfeelwarmandcomfortable.
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October 18, 2014
Grapevine Anniversary
10:00am-2:00pm
GRAPEVINE OUTPATIENT
CHANDLER
Willard“Bill”Kornovich,M.S.Chaplain-ChandlerValleyHope
Werecentlysurpassed19,000patientssinceChandleropenedinAugustof1986.Recoveryand
newlifehavebeendiscoveredbymanyonourcampus.Weaskonlythatyoupassonthegiftto
thosewhostillsuffer.Thepassingoftimeinevitablybringschange.Duringmytwelveyearswith
Chandler, I witnessed transformation of the program, the comings and goings of staff, and the
majorconstructionofrecentyears.Yet,oneinstitutionaltraithasneverchanged,thecaringnature
ofourentirestaff,theheartofCVH.
Shouldanearlypatientfrom1986returnforRenewalDay,theywouldfirstbestruckbythe
quality,functionalityandattractivenessoftoday’scampusandfacilities.Ifyouhavenotbeenon
campusinrecentyears,pleasecomeandexperiencethisrenewedsenseofplaceandhome.An
alumnusfromtheearlyyearswouldseehowprogrammingandtreatmenthaveevolvedtomeet
everchangingpatientneeds,especiallytheseeminglyunrestrainedriseofheroinuse.
Ibelievethematurityofanorganizationisevidentinbalancebetweenthe“brains”ofthe
enterpriseandthe“heart”oftheinstitution.Just,asIbelieve,balancebetweentheheadandthe
heartiskeytorecovery.Theheadhelpsusdealwiththeworldaroundusandgovernsourworld
presentationofself.Theheart,ontheotherhand,istrulywhoweareaspeople.Iampleasedto
reportthatthebalanceatChandlerisashealthyasever.
Attheheartofourheart,twoCVHfamilymembershavebeenheresincepatientnumber
one:NancySchmoldtofourBusinessOfficestaffandChaplainMaryFranSimons.BothNancy
andMaryFranwerehereonthatfirstdaywhenourwelcomingdoorsopened.
I’msureallofyoualumniwouldrememberorquicklyrecognizeNancy.Shequietly,profes-
sionallyandcheerfullyworkstoprovidethecriticalsupporttokeepourworkofnewhopegoing.
ThestaffrecentlysurprisedMaryFranforher80thbirthday.Many,many,manyofyouworked
withMaryFran.InvariablywhenImeetalumni,theyaskaboutMaryFranwithfondmemories.
SinceIbeganworkatChandler,MaryFranhasbeenteacher,mentorandfriend.I’veheard
said that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. I am blessed that Mary Fran
appeared.Ihavemodeledmyownministryonherexample.Shehasveryoftensaidthatwereally
donotknowthestruggleandpainofanotherhumanheart.Therefore,“we need to be gentle with
each other”.Ishallneverforgetthosewords.InconversationMaryFrandescribesourworkas
“sacred”.Progressalwaysbringsaboutchange.Ipray,however,thatsomethingsneverchange.
CongratulationstoalumniwhoreceivedtheirOneYearMedallionsduringApril,
MayandJune:
SteveF.,WesP.,JulieT.,MariahL.,AndrewJ.,PaulS.,BarryL.,BarbaraC.,
AudraH.,AaronS.,LeoR.,CliffT.,WendyC.,JohnW.,BriannaJ.,Fransisco
M.,EricS.,RebeccaE.,DustinH.,BradH.,SpencerO.,RodneyC.,DustinW.,
StephenZ.,HunterB.,ChristopherA.,KevinM.,FredericN.,SeanM.,Travis
N.,RandallW.,StacyC.,StephenH.,KarlaH.
Renewal - 3rd Friday of the Month 3rd FFriday off tthe Month
Meetandgreet-9amintheDiningHallforcoffeeanddonuts.CupHangingandMedallionCeremony9:40.At11:00wewill
breakintotwogroupswherethecurrentpatientgroupgetstoaskthealumniquestionsaboutwhatiswaslikewhentheyleft
treatment.Giveusacallifyouplantopickupyourcuporshareabirthday!
Callifanyquestions.ChandlerValleyHope-501N.Washington,Chandler,AZ85225-480-899-3335
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JanetStokesCACIII-Counselor

Itseemslikesummerhasjustbeganandwelookupandfallisjustaroundthecorner.ItishardtobelieveTheFourth
ofJulyhascomeandgone,andthefallmagazinesarestartingtohitthemailbox.Thisistheseasonforchange,notjustin
thetypicalsummertofallseason,buttheseasonforchangeinourfacilityatDenverValleyHope.Thereisachangingof
theguard,thepassingofthetorch,asJoeGraszllongtimeProgramDirectoratDVHisgettingreadytoretire,andTino
RomerothenewProgramDirectorissettlinginto
hisnewposition.ThenewCoffeeShophasbeen
approvedandwellonitswaytobecomingreality.
ThiswillgivethepatientsatDVHaplacetofeelat
home and to come and hang out in a sober,
welcoming environment or to work on their
assignmentsorjustenjoythefellowshipofothers
that are serious about their recovery. A new
alumni program is also in the works that will
provide fun activities to keep our alumni
connected to the program, helping others newly
in recovery. DVH will be getting a new family
programupandrunningwithinthenextcoupleof
weeks.
Throughthesechangesourgoalis;togiveour
patients something that they can be a part of, a
familyofrecovery.Workingwiththefamiliesand
giving them a sense of belonging to something
greater than they are, a place of refuge where
theydonothavetofacethestrugglesoflovingan
addictalone,isequallyimportant.
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MaryFrancelebrates80th
Photofromlefttoright:MelYoung,AnnWashburn,LaurieMoll,LaurenHughes,
VaneticiaGreen,JanetStokes,DonnieStokes,DaniPeruski,DonnaSchwartz,
MissieGonzales,WillHunt,BreeShawcroft,SandyPrasch,DaleLee,
TinoRomero,BonnieCline,TaraMagatagen,andJoeGraszl
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October 11, 2014
Chandler Reunion
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PARKER
On Saturday, June 21st, Parker VH celebrated 25 years
(canyoubelieveit?)atourannualRoundUp–andwhata
wonderfultimeitwas!Whiletheeventwasalittleiffyatthe
beginningwithasummerstormfullofwindandrainforthe
first half-hour. The day cleared up nicely and unveiled a
mostglorious,peacefulColoradosummerafternoon!
There were plenty of activities for kids and adults alike –
face-painting… a Bouncy Castle… firefighters with their fire
trucks… a great band playing all the favorites… and even a
dunktankfeaturingourcourageouscounselorMarkBlake-
ley!Wehadtwospeakerssharetheirrecoveryjourneywith
all in attendance – but especially as a gift to our current
patients.MaureenM.sharedherexperience,strengthand
hopetoaveryappreciativecrowd.OurownTinoR.gavea
heart-feltandpassionateaccountofhisjourneyinaddiction.
Even more importantly, he shared the challenges and
freedomofhisrecovery–andtheblessingithasbeeninhis
lifeandtothosearoundhim.NewAssistantProgramDirec-
tor, Dwight Duncan said, “This being my first Round-Up, it
provedtobeanexhilaratingdaywhererecoveryandmany
connectionswithalumniwerethereforthetaking.Goodfoodandmusicmadeawonderfulbackdropforinspirational
speakersandconversations.”
Wehadsome250attendees…allhavin’arock-‘n-rollgoodtime.Thedaywasfilledwithgreatfood(Susie,Tomand
Spencerknockedit“outtadapark”withburgers,brats,dogsandallthefixin’s!)Wehadawesomefellowshipand
plentyoffun–alongwithachancetorenewacquaintances.Toallthosethatcame…welovedseeingyou!Andto
thosethatcouldn’tmakeit…youmissedasweetpictureofrecoveryinaction.WehopetoseeyouSeptember20that
9amforour3rdannualRun4Recovery(seeourwebsitefordetails)--oratnextyear’sRoundUp!
OnWednesday,July9,agroupofpatientsfromParkerenjoyedhikingandrecreationinnearbyCastlewoodCanyon.
Thepatientsallcommentedonhow“thisiswhatrecoveryisallabout”andhowtheywerelookingforwardtodoing
more activities like this in their new “sober” lives. The Parker facility salutes these efforts for engaging in healthy,
productiveactivitiesinrecovery.
RENEWAL - 3rd Friday of the Month y oof tthee Mo onthh
Alumnistartarrivingasearlyas7a.m.todrinkcoffeeandvisitinthelivingcenter.AlumniGroupmeetsat9:00a.m.inthe
DiningRoomrenewingacquaintancesandmakingnewfriends.At10AM,alumnibreakintotwogroupsforaquestionand
answersessionwiththepatients(wheretheyreallylearnhowtherubbermeetstheroad!)Medallionceremonyisat11AM
tocelebrateindividuallengthsofrecovery,from1yeartomany,manyyears.You'llhearsomegreatstoriesfromindividuals
andtheirfamiliessharingtheirexperience,strengthandhope.Manyalumnisignupandstayforthenoonmealpreparedby
ourgreatkitchenstaff.Ifyouarecelebrating
1 year or more and plan on attending this
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ParkerValleyHope-22422EastMainStreet
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Registration: http://www.finishlinetiming.com/run4recovery
$5Discount Codefor Friends and Alumni of Valley Hope:
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Four MileRun on rolling coursealong Sulphur Gulch Trail in Parker, CO. First mileis gradual downhill, middle
two miles aregentleuphill and final mileis mostly downhill to thefinish. Onemilewalking coursewill follow
first/last 1/2 mileof run course.
Special gifts and refreshments for all participants!
Event coordinated by HopeBuilder Board and Valley Hope.
Prizes awarded for top 3 maleand femalefinishers and top finishers by agegroup.

or visit www.valleyhope.org/special-events


Parker’snextgroupofalumenjoyabeautifulafternoon
recreationsessioninCastlewoodCanyon
hiking,relaxing,andcelebratingtheirvictoryinrecovery!!!
Parker’scourageousCounselorMark
KensieLyonLADC-US,MS-CommunityServiceClinician
JustwhenIthoughtmyheartcouldnotgrowanymore,ValleyHope
hasprovenmewrong...again.JustliketheGrinchin“HowtheGrinch
StoleChristmas,”withouttheanger,hate,andstealing.Asmanyof
you know, we celebrated 40 years of providing hope and recovery
this past June. This also means that Valley Hope has touched the
livesofwellover27,000patients.AsIsatandlistenedtoallthepast
alumni who attended the reunion party, as well as those I became
acquaintedwithontheboard,Ibegantofindanevenbiggerpassion
forrecoveryandforwhatValleyHopehasrepresentedinmylife.
The12Stepsandrecoveryaretheanswerstoallissues,challenges,
andsituations-goodandbad,thatIcameacrossinmylife.Thebest
partisallofyou;patientsandstaff,past,present,andthosetocome.
Youhaveallchallengedmetobeabettermeandcontinuetowork
on myself, with being honest, open-minded, and willing. I have
recently been struggling with humility and pride. As I sit here and
reflect,IthinkofallthetimesIhaveencouragedotherstofindways
to get what they need by using their recovering community. Well
friends,givingadviceismucheasierthantakingit,however,dueto
theamazingteamhereinCushing,Iampusheddailytodothis.The
feelingoffinallylettinggooftheprideandembracinghumilityisvery
rewarding,andlet’sfaceit,alotlessstressful!Neverinmylife,have
Ibeensoblessedwithanopportunitytoworkwithsomanyamazing
andstrongpeople,whoareworkingonmakingbiglifechanges.You
areusingyouexperiencesinwaysthatcanbenefitothersinrecov-
ery, by sharing your vulnerabilities in a group of your peers. This I
believe,isatruesinceoffamilyunity.WhenIcometoworkevery
day,thethoughtof“IHAVEtogotowork”doesnotcrossmymind.
Thisisbecauseofyouwhoworkdailytomakeabetteryou,becom-
ing strong and powerful and vulnerable to accomplish other goals
andthoseofyouwhoadmitdefeatandthenovercomethatdefeat.
YoumakemyjobsomethingthatIGETtocometoandforthatIam
forevergrateful.ValleyHopehasgivenmeafamily,andItrulycould
neveraskforabetterlifethanwhatValleyHopehasgivenme,and
whatyouasalumnihavegivenme.Soforthis,Ithankallofyou.
On to some news!! As I said before, Cushing Valley Hope recently
celebrated40yearsofprovidinghopeandrecovery.Withthisbeing
said, Maryo, as many of you know, also celebrated 40 years of
employmentatCushingValleyHope.Sheisaveryspecialindividual
andgrewupinthemansionasachild.Whatablessingsheistothe
staff and to the patients; always greeting us by name and with a
smile.Maryo,youareverymuchlovedhereandhavetouchedmany
heartsthroughtheyearswithyourkindwordsandsoftsoul.
Renewal - 3rd Friday of the month off tthe month
Alumnibeginarrivingatthecenteraround9:00AMtovisit.(Someactuallyarriveintimetositinonthe8:50AMlecture)
At9:40,we'llhavepatientcuphangingceremonyintheLectureHallandthencelebraterecoverytimeof1yearand
multipleyears.Alumniareencouragedtointroducethemselvestothepatientgroupandletthemknowwhat12-Step
meetingstheyattend.Manyalumnistayandenjoylunchwithus.
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KenzieandDanareadyforballoonrelease.Danacelebrated
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Maryocelebrated40yearsof
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JoyceWillardreceives
GoldenHeartAwardfromMike
Balloon Release is a new
tradition to represent hope and new
beginnings.Everyonegatheredatthe
end of the party and was encouraged
to think of something they needed to
let go of, pray for and be thankful for
and then we released the balloons.
This was a great ending to a great
party as we celebrated 40 years of
hope and recovery we’ve provided to
over27,000patients.
ZacFlora,LAC-OutpatientProgramDirector
GreetingstoyouallfromOklahomaCityValleyHope!Asalways,wehopethatthisletterfromhomefindsyouwellin
yourrecovery.Astheysay,theworsedaysoberisbetterthanthebestdaydrunkorhigh,isitnot?Ialwaysliketo
thinkso.Sometimeshowever,lifecangetusdown,eveninoursobriety.Lifehappens!Maybeitisafinancialsituation
thatgetsusdown,orperhapsitisafamilyproblemorahealthissue.Whateveritmaybe,Iseeitasanopportunity!
ThisopportunityIspeakofistheoptiontousethetoolsofrecoverytodealwithwhatlifethrowsatusandtherebygrow
inourfaithandemotionalwell-being.Sooftenhowever,atleastforme,Ichoosetorevertbacktomyoldwaysofthink-
ing and try to handle life’s problems on my own, without any guidance from my Higher Power or help from people
aroundme!IthinkyoucanrelatetothisandIalsothinkyouhaveaprettygoodideahowthisusuallyturnsout.Dr.
WilliamSilkworthdescribesanalcoholicinthebookAlcoholicsAnonymousas‘restless,irritable,anddiscontent’until
theysatisfythecravingofafirstdrink.IthinkthisdescriptionfitsmeexactlywhenIamoutonmyowntryingtodeal
withlife’sproblems.IcanfindnorelieffromthisuntilIturnbacktomyHigherPowerandpeoplearoundme.
IsharethisbecauseIthinkitisimportantthatwesurrendertothediseaseonadailybasisandaskourHigherPower
andthosearoundusforhelp,notonlytostaysoberbuttolivelifeandliveitwell.Ifnot,wecangettherestless,irritable,
anddiscontentfeelingwhichcanleadusbacktoaddictivebehaviors.SomethingthatIneedtoaskOklahomaCity
AlumniforhelpwithisourRenewalNighthereattheOklahomaCityfacility.Traditionallywehaveheldthisthefirst
Tuesdayofeverymonthfrom6:30to8p.m.Wearenowchangingthisto5:30to7p.m.,stillonthefirstTuesdayof
everymonth.Wewillstillbehavingaguestspeakerandtheexcellentpotluckdinners!I’dliketoaskhelpfromallof
ourOklahomaCityareaalumnitopleasecomeoutandmakethisaspecialtimeforRenewalofFriendshipandHope
inrecovery.Pleasecomeandmeetourneweststaffmember,CounselorHeatherCox,whocomesoverfromCushing
ValleyHopetoworkwithus.GladyouarehereHeather!Orperhapsyouwillseeafacethatyouworkedwithinthe
past like Chaplain Arnold or Counselor Eileen or see the smiles of our wonderful business office ladies, Karen and
Danielle.Youguysareawesome!Maybethefacilitywillbenewforyoutoseeifyouhavenotbeentothenewlocation
sincewemovedeightyearsback?Mainly,wewanttoseeYOU!Untilthenreachoutforhelpwhenyouneedtoand
smile,you’resobertoday!
RENEWAL - 1st Tuesday of the Month EWAL 1stt Tuesdday of the Monthh
OmahaRenewalwillstartat7:00pm.Therewillmedallions,aspeaker,andcelebrationcake.Wewillstartwiththe
SerenityPrayer,introductions,andcelebrationofvariouslengthsofsobriety.Weaskalumnitosharetheirexperience
strengthandhopetoothers.Thisisagreatplacetore-connectandmeetnewfriends!Comebepartofthecelebration
ofrecovery!OmahaValleyHope-7703SerumAve,Ralston,NE68127-402-991-8824
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April A. - Arizona
Ibelieveharpingonthemcanturnintorebellion.If
youcanshowyourchildren(regardlessofage)how
fun, exciting and fulfilled their life can be without
drugsoralcoholisagreatdetourisn’tforanyaddic-
tion.Also,it’sagreatwaytobringthembackifthey
have started down that path. They are most likely
hurting, so be there for them as best you can with
compassion,understandingandlove.
What will I do if my kids start going down the same path
of addiction?

Danielle R. - OKC
Iwouldbeupfrontandhonesttomykidsabout
whatIwentthroughwhenbattlinganaddiction.I
wouldgivethemanyandallinformationaboutwhat
canhappenwithanaddictionandtothefamilyof
anaddictoralcoholic.Attheend,Iwouldgetthem
intotreatmentsothattheycanlivelongfulfilling
liveswithouttheuseofaddictivesubstancesin
theirlives.
Laminda V. Texas
AlthoughIbelievelife'sjourneysareimportantlearningtools,Iwouldnotwishthedarkrealmofaddictionon
anyone.Mychildren,mylegacy,mybloodfacingaddiction;isaveryrealconcern.Ithinkitisimportantfor
allparents,especiallythoseinrecoverytohavetheireyesopenandbealertandawaretothechanges
occurringinchildrenatcertainpointsintheirjourney.Earlyinterventionisprobablythebestdefense.Be
(liketheAABigBookprinciplessuggest)honest,open,andwillingseemtotranspireintotheroleofaparent
aswell.IthinkIwouldmusterupthecouragetobecompletelyhonestwithmydaughterandteachhernot
onlyaboutaddictionbutdrawforherapictureoftheharsh,regrettable,darkholdthataddictionis.Iwould
beopentoherstruggleswithoutjudgment.Thebigbookteachesuswearenotheretojudge.Lastly,Iwould
bewillingtogotoanylengthtoensureherhealthandhappinessjustasIdoinmyownsobriety.
What will I do if my kids start going down the same
path of addiction?
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Stefani C. - Kansas
Thatterrifiesmeeveryday.Mysonisonly4,buthisfatherandIarebothaddicts.I’minrecoveryandhisdadisstillin
activeaddiction.IprayeverydaythatGodkeepshishandonmysonandkeepshimsafe.Iknowthatifheweretobe
analcoholic/addict,thatitwouldn'tbemyfault.Ihatethatthefirstyearsofhislifeweresurroundedbythechaosofthis
disease.Ihopeandpraythathegrowsupfromthispointonlearningfrommyrecoveryandnotmyaddiction.This
programissimple,butNOTeasy!I’mstillpushingthroughandfightingformineandmyson’slife.
Ryan J.
Mysonhasneverseenmeinactiveaddiction,sohewon'tknowfirsthandwhatthatlookslike(notfrommeatleast).
Myplanthusfaristoeducatehimaboutthedangersandbeopenandhonestaboutmypast.Ifaddictiontakeshold
laterinlife,whatcanwedo?I'lltrytonotownit.I'lltalkaboutitwithmysponsor,andI'llprayforhim.Iwon'tbeable
tosavehimandI'llhavetoacceptthat.I'llbethereforhimwhenhe'sready.InthemeantimeIprayheneverhasto
godownthatroad.
Russell S. - Missouri
Talkwiththemcalmly,theymightlisten.Theyhaveseen
whatithasdonetoyouandthehardshipsyouwentthrough.
JustrememberthereisHope.
Mary Jo P., CO
If one of my kids started down the
samepathasme,Iwouldmakesure
my side of the street was clean and
my program very solid, because just
aswecanpassonaddiction,wecan
also pass on recovery! I would run,
notwalktoAl-anon!
Mickey W.
IamamemberofAAandAl-Anon(doublewinner).Forthe
teen headed toward addiction of any type, I suggest
Ala-Teen. Find a meeting in your area and take the teen-
ager and maybe a friend of theirs (comfort level for the
teens) to a meeting. If there is an Al-Anon meeting at the
samehour,attendthatgroupyourself.Itworks.Continuethis
meetingscheduleandyoushouldfindresults.
Denise M. - Kansas
Bethereforthemandprayforthem.Tobeableto
sharethetoolsIhavebeenblessedwithworking
theprogram.
IfmykidsweretofollowmypathofaddictionI
think it would greatly break my heart and I
woulddoanythinginmypowertohelpthemin
recovery.
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