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WhentoText
Itisimportantthatyouarenotusingtextsasanescapefromphonegame.Priortobeginningatext
conversationwithawomanaskyourself,AmIdoingthisbecauseIamafraidtocallheronthephone?
Iftheanswerisyesthanyouaretextingforthewrongreason.
Atsomepointinyourinteractionsbetween
meetinganddatingwomenyouwillneedto
speaktothemonthephone.Itisinyourbest
interesttoabolishyourlimitingbeliefsabout
phonegameandgetgoodatit.Thegoalof
yourtextmessageexchangeistobuildup
morerapporttogainthateventualphone
conversation.Ifyouhaveafunandwittytext
exchangewithawomanthenshemaybegin
tohintaroundaboutameetwithtextslike
Whatareyouupto?orWhatareyour
plansfortheweekend?Thesearesubtlesub
communicationsthatsheisinterestedinhangingout.Haveastrongframeandleadtheinteractionwith
responsessuchasWeregoingonapicnicandyouaremakingthecookiesyumcookies!orWere
goingshopping!Weneedtogetyousomenewclothes!.
IfaninvitationiseverdeniedbecausethewomansayssheistoobusythenemployStylesclassicline
Breakyourplans.Immorefun.Thepointofthislineisntreallytooconvincethewomantogoout
andprobablywontbutitwillgetalaughandappreciationandincreaseherlikelihoodofwantingto
hangoutnexttime.Whentheinvitationisacceptedsetupatimebridgeviatexttocallheraboutthe
interaction,Illcallyouinafewandwewillmakeadetailedplanaboutthispicnic.Itakemypicnicking
seriously!
Thereareafewotherwaystousetextmessagingasasocialtool.Afteraninitialmeetandnumberclose
Ifinditbeneficialtotextagirlwhilestillinherpresence.Thetextisusuallyareferencetoaninsidejoke
oratinypebblelikeYouhavefoodonyourface,dork!Thepurposeofthisinsettextistoincrease
herfamiliaritywithmyphonenumber.Thetacticofincreasingfamiliarityisaknownmarketingtooland
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iselucidatedinthebookInfluence:ThePsychologyofPersuasion.
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Later,whenImakemyinitialcallshe
willhavemynumbersavedandrecognizeit,thuseliminatingherfearthatitisanotherrandomguyshe
metataclub.InadditiontosettingupaDay2,textmessagingisusefulforrelationshipmaintenance.
Sincetheinventionofthewrittenwordwomenhavehadapassionforthereadingtheromantic
thoughtsofmen,especiallywhenitisaboutthem.Textingisaquickandeasymethodtoletyour
girlfriendorgirlfriendsknowyouarethinkingaboutthem.ShootoutaquicktextstatingYouareonmy
mind,addawinkyfaceforemphasisandthehintwillbeunderstood.
TheRulesofTextMessaging
Aswithanyformofcommunicationwiththeoppositesex,there
areuniversalrulesthatallsocialartistsmustrememberand
employ.Alwaysconveyapositive,confidentandnonneedy
frameinyourtexts.Aneasywaytodothisistobringvaluetoan
interaction,insteadofseekingtogainvalue.AtextofHey
whatsup?leavesawomanintheawkwardsituationofcreating
thevalueforthisinteractionandmakesyouseemasthoughyou
areinneedofherreactionandreply.Insteadofaskingopen
endedquestionsofthisnature,bringvaluebyusinghumor.
Imaginethatthewomanyouareabouttotextissittingather
workplacebored.Itshouldbeyourgoaltochangeherstateand
putabigsmileonherface.Bequirkyandfunandshareoffthe
wallobservationsfromyourday.Forexampleyourtextmight
read,Ijustsawaguywearingafannypack!Canyoubelievethat?
Anotherpowerfultoolthathelpstoreinforcehermemoryofyourmeetingistherecallingofaninside
jokewhichyoushared.Ifyougaveawomananickname,forexample,beginyourtextexchangewith
Heydork!Ibetyouareoperatingatalevelof100%dorkinesstoday.Orrecallaspecificfun
interactionyouhadandaddanewchallenge,Wow!Yousuckedatthumbwars.Iamgoingtobeatyou
againandagain.Rememberthattheultimategoalofyourtextmessageistogiveafurtherdisplayof
yourconfidentandfunpersonalitylaterensuringasuccessfulphoneconversation.
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Cialdini, Robert. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. New York, N.Y.: Quill, William Morrow and Co., Inc.,
1984. (available for purchase at http://stylelife.com/phase2xl/store/)
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Initialtextsshouldalwaysbeshortandtothepoint.Writinglongmessagesconveysneedinessand
lessensthepunchofhumor.Feelfreetousesmileyfacestoshowthatatextpebbleisnotahardcore
insult.Ipersonallyjuststicktothewinkyfaceandregularsmileysoasnottobeviewedasoverly
childishwhilestillmaintainingafunvibe.Alwaysusepropergrammaranddonotemploycommontext,
internetchatorMMORPGabbreviationsknownasleetspeak.Propergrammarisaturnonforwomen,
solearntospeakandwriteintelligently.Theworsetextmessaginggrammaticalmistakesinmyopinion
aremistakingsimilarwordssuchasyourewithyourandviceversa.Beforeyousendyourtext
alwaysproofreaditonceortwice.
TextingExamplesfromtheMasters
IpresenthereafewtextmessagesofmyownandonefromBravo,themostalphamaleIknow.Havea
laughandfurthereducateyourselfonhowtoemploytextmessagingasyoureadthesetextsfromour
pastsarges.Thesehelpedustolearnhowtousetextmessagingtogetcloserandgettheclose.The
nameshavebeenchangedtoprotectthesargedandthegrammarhasbeencorrectedtoappease
Englishteacherseverywhere.
PreDay2BondingandPassingShitTests
Gypsy:Itwasapleasuremeetingyouthiseve,MissAnna.
Anna:Youwantmealittledontyou?
Gypsy:Howdareyouprojectyourowndesiresuponme!BesidesIdontgetinvolvedwith
stylists.
Anna:Desires?No,justdrunkennotions.Iamunlikeanyotherstylistyouhaveevermet.You
knowyouwantme.
Gypsy:Theressomethingaboutyouthatintriguesme.DoIwantyou?WellImnotquitesure
yet.Tellmemoreaboutthesedrunkennotions.
Anna:Iknowyouwanttoseemenaked.
Gypsy:Iwasthinkingalongthelinesofgettingtoknowyoubetter.Apparently,youhave
somethingelseonyourmind.
Anna:Youneedtocomeseemystandupsometime.Youwouldreallygettoknowmethen.
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Gypsy:PerhapsIshall.Ittakesintelligencetomakepeoplelaugh.MaybethatswhatIfind
intriguingaboutyou.
Anna:Goodnight.
Gypsy:Buonanottedolcissima.
Anna:Thanks,youreprettytoo.
Gypsy:Thatwouldbebellisima.Dolcissimameanssomethingelseentirely.Ijustmightseeyou
soon.
Anna:Soundsgood.Callmelaterhotcrotch.
CreatingaSpontaneousDay2
Gypsy:SalsadancingandguerillamagicatMadrid(theclub,notthecityinSpain).
Jes:HaHa!Mademelaugh.Thatdefinitelysoundsintriguing.ImactuallygoingtoaclubonMill
Avenuewithabunchofverysexyladies.Whenyouredonesalsadancingyouaremorethan
welcometocomeandjoinus.
Gypsy:ThanksforthemultipageDostoevskytext.WerebouncingfromMadridearlyifyou
areluckywewillcometoMillAvenue.Whereyouat?
Jes:Imabouttogototheclub.Illtrytokeepmytextsconcise.WhentogetherCapricorns
aretwiceasstrong.So,youshouldcomeanddancewithusattheclub.
Gypsy:Illconsiderit.
SheTextsFirstAfterInitialMeet
Shea:Imkindofthinkingaboutyou.
Gypsy:GreatmindsthinkalikebecauseIwasthinkingaboutmetoo.;)
Shea:Haha!
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Gypsy:Youreonmymindtoo.Imconsideringgettingtoknowyoubetter.Illseeyouon
Wednesday.
Shea:Areyouathomerightnow?
Gypsy:Yeah,abouttohitthesack.Imjusttyingupsomeloosebusinessemails.
Shea:Well,letmesayImnothinglessthanstoked.
Gypsy:Stokedbecauseyougettohangwiththeawesomeme.
Shea:Absolutely.Duh!
Gypsy:Allright.Ihavetohitthesackimaginemekissingyougoodnight.
Shea:Ok,andmekissingyoutoo.
TurningaRandomTextintoaMeet
Laura:Yay,nowork!
Gypsy:Really!?Letsdosomethingfun!
Laura:Likewhat?
Gypsy:WecouldgototheparkandwriteessaysaboutHermanMelville!!!
Laura:OhGod!IthinkIdcry.
Gypsy:Dontcry.Insteadwecangorubafatpandaonitsbellyandafterwecangotothis
barIknowformusicandwine.
Laura:Fatpanda?
Gypsy:Yep.Hesgoldtoo.Youveneverseenthefatpanda?Iridemybiketohimallthetime
andpathisfatbellyforluck.
Laura:Wow!Soundscrazy.Whattime?
Gypsy:Imcallingyounow.
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Laura:Ok
BravosUltraAlphaTextStyle
Kate:HelloMr.Alpha.Iftonightsdatesucks....wouldyouliketohaveanightcapwhenIamoff
work?
Bravo:ThatisFridaynight!Iwashangingwiththeboystodayrockclimbing.Nowamtoobusy
@workplayingcatchup.ThisisKateright?
Kate:Yes.Alright,wellletmeknowifyouwanttochill.
Bravo:Time?Improbably,goingtopass,butdontworryIwillgetmybeer!
Kate:Iknow!WellthoughtIwouldtry.IamquitenocturnalandamleavingforCalifornia
tomorrowmorning.Ohyeah,Ilovedyourshirt.
Bravo:Whatdidyouhaveinmindforthisevening?IhaveaworkassignmentINEEDtofinish,
mightbeabletohangoutbutnothingcrazy,afterwardsIwillprobablyhavetocomehomeand
worksomemore.Imightbewillingtoprovidesomeconversation,butwhatareYOUgoingtodo
toearnit?
Kate:IthinkIearneditalreadybyreadingyourmind.Ithinkourfirsteverinthehistoryofthe
world...beertogethershouldbeat...JC's.Ireallydoenjoytheirpatio.Ifyouareabittoobusy,I
getbackMonday,justtoletyouknow.
Bravo:Whattimewereyouthinking?Alsoyoumustpromisenottotryandseduceme.
Kate:9:30ish.Nopromisesareneeded.Whathappenstoyouisonlywhatyouallowtohappen,
completelyoutofmyhands.(chuckleandgrinaccompanythisstatement.)
Bravo:Youspeakinriddles!Ithinkyoujusttoldmetogowackoff???Iamshockedand
appalledatthat,Iamahighclassguy!!!DontforgetItoldyouitwouldneverworkbetweenus,
thesooneryouacceptthatthebetter
Kate:Thereisadevilishgrinuponmyface,anditisratherlarge.
Bravo:Onthatnote......seeyousoon;)