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Introduced by former President Bill Clinton, the widely resonating

documentary Bridegroom commemorates a powerful true love shared by
Director Shane Bitney Crone and his deceased boyfriend Tom Bridegroom,
revealing his tragic sufferings from Tom’s homophobic family after Tom’s

To say Bridegroom is eye-opening is an utter understatement. It has
subverted the life perspective I’d had since I came out. Watching the
documentary I felt ashamed. I was never bullied (even verbally) and all my
friends were extremely supportive. Yet I constantly thought about settling in
the States, as an escape from the gruesome living environment for LGBT
people in China. Bridegroom showed me the damage caused to any same-sex
couples by the lack of legal protections, further reminding me of thousands of
closeted Chinese who are unable to move to a friendly country. According to
incomplete statistics, about 16 million Chinese women are married as “beards”
to their gay husbands, tortured by cold violence and discriminations; no LGBT
content has been allowed on mainstream media so far. Even when I was
promoting the “Day of Silence” act online, the majority of responses was either
mocking or disapproving. I realized I couldn't run away from the harsh reality
like a coward anymore; I feel urged to contribute to advancing same-sex legal
rights in China, just like Shane who devotes his life to LGBT equality to show
his loyalty to Tom’s undying love for him.

Wesleyan is the guiding star and spiritual patron for my journey towards
future LGBT leadership. The historical activism at Wesleyan represents
trailblazing and persistence, both indispensable elements of a successful civil
campaign particularly in a developing country. In the 1980s, Wesleyan’s
BGLAD tradition was marred by series of vandalism and harassment to the
extent of being halted. Yet with the adamant will of students and faculty to
fight against bigotry, BGLAD was able to remain as an unique part of
Wesleyan’s current queer culture. Movements were also impeded when
QUICHE tried to enforce radical queer ideology on campus. The dynamics was
led to a new level of exploration as a student addressed the correction of queer
activism. Since the 1960s, Wesleyan has been one of the pioneers of
advocating equality and normalizing the methodology of queer politics. It
possesses the optimal environment for my cultivating self-recognition, and my
systematic preparation for an effectively strategized long-term campaign in
the future.
Academically, I will take “Transnational Sexualities”, which will deepen
my knowledge of sexualities treated under different racial & cultural
circumstances. I will also choose AMST248: Popular Culture & Social Justice,
in order to study current social reactions to global LGBT advancement, in
comparison to the historical social justice in contemporaneous mainstreams.
In the Wesleyan community, I will take my initiative to join the LGBT student
services like Peer for Queers. Years of psychological counseling experiences
keep me aware, that questioning & out teenagers’ self-worth are largely
determined by the way they deal with sexuality issues. Working with these
teenagers will not only expand my personal strength to help, but also
familiarize me with multiple real problems faced by struggling individuals.
These opportunities will actually connect me with different groups & sectors
in today’s LGBT society.

Treasuring my Wesleyan experience of LGBT leadership, I plan on
working towards the UN Human Rights Council, my dream since a young boy.
If accepted as a staff member at the Office of LGBT Issues, I yearn for being
dispatched in China to start off the emancipation of gay and lesbian people. I
will reach out to major LGBT centers and PFLAG organizations, appealing to
formal media attentions to break the ban of “homosexual contents”. I hope for
lectures, promo acts and training programs running in various colleges, where
public sexuality education roots. Increasing number of college students will be
trained as volunteers in neighborhoods, to propagandize respectful notions
and help struggling teenagers. I can see the prospect of an LGBT trust fund in
China, supporting Gender & Sexuality Studies in the higher education and
relevant courses in our high school curriculum. Also, I will be volunteering to
work in Latin America where gay sexual services are prevalent. I hope to set
up affiliated awareness organizations to disseminate healthy lifestyles
recommended to homosexuals. It’ll be effective to ameliorate HIV
predicaments with such education. All these professional scenarios should be
built on a strong base, which Wesleyan will be able to offer during my four
years in college.

The most unforgettable thing I’ve learned from Bridegroom, is to always
fight for my lover and my own belief, simple as that but powerful enough to be
my lifelong motivation. To turn it into actions, I need a place to thrive, to feel I
belong, and to be taught as a fighter. Perhaps from the beginning, the place
has always been in Middletown, Connecticut, waiting for me to find out.