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Dear Springeagle My boyfriend and I broke up after almost of 6 years. I broke up with him simply for I feel like I need to get myself together. But now it’s been a month and he stills calls me and WANTS to know when he can see me next and when he can call next. I all ways say give me a week. I don’t know what I should do with him until I get myself together. Please help Amandabusj Hi Amandabusj: I know what that is like. I have gone through this many times. The only thing I found that worked is to make it very clear that there is no more relationship and will not be. If he believes he still has a chance with you he will not stop. He needs to see clearly that the interest has faded and it is over. I hope this helps Blessings Springeagle Dear Springeagle: Hello I have a good friend online that I am very close too and would like to help out. She has no confidence in herself and is trapped by her current situation. Which is she is stuck with an abusive husband. I won’t go into details. But things are getting quite bad and I fear she stays there much longer she will take her life early. She does not know what to do or where to go from here. She has two kids and is scared to leave because she fears that this person would come after her and her children. She has got the police involved before but it made no difference and just resulted in things becoming worse. So any theories on what she should do next or information on any places that can help and deal with this type of situation would be greatly appreciated. She lives in Pennsylvania. Thanks Joan Dear Joan: You friend will have to get completely out of the relationship that she is being so abused in. There is no other way. She will also have to seek proper therapy for all the wounds and addictions she has been left with. Due to the fact that she even got herself into such a relationship shows that her abuses started long before this relationship. These scars need to be attended to as well. One of the worst problems as victims of abuse, is our addiction to pain and comfort ability. These have to be attended to so that

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your friend does not jump into another relationship with the same outcome. The law would very much like to help and do when they are able but due to not having enough insight to the real problems they are stuck without real answers and this does make things much worse. I pray this helps Blessings Springeagle Dear Springeagle: Perhaps, but...."Let he who is without sin cast the first stone." Is this nothing more than a justification for doing anything a person might want? How can anyone accept this as any kind of rule to live by? This type of confusion is what made me give up on the Catholic Church. Joseph Dear Joseph: This Rule: "Let he who is without sin cas the first stone!" only pertains to the fact that we are not to judge and cast guilt on others without making sure we are not guilty ourselves of sin. We all sin throughout our lives and we have gotten into a bad habit of punishing others for doing the same as we have done or do and have just not been caught doing the act. If you look into the rest of the story regarding Mary and the stone throwing, Christ was stopping the crowed from vertually killing her for prostitution. But many of the men in the crowed used her services often. Therefore they were just as guilty as she was for the acts in the first place. Christ did not say it was not wrong to prostitute, he showed a better way to deal with the problem using compassion, understanding and forgiveness. I am not Christian but I have studied all religions and Christ is one of my best teachers. Any time you come across this type of Prophecy you have to look deeply into the story that coincides with the message to fully

understand what Christ is trying to say. Remembering always that Christ talked in proverbs and his explanations are usually found in his story telling. Love, Light and Peace: Springeagle Dear Springeagle: What is 'Wicca'? What are their main views and activities? Are they a cult/occult? (what is the difference between cult and occult?) Thank you Layla Hi Layla: Wicca is not a cult at all. It is the belief in the Mother Goddess, Mother Nature and all that is created by the higher powers. The main rules are: do not lie, do not intentionally hurt any other living being, respect to all creation, and love. It is a simple belief system and there is much discipline involved within the practice. Cults are groups of people. People fear the word and apply it to groups they fear. Wicca is the belief and love of Nature and all it is. It has virtually nothing to do with Wicca. Wicca is a religion and sometimes works with magick but sometimes not. Blessings Springeagle Dear Springeagle: One of my friends has been losing a lot of weight and I think that she may be doing a lot of drugs. What drugs can be taken to make you lose weight? I know that like cocaine makes you less hungry so then you lose weight. But what else? Than you Mary Anne Hi Mary Anne: Losing weight does not always mean that a person is on drugs. Many other things can attribute to a lose of weight as well, such as emotional issues not dealt with properly. It is not necessarily the drug that causes weight loss but the attitude changes and emotional problems the person is living within. There would also be attitude changes, temperament changes and life changes if this per-

son had a drug problem. Weight loss would only be one of the many. To my knowledge the drug that usually is attributed to losing weight is speed. Other drugs do effect weight loss but not to the degree you speak of. Any drug with speed in it will block hunger but this person would have to be taking lots of it, on a daily basis to have the kind of effect you are asking about. Blessings Springeagle Dear Springeagle: Hello I have a good friend online that I am very close too and would like to help out. She has no confidence in herself and is trapped by her current situation. Which is she is stuck with an abusive husband. I won’t go into details. But things are getting quite bad and I fear she stays there much longer she will take her life early. She does not know what to do or where to go from here. She has two kids and is scared to leave because she fears that this person would come after her and her children. She has got the police involved beforebut it made no difference and just resulted in things becoming worse. So any theories on what she should do next or information on any places that can help and deal with this type of situation would be greatly appreciated. She lives in Pennsylvania. Thanks Joan Dear Joan: You friend will have to get completly out of the relationship that she is being so abused in. There is no other way. She will also have to seek proper therapy for all the wounds and addictions she has been left with. Due to the fact that she even got herself into such a relationship shows that her abuses started long before this relationship. These scars need to be attended to as well. One of the worst problems as victims of abuse, is our addiction to pain and comfortability. These have to be attended to so that your friend does not jump into another relationship with the same outcome. The law would very much like to help and do when they are able but due to not having enough insite to the real problems they are stuck without real answers and this does make things much worse. Blessings Springeagle ———————————– ttp://www.lovecry.org 416 406 0099 majic-angel3.tripod.com/lovecry The person who is at complete peace can make no enemies, as he will not lean towards those things that cause one to be offensive towards others. The opposite of peace is war, and war hurts no matter how you count it. Love is the emotion that gives, while lust is the emotion that takes for one's self, and if all are taking for themselves as is the spirit of the world, especially in my own American culture, rude Americans are real, and can't be tolerated in daily life, as to say. If you have been to an American city, then you know what rude is. Ancient Tibet was a wonder in history, as the whole society was at peace, proving that in the proper mindset, this can be done. Each individual has their own world, there own life and memories. Each person has there own goals in life, and there own personal past. One thing may have great meaning to you, and nothing to another.

for yourself. there is internal I live by Christ's turmoil, and inteachings of do to stability. others as you Think of a person by Angel Femia of LoveCry that you have Angel Femia / LoveCry. And MSN Friend would have them do, and believe issues with, and This week in the philosophy section I wan that there is no greater Heaven than love. you will become angry, naturally people like to share a gift I was sent by an Internet Please do not confuse me with the Christian to be angry, but anger is offensive to one's friend. religion, in which I have no part in, though I peace of mind. This particular gift is priceless and somewill not go on about the Bible, as would be Forgiving people of there offenses, espething I have been sharing with the kids for rude past a brief history, I will say that Christ cially when it is serious offenses is not easy over ten years now. Christ came to this earth to teach us forgiveness and to love uncondi- was against religion, and the religious where to do, nor does one naturally choose to forhis enemies as some of you may know. give offenses unless they have something to tionally. It is our responsibility to learn and I am 30 years old, and have hated the way gain other than peace. practice this thing on a daily basis. This Peace is taken for granted in everyday life Christmas I pray more people catch this truth Americans live all my life, and have avoided the American lifestyle to the point where I by most of us, we naturally like to prove that and act on it before we destroy our world and have spent a great majority of my time alone we have something to be mad at, and due to all within. by myself in meditation. our personal pride, also we try to prove to The spiritual side of things A person's issues, as I'm sure you will ourselves that we are the one that is right in a Hello, agree, with other individuals keep one outconflict with another. This is disruption; anYou don't know me, nor do I know you, I side of peace, as internal conflicts cause one ger and conflict take away peace, and lead to am a person with a computer, though I know to be upset, or angry with other individuals in more conflicts and anger. how people are on MSN. there life, disrupting one's personal peace. The road to peace is understanding those No one takes anyone else seriously, beWithout peace, as even a child knows, life whom we have conflicts with, and looking cause it would be foolish in most cases, but is conflict. When peace is taken away, there over small issues that lead to larger issues, please listen to my reasoning, and decide can be no pleasure in life, as without peace and disrupt our natural peace.

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College) GUEST SPEAKER: Eugene Oscapella, B.A., LL.B., LL.M. Eugene Oscapella is a Barrister and Solicitor in Ottawa who earned his Master of Laws degree from the London School of Economics and Political Science in 1979, and was called to the Ontario Bar in 1980. He has served as a commission counsel with the McDonald Commission of Inquiry into the Royal Canadian Mounted Police, and as Director of Legislation and Law Reform for the Canadian Bar Association. Since 1985, Eugene has been an independent adviser on Canadian legislative and social policy issues. He has written and lectured extensively in Canada and abroad on privacy and drug policy issues; is a former chair of the drugpolicy group of the Law Reform Commission of Canada and a founding member of the Canadian Foundation for Drug Policy. Eugene sat for several years on the policy committee of the Canadian Criminal Justice Association. He teaches drug policy in the Department of Criminology at the University of Ottawa. If you work with any vulnerable/marginalized population where drug use is a concern, please plan to join us for this FREE event. Everyone is welcome!

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Participation in Toronto Drug Strategy Workgroups As you may be aware, City Council has approved the Toronto Drug Strategy (TDS). The TDS provides a comprehensive approach to alcohol and other drugs that include the four components of prevention, harm reduction, treatment and enforcement. The TDS contains 68 recommendations, 17 of which are designated as priorities. A panel of municipal, institutional and community representatives has been struck to oversee implementation of the drug strategy and to foster the intersectoral co-ordination and co-operation needed to improve our response to substance use issues in Toronto. We are also forming several working groups to implement specific priority recommendations, as follows: A PREVENTION WORKING GROUP to

work on implementation of recommendations #7 (prevention for children and families) and #10 (comprehensive prevention for youth). A CRISIS MODEL WORKING GROUP to work on recommendation #27, which involves developing a service model for 24-hour crisis support for people who use alcohol and other drugs. A NEIGHBOURHOOD STRATEGIES WORKING GROUP to work on recommendation #45, which involves developing local strategies to reduce drug-related crime, and also #22 regarding limiting the concentration of licenced establishments. We are looking for broad community representation within these groups. Membership requirements are to: support a comprehensive approach to substance use that includes prevention, harm reduction, treatment and enforcement. support the mission and principles of the Toronto Drug Strategy (see pages 7-9 in the TDS which is available online at www.toronto. ca/health/drugstrategy). commit time to attend monthly meetings, including pre-meeting study and review of agenda and supporting materials. reflect the diversity of Toronto including

gender, ethnoracial background, ability and sexual orientation, geographic area of the city, and experience related to substance use (active or former user, family member, service provider, etc). If you are interested in participating in any of the working groups, please contact Susan Shepherd by Friday September 8th, 2006. Susan can be reached by email at sshephe1@toronto.ca or phone (416) 338-0923. Please outline your interest, experience and any agency, group or network affiliations. Please note that spaces are limited and we may not be able to accommodate all interested parties. Thank you, Susan Shepherd Project Manager, Toronto Drug Strategy -------------------------------------------------------The following announcement is sent to you by the Canadian Harm Reduction Network http://www.canadianharmreduction.com Please visit our website, check it out and support us by becoming a member. Mandatory Minimum Sentencing??? The Toronto Harm Reduction Task Force September Speakers Series, Thurs., Sept. 21st, 1- 3 pm., St. Stephen's Community House, 260 Augusta Ave., ("Kensington Market" - Spadina/