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Good morning everyone. I am XXXXXXXX, the founder of Brainy Montessori.

gives me great pleasure to join you here today for our open day open day in this year. I
am so grateful to have such an honour standing here to give a talk on “What Does It Take
to Be a Good Parent?” In my speech, I am going to share with you some characteristics of
a good parent. I am sure all the parent here will agree with me that being parents is tough.
Bringing up children is a very difficult task. Everyone wishes to be good parents.
However, sometimes we could be so discouraged and helpless when we get the feedback
that we are not good parents although we have done our upmost to provide the best for
our children. What is the cause of that? Today, let us learn how to be good parents
Parents define as a person who is a father or mother or a person who has a child.
Parents also define as to be or act as a mother or father to someone. Good in other hand,
having the required qualities, of a high standard, possessing or displaying moral virtue,
and also that which is morally right. Therefore for me, good parent is someone refer to
father or mother who loves their child unconditionally, communicates openly with their
children, is involved in their children lives as much as they can be, someone who is there
for them when they need someone, someone who teaches good morals and values,
someone who shows them right from wrong, strict but not too strict. Parenting is a
lifelong journey. As parents, we have an important responsibility. Every parent wants to
be a good parent and role model for our children. But to be a good parent is not easy. It is
a journey of trial and error, continuous learning and growing together with your child.
Parents should have good moral character, because they are the role models of
children. It has been known that children are the reflection of their parent’s character.
Practicing what you said is an effective method of parenting. Your child is constantly
watching you for action on how to behave. For instance, acting out in anger could teach
your child the wrong way to deal with his emotions. If you find yourself unable to control


After you have calmed down. Next characteristic to be a good parent that I want to share is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. theme parks. Dr. a disapproving look or soft word could rectify a misstep. according to family relationship expert. he is a very independent boy at age 2. still cannot speak very clear at his age of 2. Embrace your parenting job with enthusiasm. Sometimes. compassion and a sense of humour. A parent will have better chance of hearing what their child is really saying if they willing to tune into their child words. You can also attend school functions. however requires more discipline. instead of solve problems for him or his. I do not have enough hands to handle him. my parents do not smoke. so in this I have to be an active participant to discipline him. Sometimes. Try to divide your time equally if you have more than one child. and for the parent to put themselves in the child’s shoes. They express good action in all their actions.your anger when your child has misbehaved. A good parent knows how to listen. and be sensitive to other people’s feelings all the time. Spend time with each child individually. all a child needs is a listening ear. It happen to my child. tone of voice. consistent and compliant because she or he wants your approval. Set aside a day to go to a park. and body language. more than talk. because they were able to raised five children so well and none of us went astray. If your child is loyal. Other examples. take charge and independent child. do homework with them and visit their teacher at open house to get a sense of how they are doing in school. museum or library depending on their interests. Listen and respect your child and respect what they want to do with their life. walk away for a minute. a place to talk things out. Take the time to know your child’s personality and parent your child based on his or his strengths and weaknesses. Parents need to be active participants in the life of their child. so be aware of what your do. A gritty. They have been my idol all my life. but very active in exploring new area and thing. never cry when he walks and fell. you can react in a more composed manner. They taught us how to respect to elders. My son. What I do is I try to understand and listen what he 2 . Gary Smalley. Your child learns by watching you. eat by himself.

It is important to try to be as calm and reasonable as you can when you explain your rules or carry them out. If you act like the bad behaviour is normal. problems. Praising your children is a vast part of being a good parent as well. Sometimes. Now. this can be quite a challenge. parents apply extra mile of patience to comfort them with love and care. Therefore. let them know that you have noticed and proud of them. we all lose our tempers and feel out of control. Try to praise your children at least 3 . then they will try to mimic it. They would not feel empowered to be independent or adventurous if you do not give them the confidence they need to be out in the world on their own. This is to let your kids feel proud of their achievements and good about themselves. it undeniable. when what I interpret from what he saying or trying to express is not same as what he really means. I try harder to understand what he want to tell me by spending more time playing and talking empathically with his. but if your feel yourself getting ready to raise your voice. Patience defines as the capacity to accept or tolerate delay. it hurts when he cry if I do not understand what he was try to talk or share. This is too unsure your children to take you seriously not fear you or think of you as unstable. especially when your children are acting out or just driving you up the wall. You can say buy them a present. You should apologize to your children. if you do or say something you regret. or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious. Thus. you should increase level of patience in yourself in order to be a good parent. Clearly. Patience is another characteristic parent must have. Although children behaviour gets out of hand sometimes due to certain issues like mood. Whenever they do something good or reach new achievement. I am bit relief when I can understand much better what he trying to say such as changing my favourite TV channel to his favourite cartoon channel. It is very challenging situation indeed. take a break and excuse yourself before your finish talking to your children. But I never give up.Want to express to me in his own language. empathic listening sets the stage for open communication and can go a long way in enhancing the parent-child relationship. You also must control your temper as much as you can. or cook their favourite meals. letting them know that you have made a mistake. Sometimes.

Another major characteristic that good parents have is being a positive role model. and talk about it. you have to avoid comparing your children to others. Though it is important to tell your children when they are doing something wrong. You have to nurture a loving relationship between your children. he become to realize slowly. Celebrate their differences and instil in each child the desire to pursue their interests and dreams. the not favourite ones take care of her. who still young to fully understand. They are wise in their words and actions. If you want your child to be in well manner. instead of telling them to act like their sister. If they arguing do not choose sides. then you should model the behaviour and character you hope your children will adopt and continue to live by the rules that you set. When we all grown up now. be fair and natural. praise them with treats. she will apologize to us. If you have babies. some of parents have their favourite child.three times as much your give them negative feedback. I believe. He cooks special meals for him every day and even gives him the best plate compare to us. talk about meeting their aim on their own way. Please. not a competitive one. If you want to help them improve their attitude. Each child has its own unique identity. then we just giggles and love her even more. and lots of love. This will help them develop a sense of self instead of having a belief that you are less worthy. an imagination that they can never be good enough in your eyes. however when some relatives see it. I want to share with you about this. A positive role model shows and presents a healthy lifestyle that involves exercise. from now on. especially among the siblings. They strive to express 4 . it is also important to help them build a positive sense of self. applause. With this. you have to stop this favouritism. my mother used to have his favourite daughter. cousins or friends. we sometimes like to recall about how much her put more attention on my oldest sister. Comparing one child to another can also make one child develop a competing with his or his sibling. Failure to do so may give your child a belief that you are less worthy or important than other people. my oldest sister. they will feel precious. we never ask or get jealous about it. To be a good parent. Now his favourite is not staying anymore with her. nature art and self-expression. My mother is so lucky.

Respect defines as a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities. Respect your children privacy as you would 5 . so a child who is consistently treated respectfully by parent is more likely to develop a good self-respect. Educate kids about chores by setting a schedule and having them help you out. Children have a tendency to become what they see and hear unless they make a deliberate and concerted effort to break the mole. You do not have to be a perfect person. It is perfectly okay to make mistakes.” This is better than forgetting that you made a mistake. but ask for their help. They basically present the concept of cause and effect so the child can learn through its experiences what is effective. If you want your children to learn to share. They do not blame others. even when disciplining. advantages and growth. but you should strive to do as you want your children to do. Parents should keep in mind that it is possible to be respectful and resilient at the same time. Respect also means due regard for the feelings. and what is not effective. or achievements. but you should apologize or let your child know that the behaviour is not good. the longer they will be willing to. so you do not look sanctimonious if you tell your children to be polite to other when they find you getting in a heated argument. The earlier they learn to help you. wishes. They teach the concept of acceptance by using everything for their upliftment. or rights of others. Do not tell your child to do something. because that will show the child that he or he should model this behaviour. Since they know they are more than just a mother or a father. they take time to nurture and care for themselves so they can give from their overflow.their wants in a positive manner. nor do they show themselves as a victim. A good parent is respectful to their child. Another characteristic to be a good parent is respect. set a good example and share your things with them. qualities. "ibu didn't mean to yell at you. A positive role model are not afraid to say they made a mistake and they are open to criticism on how they can do things better. You can say something like. Children first learn respectful behaviours from their parents or guardians. and a respect for others. including their parent.

your children can see you respect what they really want or choose. and respect. understand their children. Let you children to choose anything they like. I want to highlight again eight characteristics to be good parents. they will tell you why they choose the course instead of what you expect them to take. When your satisfy. A good parent must show a positive role model to their children because children tend to adapt what their parent behaves. If you think their choice is wrong or not suitable for them. I believe some parents. which are good moral. If you go shopping cloth with them for instance. you should teach them and raise 6 . By this. active participant in your children’s life. praising. please respect their choose and this will make your child feels good and respected. positive role model. You should avoid this behaviour and be respectful to what your teenager chooses for studying. as it shows our interest and intent to be good parents. Avoid comparison among children or others is as well important to being a good parent. Respect is important characteristic in raising your children to show to them how much you value their opinion and choice. Last characteristic to be a good parent that I mentioned before is respect. Your children is precious gift from god to you. Finally. respect the same with their room. They also must have ability to understand and share feeling when talking with their children and be patience in nurturing their children. let them to choose and give relevant opinion if necessary. they like to choose the course on behalf of their children. patience. let me say that I am heartened to see so many fellow parents here today. to do what is really helpful for our children. Good parent must have good moral values in themselves because children will tend to mimic their traits. they want or desire. talk and discuss with them. Good parent also must be an active participant in their children’s life and activities. To conclude my speech today. Respect your children’s decision as well is important. if they have teenagers studying in college. avoid comparing. By discussing. if you teach your child that your room is out of boundaries to them.Want them to respect yours. for example. A good parent also must praise their children to make them feel proud and precious.

them well as nothing in this world is equally same precious to your children. I hope all of you understand and try so hard to become a good parent. 7 . Thank you.