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¿How the parents influencing factors to the growth of the

children?

For one more Day by mitch albom is a story about a man who gets one more day
to be with his mother. One last day to say i love you and to say i’m sorry.
This is the story of Charley Benetto, a child of divorce who is always forced to
choose between his mother and his father.
“ A child should never have to choose between his parents”
The death of his mother leads him into depression and drunkness, one night he
decides to take his life and he encounter with his death mother again, in their
hometown.
“But she wasn’t around, and that’s the thing when your parents die, you feel like
instead of going in to every fight with backup, you are going into every fight alone.”
Parents play a vital role into molding the growth and development of their children.
Parents are shown to be the guiding light for their children, as their love and care
will help them develop cognitively,emotionally and spiritually.
In this book “for one more day” the story is centered on the relationship between
parents and children so i decided to dicuss this topic.
I also believe that parents, if they love you, will hold you up safely, above their
swirling waters, and sometimes that means you'll never know what they endured,
and you may treat them unkindly, in a way you otherwise wouldn't.”
When two people get into marriage, they should be equiped with knowledge
because the problems of married life are for the dealth with properly since wrost
management of these circumstances will show a domino effect to the whole family.
“I believe that. All divorce does is divert you, taking you away from everything you
thought you knew and everything you thought you wanted and steering you into all
kinds of other stuff, like discussions about your mother's girdle and whether she
should marry someone else.”

In the story we can see a financial crisis most of the couple fights due to Money.
Charley and his wife Catherine constantly argued because he lost their money to a
fraudulent investement. Charley is a depressive man from seeing his child and
playing his role as father to his only daughter. Catherine grew tired of him that
consequently cause their separation.
One implication of these circunstances especially divorce is that a child don’t have
a complete family, he can’t rely anymore on the parent who is currently present.
When you see a parent who took custody of the children, the child will have to
great appreciation of that parent and would also lead to him and her to a different
perspective towards the other parents need give more confidence and love to their
kids.
Phsychologically speaking obviously a child learns froom his parents. I think
charley recréate everything that their parents lived.So this means that children see
fron their parents is what they manifest in life. “what a child see is what he or she
gets”
“You have one family, Charley. For good or bad. You have one family. You can’t
trade them in. You can’t lie to them. You can’t run two at once, substituting back
and forth.
When charley’s father left, there were evident changes on charley’s behavior and
perspectives and divorce is traumatic for children of all ages.
Possey (his mother) took the obligation of a father and she was a single mom, and
it shows the unconditional love of a mother.
The experts are in agreement that teenagers very rarely feel any sense of guilt
regarding their parents’ divorce . They are old to understand that break-up was a
result of personal problems between their parents and is a matter they really don’t
have control.
Despite the fact that his father left them behind and left them suffer the
consecuences of a broken family.We can see clearly a genuine love for his dad.
He might have hated him for what he did but in his mind len still his father.
It is believed that 41% of all the contemporary marriages in over the world end upin
divorce. Moreover couples at the present time usually have couple phsycoterapy or
consult a paragegal first, before deciding end up the relationship.
According to James Melamed : women at the present time experience less estress
and better adjustment in general tan men.

Divorce tends to intensify the child’s dependence and it tends to accelerate their
Independence. It often elicits a more regresive reponse in the child and more
agressive reponse in the adolescent.
Finally the family problems may influence the child,their behavior and outlooks in
life. It still depends on the parents on how they will address them, the family issues
being experienced. It is important to realice it, even if the immediate reactions
seems extreme, most parents and children eventually adapt well to their new
situation.