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UNIT 7- Violence Prevention

TOPIC 1: VIOLENCE IN THE MEDIA


Read the following statistics regarding Violence in the Media from the Media Education Foundation.
* Research indicates that media violence has not just increased in quantity; it has also become more
graphic, sexual, and sadistic. 1
* 70 percent of restricted video games, and 100 percent of music with explicit content warning
labels were being marketed to children under 17.
* A September 2000 Federal Trade Commission (FTC) report showed that 80 percent of R rated
movies,2
* By the time the average child is eighteen years old, they will have witnessed 200,000 acts of
violence and 16,000 murders. 3
* Media violence is especially damaging to young children (under 8) because they cannot easily tell
the difference between real life and fantasy. 4
* Despite falling crime rates across North America, disturbing images of violent crime continue to
dominate news broadcasting. 5
* Two-thirds of Hollywood films released in 2001 were rated R. 6
* Surveys have found that 82 percent of the American public consider movies too violent. 7
* Most of the top-selling video games (89%) contained violent content, almost half of which was of a
serious nature. 8
* The highly criticized video game Grand Theft Auto 3 was initially banned in Australia for its graphic
violence and sexual content. The game grossed $300 million in the United States by the end of 2002. 9
* The level of violence during Saturday morning cartoons is higher than the level of violence during
prime time. There are 3-5 violent acts per hour in prime time, versus 20-25 acts per hour on
Saturday morning. 10
* Nearly 75 percent of violent scenes on television feature no immediate punishment for or
condmendation of violence. 11

1. Violence in Media Entertainment: http://www.mediaawareness.ca/english/issues/violence_entertainment.cfm?


2. The Business of Media Violence: http://www.mediaawareness.ca/english/issues/violence/business_media_violence.cfm?
3. Facts and Figures About Our TV Habit. TV Turnoff Network.
4. Some Things You Should Know About Media Violence and Media
Literacy: http://www.aao.org/advocacy/childhealthmonth/media.htm
8. Children Now. Fair Play? Violence,Gender and Race in Video Games.December
2001:Times Mirror Media Monitor. TV Violence: More Objectionable in
Entertainment Than in Newscasts. March 24,
1993http://www.childrennow.org/meida/video-games.2001/
11. Youth Violence: A Report of the Surgeon
General: http://www.mentalhealth.org/youthviolence/surgeon
general/SG_Site/chapter4/appendix4bsec2.asp>

TOPIC 2- Anger Management/Conflict

Anger Management/Conflict

Resolution/Violence Prevention
We have discussed personal stress in the Mental Health Unit. What happens
when there is interpersonal stress (between two or more people)? Sometimes,
don't tempers flare up, words are spoken that are not really meant, and actions
are taken that you wish you could take back? Can't the decision making
process be applied and smarter decisions ultimately be made? Aren't many
forms of violence simply interpersonal conflict that is not resolved in a healthy
way at all? What can we do about this problem? It seems that most of what we
hear on the news is who got murdered, raped, mugged, injured, etc
Again I ask, WHAT CAN WE DO ABOUT THIS PROBLEM?
Think of some ways a person could manage their anger towards someone else
and resolve the conflict in an appropriate way before they resort to violence.
TOPIC 3-Peer Pressure Strategies

Peer Pressure Strategies


Sometimes peers try to influence your decisions. Peer pressure is defined as
pressure people of similar age or status place on a person to behave in certain ways.
This pressure can be positive (study for a test, practice for an upcoming concert,
wear your helmet/seat belts, etc.) or negative (to try tobacco, alcohol, or other
drugs; have premarital sex; steal; vandalize; etc.). There are many strategies (a
plan of action) you can use in a negative peer pressure situation. Here are a few
examples:
Strategy
Meaning
Example
Steering clear is avoiding a
Example: You are invited to party on Friday night. The
situation completely, because
host is bragging that there will be alcohol at the party. If
nothing good can come from it
you attend the party, you may be pressured to drink
Steer
alcohol, so you decide not to go.
Clear
Example: Josh and Jason were invited to a party. They
heard that the parents were out of town and someone was
bringing alcohol. They decided not to go to the party.
Say "No, thanks", "No Way", Example: Lori and Katie were shopping at the local mall
"Nope, Not Interested"
when Lori saw a necklace she liked. She said, " I want that
Say No
necklace, but I don't have enough money on me. I'll talk to
the sales clerk (distract her) and when she's not looking,
put it in your purse." Lori said, "No way".
Think of a safe place to go and Example: Todd had some chewing tobacco at baseball
Walk
start walking. Leave the situation practice. He said, "Hey Brad, want some?" Brad looked at
Away
within thirty seconds
Todd stunned, turned around and walked out of the dugout.
Continue with what you were Example: Chris wanted to copy Ashley's answers on the
doing before the pressure started. History test, but her answers were covered. He kept trying
Ignore
Don't make eye contact with the
to get her attention so she would move her cover sheet, but
person pressuring you
she didn't seem to notice.
Repeat the same thing over and Example: "I don't smoke." "I don't smoke." "I told you I
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over. If you say it enough, the


person pressuring you will

eventually stop.

don't smoke."
Example: Alan: Let's sneak out tonight; Bill: Find
someone else; Alan: What's wrong, you scared? ; Bill: Just
find someone else; Alan: You ARE scared; Bill: I said find
someone else.
Example: Sally was at Jane's house. Jane's parents were
not home. Sally wanted Jane to smoke a cigarette (Jane's
mom kept an extra pack in her closet). Jane said, "I don't
want to." Sally said, "Come on! Jane. Your parents will
never know." Jane said, "I don't want to." Then Sally said,
"You are such a baby." Jane said, " I just don't want to do
that".
Say, "Wait, I have a better idea. Example(s): Shoot hoops, play video games, go to the
Let's go...______________."
mall, etc. The possibilities for this one are endless.
A Better
Example: Dana and Kim were invited to a friend's house.
Idea
They heard that the parents were out of town and someone
was bringing beer. Dana said, "I have a better idea. Let's
go to the mall instead."
Don't lie, but think of a real
Example(s): "I have a lot of homework. I need to get
reason not to go along with your started." "I have to go straight home. My mom calls to
friends.
check on me." "I have baseball practice till 6. Then, I have
Make an
to eat dinner with my folks."
Excuse
Example: Mike said, "Let's tag (spray paint on) the
neighbor's house tonight. He's a grouch." Dawson said, "I
can't, I have cross country practice early in the morning."
Say, "Why are you pressuring Example: Amber: "Come on, we won't get caught. No one
me?" or "If you were my friend,
will ever know we took the shirt. Liz: No, I don't want to
you wouldn't push me this way." go with you. Amber: Hey, it's no big deal. We'll be back
before you know it." Liz: "Why do you keep pressuring
Reverse
me? I said no."
the
Example: Bryna and her boyfriend Andrew were going to
Pressure
meet at the movies. Andrew said, "Meet me behind the
theater." When she said no, Andrew said, "Come on,
Bryna. I want to be alone with you." Bryna said, "Why are
you pressuring me? I told you no."
To state the facts, tell your peer Example: Smoking can give you bad breath, yellow teeth,
the consequences of doing what
and wrinkles. I don't think your boy/girlfriend would like
State the
he/she wants to do.
that.
Facts
Example: Drinking underage is illegal and not worth the
risk.
** NOTE: When using any of the above peer pressure strategies it is important to
pick one that fits with your personality, values, and beliefs. One that works for your
friend may not be the right choice for you. Can you think of any other peer pressure
strategies to add to this list?

TOPIC 4-Rape and Sexual Assault

Rape and Sexual Assault

Although rape and sexual assault are unpleasant topics to talk about, sometimes
such discussion can lead to an increase in knowledge that may decrease a person's
chances of ever becoming a victim. Sadly enough, one of every four females will be a victim
of rape or attempted rape at some point in their life. This may include statutory rape: in the
state of Georgia, if a person who is 17 years old or older has sex with someone who
is 15 years old or younger, legally they are committing statutory rape. Hopefully, by
learning the following information, you will not become part of this statistic.
A rapist's actions are motivated by the need to control, dominate, and have power
over you, it has little to do with sexrape involves sex because what else more
personal could a rapist take from a victim?

Risk Factors for Rape

Being under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs is the #1 risk factor for being
raped. Other risk factors include:

Being with an unfamiliar person in an isolated area

Nonassertive communication about sexual limits

Miscommunication about sexual expectations in a relationship before


such a situation occurs

Prevention of Rape

Avoidance of involvement with any of the aforementioned risk factors before a rape
situation occurs.
In addition:
1. Methods of prevention at home: Keep lights on, keep hedges
trimmed, keep doors locked, keep windows closed (especially those on
the bottom floor), etc.
2. Methods of prevention when walking: Be aware of your
surroundings, don't walk with headphones on, always walk with
others, walk in well-lit areas, etc.
3. Methods of prevention in your car: Keep your radio down, keep
your windows rolled up, lock your doors, etc.
If you feel you're about to be raped:

forcefully say "no"

scream as loud as you can

go for the eyes (only if you're sure in your ability to be successful in


doing so)

twist and pull the testicles of the male perpetrator (only if you are
sure in your ability to do this successfully, otherwise you will make the
rapist even madder)

Post-Rape Concerns

Medical = STDs, pregnancies, possible injuries


Emotional = Confusion, shame, fear, anger, helplessness, guilt,
distrust
The first thing you should do after a rape has occurred is to tell
someone!
Do NOT take shower/bathe/discard physical evidence in any other
way.
Get medical help, report to police.
Use the services of a rape crisis center and/or a support group and/or
other forms of counseling to deal with this event.

Identify a local support system that you can depend on to help you get
through this difficult situation. This may be made up of family
members, teachers, members of your church, friends, counselors, etc.

TOPIC 5- Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence: Healthy or Unhealthy


Relationships
Being in a dating relationship can be quite exciting. Sometimes you feel like you're
floating on clouds. Other times, a relationship takes a lot of hard work. Whether
you're dating someone or not, what's a healthy relationship and what does it look like?
Or what's an unhealthy relationship? What should you expect? Find out!

What is a Healthy Relationship?


Any relationship that you have in your teens will affect your relationships later in life.
The lessons you learn about respect, healthy versusunhealthy relationships , and what's
right or wrong will carry over into future relationships. So it's important to recognize
what a healthy relationship is.
Is your relationship healthy? Check to see whether the following 12 qualities exist in
yours:
1. Mutual Respect- Respect means that each person values who the other
is and understands the other person's boundaries.
2. Trust- Without trust, there's no way to have a healthy relationship.
Choose to trust in each other and give each other the benefit of the
doubt.
3. Honesty- If you have ever caught your friend or dating partner in a
huge lie, you know that it takes time to rebuild your trust in him or
her. Always be honest. It builds trust and strengthens the relationship.
4. Compromise- You won't always get your way. Acknowledge different
points of view and be willing to give and take. It's a bad sign when the
relationship becomes a power struggle.
5. Individuality- You shouldn't compromise who you are, and your
identity should not be based on your boyfriend or girlfriend. Continue
seeing your friends or doing the things that you love. Be supportive if
your boyfriend or girlfriend wants to pursue new hobbies or make new
friends.
6. Good Communication- Speak honestly and openly to avoid
miscommunication. If you need to sort out your feelings first, your
boyfriend or girlfriend should respect your wishes and wait until you're
ready to talk.
7. Anger Control- We all get angry, but how we express it can affect our
relationships with others. Anger can be handled in healthy ways such
as taking a deep breath, counting to 10, or talking it out.
8. Problem Solving- You can learn to solve problems and identify new
solutions by breaking a problem into small parts or by talking through
the situation.
9. Fighting Fair- Everyone will argue at some point, but those who are
fair, stick to the subject, and avoid insults are more likely to come up
with a possible solution. Take a short break if the discussion gets too
heated.

10. Understanding- Take a minute to understand what others might be


feeling-put yourself in their shoes. It can improve your communication
skills, too.
11. Self-Confidence- Having confidence in yourself can help your
relationships with others. It shows that you are calm and comfortable
enough to allow others to express their opinions without forcing your
opinions on others to win an argument.
12. Being a Role Model- By modeling what respect means, you will
inspire your boyfriend or girlfriend, your friends, and your family to
model respect, too. Take every opportunity to give respect.
Relationships can be hard work. It's normal to have ups and downs. But there are
some things that just do not belong in a healthy relationship and that you shouldn't
put up with. These include being:

Put down

Yelled at

Shoved

Controlled

Ignored

Embarrassed in front of others

Told what you can or cannot wear

Made to feel afraid of your boyfriend or girlfriend


These things are not about love or respect. These are signs of an unhealthy
relationship. It's dating abuse. It can happen to anyone-to you, your friends, or
other classmates. It happens to guys and girls. It happens in same-sex relationships.
Even if it happens once, it's not what you deserve. You deserve respect.

TOPIC 6- Dating Abuse

What is Dating Abuse?

Dating abuse is a pattern of violent behavior by one partner in a dating relationship


toward the other partner.
Dating abuse may be:
Physical
Sexual
Emotional/Verbal
Pinching, shoving, slapping, Unwanted touching
Put-downs, insults, and rumors
grabbing, etc.
Forced sexual activities
Threats
Intimidation (blocking doors, Pressure to have sex
Possessiveness
throwing objects)
Threats to find someone who will do Over-dependency
Use of weapons
what he or she wants sexually
Huge mood swings
Humiliation
Accusations
Withdrawal of attention
Isolation from friends or
activities
You might be thinking, "I've never experienced anything as serious as being
punched!" But hold on a second.
In general, guys and girls don't usually start hitting their girlfriend or boyfriend out
of the blue. It usually starts after a history of verbal and emotional abuse, which is
far more likely to occur among young teens. If nothing is done about that abuse, it's
likely to become more severe and start including sexual and physical abuse.

TOPIC 7- How to Say NO

How to Say "NO"

Resistant skills are skills that help people say "NO" to an action or leave a
situation. These can be used when saying NO to all types of issues you are faced
with such as whether or not to use drugs, have premarital sex, etc.
When using resistance skills make sure to do the following:
Say NO in a firm voice
Explain why you are saying NO (Give a reason)
Offer other options if appropriate or walk away (leave)
There are a variety of ways to say NO, we are going to focus on four skills.
1. Putdown... Comebacks
o If someone pressures you by insulting you (putdowns), give a comeback.
An insult (putdown) tries to make you look stupid or not
worthy. A comeback is a short statement of what you believe is
best or right for you.
Example: Putdown: You mean you are still a virgin? Comeback: Yes,
I plan to wait until I get married, so I never have to
worry about getting pregnant or contracting an STD.
2. Lines and Linebackers
o A pick up line is usually insincere and it is used to convince you to do
something you don't want to do. A linebacker is a short,
confident statement that uses humor or anger to state what
you believe.
Example One: Line: Come on; everyone is doing it. Linebacker:
Then, you should not have trouble finding someone else.
Example Two: Line: If you love me, prove it! Linebacker: If you love
me, you'll respect my feelings and stop pressuring me to
do something I do not want to do.
3. Yes - No - Yes Statements
o First, you make a positive statement - YES. Then, follow this with a
negative statement - say NO and state your reasons. Finally,
add a positive statement that offers an alternative - YES.
Example: Your boyfriend/girlfriend says, "why don't you come over
to my house tonight instead of us going out with Lori
and Ray". Example of a Yes-No-Yes response: I really
like spending time with you. (+); But, I am not sure I
trust myself to be alone with you (-); Why don't we go
meet the others for dinner instead? (+).
4. Defense and Offense
o When someone puts you on the defense, grab the offense. Take the offense
by using these types of phrases: A) When you do..., I feel... B)
When you say..., I feel...
Example One: I really care about you, but when you keep pressuring
me to have sex after I have already said no, I feel like
you don't really care about me.
*It's not easy to use I statements, but they are much better than U-statements. Ustatements blame or shame someone. When these types of statements are used it's
hard for someone to respond in a calm way. They will usually become defensive.

TOPIC 8- Cybersafety

Cyber Bullying
What is cyber bullying, exactly?
"Cyber bullying" is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated,
embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and
digital technologies or mobile phones. It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least have been instigated
by a minor against another minor. Once adults become involved, it is plain and simple cyber-harassment or
cyber stalking. Adult cyber-harassment or cyber stalking is NEVER called cyber bullying.
When adults are trying to lure children into offline meetings, that is called sexual
exploitation or luring by a sexual predator. But sometimes when a minor starts a cyber
bullying campaign, it also involves sexual predators who are intrigued by the sexual
harassment or drawn by ads posted by the cyber bullies offering up the victim for sex.
The methods used are limited only by the child's imagination and access to technology. And
the cyber bully one moment may become the victim the next. The kids often change roles,
going from victim to bully and back again.
Children have killed each other and committed suicide after having been involved in a cyber
bullying incident.
Cyber bullying is usually not a one-time communication, unless it involves a death threat or a
credible threat of serious bodily harm. Kids usually know it when they see it, while parents
may be more worried about the lewd language used by the kids than the hurtful effect of
rude and embarrassing posts.
Cyber bullying may rise to the level of a misdemeanor cyber harassment charge, or if the
child is young enough, may result in the charge of juvenile delinquency. Most of the time the
cyber bullying does not go that far, although parents often try and pursue criminal charges.
It typically can result in a child losing their ISP or IM accounts as a terms of service
violation. And in some cases, if hacking or password and identity theft are involved, it can be
a serious criminal matter under state and federal law.