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Parallel to an international law career in Germany, Swit-
zerland and in the United States, Dr. Peter Fritz Walter
(Pierre) focused upon fine art, cookery, astrology, musical
performance, social sciences and humanities. He started
writing essays as an adolescent and received a high school
award for creative writing and editorial work for the
Upon finalizing his international law doctorate, he pri-
vately studied psychology and psychoanalysis and started
writing both fiction and nonfiction works.
After a second career as a corporate trainer and personal
coach, Pierre retired as a full-time writer, philosopher and
His nonfiction books emphasize a systemic, holistic, cross-
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works and short stories focus upon education, philosophy,
perennial wisdom, and the poetic formulation of an inte-
Pierre is a German-French bilingual native speaker and
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French. He also reads source literature for his research
works in Spanish, Italian, Portuguese, and Dutch.
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Roman Emperor Marcus Aurelius (121 AD – 180 AD), one
of the first—and one of the most famous—stoics in human
To Victor The author’s profits from this book are being donated to charity. .
if it does not expel the suffering of the mind. —EPICURUS .Vain is the word of a philosopher which does not heal any suffering of man. For just as there is no profit in medicine if it does not expel the diseases of the body. so there is no profit in philosophy either.
and even Epicurus. . such as Epictetus. and this helped me overcome the personal crisis and recover both emotionally and financially. I partly remembered. and a stronger grounding in the present. partly learnt and applied some of the teachings of the ancient stoics. more happily. The intention behind this book is to share helpful and practically useful methods I applied to bring a new balance in my shaken life. Marcus Aurelius. and to live life more consciously. Preface Why I Wrote this Book This book is the result of a wisdom quest I engaged in after having lost one third of my fortune in an unlucky real estate investment. Seneca. with more gratitude. During this time of great loss and financial difficulty.
’ I came to the conclu- sion that the negative events had a silver lining for me. and wealth. Now. that I had been too judgmental in many ways. THE BETTER LIFE The main questions this book asks and answers are how to use the power of your subconscious mind to steer your life in alignment with your higher purpose. making friends. Furthermore. Irvine. what is negative visualization? William B. the proof of which 10 . and how to adjust your thinking process so as to attract harmonious conditions. practicing the stoic technique of ‘negative visualization. topics such as positive parenting. health. I came to realize that the language I had used in those books was by and large not appropriate. affirmative prayer. It was really a wake-up call! And in hindsight. after the sobering experience of that financial downfall. I explain the creative process with many practical and biographical examples. Before I lost a quarter of a million dollars in just a year on a real estate investment that I had not carefully enough chosen. While I had self-published eighty books. Besides. and spontane- ous art.’ I was thus visualizing to be on my death bed. I guess I was sleepwalking through my life. and teach techniques such as creative writing. and success strategies are covered. eager to find out what it was that I had missed in life? And the shocking in- sight that came to me was that I had missed to publish my books in a way they were useful. in his book A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy (2009) puts it well when he writes that ‘sometimes a catastrophe blasts … people our of their jadedness. success.
though. I had gone through major binges because of the stress that publishing eighty books in one year had caused. before I had parted to another country to buy those pool villas. This lucid state of mind. is a powerful antidote to hedonic adaptation. 74) Indeed.’ Hedonic adaptation has the power to extin- guish our enjoyment of the world. PREFACE was that I received rather bad comments on my books. triggers an amaz- ing awareness process which leads to a kind of inner puri- fication from what Irvine calls ‘hedonic adaptation. I took it on me. then. Negative visualization. 11 . The first drastic decision. While I was acutely aware that it would be an almost heroic task. I took with this new insight was to unpublish all of my books and to restart the whole proc- ess once again from scratch. and with this re- gained appreciation we can revitalize our ca- pacity for joy. put me in a state of inattention that proved to be fatal during the week I went to that country to choose the investments that I was going to acquire. and was dependent on sleeping pills that. we take our life and what we have for granted rather than delighting in them. Because of adaptation. By consciously thinking about the loss of what we have. together with the alcohol.. which I can’t compare to anything I have ever experienced before. (Id. in that really fantastically sobering state of imagining being near death. we can regain our appreciation of it. I paid that marathon dearly.
THE BETTER LIFE I should have followed the advice of Marcus Aurelius. and after having consulted a financial advisor. while the real estate agent be- trayed me from one end to the other. Book II. —Marcus Aurelius. the Roman Emperor who was one of the most well-known stoics of ancient times: Begin the morning by saying to yourself. the ungrateful. envious. I became aware that part of my problem had been legal oversight. an amazing abundance of new crea- 12 . While I was out of that country again after one year. unsocial. arro- gant. I shall meet with the busybody. deceitful. lack of attention. I committed major oversights and failed to secure myself with legal advice. Meditations. the sales of my proper- ties took me entire two years. the second thing was to drastically re- duce my alcohol intake. with losses around all corners. As I continued the ‘deathbed visualization’ every night before falling asleep. and trusting the wrong people. despite the fact that I had signed up with thirty local agents. All these things happen to them by reason of their igno- rance of what is good and evil. in a trusted organization. and it was an agony without end. Because of my exhaustion and the constant drug in- take. Thus the first decision I took was to definitely stop the sleep medication. The third thing was to invest my remaining funds in microfinance.
getting into the background of my attention. What had been my motives for that first publishing cycle? As a retired lawyer. I chose stoicism as my life philosophy. Having practiced Zen meditation for so many years. And while I previously have written selfhelp books. I married my ambition with sometimes harsh criticism and this negative mood had an 13 . I had been formulating priorities. while my ambition for pro- ducing music was. It stood there in bold letters in front of my inner mind. It was now after the dreadfully sobering financial catastro- phe I had been through that I got that desire to share: not the details of the negative events that unfolded so dramati- cally during that fatal year. and coinciding with the drafting of this book. I hadn’t experienced a real creative urge to do so. I had a residue of contempt within me that I tried to unleash in my books. And for the first time in my life. after having been for many years a Zen Buddhist and Western Taoist. but positively what I had learnt and what others could possibly take from that as a nour- ishment. It was a veritable explosion of new and attractive book projects. PREFACE tive ideas came to me. Among the books that spontaneously came to my mind was the present one. I now became painfully aware that this long-term practice had not prevented me from falling in the trap of alcohol abuse because of exorbitant ambitions. One year later. who had throughout his life a critical view of traditional legal systems. compared to earlier years of my life. and the title was really hitting the eye of the beholder.
reading stoic literature. But the change of my overall mindset through the sober- ing experience of financial collapse had even deeper impli- cations. I strongly felt that I was well culturally connected to those teachings. Suddenly the question came to my mind in which way I was culturally connected to those teachings and the tech- nique of meditation that is a part of them? And I had to admit that there simply was no such cultural connection and that I had taken on that lifestyle because it had been fashionable in the 70s and 80s. It created fears and worries that I had not known previously in life. if you do it while neglecting your daily duties.’ which I was able to real- ize after those many years of practice: to be without a sin- gle thought for more than an hour. and even longer. Now. it was easy to escape real- ity through the ‘thoughtless state. For I became suddenly aware that I was not really rooted in those philosophies from the East. it has no positive prac- tical use. It led to emotional stress that in turn led to major oversights in managing my life and my fortune. As long as I had stayed with Zen meditation. I found very down-to-earth and practical advice about managing life in the various books I bought about stoicism as a life philosophy that is pragmatic and that fo- cuses upon mastering our daily life and duties. THE BETTER LIFE impact on my psyche. While this is a refreshing and even blissful experience. while they 14 . that the whole endeavor was like putting a hat that had the wrong color. Now. when I first discovered it.
in addition. In fact. this is the case only on the surface. I was living a shadow existence. rediscovering stoicism was a déjà vu experience for I had well studied it in general in high school. a problem that had manifested first back in 2007. I was now taking immediate action. researched the medi- cal situation myself and vigorously changed my diet from acidic to alkaline. toward desire. and the way we master our daily existence. and thus for two years. PREFACE have unfortunately not shaped our civilization in any sig- nificant manner. and our overall attitudes toward life. I attracted gout/arthritis. My favorite philosopher was Epicure. toward ambi- tions. Through the lack of movement and exercise. and while at that time it was paralyzing my left knee. and I was following the precepts of those philosophers. for it followed the teachings of Plato and Aristotle. both philosophies are branches of the same tree in that both focus on the private life. My motivation for writing and even for practicing the piano had reached a long-time bottom. for me personally. at the age of 16. the stoic lifestyle advise was eventually having a positive impact upon me. and while Epicurism is formally different from Stoicism. Until the sales of those unfortunate villas. changing my schedule en- 15 . and the wrong diet. The need for exercise had become obvi- ous. I had not been fond of Plato and Aristotle. after I was able to unchoose religion and opt for the philosophy class. After all. I did not get out of bed in the morning and I badly neglected my creative duties. And already during that year.
instead of stiff-legged meditation. and that a limit of time is fixed for you.) I had indeed been given the opportunity to keep my money in the bank and would not have lost so much of it through a precarious real estate investment in a country I barely knew and where. and cook a simple and yet delicious vegetarian cuisine. I became aware that the main trigger of the new and healthy orientation of my daily life and food was the result of the stoic teaching I was slowly assimilat- ing. Eventually I was heeding Marcus Aurelius’ advice: Remember how often you have received an op- portunity from the gods. years before. and yet do not use it. then. I got used to get up at 5 am and go to sleep at 10 pm. In hindsight. You must now at least perceive of what uni- verse you are a part. do regular exercise. it will go and you will go. 16 . and from what administra- tor of the universe your existence flows. And this was. got a plant-based medica- tion and continued with an alkaline diet. THE BETTER LIFE tirely. a man had stolen me two thousand dollars from my bag when I was on my way to buy a laptop. (Id. a first success: I was able to avoid an acute and painful gout attack. I clearly had ‘clouds in my mind’ to leave a country that had done me well for more than ten years. and it will never return. which if you do not use for clearing away the clouds from your mind.
Finally understanding that this was a major lesson the universe was teaching me. So abandoned the cause of grief. my computer. and entire collections of musical scores. thinking to myself that I had been taught a lesson that affirms that less is more. I was facing another shock. while the items I was really dependent upon. were missing. PREFACE and engage in an adventure without thorough preparation and a critical mind. which had been very expensive. or can be more. and more vital items at 17 . Having had no insurance for a load that had a value of more than fifty thousand dollars. when the container arrived here. that I could have lost more. my digital piano. and then to my surprise realized that I did not miss those items at all! One of the armchairs that was missing would not have fit in my apartment after all. including works of art. The final blow of this unfortunate journey was that I had to store my furniture away with the moving company in that country for two years. my ongoing practice of ‘negative visualiza- tion’ taught me that it all could have been much worse af- ter all. many books were in such a dirty condition that I had to trash them. if one is more appreciative and grateful! Then. kitchen equipment. because I lacked the money for both insurance and for shipping the container. asking the universe why this happened. and most of my books were there. Many of the antiques and heir- looms were missing. I was asking myself: —Have I really deserved this? And I spent days in prayer.
leading to a new joy of life. if you do every act of your life as if it were the last. and ordered the books of Donald Trump and Robert Kiyosaki. while I had bought them much too quickly. without investigating many similar objects. And I had bought those villas virtually from the website of the agent. You see how few the things are. and that my attitude had been refreshed in that or- deal. I really wanted to know it. went very quiet. THE BETTER LIFE that. self-love. And I was dumbfounded to read that Trump only buys a property after having scrutinized one hundred similar in- vestments. After all.) With a renewed positive spirit. in that market. I had to admit toward myself that I was not entirely responsible for my losses for there was a market factor in play that I could not have accounted for at the time of purchase. Suddenly. Marcus Aurelius writes in his Meditations: And you will give yourself relief. That was the reason it took me so long to sell the houses again. laying aside all carelessness. I really wanted to find out what I had done wrong. and discontent with the portion that has been given to you. the condo business was get- ting into a boom while my sector of high-end private pool villas which target a corporate clientèle. which if possessed by a man. This was 18 . enable him to live a life that flows in quiet … (Id. and there were many in fact. passionate aversion from the commands of reason. hypocrisy.
and painful 19 . our opinions. it is the act of one who has begun to be instructed. It is the act of an ill- instructed man to blame others for his own bad condition. —Epictetus. and out of touch with reality. While my situation had been aggravated through the fact that the landlord of my rented house together with the maid (that he had taken to me) were stealing me money on a consistent basis. thus I followed Epictetus’ advice to not bother and put the past behind me: Take away then aversion from all things which are not in your power. Section V) This passage made me aware that I was still in the dark as long as I was blaming myself. which actually kept me chained to those past events in a negative. (Id. neither to blame enough nor himself. I drew a line and blamed myself to have been overly trust- ing and naïve. PREFACE of course a factor that I had no power over. let us never blame others. amounting to almost thirty thousand dol- lars. that is. and of one whose instruction is completed. Enchiridion. but our- selves. I did not blame them. Section II. to lay the blame on himself. Instead. in fact all my savings. and transfer it to the things contrary to nature which are in your power.. And I found an important advice in Epictetus’ Enchiridion: When then we are impeded or disturbed or grieved.
’ It was very important to have done that for I saw that this was the key for finding inner peace once again. After having understood that. I used positive af- firmations to forgive myself and clear my mind of the ‘clouds. 20 . THE BETTER LIFE manner.
And yet our lives are different. Our lives are cyclic. would you find that useful? Are you satisfied with your current life? Or do you wish to improve it? If yes. but this is not what I am talking about in this book. did you ever ponder how this could possibly be done? We are all going through phases of up and down. Introduction The Spontaneous Power of Thought If you intent to improve. they are not linear because we constantly run through cycles. or is it better than good? Did you ever make an overall assessment of your life? If not. That is so for all of us. . I shall not have the means of living … —EPICTETUS Is your life good. throw away such thoughts as these: if I neglect my affairs.
and when you see his beautiful wife and happy chil- dren? Does it give you a bad moment to see that? Does it make you wonder why the world is ‘so unjust’? Is it really? I do not make a judgment. It would be silly in its gen- erality and wouldn’t be needed anyway because the pur- pose of this book is pragmatic. and by being emotionally balanced. are you feeling jealous when you see him like that. and myself. he makes it happen unconsciously. or not consciously make that is it better than good? happen. I do not know if the world is just or unjust. this nagging thought comes up: —Why is it that this man is so successful. yes. constructive. I do not even bother. he might indeed do something about it. I bother about what I think about the world. and I am not? What does he do to be like that? Does he do anything for that to happen? Well. THE BETTER LIFE You may have a neighbor whom you see entering his stretch limo in the morning with a radiant smile. but we may assume that if he does Is your life good. not speculative. fertile thoughts. so rich and so happy. for example by thinking good thoughts. but every time you see that. And you. and others. Why do I? 22 . instead of running wild in fear and resentment ever so often. but perhaps not consciously so … We do not know.
that there was no intelli- gence behind this apparent injustice. And one of the first things I learnt about was the ‘Law of Attraction’ … By and by. then Ernest Holmes and finally James Allen and Charles Fillmore and Charles Francis Haanel. I don’t joke. just as the weather changes. and this opened my mind to more input. 23 . and that I was thinking not very high about myself. and that was a surprising new start. I really believed it was so. INTRODUCTION Some years ago. and made space for a feeling of poised existential calm. first of all. I had to learn it all through what Ernest Holmes coined in 1927 as ‘The Science of Mind. I also began to be aware of how negative input triggers disturbances in the mind. that for some the sun is shining brighter as a matter of luck and for others not. to a point to really look through the veil. because they have bad luck. I still believed that the world is just a chance event. more positive input. while I must concede I never thought of it in depth. I did not really believe that I had deserved my fate. It took me about ten years. beginning with Joseph Murphy and Catherine Ponder. that it was just a cos- mic game. I found that my thinking was negative. At that time.’ So I studied this science. The first thing I realized was that my constant frustration and resentment vanished off as I went along. I came to observing my thoughts. I rather thought it was all random. with winners here and losers there—and tomor- row all might be reversed. and how to control this input. a certain stoicism. my life changed as I started to work with special affirmations.
and to be happier. particular relation- ships. their parents. I saw that most people refuse to really be responsible for their lives. blaming their fate or God or others. and had accomplished a cycle of that was a surprising thirty years and felt there new start. So I began to draft presentations about ‘The Science of Mind. was time to do something else. I had done the same for more than fifty years of my life. to learn that it was like a general rule that people are overall negative in their facing life taught me an important lesson. there was a feeling came to observing of void for a certain time. or cir- cumstances. that they doubt the basic existential goodness of the universe.’ and how it had helped to change my life. and of their fate. I had believed that I was special somehow in my negativ- ism. their upbringing … All of that had a rather familiar ring in my ears. I my thoughts. and live in peace with themselves and others. They also blamed particular events. that I had turned bitter for some or the other rather particular reason. THE BETTER LIFE After I had finalized my Some years ago I research work and published my books. My moti- vation was to assist others in achieving more in their lives. but now I saw that all others I saw think- ing in the same vein used the same kind of vocabulary. 24 . Now. Then I made the discovery that most people are ac- tually negative. as negative as I had been. while there was much similar in their way to argue.
to learn that it was all a big misunderstand. that all parents love their rule that people are children. when you feel you are being loved by your parents and educators. Research has shown that the caring instinct that is so con- spicuous with animals is not instinctual with humans. our own attitude to care for our children is equally poorly developed. that you are respected as what you are. you develop a nurturing spirit. overall negative in cupied with their problems. that love is programmed into the parent-child relationship. In other words. but are often preoc. rather than being told to conform to certain expec- tations. don’t let us become sentimental and assume it Now. it was a sibling. it was an abusive educator. I do not believe tant lesson. or it was lack- ing money in the family. INTRODUCTION It was more often than not the parents or one ‘bad’ parent. It is something we learn through being cared for! If we were poorly cared for. Somehow all these people seemed to have been conditioned to believe they had precise rea- sons to assume that they were worse off than others. A little further down the road I understood that it effec- tively boiled down to one monumental message that is rather short: —I was not loved! Now. their facing life showing their children the taught me an impor- cold face. was like a general ing. This is not just the- 25 .
it is an act of for- giveness and also an attitude that puts understanding up as the solution. Somehow we are trained to fight against circum- stances. then? Acceptance is an act of making peace. the next time you are 26 . Prescott. James W. our growing up sanely. the fact that it was lacking in our childhood cannot be changed. of course. the problem with this kind of research is always that it is explanatory only.’ It can’t be done that way or nothing will change. to sum it up: when we were growing in a non-caring environment. While it is good to know that love is really a biological factor. an American neurospsychologist found in many years of research that our brain develops differently when as infants we were breastfed only for a short while. it has to be accepted! What does that mean? Acceptance is something we hardly ever practice in our society. not just a cultural achievement. even those we can’t change. when we were lacking tactile care and suffered from physical punishment. Now. but I understand that now and will thus not bother anymore. I do not mean the rather superficial justifi- cations such as ‘well. In such a case our brain develops in ways that are not natural but a consequence of the emo- tional starvation we have suffered early in life. THE BETTER LIFE ory. it doesn’t help us to change our condition. That is not smart. it has even been confirmed by neuroscience. my parents didn’t have time for me. and the old devils will come out of their cave again. it’s even a waste of energy! What is acceptance. they were too busy with making money.
INTRODUCTION down. of making peace. you need to make it happen! It will not happen by itself if you. the support we needed as children. did not have the favors some luckier people are born with. you are depressed. whatever they had in mind. The past is dead so blaming the past can logically not get you on a new constructive track. your effort to make it hap- pen! When you want to have a life that is better than good. whatever they made wrong. but we can all live lives that are better than good! It is quite obvious that we cannot do that as long as we are blaming the past. title of this book. our parents. for developing our talents. your belief that puts understand- you have deserved it. and ing up as a solution. conveys that there is Acceptance is an act really something that is bet. it is ter than just good. a wrong marriage or having entered the wrong business. and feel abandoned by all and everybody! Acceptance is more than understanding! It ar- gues more on the line of ‘I accept it anyway. that is more than average. like me. even later as young adults. What is it? an act of forgiveness It is your own expectation to and also an attitude live a fulfilled life. a bad childhood. I accept it!’ The Better Life. So if the past cannot 27 . we cannot change the past. we cannot change. This. however inade- quate they were. All that happened to you in the past also has no value for having you recognize your current potential. some or the other event.
it is not yet realized. So is is not actually dysfunctional to worry about the past or the fu- ture? Is it not much more constructive to bother about the present? But how are you dealing with the present? Are you worrying about your life or are you confident that you are going in the right direction? Now. it is from the now that the future unfolds. THE BETTER LIFE be involved in your quest to lead a life that is better than good. the future is just potential. it’s actually contained in the present. for you know what you went through in the past. All the po- tential of that future is in the now. or you let others. the anxiety is created by the fact that the future is utterly uncertain. the present moment. the present rather than bother- ing about the past and the future? You will also realize if you ponder the issue that wor- rying both about the past and the future will easily make you fearful and apprehensive. Your options are that either you are setting your priorities and make up your mind what you really want in life. and regarding the future. before I am going to explain the Law of Attrac- tion in the first chapter of this book. gradually. remembering the hurt and your past fears. let me point out to you what your options are before you ever set out to deliber- ately attract anything to you. So should we not care about the now. is it perhaps the future that will get you closer to your dream? Well. or the mass 28 .
mind? If you are among those who are. right? I simply mean a life that is above the law of averages. the size of the bed. sparkling. a moment. abundant. or if the room comes with breakfast or not? Would you leave it over to the desk clerk to choose all these de- tails for you? Obviously not. it is from life in which your dreams are the now that the fu- fulfilled and not piled up in ture unfolds. the present life that is better than good. INTRODUCTION mind decide for you. gradu- the recesses of your yearning ally. so what stands in the way of your choosing the greater pattern of your life. ex- traordinary. namely the details that make your life better than good? Now you will want to know what I mean when I use this term. namely by fate? For example. and happy! I mean a life where you virtually feel in which direction you are going. you would make a conscious choice. Do you All the potential of find it difficult to choose? Are you perhaps feeling guilty or that future is in the extravagant when you want a now. better than good. when you go on vaca- tion. the amenities. the view from the room. rather modest-minded when it goes to claim our riches in life. would you not choose the hotel room you wish to have. that is exuberant. please ponder what happens if you refuse to choose! Do you agree that in such a case. choices will nevertheless be made. because you have attained a certain assurance of the good that comes to 29 . like me.
The objective mind focuses upon the objective material world out there. If you are drowned in debt. and a subconscious or subjective mind. and it grasps and perceives reality through the give senses. But of course. the feeling may not be the reality of what’s actually happening. Thus this subjective or inner mind is like a field or acre that can be seeded in order to 30 . by contrast. why not adopting a positive attitude and learn how to program your subconscious mind ac- cordingly? Now let me explain how this works. you may feel you are going in the right direction. for example after having realized a successful new start in your professional life. a conscious or ob- jective mind. is the subjec- tive mind. you may feel you are go- ing in the wrong direction. It has also been called the male part of the mind. while if you are in an upward cycle. The subconscious mind. As life is anyway uncertain and you will not really know where you are going. THE BETTER LIFE you. Yet the rub is that feeling negative or positive about the direction of your life does have an impact upon your sub- conscious mind and that is why it’s so important that you feel positive and free of guilt about yourself. and has been called the female mind. What actually do I mean when I talk about the subconscious mind? I want to convey to you that we have two minds. It is not concerned with perception of reality but actually creates reality for us according to what we feed it with through our thoughts and emotions.
wor- ship a relic. or they go on a pilgrimage to a far-away monastery: they do all this in the firm belief that they will be cured of their disease. you reap at the time of harvest. According to what you sow in it. scious mind accord- pens. a few weeks later. Why was that? Because they had been in a delirium created by the ambience of the event. but ingly? it may be temporary. go into certain wa- ters that are supposed to have healing powers. is not able to discriminate between true and false. And when that hap. It accepts anything that is written on it by the conscious mind. unlike the conscious mind. People kiss a certain stone. true and 31 . However. caress the bone of a saint. The problem is that after a while. have experienced short-time healing. Many who have been moved by certain ceremonies in which they saw many people flock for a common purpose. and exhilaration. a healing is certain. gram your subcon- firm. and where there was a lot of chanting and dancing. and music. the hypnotic effect vanished off and they were as miserable as before. The subconscious mind. be they religious or mundane are possible. And they are! But why? Because they believe in it so strongly that they impreg. Why not adopting a nate their subconscious mind positive attitude and to a point that this inner mind learn how to pro- accepts as true what they af. INTRODUCTION growth fruit. That is why all kinds of suggestive therapies.
your past self. This positive engagement is absolutely necessary to insure a long-term healing. not in outward reality. either positively or negatively. The cause is within yourself. all people who have had an impact in your life. THE BETTER LIFE lasting healing requires us to participate in a more engaged manner in our healing process. it will leave a sting in your mind every time you think of them. What does it imply? It requires you to take responsibility for your disease first of all. but also with others. when you realize that you know that you are in a state of inner war! This should be a signal for you to take another position altogether and get on a new track! In that case you need to make peace with not only yourself. The cause is always in the thought realm. This means that you need to find the cause of it in the first place. You will become aware that there is not a peaceful moment in your mind and that you are all torn up in strife and con- flict. your younger self. It’s not the cause. once you feel inside. In other words. it’s how you react to events in your life. As long as you haven’t done that step. Thus. What you see in the life around you is effects. 32 . that you hold on to peeves and grudges. the re- membrance of these people will be a bother to you. it is in your way to think and how positively or negatively you energize your thoughts with emotions. that you have strong feelings of re- sentment. and this will prevent you from experiencing true inner peace. you will recognize your inner turmoil. you notice that you are abrasive in your relations with others. for example. If.
Q. to make peace with both yourself and all peo- ple you ever met in your life is the first priority in your new orientation of building a life that is better than good. INTRODUCTION Hence. It is only when you sincerely question yourself about the fundamentals of your life that you can start to live a life that is better than good. you will easily understand that your thoughts are the blueprint for the circumstances of your 33 . Are you satisfied with your current life? Or do you wish to change or improve it? What is your attitude to- ward material riches? Are you jealous to see others being richer than you? A. The mass mind has it to belittle the importance of our thoughts upon reality. but now we got the proof that our thoughts really are energy streams that have a vibrational impact upon the creation and change of matter. This was known to ancient philosophers but was denied by mechanistic sci- ence for the last about four hundred years. You should ask them honestly to yourself and find definite answers. and that there are such things as ‘good luck’ and ‘bad luck?’ A. And our science only most re- cently began to find out that thoughts and intentions really have a measurable impact upon matter. Q & A Session Q. Do you think that life is a chance event. As this is so. These questions are the starting point of the present selfhelp book.
Is acceptance something you must have experienced in childhood or you won’t be able to carry it over into your adult life? Or is it rather an act of self-acceptance which is going to override whatever you experienced in terms of being accepted. Hence. Have you ever observed your thoughts? Can you make out a predominant line or characteristic in the qual- ity of your thoughts? Can you say that they are either pre- dominantly negative or predominantly positive? A. or not. you must not wonder that you are following the scarcity principle. Q. We all have negative thoughts in a while. you need to think in the proper manner in or- der to bring your life up to the highest standard. as a child? 34 . but it’s different for the person who thinks predominantly in a negative way. how you meet yourself. In ordinary language. who will? Q. we call such a person a ‘negative person. Have you been conditioned to believe that you have precise reasons to assume that you are worse off than oth- ers. Q.’ This is interesting as a usage of lan- guage for here you see that we actually associate a person with the content of their predominant thoughts. If the latter is the case. for if you don’t accept your greatness. THE BETTER LIFE life. You should ask these other questions to yourself to have clarity about how you face yourself. or have you had the feeling as a child that you were not loved at all by your parents? A. namely if you meet your self-talk. as a friend or as an enemy.
selfhelp programs. when you are sick. not the doctor is responsible for your disease. you build awareness of the fact that all disease is an imbalance in the body. and balance! Hence. It must be a life of your own making for we are all born equal in the sense that our starting point is helplessness. extraordinary. and a good life is a great. and later. This independence. you depended on your mother. for achieving great success! As a patient. much more! A life that is better than good is simply a good life. you cannot honestly strive for anything extraordinary in your life and you will be like most people: going for bottomline! I wrote this book for you to long and strive for more than bottomline. INTRODUCTION A. but you yourself! In this spirit of responsibil- ity or response ability. you can respond to that sickness in a variety of ways: you can respond to it by denying a response altogether. self-reliance and a feeling of independence. and leave it over to chemicals—pharmaceuticals—to get you 35 . when you are sick. Without self-acceptance. As an infant. I am saying throughout this book that self-acceptance is the point of departure of all. but now you are an adult which means you should depend solely upon yourself! That means you have build autonomy in your life. for the natural con- dition is health. In this book. on your father. then. is the starting point for interdependence. you need to become aware that ultimately. unusual life. And collaborate you must. I defend the latter point of view. and any. which is the necessary spirit for collaboration with others.
By the same token. As you see this. you can’t achieve great- ness. and you do not even need a doctor for doing that. when you suffer from gout (arthritis). not enough alkaline substances such as fresh fruits. a silent mind. lots of seafood. lots of alcohol. you do not need a life coach and no need for expensive seminars for bringing your life into a healthy balance. THE BETTER LIFE back into balance (chances are they won’t be doing the job) or you begin to see in which ways you have contributed to the the lack of ease (dis-ease) in your body. For example. and without inner peace. etc. too much of fried or stir-fried food. you will bring your body back into balance simply through a change of diet. Also. All great achievements have been made by humans because they have built inner peace. you build awareness about your diet and you see that the causes of too much of uric acid in your blood. The cause simply is a diet that is too acidic. for it is the silent mind that achieves great things in life! 36 . you may lack healthy exercise and your kidneys have become lazy for it’s the kidneys which re- move acidity from the blood. Negativity prevents you from experiencing true inner peace. eggs and meat. lentils. You just need to watch your thoughts and your self-talk and remedy negativity through forgiveness and putting your past behind you. beans.
—EPICTETUS Do you deserve the best? There is no law that says you don’t. there is no legislation that positions you at the lower end of fortune. Actually the Law of Attraction is only a secondary law to the primary law which is the Law of Vibration. We attract . I shall live unhon- ored and be nobody nowhere. Using the law of attraction means to build into your mind the mental equivalent of what you wish to attract. So let us ask. You attract to you those things. events and people of which you have a mental equivalent in your mind. what is the determinant force for you to attract what you want? It is the Law of Attraction. Chapter One The Law of Attraction Let not these thoughts afflict you.
we generally attract what are recurrently think about. Now. Positive vibrations are higher than negative vibrations. and even with concepts. as a matter of your thoughts. hence the whole art is to bring up your entire vibrational field to a higher frequency! —See Peter Fritz Walter. they are streams of energy. it vibrates and these vibrations en- ter in a state of resonance with other minds and bodies. THE BETTER LIFE certain things or circumstances because we have the men- tal equivalent of these in our mind. and with material things. in other words. The Vibrant Nature of Life: Scientific Se- crets for Your Journey Through Space and Time (2014). let us put first things first and look at the nega- tive side of this law! Actually. but also our psyche. our emotions are vibrational streams. You attract to you positively what you positively vibrate with (which is part of your recurring positive thoughts). ideas. Not only is out body a very fine-tuned vibrational unit. our entire body is a vibrational emitter. and when they are accompanied by visual images. many of you will simply be- lieve that this entire idea of a law of attraction is a market- ing trick! Or a ‘New Age’ tag to be glued on certain books to sell more of them … 38 . vice versa you attract negative things because you vibrate with negative people or events. espe- cially if our thoughts are charged with emotions. Thus the art of attracting the right things to you is to fine-tune the vibrations of your recur- ring thoughts and emotions. But what is this so? It is so because thoughts are vibrations.
and that it really exists. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION But don’t be misled. and how they grab what they want from life. how they are coming at life. the law of electricity will teach you that if you use it inattentively. The problem is when you deal with a law. When you use the law of attraction without caring for the out- 39 . except you are a cynic and you think that all in life is just random! Well. if we can attract negative events and people into our lives. we can also use the law positively and attract what we really want. if we wanted it or not. you cannot deny. You and me have used the law of attraction—the problem is that we used it negatively! We have attracted that bad childhood we are complain- ing about. consciously. If you put your fin- gers in the wall socket. Logically. Karma or whatever you may call it. you may be killed. it works also if you don’t use it intently.’ But this cynicism is just another defense against the truth that we do use the law of attraction. isn’t it? It helps you to hide and say: ‘I am not responsible for my life! All is a matter of good luck or bad luck. expresses that we have attracted all those nega- tive circumstances when others have attracted the right ones for their development! This. I have researched biographies of highly successful people for now three decades and found that invariably these people do something about how they are looking at life. that’s a comfort- ing belief.
you may be in a minority position and need to attract the support of a small but dedicated group of people who believe in it. But if you are all alone. THE BETTER LIFE come. you still attract something. it may face opposition. tively. but it may not be what you really want. The present book is more general in its overall inten- tion to help you discover how your life can be better than good. Then. But I won’t leave you at this point without giving 40 . This book is not specifically about the law of attraction. that positions you at making sure also that those the lower end of for- desires are acceptable within tune. Do you deserve the lications about how to use best? There is no law the law of attraction posi. however. that says you don’t. When you first come up with a new idea. There are many good books about it now. This support. to- gether. your given culture so that they can gain the support of others. you can propagate the idea and bring it to final suc- cess. it is difficult to be even half-way suc- cessful in any field. putting your full in. Without support. is also some- thing we need to attract. there is no legislation tention behind your desires. not even having one single friend who takes sides with you and supports your idea. it will be virtually impossible to realize your idea. That is the reason why there are now films and pub.
But you do not need to put your daily focus upon those problems by talking about them. what you may call your ‘problems. by discussing them with friends. in turn. you can focus on what you really want! This does not mean you deny having the problems you have. the more you will energize your desires. it makes it all only worse for in that case you are using the law of attraction negatively. nobody needs to tell you. The more you take your focus off your problems.’ What you focus upon you strengthen. by writing about them. you need to render it fully conscious at first! That means you need to build a thorough awareness of what you really want in life. all works out for my best. A simple affirmation you can use is this: Every day. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION you some basic advice. You can use affirma- tions and you can visualize what you want to attract into your life. You know what’s going wrong in your life. If your problem is bad health. requires you to get your focus off all the things you do not want in life. use this affirmation: 41 . in every way. Doing so doesn’t help you at all. Instead. it’s not a game of blind man’s buff with yourself. This. To use the law of attraction posi- tively. That’s why focusing on your problems gets you more of them. you energize with your awareness.
you can hardly attract anything good into your life. As stopping thought while it is an idea in some relig- ions. That also means that you deliberately work on build- ing an awareness of your self-talk. thereby developing more inner coherence which research has shown to be the prime success factor in life: —See Doc Childre & Bruce Cryer. but you gently direct them to becoming more positive. what you can do is to put a posi- tive thought behind every negative thought that you discover. I am feeling better and bet- ter. If this self- talk is spiteful. in one word: more loving! It also means that you involve your heart more in your thoughts. does not really work. if it is tinted by hatred and feelings of re- venge. if it is lacking self-respect and you are making yourself down constantly you are expressing toward yourself that you haven’t deserved anything good or better than what you are experiencing now. THE BETTER LIFE Every day. and in every way. From Chaos to Coherence (2004) 42 . not to forcefully control them as that is of little use. love and respect for self and others. Good health is mine now! Generally speaking. more inspired by goodwill. This means that you do not forcefully interfere with your thoughts. the way you talk to your- self. the way you lead monologues in your mind about certain issues. you need to develop an awareness of the content of your thoughts. but to be aware of them. the way you argue with yourself.
the findings are of course equally valid on the individual level. Groups operating only on in- stinct arising from gut feelings and often based in fear stay constrained in modalities that im- prison the spirit and age prematurely. miss- ing a heart intelligent perspective that could offer deeper understanding. especially for boosting performance. While this research focused on how the heart can be activated within cognitive processes in the corporate set- ting. impulsive. if you seek a partner or friends who genuinely care for 43 . It is an age-old idea promoted by Buddhism and usually put in the term to have ‘compas- sion for all sentient beings. For exam- ple. (People leave). the first priority. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION Involving your heart in your thought means that you achieve a balance between feeling and thinking. businesslike. 55 of their book: A mind (or organization) without heart is scat- tered. Incoherence rules. and easily distracted. between compassion and reasoning. The authors write on p. Emo- tions (and organizations) without the intelligent balance that comes from the heart create flash fires of instability and waste.’ but it is now corroborated by HeartMath® Research. from the 7 trillion cells it nourishes to the life it sustains to the vitality it ensures—intuitive. intelligent. The heart puts first things first. fundamental. causing people to stay locked in self-justified mental loops. core. (See Annex 1).
Another important advice regarding the law of attrac- tion is how you deal with news. producing self-defeating and negative dreams. That’s one of several reasons why you can hardly find any ‘good news’ when you are watching the news. Much to the contrary. You need to be aware that the media make more money when they sensationalize the news. We can only attract what we already have within us as a potential energy. and actually irradiate that feeling of genuine care toward others and the world. You can only do this if you involve your heart in your thinking process. By gradually purifying your thoughts. but you begin your day in a negative mood. All in life is vibration and every thought and every emotion have a vibrational frequency. it cannot deliberately reject any ‘news. Why? Your subconscious mind is not able to judge. Good and joyful news are not bringing the same amount of readers and thus much less revenues than bad and horrible news. The lower emotions and thoughts have a relatively low frequency. you are actually boosted into a negative mood or drive which may then take over in your sleep.’ 44 . THE BETTER LIFE you. thereby being able to attract that vibration into your life in the form of others who care and are loving in their behavior toward you. you change your entire vibration into a higher level of frequency. you need to build the mental equivalent for attracting it to you. while feelings of love and care have a higher frequency.’ it will absorb it all as ‘the truth. The next morning you wake up depressed and perhaps do not consciously remember the dreams.
However. re. you are in believing what you are told. Then you may not wonder why you are attracting the same kind of things into your life … Another important truth about the law of attraction is That’s why focusing that you cannot attract what on your problems in your mind you deny. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION That is why you need to be careful about what you ingest on a daily basis. or not. Instead. what sort of blogs you are read- ing. you To come back to our ini. Your rational mind can make out what is true and what may have been exaggerated but your subconscious mind cannot do that. and the entire often highly violent and negative media content flows directly into your subconscious mind. it will take it all ‘by the word’ and consider it as true. if you envy you really want! your rich neighbor and con- demn his wealth. That is one of the reasons why you should never fall asleep in front of your television. what kind of media content you are watching or listening to. in that situation. for your critical rational mind is at rest. you open the door to re- ceiving alike! That is why feelings of jealousy and envy are so destructive. it’s not because religious scriptures are say- 45 . and his stretch limo. or his beautiful wife and children. and how critical. you cannot attract those things into your life. them. gets you more of ject or condemn. can focus on what tial example. if you bless that family and wish them well.
it is really so and you can take it at face value! When you bless others. My biographical research has shown me that all highly successful people are open-minded and their thinking is big. How to deal with these emotions. they have more latitude of mind than most average people. and you feel great and liberated. When you re- peatedly bless your neighbor. and you become a more open- minded person. as if your inner space suddenly had become larger. spacious. By practicing acceptance. but because these negative emotions leave your inner landscape behind like a desert. you will see how these viru- lent negative emotions gradually vanish off. you are accepting the situation as it is. especially if they are particularly virulent in your life? There is an effective way to do so. they are undermining your self- esteem and they are blocking your positive energy. the positive energy returns to you and brings you many riches down the road. of the purifying effect it has. you are blessed. they are devastating your peace of mind. THE BETTER LIFE ing so. you build more latitude of mind. 46 . it’s giving a blessing! When you give a blessing. I do not mean to become sentimental at this point. It is really so. Remember what we were learning about acceptance.
What is the Law of Attraction? If you haven’t experi- enced the positive side of this law (yet). regard- ing Henry Ford. have you at least experienced the negative side of it? A. Have you studied biographies of successful people? What do you think is it that they do differently than ordi- nary people? A. Hill found precisely 14 such principles. he wrote that his IQ was probably not above average but he was practicing a almost stubborn persistence and that endurance paid him great dividends. People who have ex- perienced but the negative workings of the law of attrac- tion usually put the entire idea off and create a mental shield against the truth: they argue that they were born on the wrong side of the tracks. they give up control over their lives. They do this to shift responsibility away from them. and it is not a function of IQ to master them. They can be studied and learnt. You certainly have got the idea of that long ago. but because of his 47 . In the case of Albert Einstein. and by doing so. For example. but you may not have reasoned it all out. Q. we know he had a very high IQ of about 192. did not have the right connec- tions or were born into the wrong family. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION Q & A Session Q. Napoleon Hill and other researchers in the field of success research have shown that all high achievers follow a set of principles in their lives. but he was known to say that he had achieved high in life not because of that.
first of all. instead what you get is that others will condemn you! Q. Yes. would you need a litmus test to know if the Law of Attraction works? A. you turn on the Law of Attraction by thinking correctly. When you want to attract all the good you can have in your life. When you enter your house. by fostering correct and universally approvable intentions! Q. and there is only one: it is to condemn things. What happens when you take your focus off your problems? 48 . it is a fact that mastering your thoughts is way more important because it’s your thoughts that constitute. ideas. What you need to do. Condemnation is the sure blocker of the law of attraction in its positive outcome. or anything for that matter. Have you doubted the law of electricity at any time in your life? Did you need to put your finger in the wall socket in order to know how electricity feels in the body? By the same token. the blueprint of your life. Q. money. through their vibrational impact upon matter. THE BETTER LIFE ‘doggedness. you turn on the light by turning a switch. by praying correctly. you should avoid the capital sin. You are using the law of elec- tricity positively. people.’ But apart from these principles that you may study or not study and apply or not apply for yourself. so that the Law of Attraction can work positively for you is to apply it posi- tively for you. Is there anything you should not do so that you can fully profit from the benefits of the Law of Attraction? A.
Do not tell me that it doesn’t work. It is constantly in movement. Very simply. You most certainly are aware that you dialogue with yourself. get into it again. this self-talk will gradually vanish off. and this quite constantly. do not try to force you to ‘talk only positively with myself. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION A. You need to simply observe the movement of your thoughts and your self-talk. You can only observe it passively. constantly going from one to the next. I did it and it today I have a completely silent mind. but this action or rather non-action.. from the past toward the present. You will note that after you have learnt the habit of passively watching your self-talk. from A to B. from you to other people. But it took me well about twenty years . Have you experienced that not when you took your attention off certain people? Did they not vanish off your life? Q. What is self-talk? Have you ever observed your own self-talk? Would you qualify it as positive or negative? A. You cannot consciously control your self-talk. is very important for our consciousness is self-cleaning and self-renewing and it changes without our awareness. they will van- ish from your life as a result. the vanish into the background of your thoughts and this takes the energy off them. Does it make a movement? Certainly so. to a point that after perhaps several years of practice. Now.. and watch it carefully. do not condemn it. 49 . you have a completely silent mind.’ That doesn’t work. and so on.
you need to build awareness of your thought process. or is there a bet- ter way of doing that? A. It can quite easily be defined as an alignment be- tween your conscious thoughts and your heart. You can’t attract success to yourself if you condemn the entire world. the re- searchers involved in this cutting-edge research found that we have a brain IQ and a heart IQ. We need think- ing as much as inner silence. and you need to qualify your thought content as to being either constructive or destructive. If you condemn money as 50 . you need to be mindful of inner coherence. Q. What is it that you need to do to attract what you desire? Is there anything you need to build prior to being able to benefit from the Law of Attraction? A. Both these IQs must communicate with one another for a person to build inner coherence. Yes. or simply. for achieving high and getting the results you want. for what you condemn flees you. Both functions have their place in life. in all routines. between your brain and your heart. in all technology. How would you define inner coherence? A. Certainly not. THE BETTER LIFE Q. Q. Do you think you need to stop thinking altogether in order to live with more self-awareness. Thinking is involved in all intellectual processes. And this is really important for this research has shown that high performance in any field is the conse- quence of inner coherence! Hence. Consequently.
the frequency of your thoughts to a higher and more subtle level? Why should that be important? A. Is it media gossip? Is it the midnight thriller? Is it the news about rape and murder? Be aware that you are responsible for all you are taking in. Why can you not attract what you condemn? What. Do you think it’s possible to raise the vibrancy. Q. It will take wings and will desert you. THE LAW OF ATTRACTION ‘filthy lucre. both in terms of physical and in terms of mental food! So if this media diet of yours is focused upon all the things that are abject in life. and in people who are doing the wrong things. It is important for all the good things in life. Q. Just passively observe what kind of information you are taking in on a daily basis. and their mental equivalent as good thoughts have a high vibra- tion compared to ordinary things and corresponding nega- tive thoughts. on a daily basis. Why do you think a media diet is a good idea? A. you cannot attract more money into your life. but if you refuse to engage in it. It is not obligatory for building success.’ for example. then. it is recommended to watch what you ingest in terms of information. you must not wonder why you are attracting the mental equivalent of these things into your own life. Q. is the best way of triggering the attraction of what you really desire? 51 .
THE BETTER LIFE A. say ‘This is mine in divine order. extraor- dinary life. the right partner.’ Never say ‘I can’t afford it. the good taste. 52 .’ Affirm your right for abundance and a luxury. who have the money. the clothes you love to buy. Praise all the people who have those things you desire. And also understand that you have the right to have those things you desire. The magic word is praise. the wonderful car or house you need. a life that is better than good. hence tell to yourself every time you see those things. the wonderful children. etc. the ideal job. the vacations you want.
especially when thoughts are nourished by strong emotions. the content of those thoughts manifests in one way or the other. Chapter Two Latent Thoughts Manifest A man’s life is what his thoughts make of it. It reacts. Most people are not aware of the fact that if they remain oblivious of their latent thoughts. and the result may be unpredictable. —MARCUS AURELIUS Your subconscious mind cannot reason. It is your task to imprint whatever you wish upon it. if you have the habit to condemn people because they are richer than you. For example. If you re- fuse doing that. or because they own a . your daily thoughts will.
What have you imprinted? You have imprinted ‘I do not like money. Only a corrupt person can have the money to buy such a car. 54 . he was encountering an outspoken resis- tance against his ideas. you are implic- itly condemning the money these people have and that you don’t. thereby attracting the opposite of what you want. C. Yet when he started his medical career. Now let me give you a positive example. It corrupts people. THE BETTER LIFE certain car that you always wished to have. you we sow. It will dutifully carry out what you have imprinted upon it. But We shall reap what when you condemn. It’s like you are us- ing the law of attraction negatively. He did not hesitate to criticize the medical vocational training that emphasizes the prescrip- tion of drugs over softer and less stressful healing proce- dures. In such a moment your condemning the very thing you want leads to repelling that thing. things that you desire. and you will en- counter failure. They are seeds.’ As a result your subconscious mind will try its best to not attract more money into your life. You want to use the law of attraction wisely in Our thoughts are fer- order to attract all those tile. always wanted to be a natural healer. Dr. I hate money. act against attraction be- cause your subconscious mind cannot reason.
And when we have a choice. We always choose. published his book successfully and for the first time made some money on top of his salary as a hospital surgeon. Dr. C. After publishing a few more books. we feel empowered. not in a hospital surgeon. He believed in the power of his subconscious mind. nor did he give up. the cause of natural healing. He also found that his patients were For the first time he responsive to his ideas as he made some money uttered them in a manner to on top of his salary as propose an alternative. Choosing is something intrinsically human. as they were con- vinced that only drug-based medicine was effective and scientifically sound. He persevered. He spent much more time now with writing more books and all his books became worldwide successes and were translated into many languages. He constantly imprinted on his inner mind his conviction that he is to succeed be- cause he fights for the right cause. 55 . C. LATENT THOUGHTS MANIFEST But he did not react counter to the spurious comments of other doctors. a manner to make a dogma of his conviction. Dr. he empowered the patient to choose. could retire from his hospital job and open his private practice as a natural healer. which learns from nature instead of trying to be smarter than nature. By so do- ing. Even- tually he published his first book and his colleagues ar- gued it would surely not find readers. But despite their infighting.
and many people inside the medical establishment now have openly declared their heart-felt association with my cause. The question is only how long it will take. then you can actually only pity them. And you also know that later on. you can’t be angry in that moment. he simply answered: —I knew that I was fighting for the right cause. In other words. because you are using a form of knowledge they refuse to learn. a few years down the road. medical science has become wiser. This is so because an idea whose time has come cannot be unthought. he very calmly replied—quoted from mem- ory: When you know inside of you that you are right and others are wrong. he was interviewed by a news- paper asking what he considered to be the secret of his success. As a result. THE BETTER LIFE After some more years. Upon the question if he did not suffer from feelings of retaliation against his aggressive colleagues who tried to discredit him. the cause that empowers the patient and at the same time the right cause because nature cannot be wrong. but probably my inner passion about it all was so strong that it happened faster. more effec- 56 . truth will always gain the over- hand over ignorance. so fast actually that today I can enjoy the fame and the rewards. It could have taken more than one life. they will change their mind because they have learnt something new.
while cherished by some religions or religious movements. emotions that are upside-down so to speak. outgoing and passionate emotions. when success does not come along their way. jealousy. I felt it from the start that this project will be a failure once a again!’ Self-righteousness. it is important that these thoughts are nourished by positive. LATENT THOUGHTS MANIFEST tive and more human. They do not foster the belief that they are more deserving of success 57 . All the great people were and are basically humble. as busy as they may be for succeeding on a daily basis. de- pression or even hatred. on the emotional level. they tend to argue: ‘I knew it in advance. Then. This is true especially when these thoughts are re- curring and nourished by a constant will and intention to bring about a personal success while at the same time serv- ing the world. Also. C. and here it’s very important to realize that what we see in the lives of people who are not on the road of success is that they also nourish their recur- rent thoughts (of failure) with emotions. but these emo- tions are negative and destructive. and their want. and basically non-judgmental. are focusing on their lack. and it produces lesser side effects than before. What can we learn from Dr. is not actually an emotion that is conducive to success. we see that people who moil and toil.’s success story? It shows us that latent thoughts really do manifest in the material world. thereby bringing about more lack and more want. They are emotions that are impregnated by feelings of inadequacy. In many cases.
With the subject of latent thoughts we enter the much written about notions of self-esteem. you will try to compensate for those feelings of insecurity or inadequacy by pretending in relationships to be ‘on top of everything. self-worth. Hence.’ and to ‘know better’ than most other people. you could avoid the trap of compensation by building aware- ness of your feelings of insecurity (inadequacy) and in- stead of pretending to be ‘on top. a self-righteous person may be perceived by others are a ‘pretender’ or a person who tries to dominate others by a ‘superior’ attitude. To stay with our example. In fact. if their intuition tells them differently. people do not perceive your true value by what you verbally affirm. if you were that person. and self- confidence. Why are the latent thoughts of a self-confident person more positive than those of a person who is inse- cure? This has to do with the psychological insight into the fact of compensation. Hence when you feel insecure or inadequate. This pre- vents the building of deep trust in relationships with that person. 58 . Our psyche. or others whom they know have succeeded in their lives. always seeks balance and tries to compen- sate for any imbalance in our mind. more precisely our sub- conscious mind.’ reveal this fact to others in a simple and humble manner: others will then recognize you good intention and become supportive. and that can be a handicap if support and coopera- tion are needed for succeeding—which is more often than not the case in life. THE BETTER LIFE than others around them.’ to be ‘in control.
That some religions or re- is basically true but how to ligious movements. Thus the crucial question is not primarily about chang- ing your thoughts but how you feel about yourself! What do you think: is it easy to change the way you feel about yourself? No. if you foster negative emotions. to success. she went to the company psychologist. Linda admitted that she often felt not up to the task. Linda B. and once you achieve progress here—then apply this positive thinking also for the relationship with yourself! Let me give an example. LATENT THOUGHTS MANIFEST In many selfhelp books. Self-righteousness. being afraid to one day being blamed for un- 59 . is change your thoughts from not actually an emo- negative to positive if your tion that is conducive overall feelings about your. complaining of strong and recurring migraines every time she was at work. was known in her workplace as a person who had a tendency to fault-find all her colleagues for not being up to the task. As they were talking. it is inevitable that these destructive emotions negatively affect your way of thinking and feeling about yourself. self are negative? In other words. Strangely. What about thinking about others? Is it eas- ier to change that? Yes. One day. it’s written that you need to change your thoughts in or- while cherished by der to change your life. it is easier to start think- ing about others in more positive terms.
While before that personal change. The psychologist was astonished as she knew from others in the team that it was Linda B. adequacy. She ing your thoughts but found after a while that each how you feel about of them had not only their yourself! personal weaknesses but also very specific strengths and positive qualities. Linda realized what a burden she had on her shoulders. some of which Linda herself did not possess herself. she had felt predominantly negative emotions about herself. THE BETTER LIFE derperformance. coupled with a strong intention to bring about more of those uplifting feel- 60 . Thus the crucial the migraines vanished and question is not pri- Linda began to more closely marily about chang- observe her colleagues. her new positive focus upon herself triggered emotions of security. while on the other hand not able to feel secure about her own performance. and self-confidence. she made the further discovery that she began to focus herself more on her positive qualities and strengths rather than her weaknesses. Once Linda was able to see the positive and unique in each and every of her male and female col- leagues. feeling responsible for all the members of the crew. From the day of this insight. strength. who was the most outspoken for the underperformance of others around her. This change in focus in turn changed the emotions that were accompanying her thoughts. Confronted with the truth of how she came over to others.
A. She was promoted to a higher responsibil- ity and a better salary. Always behold that the cause of life is within you. Please provide yourself the answer. Q & A Session Q. that outside reality and the people there. Have you experienced the creativity of your latent thoughts in positive or rather in negative ways—if so. re- member at least one incident. that they are material vibrations and have a direct impact on our world. What are your latent thoughts? In which way are they creative? A. all this are effects. They are actually shaping our entire life experience. and the circumstances you encounter. as the thoughts changed. The inner changes she was able to bring about were soon triggering changes in her material life and circumstances. As the feelings changed. Thus they are the causes in your life and what you see around you. LATENT THOUGHTS MANIFEST ings. the thoughts changed. and was eventually assigned to be- ing team leader. She had to do that because what she was giving out mentally. You have learnt in the first chapter that our thoughts are creative. Linda’s personal self-talk changed from negative to positive. Linda eventually realized that his inner speech was highly destructive. she was inevitably bound to get back. as you as a human being are a co-creator of the uni- verse! This is the intrinsic power you have—use it wisely! Q. 61 .
You will remember that he was pretty much an or- dinary doctor. is that he was believing in himself and in the cause he defended. but I think he is not. or was he just lucky? Did he have better social connections than other medical doc- tors? What was the reason of his success? A. C. and he did it because he’s a passionate person. he was an immigrant in the coun- try where he succeeded. He had come to that country after he got his doctor degree in India. All recurring thoughts manifest in our lives. The most im- portant to remember about Dr. Q. What is needed so that your recurring latent thoughts manifest in the material world? A. the question is 62 . What can we learn from Dr. He is a smart man.’s success story? Was he an especially willful and obstinate person? Was he so much smarter than all the others. He’s a man Napoleon Hill would probably have included about in his book had he lived closer to our current time. somebody you can rely upon. some- body who is firm and stout. C. So we cannot say that he was a privileged person. as you are smart in your own way but he was not a person with a track record. He did it for the cause he defends. This was a trap question. you remember the other part of the story: he did succeed very well and made a lot of money on top of it. THE BETTER LIFE Q. And yet. and enduring. but he did not strictly do what he did for the money. In addition. the cause of alternative medicine. I did not relate in the story if he was a gen- ius or not. are you aware of it? Your latent thoughts manifest anyway as they are recurring.
What is the value. LATENT THOUGHTS MANIFEST only how! Thus we are responsible for the way they create reality. of self-righteousness. if any. Is the quality of our thoughts perhaps the result of the emotions that accompany them? Have you observed how bad feelings about yourself trigger negative thoughts and responses to events? A. What is more conducive for success than feeling superior over 63 . and foster destructive thoughts. but for me personally. too. I have well observed that when I am con- stantly nagging myself. for it’s not only our reality we create. Q. for they will con- tribute to the negative reality not only of ourselves. I tend to have negative views about the world and other people. as this reality also affects other people! That means we are actually not free to just do what we want. Q. I will not provide an answer here for the question could be answered in both ways. I do not want to make a generalization here. (Of course. or by condi- tioning—what do you think? A. How do emotions impact upon our thoughts? Are we positive or negative thinkers by nature. you may think differently about it). when I am discontent with myself. but also of other people! Q. but I tend to believe my- self that we are naturally positive thinkers and that we turn negative through early abuse.
I would think we should call it ‘feeling adequate. When you feel that you are okay and that others are okay. and it has brought much destruction in the world and much hu- man suffering. But self-righteousness is a different matter altogether. to engage in right action. and you are believing in yourself. It is the conscious intent to do what is right. not you. this is called in a slogan ‘I am okay. What are the values of self-esteem. I think they can be summarized in what I already mentioned: feeling adequate. thus you have self- confidence. and of civilization! Q. it means I am feeling superior over you because I believe that only I have the power and the ability to be righteous. when you feel you are ade- quate.’ In transactional analysis. of culture. This is a negative quality. and self-confidence? A. I think I should elucidate this point. 64 . And what a destroyer was this man. Adolf Hitler was self-righteous. As the Bi- ble talks often times about righteousness. what a destroyer of people. do not confused righteousness and self-righteousness. he believed he had the only truth and that all other people were mis- guided and had to be ‘instructed’ to know the truth. Righteousness is a good quality. in the right way and for the right people. THE BETTER LIFE others? How would you name this quality in one simple word? A. to do things at the right time. you are okay. you naturally have high self-esteem and self-worth.’ What you agree with that? Behold. self-worth.
We all know that we silently perceive the qualities of a person intuitively. What is the problem with verbally describing your qualities to others? Is it needed at all? A. Similarly to what I just pointed out under the previ- ous question. when you are relaxed about it. it should be done with caution. When you are honest 65 . except perhaps in a job interview but even there. that person is perceived as pur- suing a course of self-glorification. LATENT THOUGHTS MANIFEST Q. Don’t bother about it. I believe that we better do not point out our qualities to others. when somebody is perceived to be self-centered. Q. Have you observed when at a party somebody talks for long periods of time and lets the others listen? What do you think other party members will think about that per- son? Will they not think that he or she wants to be in the center of attention. and more important things to say than everybody else? And will they think that the person has a high value? I be- lieve it’s quite the contrary. believes that he or she has more to say. you will see that nothing is needed for self-promotion. How do the people around you essentially perceive your value as a person? Is it that you need to affirm your- self by promoting yourself? A. that person will be considered as lower in value as a person who is more balanced and gives oth- ers an equal opportunity for voicing themselves. and the more the person herself puts the stress upon self-expression. Let others find out by themselves what value you have as a person.
was suffering from? A. THE BETTER LIFE and you respect others. Please give yourself the answer. How did she eventually get it right. Q. transforming her life after a serious talk with the company psychologist? A. Q. How would you describe the behavior and relation- ship pattern Linda B. 66 . Please provide yourself the answer. you will be respected and people will find out your value.
—MARCUS AURELIUS You should never sit in front of a blank piece of paper and have no idea what to write. and you need to be in a relaxed state for that to happen. . Your book should write itself. It manifests through a flow of writing coming out from your hand without a ‘hard’ participation of your thinking process. and how to write it. Chapter Three The Creative Process Give yourself time to learn something new and good. and cease to be whirled around. How is this going to happen? It works through involv- ing your subconscious mind in the creative process. Conscious thoughts and subconscious content ac- tually mix in this process.
you need to turn inward and direct your subconscious mind to collaborate with your conscious mind. I sense it right away when I am reading a book if or not it was created from an inner flow or if it was puz- zled together bit by bit and chunk by chunk from short in- tervals of conscious and ‘hard’ thought. Here is a sample prayer: My subconscious mind is always alert and it always participates in my creations. Some people say that when we are not fully conscious. You do this through a positive affirmation that imprints on your inner mind what you are expecting it to do. 68 . we are more on the side of illusion or even delusion. I am creative and ever more creative through the involvement of my subconscious mind in the creative process. I trust the never-ending creative flow of my subconscious mind and I give thanks for the wonderful creation it produces now and ever more again. so as to harmonize your mind and balance your brain hemispheres. Before you sit down to write. They seem to believe that all creation had to be ‘hard work. It can also be useful to play piano for a moment. THE BETTER LIFE But the most important is that before you are even go- ing to sit down to write the first sentence of your book. it’s a good idea to have a glass of wine when recollecting your ideas.’ Well. This involvement is ongo- ing and it is at a peak level exactly in the moment I sit in front of a blank paper. Some people even say that creating effortlessly was a form of laziness.
In practice you may take out paragraphs. and you take up your ance your brain sketch and give structure to hemispheres. or book chapter. To write your first sketch in a happy state of mind with a glass of wine at your side doesn’t mean you are spilling ideas prematurely. you do the production also be useful to play part of that piece of writing. which is also called ‘flow of consciousness writing style. In reality the process works in the fol- lowing way. idea to have a glass of ject. After a few days when wine when recollect- you feel inspired to con- ing your ideas. even if it’s a scientific textbook. You just let it flow. you do not control or censor your content by implying your critical rational mind. while in the second case it rings in your mind as something stale. you stop and to write. It can tinue. Then you so as to harmonize do it with a fresh morning your mind and bal- mind. it’s a good take a retreat from your pro. the book reads like a novel. restructure the whole thing and pub- 69 . this means that you work with this all over the place sketch and you let your rational critical mind take over. piano for a moment. add things on. it. Then when you feel you have produced enough for Before you sit down the moment. dry and hard to assimilate. THE CREATIVE PROCESS In the first case. You write your text in a semi-conscious flow.’ in this state of mind. leave things out.
thereby combining psychic content and new thought content. THE BETTER LIFE lish the new composition in the form of an essay. they suffer enough doing that)! If people see relaxation or meditation as a form of laziness. article or chapter in your book. and also sometimes current events happening on the world stage. then they have a reason for doing so. Sigmund Freud. and it looks rather different compared to the original ramble. But note that the initial jotting down of your sketch is a deliberate form of relaxation. there are several causative factors be- hind the magic of spontaneous creation. What happens in these assemblages of ideas that ‘hard’ thinkers may find delusional is that they rearrange psychic content in ever new creative ways. in relationships. They may for that matter even go as far as denying the existence of the unconscious thereby ignoring one of the greatest discoveries of humanity. What you then do in the process of creation is to work out an amalgam where the content of your subconscious 70 . let them talk and keep smiling. The main reason why people have such a mind- set is that they never found out about the essence of crea- tion. Then that piece of writing has a spe- cific focus. (Let them create their ‘hard-working’ books. and in creation. In other words. If your friends say that creating effortlessly is a form of laziness. made at the beginning of the 20th century by Dr. Then they see it that way because they want to see it that way. and the role our subconscious mind plays in life.
It was good for a certain time. a creative challenge. that you see that you a facing fierce competition in the 71 . That’s also why in the final production state it’s your inner adult who takes over as the inner child is not able to produce a final structured piece of literary composition. That’s a situation where your common way of thinking and acting is not appropriate because it was leading you exactly into the situation you are in now. You may not be a creator but a simple office worker. It may be that some kind of innovation is needed in your company. When does it not? When you are facing an impasse. After these general terms. a driver. let me explain how to use your subconscious mind in daily life. but not always. but then suddenly you are facing a dead end. a nurse. an entrepreneur or a banker. or in the world. a policeman. it has brought you success to a certain extent. I believe that the creative process is one of reassem- bling undercurrent ideas and subconscious content in ever more different ways. How can you make good use of all the riches contained in your subconscious mind for facing your daily challenges? How can you find creative solutions to those challenges? Do you believe that hard work will bring your more success? Sometimes it does. a housewife. THE CREATIVE PROCESS mind merges with new thought content and with events that are happening all around you. This is also a form of play because it’s mainly your inner child who is behind this semi-conscious process.
Or you simply got a new idea and you are wondering if that fits in your present structure or if you need to build a new structure for mar- keting this idea in a creative manner. or the beginning of another. such as the end of a relationship. promotion or other blessings. And it always brings a surplus. in fact it loves challenges for every challenge is an opportunity for growth. I am facing this situation now appropriately because of the inner guidance I am receiving. It is useful to have a look how creators of genius han- dle their creativity. money. Creative Genius: Four-Quadrant Creativity in the Lives and Works of Leonardo da Vinci. and that it brings riches for all people involved. You may address your inner advisor by imprinting the following command upon your subconscious mind: I know that the creative power in me is always active. or both at the same time. Albert Ein- stein. and by trusting this guidance. glorious and blessed. My inner guide leads me and I follow. and I know that the destination is wonderful. and I refer here to a more specialized book of mine if you are interested in this subject: —Peter Fritz Walter. while some time ago all was apparently working fine. THE BETTER LIFE market. Svjatoslav Richter and Keith Jarrett (2014) 72 . Or it may be a personal situation that needs a creative change. This creative power is not afraid of any challenge. in the form of energy. Wilhelm Reich.
there is chaos. whereas the creator acts in the present. In the creative phase. The craftsman acts in alignment with the past. Crafting needs ef- fort. based upon alternative values. consistency is needed to carry the work through to its final achievement. the prime creative idea. discarded. however. it sets in after the basic creation. I found Richter was an artist and craftsman in one person. based upon conservative values. thereby breaking the rule. not order. disorder. during the production phase. reaffirmed if needed. fascinated about the Russian-German pianist Svjatoslav Richter. They anticipate creation through intuition. I got a hint of this as a student when. I went to our local music store to get what I could of his records. When I listened to Richter. If effort there is. THE CREATIVE PROCESS I will here outline only the general observations on the nature of creative genius as I have outlined them in the In- troduction of that book. music became for me so plastic and dramatic that I thought there must be a relativity far be- 73 . creating is effortless. and the constants of life are reshuffled. Then only. retested. not con- sistency. Creators anticipate their creation through insights from the unified field. he was aligned with conservative values and alternative values at the same time. That is what renders the creator distinct from the craftsman. He was the only exception to the rule I knew at the time.
especially in my younger years. a relativity that is some- thing like a law of relationships! It was the coherence in his interpretations that triggered the idea in me. hollow and out- landish with another pianist? Richter’s craftsmanship. All creation sets novelty in place. THE BETTER LIFE yond the one Einstein discovered. I had to admit that Einstein was the greater genius. became for me a metaphor for the power of art. a pattern of relation- ships—the invisible threads of potentiality woven into a different arrangement. I over again wondered how the same music by the same composer could sound so different. initially. plain and genuine with Richter. and I would cry and weep when listening to certain favorite compositions of mine that he played with outstanding brilliance and 74 . The surprise is that the pattern. it always feels great and true. the immense authenticity of his musical diction and pianistic perfection. I was speechless most of the time when listening to Richter. This is the very secret of genius. revolting—yet simple in its high complexity. In my younger years. My attraction to Einstein was of a more academic nature. though novel. so my attraction to Richter felt natural. I felt more at home in the art universe than in the science world. And yet. and fragmented. looks familiar and one feels ‘at home’ in every new and great work of human genius. for he was artist and scientist.
belong to the ‘known. totally connected. When my thoughts can impreg- nate the memory surface of water. There are dancing with the universe. It is the matrix that explains the unlimited genius and creative force of the human mind! That in turn means that the quantum field as the creational matrix is our true belonging. We are vibrat- ing crystals! What is Creativity? Human creativeness is a latent potentiality. or Scriabin’s op. patterns of complex rela- tionships aligning energy and information. they localize and become entangled with the ob- server. We are not ma- chines. as Krishnamurti would say. it is no more novelty. I believe that quantum physics teaches us that art can- not be conventional. Means … . while crea- tivity is to be understood as the practical realization of this 75 . and are ‘all over the place’—nonlocal. When particles are unob- served. that it cannot. behind all genius. Quantum physics thus is the secret behind all creation. depending on my intentionality. but quantum machines. Prokofiev’s Second Sonata.’ When novelty is rendered con- ventional. Under the eyes of the ob- server. they are in a state of innocence. 28 Fantasy. THE CREATIVE PROCESS grandeur—such as Rachmaninov’s 2nd Piano Concerto. behind all novelty. thereby losing their joy of nonlocality. their observer! Why? Because of his attention. They become enamored with the one and only one. they are creative! And by extension they can be destructive.
It is the space in between thoughts which has the potential of creating novelty. and to repeat it. This is some of the things we already learn in school. As long as creativity is not realized. De Bono clarified from the start that his concept of seri- ous creativity does not pertain to the creativity of the artist. in the sense that genuine creativeness simply is a natural add-on 76 . is that all humans are creative. and crystallizes in par- ticular talent. It is when thought is not that we are truly creative. particular genius. Second. which is always specific. I do not deny its effectiveness. In one word. We all know that artists are creative. Contrary to Edward de Bono’s idea of serious creativity. it can only endlessly repeat and reshuffle its content. this is so because thought is always in the past. and outside of space-time. What we however did not learn. it cannot create novelty. THE BETTER LIFE potentiality. When it is being realized. or most of us. not of thought. it is not thought that is creative. creativity is a faculty of intuition. at all. which includes artistic creativity. it could be termed ‘business creativity. We all are potentially creative as humans. but most of us live with a dormant creativeness rather than an awake creativity.’ That is why it is deliberate and based upon effort. but here I am talking about general creativity. first of all.’ I believe that there is no effort in creativity. it makes its way into space-time. it is poten- tiality. and can be creative. but is valid for the corporate world. As Krishnamurti has amply explained. It is circular. the ‘deliberate effort of the mind to think differ- ent.
let’s say in finding new ways of doing. that this list is only the peak of the iceberg. Creativity is as it were the muscle of genuine creativeness. It’s like a muscle you never use. I would like to mention here Pablo Picasso. and then one day. the practical day-to-day application of creativeness. we are still creative humans. Why are not all adults creative? There are precise factors that make that human creativ- ity. have displayed. and five artists. This channel their creativeness is some of the things into serious or not so serious we already learn in creativity. Nikola Tesla. who were able to ists are creative. Dale Carnegie. You see that with children. Albert Einstein. Edward de Bono. Herbert von Karajan. When we are not creative in the practical sense. All chil- dren are creative. and Keith Jarrett. These ten great men. 77 . Charles Chaplin. drafting new concepts or inventing new things. the muscle atrophies and becomes dysfunctional. or we can say that creativity is the lens through which human creativeness sees its day and becomes visible in daily life. THE CREATIVE PROCESS to the human nature. is thwarted. two think tanks and corporate coaches. Svjatoslav Richter. Let me give some exam- ples of genuinely creative We all know that art- people. Fritjof Capra. Let me tell you school. but our lacking creativity makes that our creativeness becomes stagnant. three physicists. it gets weaker and weaker.
’ With Charlie Chaplin we see a man who already well-known as an actor. Albert Einstein. and dared into the un- known. When we look at scientific creativity. broke with tradition and his former role image. I see that Picasso created modern art forms virtually from scratch that were nonexistent before.’ ‘childish immaturity’ or ‘deliberate ridicule. today recognized as a uni- versal genius. high creativity. we see two men standing out. their concepts. THE BETTER LIFE and display. controversial inventor. and world- famous. brilliant physicist. rejected his art as ‘iconoclast vandalism. He ventured into realms of visual art that were so daring that many people. but finally became victo- rious after many trials. virtually from rags and tatters found in his studio. This insight led me to distinguish four basic realms of creativity: ‣ Artistic Creativity ‣ Scientific Creativity ‣ Conceptual or Business Creativity ‣ Technical Creativity Let me give some examples of each. and in the technical sphere. to create the fig- ure of the street vamp and charming clown. we see that creativity is not limited to art or music. their musical performances. their patents. until Picasso was in old age. their art. mathematician and musi- cian (violinist). and Nikola Tesla. 78 . He was ridiculed at first. but displays its power as well in the corporate world. When I look at ar- tistic creativity. in business. When studying their life sto- ries.
but taken for granted. who have changed our corporate world with their original and daring concepts. This is even more so the case with Edward de Bono. his successes have proven it.’ the ‘6 Hats’ brainstorming method. Dale Carnegie became the first internationally known life coach and corporate trainer and yet when he started out. the ‘six action shoes’.’ That it works. his overall creativity for concept-design cannot be overlooked for it stands out as an example for how to go beyond mere marketing and in- stead create lasting business success with ‘deliberate con- cept design. conflicts solution. ‘tactical’ success training. THE CREATIVE PROCESS and creator of more than 400 patents on inventions. Edward de Bono or else Sergio Zyman. He created ma- jor concepts for human resource training that today are no more reflected about. a think tank who has revolutionized the business world with his brilliant concepts and insights. While he’s a controversial figure. He is credited as the proprietor of ‘lateral thinking. When we look at conceptual or business creativity. 79 . he was unable to hold a speech in front of small audi- ence. With Sergio Zyman we have a business man and corporate leader who is a bit more controversial in that he stands out not only through his ruthlessness but also his concept-inventiveness when leading the Coca Cola Company to worldwide success. and learnt it all from the bottom up. etc. we could look at men like Dale Carnegie. so far in human history the greatest and most versatile life coach and cor- porate trainer.
architect. interior designer. We all possess it. car maker. but only men and women of genius use it to its fullest. perfume distiller or shoe maker. When Charlie Chaplin started his fabulous career as a film comic. Genius and Inner Knowledge We have seen above that integrated knowledge is quite something different than the ordinary knowledge tradi- tional science used to consider. Charlie. and much of it was improvised in the beginning. the figure of the street vamp. and filmmaking. It’s not only the creativity and solution thinking of an engineer. he used the simplest means. thereby benefitting from universal and perhaps superhu- man knowledge sources. Chaplin was not inter- ested in the ordinary roles that were offered to him by producers. THE BETTER LIFE Technical creativity is very important as well. Deep down he knew that he owned more power and creativity than all those mediocre film producers did. but also the daring creations of a couturier. Integrated knowledge al- ways existed because it is inner knowledge. Let me exemplify this with the art of learning the piano. Yet it’s an integral part of all cultures’ aesthetic achievements and craftsmanship. This kind of creativity comes over as so spontaneous and natural that most people never even think about it. and often visible in our media or fashion magazines. clown and charming guy was created from rags and utensils that Chaplin spon- 80 .
New York: Plume. —Edward de Bono: Tactics: The Art and Science of Success. I studied biographies and autobiographies. Charlie would never have been born. everything and everyone seemed to be against him. 1993. —Charles Chaplin. Charlie was the ingenious Pygma- lion of Charles. Edward de Bono. If Charles had not followed his intuition and not played out his cards. has written an extraordinary book entitled Tactics: The Art and Science of Success. which is based on the thorough human re- source studies of Piers Dudgeon and Valerie Jennings. first published in 1985 This book. the leading think tank. We all have a tendency to look at famous and success- ful people only from the moment they made it. Among the ones that fascinated me most was Charles Chaplin’s autobiography. First published in 1964 I found he was unique because of his trusting his crea- tive instinct. his own star—although at the decisive point in his life. The study is 81 . 1992. when he began carrying out his first vision of Charlie. Lon- don: HarperCollins. overlook- ing the many years of sacrifice and failure they have lived through before they were famous. All through my younger years. pre- sents a precious pandora box full of tactical advice about how to become successful and gain fame. THE CREATIVE PROCESS taneously fit for costumes. My Autobiography.
Clive Sinclair. who was a well-known art teacher. France. leaving behind a loving mother and a highly intelligent father. when both were very poor. Some experts believe they were better than Braque’s originals. Jackie Stewart and Virginia Wade. While his contemporaries. and it’s notorious that his father gave up teaching him anything. tried to share with him their ideas about cubism. THE BETTER LIFE based on fifty interviews with men and women who have been outstandingly successful. among them David Bailey. Picasso made a few canvasses in Braque’s style. With his usual lucidity Edward de Bono analyzes their different paths to success. Hans Eysenck. Picasso in turn did not need to take anything from others. it led to the break of the friendship because Braque could not live with the idea that his art was for Picasso nothing but child play. His life was not easy once he left his home in Malaga. I do not know one who enjoyed a similar independence and inven- tiveness. just for the fun of it all. 82 . Among all artists. only a few years later. like Braque.’ The artist where I have seen inner knowledge as if un- der a magnifier is Pablo Picasso. Picasso went to leave Spain and settled in Paris. At age fourteen. he could paint like the classical masters. It is also documented that when Braque and Picasso shared an apartment in Paris. Malcolm Forbes. Anyway. revealing some striking truths such as ‘Building your strengths brings you more success than compensating for your weaknesses’ or ‘People care is of huge importance in achieving success.
Among sible comparison with ex- all artists. I believe that there is a similarly gigantic originality with Svjatoslav Richter. with have seen inner Jacqueline at his side. Guernica is a cathar- tic experience. Picasso was using joyed a similar inde- his inner knowledge once pendence and inven- again to a point to use it as tiveness. an exclusive inspiration for his art. that even know one who en- some Picasso lovers felt es- tranged. I do not know any other art work that associates the senseless cruelty of war or civil war in such a sublimated abstract form. the monumental painting which assumed a unique expressiveness under Picasso’s hands. and was so for Picasso himself. I do not isting models. THE CREATIVE PROCESS You see in Picasso’s art career that his fierce independ- ence even became stronger as he grew older. without any pos- blo Picasso. From about the time Picasso lived in the Cha- The artist where I teau de Vauvenargues. 83 . You can contemplate Guernica and be deeply moved. unveiling the misery of misguided human- ity without itself containing the violence a realistic paint- ing or photography would depict. In this sense. without being sickened. his knowledge as if un- art became so unique and der a magnifier is Pa- personal. To look only at Guernica.
That doesn’t imply however that it always is. later in life. admitted in his Note- books about Karajan that. Glenn Gould and Svjatoslav Richter. Gould in Bach and Richter in Rachmaninov. while today most art critics and even the lay public have accepted the idea that musical performance can be genuinely creative. Back in my childhood.’ and so on. critics and a growing part of the public began to voice things like ‘recomposi- tion. this point has been clarified. ‘his Mahler is great. I remember that back in the 1960s this dis- cussion was still vivid. It was Karajan’s Mah- ler. and even a new generation of them.’ ‘recreation. many doubted that mu- sical performance involves real creativity. most critics. Richter who did not particularly like Karajan.’ ‘remodeling the original composition.’ Richter rec- reated the Rachmaninov image to a point of no-return. he did the same with Schubert. a conductor and two pianists. say that Karajan was best in Mahler. Still now. but it potentially can be. In the performances of these three artists. THE BETTER LIFE While still some decades ago. I saw this discussion engaged in Germany regarding Herbert von Karajan. It is curious to see today that these positions have not changed over time. As he relates in Richter the Enigma (1998): 84 . Glenn Gould’s Bach and Richter’s Rachmaninov that triggered the peak of this discussion about musical aesthet- ics and right-or-wrong interpretation of a musical compo- sition.’ ‘co-creating the original.
Glenn Gould speaks in an interview about it. I knew I wanted to play Schubert. Richter The Enigma / L’Insoumis / Der Unbeugsame. with Beethoven’s. it was like a veil was lifted before his eyes and he suddenly understood that all repetitions were ‘organic elements’ in the musical piece and that despite the fact that Richter seemed to play the sonata slower than all pianists he had heard playing it be- fore. both in form and in expression. NVC Arts 1998 (DVD) I think this is a particularly striking example of how a great artist uses his inner knowledge or pure intuition to venture into avenues unknown to millions of people over generations and generations! The service that Richter has rendered Schubert is not to express in words. This is particularly true for his long B-flat Ma- jor Sonata. saying he struggled with the ‘repetitive structures’ of the sonata and became restless and squirmy when he had to sit through it. they said. back in the 1950s. 85 . THE CREATIVE PROCESS Everybody asked me why I wanted to play Schubert? It’s Schumann you have to play. so precious and unprecedented it is. overshadowed at his lifetime by Beethoven. as he was never understood. however differently! —Bruno Monsaingeon. but I did not listen. all seemed to be right in place. Richter showed the world that Schubert’s sonatas stand on equal foot. not Schubert. and that he had been captivated from the first to the last note. And that when he saw Richter playing it in Moscow Conservatory.
he was never once seen to play from a score. in fact. Already the Russian pianist Heinrich Neuhaus. instead of reminding of Bach. most pianists. London: Barrie & Jenkins. to this day. wrote in his book The Art of Piano Playing that a pianist can play Bach only if he is able to let ‘every single voice’ sing. Gifted just as Rich- ter with a photographic memory. was a musical genius himself. Gould has left us a Bach that sings. Then you listen to the Well-Tempered Clavier or the French Suites in our days. the teacher of Svjatoslav Richter and Emil Gilels. talking with so much true reverence about Richter. with Murray Perahia and Andrei Gavri- lov. When the transition came from playing Bach on a cembalo to playing him on a modern concert grand. Bach. contains more tenderness than Telemann and Handel. piano. using so-called ‘fin- ger technique’ to render a Bach that strangely reminds of Czerny and Hanon. only that pianists have discovered it rather late. I found his music ‘hard and violent. first published in 1958 But as I said earlier. —Heinrich Neuhaus. 1973. and you realize that the world has changed. THE BETTER LIFE Gould. I still remember that when I heard Bach on the radio in my childhood. have a tendency to play Bach without pedal. The Art of Piano Playing. while even Richter later in life doubted his fantastic memory when playing in public.’ and thought it was bare of emotion and of tender feelings. it is well a difference to do some- thing about musical performance because it is recognized 86 .
in the past. but because there is an extraordinary systemic 87 . Four-Quadrant Genius Geniuses. or to do it because of a strong inner voice that says ‘Do it’! So let us explore now how this is possible at all. my point is that genius is genius not because any quadrant of their IQ is especially highly developed. THE CREATIVE PROCESS by an authority. but despite having done so. This model is of course a simplifica- tion. He said that he arrived at none of his discoveries ‘through rational thinking. it has not been understood until re- cently that human intelligence is not uniform in the sense that not every genius is a genius in all four quadrants. nor in just one of them. In addition. and tells us to do things in the old ways? I believe that quantum physics and especially the prin- ciples of uncertainty and nonlocality provide the answers that are not answered since the times of Leonardo da Vinci. Einstein’s genius wasn’t just 1st quadrant: deductive- logical-analytical. the 2nd quadrant: holistic-intuitive-integrative intelligence. What is characteristic about them is that they know better than their teachers and generally suffer from the restrictions and limitations inherent in any school system. how we can have sure inner knowledge about things to come or things we should realize.’ It is that his right- brain intelligence was especially strong. are geniuses not be- cause they attended schools and universities. while the whole world sees matters differently. Generally speaking. and today.
and even more so. In fact. another would have done so. Only when A to Z is finalized. the 1st and the 2nd quadrant IQ were adding-on to one another with the result of an extraordinary lucidity that is able to check back any little progress in analysis with an equal progress in syn- thesis. in Leonardo’s case. but you must get through until Z. was that IQ is proportionally higher in case of a coherence between the brain hemispheres. in Einstein’s case. THE BETTER LIFE reinforcement of the general IQ through the synergy between different modes of intelligence. we have many examples in the lives of highly gifted people. This produced the long-overdue insight that genius is not. This implies that conscious and subconscious mind work in sync. When research on brain hemispheres was developed. the first insight. A. simply because it was the lacking half. I am convinced that if Roberto Assagioli had not invented the latter. as formerly believed. for example. used to have little naps throughout the day. but rather an un- usual equilibrium of the left and right brain hemispheres that leads to what could be called an integrative thought process. For example. revolutionary at the time. A wise man once stated that after psychoanalysis must come psychosynthesis. Einstein. you cannot stay there. short periods when he 88 . you can say you have the basis of a coherent something that you call a language. an extraordinary de- velopment of one of the IQ quadrants. and for this. if tomorrow you invent another alphabet and you write its first letter.
it was said that he had expressed his last will only verbally. In this context. but in others. The answer is that there is no such key. 89 . the than ordinary people do. he intuitively felt he had found the solution to one or the other hairy scientific prob- lem he was working on. it is helpful to study the various tests that were conducted on Einstein’s brain after his death. Fact is that his son. Some people. for no longer than about ten minutes. except that When research on geniuses seem to use their brain hemispheres brains way more effectively was developed. In some books between the brain it’s written he had agreed hemispheres. THE CREATIVE PROCESS fell asleep. I first insight. who had expected to find ‘the key to Einstein’s genius’ were disappointed in their hope to detect the one single key to human genius. let alone the various theories about Ein- case of a coherence stein’s brain. revolu- actually researched this tionary at the time. It was found that his brain did not display abnormalities or hypertrophies of any kind: it was found be a ‘normal brain’ in every respect. matter but found that not was that IQ is pro- even the legal questions are portionally higher in free of doubt. and sometimes. so that it could be cloned. by testamentary will that his brain was given to re- search after his death. after waking up.
she felt she was ‘walking on eggs’ and did not feel she knew what was going on. that later in life. it was believed that psychosis is a fatal disease and cannot be 90 . Françoise Dolto related to me in an interview that at the critical moments in her life when she was developing her famed method for healing psychotic children. then. while not without hassles. thereby raising the complexity of neuronal connections. Whatever may be true in this respect. Salvador Dali is a stunning example as he had taken the decision as a little boy to be a genius. had to give an ex-post permission to the autopsy. but geniuses definitely use more. there is no doubt that high self-confidence. It has to be known that at that time. It is not surprising. for outperforming oneself. THE BETTER LIFE Hans Albert Einstein. and a high level of trust in life is conducive to achieving higher. how much more is still not entirely clarified and subject to further research. he relates that in his notebooks. a fact now corroborated by systems theory. In high achievers we can observe a reinforcing cycle put in place by the very fact of their own belief in being superior! The will to achieve higher sets in place an evolutionary upward spiral that positively affects the development of the brain and the building of preferred pathways. and for delivering outstanding achievements. In fact. he was recognized as an artistic genius. I am con- vinced that all in life is linked through feedback-cycles. which is legally a hairy case by itself. we know from research that most people use only five to eight percept of their creative resources.
When Einstein published his Annus Mirabilis Papers in 1905. she found that every time after a session she had fallen asleep with a psychotic child. stunning example as chotic child. but these new insights still haven’t reached popu- lar science circles.’ She then found out that the child’s psyche actually asked for a non-biased direct communicative link with the therapist. 91 . which ideally comes about telepathically. What happened to Dolto was that she fell asleep in a Salvador Dali is a therapy session with a psy. I had found a particularly strik- ing example for the fact that genius also requires a very high level of trust in inner guidance. he re- so compelling that she later lates that in his note- used to say that psychotic books. Today we know that all this is not true. It was even believed that in every case of psychosis a physical brain damage is the root cause. children ‘get their therapist in trance. his work on the essence of radiation in 1909. THE CREATIVE PROCESS healed. With Françoise Dolto. he had taken the de- derstand at first why this cision as a little boy was so. when the therapist’s reasoning mind is put to rest for a moment. but it seemed to be to be a genius. be it manifest in a child or an adult. and his ground-breaking study on the theory of relativity in 1915. that child had done a major leap forward in healing the disturbance. And to her great astonishment. She didn’t un.
Nobody saw what a revolution had happened in science with the emer- gence of these papers. he most probably did not a moment worry about fame or recognition but simply continued his work. solving problems is not possible through logical deductive thinking. But Einstein him- self. that what he found was really going to be fully verified as a theory. a problem cannot be solved on the same level of thought that created it. we are in the so-called alpha state. In other words. at that time. It was only from 1919. just like Dolto. simply because there was nobody who was able to evaluate them in the first place. but must involve in 92 . all of the inter-hemispheric communication in the brain is conducted across the corpus callosum. because astronomers had confirmed Ein- stein’s prediction of gravitational reflection of starlight by the Sun during a solar eclipse in Brazil that Einstein got the merits he deserved for his discoveries. In fact. We know that in the short intervals before falling asleep and right after waking up. as Einstein used to say. like Dolto. THE BETTER LIFE the scientific world ignored them at first. which is left-brain related. He also could not be sure. and it is in this state that the brain hemispheres are particularly in sync. which is when brain waves are somewhat longer than in the ‘thinking’ state of full awareness. never had doubted that what he discovered had prime value. is especially active. This is why. the structure that connects the brain hemispheres in the mammalian brain. This means that the corpus callosum.
including imagination.’ Another great genius. which is right- brain related. THE CREATIVE PROCESS addition inductive and associative thinking. It is always smart to involve your subconscious mind in anything you are about to do. Please give yourself the answer. the capacity to see hidden connections between obvious ap- pearances. we clearly see that it was these quali- ties of the right brain. Is it a good idea to have some kind of preparation before you start writing? A. You do this by tak- 93 . Q & A Session Q. He used to say that contrary to most other scientists he was extremely stubborn (starrköpfig). Einstein also said that ‘the gift of fantasy’ has meant more to him than effort done for absorbing ‘positive knowledge. facing a prob- lem. Q.’ In Einstein’s case. and. Have you ever suffered from writer’s block? If you are not a writer yourself. he would react to it with ‘dogged endurance. Einstein himself did not talk about his genius in the usual terms. fantasy. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. He was way more spe- cific. and musical talent that made for his astounding discoveries in atomic physics. Interestingly so. what do you personally do for enhancing your creative flow? A. what could you imagine writers do for not experiencing such a blockage of their creative expression? If you are a writer. said that genius is diligence (Genie ist Fleiss).
you will realize that all geniuses were and are joyfully lazy in that particular manner. Q. the the second part. either because of their innate self-knowledge or be- cause they found out later in life. THE BETTER LIFE ing a moment after you sit down for writing and keep si- lent for a minute. They know. do the same when you sit down at the piano and before you touch the keys. It’s the production state and the post-production state. that creativity is not re- lated to conscious thinking but more to intuition. the left hemisphere. which brain hemisphere is most engaged? In the second phase. 94 . Do you think that creating effortlessly is a form of laziness? If you do. Then. like me. This kind of laziness is about the best you can ever experience in your life. what do you think is the prime advan- tage of this kind of laziness? A. If you. the vibrational field in which we are all embedded. which other brain hemisphere is most engaged? A. compose music spontaneously. affirm sincerely that you wish your innate crea- tivity to manifest here and now for realizing an effective and convincing piece of writing. the right hemisphere is predomi- nantly engaged. What are the two phases of the creative process? In the first part. If you do some biographical re- search on high achievers. Q. In the first part. and pas- sive reception of ideas from the ether. focusing inside.
He called this deliberately destructive thinking ‘Se- rious Creativity. 95 . Geniuses are constantly at play. when a large corporation for dental sup- ply asked him for an innovative new toothpaste. with ideas. ‘Hard thinkers. they would turn down the task as ‘impossible. The result was the strawberry toothpaste.’ title of one of his books. Edward de Bono. It is thus not childish to play as an adult. What do ‘hard thinkers’ find delusional in the way creators use their genius? How does play facilitate this process? A. and if it doesn’t bring a result. they question everything. but a good strategy for engag- ing the creative process.’ Through this funny-sounding idea.’ also called left-brain thinkers. with rules and regulations.’ Children are all born geniuses in the sense that their innate knowledge tells them the truth that play is the key to creativity. with assumptions. not with toys of course. THE CREATIVE PROCESS Q. For example. found that creativity is always destructive in the sense that we need to invalidate established ideas in order to find new ideas. like children. they would try to master any task with their reasoning process. he destroyed the previous concept of a minty toothpaste and started the brainstorming process in that manner. be- lieve that only hard work can guarantee for high and valid achievement. he came up with the concept of creating a ‘stinking toothpaste. the well-known think tank. but with concepts.
It is our inner child that is most engaged during the first phase. THE BETTER LIFE Q. Q. while there 96 . I mention only two here for the sake of convenience for we need to stay with a few examples here. Q. What is the basic difference between the creator and the craftsman? Which famous musicians and painters were embodying the exception to that rule in that they were both creators and craftsmen? A. In which way would you agree that every creation always is also destruction? A. every new creative idea is based upon the destruction of the previous idea in the evo- lutionary development of that particular course of ideas. What is the inner entity that is most engaged in this first phase of the creative process? Which inner entity is most engaged during the second phase of the creative process: the so-called production phase? A. and it’s our inner adult that is most engaged in the second phase of the creative process. It is the harmonious collaboration between intuitive mind and reasoning mind or of right brain hemisphere and left brain hemisphere. What is the main characteristic of creative genius? Is it analysis and intellectual reasoning. and in still other terms. As pointed out already. of associa- tive thinking and analytic thinking. or is it intuition? Or is it rather that intellect and intuition are working in sync? A. Q.
What we call God or the creator force is nothing but the universal energy which is basically vibration and which quantum physics has discovered (or rather-rediscovered for all ancient cultures knew about it) as the essential blue- print for all life. This field connects all that is and it is all that is. and behind all gen- ius? In which way the quantum field or unified field comes in here to explain that connection? A. bowls. and statues that. behind all novelty. 97 . it is known to many that Picasso was not only a very original painter but that he also was actively engaging in the craft of pottery. While it may not be obvious to non-musicians why Richter. because of their artisanal nature. Q. They are the pianist Svjatoslav Richter and the painter Pablo Picasso. This force is energy and spirit. both have been considered as being the primus inter pares in their particular field for the 20th cen- tury. and it is the dynamic force that makes that all life is change and transformation. was also a creator. THE CREATIVE PROCESS would be many more of course to mention. Coincidentally. are not exhibited in musea but in special exhibi- tions for the artisanal arts. din- ner plates. and it is an essential information field. and for the universe. creating many highly unique vases. Why can we say that quantum physics is the secret behind all creation. jugs. It is to- day called the unified field. as a performing artist. and that there is noth- ing stagnant in the universe.
Q. and technical creativity. It is a method that enables RD concept teams to find new solutions and create new prod- ucts. Q. This kind of educa- tion. which belittle the human potential and are created in the belief that the human being is basically faulty and needs to be reformed by a moralistic education. What was Edward de Bono’s concept of ‘serious creativity’ all about? A. What is the difference between human creativeness and creativity? A. In fact. it transforms creative children into dull uncreative citizens. All children are creative. This is because of the conditioning influence of our very uncreative school systems around the world. Why are not all adults crea- tive? A. What are the four basic realms of creative genius? Give one example of creative genius for each realm of crea- tivity? A. Q. however. THE BETTER LIFE Q. disturbs the creative potential in children more than it helps the child to ever handle it. Human creativeness is the potential. As I mentioned it already. They are artistic creativity. An 98 . this concept was not cre- ated for artistic creativity but for bringing about innova- tion in the corporate setting. scientific creativity. con- ceptual or business creativity. while creativity is to apply this potential to actually create.
The way he interpreted the German composer Franz Schubert. and exponent of the second kind of creativity is for example Albert Einstein. Why has Picasso been called the greatest visual art- ist of the 20th century? A. an exponent of the third category would be Edward de Bono and an exponent of the last category would be Alexander Graham Bell. A. What does the expression ‘four-quadrant genius’ mean? Do you think that this classification is flawless in that every genius falls exactly into one of these four cate- gories? 99 . Q. Give one example of Svjatoslav Richter’s creative genius as a pianist. for example. THE CREATIVE PROCESS exponent of the first kind of creativity is. Q. How would you point out more in detail the truth that genius is basically inner knowledge? A. Pa- blo Picasso. My personal answer is that he was able to duplicate even the most sophisticated artistic styles such as Braque’s cubism. His Schubert is legendary and has completely transformed and rejuvenated the image of this almost for- gotten composer who was during all his life standing in the shadow of his contemporary. but on top of that he created styles that were abso- lutely new and unheard of. Please give yourself the answer. Ludwig van Beethoven. Q. Q.
Would you agree with the assumption that geniuses think with their full brain. In which way? A. The simple result was that nothing extraordinary could be found about his brain. Please provide the answer yourself. The whole thing was a typically American media bluff. He said that it’s an industrious spirit. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. In the typical scenario with recognized geniuses. He was way more specific. How did Germany’s great poet.’) Q. THE BETTER LIFE A. Q. define human genius? A. Q. Q. their conscious and subconscious minds work in sync? A.’ 100 . which means that in their case. As we have seen this is not or very rarely the case. (‘Genie ist Fleiss. they fall in several categories at the same time.’ and what was the end result of that investigation? A. He said that all his great achievements were due to two qualities: his imagination and his ‘doggedness. Why so much fuss was made about ‘Einstein’s brain. Einstein did not talk about genius in the usual terms.
but it is your opinion about these things as being insulting. —EPICTETUS Certain people hardly ever talk about themselves and their problems. Instead they are voicing something like an agenda. It is easy to conspire. Chapter Four “They are Evil” Remember that it is not he who reviles you or strikes you. still others believe that people can live without governments. some want to save the world from abuse. who insults you.’ This kind of uniting in small groups is dealt with in . some are against taxes. divulging conspiracies as the ultimate truth. others think tomorrow is doomsday. Some want to eradicate evil. It unites people in what I would call ‘rebel thinking’ and what in France is called ‘Fronde spirit.
The world stays the same before and after your observing it. in order to avoid dealing with them. the ultra-rich or whatever. pranksters. not in outward reality. But of course. have no morality. THE BETTER LIFE the I Ching. they are ‘an elite of ruthless bankers and blind politicians.’ judging certain people or groups of people. As long as you see the world through the glasses of an agenda. The I Ching talks about ‘rebels uniting in the wilderness.’ The judgment of the I Ching is that those peo- ple cannot bring about great projects. you make it fit that agenda. So instead of observing yourself. you will refuse on the spot? Are you incorrupti- ble? Are you better than the rest of humanity? Why do you believe that? Is it because you are convinced that you be- have flawlessly in all and every situation? Is it because you 102 . only small projects. and are profiting from widespread ignorance. they bring about injustice and widespread poverty. You rant and rave. An agenda is a comfortable way to look away from your problems.’ they are ‘corrupt. you observe ‘the world out there.’ But what about yourself? Are you morally superior? Are you sure to know everything? Are you always just? Are you free of greed? Are you sure that if tomorrow somebody offers you one million dollars for doing some- thing evil. and you find that your life has a meaning because you are attacking ‘those of evil intent. you make it fit only in your mind. whatever they are. because their vision is limited. bankers.’ They are this and that. governments. This gives you a certain creative freedom.
from your negative hypno- sis. was it a comfort- able feeling. that you will wake up to life. The more morally integer they are. I have nothing to tell you. What will happen when you do that? I do not know As long as you see what will happen for you. I am sure you know the answer! There is something interesting I have observed with people.’ and the more magnanimous 103 .’ pre- cisely because you have done away with your agenda. Now I would like to ask you honestly. I just wanted to make you aware that if you wish. Is that a good or a bad development for you? Think about it. or a queer feeling? Now. In such a liberat- ing moment of insight. you are going to face ‘them. Perhaps you are agenda. you make it afraid that you will wake up fit that agenda. responsible approach to living in this world? You may be afraid to go this way for then you have no more justifier for your own inadequacies. while ‘they. who are evil. and to a positive. ‘THEY ARE EVIL’ are convinced that you are heading toward the light.’ in your view. you can easily do away with illusions or delusions—and face yourself. are heading toward darkness? Have you ever been honest enough toward yourself to ask these questions? And if you ever did. the less they talk about ‘those. the world through but I know something will the glasses of an happen.
Now you see that what endangered you was paradoxi- cally the very fact that these desires were unconscious.’ I have often observed. the inclinations and de- sires that you repressed because you felt you could not handle them and that they would endanger you. while in hindsight and after having suffered theft and robbery that those who are thieves and robbers virtually on a daily basis rant against ‘thieves and robbers!’ Have you ever observed that? When you have observed it. It is a psychic complex. the more often they talk about ‘those who do evil. What then happens is that you see in others what you actually should become aware as being part of yourself. At the same time you will project them upon others who then serve as ‘scapegoats’ for your own re- pressed thought content. the dispositions. When you close your eyes toward your weaknesses. the repressed thought content becomes conscious and you become aware of the feelings. you gained control over them. As that happens. but the con- 104 . to open your eyes and look in the mirror is a liberating process. you repress them from your con- scious mind. It dissolves the projections and does away with the repression. in psychology this is called repression and pro- jection. In that sense. while from the moment you rendered them conscious. This is so because human con- sciousness is self-cleaning and self-renewing. THE BETTER LIFE they are. you may also have pon- dered what may be the psychological reason for such be- havior? Well. The less they are morally integer.
part of a mental construct. you 105 . for you will realize there are no ‘them’ and ‘us. On the one hand. having suffered theft nected with your true inner and robbery that self because you have freed those who are thieves it from an inner split you and robbers virtually were caught in. But both lead to the same end. or ‘conspiracy. Both are essentially the same. you wanted to create a flawless self. and introspection in the West. or ideal self. the other introspection. This inner on a daily basis rant split was one between reality against ‘thieves and and ideology.’ that this antinomy is artificial. while in yourself and less alienated? hindsight and after It helps you to be more con. ‘THEY ARE EVIL’ dition is that you put an act of will first: you need to render conscious all that you have previously repressed.’ How does this process of awareness building help you I have often ob- to be more in alignment with served. How to do that in practice? There are ways to go about it. Hence. One is called meditation. the difference in terminology comes from the fact that meditation was developed in the East. you saw your real you as defaulted in the sense that it contained certain weaknesses but on the other hand. As a further result you will then see that you feel no more need to talk about ‘them’. You thought robbers!’ about yourself in a manner that was schizoid.
What happens when you see the world through the glasses of an agenda? A. it’s another convenient shield against self-thinking and true awareness of reality. Why do you think that many people are voicing something like an agenda? A. the real self and the ideal self. The result of this fragmentation was confusion. But needless to add that they of course are intellectually dead. You will make it fit that agenda. even if you have to distort the facts. and this box became their ‘agenda. Q. They have taken over concepts and ideas from their parents and educators. The real self was you as you are. This inner split divided you. Q & A Session Q. Conspiracy thinking is not critical but emotional. What do you think about conspiracies? Why are people think in terms of ‘us’ and ‘them?’ A. They have never started thinking independently. Q. the ideal self was what you should be.’ They use it as a shield in any situation they are asked for their real ideas. or the me- dia and have distilled a neat little box in which they threw all the ingredients. and it facilitates their lives enormously. other people. in every possible way. it fragmented you. THE BETTER LIFE split your self in two parts. That’s another convenient life facilitator for it saves the concerned from critical thinking. 106 . in the first place.
and I am not. Q. it gets repressed into your sub- conscious mind. But as you have blocked awareness of that pattern regarding your own person. for without self-knowledge. whom you will blame for it. without delusions. Are you morally superior? Are you sure to know everything? Are you always just? A. You are getting on a totally new track. How would you explain the psychic process of re- pression and projection? How can it explain the making of ‘scapegoats’ in the entire course of human history? A. When you repress something from the surface of your conscious awareness. When that happens. What happens when you take yourself at face value. as you have blinded that out. Q. and it helps you to truly understand others. I think the answer is obvious. the track of self-knowledge which is the most exciting track you can ever be on. as you are unaware of that repressed energy pattern—remember that all our thoughts and emotions are energy. You are not. without making yourself up or down? A. in your experience. 107 . we cannot know others. Thieves and robbers. ‘THEY ARE EVIL’ Q. Who. you will unconsciously project that pattern upon others. Q. are those who most con- demn thieves and robbers? A. as they are vibrational in nature—it will dominate you.
thus in the West. such as an ideal world. or between ‘what is’ and ‘what should be?’ A. while introspec- tion has been invented in ancient Greece. What is the difference between meditation and in- trospection? And in what sense are they equal? A. reality is blamed as being abrasive. That’s one reason why our governments around the world are not really 108 . In this war. in which all things are ‘right and good. THE BETTER LIFE Q. they are both ways of passively observing our in- ner movements. and to people. They thus serve us for building awareness and self-knowledge. This schizoid split is the result of an inner war that those lead who have been conditioned through moralistic education. and is practiced today by many people in our culture. barbarous or destructive. What they have in common. In other words. or why they are equal is sim- ply that both approaches try to explore our inner world and at the same time refrain from judging it. The difference is simply that the two approaches belong to two different cultural realms. or belief system. Q. while at the same time an ideal is built.’ Thus what such people do is to confront any problem not by analyzing its true nature but by finding an ‘ideal solution’ to it which means they are using not intuition. Meditation has been invented and is practiced in the East. the movements of our thoughts and our emotional reactions to events. but conceptual thought and idealistic wishful thinking for solving problems. How would you explain the inner split between re- ality and ideology.
or Enlightenment. As our being is split. For most of them are caught in the trap of idealistic thinking. but just administer them. Perception can only become correct from the moment we overcome the inner war and become whole. we are not aware from which inner point of view were are thinking and arguing. Q. and peaceful inside. How does inner fragmentation bring about confu- sion? A. the Tao. When we are fragmented. 109 . But this ‘feeling’ is a shaky condition as it is not based upon real insight but upon superficial perceptions. Then we can begin to perceive the subtle reality that is what all great sages around the world have called the Sub- tle Truth. ‘THEY ARE EVIL’ solving our problems today. we today defend this view and to- morrow that one. according to how we ‘feel’ about it.
Chapter Five Author Your Life Finally. it’s the relation- ship we maintain with ourselves. IRVINE. is in constant contact with our inner world. trying to identify the sources of dis- tress in our life and thinking about how to avoid that distress. anciently . with others. —WILLIAM B. two aspects of the same reality. A GUIDE TO THE GOOD LIFE: THE ANCIENT ART OF STOIC JOY (2009). 11 Our relationship with the outside world. We will watch ourselves as we go about our daily business and will later reflect on what we saw. It’s like head and tail of a coin. we will become a more thoughtful observer of our own life. P. In Antiquity this was well-known and was expressed as ‘Know Thyself!’ The connection of the inner with the outer is equivalent to the relationship between the upper and the lower.
which started with Einstein’s dis- covery that a particle may behave as a wave in certain situations. This fact has profound impli- cations on what is called ‘scientific objectiveness. and that all in it is connected. THE BETTER LIFE expressed as ‘As it is above so it is below!’ Today we know that this is true as science has shown that our universe is fundamentally coherent.’ for it ap- pears obvious that if we are as observers determining the outcome of the experiment. found that our universe exists as a potentiality until we observe it. 112 . even within inanimate matter. and that our universe is responsive and communicative at its most fundamental and basic level. through our being observers in the scientific experi- ment. reality springs in existence virtually at the moment we observe it. in the form of inter-psychic communication or telepathy. These discoveries in natural science did not stay with- out impact upon the humanities. which is what we are talking about here: the inner dialogue. and intra- psychic communication. we cannot continue to affirm that science is objective. the outcome of it necessarily takes part in that sub- jectiveness of ours! Quantum physicists such as David Bohm have even realized that there is something like a conscious dialogue be- tween particles. Subatomic research. We as humans are subjective and when we are involved in the process of scientific investiga- tion. They only confirmed that there is interdependence also on the human level. As the observer is entangled with the object of observation.
no light!’ And in politics. which raises our authentic dealing with the world. we may ask? Well. it helps to integrate these dis- owned energies. we are involved in a constant dialogue with our inner world. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE We may thus conclude that there is a dialectic relation- ship between our inner reality and the world around us. we may put it that way: ‘love is dialogue. not when we hide behind a mask because we are scared to express ourselves in truth and honesty! Modern psychiatry must be spiritual in the sense that it cannot continue to rule in a universe of arbitrary projec- tions on nature. we see that where there is no dialogue. more so. instead of following the rules inherent in nature. Doing this will bring those repressed desires and feelings again back into our con- scious awareness. My intention is to provide food for thought not only to students of psychology. and violence. there is ignorance.’ It is thus essential to bring our repressed feelings and selves into a dialogue with one an- other in order to subject them to the light of consciousness and to embrace them with love. fear. a philosopher once said ‘Without dialogue. In other words. This is important for our true self can only unfold its riches and power in the moment we are authentic and truthful. for the applicability of the 113 . What is the importance of dialogue. but also for lay people’s ‘home use’ of this little road map. others and life. It is with this special regard that I start this chapter on voice dialogue. Positively put. and what we perceive as outward reality.
The way you get there is not really important. the brain waves or frequency you need for voice dialogue has been called the ‘alpha state. work colleagues. with ourselves and others. with family. and in the evening. The movements of our thoughts and the anxieties in our daily life. or fix your regard on a crystal bowl. There are so many different ways to relax. and stretch out comfortably on a divan or in an arm chair. which we do not subject to a harmonizing dialogue with inside will then only aggra- vate.’ It’s a natural state of mind in which we are at least twice a day. as well as the conflicts in our psyche have a direct impact upon our relationships. you may pray instead. but why you need to get there: our brain runs on different frequencies. It’s a sort of inner hygiene. or a pendulum. 114 . and I can testify for its effectiveness! Voice dialogue as a method for getting in touch with our inner selves requires a certain preparation. The conflictual potential. We then may experience setbacks in relationships. neigh- bors. light a candle. THE BETTER LIFE knowledge to be presented here is immensely useful for daily life. and so forth. and in daily relationships. if you prefer. at the moment to go to bed. You may listen to music. and wonder why they happened in the first place? It is our human duty to prevent this to happen through the dia- logue that keeps us in touch with inside and outside. Our state of mind is basically a result of the waves our brain runs on. in the morning after waking up. our partner and children.
but it’s a bad habit. the inner defenses against positive changes of subconscious content diminish when you are in alpha. and what kind of changes you may bring about: ‣ Heal childhood trauma. ‣ Change your self image. your brain makes sure that the shock will not have a damaging effect 115 . which allows you to ‘reprogram’ yourself if you wish to. When you are in this very relaxing state. ‣ Change your body image. and an opening up toward the imaginal realm. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE The alpha state is characterized by a lowering of wake consciousness. by the way? It’s a response of our or- ganism to hurting life experiences. Positively. for potentially disturbing images. and conditioning images (publicity) then bombard your subconscious mind. you should not watch television. What is trauma. inner images.’ You may have the habit to fall asleep in front of your television set. and you a shocked by suffering an act of aggression. for you are more suggestible than in the state of full wake consciousness called ‘beta state. ‣ Reprogram yourself positively. and also suggestions.’ When you are in a situation of helplessness or lack of defense. Here is a little list what you actually can do in alpha. There is a mechanism in our brain that preserves our mental sanity by a func- tional mode called the ‘trauma response. ‣ Heal post-childhood trauma.
and subsequently represses the memories of it in the un- conscious. thereby healing his damaged self-image. This can in 116 . THE BETTER LIFE on your brain and mental sanity. so you gain the impression that destiny is mean with you and plays you foul tricks! It goes without saying that the more trauma you have experienced. The memory lapse or amnesia is only one effect. but has the disadvantage that later you will face what is called a ‘repetition urge’ in that your brain wants you do heal that initial wounding. It therefore reacts in a specific manner: the brain releases the emotional pain by substantially reducing conscious perception of the event. This results in you surviving the hurt sanely. The problem is that you have lost the memory of the original event that brought about the trauma re- sponse. ‘oh now he can defend himself in a similar situation and can thus heal the original wounding by being victorious. is the fact that such traumatic events leave in your vital body or luminous en- ergy field an impression or ‘imprint’ which causes your vital energy flow to stagnate or turn negative with the re- sult that your emotional balance is impaired. the more your self-image has been distorted because of repression and amnesia. thereby bringing about over and over again the same kind of situation in order for you to react differently and gain the overhand. perhaps more important. another. There is more to know about these imprints. as they are called. This is an automatism. Your brain doesn’t reason. survival reactions of your brain.’ It’s completely automatic.
Psychiatrists also have found that a person may unconsciously condemn natural reactions of their body such as sexual arousal. You may suffer from a hangup called ‘sadomasochism’ or from impotence. the more result of negative imprints in your self-image has our luminous energy field. If those negative imprints are not healed in time. phobias. sur- to natural phenomena per- vival reactions of sist over years they may lead your brain. especially what some ing that the more psychiatrists call a general trauma you have ex- ‘fear of life’ are the direct perienced. and the content of the subconscious. It goes without say- ties. assuring your life will be ‘better than good’ as a result. It is thus really in your self-interest to detect such imprints timely and do everything to heal them. but you may as well try the self-healing approach that is why I wrote this chap- ter of the book. or anxiety from sexual arousal. in lighter cases it may still negatively affect your emotional and sexual response. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE extreme cases lead to mental illness. You may for example go to a psychotherapist or psychiatrist. to psychosomatic disease because the body always is directed by the mind. or cause of repression generally adverse reactions and amnesia. they may thus bring about physical illness. If been distorted be- such anxieties. or being ac- 117 . Many if not all our psy- chological fears and anxie.
the same therapeutic approach is effective and recommended. This may become dramatic if the heart muscle is con- cerned or the chest muscles for this may have an immedi- ate suffocating effect upon the person.’ strong feelings of resentment toward others. or else chronic fatigue syndrome.’ a very effective method in fact which lets consciousness do all this work. a lack of soul connectedness in daily life also called ‘narcissism. In the East. or this may bring about hypertension. the person is in a state of suffering that manifests through depressions. by simply observing thoughts and emotions. that is. without judging them. the person may suffer from repeated migraine. THE BETTER LIFE cidentally touched by another person. The end result of this process is inner peace. For all these problems. the anxi- ety ‘somatizes’ in the muscular system and become what is called a ‘muscular armor. If muscles in the brain are affected. a state of lasting inner harmony. in all these cases.’ That means the muscles. on the psychic level. the restitution of emotional flow. lose their suppleness and elasticity and become rigid. or some specific muscles. the vital energy flow in the entire organ- ism. More importantly. The effect of doing that is that con- 118 . a general feeling of ‘emptiness’ in life. If this goes on over a certain time. simply because that specific behavior is unconsciously associated with the early trauma. or feelings of self-hate. this technique is called ‘meditation. and a balance and harmonization of conflicting emo- tions.
your natural and unin- hibited breathing. total detachment and other such illusions! Meditation is to practice inner quiet. Does it flow from the top of your head to the palms of your feet? Or the other way? Or does it perhaps flow downward in front of your body and back up through your heels and your spine? Fo- 119 .’ How to practice introspection? After you feel you are in the relaxed state. Just focus upon the energy that streams through your organism. the over- all relaxed feeling in your limbs. You have asked the question and that is all you can do at this point. Your body will reply. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE sciousness itself brings about the inner healing because consciousness is self-cleaning and self-renewing. enjoying the warm flow of your blood.’ allowing them to flee from daily sorrow into realms of ‘nirvana. be patient! That is very important. The prob- lem is that most people in our culture have a wrong un- derstanding of what meditation actually is. They believe it was some state of ‘inner high. and your natural fatigue … What happens next? Do not anticipate. without focusing on them. Instead.’ eternal happiness. It’s called in our own culture ‘introspection. you quietly ask your inner mind to re- veal to you the origin of your problems or your present anxieties.’ This is actually a quite elucidating expression as it comes from the Latin word for ‘seeing’ and thus means ‘looking inside. try to feel it. you remain detached. inside of you and around you. a simple but poised state of nonjudgmental observation of all you expe- rience.
But don’t forget you carry yourself along wherever you go. a delusion! You may for exam- ple go for the idea that ‘after all the culprit is the society I am living it’ and you may want to change your country. and that sud- denly leaves a very real presence in your mind. and the 120 . You may receive a flash of insight or an inner image right away. what you are going to experience is something like a remote remem- brance or the hint of a familiar memory. the amnesia. as I said. trusting your inner mind to come up with the right answer when the time is ready! Whatever the time span until it happens. for example. that in some way is associated with the event itself you try to remember and heal. If you hurry the process by being impatient. a sudden ‘key’ event from your childhood. This is how your memory surface attempts to get to you back toward the crucial event. and again patience. you may distort your natural perception and produce a wrong response. Or you may think of a certain person you have per- haps forgotten for twenty or more years. or it may come up only after a few months. THE BETTER LIFE cus simply on your body for your subconscious is now busy to prepare the response for you. the original event that brought about the trauma response. you need patience and more patience. and you will ask ‘Why did I come here in the first place? It’s not better after all!’ That’s why. you may wake up one day in another country experiencing exactly the same problems you had before. and if you take a projection for real. We cannot know how long this process requires.
How do you do that? You simply visualize these key memories over and over again. remembering eventually who it was who hurt you at the time. This cathartic work may be accompanied by mourning and weeping. you cannot detach from the event and the healing may take longer or may even fail at this point. but this is the point where you are close to that wounding to be eventually healed and you freed of the psychic com- plex. Thus you are guided.’ Then. just like a detective who wants to find the killer … Once you remember the event. 121 . you will remain attached to the memory and it will further chain and limit you. insisting to ask your subconscious to reveal you more of the original wounding. If you feel strong hatred toward a certain per- son. taking these ‘key’ memory hints as important guide posts. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE following repeated events that created in you the idea you were under the spell of a ‘curse’ or a ‘cruel fate. and you may go through a bad moment. you may want to inquire further. If you refuse to forgive. Why? When you react with hatred or fear or in any other emotionally strong manner. it is important to not attach to the memory but let is pass in a passive mood. you imperatively need to forgive that person so that you can free yourself from the imprint. from piece of information to piece of information.
You may never even have reflected that a younger self exists within our psyche. and with it. a more or less direct answer from your inner child. you are among millions of others who have lost their inner child. and simply ask: —How are you? You shall receive an answer. With the inner dialogue. you would not have lost touch with your genuine self. THE BETTER LIFE Integrating the Younger Self In case you encounter not another person but yourself in front of your inner mind. which actually means ‘guiding along. their intrinsic creativity and joy of life. while this may be a to- tally novel experience for you. begin a dialogue with this younger self of yours. This is after all no wonder given our educational system and its tendency to consider education as an ‘infiltration’ of in- stant knowledge instead of following the word education. It can be an intuition. you encounter the younger self. your true identity that is represented by your inner child. right away or later. as well as a present self or a parent self! Never mind. It may also be a book you find serendipitously one of the next days in a bookstore. You should not blame yourself in any way to have gone through an alienating education.’ If you had been guided along. But it also can be an actual response from your inner mind. a sudden idea. and blaming your parents 122 . an interest that comes up. a new encounter or a dream. and properly mentored. your inner child of the past.
you will always remain in touch. is to realize your own creativeness. once recovered and healed. And even going through a good edu- cation. a first-hand life. you can ac- tually congratulate yourself. wherever in the world. you went through phases of adaptation to the norms and expecta- 123 . conditioning leaves a trace in your subconscious mind. You won’t lose this precious gift again. developing your own creativity in one field or the other you are interested in. Its genius will then be at your disposition and you will discover that all great geniuses are blessed because they either have never lost touch with their inner child or they recovered and healed it one day. Once you are in touch with your in- ner child. you will remain connected to your true self. you are affected by the general conditioning we all receive as a matter of culture and religion. All your inventiveness and origi- nality. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE and teachers for it does not help you either. Do what you want. the inner source of all riches! This inner child of yours. and having received love and support. to become truly themselves! But even if you do not have suffered trauma. is the driving force for your true success in life. for you are in the starting holes of a new and daring adventure: the adventure to live your own life. You are where you are now. and your intensity in all you do is inspired by the dynamics of this inner child. not any more a second- hand life. even if you had a very loving childhood. then. but a life of your own creation! The next step. and if you have got to this point.
you can modify your self-image in suggesting to yourself that you are whole 124 . while this momentarily affected by the may be a totally jealousies and animosities of novel experience for others. THE BETTER LIFE tions of society that were not easy to endure. you encounter age and upbringing. they distort our sane percep- tion of reality. be it through jealousy from the side of our not so brilliant contemporaries. once in the relaxed state. or you are simply smarter than the rest of us. Even if the younger self. our self-image is basically your inner child of positive and stable. a vulnerability that we tend to mourn and pro- ject unto others in a false attempt to heal it.’ a blind spot. and this very smart gets you in trouble at times. or if it has created an inner ‘scar. they stand in the way to an even remote level of objectiveness when assessing situations.’ Again. events and shortcomings. therefore it is a task you. That’s why is blessed the person who can by and large avoid them. you will always want to ven- ture into novel ways of doing things. by staying ‘real. it can be the past. Projections are delusions. people. These are things we all go through once in a while. With the inner dia- and it has nothing to do with logue. If you have a creative and outgoing mind. for all of us to once in a while ‘check with inside’ in order to find out if we have properly digested one of the other recent event.
This self is the link to that realm which is beyond space and time. the ultimate energy or however you want to call it. I find the expression ‘godself’ more appropriate to use for it because it is our connecting point with infinity. your higher self. and it doesn’t interfere unless you ask it to. your soul. You may call this part in you ‘observer. at least so in the human sphere. it is true that this higher self always ob- serves us and in this sense it is well an observer. this higher self is not ‘human’ in the sense that it lives in a reality not ours. so to speak. Dealing with Inner Images The next step in our inner work is to work on images we have made up about others or ‘the world at large. and by forgiving that other negative person around you who hurt you by slandering you. and from one into the next incarnation. but an eternal realm outside of spacetime. It sees things from a bird perspective. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE and complete.’ if you like this expression used by spiritualists. or by propagating in the world an image about you that is wrong. but here we have to acknowledge that this self is not entangled at all with our ego and our little life. I myself hold against it that an observer is always en- tangled with the object of observation. which is why we carry it with us after death.’ We do this quite automatically. Of course. as quantum physics demonstrated so well. the creator space. These images are spontaneous 125 . backstabbing you. Well. Simply affirm your connection with the part of yourself that is always untouched.
there is only one sane manner to deal with that image: you have to destroy it. And then you have made up an image! Now. and because you once came up with it. a creation of your mind and your longings for undisturbed and long- lasting love. consciously and deliberately! Your relationship with her will show the result: it will become authentic and true where before it was sentimental and false. THE BETTER LIFE judgments we are not always aware of. because of your projection. are repressed fragments of yourself that you come to be reflected in oth- ers. when you find that out. it’s simply an enthu- siastic reaction. It is of course beyond doubt that this is a projection. you stick to it. whatever they may do about it. I do not insist. the more you come to believe that’s actually true. as we have seen. Instead of staying with the reality that every 126 . While projections. okay. you do not see the woman she really is. In most cases.’ just because she is kind and loving and perhaps because you never met a woman like her before. and the longer you stick to it. For example. and they precondi- tion our perception. To stay with our example. mental images are ideals. however positive it is. and that this cannot be true after all. If you think I am wrong here and that such is possible. you meet a new partner and make up of her an image of ‘godlike perfection. No human can attain god- like perfection. what you see in her is your own ‘ideal’ image of a woman. but chances are low that that woman is one of these very few humans who have really attained that state of perfection.
which is why we need to be vigilant to detect them once in a while. as a matter of automatism. be it friends. If we don’t regu- larly renew the images we have about others. hence she will know in advance that such a relationship cannot last. how good and satisfying it may be. you make up an ideal and call it ‘eternal love’ or ‘my ideal partner’ or ‘my goddess’ or else. somebody who fights against windmills that he takes for real. That is a fallacy because in such a situation you cannot win for you are going after a chimera. or our chil- 127 . AUTHOR YOUR LIFE kind of love relation. and with real human beings involved as the partners! We need to always distinguish in our relationships what is actually the real person. it’s unreal and as such cannot be the basis of a real rela- tionship in space and time. be it our partner. as with Don Quijote who believed to fight against enemies. she will not fall in the trap to marry a Don Quijote. and you take this image as real. and destroy them. she will tell you. If she is really smart. and what is the image we have made about that person. The problem is that our brain makes up such images constantly.’ a ‘Mary Magdalene’ or else the eternal Amazon. something like a ‘Mona Lisa’ or the ‘Venus of Milo. only lasts so long. She will of course not be able to meet them. be it business relations. or if it’s positive. Even if your partner is real and objective enough to see you as you truly are. If the image is negative. she cannot remedy the shortcoming in you that you are delu- sional in the expectations you put up against her. as a result.
a real Saint. incorruptible. always integer. So it’s a complex matter. We all know that! You find out about a dear friend that you haven’t seen since long that he was going to betray your trust. and how willing they are to depart in their relationship from an authentic mu- tual perspective that is based upon the complexity of real 128 . or they will be drawn into negative spirals and events. and only through your finding out the betrayal in time you could prevent being hurt. as well as a part of past experience projected into that image. integer and sincere to his bones! Who is always honest. But to avoid this very complexity. as it is composed of rational impressions and intuition. they will stagnate. depends on how much down the rabbit hole the two partners want to go in destroying the images they made up about one another. but are we dealing with Jesus Christ in our daily struggles? Images about others distort our real and authentic per- ception of that person. an ideal. always sincere? Jesus Christ? Perhaps. this perception is a composite one. actually.’ The quality of a relationship. the relationships will turn stale. as a matter of automatism. or the idea of ‘heroic humans. And you reason to yourself: —And I was convinced he was the walking honesty. any relationship. we think we can make things easy by simply circumventing the whole process and replace authentic perception but one that uses an image. THE BETTER LIFE dren.
the mutually made up images in both partners render an authentic ‘relating to’ impossible. which means that an average of 25 years we are doing nothing but sleeping and dreaming. As such. Some psychologists write that dreams are the language of our unconscious. But those inner images don’t. in the conscious knowledge that ideals bring about delusions. This is not entirely accurate because if our conscious mind did not participate in dreaming. they are ‘on canvas. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE perception. In such a situation of rigidity. emotions and mental images. except in deep hypnosis. 129 . falseness and hypocrisy and are ulti- mately destructive in relationships. it always is in movement. Bridge Your Subconscious Mind We spend a quarter to a half of our lives asleep. it constantly changes. what we feel comfortable with to see. they are very important in the rather lengthy process of gaining self-knowledge.’ so to speak and thereby falsify the real perceptions of the two persons for one another. Think about it! Dreams are essential forms of self-expression. they let us see our subconscious thoughts. we could never recall a dream. A relationship is never static. It is so much easier to see in another person what we are prepared to see. our unconscious memories are not accessible.
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In addition, dreams do not only contain thoughts, emo-
tions and images of our individual unconscious but also
thought projected upon us by others, as well as archetypi-
cal imagery from the collective unconscious.
Through our conscious thoughts and emotions during
the day we impregnate our subconscious mind with a cer-
tain content which can either be positive or negative, dy-
namic or inhibitive. Our subconscious mind registers eve-
rything, even the number of steps you go to the grocery
and back, or the convoluted track of your bus from home
to office and back.
We can thus say that dreams are something like a
bridge between our conscious and our subconscious mind.
Besides, dreams play an important role in the mainte-
nance of psychic health. They are conflict-solving, and thus
help us to succeed in life and to achieve our goals. They
are also helpful when you take the decision to change hab-
its and get on new tracks of realization.
In addition, dreams prepare us for stepping into the
unknown, a novel experience, a new task to fulfill, or any-
thing else for that matter. Dreams help our brain to connect
new knowledge with existing patterns of knowledge, and
in this sense they play the role of a mediator between the
new and the old. Finally, dreams are real outlets for your
most repressed fears and negative expectations; through
dreaming the anxiety can discharge the psychic tension,
thereby helping the mind to find harmony.
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In the dreamwork as I propose it here, we are not going
to talk about systems of interpretation as they have been
established over the centuries, and more recently, by psy-
choanalysis. My approach is to avoid the intellectual trap
of ‘interpreting’ the dream; instead I suggest you to go
through the dream once again, right after waking up, in a
state of relaxation. It’s like projecting a film a second time,
but that time watching it with all your conscious attention,
while being in a relaxed state of mind. It’s important to be
relaxed for you should not attach to the dream images, nor
reject them in case they are negative or frightening. You are
just observing them, without taking part in the plot, pas-
This simple technique has
tremendous healing power We can thus say that
because, as mentioned before, dreams are some-
human consciousness is self- thing like a bridge be-
cleaning, and self-renewing. tween our conscious
That means that once you and our subconscious
are fully aware of an inner mind.
conflict, whatever it happens
to be, the conflict is over already, it’s past already.
This is by far the most effective dreamwork technique I
have learnt, and it’s effective because it avoids to ‘intellec-
tualize’ your dream, applying conceptual thought. Con-
ceptual thinking has no place in dreamwork for it’s side-
tracking you from the soul content of your dreams, and
their integral nature. Life doesn’t know concepts, nor do
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our dreams! Hence, avoid dream interpretation for it’s
always based upon a concept: the Freudian approach, the
Jungian approach, the Reichian approach, or whatever. It’s
a fallacy to ‘interpret’ dreams.
And there is one more reason to avoid interpretation of
dream content. There are signals in our dreams which have
no other meaning than inviting us to ‘wake up’ in the
dream so as to become aware of the fact that you dream, so
that you can dream lucidly! For example, in a recent dream
of mine, I walked to my car, which was in front of me in
the parking lot, and I held the key in my hand. Looking at
my key, I looked once again more closely, for it had a
strange appearance. It appeared to be an ancient symbol
and the metal it was made of was not at all the one nor-
mally used for making keys. It had a matt surface and was
rounded at all ends, with a yellowish tint, that reminded of
Now, if you are going to sit down … and think what
‘meaning’ that has for your life, you can think long … You
may write an entire Dan Brown novel about it!
But it’s hilarious because this symbol had no other
meaning in my dream than telling me:
—Watch out, this is a dream, this is not real, and if you
recognize that, you can wake up and dream consciously!
Dreamwork is important for self-transformative proc-
esses; every little step you make to elucidate your dreams
will be for you a step forward in mastering your real life.
To do this work, no psychological knowledge is required:
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it’s a contemplative work that uses the instrument of the
soul: intuition. Let me explain it with an allegory: when
you want to understand a great work of art, the best to do
is to contemplate the painting, sculpture, or a design in a
relaxed and passive mood. This takes a minute or it takes a
day, or a month, for all depends on how sharp your intui-
tive perception is! But the key of understanding art is con-
templation, not intellectual study. While art history may
help you frame the work in the historical context, it cannot
help you to unravel the uniqueness of the work, as a
unique expression of human creativity and genius.
We will thus consider
dreams as forms of art cre- There are signals in
ated by our inner mind, or our dreams which
soul, and as such they are have no other mean-
integral messages that we ing than inviting us
need to respect in their mul- to ‘wake up’ in the
tidimensionality. An intellec- dream so as to be-
tual approach to understand- come aware of the
ing dreams would violate fact that you dream,
their wholeness and bring so that you can
about a fragmented residue dream lucidly!
of the original message. Fur-
thermore, soul healing by the
means of dreamwork is only possible if we treat dream
content as soul content, not if we consider it as a code gib-
berish that needs ‘intellectual’ deciphering.
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If you wish to have specific guidelines for solving day-
to-day problems, you can address your inner mind at the
moment of going to sleep and formulate, shortly and
clearly, your question. You may get a response right that
night, or later, depending on your readiness to receive an
answer. The answer may not fit your current system of be-
liefs, hence you would either reject the solution or not un-
derstand it. That’s why your soul will only give you the
answer once you are ready—but you shall receive it with-
out a doubt.
Sleep research has brought to daylight that dreams are
not recalled unless the sleeper awakens immediately after
the dream, rather than after going on to other stages of
sleep. It also has been seen that motivation plays a decisive
role in the recall of dreams. When you go to bed, take a
firm intention to remember your dreams. This means that
you give yourself a suggestion to remember your dreams
with increasing accuracy. Here is an example:
From now on, I remember my dreams on a daily basis
with increasing accuracy. Every day more, I shall be
amazed at how rich my dream life really is, once I focus
on remembering my dreams. This is wonderful!
Please be aware that the subconscious mind dislikes co-
ercion as you dislike it, so please use a light touch approach
for bringing about dream recall.
Dream researchers reported that when they use ‘effort-
ful intention’, the method seemed to fail:
It greatly helps to keep a dream journal which you put by your bed. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE —Stephen LaBerge. the dream pops again up in your mind. As soon as you wake up from a dream. I suggest you do not even aim at having lucid dreams. New York: Ballantine Books. and also note the feelings and register all of that in order to obtain the entire puzzle. In the beginning. in easy reach. 1990. Don’t change your sleep position as it’s conducive to help you remember. to bring about a single lucid dream is a great achievement. Here is some specific advice what you can do when you do not remember a dream. Exploring the World of Lucid Dreaming. If you are good at shorthand or you write very fast. It is not recom- mended to wait longer for expanding all of it for you may be surprised how quickly you forget them once you are busy with your next day’s schedule. When you recall only once 135 . your dream memory will greatly improve. sketch it down in the journal. it is even better to note the dreams as soon as you awaken. but just remember your ordinary dreams. at least in keywords. As you record more and more dreams. It may not happen immediately but chances are that later. With Howard Rheingold. in a moment you least expect it. If you never had lucid dreams before. if you have never built dream awareness before in your life. and then recollect pieces and fragments of the dream. 80 It is also important that you don’t put your expecta- tions too high. which you work out in the early morning.
and anyway for private use only. 136 . you may venture into lucid dreaming. a topic I will not cover in this chapter. but it’s. I would like to cover more ground instead on basic techniques you need to master before you can ever attempt to become lucid in your dreams. Our wake life determines our dreams. The good news is that this faculty of vigilant attention can be learnt. It may take consider- able time. admittedly. Keep it safe! If you get to remember at least one dream per night. THE BETTER LIFE scene. reliving the dream in reverse. the other way it happens as well but to a much lesser degree. not just when we are asleep. Make yourself a gift and get that dream diary. it’s wake con- sciousness that imprints itself upon dream consciousness. The truth is that we are dreaming our lives through. Few are those who are acutely aware of what is actually going on in their lives. ask yourself what happened before that. It should be something valuable and precious to you. not an easy process. your journal is just a tool. such as the book quoted above. You may want to check out special- ized publications on the matter. And buy it exclusively for noting your dreams. and before that. so don’t buy just anything but something you really like and wish to come home to every day. Place it by your bedside to remind yourself of your intention to write down dreams. You don’t need to have writing skills for doing that. which contains many further references and very useful advice. Let me explain why.
for they can choose their destiny! This may give you a hint as to the ultimate importance of self- development which in that sense is actually soul develop- ment. for if you are aware. where mind is more important than matter not only in the sense of a metaphor. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE In other words. And more importantly. but also. for your death! The more conscious we go on that ultimate journey. you are ready for lucidity in your dreams— not before. But how conscious are you really? That’s all the question. but in real life. you can stay off any temptation to get on a stray path that may lead you straight toward the next incarnation. When you can focus intently and with your whole energy on a symbol. And the more you are lucid in your dreams. 137 . it’s the conscious mind that impacts upon the subconscious mind. Reincarnation is not a must for those who are fully aware. and more importantly. Tibetan Dream Yoga has developed visualization tech- niques that are conducive to enhancing our daily aware- ness level. you will be able to direct your etheric body wherever you want to and you can consciously experience whatever you like. the more you shall be lucid after passing over into the afterlife. The whole of self-development. for an extended period of time. and especially dream awareness is not just a gain for your life. the better we can cope with the ethereal realm of the afterlife. without being distracted in any way by random thoughts or anything going around you.
Results produced by prayer groups are actually so convincing that chance cannot explain them. Affirmative prayer or ‘creative prayer’ as I term it. That’s why I believe that first you need to really get into sharpening your intention by learning a technique for self-improvement that has been time tested and that is also in the meantime backed up by neuroscience. until research on the power of attention brought in the evidence. for example for ‘waking up’ in dreams and becoming lu- cid. prayer has today overcome the unwholesome split between mind and body as it was promoted by Newton and Descartes who declared our body to be a clockwork ma- chinery. it may be nearly impossible to use it for lucid dream incu- bation. and science was baffled at first. is not to be confounded with prayer as part of a religious rit- 138 . So let us inquire now more in depth what this prayer tech- nique is actually all about. Backed by psychosomatic medicine and hailed as a true path to healing and self-healing by cutting-edge scientists and physicians such as Larry Dossey or Deepak Chopra. We have already seen that in- tention is something rather important in self-development. I have not put this at the beginning of the book in order to not give it a too ‘academic’ touch. If you have never worked on focusing your intention. THE BETTER LIFE Affirmative Prayer Now let me explain more about the method that most of this book is about. Prayer has gained a new-found popularity in our days of novelty.
back. churches and syna- gogues. neck. concerns and plans. the prayer people do in mosques. lying in bed or sitting relaxed in an arm chair. so it is below!’ Abel A. things and people into your life. gently close your eyes and relax your head. if they are negative. Allen ex- presses it in his essay ‘As A Man Thinketh’ with the for- mula that thought is matter in the sense that it has a defini- tive and provable influence on life. worries. you are attract- ing toward yourself experiences. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE ual. It’s a phenomenon that can be explained with morphic resonance or the law of associative attraction. and is actually the force that informs destiny. To put it in a simple way. Enjoy the feeling of relaxation and let go of your thoughts. and breathe slowly and restfully. arms. Like attracts like is not only valid for humans. your thoughts are building the conduit for what you are going to attract: if they are positive. 139 . people or events that are not what you actually desire! EXERCISE A. but also for thoughts and emotions! In ancient times this was expressed with the metaphor ‘As it is above. and legs. you are attracting positive events. Relax completely While being in a comfortable position. Completely let go of all muscular and mental tension.
B. 2. Take a few breaths by moving your diaphragm down slightly while inhaling. Relax progressively Progressive relaxation was coined in 1929 by Dr. you may use the progressive relaxation exercise. Allow it to deepen. Repeat the procedure for the other hand. pushing your abdomen out and drawing air into your lungs. Pause for twenty to thirty sec- onds as you take a deep abdominal breath. letting tension out as you do so. lie down or sit comfortably in a chair. you are proba- bly already sufficiently relaxed. Close your eyes. as if you are trying to place the back of the hand on your forearm. To begin with. THE BETTER LIFE If you have just awakened from sleep. It has ever since been the most widely used relaxation technique. Hold it tight for five to ten seconds. Then re- 140 . Note the difference. then exhale slowly. Release the tension and relax. Attend to your breathing Pay close attention to your breathing without control- ling it. Pay attention to the tension. Begin with your dominant arm. Otherwise. Bend your hand backward at the wrist. 1. one at a time. Ed- mund Jacobsen from Harvard University. Allow yourself to sigh deeply on the exhale. Progressively tense and relax each muscle group Tense and then relax all the muscle groups in your body. Tense and relax again.
they are 13 to 30 Hz per cycle. forehead. they are 8 to 12 Hz. 1958) Relaxation induces in our brain the so-called alpha state. and in the short interlude between wake and sleep. predominant when we are drowsy and drifting into sleep and dreams. Finally. we got the beta waves which are characteristic for our thinking activity. predominant when we are in deep slumber and not dreaming are delta waves. there are ultra short brain waves. upper arms. Progressive Relaxa- tion. Chicago: University of Chicago Press. which brings about a higher level of coordination between our two brain hemi- spheres. a condition of higher receptivity. they are 4 to 7 Hz per cycle. buttocks. and release more tension in a sigh. This following overview over all our possible brain waves reveals that alpha waves are among the longer brain waves. called gamma waves. shoulders. back. and for conversation. The longest brain waves. Last not least. we got the alpha waves which manifest when we are in a state of relaxation or meditation. jaws. among the short brain waves. Pause between each major muscle group. they are 31 to 120 Hz. Second among long brain waves are theta waves.5 to 3 Hz per cycle. abdomen. which are manifesting when our brain is in overdrive. (Adapted from Edmund Jacobsen. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE peat the whole sequence for your forearms. for our wake state. and feet. legs. Now. They are 0. take a deep breath. 141 . neck.
When are we in alpha? Typically. while we do relaxation. a habit that is conditioned through our left- brain oriented education and culture.5 – 3 Hz Deeply asleep and not dreaming • Theta waves—4 – 7 Hz Drowsy and drifting down into sleep and dreams • Alpha waves—8 – 12 Hz State of relaxation or meditation • Beta waves—13 – 30 Hz Busily engaged in activity or conversation • Gamma Waves—31 – 120 Hz Hyper brain activity In the state in which alpha waves are predominant in our brain. This means that our thought processes while we are in alpha are more integrated. 142 . which actively involves our spatial and pictorial thought capabilities and helps our prayers to be accompanied by pictorial content. in the interval between wake and sleep or. artificially induced. typi- cally our brain functions in a way that left and right brain hemispheres work together in synergistic and complemen- tary cooperation. In alpha. THE BETTER LIFE • Delta waves—0. The second element that favors whole-brain thinking is creative visualization. What affirmative prayer does in fact is to gradually reorient the brain toward a more integrated func- tioning by dissolving the habit to function only on the left hemisphere. the two brain hemispheres have shown to be most coordinated.
143 . and in the evening before going to sleep. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE This makes for an integrated functioning of the two brain hemispheres during visualization because imagination is a right-brain quality while reciting the prayers. resulting from it. wrong action that created much of the plagues humanity is suffering from till this day. What creative prayer does in fact is to gradually change your mindset which is now perhaps a mindset of limitation. Our destiny as human beings is to be happy. Therefore. Creative prayer helps imprint your subconscious mind with positive images. as it involves language. How to work with the prayers? Best practice is to calmly recite them at least twice a day. images that heal and help you to be successful and happy in all areas of life. The only limitations there are. It is negative thinking. really are the limitations we set for ourselves. in the morning after waking up. powerful. to a mindset of infinite possibilities. it is essential that you find out about the black magic of negative thinking. is per se a left-brain activity. so as to profit from the natural re- laxation that occurs during these special moments of the day. and. joyful and blessed. Visualization there- fore enhances imagination and stimulates the right-brain hemisphere to participate in the creative prayer process.
but they cannot do all the work 144 . To have more success and achieve more happiness is not a function of effort alone. It is directly related to. Our thought today is our reality tomorrow. the will and intention alone to change our inner program are not enough. Many of us are driven by negative inner scripts written in early childhood. They are necessary for the start. they are programmed! However. THE BETTER LIFE BUILD A POSITIVE ATTITUDE It is not esoteric to have a positive mental attitude. All our outward experiences are the result of our inner attitude projected onto the interface of real life. hold us within a vi- cious circle of frustrating life experiences that in turn seem to justify or to confirm our negative worldview. Creative prayer helps to create positive reality in trans- forming your thought structures. We do not need philosophical speculations and concepts in order to adopt a positive atti- tude. Positive reality and success. This is because in- ner programs are composed of thought and emotional pat- terns that. Some of these inner programs. it’s as simple as that. These inner programs drive us unconsciously and if they are negative. our daily life expe- riences and relationships. happiness and fulfillment are not a chance. and connected with. and even the primary condition for it. nor even of intelligence. since they are repetitive. they bring about frustration and unsatis- fying or even hurting life experiences. may even have been imprinted on our mind during former exis- tences. or some elements of them.
or you experience drawbacks and failures despite the fact that you are dili- gent in doing your daily prayers. first of all. as gradually you begin to be aware of what was formerly deeply repressed in your unconscious: 145 . and with persistence. What does this story tell us? It tells us that blaming fate or ‘God’ is not a solution for our problems. what happens is that the old garbage in your mind is removed. once you start out with creative prayer. This is a normal process. If you have never done affirmations. consistently. which is why you need to persist. the need to practice. For doing creative prayer. We are not aware of it and have the impression that all comes upon us from outside. This is so because much of our inner program is un- conscious. you need to build an un- wavering inner attitude. there may be weeks or even months needed to clean up the negative thought forms in your mind. NEVER BLAME YOUR FATE You may know the story of Job from the Bible. for the results will not show up immediately. it is well possible that you experience drawbacks. on a daily ba- sis. As an illness worsens once it is treated. for a while. especially if you are gener- ally a negative thinker. Hence. It is tempting to blame your fate especially when you have begun doing affirma- tive prayer and you don’t see results. During that initial period. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE needed to erase decades or even centuries of negative self- programming.
146 . once you are in such kind of a pattern. Of course. THE BETTER LIFE your negative attitude! But this is a temporary condition. This attitude attracts to you what you really desire! FORGIVE AND CHOOSE Once you are committed to changing your basic atti- tude toward life. especially if you repeat this procedure several times a day. you calmly re- cite your prayer. but uniquely by yourself. which reinforces your conviction that you were born on the wrong side of the tracks. he was lacking faith. the more negative experiences you attract. which is a positive expectation. and that you are taken care of and guided. you are creating a negative spiral. and over a certain period of time. Which in turn means that you have to forgive yourself and others regularly and unconditionally. so the more you blame your fate. just like breathing. and it’s precisely why you need to persist and not give up. the convic- tion that only good can come to you. Job blamed God constantly for his misfortunes. which deeply penetrates into your sub- conscious mind. After forgiving and in the relaxed state. The only way to get rid of this crux is to uncondition- ally affirm that you are guarded and watched by a graceful muse whatever you name it. and so on and so forth. you need to understand that you are not driven by outside forces or other people. It means to admit that you are the only cook of your destiny soup.
AUTHOR YOUR LIFE Positive thinking leads to faith. Write your prayer down. you need to use affirmations that are to the point. I breathe naturally. Faith is not a mysterious grace fallen from heaven for select beings. don’t write ‘I will not smoke any more. more than a mere science theory but a 147 . Our overall mental attitude reflects the program that we run in our subconscious mind. a strong conviction that you will always attract the very best to you. but by the constant intention to benefit others that is sustained and nourished by positive and empowering prayer. For example. it is available for everyone. To change your inner program from negative to positive. like children. short and clear. and avoid negative expressions. Here is how to do it. KEEP IT SHORT Creative prayer works with mantra-like formulas that we repeat to ourselves in a relaxed state so that they be- come part of our unconscious thought pattern. It comes about not by chance.’ but write: Living naturally. not convoluted. I eat naturally. I am free now from any substance that interferes with my natural condition. using short sentences. This is wonderful! CREATE YOUR OWN REALITY What if relativity theory was actually a universal con- cept in the cosmos. I sleep naturally. is easy and enjoyable for me. if you want to stop smoking.
Once you realize that your inner world creates your outward reality. unlucky. You will then watch out what you affirm. thus blocking the realization of our evolutionary potential. and how different it seems to you when you are content and happy. and you will affirm harmony as the guiding principle for all your relationships. those who are mutilated. or when you recreate it. the world seems populated with angels. You will want to affirm only the best. This is not a trick of our imagination. Creative prayer erases or neutralizes the negative con- tent of this program bit by bit. CHANGE YOUR INNER PROGRAM All of us are driven by an inner program. Yet when we are positive and happy. we encounter negative people. upbringing and self-programming. this program is more or less negative. either physically or mentally. This program is a mixture of heritage. Unfortunately for many of us. unfortunate people. THE BETTER LIFE philosophical concept? You only need to remember how you see the world when you are angry. It is because we project our inside world toward the outside and thus re-create creation. you will proceed with care and awareness when creating your inner reality. It is very strange but when we are filled with negative emotions. replacing it by a new and 148 . The inside and the outside are one! When we are black inside we encounter black outside. also regarding the ‘world’ as a whole and other people.
We reach our full crea- tive potential only if we imply the right brain hemisphere 149 . you are the carpenter of your house of life. you can change your inner black magician into a white magician. you may wait a life- time! You are at the root of your success or your failure. Our two brain hemispheres carry out different tasks and are organized in different ways. to create new forms. They perform well within established ways and rou- tines. but when it comes to invent. disempowering. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE positive one. Many of us are not conscious of their self-talk. they have difficulties and feel blocked or inhib- ited. If you wait for others to empower you. If you want to find out about it. once you observe it. to change established routines. Your inner program is reflected by your self- talk. disregarding the wide range of creation potential located in our right brain hemisphere. You can transform your self-talk so that it serves to bring you forward instead of blocking you. how negative it is. Perhaps you will be surprised. you only have to watch your self-talk or self-thought-talk during one day. and it will look outwardly exactly how you inwardly built it. or how colored by guilt and fear. how cynical. This is predominantly the result of a mindset that is too much left-brain oriented. BE MORE CREATIVE Many of us feel they need more creativity or spontane- ity. to open up new pathways of realization.
THE BETTER LIFE in our thought processes and thus think with both sides of the brain simultaneously engaged. Learning and creativity are greatly enhanced from the moment we use the full brain. Suffices you have the firm inten- tion to be more creative. and you affirm this intention in your prayers. It is the same with our brain hemispheres. I receive promptings and monitions from my subconscious mind that show me surprisingly simple and creative solutions to all my problems. There is nothing more you need to do about it. and more flexible. This being said. I give thanks for the increase of creativity and spontaneity in my daily life! 150 . but perhaps millions. We all know that in this case we have a multiplication factor or potentiality factor built in the co- operation of these two people. With our brain hemispheres it’s a bit like with the po- tentialities of two persons. We cannot say that one plus one equals two when we talk of two people brainstorming for new solutions. This means that our thought processes have to be coor- dinated so that they work as one whole integrated thought process that is based upon the harmonious functioning of the full brain. more spontaneous. Left hemisphere plus right hemisphere is not two. as for example: Every day more. affirmative prayer is conducive to in- creasing your creativity potential.
Every time you feel fearful. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: Infinite intelligence guides me now to the place. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE PRACTICE CREATIVE PRAYER How Can I Be More Useful? After having followed the general instructions so that you got some basic experience in connecting to your inner universe. Affirm that Infinite Wisdom in you wants your best and finds now your true place. please get relaxed and focus within you. and in the evening when you go to sleep. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. I give thanks for the joy of the answered prayer. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. it will come true. every time you doubt. at least ten times. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. the place in space and time where you can and will be supremely useful to all beings and do the best for humanity. Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. and to the people and circumstances where I am truly useful in that all my wonderful gifts and talents will be serving others and humanity at their highest possible level. 151 . in the morning after waking up. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times.
and a perfect shape of this body. it will come true. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. and in the evening when you go to sleep. Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. 152 . Visualize as you would like to see yourself when look- ing in the mirror. Affirm that this supreme wisdom in you cannot fail and will now rebuild your body shape in the most perfect and the most beautiful way possible. THE BETTER LIFE How Can I Lose Weight? Affirm that Infinite Wisdom in you has created you once with a perfect body and mind. joyful and fulfilled in your love and your desire. I will gradually remember this original image and shall listen to the promptings and monitions of my higher self that guide me toward the right diet. Find the ideal picture of yourself and imprint it on your mind while affirming that the infinite love in you wants your best and wants you to be beautiful. in the morning after waking up. attractive. This image is part of my essential life pattern and it is im- printed and coded in my cells. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: Infinite intelligence knows my ideal body image. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. I give thanks for the joy of the answered prayer.
like children. I eat naturally. do not blame you for it. blaming and criticizing will keep you away from giving up smoking. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. When I was a small child. Do not punish you for smoking. Letting go your desire to smoke goes along with letting go any justification of it and any rejection of it. and in the evening when you go to sleep. every time you doubt. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE Every time you feel fearful. Living naturally. I breathe 153 . at least ten times. thereby reinforcing it. In the contrary what it does is to subtly justify your attachment. in the morning after waking up. do not criticize yourself or others to have this need. Just quietly affirm that you are now completely free of a desire to smoke and that your body and mind will completely heal from the damage you have done to it. All punishing. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: Infinite intelligence knows my primary body condition. Connect to the supreme power within you and affirm that from now on your desire to smoke will de- crease every day until it will vanish completely. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. How Can I Stop Smoking? Affirm that Infinite Wisdom in you has created you once with a body and mind that did not know the need for smoking. is easy and enjoyable for me. I did not know what smoking is and did not need it.
Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. I am free now from any sub- stance that interferes with my natural condition. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. I sleep naturally. in the morning after waking up. do not blame yourself for it. Every time you feel fearful. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. blaming and criti- cizing will keep you away from living your sex life natu- rally. do not criticize yourself or others to have this need. Do not mind it having strong sexual wishes or urges. All punishing. it will come true. How Can I Be Happy Sexually? Affirm that Infinite Wisdom in you has created you with sexual desire and that this desire is good and healthy. Af- firm that the infinite love in you wants you to be happy and fulfilled sexually and that it now attracts to you the ideal partner for a complete union that brings both of you supreme fulfillment of love and sexual desire. This is wonderful! Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. at least ten times. every time you doubt. and in the evening when you go to sleep. THE BETTER LIFE naturally. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: 154 .
I remem- ber this prayer. in accordance with cosmic law and order. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. every time you doubt. Observe nature all around you and become aware that life equals abundance. Find out your limiting beliefs and write them down. Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. Affirm that all your wishes and desires do not hurt anybody and bring riches and abundant life and prosperity not only to yourself but to all beings. Affirm that Infinite Wisdom that has created you with your longing to live joyfully and abundantly. and positively stimulated to meet the ideal and loving partner who will cross my way. I am open now for its wistful guidance. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. to be sure it is the mate I have attracted through this prayer. This is wonderful. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE Infinite intelligence is my constant guide and counselor. it will come true. Then visualize that divine light dissolves all those beliefs in you. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. at least ten times. 155 . I know that. How Can I Lead A Life of Fulfillment? Affirm that the Infinite Wisdom in you has created you to lead a life of abundance. This wisdom in me knows all my longings and desires and it wants me to be happy and fulfilled in my love. riches and variety. fullness. Every time you feel fearful. when this happens.
I know that life equals abundance. ever more surplus. Every time you feel fearful. If I follow the scar- city paradigm as so many others. money. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. which is surplus. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: Life is sheer abundance. riches. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. and in the evening when you go to sleep. and more abundant. and surplus. I can only attract more and more of the good I wish to see in my life. I thus can only be abundant. in the morning after waking up. at least ten times. I immediately affirm that I am henceforth following the life principle. and in my body. and I give thanks that this is true. I do know better on my subtle. not because I know better. On this innate level of intelligence. 156 . every day. The divine order secures a surplus for my material and spiritual riches at all times. Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. subconscious level. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. for fertilizing one single egg. ever more abundance every day. it will come true. nature provides millions of sperm cells in one single ejaculation. THE BETTER LIFE Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. I do this because of conditioning. every time you doubt. Every time now I have a thought that affirms anything else but abundance. I know that during intercourse. I feel very happy that this is so. variety of experi- ence.
and ever more prosperity. and in the evening when you go to sleep. but for living a life of abundance. the fruit of thought and ac- tions which were based on erroneous beliefs. Affirm that the Infinite Love & Wisdom that has created you wishes you to live a life of prosperity. and it is good. Money is an idea in the mind of the universe. Money flows to me freely. one by one. I know matter and spirit are one. and endlessly. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: I am here not for suffering endless constraints. the mass spirit or limitations that you have set for yourself. joy and abundance and to grow in consciousness. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. and very good. Connect to the source within and affirm that your fi- nancial problems are dissolved this very moment. This consciousness is within you and it is free of any limitation and any struggle. attracting to me prosperity. Money is constantly circulating in my life. I look upon money as a divine substance. 157 . It is but harmony and peace! Feel united with this immense harmony and peace within you and visualize your prob- lems wiped out from the screen of your mind. in accordance with the life principle. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE How Can I Solve Financial Problems? Become still and grow in awareness that all your prob- lems are your own creations. joyously. in the morning after waking up. which is positive and life-giving. and I use it wisely and constructively. for everything is made by one spiritual force.
neither your partner nor your parents. unlimited hu- man being. Affirm that your true destiny is a free. in the morning after waking up. THE BETTER LIFE Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. entirely and joyfully free from all that keeps you chained. Every time you feel fearful. it will come true. medicaments. Connect to the Infinite Peace & Joy within you and af- firm that you are now. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. and affirm freedom for all the people or things that represent those chains for you. nor on any artificial enrichments such as drugs. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. This independence is the condition for your true interdependence and connectedness to all-that- is. al- cohol.. and in the evening when 158 . every time you doubt. full of joy and growing every day in riches of all kinds. obsessions or anything else that limits your free- dom. Become aware that your inner wisdom and power can only work for your best once you are independent from all and every bondage. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. and forever. at least ten times. How Can I Become Independent? Become still and aware that you should not depend on anybody.
at least ten times. It is my birthright as a human being to be free and to be a being of choice. love. happiness. Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. How Can I Become and Remain Healthy? Become still and grow in awareness that Infinite Energy has created you according to its perfect image and that your illness is the fruit of your own destructive thought patterns and the perpetuation. I make choices every day. This is wonderful. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. My life is directed by my choices. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE you go to sleep. and I am choos- ing right now. abundance. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. every time you doubt. fulfillment and pros- perity. which is why freedom is the very condition human life is based upon. I am choosing what is in accordance with the life principle and what brings me and all around me true freedom and abundance with every day to come. As a volitional being. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. Every time you feel fearful. Affirm that the perfect image in you is becoming manifest now every 159 . in your thought and feel- ings. of negative or traumatic life experiences. it will come true. and I am choosing peace. I can only choose when I am free. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: I am free. unconditionally and joyfully free from all chains and from all bondage.
the natural condition of all life in the cosmos. in all my be- havior. THE BETTER LIFE day more in your mind. 160 . a balance of yin and yang in me. pure. in the morning after waking up. Fear and doubt hold your wishes from coming true. and this is wonderful. psyche and body. and in the evening when you go to sleep. I am healthy now. and remain healthy. and in my rela- tionships. Affirm that your true destiny is perfect health. in my thoughts. that the divine in you cannot be sick and that you are one forever with this divine image in you that is perfect. I am thus healthy by nature. it will come true. Health is the nature in me at full blossom. healthy and radiant of joy and life. Health is indeed my birthright and I affirm it now and every coming day when I wake up in the morning and before I go to bed. Health is radiance. Do not doubt it! Do not fear anything. or at any time during the day when you are in a state of relaxation: Health is my natural condition. in my emotions. vibrant strength and power. Be confident that after having practiced this affirmation for about three weeks every day. This natural force in me grows stronger with every day and it gradually dissolves all that is unhealthy in me. strength and riches of all kinds. a balance in my actions. Health is balance. joy and growing vitality. Repeat the following affirmation about twenty times. unspoiled.
Physicians. the violin and the contrabass exude harmonious vibrations for our entire vibrational organism. such as the guitar or lute. this research has found that musical instruments that emit frequencies between 5000 and 8000 Hz are the most beneficial for psychosomatic health. they may render us ill over time. This is why negative vibrations can affect us badly. All life is vibration. re- peat the affirmation quietly in your mind. psychologists and sound researchers are telling us with increasing stress that we are today surrounded by toxic sounds and frequencies that are somehow the price we pay for our high-tech civilization. Ancient acoustic instruments. at least ten times. and the human organism is by far the most complex of all vibrational devices on the planet. the cembalo. This is something we are increasingly confronted with. This is so because we are essentially vibration. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE Every time you feel fearful. By the same token. a topic that is in the media now almost daily. The Impact of Music Music has a considerable impact upon our unconscious and our psyche in general. the cello. similarly it reacts defensively to sounds which are ultra low frequency. such as the buzzing sounds around electric transformers. especially Baroque strong mu- sic and classical music. every time you doubt. a fact that was known to ancient healers in most ancient wisdom 161 . for our body reacts in alarming ways to both very short and very long waves.
It was for good reason always associated with angels. with the difference however that it was tuned in whole tones. Mozart or Beethoven. For example in ancient Greece. the music of Bach. for example. not men! Structurally balanced music has been shown to incor- porate the divine proportion in the composition. the Japanese Koto or the Chinese Zheng. this also is an important element that needs to be considered in the consideration of which music is beneficial for our organ- ism. For example. such as. the players of these magic instruments were women. Haydn. THE BETTER LIFE traditions. and especially the even older Renaissance Lute music exudes positive vibra- tions that foster inner harmony and balance in our psyche and body. Another instrument that has a very beneficial impact on our psyche and organism is the Harp. This is also and especially the case with music that was deliberately composed with the divine proportion in mind such as the music of Hildegard von Bingen. Tele- mann. And both in ancient Greece and today. the harp is most closely related to the ancient Lyre. a string instrument similar to the modern lute. It’s not only the instrument but also the music that is played on it. 162 . Vivaldi. the Lyre was used for healing. Handel. and with the invisi- ble strings of love! From the Gestalt. with strings aligned ver- tically that are plucked from the side.
It is a fact that music harmonizes our two brain hemispheres and 163 . Great music has a direct access to our soul! Without music there is no creation. It doesn’t vibrate together with our body’s frequency. and thus has no soul. and you will feel that the vibration affects your mind and body. our ‘inner strings. not digital. you don’t have to for you can explore the matter in a scientific manner. creativeness. for a digital instrument is deprived of overtones. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE It is very important in this context that the musical in- struments be acoustic. The ancient myth of Or- pheus conveys a very important message: the enchanting effect of music. a cello. and life is a cosmic dance! There is no better way for experiencing religious It is very important in ecstasy and contemplate this context that the wholeness than to use high- musical instruments quality music to get you in be acoustic. for all our universe is nothing but a gigantic musical instrument. if you never actually made the experiment. and ture into the realms of true thus has no soul. If you don’t believe it. in a way that may surprise you. and really listen to the sounds produced. and ven- of overtones. not digi- a trance-state that helps you tal. flute or a piano.’ Suffices to take a simple guitar. for a digital in- to surpass your conceptual strument is deprived thought interface. no life.
as I presented it above in this chapter. without using your rational thought interface. or water color. but you need to listen to the right music. and that it gives structure to our thoughts and emotions. markers. It is art that comes without a technique. for that matter. which means that everybody can do it. The most important in spontaneous art is that you create what comes to mind. The Spontaneous Artist Last not least. I propose an auto-therapeutic method I am working with since more than twenty years. so much the more as it’s a technique born in the East which has barely any connection with our own culture. If you choose music for guidance. THE BETTER LIFE coordinates them. crayons. you have chosen a powerful catalyzer. I won’t write more about this subject here. It’s difficult to ex- press this in language other than music itself which is of course a language. It has been called ‘spontaneous art. for it’s not for everybody to choose the direct way to heaven … and you need to develop your in- tuition for distinguishing good music from bad music. healing and creativ- ity boosting. 164 . gouache.’ some call it serendipity art. felt pens. you may not want to use progressive relaxation. and good vibrations from bad vibrations. Depending on your personal preferences. or whatever you prefer to express yourself with colors and forms. and an innate one. but music for getting you into a state of di- rect lucid awareness. you may not want to use meditation either. You just need paper.
historical world. When we say. and what you learned about great visual artists. a man has a free spirit. and leave behind all your preconceptions about art creation. There is thus no need that what you produce has any resemblance with outward reality. we are here for healing ourselves! That’s a marked difference in intention and that’s why you can relax and let go. Stein: Creative psychological development. timeless world from the secular. He knows he can move with unashamed 165 . in your art class. is dependent on spiritual freedom. We are not here for becoming great painters. mores and taboos of his culture? I think not. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE This means that you do not judge—this is very impor- tant! Forgot as much as possible what was told in school. He is a man who has clearly distinguished the sacral.’ In the words of psychiatrist Robert M. But it does mean the freedom to do anything or go any place he desires in the imaginal realm. the problem is to keep creat- ing like a child once one is grown up! said Picasso. indi- viduation. —Every child is an artist. do we mean that he freely or necessarily transgresses the imposed manners. The idea is to express your inner reality! Who says that our inner world is less real than the world around us ignores that fact that humans come with a unique faculty called the ‘imaginal realm. for example.
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dignity among the gods and demons which be-
long to the mundane world.
—Robert M. Stein, Redeeming the Inner Child in Marriage and
Therapy, in: Reclaiming the Inner Child, ed. by Jeremiah Abrams, New
York: Tarcher/Putnam, 1990, 261 ff., at 265
Spontaneous art is a way to exteriorize our inner im-
ages. Everybody can do that.
That’s why we are all born artists. We only have to let
go and do it.
There is no need to interpret the images, forms, sym-
bols or colors that will produce; the effect is therapeutic, a
direct expression of our subconscious mind. This is so be-
cause all what comes to the surface of consciousness loses
its negative energy and becomes positively transformed. In
reality, it’s our ego with its dualistic thinking, it’s splitting
off life in ‘good’ and ‘bad’ that creates inner tension. It’s
our inner war, the eternal struggle of self against self, so
deeply rooted in our cultural heritage.
Spontaneous art was known to sages, shamans and
healers around the world, since times immemorial.
The adaptation to norms and social rules we are all go-
ing through during our younger years is a dialectic process
in the sense that total adaptation would result in the loss of
individuality—we would become robots—whereas total
rebellion would lead us into a more or less painful state of
isolation from society that would equally not result in
happiness. Thus, a midway needs to be found between in-
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dividuality and adaptation to society, so that we can ex-
pand our individual vision of the world within the whole
of society, without transgressing the limits of the self and
interfering in the boundaries of others.
Rewrite Your Life
Writing bridges the conscious and the subconscious
mind. It is a psycho-neuromuscular activity and lit-
erally imprints the brain.
—STEPHEN R. COVEY, THE 8TH HABIT, 157
Rewriting your life is a neurointegrative process in that
your conscious mind interacts with your subconscious mind;
this interaction is astonishingly not limited to the time
spent in writing but has also an after-effect. It may well go
over the next 48 hours and even a few days. This is why
every writing session, when you write with your imagina-
tion engaged, is a process of restructuring your entire think-
ing process, and thereby an agent for healing.
In other words, writing makes order in your mind; by
putting words on things, events and feelings, you are rais-
ing your personal life to a cultured life, for culture is lan-
This is the reason why writing down your dreams con-
tributes to building self-awareness. Even more so, when
you rewrite your autobiography, you are changing the
framework of the ‘reactive psyche’ into a new framework
of ‘acting psyche.’ Let me explain.
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I wrote my autobiography at a time of inner turmoil
and deliberate change, in my thirties; it was around one
thousand pages and covered just the slice of time until age
33. In this text I had really undertaken a psychoanalysis
not only of each family member but also of the family ‘cli-
mate;’ and the result was totally disempowering.
I had painted my life entirely in black color, influenced
by the psychology of the 1960s and 70s that reduced all in
life to what we have experienced as a child, a psychology
that denied karma and personal responsibility by and
large. It was basically saying: ‘When you had a bad child-
hood, you can never have a good life.’
In this sense, this psychology was deterministic and
left little room for personal achievement if only one had a
Today we know that this psychology was mechanistic
as we are not driven by events suffered in childhood. Neu-
roscience has given us the proof in recent years that our
brain is incredibly flexible and has amazing plasticity for
our neuronet to be changed when there is a deliberate in-
tention to do so, and we act upon this intention. In addi-
tion, studying the lives of many highly successful people, I
found that they grew and grow through challenges, not
because they had ideal conditions at any time in their busy
lives. And busy they are, and even as children!
I realized that rewriting our autobiography is the way
to achieve this seemingly uncanny transformation.
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It doesn’t mean to cover up negative events or experi-
ences; it rather means to put the focus on the positive ones.
We all had and have both positive and negative experi-
ences in life. Research delivered the proof that people do
not grow into failures or successes because they had more
negative or more positive experiences in their lives, but
because they react differently upon those experiences.
In other words, there is a space between stimulus and
response, and there the people who are successful use this
space for giving meaning to the pain they experience,
while the others don’t.
What happens when we do that? We acknowledge that
life is a learning process and that often in life we learn
more through hardship than we do when everything runs
In addition, neuroscientists discovered that we remem-
ber negative events and experiences more readily than positive
ones. This is probably one of the reasons why our first
autobiographic sketch, especially when written in younger
years, is almost always one in which we try to blame par-
ents, teachers or ‘destiny’ for our shortcomings. In my own
case, I did not exercise at that time the ‘inner space’ that
would have shown me that my childhood had been a tre-
mendous learning experience that enriched and strength-
It was only more than twenty years later that I discov-
ered the positive benefits of ‘rewriting my life’ in the way I
present it now in this program.
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Q & A Session
Q. What are the ‘head’ and the ‘coin’ of Life Authoring?
A. It’s a metaphor for the fact that the relationship with
maintain with others reflects the relationship we have with
ourselves. In Antiquity this was called ‘Know Thyself.’
When this inner dialogue is constructive, we experience
inner coherence, which is something like an alignment
with the higher purpose of the universe. In other words,
there is a dialectic relationship between our inner reality
and the world around us.
Q. Why is dialogue of importance at all?
A. All human history teaches that at the beginning of
war there is a rupture of dialogue between the warring
states. On the inner level, it is important to embrace all our
emotions and integrate them. All the energies we disown
will turn against us. Hence the importance of a dialogue
with all our inner entities or energies.
Q. How would you define voice dialogue?
A. Voice dialogue is a method for getting in touch with
our inner selves. It requires us to get into the alpha state
through relaxation, for relaxation lowers our inner de-
fenses and makes are more focused on our inner processes.
Q. What are some of the things we can heal in the al-
A. We can heal childhood trauma, change or self-image
or reprogram ourselves positively.
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Q. Why do some people experience a ‘repetition urge?’
A. It’s an automatism of our brain and has to do with
the trauma response. When we experience trauma, our
brain always protects us by a response that releases the
emotional pain by substantially reducing conscious per-
ception of the event, and subsequently represses the
memories of it in the unconscious. This results in our sur-
viving the hurt sanely, but has the disadvantage that later
we will face a ‘repetition urge’ which means that our or-
ganism tries to repeatedly bring about a similar event in
order for us to react to it properly and thus gain the over-
Q. What happens in our luminous body when we ex-
perience traumatic events?
A. Imprints will be created in the luminous body. The
memory lapse or amnesia is only one effect; another is the
fact that such traumatic events leave in our luminous en-
ergy field an impression which causes our energy flow to
stagnate or turn negative with the result that our emo-
tional flow and balance are impaired.
Q. Can you name one well-known result of those im-
prints in our luminous body?
A. It’s the so-called ‘fear of life,’ a general fear or anxi-
ety that has no direct object.
Q. What may happen if imprints in our luminous en-
ergy field are not detected and healed?
In case physical or mental disease has set in. Q. in such a case. Q. Do we need a professional therapy or psychiatric counsel for doing that? A. key events from early childhood are suddenly remembered. it can be done in meditation or through the equivalent process of introspection. They may cause physical and mental illness and they also have an impact upon our sexuality and the way we handle our emotions. What is the best therapeutic approach for healing those imprints? A. THE BETTER LIFE A. and when we follow up to such keys we may detect the original event that led to the trauma response. Can you name a typical signal that healing is taking place? A. Typically. What kind of child is that inner child? 172 . Inner child. What is another term for the ‘younger self?’ A. It’s to revitalize the emotional flow. Q. at least as long as no somatization of such an imprint has taken place yet. which will restore inner har- mony and peace. Q. the vital energy flow of the entire organism. No. professional counsel is of course needed and recommended! Q.
How to deal with inner images? A. It’s the immense creativity of our inner child. These projections lead to sentimentality and falseness in the relationship. With most people in our culture. The inner child is badly needed for the creative process. and they are often the cause for divorce. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE A. with many people. dogma. We automatically create mental images about our- selves. and all crea- tors are aware of that in one way or the other. both in intimate relationships and in business relations. What is the one single most important influence of the inner child on us? A. However. thereby refreshing our perception. Its energy is still present in our psyche and we can establish a fruitful dialogue with this inner en- tity. and the world at large. and do not regularly destroy them. Q. the inner child has to be recovered first as it was silenced by the inner controller of the person. and authority. its youthful careless approach to convention. In relationships. these inner images can really have de- structive effects for they actually constitute projections. Q. other people. the inner child is in a state of catalepsy and needs not only to be re- covered. but also to be healed. It’s the child we have been in the past and that we have internalized. rules and regulations. conditioning. 173 . These images may condition us if we are not aware of them.
This 174 . Without interpreting dreams. war between concepts. How to bridge our subconscious mind? A. THE BETTER LIFE Q. we should capture their soul content. How has the idea of ‘heroic humans’ contribute to such kind of projections. as Joseph Campbell put it.’ the main quest of heroism is actually war. It’s the result of a patriar- chal bias that puts the male up as a superior entity that the female has to serve. The ‘hero culture’ is the result of the solar world- view. it’s a compensation for feelings of in- adequacy that are rampant in every ‘solar’ culture and which are the result of a harsh and insensitive education of children. One of the best ways is to remember and note down our dreams. in all its forms. as this leads to intel- lectual assumptions and projections. In its modern form. They al- ways speak in metaphors but we need to learn our ‘inner language’ in order to understand them intuitively. war be- tween nations. this patriarchal aspect is hidden. and what remains are huge pro- jections made upon certain people in the sentimental long- ing to ‘better human nature. war between worldviews. war between religions. and so on. Q. and their emotional content. and thereby to sentimentality and falseness in the public discussion about human qualities? A. It’s an eternally conflictual world- view that is often falsely justified by Darwin’s evolution- ary theory.’ Apart from the fact that hu- man nature is perfect as it is and doesn’t need to be ‘bet- tered. war of the sexes. however. as they are the language of our subconscious mind. In fact.
your question. typically only the most recent ones we be recall at the time of waking up. Q. typically going from the last to the first. dream recall steadily increases and after some time it may be possible to remember all the dreams of one night. However. through extended pe- riods of dreamwork. What is important physically for dream recall? A. which means that the best way to recall your dreams is to maintain your last sleeping position while 175 . the understanding of dreams comes with dreamwork practice over quite extended peri- ods of time. de- pending on your readiness to receive an answer. or later. Research has shown that the best time is to directly awaken after the dream rather than waiting until the morning to recall and note the dreams. in reverse order. shortly and clearly. You can address your inner mind at the moment of going to sleep and formulate. Q. How can the subconscious mind help you with your daily problems? A. You may get a response that night. one after the other. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE cannot be learnt in theory. while the earlier ones are forgotten. What is the best time for dream recall? A. What happens when we experience several REM phases (which are the dream phases) during the night. Research has shown that we recall dreams better when we adopt the same sleeping position in which they occurred. Q.
which is not the prayer we do in churches. In ancient times. Affirmative prayer has also been called ‘scientific prayer’ (Dr. It is our responsibility to choose good and constructive mu- sic for a positive impact upon us. To put paper and pen next to the bed. Q. and even our physical body? A. According to the type of music. In addition. mosques and synagogues. Q. What is the impact music has upon our psyche. Music is vibration as all in our universe is related to vibration. Music was also used for invoking ecstasy in religious ceremonies. Q. THE BETTER LIFE mentally rehearsing the dreams until you have embraced them safely by your rational mind. and have memorized them. is a creative response to life. Joseph Murphy) or ‘self-suggestion’ or ‘auto- suggestion. What is the best way of fostering dream recall? A. What is affirmative prayer? Are there any other terms to denote the same thing? A. every night. This is still today 176 . Then you get up and note them down. and its quality.’ I myself termed it ‘creative prayer’ because this kind of prayer. the vibration it has upon us may be positive or negative. and has a direct creative impact upon our life. music is a function of time and thus can put us in a sort of timeless state for as long as the mu- sic plays. and use this also during the night to at least jot down some memory hints to better recall dreams in the early morning. music was used for healing the body.
a part of life authoring? A. For having a good natural vibration. Research has shown that music has an impact even upon the human fetus. This leads to a restructuring of your entire thinking process. Rewriting your life is a neurointegrative process in that your conscious mind interacts with your subconscious mind. Q. Q. and as such has therapeutic value. AUTHOR YOUR LIFE the case to a certain extent when the church organ plays during the mass. next to writing essays and practicing creative prayer. 177 .’ and the technique of life authoring has given this truth a new form of expression. Why is spontaneous art. music should be played on acoustic. It serves the expression of our repressed emotions. and thereby is an agent for self-healing. not digital instruments. It is an old truth that ‘writing is healing. What does it mean to rewrite your life? A.
and I believe there is nothing more important for leading a life that is better than good. or even daring! Be it so. but wish the things which happen to be as they are. This chapter teaches you the value of autonomy. —EPICTETUS If you do not have children. do not think that this chap- ter bypasses you. for you can still apply the teaching to the relationship with your inner child. Chapter Six Parenting Toward Autonomy Seek not that the things which happen should hap- pen as you wish. it may all come over to you as uncanny. If you do have children. and you will have a tranquil flow of life. Why is this so? .
this symbiosis is time- bound and should gradually give rise to autonomy. In order to compensate for the lack of care bestowed upon the infant. symbiosis with the mother for a certain time is a biological necessity. eighteen months from birth. What happens is that the necessary biological symbio- sis with the mother. Let me explain. with its strong component of ‘child protection’ has gone very far astray. and actually has created a breeding lot for parent-child codependence. instead of building a gradu- ally larger extent of autonomy. as a guilt-reaction and for various other reasons. the post-symbiosis condition is not better for the child: instead of growing into autonomy most children in our culture grow into codependence with their parents and caretakers. many babies suffer from a more or less stringent tactile deprivation that will leave scars for their whole lives. is ne- glected for various reasons. it should gradually come to an end after that period. such as the human newborn. Unfortunately. parents tend to gradually 180 . sym- biosis and dependence. While for certain organisms. modern culture is more or less completely dysfunctional regarding this primal movement from fusion to autonomy that should take place. Without autonomy. THE BETTER LIFE Autonomy is the key to sustainable growth. and while this has never been questioned for the animal realm. dynami- cally. in the growth process of the human baby. While natural symbiosis is needed for the first eighteen months of the newborn. our modern educational paradigm. there is fusion. Autonomy is fundamental for every being in-growth.
These shifts don’t exist in real life as all growth is gradual and smooth. from childhood to youth and from youth to adulthood. even as late as when approaching puberty. PARENTING TOWARD AUTONOMY entangle their children in a tight net of stiffening depend- encies. Many parents ignore that ba- bies. a toddler of eighteen months needs more autonomy than a baby of five months. Sorry. their helpless. The frequently observed clinging behavior of modern city children. While it is a good thing to have certain initiation 181 . The first shift is believed to take place around seven years of age. toddlers and pre-schoolers. like the one from babyhood to childhood. This is why all education should be gradual and smooth. their immaturity in handling sharp or fragile objects such as knives or glasses show well their neurotic blockage and codependent entanglement with their parents. clumsy and irresponsible behavior. For exam- ple. or lacks affection and has become neurotic. already before reaching the age of primary school. There is a natural striving for autonomy built into every growing life. need to develop autonomy. A naturally raised child is typically more independent and more autonomous than a child who is rarely touched. A child of three years of age needs more autonomy than a child of fifteen months of age. the next one around twelve years of age and the final one around eighteen years of age. but this is really talking about myths. Many adults believe that children grew through magic shifts.
and smooth in time. There is a logic in every behavior and adolescents who put high stress on auton- omy have a reason to do so. I pass the mark stone. and the mark stone itself is of lesser importance than my passing it. nor do I belittle the marking shift from adolescence into final adulthood. My pass- ing the mark stone is gradual. We learn the basic movement into auton- omy during our first year of life. But often we observe that especially those adolescents who have rather repressive and possessive parents get onto the obnoxious track and really push it through for every mil- limeter of increased autonomy. in the years of babyhood. that I re- main moving. What is important is that I constantly grow. I touch the mark stone. and their sometimes passionate focus upon getting more autonomy. I arrive at a mark stone. THE BETTER LIFE rites or ceremonies that mark important steps in the growth of children. I do not belittle the important changes that take place in the life of adolescents. I use the follow- 182 . The reason is rooted in much earlier years. What is Parent-Child Codependence? Parent-Child Codependence frequently if not typically occurs within the modern nuclear family. these rites are what they are: mark stones that border an otherwise seamless road. and not later on during adolescence or when we allegedly turn into that magic world of adulthood. I remember the mark stone. I see the mark stone.
has been found to deeply condition people for their later relational behavior patterns. and of communication. and the like. while my own research fo- cuses on parent-child codependence and the resulting lack of autonomy in children. 183 . and gen- erally the tactile deprivation of the child. What is generally very little known is the fact that even before the completion of the 18th month of the infant. In other words. and also through non-physical elements such as parents’ thoughts con- stantly focused on money and status or children generally relegated to receiving affection from secondary caretakers. babysitters. The problem manifests in the parent-child relation typically for the first time after the critical mother-infant symbiosis. The major part of the literature deals with codepend- ence in the partner relation. house teachers. codependence is a compensation reac- tion of entangled organisms that tries to heal a split caused by a lack of early parent-child intimacy. and thus as a general rule after the first eighteen months of the newborn. or not. sec- ondary fusion. The entanglement paradoxically comes about through a lack of physical closeness. This early dialogue. PARENTING TOWARD AUTONOMY ing terms synonymously with codependence: co-fusion. mother and child are interacting in a subtle communica- tion about limits which reveals to what extent the mother is able and willing to give the infant autonomy. that is most of the time nonverbal. pseudo-fusion and symbiotoholism. typical for modern society.
THE BETTER LIFE The entanglement specifically comes about through lack- ing autonomy of the child. Prescott. Alexander Lowen and the outspoken teaching on the matter by the late child psychotherapist Françoise Dolto. thereby shunning their own perennial wis- dom that their grandparents still were knowledgeable about. These false signals lead to parents’ becoming more and more insecure as to the role physical affection plays in par- enting. This makes that parents are more or less constantly bombarded with ambiguous messages with the result that many of them anxiously retreat physically from their chil- dren. Yet in these societies today we face the problem in the middle and upper classes as well because they have adopted consumer values and a lifestyle that is modeled by the media. This has been shown with abundant evidence by the long-term research of James W. South American or Asian cul- tures. Fre- derick Leboyer. 184 . The problem of codependence is for obvious reasons much more stringent in the individualistic and separative modern consumer culture than in highly sociable ‘open’ societies such as African. loneliness and despair. Michel Odent. thereby enclosing them in atrocious feelings of aban- donment. and of lacking exposure to experi- ences and a social life outside of the family. There are many false signals in today’s popular culture and vulgarized psychological publications. Ashley Montagu.
of the time and care needed for developing his true intelligence. so to speak. the son bears the cross. Autonomy is a Biological Function That autonomy is a biological function may sound as- tonishing and novel in the ears of psychologists. PARENTING TOWARD AUTONOMY As a result of the misguided 1960s American pediat- rics. which was one 185 . Men who grow up entangled with their mothers are caught in a net of stiffening responsibilities. The result is that they hardly think their projects through to the end. or what is felt as such. but sys- tems research has clearly brought to daylight that auton- omy is built into the very structure of living systems. many of today’s parents have never had an affec- tionate childhood themselves and become dysfunctional parents of their own children. for the sins committed by his mother. or obligations. Another important insight into mother-child codepend- ence is that it deprives the child. In this sense. that fostered a physical separation between parents and child which in the meantime is seen as a fundamental error. It’s thus not just an add-on to a modern education that pre- vents parent-child emotional entanglement. typically the boy. constantly harassed by their demanding moth- ers. and minding their own business. threatened with love denial or even financial starving in case they disobey and begin to live their own lives. which impedes them from really thinking of themselves.
Like the cell as a whole. In this way the network continually makes itself. I need first eluci- date what autopoiesis is. It is produced by its components and in turn pro- duces those components. or ‘self-making. the membrane. the most important of those organelles are the storage sacs. —Fritjof Capra.’ which are analogous to our body organs. The Web of Life (1996). the nucleus and the organelles are surrounded by semipermeable membranes that select what comes in and what goes out. recycling centers. and solar stations. 186 . Autopoiesis can best be explained with the functional unit of a plant cell. The cell membrane.’ According to sys- tem researchers Humberto Maturana and Francisco Varela. There are the basic components. the key characteristic of a living network is that it continu- ally produces itself. In order to explain the why and how. takes in food and dissipates waste. the nucleus and several spe- cialized parts called ‘organelles. in his book The Web of Life (1976) calls it ‘the pattern of life. the nutrient fluid. THE BETTER LIFE of the flaws of authoritarian education with its unhealthy codependence between caretaker and child. powerhouses. 162. Autopoiesis. Fritjof Capra.’ is a network pat- tern in which the function of each component is to participate in the production or transforma- tion of other components in the network. in particular.
and one law of life. This organiza- tional closure implies that a living system is self-organizing in the sense that its order and behavior are not imposed by the environment but are established by the system itself. then. This is so because there is only one life. and jump ahead to page 167 of the book. so do children. This does not mean that they are isolated from their environment. is seen as the pattern underlying the phe- nomenon of self-organization. PARENTING TOWARD AUTONOMY I will now skip all further explanations about the func- tionality of the living cell. (Id. Autopoiesis. In other words. even though it is open with regard to the flow of energy and matter. The growth of a cell can be mirrored in the growth of a human baby. 167-168).. where Fritjof Capra writes: Since all components of an autopoietic network are produced by other components of the net- work. And as living systems need autonomy for healthy growth. that is so characteristic of all living systems. which unites all phenomena that we can observe about life. What is true inside the cell is true in outward life. living systems are autonomous. But this interac- tion does not determine their organiza- tion—they are self-organizing. the entire system is organizationally closed. or autonomy. they interact with the environment through a continual ex- change of energy and matter. On the contrary. This is something not read- 187 .
what are you going to do with the raising of your children. and how will you cope with their budding sexuality? (In the Bibli- ography you find enlightening literature about this issue that is so much a problem in our morality-based culture). and in this sense. right? 188 . The late French child therapist Françoise Dolto (1908- 1988) has stressed how important it is to grant children autonomy. THE BETTER LIFE ily understood in modern consumer culture. auton- omy means freedom. codependence with our caretakers means bondage and emotional manipula- tion. over the entire period of their growing up. and thus do you want to have them what you want to enjoy for yourself? I am asking that for is you put a categorical No here. Now. But to not complicate matters. First of all. virtually from infancy over adolescence into adulthood. which may be novel for you. which is why I have set out to write about it. our dialogue about this matter does not even start. let me ask: do you want your children have a life that is better than good. The scars of lacking autonomy in childhood are real and difficult to heal. from early on. let us discuss the prob- lem here in its more general perspective. after you got this information about the roots of emotional abuse. Our behavior is strongly condi- tioned by our feeling of freedom. while the contrary.
Without autonomy. Unfortunately. modern culture is more or less com- pletely dysfunctional regarding this primal movement from fusion to autonomy that should take place. the post-symbiosis condition is not better for the child: instead of growing into auton- omy most children in our culture grow into codependence 189 . thus autonomy is fundamental for every being-in-growth. While for certain organisms. it should gradually come to an end after that period. as a guilt-reaction and for various other reasons. What is going wrong in modern times with the edu- cation of the small child? A. such as the human newborn. All life strives to be autonomous. This is a simple biological truth. sym- biosis and dependence. Q. this symbiosis is time- bound and should gradually give rise to autonomy. While natural symbiosis is needed for the first eighteen months of the newborn. eighteen months from birth. in the growth process of the human baby. Why is autonomy the key for sustainable growth? A. there is fusion. symbiosis with the mother for a certain time is a biological necessity. In order to compensate for the lack of care bestowed upon the infant. is ne- glected for various reasons. many babies suffer from a more or less stringent tactile deprivation that will leave scars for their whole lives. dynami- cally. What happens is that the necessary biological symbio- sis with the mother. PARENTING TOWARD AUTONOMY Q & A Session Q.
parents tend to gradually entangle their children in a tight net of stiffening dependencies. instead of building a gradually larger extent of autonomy. or lacks affection and has become neurotic. THE BETTER LIFE with their parents and caretakers. clumsy and irresponsible behavior. 190 . It’s one of the most hidden problems of our time yet it has disastrous consequences for people’s ability to handle their emotions and their sexual attraction. The lack of primary symbiosis later on leads to parent-child codependence which is one of the most strin- gent and yet almost unknown problems in child rearing today. The frequently observed clinging behavior of modern city children. It also leads to domestic violence with men later in life who have been raised by narcissistic and codepend- ent mothers. What is parent-child codependence? A. and in the average case leads to a perversion of the sexual response in the later adult. even as late as when approaching puberty. their immaturity in handling sharp or fragile objects such as knives or glasses show well their neurotic blockage and codependent entanglement with their parents. The result is a host of complications in the natural process of child rearing which can in extreme cases result in autism and psychosis. Q. A naturally raised child is typically more independent and more autonomous than a child who is rarely touched. and codependent partner relations. their helpless.
Systems research has clearly brought to daylight that autonomy is built into the very structure of living sys- tems. It’s thus not just an add-on to a modern education that prevents parent-child emotional entanglement. codependence with our caretakers means bondage and emotional manipula- tion. In this way the network continually makes itself (Fritjof Capra). The growth of a cell can be mirrored in the growth of a human baby. which means ‘self-making’ and is a network pattern in which the function of each component is to participate in the produc- tion or transformation of other components in the network. autonomy means freedom. so do children. Our behavior is strongly conditioned by our feeling of freedom. This is something not read- ily understood in modern consumer culture. while the contrary. The scars of lacking autonomy in childhood are real and difficult to heal. PARENTING TOWARD AUTONOMY Q. and in this sense. which was one of the flaws of authoritarian education with its unhealthy codependence between caretaker and child. which is why I have set out to write about it. 191 . Why can we say that autonomy is a biological func- tion? A. And as living systems need autonomy for healthy growth. Living systems are characterized by autopoiesis.
for you would have the things which are not in your power to be in your power. Chapter Seven Making Friends If you would have your children and your wife and your friends to live forever. What is the reason. to win people over . and the things which belong to others to be yours. you are silly. but to make friends. our behavior. our character. —EPICTETUS You have certainly observed that there are people who have dozens of friends. do you think? Could it be chance? Or is it likely to be something within us. and others who have only a few. our attitude? Is there something like a win- ning attitude? When I say ‘winning’ I do not mean to make money. at least not primarily.
These fears most often are hidden to us as they have their origin in early childhood experiences that we don’t remember. For this present book it suffices to show you the general attitude and to help you activate your subconscious mind for de- veloping an attitude that attracts others to you. when spending time with others. It is something like a composite of different traits of character. such as for example Jack Welsh. or in simply commu- nicating with others. In that sense. Why is that so? Is it charisma? I would say such a talent cannot be easily put in a sin- gle word. While Jack Welsh is not an easy character but a man with firm principles in place. or being around others. 194 . Many of us experience some or the other form of anxiety in the group setting. so to speak. Right now you may not be very successful in attracting friends. You may want to analyse this further. They are the reason for the widespread habit to drink alcohol when be- ing at a party. But even though these fears are not consciously remembered they are well registered in our unconscious. he does attract many friends and associates. you see that there is well something like radi- ance. the former CEO of General Electrics. or ex- changing with others outside of the strict business setting. do you think there are winning people? When you read the biographies or auto- biographies of people who have built large networks. THE BETTER LIFE to you. you may even be somebody who repels others and who has a tendency to withdraw from others and stay in your little corner.
There is quite definitely a finite point of no-return for everyone when the intake of alcohol brings about negative behaviors. she insisted that we continued standing around with other people and chat in that setting. to me at a party that I experi- so to speak. for one. Why is that so? The reason is quite obvi- ous. I respected that but there was a moment when in a jok- ing manner I was slightly touching her cheek with my in- 195 . those we all try not primarily. the more I do not mean to of your subconscious behav. make money. but the pattern is the same. To give make friends. or just two beers for another. will surface. there are limits set by respect. enced a deep sympathy for the photographer. In- stead. tact and attitude. It may be after one bottle of wine or two bottles of wine. but to to hide. She was an attractive young woman full of life and humor. The more you sink into When I say ‘winning’ the alcoholic trance. MAKING FRIENDS Many of our leisure activities are habitually tainted by the intake of alcohol. While this is not per se negative. but I observed that she did not want us to sit down and develop a more intimate conversation. It is individu- ally very different. It once occurred people over to you. to win an example. at least ior patterns. I began to drink with her and we had lots of sub- jects to talk about.
Needless to add that I avoided going there again. how did I cope with this problem? I gave myself a prayer. THE BETTER LIFE dex finger. My relationships now improve every day and I give thanks for the joy of the answered prayer. requesting forgiveness. But she to burst out aloud: —Stop touching me. she was invited as a photographer. What was even more embarrassing as a result was that for all the parties with that organiza- tion. I now send all the people I know a message of peace and harmony. My sub- conscious mind is now free and healed from any condi- tion that may have caused this behavior. I forgive myself to have been disrespectful toward others in this mental condition. so I would see her time and again if I went to the next meeting. to make a long story short. I know that my natural state of mind is sobri- ety and a respectful attitude. I know that my inner mind guides me in clarity of mind. inner harmony and sobriety. 196 . I wish to have peaceful. You are really not a gentleman! I was apologizing and felt bad about myself. I knew that without the three glasses of white wine I would not have done this gesture. It was really an unobtrusive kind of touch that nobody around even realized. Here it is: The infinite intelligence within me now heals any an- tagonism I may have stirred in myself and in others when communicating in the drunk state. and thus lost a good opportunity to bond with others. harmonious and constructive relationships. From my innermost being. Now.
for I al- ways get the question ‘What is it that tells me that the prayer was received by my subconscious mind?’ It is exactly this inner peace and a certain cut with the past that you feel through a certain ‘distance’ toward the memories that even just shortly before the prayer were still active in your conscious mind. Suddenly you will feel di- rectly or some time after reciting the prayer that you have taken a mental and emotional distance. This was exceptional. let us ask what are winning relation- ships? I shortly mentioned the definition that Jack Welsh 197 . I did not feel any desire for eating or drinking. a beneficial retreat from the memories that were in the way of making peace. and that is why I mention it here. MAKING FRIENDS Right after writing down the prayer. all the nagging antagonism with three dif- ferent people was gone and there was a positive sensation when I was thinking about them. It showed me that the prayer had its effect. Then I had a little nap and felt very peaceful inside. I felt happy in this sober state of mind. Your subconscious mind is the source of infinite riches! To summarize. for you will not want to miss out on the many benefits that it brings. and peaceful inside. This is actually an astonishing process. you will never abandon positive prayer. Suddenly. I went into a re- laxed state and repeated it so often that I got to know it by heart. Once you have gone through that once.
the prayer method worked better than any book ad- vice. THE BETTER LIFE gave to the expression ‘Winning. However.’ You can’t simply replace it by ‘Succeeding Busi- ness Relations’ for that sounds academic or old-fashioned. tell your subconscious mind in form of a prayer that you value people who are in business and that you would like to at- tract to you as many as you can. It fur- ther says that their collaboration brings about synergy and that there is an outcome that is more than the sum of the parts. —That in the relationship both are winning. One of the first on the market. there are specialized publications that teach how to make friends and win people over to you. It says that both business people who relate to each other. I must confess that for me person- ally.’ title of one of his books. But I think the expression has a twofold sense when it is used as an adjective. Now let us have a closer look. So there is an interesting double sense. I think almost everybody agrees that winning means succeeding. are winning. that there is a mutually profitable bond between them. and one of the best for that matter. doesn’t it? The term ‘winning’ means: —That the relationship is one that succeeds. If you wish to have winning business relations. Of course. is Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People (1936/1998). except you com- mand it so. 198 . Note that there are no lim- its known to your subconscious mind. like ‘Winning Business Re- lations.
and we are receiving vibrations from others. How would you define a winning attitude? Do you think there is a reason why some people have dozens of friends. Please give yourself the answer. How does the name of ‘Jack Welsh’ resonate with you. Q. We are send- ing out vibrations. impact negatively on relationships. This is could be called the mindset of a leader. but even if a person is not an acknowledged leader and lives a rather solitary life. and some have only a few? A. as our thought and emotions are also vibra- tional in nature. for even if we are unaware of doing so. Now. which are vibra- tions of acceptance and self-acceptance. especially new relationships? 199 . We do not need to talk for doing so. we do it as a matter of the fact that we are vibrational organ- isms living in a vibrational universe. and of what does it remind you? A. Thus we can actually not interfere in this process of send- ing out vibrations. of adequacy. and our intentions. of refrain from judgment and of intentional synergy. even in the party setting. This is an ongoing process. How can alcohol. and even our attitude. MAKING FRIENDS Q & A Session Q. Q. that person can well have a winning attitude. a winning attitude is the one a person has who sends out positive vibrations to others. We are living in a universe of resonance.
while with friends. and consistency first of all. an alcohol-induced attitude has a more se- verely negative effect on new relationships because trust is still fragile in those. much to the contrary is it quite astonishing that a man who is famed for being ‘a tough boss’ and who can act out ruthlessly if the company requires it. around the world. It reveals that the acceptance of a person doesn’t re- quire him (or her) to please people. and that you are competent in your field of expertise. 200 . you may more easily slip into the informal mode without negatively affecting the relationship. a too casual conver- sation where you should have a more formal approach. It means that what people really want. when you are on a common foot. is respected so much and even highly popular. it may have a negative effect on you in the sense that you may slip into the wrong tone. THE BETTER LIFE Alcohol reduces sensitivity and lowers our moral re- straint. It also may lead you to judge emotionally in the sense to focus only a certain peo- ple at the party and neglect presenting yourself to others. It is an approach in which you come over as ‘solid’ and ‘unshaken. What does a closer look at ‘Winning’—title of one of Jack Welsh’s bestselling books—reveal? A. or into non-desired confidentiality.’ and even stoic to a certain extent. Last not least. is a straight and trustworthy attitude. Q.
both physical and mental. like a bloated stomach. Joseph Murphy reports the following anecdote: . a hankering for more lamb and lamblike delicacies. say a plate of roast lamb with all the trimmings. 188. to push the meter into the positive zone. or. FOREWORD BY DANIEL KLEIN In his book The Power of Your Subconscious Mind (1963/ 2001). putting a person back in the po- sition of the perpetually frustrated individual for whom enough is always too little. One could argue that the absence of pain brings a person up to only zero on the happiness scale. worse in the long run. —EPICURUS. Chapter Eight Habit of Happiness Epicurus defined happiness as the absence of pain. But Epicurus would shoot back that the pleasure of eating lamb has all kinds of future pains attached to it. and this raises some fas- cinating questions for the philosophically minded of every era. more is required. THE ART OF HAPPINESS.
‘Every morning when I awaken and every night before I go to sleep. It was only after I studied the lifestyle of tribal peoples that I became gradually aware that their happiness is not derived from ‘having’ or ‘not 202 .’ This farmer had made a practice of this for over forty years.’ he replied. THE BETTER LIFE A number of years ago. and I thank God for the wonderful harvest. One reason why I included this chapter is to find out why. Fact is that there are many rich and wealthy people who are unhappy. thoughts repeated regularly and systematically sink into the subconscious mind and become habitual. Have you ever thought what happiness really is? Is it satisfaction of desire? Is it the feeling to have plenty? Does happiness derive from being rich and wealthy? I believe it is not difficult to answer these questions. to give rich and wealthy people a reason for being happy. It was for me. it’s a habit with me. He discovered that happiness is a habit. As you know. I stayed for about a week in a farmer’s house in Connemara on the west coast of Ireland. for almost twenty years. and then. ‘Sure. the crops. I asked him the secret of his hap- piness. the cattle. what about poor people? Are they happier? That’s a comfortable myth. My host seemed always to be singing and whistling and was full of good humor. If many rich people are not happy. I bless my family. And more than a reason. (Emphasis mine).
It is certainly not a happy state of being. I feel like life is nagging me. Many of us wish to change the world. what is a happy state of being? Let us look at small innocent children. even if they are in the midst of war and civil war.’ Erich Fromm explicates this bril- liantly in his book ‘To Have or To Be. ignoring by and large the good things. be it love. look are not happy. HABIT OF HAPPINESS having’ but from ‘being. Why is that so? If many rich people To answer this question.’ this world of injustice and violence. I feel betrayed in a way. Are we not perceiving their happiness in their presence. Why are they happy? They are carefree. What we do is to focus That’s a comfortable on the ‘bad things’ out there. of intolerance. myth. be it a decent job.’ When I feel deprived of anything. the positive 203 . And it’s exactly this striving for ‘bettering’ creation that robs us of our innate happiness. We wish to make it a better place.’ The state of ‘not having’ is not equal to the state of ‘be- ing. not burdened with the strange ways of the world: they simply accept the world. Now let us ask then. their ability to play with whatever they have in hand. they are basically happy. this ‘bad world. is it not infectious? When we look at them. this world of oppression and perse- cution. what at what we do when we have about poor people? come to that point of activ. Are they happier? ism. even if in their real environment chaos and disaster reign.
We all know that the world is both bad and good. at p. they are basically happy. they cannot reason this out. are looking at the world in a one- sided manner. THE BETTER LIFE stuff. we see that our quest for happiness is truly spiritual. Their perception of the world is not yet fragmented as the perception of most con- ditioned adults. But those—and I was among them for decades—who wish to make the world a better place. When we perceive life and the world in a complete fash- ion. Irvine writes in his book A Guide to the Good Life: The Ancient Art of Stoic Joy (2009). This consciousness is based upon perception. overlook- ing what is well perfect—namely nature! Even though man has erred quite substantially over the ages. for such a statement is way too general and restricted in per- spective. They look at what is not perfect. but perception is not only sensual but also extrasensual and metasensual. is quite short-sighted. situations. not just with our five senses. those idle heroes. and yet. depending on our look at it. and that for that very reason the focus upon material things. there is a consciousness in the human being that is evolving. To judge that life on earth is such and such then reveals to be a perception error. and circum- stances. Children do not know that. 74: 204 . Happiness really is related to this unlim- ited and unfragmented perception of what-is. William B. it’s derived from the holistic and non-dualistic perception of what-is.
Not only that. 205 . ideologies and doctrines that judge and deny instead of accepting and embracing. luckily so. The answer is difficult to give. when large parts of what we perceive is dis- carded out as ‘negative content’ and thereby suppressed from conscious awareness. but they aren’t yet sure how the world works: Perhaps the things they have today will mysteriously vanish tomorrow. the world is wonderfully new and sur- prising. through its religions. And man really has come up with all and everything to distort perception. What we can learn from the question is that somehow human beings are programmed to be non-judgmental and open-minded. It seems to me that this kind of distortion of perception is at the root of unhappiness in the human. Happy children do not know about religions. of course. Unhappiness sets in when content is censored by the conscious self. ideolo- gies and the hundred doctrines that deny life instead of accepting it. As long as they haven’t build a defense shield in their character. Now. it seems that humans are basically happy. It is hard for them to take something for granted when they can’t even count on its con- tinued existence. HABIT OF HAPPINESS One reason children are capable of joy is be- cause they take almost nothing for granted. To them. They ignore all of this burden. we may ask further why this is so.
for they are bound to suffer the ‘cultural burden.’ having lost their childlike innocence and being exposed to all the cultural madness of modern man.’ thereby setting culture against nature. It will bring us conflict then. when we live in a cultural paradigm. which is the intelligence of our emotions. for after all we are nature. the age of seven. that is by and large founded upon a distorted perception of nature. Children are happy because they do not allow a cul- tural paradigm to mutilate their emotional integrity. THE BETTER LIFE Some scholars call this burden ‘culture. children are happy for a reason—however not Reason written with a capital R. But when the cultural paradigm is hostile to our imbeddedness in nature. it will bring us collective men- tal illness instead of sanity of mind. consciously banning chaotic and psy- chopathological behavior. Hence. So in a way. we are at pains to be happy. 206 . This is a conundrum as culture is supposed to bring us relief and development. While an emotionally intelligent culture of course is embedded in nature and not against nature. the hyper-rational idea that situates the human above nature’s innate intelligence. that is. but this changes when children grow beyond the ‘age of rea- son’ (Piaget). such as patriarchy. it’s supposed to bring us closer to civilized behavior. it will bring us distorted percep- tion of natural phenomena. Adolescents are very often unhappy people. then that culture can’t possibly bring us relief.
as most 207 . While fundamentalist religions all de- clare being wealthy to be a major sin. you are actu- scious self. let me state here that there is no conflict between begin wealthy and being happy. it’s surely not those religions who hold the truth in their hands. I want to convey that you have enough for basic needs to be met. when you sored by the con- are wealthy. nature Unhappiness sets in is even wasteful. more. And nature is wealthy. on one hand. when your thereby suppressed religion is money and ac- from conscious cumulating money. famous and celebrated. As this sounds highly paradoxical. tive content’ and However. not against it. nature is abundant. that you do not suffer from major restrictions. Part of your unhappiness might be the impend- ing insight that you have enough for being happy. when ally in alignment with the large parts of what cosmic order. HABIT OF HAPPINESS As this chapter is not addressed to adolescents but to adults. when content is cen- That’s why. let me explain what I mean. and yet unhappy. but nature. and actually to those of you who are rich and wealthy. on the other. When I say that you have enough for being happy. without awareness. you are actually bar- ring yourself from receiv- ing more. but not enough for being happy. we perceive is dis- as those religions tend to carded out as ‘nega- tell you.
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people do in this world. You have your basic needs met,
your family does, your children do.
But on the other hand, you do not have enough for be-
ing happy means that you do foster an illusion which says
that if only you had more of the same—more money, more
riches, a bigger bank account, more inflow of resources,
you would be more happy.
Let’s acknowledge that you would be more content,
that you would certainly feel safer in your overall world-
view, you would surely be more comfortable in your skin.
But does that mean you would also be more happy? It
could well mean that you will be less happy than ever be-
fore. Why is that so?
Well, it could well mean that you realize that true hap-
piness is after all not the result of safety, but of being care-
free, that it’s not so much a matter of satisfaction but of
dissatisfaction, that it’s not the fact you can ‘buy into’ such
and such leisures that attributes to your happiness, but
rather the fact that you are free of those leisures altogether.
Have you been to refugee camps, or watched any films
about them? If you ever did, you may have observed how
happily in those camps children jump and dance around
the place, despite the utterly destitute condition of their
Children don’t care about their parents being destitute,
but they do care for being loved! And perhaps, as a matter
of fact, people in camps, because they have nothing to do
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to earn a living, have more time for their children, and
express their love for them more freely, which could be the
explanation why you see those scenes over and over on
television, while this very fact may puzzle you. You may
indeed ask why you are not as happy as them, and you
may search for answers.
The questions produce the answers. Have you ever in-
quired why there are questions and answers?
I did so, as early as in high school, and came up with
an uncanny concept. I said in my foolish youth that an-
swers are the direct result of questions and that, for that
matter, what really counts are the questions, not the an-
I was not that foolish after all as it turned out that later
other people had the same view, people of fame and re-
nown, like quantum physicists. They kept saying that the
result of an experiment is pretty much the outcome of the
setup of the experiment.
In other words, the observer in that experiment has to
be accounted for, and cannot be wiped under the carpet of
‘scientific objectiveness.’ It has a very precise impact upon
the observation in that it manipulates its outcome accord-
ing to the general mindset of the observer, not just his sci-
entific opinions, but his overall life paradigm.
So nature actually turned out to behave differently when
being observed by different people. This was of course one of
the many paradoxes of quantum physics to be revealed to
us in the last fifty or more years.
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We invariably feel puzzled when we first hear about it.
We are shaken in our common assumptions, in our phleg-
matic sides taken for this or the other option in life. We are
pro-morality but need to heed the advice of nature that life
is inherently anti-morality or rather, it bears its own moral-
ity which is different from ours in that it is not coercive, in
that it is not based upon judgmental views, in that it is ac-
cepting all life, and all desire. Hence, it is inclusive, not ex-
To conclude, one matter does infringe upon your hap-
piness: it is judgmental thinking and resulting actions tar-
geting at discarding out people or situations from your life.
The secret to happiness is permissiveness, a mindset that
refrains from judging others and life, a mindset that em-
braces all possible situations, a mindset that accepts life
rather than judging it.
Now let us ask how to build such a mindset? Is it a he-
roic task to change one’s mindset? It is. It is not easy, really.
It is not something most people would want to do. It is not
something encouraged by the mass media either, quite to
It is something only a few select people can do because
it requires a stoic attitude and a lot of persistence. But you
can do it for improving your life, and for being more
happy. You can become non-judgmental in your overall view
of the world and of people. The Bible is rather explicit
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‘Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what
judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with
what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to
Judging is an attitude that is defensive and that cuts
relationships short. For relationships to develop, smooth-
ness and lightness of touch are needed. Relations can’t be
forced, nor do they develop when there is no mutual inter-
est. What is needed is simply involvement. When you are
involved with others, relations develop as a matter of time
and as a result of mutual interest and motivation.
The motivation for bonding often but not exclusively is
a consequence of shared interests, or at least one common
But commonality is not all there is to build good rela-
tionships. People are reported to be friends for years and
decades who have no interests in common and are rather
different characters. So why are they friends?
Because there is motivation on either side for a friend-
ship, for reasons that may be not consciously reflected
upon, such as shared karmic roots and experiences.
But this is not all. As I already pointed out at the be-
ginning of this chapter, by quoting Dr. Joseph Murphy, an
authority on the matter of handling our subconscious
mind, we must see to making happiness a habit. How to do
that? Logically so, for making something a habit, you first
of all need to choose it. You must choose happiness over
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unhappiness, which means you must sincerely desire to be
happy. As Dr. Joseph Murphy writes on page 194 of his
Nothing is accomplished without desire. Desire
is a wish with wings of imagination and faith.
Imagine the fulfillment of your desire, feel its
reality, and it will come to pass. Happiness
comes in answered prayer.
But how is it that some people are happy and others
not, independently of their fortunes and their status in life?
As we have already seen, happiness requires you to be
tolerant toward yourself, to suspend judgment about oth-
ers as much as you can and to build peace of mind. We can
say that happiness is a fruit of peace of mind; when your
mind is focused upon peace, poise, security and constant
inner guidance, you will experience happiness, for it’s an
inner state, independent of all of your conditions and cir-
cumstances. As we have seen, external reality is not causa-
tive, as the cause is in our way of thinking.
Q & A Session
Q. Have you ever thought what happiness really is?
Why do you think many rich and wealthy people are un-
A. You may be aware already that you cannot buy
happiness and you may have observed that there are some
millionaires who are happy, and others not. You may have
thus in a state of ‘To Be’ that person is also happy. it’s an oversimplification of what he wrote in his critique of capitalism. but that happiness is an inner quality. but the state of their inner minds. and that among singles it’s the same. However. These observa- tions may logically have brought you to the conclusion that outside circumstances are not making people happy or unhappy. You may also have seen that some married people are happy and others are not. and it’s not what Karl Marx said in his books. Are poor people happier than rich people? A. what they think and hold as true on a daily basis. Q. What did Erich Fromm mean with the dichotomy of ‘To Have or To Be?’ A. but all of material things are temporary. it is a comfort- able myth to believe that poor people are happier than the rich. HABIT OF HAPPINESS observed the same among the poor. To say the least. But it’s really an illusion. when a person is solely focused upon material things. For many of us who are close to communist or so- cialist parties. as it was for me in my youth. and thus in a state of ‘To Have’ the person will be at pains to achieve happiness for he or she will be constantly sidetracked by their material wishes and the satisfaction of those wishes. It’s not any political system that makes people happy or unhappy. but it’s the striving of our inner self to be true and authentic. And something that is temporary cannot rea- 213 . He basically emphasized that when a person is authentic. Q.
That is why we need to deliberately choose happi- ness by sincerely wishing to be happy. not just at your birthday party. However. we can’t be carefree to that point any- more. not upon conscious choice. especially small children who haven’t yet been conditioned by school? A. Their happiness is so strong that it tol- erates imperfection in their lives. Why are children happy. when our awareness is reflective about our choices in life. It’s something spontaneous. What is the one single attitude and behavior that robs us of our innate happiness? 214 . This is because children’s happiness is a result of their carefreeness. so that we can be happy. Q. Q. and aston- ishingly. including the imperfec- tion of their parents. as adults. This is how you will achieve happiness in your profession. They are happy when they play and they are properly cared for. you need to be authentic and you need to be con- nected to your soul values. many children are even happy when not being properly cared for. The happiness of children can be called carefreeness. it is by doing what you really love. what you are truly interested in and what brings you deep satisfaction when you do it. but for this true happiness to build. You want to be happy over longer periods of time. Children do not consciously choose happiness because they are not mature enough to re- flect about what happiness possibly is. THE BETTER LIFE sonably bring something about that you want is long- lasting.
as a result of those circumstances. Everything changes. funding. to say that life is not good enough. Q. there is one single characteristics of life: it is change. The world changes by itself. that life is de- pendent on political systems and other exterior circum- stances. ideologies and doctrines that judge life contributed to humanity’s happiness.. that creation is faulty and needs to be improved. cultures change. Do you wish to make the world a better place? What is the essential fallacy of such an intention? A. influence. good connections. When you want to change the world. conditions. government support. not only the weather. Have religions. and that. and so forth. you behave like Don Qui- jote. and the world at large. and you are fighting against windmills. It directs our focus upon the outside world.). free time. etc. relationships change. and the way we fuel and energize them with your recurrent emotions. and you do that by accepting change. and robs us from focus- ing upon the content of our thoughts. people change. HABIT OF HAPPINESS A. or rather to our collective predicament? 215 . It is to judge ourselves. and it is today war and tomorrow peace. alloca- tions. to judge life. you get to accept yourself. money. Q. When you get to accept the world. one cannot possibly be happy without this or that (high posi- tion. circum- stances. others.
Why. but all strong emotions that are not balanced by a poised attitude will interfere with your desire to be happy. but a lot with the parents. finan- cial matters. Every imbalance. greed puts the ‘to have’ response prior to the ‘to be’ response. It is less to do with the children. and that’s why they interfere with happiness for they pull you out of your center. where their material wellbeing is cared for? A. paradoxically. They have made it only worse and they continue this negative influence upon our peoples. Greed is an excessive form of acquisitiveness. It is also a response that comes straight from the ego. societies and life at large to this very day. thus distorting the natural way to react. Many parents in normal circumstances of daily life put too much focus upon acquisitiveness. Without having observed that as yet. without the participation of our higher self and as such an imbalanced attitude. you may want to be watchful to find out how a particular focus on anything may interfere with a worldview that is basically balanced and that thus represents what Buddha called ‘the middle way. To paraphrase Erich Fromm. instead of put- 216 .’ All extremes bring harm to your mind and soul. Q. How can greed interfere with happiness? A. Q. I think the answer is obvious. parents and children may be more happy in their relationship when they are removed from daily strain and live sheltered in refugee camps. not only greed. per se. health issues and what more. THE BETTER LIFE A.
Answers create the illusion of being definitive. and one nation against another. Most people are stuck when be- ing focused on answers. Judgmental thinking has led to war and civil war everywhere in the world. Q. it brings one religion up against another. and they will realize how much that contributes to their happiness. How has judgmental thinking interfered with our collective happiness? A. it has fueled the crusades.’ Q. while if they focused on the ques- tions instead. while in reality they are not. In which sense are questions more important than answers? A. they will have their minds free to see and feel the importance of their daily bonding with their children. one race against another. and cu- riosity is the most important for personal evolution for it leaves the door to the unknown open. In this sense ques- tions are much more important than answers for they keep us ‘on our hunger’ while answers too easily (and danger- ously) keep us ‘satisfied. In a situation where parents are by circumstance removed from being responsible for material welfare. HABIT OF HAPPINESS ting the relationship with their children first. But usually only very highly edu- cated people realize that. All religions to this very day have fostered judgmental thinking and that is why they are so destructive and why they foster separa- 217 . they would realize that questions do not block inquiry as answers do but keep you curious.
something they regard in their ignorance as the ‘natural state’ of the human being. People who are in this state of inner war are unable to make peace with others. it has created the idea of self-righteousness. it is based upon the insight that it is destructive to judge ourselves. and the domina- tion of nature. and moralistic education that brings people into an inner conflict with some of their emotions that they are told to repress and ‘keep in check. and even primarily so in our relationship with ourselves. stress and emotional turmoil. it is also. Which value has permissiveness for promoting per- sonal and collective happiness? A. for they believe that this inner war was an existen- tial condition. and it has created the idea of being ‘superior’ over certain other races or groups of people. to judge any process that goes on in our mind. It is a state of ac- ceptance. for it’s only acceptance that can bring inner 218 . Judgmen- tal people live in a constant inner war and that state of mind tears them up inside and creates inner tension. Q. until recently it even has dominated our sci- ence and declared us being machines and wheels in a clockwork. Permissiveness is a form of tolerance toward one- self. THE BETTER LIFE tion and mistrust instead of unity and trust.’ It is the plague of moralism that has created judgmental- ism as a matter of logic. with the world. or any emotions. in our thoughts. But this is not only so on the outward level of life. It is not the natural state. but the result of moralism. and with them- selves.
which in a slogan you may call ‘Habit of Happiness. How do we bring about happiness? How can you yourself bring it about in your life? A. the negative track. as a matter of sheer automatism. You hit the brakes without think- ing. That’s why you better make out of happiness a habit! 219 . Permissiveness thus can be said to be a motor for inner peace. If happiness is any- thing less than a habit. HABIT OF HAPPINESS peace. the complain track. Q. and you are again on the worry track. and you yourself from trou- ble. where a certain automatism is built that has been carved or grooved in your subconscious mind. When happiness is habit it’s like you a driving a car and suddenly a child runs after a football right in front of your car. You need to first sincerely desire it. then you need to build a habit. positive habits. something ingrained. because driving has become a habit. That is how important habits are. And the child was saved. the circumstances of your daily life can too easily distract you from your desire to be happy.’ What is a habit? It is a constant behavior.
and having seen some of them working for children and young students as well. build their identity. Chapter Nine Success Strategies Throw away your books. no longer distract yourself: it is not allowed … —MARCUS AURELIUS My passion is to help people discover their unique po- tential. develop their gifts and talents. your children. for students in your care. and realize their mission. After having tested the techniques over years that I am offering here. You may use them for yourself. These strategies are grouped into four categories: ‣ Health . I would like to sum- marize them here. or if you are a teacher.
dreams. The allergy is a signal that you should avoid it. for example on vacation. disease is not. When your body reacts with an allergy to certain food. your body will alert you through inner feelings. when you are tired. for it constantly communicates with your mind. Health is the original condition. or coincidences what is good for you. You can prevent falling ill by listening to your body! You can prevent your body from becoming sick by lis- tening to the messages you receive from your body. and what is not. This is not surprising for climate and food hang 222 . When you do that. not illness. eat. When you get the allergy again by eating that food once more. THE BETTER LIFE ‣ Creativity ‣ Smart Learning ‣ Achievement Health LISTEN TO YOUR BODY Zen has it all with its saying ‘When you are hungry. sleep!’ Health is natural. Do not eat what you don’t like and don’t eat more than you like. avoid the food for a longer period of time. simply stop eating that food for a while. You may be surprised that when you change the climate. you may eat the food without getting the allergy.
In the hot climate. one influences the other. While you may have a good time with your beer and wine consumption in Europe or America. with its constant hu- mid and hot climate over the year. ‘high blood. you should be carefully watching your thoughts. Psyche is a Greek word for ‘soul’ and soma stands for ‘body. you need to adapt your diet or you risk to get overweight and sick. or you may develop high body heat in the form of hypertension. your self-talk. When the way you think or how you talk to yourself is negative and 223 .’ Try to drink green tea and eat clear chicken or vegeta- ble soup for a few days. SUCCESS STRATEGIES together in that our body reacts to food in a different way in different climatic zones.’ So psychosomatic healing. and you will see how much your body is going to cool down! All illness is psychosomatic in the sense that it starts in the psyche and then gets into the soma. when you move to South-East Asia and you don’t restrict it. It says something that is self-evident: as mind and body are con- nected. is mindbody disease. a word you find in the me- dia nowadays rather often. and rice. WATCH YOUR THOUGHTS As a result of what I just pointed out. we need less food and lighter food than in cold countries. you will suffer from high body heat. or as the locals call it. and we also react differently toward alcohol. If you move to South-East Asia.
We are cigars. you negatively influence your body. Music helps to heal the body. but be aware of the music you choose. we are nature. Our cells vibrate at a certain frequency. not cigarettes. violins and pianos. Think good about yourself and others. think about others with care and restraint and watch your hot emotions. When the vibrancy is harmonious we stay healthy. Keep your thoughts pure! LISTEN TO GOOD MUSIC We are all celli. It will bring your body into an energy imbalance in the long run. As we vibrate. both our body and our mind. we become sick in one or the other way. there is an connection between our body and the climate where we live most of the time. hand- made. when it’s disharmonious. Classical music has been found very harmoni- ous for the mindbody. either harmoniously or disharmoniously. This relationship is one of vibra- tion. It’s as if you would bombard your body with the wrong frequency. so do our thoughts and emotions. composed of resonance pat- terns. 224 . THE BETTER LIFE destructive. so vibrations outside of us affect us. Hence the need to listen to good music. The human is a complex patterned unit of relation- ships. a vibrational organism. Different climatic zones vibrate in a different way and our body responds to that vibration. so is good Jazz. and World Music. As I pointed out already. You do not need to indulge in negative self-talk when you feel anger in a certain situation. because of the disturbing vibration. not clocks and ma- chines.
the life force was called pneuma. insomnia. Qi Gong is a very old science and technique. SUCCESS STRATEGIES which is traditional music from around the world. In ancient Greece. In accordance with the Chinese health system. It has been founded by Taoist masters many centuries ago. Ancient and present masters affirm the possibility to heal every kind of disease. in the contrary such kind of modern music can really damage the vibrational code of your mindbody and drive you into restlessness. nor is any other fast beat music with bass boosting in sync with the body’s vibration. in India it is called prana. even cancer. The power of breathing has been known by the old Taoist masters as Chee Gung (also spelled as ‘Qi Gong’). It is not a secret that many of us have lost our natural ability to breathe. heart disease or immune deficiency syndrome simply by repeated breath- ing exercises. most of dance music is not. Modern disco is not. How can one unlearn something so deeply fundamen- tal to human life? Since ancient times breath or the idea of cosmic breath was seen directly related to life and vi- brancy. emotional outbursts and illness. LEARN HEALTHY BREATHING The two essential powers of life are breathing and eat- ing. Qi Gong explains how to positively influence the life energy 225 . and in China chi. The Taoist sages said that it is of high importance for health to breathe and eat correctly.
ki by the Japanese. All together they form white light. They have their own intelligence and are connected to each other in a kaleidoscopic manner. prana in India and mana or wakonda with most native cul- tures. Instead of looking at life in a functional man- ner. THE BETTER LIFE or essence. most educational systems use the moralistic perspective with its fixated positions. Integrate Your Emotions (2014) Unfortunately educational systems around the world are still very much in the past and have not yet caught up with new systemic insights about the regulatory function of emotions.’ Qi Gong can be said to be midway between meditation and the martial arts. —See Peter Fritz Walter. and some as bad. Qi Gong means ‘energy work’ is the second word. Our emotions are vital streamings in our luminous energy field. judge some emotions as good. gung or kung means ‘work’ or ‘control. This has had catastrophic consequences 226 . If you repress one emotion. called chi by the Chinese. Take a prism as the metaphor. INTEGRATE YOUR EMOTIONS Our emotional life needs to be respected. your inner lights becomes distorted and your vital energy gets out of balance. It combines essential stillness with slow movements and conscious breathing. Every emotion is a frequency and thus repre- sents a certain color in the light beam. gong.
we are conditioned to being violent by compulsory morality and its blindfolding all our important vital life functions. They are important and intelligent. Think about it! 227 . it’s harmonious and doesn’t need to be trained upon the child. it’s intuitive. Be permissive with yourself! Be yourself your best friend! Don’t judge yourself nor others. and have a role to play in our lives. we humans are not violent by nature. But we have long forgotten about this natural moral- ity that many native cultures around the world still prac- tice. but practice acceptance! Do not judge your emo- tions but accept them. and religion messed up with dogma and compulsive behavior. sexuality being messed up with fear and violence. relating to others messed up with gaining power for oneself. parenthood messed up with dominance and emotional clinging. SUCCESS STRATEGIES upon world peace for it has contributed to rendering man a violent beast! Behold. And needless to add that our morality is itself messed up with violence! Natural morality is smooth. This is the reason why in our collective unconscious much of life is a terrible mess. among them the North American Natives. from anger to sexuality. otherwise we would be robots.
under the shower. If you do not remember your dreams. Express yourself through art. and do not judge your produc- tions! 228 .’ Express your imagina- tion and your emotions. with- out trying to draw anything ‘real. your ideas. THE BETTER LIFE Creativity DEVELOP SELF-EXPRESSION Self-Expression is essential for bringing out the best in you. and later draw them out. Jot down your projects. Write down important events that hap- pened during the day. or while you are preparing food. before you fall asleep. If you never did. If you are short of time just put some keywords. They often come up in places where you have no sta- tionary. tell yourself three times that you shall remember all your dreams! Keep a journal. This gives a signal to your subconscious mind that you wish to remember your dreams. Express yourself through writing. Then. start with writing down your dreams. These ideas are most of the time fleeting. put a booklet and a pen next to your bed. on the toilet. even if you have never done artwork. it is an urge. Buy a drawing block and crayons and ex- press your emotional states through colors and forms. Tell yourself after receiving a hunch to keep it in your mind until you access your stationary and sketch it down. nothing less than that.
It’s not just feedback on all you think and do during the day. you may have a dream of one entire hour or more. warning you to do cer- tain things or go certain places. Note your dreams. It’s that also. or when you meet a person who is a scoundrel. In the morning. Essential wisdom can come through in your dreams. We sleep one third of our life. It lasts half an hour. INTEGRATE YOUR YOUNGER SELF Your younger self is your inner child of the past. It’s one of the most essential things to do for your success. Dreams tell you when you are about to get sick. SUCCESS STRATEGIES KEEP A DREAM JOURNAL Our dreams are the ‘other half’ of our being. Start with creating a dream journal. or bioplasmatic energy. during which we dream. it is still sad and repressed today. Every 1 1/2 hour. These early hurts cause imprints in our luminous en- ergy field. which leads to 229 . It is essential that you know what the ‘other half’ of you thinks. By healing your inner child you heal the original wounding that kept you attached to your past. you have to awaken your inner child by a process of inner child recovery and healing. but much more. If this energy was sad and repressed. Monitions may appear or visions. and it’s not just digesting your past. the aura. If this energy is in a catatonic state. It is the energy of your childhood. we experience a REM phase. and after every cycle the REM phase gets longer.
thereby overcoming your early hangups and heal any possible hurt or abuse that you younger self may have suffered. Our destiny is driven from inside out. THE BETTER LIFE unconsciously repeating the early trauma through the sub- sequent ‘incarnation’ of events that are similar to the origi- nal wounding. as fate or ‘bad luck. As long as this mechanism is not conscious. 230 . it is a mechanism that unconsciously drives us to repeat the experience and live it through in a different manner. It is essential for smart and easy learning that subconscious and conscious mind work in sync. not from outside in. heart rate and so forth. It regulates all our vital functions such as breathing rhythm. the events that such imprints attract seem to ‘fall from heaven’ upon you. This is a mechanism of our mind that is called ‘repeti- tion urge’. sleep cycles. Smart Learning Harness the power of your subconscious mind! You have learnt already about dreams that we have a subcon- scious mind which has its own peculiar intelligence. there is no bad luck or good luck. Integrating your past means to finally grow out of your childhood and adolescence by taking care of your inner child as a good enough parent.’ in truth.
and you will be driven by your own mind programming. not by programs projected upon you by other people or society. Make programming yourself a habit. think and talk about life or destiny positively.’ instead of writing ‘I shall not meet people again who are cheating me.’ write ‘Not smoking feels light and healthy. Talk to yourself positively always. The sentences should not contain negative statements and they should be to the point. it is absolutely vital for achieving suc- cess. This is next to noting down your dreams one of the most important habit to build: ‘Program Yourself. think and talk about others positively.’ write ‘Every day more. You give yourself sug- gestions which you first note down on paper. I enjoy honest and mutually satisfying relationships.’ Whatever you tell yourself. The technique is easy to learn. your subconscious mind interface does listen to attentively. Instead of writing ‘I shall not smoke anymore. SUCCESS STRATEGIES While this is something our schools and universities are not yet teaching.’ 231 . All highly successful people use hunches and moni- tions for decision-making. and then read aloud several times to yourself. so beware of negative self-talk and statements. and they are aware of their dreams! You can develop your intuition by learning how to use the wisdom of your subconscious mind in your daily professional and private life.
or duties.’ Why are they enchanted? They are the result of devotion.’ When they experience a low. a clearly described mission. The secret is that all these people experi- ence failure but they do never judge a failure as ‘ultimate’ or ‘definitive. and dedicates their life to a certain cause. It can only enrich you. a mission that was thought through to the end. great writers. a decision for change. nor is it family and upbringing. or patterns of behavior all these people have adopted and adopt. Then. It is none of this. and what more. business people. This study also showed that being wealthy. these people think not in a linear 232 . It is really only the fact that a certain person sets for himself or herself an act of faith. politicians. popular. THE BETTER LIFE Achievement Study the biographies of highly successful people from all walks of life. chief aim or main purpose of life. a dedication. they don’t waste their resources but build a safety cushion for the next low to come. blessed and recognized for one’s achieve- ments is not chance. artists and musicians. In other words. and when they are on top. not good luck. and then put to action. they wait for the next high. nor is it simply hard work or smart. fa- mous. or support in early life. athletes. I came to call them ‘enchanted duties. without being too much perturbed by obsta- cles and failures. You may call them principles. or behavior codes. entre- preneurs. the person steers course along the lines of this ultimate goal. Napoleon Hill’s famous study has brought to daylight that there is a certain pattern.
as most people do. Your mind and your body are in a con- stant movement of recycling. and it’s not even a religious practice. and discrimina- tion. and obey to the basic laws of life. I mean that it’s something that strengthens you. Meditation is not a magic exercise. power of observation. ATONEMENT / MEDITATION I use the expression ‘atonement’ beyond its religious meaning. If you are addicted to body building. As physical exercise strengthens your mus- cles.’ start doing something for moving your body around. denoting every kind of care you take for your mind and body. When I say atonement. they are driven toward success. but in a cyclic manner. just as life does. you damage the other as well. few are aware that this is also valid for the mind. atonement strengthens your mind. And it’s because they are thus aligned with their own purpose. your lucidity. try mind building for a while. SUCCESS STRATEGIES fashion. Mind and body are connected and when you neglect one of them. While you may be aware of this regarding your body. aware- ness. If you are a hopeless ‘university person. 233 . critical sense. for you can profit of it even if you are agnostic. it has nothing in common with chastisement or self-abnegation.
without reacting emotionally to them. but firmly focused. which is a state of passive observation. also okay. okay. without judging. you need to repeat the experience. Its effects do not come over- night. preferably every day. are sufficient. this precious investment of your precious time. and this witnessing itself brings about change because consciousness is fluid. at a special time. THE BETTER LIFE It sharpens your mind by silencing your mind. You witness your inner life. You do this as a gift that you give to yourself! And this gift. with- out rejecting them. You don’t need to sit cross-legged for two hours a day. And you do that for yourself. If you do. not for any god or savior or whatever. and it cleans itself once you enter the self-reflective state. and even 15 min. Krishnamurti once said that even driving a car through a beautiful landscape and being fully attentive to all the details of your driving is a form of meditation. The si- lent mind is the powerful mind for it’s not distracted and restless. will pay you a dividend … 234 . What brings the effect more than anything is to let your thoughts pass through your mind as pictures pass in a film. without holding on to them. No need to sacrifice any of your comforts. It doesn’t really matter what kind of meditation you practice. if you don’t. And he was right. nor do you need to do special breathing exercises.
But we have two brain hemispheres. Schools and even universities as they are today do not train people to be successful. rational thinking or however you want to call it. and you can profit from their insights. telepa- thy. and thus is responsible for our learning verbal expression. You need to inquire beyond the little window into reality you got opened there. Our mecha- nistic educational system is with one leg still in the dark ages. 235 . You can also follow up neuroscience research. this is an information you get from your right brain. the right brain has the clues for our nonverbal expression. or you simply study success literature. Your right brain fosters associative think- ing which is not linear and goal-focused. body language. While the left brain contains the language center. as it involves extrasensorial perception. SUCCESS STRATEGIES DEVELOP YOUR RIGHT BRAIN QUALITIES Our school system only teaches deductive thinking. consciousness research. the most recent insights on psychic research. So you can’t rely on anything you learnt there for it’s not conducive to your success. left-brain thinking. not only one. Many people have done that before you. hunches and monitions. and see the whole picture. but nonlinear and process-focused—and it fosters imagination. When you have a ‘sixth sense’ that you should go into a certain direction while logically there is no reason to do so. and so on. And the right brain hemisphere has very important prop- erties or qualities that you need to activate before you can experience success.
from ridicul- ing others or admiring them. talents and unique skills you possess and bring them to fruition. Nikola Tesla or Albert Einstein had very developed right brain capacities. but to use your right brain with the same strength. the brain is in a higher gear than when you follow our miserable reductionist cultural setup. ena- bling them to use their whole brain for thinking. your deductive analysis of events or data. you need to encour- 236 . THE BETTER LIFE Geniuses like Leonardo da Vinci. For this to happen. What I am telling you is not to neglect your logical thinking. or shutting others out from affection by focusing on ‘family only. which really conditions people to be and remain mediocre. gifts. you vibrate in unison with all-that-is. and the synthesis of data. from being ex- clusive in your life. from over-protecting your partner or children.’ In addition. ACCEPT YOURSELF AND EMBRACE OTHERS When you accept yourself. from adoring them or hating them. Then the universe will support the realization of your soul desires as long as they are not harming others. you need to refrain from imitating or modeling others. from rejecting or shunning others. If you reject yourself. you reject life. from fault-finding or blaming others. When you do both. Self-acceptance means you are focused on discovering your uniqueness. involving in- ductive thinking. It’s really as simple as that. and gradually develop the character traits. Self-acceptance is crucial in life for success.
but also trust oth- ers. Trusting others can be learnt by trusting them. you love yourself. It begins with your bag on the restaurant table when you go to the restroom. and it ends with allowing your child take public transport for going to school instead of driving him there every day and picking her up there every day. SUCCESS STRATEGIES age naturalness and self-reliance and you need to give oth- ers freedom. If you feel basically insecure you won’t be able to really step into the world and say ‘Be Embraced Millions!’ as it was the theme in Beethoven’s 9th Symphony. BUILDING TRUST There is probably no greater and more expansive feel- ing than trust. and as far as. This involves an open heart and the courage to be and remain vulnerable. mistrusting others at a high level equals living in hell. You can embrace others only from the moment you ac- cept yourself! You can love others only once. Self-acceptance also means to be at peace. to accept their difference. with yourself and then with others as an inevitable consequence of your own inner peace and poised attitude. It means to trust not only yourself. Trusting others at a high level is like living in paradise. Trusting the world means trusting more and more in- 237 . It’s simply open-mindedness and self-assurance. Embracing others is not different from embracing life. and build synergy with them and cooperate with them. On the other hand.
The saying is correct that you should try your friends before you trust them. its sup- portive nature. or else develop an unhealthy form of depend- ency upon you which later on may have nasty conse- quences. your fore- knowledge. Behold. be they your subordinates in a company or. its deep metarational intelligence. and its invisible hands that help you realize your real nature and your real self. But trying people for trustbuilding is one thing. you more you need to delegate tasks to others. you cannot trust half-heartedly! You trust or you trust not. And you begin to trust others by beginning to trust their basic goodness. inner wisdom. trust is not blind faith. When you do that you must trust those people. The more power you gain socially. including yourself. they lose creativity and may turn sour. if you work for no boss. THE BETTER LIFE dividuals. 238 . or collaborators in your pro- jects. its growth pattern. your sixth sense. but you need to outsource tasks in order to be effec- tive. and being pathologically mistrusting is another thing. its resonance pattern and responsiveness. their soul-nature. your colleagues at university. their wisdom and their good intentions and needs that are similar to yours. Behold. You can build trust with yourself by building trust in your intuition. and hunches. for if you control others too tightly. It is difficult to achieve success and fame without a high level of trust. You can build trust with the world by trusting life. your promptings and monitions.
you need to follow the voice of your body. How to deal naturally with allergies of any kind? 239 . A mistrusting attitude as a character trait is the result of early hurt and deception that was not healed and inte- grated and that stiffened the person to a point to turn sour toward others. you will rarely be sick. an imbalance of the natu- ral equilibrium. Remind yourself every day that trust is the natural con- dition because humans are basically good! Q & A Session Q. Sickness is an an extreme and unusual condition. Which are the four categories of success strategies in this chapter? A. health or sickness? What can you do to prevent illness? A. Health. and Achieve- ment. Observe a small child and you know what trust is. Creativity. Health is the natural condition. Smart Learning. Q. not to mistrust. Q. To prevent illness. What is the natural condition. SUCCESS STRATEGIES It is natural to trust. who talks to you in various ways. If you respect your body and you live your life with wisdom. to give just one example of many that the young self naturally builds trust with others. Healthy babies love to be thrown up in the air and caught up again by their care- takers.
It’s as if you would bombard your body with the wrong frequency.’ So psy- chosomatic healing. It says something that is self-evident: as mind and body are connected. think about others with care and restraint and watch your hot emotions. Do not eat what you don’t like and don’t eat more than you like. simply stop eating that food for a while. It will bring your body into an energy imbalance in the long run. is mindbody disease. How does your self-talk possibly impact upon your health? A. one influences the other. 240 . When the way you think or how you talk to yourself is negative and destructive. you negatively influence your body. Psyche is a Greek word for ‘soul’ and soma stands for ‘body. because of the disturbing vibration. All illness is psychosomatic in the sense that it starts in the psyche and then gets into the soma. When your body reacts with an allergy to certain food. THE BETTER LIFE A. a word you find in the media nowa- days rather often. You do not need to indulge in negative self-talk when you feel anger in a certain situation. Think good about yourself and others. Q. In which sense can we say that all illness is psycho- somatic? A. The allergy is a signal that you should avoid it. Q.
a vibrational organism. Hence the need to listen to good music. The human is a complex patterned unit of relation- ships. In an- cient Greece. Why can good music have a positive impact upon your health? A. Q. Since ancient times breath or the idea of cosmic breath was seen directly related to life and vibrancy. It combines essential stillness with slow movements and conscious breathing. Ancient and present mas- ters affirm the possibility to heal every kind of disease. Why is good breathing conducive for good health? A. and in China chi. Q. Qi Gong ex- plains how to positively influence the life energy or es- sence. heart disease or immune deficiency syndrome simply by repeated breathing exercises.’ Qi Gong can be said to be midway between meditation and the martial arts. What means ‘Qi Gong?’ A. It has been founded by Taoist masters many centuries ago. As we vibrate. Qi Gong is a very old science and technique. the life force was called pneuma. SUCCESS STRATEGIES Q. so vibrations outside of us affect us. composed of resonance pat- terns. even cancer. called chi by the Chinese. both our body and our mind. gong. In accordance with the Chinese health system. 241 . prana in India and mana or wakonda with most native cultures. ki by the Japanese. Qi Gong means ‘energy work’ is the second word. in India it is called prana. gung or kung means ‘work’ or ‘control.
If you never did. What are the ways to smoothly learn creative writ- ing? Why is it conducive to your health to express yourself through writing? A. If you repress one emotion. Every emotion is a frequency and thus represents a certain color in the light beam. nothing less than that. Q. Every 1 1/2 hour. Why is it necessary for our physical and mental health to integrate our emotions? A. In the morning. Q. They have their own intelligence and are connected to each other in a kaleidoscopic manner. Self-Expression is essential for bringing out the best in you. When you read the biographies of writers. What are the benefits of keeping a journal. THE BETTER LIFE Q. during which we dream. Our emotional life needs to be respected. we experience a REM phase. Express your- self through writing. Our dreams are the ‘other half’ of our being. your inner lights becomes distorted and your vital energy gets out of bal- ance. start with writing down your dreams. We sleep one third of our life. it is an urge. Our emo- tions are vital streamings in our luminous energy field. All together they form white light. and after every cycle the REM phase gets longer. you see that if the urge to write is repressed. and a dream journal? A. Take a prism as the meta- phor. you may have a dream of one entire hour or 242 . It lasts half an hour. health problems will follow.
It’s one of the most essential things to do for your success. If this energy was sad and repressed. your child self or ‘inner child?’ A. Your younger self is your inner child of the past. Start with creating a dream journal. By heal- ing your inner child you heal the original wounding that kept you attached to your past. It is essential for smart and easy learning that subconscious and conscious mind work in sync. Q. and it’s not just digesting your past. Harness the power of your subconscious mind! You have learnt already about dreams that we have a subcon- scious mind which has its own peculiar intelligence. Q. SUCCESS STRATEGIES more. sleep cycles. Note your dreams. but much more. What is the benefit of integrating your younger self. What can you learn from studying the biographies of highly successful people? 243 . It’s that also. It is the energy of your childhood. Q. It regulates all our vital functions such as breathing rhythm. If this energy is in a catatonic state. you have to awaken your inner child by a process of inner child recovery and healing. it is still sad and repressed today. How can you learn faster and smarter? A. It is essential that you know what the ‘other half’ of you thinks. heart rate and so forth. It’s not just feedback on all you think and do during the day.
Napoleon Hill’s famous study has brought to day- light that there is a certain pattern. When I say atonement. you damage the other as well. Meditation is not a magic exercise. and then put to action. Q. and dedicates their life to a certain cause. try mind building for a while. You may call them principles. nor is it simply hard work or smart. it has nothing in common with chastisement or self-abnegation. popular.’ start doing something for moving your body around. chief aim or main purpose of life. a decision for change. Mind and body are connected and when you neglect one of them. or behavior codes. a clearly described mission. This study also showed that being wealthy. It is really only the fact that a certain person sets for himself or herself an act of faith. What is the true sense of atonement (meditation)? A. or patterns of behavior all these people have adopted and adopt. As physical exercise strengthens your 244 . not good luck. It is none of this. nor is it family and upbringing. THE BETTER LIFE A. I mean that it’s something that strengthens you. or duties. or support in early life. blessed and recognized for one’s achievements is not chance. famous. a dedica- tion. and it’s not even a religious practice. If you are addicted to body building.’ Why are they enchanted? They are the result of devotion. If you are a hopeless ‘university person. I came to call them ‘enchanted duties. a mission that was thought through to the end. for you can profit of it even if you are agnostic.
awareness. left-brain thinking. Q. atonement strengthens your mind. your deductive analysis of events or data. rational thinking or however you want to call it. Why do we need to develop the qualities of our right brain and learn to trust our associative thinking abili- ties? Why is that especially important for us people from the West? A. 245 . So you can’t rely on anything you learnt there for it’s not conducive to your success. involving in- ductive thinking. and you can profit from their insights. Our mecha- nistic educational system is with one leg still in the dark ages. It sharpens your mind by silencing your mind. but firmly focused. critical sense. Schools and even universities as they are today do not train people to be successful. your lucidity. and the synthesis of data. and see the whole picture. and dis- crimination. Many people have done that before you. The si- lent mind is the powerful mind for it’s not distracted and restless. not only one. Our school system only teaches deductive thinking. What I am telling you is not to neglect your logical thinking. power of observation. You need to inquire beyond the little window into reality you got opened there. SUCCESS STRATEGIES muscles. But we have two brain hemispheres. but to use your right brain with the same strength. And the right brain hemisphere has very important prop- erties or qualities that you need to activate before you can experience success.
you reject life. Why is building trust so important and how to ac- tually build trust if you know you are a rather suspicious and mistrusting person? A. It’s really as simple as that. On the other hand. Trusting others can be learnt by trusting them. mistrusting others at a high level equals living in hell. gifts. talents and unique skills you possess and bring them to fruition. When you accept yourself. and it ends with allowing your child take public transport for going to school instead of driving him there every day and picking her up there every day. and gradually develop the character traits. Then the universe will support the realiza- tion of your soul desires as long as they are not harming others. you vibrate in unison with all-that-is. There is probably no greater and more expansive feeling than trust. Trusting others at a high level is like liv- ing in paradise. Q. Self-acceptance means you are focused on discovering your uniqueness. How would you define self-acceptance? A. THE BETTER LIFE Q. It begins with your bag on the restaurant table when you go to the restroom. If you reject yourself. 246 . Self-acceptance is crucial in life for success.
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