Ready for a New You? Give Yourself a Personal Makeover! Are You REALLY Ready for a Change? It takes courage and determination to make changes in your life. Don't feel you need to make all the changes at once, take your time and relax with it! Do You Have What it Takes? 1. Are you willing to take action to improve yourself everyday? 2. Will you educate yourself on a daily basis for improvement? 3. Baby Steps - Will you be willing to work hard to break old habits and cultivate new/better actions for success? First steps for success 1) Have a Dream- Create a vision for your future, no matter how big or outrageous your dream is. 2) Develop your Action Plan- Goal setting: Organize your thoughts and feelings on paper, when you do that they become more real. Tape these goals to bathroom mirror, or the refrigerator, somewhere you will see them on a daily basis. 3) Control your Focus- In this day and age of “multi-tasking” you may find this principle hard to follow. However, you must remain focused on your goals if you hope to attain success. Don‘t let yourself get distracted. 4) Seek Guidance- Finding a mentor is of the utmost importance! Find someone you respect and would like to learn from. 5) Practice Self-Discipline- There will be times when you will be tested, you need to stay on target, and re-focus on your goals. 6) Be Aggressive- I don’t know of any successful people that sat around and waited for things to just happen! You need to make things happen, take the initiative and Go For it. 7) Believe in Yourself- If you don’t who else will? Be confident in your abilities to turn things around when things don’t look so good. Your attitude is a little thing that can make a big difference. 8) Be a Pioneer- You will undoubtedly run into people who will tell you “it can’t be done” ignore them, if you have an idea that has not been tried before work to make it a reality. Every great achievement was once considered impossible. 9) Learn to Budget- Put your time, energy and money behind your plan, but do not forget to budget time for you family! They are the reason for your success. 10) Love what you Do- No matter what, you must love what you do in order to live a rich, healthy and successful life.
Have a Balanced Lifestyle
"Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." - Thomas Merton. Happiness can only be achieved if there is a balance between the physical, the mental, the spiritual and the social/emotional. However, intensity does help on occasion. Steps PHYSICAL 1. Get sufficient exercise - regular push ups, sit ups, crunches, and jogging. 2. Get sufficient rest - an average of eight hours is completely helps the most. 3. Eat healthy - look online and find the food pyramid, then try balancing your calorie intake with your exercise. 4. Find time to relax - just lie down and think about what you did. Think positive thoughts, or take up a relaxing hobby, but don't go to sleep. 5. Pick a hobby that you enjoy. 6. Always smile. MENTAL 1. Plan out your day, set goals, but don't stress out but remain flexible. 2. Write but keep it positive. No negative thoughts. 3. Finding out and developing one's talents by going out and doing activities. 4. Keep a diary or journal. 5. Read Shakespeare, Newsweek, National Geographic, or things that help you stay in the present. 6. Try to set goals that are reasonable to achieve. SPIRITUAL 1. Pray effectively or meditate and learn different types of asana, such as: the lotus, the tree, the snake, etc. 2. Communicate with nature. Go outside, hike, go camping, or have fishing trip. 3. If you are reliigious, study the Bible, Qu'ran, Geeta, Ramayana, Guru Grant Sahib any Psalms, etc. Learn about Heaven and Jesus Christ, Muhammad, Buddha, etc. SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL 1. Do a good deed for other people. 2. Cooperate with other people that you meet. 3. Listen to other people. There is difference between just hearing the words and actually paying attention and listening to them. 4. Synergize mutually advantageous compatibility of elements, resources or efforts. Material 1. Get a good education, to get a good job. 2. The job has to be the one you love. "Love it or leave it" 3. Money is not that important. Happiness is the most important thing. Remember people on Forbes 100 are no more happier than average people. TIPS • Obsessions may be an indication you are not living a balanced live since you are dependent on that thing to be happy. If you live a balanced life you will find joy in almost everything you do. Some a bit more than others but your happiness will originate from inside of you and not from external sources. • Think positively without any no's or not's, like instead of, "I will not fail," think, "I will succeed." It's better. • Live in the present, never live in the past or future and just do what you want right in that moment, for the past cannot be changed, and the future will inevitably turn into the present. • Mind your own business, and keep your mind of other people's daily lives.
Whether you want to impress someone, stand out in the crowd, or move in powerful circles, this article is for you. It's easy to overdo it; here's how to master the understated look of the old-money crowd. - Dress in a classic manner. Private school uniforms are perfect examples of this look. Use them as inspiration for your daily wear. Cardigans, plaid, polo shirts, jumpers, skirts, slacks, knee-high socks, and shorts. Also, for the "old money" look, more vintage style classics will work, like a British style 3button suit, anything "tweed", etc. Fabrics should be strictly organic: wool, nubby, relaxed. No polyester, nothing "shiny". Shoes should be leather, understated, and conservative. Don't overdo it; try to go for a relaxed look, like you just got back from a week at the family home in Kennebunkport. Well fitting clothing in relaxed muted colors and maybe a touch of pastel is very old money. Pay attention to the fit and fabric when you are shopping. Buy fewer quality pieces rather than a bunch of discount items. - Have good hygiene. Make sure you always brush your teeth and take a shower. Wash your hair and keep it tidy but understated. Clean your nails and get manicures at inexpensive nail salons. Short Tips are really pretty but avoid long nails with bright colors. - Keep your face neat and your body well groomed. Men should have precise haircuts, and well shaven facial hair. Women should have a "tasteful" cut, color and shine in their hair. Clear skin, free of acne and well moisturized especially in women of a certain age. Hair color should look natural and highlights and lowlights must be natural as if obtained on a visit to the beach house. - Act in a more patrician manner. Drive more slowly. Your car should be a basic model. That means no bumper stickers, no loud stereo and no 26" rims. Your car should look as though it is freshly detailed inside and out: cleaned and waxed, with shiny tires. Slow down your speech, and lower your voice volume. Don't be loud or draw attention to yourself. Learn to play golf, tennis and sail, or to ride (horses), even to play polo (if you have the stomach for it). Get familiar with English history. Groom regularly, nails, body, face and hair. Keep clothing neat in appearance (tuck in shirts, wear comfortable fitting not very loose clothing). You must think before you talk, because, as small as this may seem, some people blurt out things that make them seem as if they didn't, and it can hurt you and others. - Change the forecast. For women, strapped sandals in winter are alright. For men, sweaters and khaki shorts with casual loafers are okay as long as it's not snowing. The old money crowd does love to layer, so sweaters, overcoats, and similar garb is handy for cooler conditions. - Put on your best face. A wealthy woman's makeup is natural with neutral colors, except for red lipstick, the only color in her makeup. Her nail polish is a pale white, pink or beige. Perfect skin is a rich woman must. Never overtan; natural skin color looks much better. No sunspots, so keep on sporting sunscreen, though everyone looks better with a healthy glow. - Smell like money. Men and women should wear a small amount of an expensive scent. (Men- on inner wrist and underneath the jaw line, Women- on inner wrist inner elbows and underneath jaw line or behind ears). Do not put too much on! - Remember, diamonds are forever, but be discreet about it. Jewelry should be minimalistic, classic and inoffensive. If you can't afford the real thing, keep it classic. In lieu of a genuine Cartier "tank" watch, do what lots of the wealthy do and get the cheapest, simplest Timex with a basic black leather band, small and discreet. Pearls if they are real also work. Nothing flashy or too big. - An authentic designer bag or wallet is nice, but go for something a bit bland or obsolete. Something that is the "latest fashion" is by definition a trend, which is anathema to the old money crowd. It must be well made and leather even if not designer, go for simplistic designs, such as the LL Bean Boat & Tote or a classic black quilted Chanel. Nothing avante garde, and nothing that looks like the Balenciaga Lariat, or the Chloe Paddington. However, if you're impressing the nouveau riche, "trendy" is pretty much mandatory.
- Walk in a wealthy person's shoes. Acquire at least one pair of really decent well made shoes. For men, some very conservative and understated oxfords or loafers. For women, a conservative pump, like the classic Chanel pump would be a good choice. - One of the most important things is to try and act normal. People who are not rich, wish they were. People who are rich don't want anyone to know. Be relaxed and light-hearted. Wear things that are good quality, but do not advertise. Do not wear clothing with advertisements or brand names on them. If someone is truly wealthy, they will be able to tell. Do not act as though you are above normal activities. Act rich, walk and speak properly, but when you talk about the subject of yourself or your life, speak about yourself as though you are a normal person. Never accept that you are rich. If cornered try "My parents are somewhat well off." - Be careful who you talk to, what you do, and where you are all time. Be aware of your surroundings. One wrong move you make could change a person's mind negatively. Love yourself, no matter what. Tips • Never look at the tag while "shopping" in expensive stores. Train yourself not to react to extremely high prices by educating yourself on the ridiculous pricing for designer goods. If you react and make a scene, the other shoppers in the store will think that they are better than/ above you. • Watch TV or movies about those with a lot of money. Read Forbes, Barron's, the Wall Street Journal, the New Yorker, and The Economist. Get familiar with New England history and locations, and also learn about the British Isles; the well-to-do in the US are hopeless Anglophiles. • The Nouveau Riche are a different story. If your wealthy friends fall into this category, that's like the wild west. Look at the rather gaudy habits of Hollywood for ideas about how to blend in with them. • Go on line, try thrift and consignment stores, as well as mass discount retailers for items that may cost too much if bought regularly. • If you're appealing the old money set, remember that restraint and Anglophile are their primary traits. Their only absolutes are that capital is never to be invaded, and a jacket is never to be omitted. If you're hanging with the Nouveau Riche, well, anything goes baby! • Don't try too hard; subtlety is key. Looking like a newly rich person is never a good thing to those who have always had money. • • • • • • • Flashy does not mean wealth, only poor taste. Speak properly; always mind your grammar. Use excellent posture, whether you are sitting or standing. Know your etiquette. Read books on the proper use. Learn how to dine properly and such things as the difference between creme brulee and flan. Bring wine or fresh flowers to a dinner party and always write thank you cards. Having a lot of money or "pretending" to won't make people like you more.
Warnings • It is not just the clothes/car that can give away a person's true breeding. It is an attitude. Do NOT be snobby or rude to people. Do not wear bling or designer trendy labels that scream expensive. Women should be very modest=no skin showing! • • Never talk about money or what toys you have or don't have. Don't threaten to sue people if you get angry.
Don't smoke or do drugs. No chewing gum. No swearing at least not in public. NEVER be drunk in public. • Pretending to be something you are not can make you a fake. People that are your friends when you are faking are just friends of the fake you. Also, your current friends might be offended and ignore you.
Being classy is not about being stuck up; it is about having style and taking care to be polite to others and to reflect a genuine interest in them. It is also about being confident in yourself. This article will teach you how to move through life with class and ease. What qualities truly classy people exhibit (what you should become): Unselfish, Generous, Compassion, Responsibility.
1. Choose your battles; choose your friends. Few battles are truly worth fighting. Stand up for
those who cannot stand up for themselves (mentally disabled, animals, children, etc). Be wary of those who appear to enjoy bickering. If someone is rude to you, either ignore them completely (recommended) or, once you have completely calmed down and are thinking clearly, explain how you perceived their actions and work towards a resolution. Never stoop to their level, and do not be hasty. Surround yourself with positive, polite people who encourage and live your classy, intelligent lifestyle.
2. Choose your words. The classy individual listens more than he or she speaks. Having a strong
vocabulary is important, but do not use a word unless you are certain of its meaning. Use words to express yourself lucidly. Importantly, do not correct others when they use improper grammar. Differences in background, family life, and education cause people to speak differently, and often people use slang for effect. More than this, it is irritating and degrading to be corrected by a know-itall.
3. Do not insult, gossip, or slander. When necessary, voice your opinions appropriately and
constructively. This encourages your audience to listen carefully when you speak.
4. Be independent. You must be courteous, but do not bend over backwards to please others. If
you do, you may find yourself being taken advantage of in the future. Limit your time and availability and draw boundaries with others so that they are aware of your limits.
5. Break the stereotype shackles. More often than not, using labels in any way, whether to
identify yourself or others, shows a lack of creativity, lethargic social skills, and a lack of careful observation. Give everyone respect and the benefit of the doubt.
6. Be assertive. Avoid passive-aggressive thinking; this is likely to trip you up eventually.
Assertiveness demonstrates maturity, thoughtfulness, and confidence. Class requires balance, and assertiveness is a prime example of this concept.
7. Define yourself with a clean and elegant look. Excellent presentation is half of the battle.
Wear clothing and accessories which flatter your body and never wear anything you feel uncomfortable in. It is important to remember that modesty is key in earning the respect of others. A bit of cleavage may be fashionable, but true gentlemen will appreciate modesty more than exposure.
8. Avoid getting caught up in trends. There is nothing wrong with enjoying fashion or buying
clothing you find attractive, but it is important to stay in control. Do not become a slave to fashion, or you may be regarded as foolish, "high maintenance", and/or shallow. The clothing you wear should enhance your personality, not create or alter it. This advice can be applied to many aspects of life in which you may feel pressured to "fit in."
9. Know when to ask for help, but avoid desperate behaviour. This is the kiss of death for the
classy person. Only desperate times call for desperate measures. Take a deep breath, be strong, and move through the situation with elegance and grace. You will be the victor for it, no matter the outcome. If things get out of hand and you feel completely overwhelmed, ask for help from a close friend or family member.
10. Seek wisdom. As difficult as it can be to heed the advice of those more experienced than
yourself, it is a necessary step at times. No matter your age or ability, allow yourself to learn from the mistakes and victories of those older or more experienced than you. You will win their favor and be available to pass on your own wisdom or advice.
11. Be open to personal development. Do not berate yourself, but be receptive to constructive
change. In our world, change is inevitable. Be a positive and flexible part of it and show others the way as well. Face life rather than burying your head in the sand and others will know instinctively that you are someone whose opinion counts.
12. Carefully consider tattoos and piercings. Let's face it: it is easy to judge by appearance.
Therefore, take careful consideration when deciding if it is a good idea for you to get visible tattoos or body piercings. Even though a person’s outward appearance does not automatically show his or her inner qualities, appearances can reflect how a person is willing to be perceived by the world. Job opportunities may be limited by such an expression. Also keep in mind that although tattoos and piercings are expressions of individuality, they can be permanent or difficult (even costly) to remove. If you are in doubt about how a tattoo or piercing will impact you in the future, find another way to express yourself.
13. Be knowledgeable and aware. It is wise to become politically, culturally, and religiously aware.
Even the most basic knowledge can save a person from embarrassment and awkwardness. If you know in advance that you will be spending time with someone of an unfamiliar background, it is a good idea to do more in-depth research to avoid embarrassing faux pas.
14. Be responsible. Classy people leave their surroundings in a condition at least as good as they
found them. Unless they are in a restaurant with wait staff whose job it is to do the clearing up, classy people insist on taking care of their own trash and baggage, not expecting others to pick up after them. And when others do favors for them, while stuck-up or spoiled people assume it's only to be expected and ignore others' assistance, truly classy people are quick to notice and to express their gratitude and their appreciation.
15. Be considerate. Truly classy people instincively recoil at the thought of inconveniencing others,
offending them, getting in other peoples' way, or in any way making nuisances of themselves. Classy people are all about minding their own business when among strangers and putting others at ease when in social situations. Truly classy people are gracious and affable to everyone, whether the CEO, the mail carrier, or the custodian. Classy people know others' names and use them when greeting people they see regularly, whether the doorman, the security guard, or the boss' wife. Classy people treat everyone the same - with courtesy and respect. Warnings • Changing your behavior may feel unnatural. If it does, remind yourself that you are a work in progress. A classy person is simply one who consistently exhibits classy behavior. Focus on your behavior and attitude rather than your feelings.
If you slip up, forgive yourself, apologize to anyone who may have been hurt by your not-so-classy behavior, and continue on your way. That's classy!
Develop Self Esteem
Our self esteem is instilled in us during our youth. Being constantly criticized by parents and family members tends to slowly strip us of our feelings of self worth. Our low self esteem strips us of our self confidence to make even the smallest of decisions. We think little of ourselves, and feel we do not deserve to be happy. Improving your self esteem increases your confidence and is a first step towards finding happiness and a better life. You gain this confidence by believing that you are unique, you are special, and that you deserve to have your dreams come true! Steps
Start with the small things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general. For example, if purchasing jeans makes you nervous because of having to decide on brands, colors, and styles, then just take the plunge. This is a minor decision that can always be rectified by exchanging the jeans if you really feel you made a wrong decision. However, try to stick to your original choice. Buy a shirt next, to go with the jeans. Take your time trying on different styles and colors. When you feel a bit of excitement inside of you, you will know you are making a good decision, so buy it. It is that inner feeling that will help you build up your feeling of self worth. You will begin to think, 'If I can do this well, I can do other things!' Your confidence grows, and so does your self esteem. Confidence and self worth go hand in hand. Wear your jeans and shirt the next time you go to meet friends. Show off your outfit. You will know by the compliments you get that you did indeed make a good decision. Smile and be proud of yourself because you took the first step of many in gaining confidence in yourself via your ability to make decisions. The new found confidence comes from your willingness to assert yourself and make a simple decision.
Don't always try to please others. It is considerate to care about others' feelings but your needs are important also. Do not try to be like someone else either. You will be at your best when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive to be your best, do not criticize yourself if you fall short of your expectations.
Avoid negative people. People who have a negative attitude which may rub off on you are not good for you. If you're timid, loud and aggressive people are probably not good for you, and vice versa. Whatever you do, do not compare yourself to others. Just be the best that you can be.
Face your fears and learn from your failures. We only fail when we do not make the best out of adversity. When something doesn't go the way we would like it to, there is something to be learned from that, which can be applied next time you are in a similar situation. Get up and try again.
Stop the negative thoughts. Try positive thinking on for size. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever you believe about you, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or that you will never achieve success, you will in turn act as such. So, make a habit out of saying positive things about yourself and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to your advantage. Look in a mirror and see the good things such as if you have big brown eyes say "Wow I have big cute brown eyes!" or "My freckles are so cute!"
Improve your self confidence. You can do this by simply doing things that you make you feel good, like accomplishing something. Accomplishment is the key ingredient to gaining self confidence. Just do it, don't worry about making mistakes. We all make mistakes.
Do something to impress yourself. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or vet's office. Be a Big Brother or Sister. Help someone else. Nothing makes you feel better about yourself than seeing how
your help can make someone else's load a little lighter. Take a class, study hard, and pass - learn something useful or interesting. It could be photography, oil painting, a literature appreciation class, or beginning guitar. Do a daring feat: bungee jump off a bridge, skydive, go hang gliding (all with a guide, of course). Accomplishment raises self-esteem by raising self confidence.
Don't worry about being "perfect." Aiming for perfection in life is a lost cause because it is different things to different people. Nobody is perfect in the eyes of everyone else, so by trying to be perfect you may just be setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. Instead, seek to achieve goals. For example, take a class in the visual arts. The visual arts allow you to explore yourself and find "perfection" in "imperfections". This self exploration, artistic knowledge, and the accomplishment of finishing the class can do wonders for your self-esteem.
Learn to appreciate yourself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who you are and can make you distinctive. Spend more time focusing on the qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones that you dislike. You can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that you can do that will make use of your strengths. Additionally, by starting on some projects that emphasize your good traits, it will keep you busy so you will end up spending less time thinking about your weaknesses.
Reward yourself when you succeed. Bask in the glow of your successes. You deserve to have your dreams, and you can make them come true. Believe in yourself completely, and others will also believe and trust in you. When you accomplish something always treat yourself to something wonderful. Tips • Don't feel like you are not good enough because you have been created the way that you should be, and that is what makes you individual. • Your inner strength will enable you to reach your goals in life. If you fall down, pick yourself up and try again. • As your self confidence builds, you will feel better about yourself, and your self esteem will grow from the inside out.
Not all decisions may turn out to be right ones. Just keep in mind that right or wrong, you are the one who makes the decisions in your life. Because you are responsible for your choices, you have the power to change your situation. Do not let your confidence disappear because you made one wrong choice. Do not let the feeling of self worth that you have built up crumble and fall. There are other choices to be made; believe you can make them, and you will! Remember that most people will tell you that they would rather regret things they did do than things they didn't do. Be bold! And comfort yourself, if something doesn't quite work as well as hoped, that at least you tried something. • Choices are made by individuals and their ability look deeply into themselves and say 'I can do that' or 'I would like that'. • Decisions will not be only about what to buy or wear. We have to make decisions all of our lives about many details, circumstances, and people. It can be where to live, what type of person to marry, a choice of a job or career, where to go to school, or whether or not to go on to College. It could be if you move to another State, or to another country. • Every day look at yourself in the mirror. Try to find something to admire about yourself, and try to say some positive things about yourself and your accomplishments and achievements.
Make sure your self talk is positive at all times. Tell yourself how great you are, or how good you look today, anything positive about yourself to help you feel confident. Make being positive your natural state of being.
Visualize yourself being surrounded by people, who are patting you on the back or shaking your hand, or standing clapping you. Visualization is a very powerful tool to use. • The most important thing of all is that you have to believe in yourself. If you believe you can, then you will be able to. • Once you convince your subconscious the way you want to be, you will find that you will start to become far more confident and life will be the way you want it.
• Be assertive. Boosting your self-esteem is all about getting what you need/want. So do things for your own sake. Remember, you must help yourself first before you can help others. You can't lose or give away what you don't have so be selfish and when you come to a higher level to yourself you can start helping others with lower self-esteem. And at the end only you will recollect what you have done and define who you are and what you're about. • Listen to a song that suits your mood. There is a song for almost everything! When you jam to a favorite tune that you can relate to, it gives you confidence. Warnings • Some decisions will involve another person, a medical decision, or where to live if you marry. Therefore, some decisions may have to be made jointly. You might have to compromise, but once your self confidence becomes something that you can rely upon, that inner feeling of self worth will guide you through tough joint decisions. • The opposite feeling of self-esteem is anxiety. But don't immediately dismiss this feeling. Feeling anxious is not a good nor a bad feeling. It's just a mechanism of yourself of telling you that there's something wrong and you need to act upon it. Anxiety is the fuel to responding to what is wrong and thus developing self esteem. • Be careful not to overdo your esteem-building, as it could lead to conceit and arrogance if not done in moderation. • Everyone goes through the phases of feeling low or high i.e. low or high self esteem. This happens especially; if you judge yourself by your successes or failures (as others do). If you learn to estimate yourself by the nature of actions (e.g. their benefit to the society), then you are likely to develop high self esteem (respect yourself) without any disrespect or bitterness about others. .
Elevate Your Self Esteem
For many years now, "self-esteem" has been synonymous with "positive self image," but that's not really what self-esteem is. Positive self-image is important - it's caring about yourself and seeing yourself as a unique and special individual simply because of who you are as a human being. Selfesteem is a positive sense of one's own worth that is based on actually doing worthy things - it's that feeling you get when you've accomplished something, and it's a great feeling. Here's how to build it and help others lift theirs in the process. Steps
Do something to impress yourself. There's only one way to elevate your self-esteem - earn your own respect. Set goals and work toward them. They don't have to be pie-in-the-sky, they can just be gradual improvements. For example: you have a B- overall grade point average. Resolve to raise your GPA at least a half grade each semester until you are a B+, then you will renegotiate. Begin to study harder, join a study group or choose a study partner. As you begin to gain mastery of your schoolwork and see your GPA rise to a B and finally to a B+, you will have a solid sense of accomplishment - and your self-esteem will rise.
Gain accomplishments and achievements. Study hard. Take that B+ and turn it into Honors by keeping it there for one to three years. Or play hard at a sport. Even if you are only average, the more you practice, the better you will get, and that's an achievement of its own. Choose something to excel at, choose a goal, and work hard toward it until you achieve - even working toward bettering yourself for the sake of doing it is a worthy pursuit.
Value noble pursuits. Academics and sports are time-honored traditional pursuits which can bring out the best in a person by testing intellectual and physical limits, and fostering individual and team efforts.
Help someone. Volunteer at a retirement home or a homeless shelter. Get involved with your church in a ministry to the sick or the poor. Donate your time and service to a humane animal shelter. Be a Big Brother or Big Sister. Nothing is more rewarding than offering your time and talent to elevate someone else's situation. And getting outside your own head and your normal circle of influence can be eye opening and humbling.
Practice humility. No one was ever a greater public servant than Mother Teresa, she helped the poor, the sick and the dying, and never turned anyone away. Yet Mother Teresa was a strong, noble soul who knew that if she did not help these people, perhaps no one would. That's real selfesteem: "I am only one person, but I can help these people." That's knowing and believing in the power of One Person to make a real difference.
Pass your skills and talents on to someone. Teaching someone your specialty will show you how much you really do know and have to offer. As you help a novice learn the skills you have honed, you will feel their admiration and respect for your prowess. And in turn, you will be helping another develop those same skills, so that they may be passed on again.
Allow children to build self-esteem honestly. Just because they're kids doesn't mean they're stupid - do you really think they don't know you let them win? Self-esteem isn't built by being handed a win. It's built by actually winning. Play a game with with your kid until he or she masters it it can be anything: Dominos, Scrabble, Pokemon, a video game, Hearts - and whatever you do, do NOT play down to him or her. When you win, celebrate. Don't belittle him or call him a loser, just say, "Yay, I win!" And then say, "Let's see, did you make any mistakes? Maybe you didn't - maybe it was just a bad draw. Let's look at your game and see where it could improve." Help him, show him how to improve, and play again. Eventually, he or she will beat you. When she/he does, tell him or her to stand up on the table and do a victory dance. Look at her or his face. See how your child feels when he/she knows he/she earned this win, fair and square, and on his or her own? It's a huge difference, because it tells the child they have the power to win, if he/she sticks with something and tries hard. It can set the tone for the way she or he goes at things the rest of her or his life. Don't "let" them win. By doing so you rob him of the chance to earn a win honestly.
Tips • Nobody can give you self-esteem. You have to earn it yourself. • Choosing non-competitive pursuits may be possible, but competing, even if you don't win, is exciting and does make you sharpen your skills - thereby building your estimation of yourself. • Believe that you can make a difference, one person or task at a time. Over time, as your efforts bear fruit, you will feel your inner sense of satisfaction at your accomplishments. • Have a sense of humor - especially about yourself. Don't take yourself too seriously, keep things in perspective. And forgive thyself. Warnings • Avoid the temptation to turn self-esteem into conceit and arrogance. People with good self-esteem are very attractive. Arrogant louts aren't.
Have Good Manners
To present a good impression, you must act like you weren't raised in a barn! It is difficult dealing with those having no manners or concern for others. A huge societal issue is a general lack of respect for what has been taught in history regarding human concern and compassion towards acquaintances. "Good Manners" are an increasingly archaic school of thought that displays respect, care, and consideration. Everyone has a basic right to help another and feel positive about themselves and others around them. In our age of self-satisfaction, cell phone technology and instant internet gratification - it is often hypothesized that we care more for our equipment than those they are made for. If you don't have an etiquette resource, keep reading for more ideas. Consider picking up one of many etiquette books. Some colleges offer weekend etiquette lessons, usually open to all ages. This is a great idea for anyone looking to make a better impression. Also learn from real-world examples - study the positive effects of those displaying good manners and how people react to and around them. It's common sense that people prefer a reasonable amount of respect. If you nurture plants, animals, or other humans, not only will they grow and bloom - but you will as well. Outside of material goods - the basic things we all really own are ourselves and our actions. Steps Choose your words wisely and don't rush to comment on things you don't know much about. Being a good listener is better than speaking. You don't need to have an opinion on everything. Think things out before speaking, especially if you are poor at finding the right words. Don't start sentences with awkward 'ums' and 'ers' in between. Practice speaking to a mirror, it works! It increases confidence in speaking, and it sounds much clearer; you may find you'll be using fewer 'ums' and 'ers' next time! Don't speak loudly. You will quickly lose respect if you do, as this is seen as overbearing and rude. It can also make others angry and upset before you even establish a relationship with them. They will think of you as a 'big mouth'! Practice turning your volume down. Speak with respect to and of others by avoiding negative or insulting remarks. Avoid expressions or theoretical examples implying disrespect, degradation or that invite people to imagine offensive scenarios, like "What's up your butt?" or "How would you feel if someone..." followed by a description of violent or degrading acts. You may not intend this as offensive, but it is. General rule: if you don't want someone to speak about you that way, then don't speak this way to others. Don't ever speak of bodily functions, such as using the bathroom or telling crude jokes. Even in casual conversation, this indicates immaturity and often makes bad impressions. Always respect all elders, and listen to them and learn. They have been around, and can teach you plenty. Using the terms 'Thank you', 'Please', and 'You're welcome' indicates good manners. People lacking in manners avoid these terms. Hold open a door for anyone, male or female, following you closely. This is good manners and will never change. Speak highly of your parents and show respect for them, even if you don't always feel that way. If you can't, avoid speaking about them at all. It's tacky to insult those who brought you into this world or raised you. Don't air family dirty laundry: it's tacky and rude. Do not swear or use filthy language. It can make you sound cheap and disrespectful sometimes. People doing this are usually very immature and lack self-control or respect for themselves and others! Curse words not appropriate and you'll begin to feel more comfortable avoiding them. Profanity indicates an angry person and it puts people off immediately as it's distasteful and offensive. Using decent vocabulary gives the impression of intelligence, self-respect and character. Greet others appropriately even if you know someone well. If you are a man, you do not want to greet a woman by saying, "Hey baby, what's shaking?" Instead, try something like, "Hello, good morning or evening," anything making you appear respectful.
Try showing you are interested in others by asking questions about them. Don't steal their spotlight by just talking about yourself. Don't come off as selfish. Continually talking of yourself is boring and others will avoid you. Pay attention to how you carry yourself. Have some class, which is the same as manners. Don't slouch; have a neat appearance; shake hands firmly; be and smell clean; hold your head high and don't hide behind sunglasses inside or wear other "trying to be cool" looks at the wrong time; it gives the impression of arrogance and immaturity. Don't put others down, belittle them or spread gossip. Never criticize someone in an attempt to demean or to elevate yourself. If you wouldn't like it done to you, then don't do it! Be complimentary and positive, for example, avoid critizing an article someone has written. Their grammar and spelling may not be as good as yours but they tried. Having an opinion is fine, but being insulting reflects bad manners. Never tell secrets, especially those about your close friends. If someone is gossiping or belittling another, show you understand in a neutral way (a small nod to show you comprehend or an "mmhmm" should do). Don't interrupt, cut off or override others, unless they are insulting or swearing, etc. Give others respect and try letting them finish; be a listener! And practice being a good one! Ask for clarification properly. If you missed something someone said, or if you need clarification, ask "Could you say that again for me, please?" or "I'm sorry?" " Pardon?" also sounds polite enough. Avoid solely using the word "What?" as it's often brash and unrefined. Never use a phone when entering a bathroom, as some things are meant to be private. No one cares to 'hear' you doing your business. Regardless of why you are there, stay off the phone! No exceptions! Make meaningful introductions. If someone tells you their name, either by shaking your hand and saying their name or by saying "Hi! I'm John!" etc., do not just say "Okay!" or "Hi!". State your name too! This may seem obvious, but people overlook this and come across as not wanting to know the other person. If you are visiting a friend's parents' home, offer the parents help with anything needed there, such as taking out trash or preparing the table for dinner. Don't forget to thank them for their hospitality and opening up their home, as well as allowing you to eat with them. Then they will be sure to have more respect for you when you return. Address older adults and professional seniority with the title of "Mr.", "Mrs.", "Miss", or "Ms." until you are asked by them to address them by their first name. Make certain the person prefers you to use their nick name before you use it. Ask, if uncertain. Don't assume that "Michael" prefers to be called "Mike" or "Sandra" prefers "Sandy". Improve your manners when speaking. Here are other common etiquette mistakes and their solutions: – Never say "Yeah". It's "Yes" or preferably "Yes, please". – It's never "Huh?" or "What?", it's "Pardon?" – Instead of "Nah", say "No, thank you." – Always use "May I...?" instead of "Can I?" Don't send letters or notes written in red ink or pencil. It's a sign of disrespect. You can use red ink for lists, or notes to yourself. It's different when it's part of the job, like teachers who may use it for grading. Give gratitude and be thankful. If someone gives you a gift, goes out of their way for you or provides an appreciated service, write a thank-you note. Not an email unless you are at work, and you should still write a thank-you note for a gift. Saying "thank you" is just not enough. Always keep thank-you cards in your office and home. Be thankful for what others do or have done for you. Some people think spelling things wrong is normal. It's actually a sign of bad manners and poor intelligence. If you don't care enough to spell it right, you're insulting the recipient.
Use proper grammar and spelling. Use a dictionary when composing a note, letter or email. It's essential. Your words and the context of your message will be understood and not require rereading. Never use IM, SMS language or computer jargon when sending a note as a 'Thank you' or other communication. Using jargon, in general, makes a person appear self-centred if others don't understand it. It also makes the listener feel ignorant. You should never assume everyone knows what LOL or TTYL means. – "Cuz" should never be used instead of "because" – "2" should never replace "to", "two" or "too". It can cause confusion,in some cases. – Know the difference between you, your and you're Use a dictionary or thesaurus if you aren't sure of the spelling, meaning or usage of a word. Proofread! Don't assume spell-check catches everything. Re-read everything. Not taking the time to spell simple words may be seen as disrespectful. Unless you're chatting with close friends and the grammar is usually horrible, you should never use jargon or abbreviations unless they are commonly recognized (Mr., Mrs., dates, etc.) Understand when IM and chat room language should be used. Avoid using it outside of IM, text or chat situations. It makes you appear lazy and ill-mannered. Avoid generational jargon and slang. When communicating with someone of a different generation, make sure terms used are those familiar to all generations (use English grammar). You wouldn't like it if your boss or grandparents sent you a letter using a strange code or with phrases in a foreign language. Older and younger generations use different jargon. Treat to speak to others as you would like to be spoken to and treated. Having manners is like the Golden Rule of social behaviour. Think about phone manners and observe appropriate phone etiquette at all times. Phone Etiquette Don’t phone before 7:00 am and after 9:00 pm [unless in an emergency or an important overseas call]. Also avoid calling people during mealtimes. People don't expect you to drop in and visit at these times, unless it is arranged. This includes texting, though you would obviously not text for emergencies. Ensure the number you have is correct. If you do disturb someone and it’s the wrong number then ‘please’ have the decency to say, “I’m so sorry! I have the wrong number!” That individual may be ill, in a wheelchair, or elderly, etc, so you should show respect and apologize for their inconvience. Check your voice! It carries much more than just a tone, and reflects your character and personality even on the phone! Remember: your listener cannot see you, so your phone-voice becomes your facial expressions, gestures, personality and character. Always check your voice when speaking; speak in a pleasant tone and very clearly. Smile through your voice! What they hear will make a positive or negative impression. When someone answers the phone don’t be harsh and abrupt by telling them what you want first. This confuses them and makes them wonder who you are. You also appear very rude, which is bad if you need a favour from them. It gives the wrong impression before you start! And don’t say, “Who is this?” You phoned them, so introduce yourself and state who you are and what you want – politely! For example; say “Hello, my name is Mrs. Peppermint, I'd like to speak to Mrs. Sally Lemon. Is she available?” Or if you are making inquiries, state; “Hello, this is Mrs. Peppermint. I saw an advert in the local paper for a shop assistant; is that position still open?” When finished, say, “Thank you for your help. Goodbye” and be genuine! Now ensure you give them time to say ‘Goodbye’ too!! Give people a chance to answer their phone! They could be outside in their garden, knitting, baking, washing the car or at another end of the house. Don’t just ring three times and hang up! It's
annoying when you stopped doing something, go into the lounge to answer and just as it gets to your ear the caller hangs up!! Grrrrh!! :o) Don’t spend an hour [or hours] chatting to someone. Don't waste people's time or disturb the household! It’s one of the biggest turn-off’s to having a friendly chat! They will not want to talk to you again. Answering your phone: Again – don’t forget to check your voice! Just be pleasant and polite and say, ‘Hello’. Never give your name or other personal details unless you know who called; it's too dangerous today. If you are alone and you don’t know who the person is, don't tell them no-one is home or your husband is working, etc. Always pretend someone else is there. Use wisdom and good old-fashioned common sense! Be safe! If the call is for someone else, say something like; “Would you wait a moment please? I'll just go and call them for you.” Put the receiver down gently. If who they want to speak to is unavailable, say, “I’m sorry, Sally isn’t available right now. May I take a message for her and ask her to phone you as soon as she can?” If you must carry on two conversations at once you should always excuse yourself from one and resume it later. Say, "I'm sorry, can you hold on a minute; my boss is telling me something", and wait for the person's answer. If the personal conversation will last more than a minute, it would be better to ask, "Can I call you back? My mother needs to talk to me and it may take a few minutes". In case of needing a restroom break, say something to get off the phone, without sharing too much information. When talking on the phone in a public space, keep in mind that everything you say is no longer just your news. Keep your voice at "indoor voice" level, or lower. Generally, people with good manners don't talk about potentially embarrassing private issues in public. When on the phone, don't talk with others in the room. What's worse than having a phone conversation with one who chats, perhaps not listening to what you're saying, and you can't tell if they are speaking to you or others. Avoid using the computer while on the phone unless it's part of customer services. It is extremely rude and unpleasant when someone makes you listen to a clacking keyboard. Turn off your phone in films, don't text while pretending to pay attention to someone else, and never call during meals, or important ceremonies, where mobiles SHOULD be always switched off at all times. Refrain from using your cell at check-out counters it is bad taste and horribly rude to talk on your cell while having an interaction with other individuals - particularly those people who are handling your money, be it in the grocery store, the mall or at a petrol station. It is unacceptable to treat cashiers as ATMs. Get off the phone, do your business, and then resume your call at a more appropriate time. When with others in a social setting, try to refrain from using your cell phone. It implies you'd rather be somewhere else, with someone else, and that who you are with is less important.
Tips • Manners are little rules that help us all act with respect toward one another. If you are unsure what to do in a particular situation, remember that manners strive to make everyone around you feel comfortable, and take action based on this thought. • Some people feel that being "mannered" is "fake" or unauthentic. Instead, realize that manners are normal and healthy social conventions that make interactions easier and more pleasant. Not every interaction is an opportunity to correct others or set them straight.
Start your day off by smiling and feeling positive. Treat everyone you come across with respect. That way their day may be a good one; and maybe they'll pass that smile and positive attitude along to someone else. Smiles are contagious. Greet your co-workers when you arrive. Say goodbye when you leave. • If someone else is speaking, try hard not to be domineering or overbearing by taking over the story or subject matter at hand, even if you feel that you can tell it better. Try to let them finish what they are saying, before adding your two cents worth. • If you are talking to someone on the phone, be sure to pause every once in a while in order to allow the other person time to speak - and take a genuine interest in what they have to share with you. It may be more important than you think and It shows that you care. • Start showing your manners with your parents. They'll be overjoyed that their children are speaking to them with respect, for respect shows that you have good manners. • If you are in school, make sure that you behave so that your teacher can speak highly of you - pay attention in class and do your homework. Treat your teacher with respect. They did not train to be your teacher to be abused by you. See your teacher as your friend not your enemy, they are there to teach and train you so that you can have a good future. • Avoid annoying others with your cell phone. Be sure to turn it off in movie theaters, and don't drive with a cell phone stuck to your ear (this is illegal in some places anyway). It is not only dangerous, but will cause others to think that you are rude, especially when you are cutting in front of them in traffic and so forth.
Good manners will never go out of style, so practice having good manners. It can only help you in the long run. If you are receiving an award shake the giver's hand.
One of the easiest ways to appear good mannered is to be silent and only talk when you have something important to say. This adds weight to your words. • Always use the essentials - ma'am, sir, miss, pardon, thank you, please, you're welcome, my pleasure etc.
Manners are often dictated by good sense. If you would be offended by an action, that action is likely to offend others too. Check yourself often to see if your talk, conversations, and treatment of others is respectful or rude. Would you like to be spoken to or treated the same way? Then correct whatever needs correction. • Do not talk with your mouth full. Do not stop mid-sentence to eat, chew, swallow and then continue - your well-mannered companions will of course not interrupt you, and they should not have to wait and watch you eat. Eat or talk, but do not do both at the same time. • When asking someone about a touchy subject, keep your voice the same that you would if you were asking about the weather. This shows that you're taking them seriously and will allow them to be more comfortable about answering.
Pardon bodily functions. Say "excuse me" if you belch or cough (or make any other unavoidable noise with your body). Laughing at a belch is poor manners and makes a person seem crude. It may be funny to your friends but others around you see it as poor character. Remember, though, that just because you say "excuse me" that does not mean you can belch at any time you like. Avoid doing it in front of anyone. • There are a variety of books available on the subject of manners which can be useful for fine tuning.
• Check used book stores or library sales for books on etiquette. The books are updated from year to year and older editions are replaced with new. The advice from the 50's seems archaic today. If you can find one released within the last decade you can at least get the majority of common etiquette rules.
There is a book available titled "How to Be a Gentleman". This will make an excellent gift for any man and especially those in high school or college. The rules are geared towards contemporary male etiquette. Most other etiquette books will have a largely female perspective. Warnings • Good manners doesn't mean that you can't joke and cut-up, and have a sense of humour, don't confuse good manners with being a stuffed shirt and reserved, so to speak. Manners are the stitches that hold the fabric of society together.So let's keep them that way! • Do not get intimidated or feel ashamed if your friends make fun of you for opening the door for a girl or helping an older person do something they cannot do alone. Being good mannered may seem out of fashion and even silly to some, but it only shows how mature and bright you are, because in the long run, that good you did to others will be returned. (Even if it isn't, you still did the right thing.) • Having bad manners can be associated with having poor character. • Don't be overly polite with your peers unless you're in a business setting or you may come across as a weak, spineless, people-pleaser.
Keep in mind there is such a thing as being too polite. You should be kind, but don't be uptight with all the "polite" rules. As with everything else in this world, there is a happy medium between the two extremes.
Be a Princess
Behaving like a princess may seem impossible, but it's not. It's all about how you act! Steps 1. Think natural beauty. Make everything look fresh and elegant. 2. Nails: Light pink or just clear polish would look wonderful. Also, make sure that they are clean and filed down to an appropriate length. French Manicures look fabulous and can make a girl look classy and elegant. Whether it's a home DIY nail session or at a professional salon, you should always try to have good nails. 3. Make up: Apply it on carefully, but make sure not to overdo it and look too garish. Take care to make it look fresh and natural. Fun colors every once in a while are a good idea too, but don't apply them all at the same time so that you look like a clown! 4. Hair: It doesn't have to be done in high curls or tight ringlets. Just make sure that it's moisturized nicely and combed. A cute up do when it's hot outside can look super classy. Make sure you have a good hair care routine too - shampoo it, condition it and apply creams to get it as pristine as possible.
5. Clothes: Choose clothing that suits you and your taste. But be careful; you do not want to appear
tomboyish. Also make sure the clothing you pick is clean and stain-free. Also, be modest! Being a princess means dressing like a lady. You do not have to show off.
6. Never sacrifice comfort for style. A princess should feel at ease in all situations. Now, this doesn't mean show up at a formal dinner in a tracksuit, but know that when you are comfortable, people will be comfortable around you! ○ A Princess is a princess inside and out. So while you may look the part of a princess, you must make sure that you always portray a princess inside as well. 7. Be confident. It's important that you like being yourself. If you believe you're beautiful, everyone else will see you're beautiful. Look in the mirror and smile, see how friendly and fun you look, tell yourself you're beautiful and smart, and never let anyone tell you anything different.
8. Have good manners. A princess always has good manners, she doesn't swear or misbehave in
public. 9. Be charitable. If there is a choice between doing something for yourself and doing something for those less fortunate, you must choose to forsake your own needs and help those who cannot help themselves. 10. Be graceful. Grace is the ability to move through life as if you were a flower floating in a pond. 11. Be compassionate. This means looking after others the way you would want someone to look after you, like tending to others in times of need or catering to the sick, the hungry, and the poor.
12. Turn the other cheek. Princesses DO NOT hold grudges, or get revenge. Learn to roll with the
punches. 13. Be thoughtful. Think about others for no reason, send someone a card- just to say that you love them or heard that they were having a bad day- or make someone a sandwich if they say they are hungry. 14. Socialize! Talk to people around you, don't be shy, because if you seem not to care about anyone, you'll be seen as somewhat of a stuck-up person. Go up to people and strike up conversations, and once you meet people, never ever forget their names when you talk to them. 15. Smile a lot! A princess should always look happy, so don't frown. What will they say in the tabloids if you go everywhere looking angry? 16. Be truly nice. It's a big truth that it isn't the tiara that makes the princess, it's what she has on the inside. Princesses are remembered for the good they did, not for their looks. Be nice to the ones who are sad, pay a honest compliment to someone, go out of your way to help people.
17. Be yourself. A princess shouldn't be fake, or she won't be a true princess. Don't be someone else,
18. Do your best in school. You can't forget about your studies, they will help you very much in the near future. But if you do get good grades, don't go around shoving them in people's faces. A kind gesture would be to help someone who has trouble in school, not make fun of them. 19. Change slowly. If you are not a princess kind of person, transition very slowly day by day so that your friends and family do not think you are a poser or that this is just a phase. Tips • It's not the tiara that makes the princess, it is her honest attitude and caring personality. • Being a princess is all about your attitude, not how much money you have or who your parents are. • Have fun! You're young anyway; you gotta meet new people. Enjoy life and the best thing you can do is to try to find yourself. • if you want to be a REAL princess, consider looking up the Japanese style, himegyaru. • Being a Princess means your nice and kind its not all about the clothes and make up. • NEVER GOSSIP!
You aren't always going to be the smartest person in every group you take part in but you can always get the edge by looking smarter than everyone around you. And if people are truly honest, most would admit that it is more important to give others the impression that you are smarter than they are than actually being smarter. But whatever your motive, looking smarter has it's serious advantages in life. Dress Smart During Work or Play. If You Want to be Taken Seriously, Dress the Part. Dress the part. Smart people know they don't have to resort to showing off sexy legs, big muscles or their keen sense for exotic looking fashion trends to impress someone when they have greater intelligence. They want to be taken seriously for their smarts, not their body. You should always dress for the professional job you dream of one day achieving. Don't be the only one who can picture you taking on that coveted role, make others picture you in that position as well. Healthy Hair Always Makes You Look Smarter Cut and style your hair in a no-nonsense sort of way. Keep to clean lines and simple styling. Always have your hair well groomed and off your face. Take extra care to keep your hair healthy. Also keep makeup to a bare minimum. Wear Glasses Wear glasses if you have them. Even if you only pull them out to read contracts or other papers shown to you. Wearing them shows a serious side to you. Putting them on to read something of interest to someone else, in front of them, gives them the perceived notion that your smarter because, after all, smart people would take them seriously. It's human nature to prefer people who seem to prefer you. Exude Confidence to Look Smarter Exude confidence. Even if you need to muster up the illusion of being confident, it is worth the effort. Confidence draws people to you and makes them realize that there must be more to you than meets the eye. They will instinctively be curious to learn more about you and take what you have to share seriously. Confidence and intelligence are often perceived as one in the same. Make eye contact, use good posture, shake hands firmly and walk with purpose. Smart People Ask Questions Be interested and ask intelligent questions to probe further. Always be, or at least appear to be, interested in learning more about the subject at hand. Never appear to be a know-it-all. Trying to give the impression that you are already an expert in a given field with nothing more to learn gives people the impression that you are going to be both hard to get along with and a braggart who really won't have much to contribute due to your lack of open-mindness to learning more. Intelligent people know that learning only stops when we die and not a second beforehand. Always make eye contact Make eye to eye contact with everyone you meet. This draws on the same vein as the confidence issue. Eye contact takes a degree of boldness, something intelligent people must have in order to become intelligent to begin with. Being Observant Leads Others to See You as Smarter Be observant. You do not always need to remark or react but do 'get caught' being observant as often as possible. This also includes being observant of other people's reactions, feelings and needs. Look Smarter (for Women) A woman's overall look can express a lot at first glance. Many women want to look smart in order to be taken seriously, whether they're in the business world or in a casual situation. Looking intelligent may take a few tweaks of your appearance. While it's ultimately up to you to evaluate your own look and decide what you can do to appear sharper, there are a few strategies any woman can follow to make herself look smarter.
Always make sure your clothing fits properly. Well-tailored and dignified pieces with clean lines can make you appear more competent. Wear eyeglasses. Find frames that fit your face. Nothing says "intellectual" more than specs. According to a study by the Vision Council of America, 59.2 percent of people viewed those who wore glasses as "more intelligent." Get a short haircut. Most female CEOs and politicians sport short low-maintenance cuts. If you choose to keep your hair long, wear it sleek and simple, or put it up in a low ponytail or bun. Apply your makeup so that it looks minimal. Consider using a foundation to even out your skin tone ; carefully contouring your cheekbones; shaping your eyebrows; and maybe applying a little bit of eyeliner on your top lid. Looking like you're wearing too much makeup can detract from your intelligent appearance. Wear solid, dark and relatively subdued colors. Dark colors provide a more serious appearance. Minimalist outfits can look sharp. Actually Become Smarter There are three things that will get you ahead in life; good looks, smarts, and being perceived as being smart. The first is god given and unfortunately, most of us are not great looking. Some people are also naturally smarter than others while most of us have to work at it. Perception is everything as they say, and just being perceived as being smart will really help out in life. In this article we explore some different ways to become smarter. The first ways of becoming smarter are obvious. If possible, go to school, meaning college, and get an education. College does not automatically mean you will be smarter, just educated. It means that you will have been exposed to many different ideas and hopefully you will have learned how to think. Being able to think outside the box and for yourself are two traits that smart people possess. Secondly, read books. Preferably not fiction, but not all fictional books are bad. Reading books triggers thought and ideas and works the brain out more than viewing television. If you do watch television, try watching something where you can learn such as the History Channel, Animal Planet, Discovery, etc. The programs actually provide you with information you can use. Third, expand your vocabulary. Try to learn one new word a week. It does not seem like much, but adding 52 new words to your vocabulary will really make you appear much smarter. Subscribing to vocabulary.com is a good start. You will have a new word sent to your email address daily. This way you are actually getting 365 words a year, but that is usually more than most people can absorb. Lastly, and this is one most people overlook. Do not repeat, I repeat, do not repeat everything that people tell you until you know that it is true. Uneducated people and people not perceived as being smart are notorious for doing this. They hear an outrageous claim and they repeat it to the nearest ear. Ever heard the expression “consider the source”? That is my exact point. You can do much harm to your quest for being smart if you are known for giving bad information. Always remember to question everything. Tips & Warnings • Understand yourself first. You may be able to get away with certain things than others simply cannot.
See Like an Artist
Tips to Being More Creative in the Workplace Seeing as an artist sees makes ideas productive, creative, and refreshing. Artists have the ability to look at problems in a new light, often transforming problems into lucrative solutions. Here are five simple ways to have the eyes of an artist in your daily life. Things You'll Need: • Time • Teachable Spirit • Willingness • Fearlessness Use the 'what if' game to see like an artist. When confronted with a challenge, use 'what if' to program your mind to think in a different direction. For example, if you are having a problem at work that needs to be fixed, ask yourself 'what if I were the boss in this situation? How would I handle it?' You may be surprised how this will change how you see and feel about the issue at hand. Take "10 Simple Minutes" to see like an artist. Turn off the cell phone. Get alone. Take a walk by yourself. As simple as this sounds, taking 'ten simple minutes' will cleanse you of problems and distractions. Often, these ten minutes will be all you need to renew focus and re-energized for the task at hand. Take a Risk. Artists take risks. They throw paint at canvasses. They sing louder, cry harder, live fuller. Go back to 'step one' above and ask yourself "what if I did (fill in the blank)?" Then do it! Do something new to see like an artist. Always wear black? Wear red. Always drive the same roads to work? Try another route. Do something different. It is the only way to succeed and try new things! Take an artist date. In her book, The Artist's Way, Julia Cameron recommends going on weekly (or monthly) dates--with yourself. These special times enable you to focus on being free and to start saying 'yes' to things you've conditioned yourself to say 'no' to!
Become a Socialite
Do you really want to be a socialite? The socialites that we see in the media already have their wealth and status from the day they were born. More than likely you are starting from scratch. To get the know-how, don't look at Paris Hilton or Ivanka Trump. Watch Mr. Hilton and Mr. Trump and you are on your way to becoming a socialite. Well, it is hard work, but this is for those social climbers out there who want to put an impressionable foot in the door. This guide will help you get into there, the rest is up to you! Climbing up the social ladder and making a name for yourself
1. Create the suitable background for yourself. Your roots are very important for other
socialites; one without a prestigious familial background is often qualified as "unsuitable" for becoming a socialite. As most people that come across this page, you're probably not filthy rich, unlike socialites who will expect you to have something fabulous to say about your background. In this case, be reclusive about your past. When people ask you about your early life -and they will-, think of some interesting details to tell them. Avoid any embarrassing details and focus on saying positive things. Rich people want their entourage to come from a good familial background (and good means rich here) for a very simple reason: they want to surround themselves with well-educated people. So, as long as you are mannered and proper, they won't care that much.
2. Get the right education. Preparation for becoming a socialite begins in middle school. Of course,
it is possible to become a socialite even if you weren’t brilliant in middle and high school and didn’t attend prestigious colleges, but it’s much harder.
If you are still in middle school or high school, make the best you can out of your school years. Get excellent grades (B’s are the lowest grades accepted, C’s are unacceptable), get involved in extracurricular activities, and obtain high scores at exams. Attend prestigious universities; either one of the Ivy League ones (warning: you must pay up to $50,000 a year, so make sure you save enough money for that), or a renowned European one (Sorbonne in Paris, or Oxford and Cambridge in the UK). Choose the right career paths. Choose either one of these: art, literature, fashion, or finance. The career path you choose must be somehow related to fine living. Even if all well-paid fields are just fine, you're more likely to meet socialites in these ones. Learn a few foreign languages. French is a must; German, Spanish and Italian would also help. But the more languages you know, the better.
3. Get an extremely well-paid job. In theory, it is quite easy: establish a business and make it
grow. Again, pick one of the fields above; if you do, you’ll certainly find quite a lot of well-paid, fun jobs. Strive to be the best in your field; try to meet some famous people working in your field and learn their secrets. Start small; you won't be extremely successful by the beginning of your career. Get a few different jobs in the field, gather experience, then start a brand of your own.
4. Learn how to promote yourself. Make a website for yourself or your company, make some
business cards, convince some related brands to power you, advertise yourself or your company in some newspapers or magazines and so on. Especially at the beginning of your career, it is very important to meet the right people. Establishing a good social network can get you many good deals. Go to events related to your field, meet some moguls in the given industry, and make them help you.
5. Find someone very rich to marry. Yes, you can become a socialite by marrying the right
person, without having to work for all that fortune yourself. You can then use your spouse's money to get a good start in business (you thought you could still get away without working? You will be disappointed to find out you can't, dear). Do you think Tinsley Mortimer was always one of the most prominent socialites in Manhattan? Wrong. She wasn't that known until she married Robert "Topper" Mortimer, a very rich banker, and became a designer for the handbag line Samantha Thavasa. So don't worry if you haven't been an excellent student; there's hope for you too.
6. Do your homework. As a socialite, there are a few things you must (emphasize "must") know.
For example, the most basic thing to start with is knowing the names and faces of the most prominent socialites of the moment. Go to Park Avenue Peerage and get familiar with the names under the "Profiles" section.
Acting as a socialite
1. Choose a good name. Make sure it sounds extremely WASP-y, uncommon and maybe foreign.
Don’t go for already “taken” last names such as Vanderbilt, because people know the Vanderbilts and will eventually figure you out. The caveat to the above is that you must look the part. If you have olive skin, kinky hair and brown eyes, no one is going to buy you as Muffie Sutton. In this case, you are better off settling for something that suggests old Spanish heritage ("Isabella Segovia").
2. Become interested in expensive stuff. Know all the big names in everything: fashion, art,
crafts, cuisine, sports etc. In the socialites’ world, when someone mentions a name, everybody is expected to know it. Also be able to pronounce all those foreign names properly. You may want to start reading some specialty magazines. If you're clueless about anything luxurious, go on Fashion Net and start doing your research. The website contains some excellent links to the sites of the brands that matter. Try acquiring some stuff from any of those brands.
3. Break the nouveau riche stereotype. "Nouveau riche" is an often derogatory term used to
describe the upper class people who don't come from a wealthy family and achieved their fortune through work, not heritage. You may get looked down upon just for the fact that previous generations in your family were not wealthy. It's a sad fact of life; however, it can be diminished by not acting like the stereotypical new money fellow. Noveau riche tend to be more extravagant in appearances, but is understandable, because they automatically link opulence with happiness; but in time, the second, third, and so on generations who grew up with wealth tend not to find it that much important. Don't be too enthusiastic about your possessions; for true upperclassmen, wealth is something they got used with, therefore they don't make too many thoughts about it. Be modest and don't brag about your belongings. Better yet, don't mention prices at all. Spend your money wisely. Don't rush into buying opulent stuff, just because you can afford it; have a little class. Don't show off your economic status by being as extravagant as possible; you will only end up looking ridiculous ad proving that you have no experience whatsoever in being rich. To summarize, don't be a total snob.
4. Be sophisticated. Refinement is the quality that separates ditzy celebrities from the true elite;
lack of sophistication is a crime in the socialite world. Have excellent manners. Used to slouch, put your elbows on the table while eating, yawn without covering your mouth? Such signs of lack of good breeding are unacceptable among the socialites. Your manners must be perfect. Buy the most detailed book on having good manners you can find, then learn it by heart. Be cultured. Read a lot, visit museums and art galleries, go to the theatre, meet artists and poets. Also keep in mind that it is unacceptable for a socialite not to know anything related to common knowledge; remember that if a 7th grader knows it, you're supposed to know it too. Re-familiarize yourself with basic history, science, geography and art. Speak properly. No slang whatsoever; cursing is also unacceptable. Use The Queen's English. Occasionally drop in some French words (like calling somebody “cheri” instead of “darling”). Use formal rather than informal language, both in speaking and in writing. Be confident. As glamorous as it may seem, the socialites' world is very gossipy and mean; and you'll need loads of confidence to make it through it all. If you don't consider yourself worthy enough to be among them, they won't either. Not to mention you often need witty comebacks when someone says something mean to you; and a person without confidence can't quickly say something witty back to them.
Be classy and discrete. Avoid doing things that draw negative attention to you, such as being very loud, getting drunk at parties, flirting with everyone that crosses your path, or cursing. Be fashionable. It is crucial that you have a sense of style and wear stylish, tailored clothes- and brand names make a huge difference. Everything you wear in public should be designer. Adopt a classy, timeless style; something that now looks just as good as it looked in the '50s, and just as good as it will look over 50 years. For ladies, get inspired by Jackie O., Charlotte from Sex and the City and Audrey Hepburn. For gentlemen, a tailored suit will always do it. Also, you should have a signature look that distinguishes you from other people- a fetish for a certain color, a nice haircut, whatever.
5. Travel a lot. There are some travel destinations you may not miss as a socialite- New York
(obviously), Paris, London, Milan, Rome. Take the time to visit all the important places there. This goes for holiday destinations as well. Summer in the Hamptons (many famous people have summer houses in there) and winter in Aspen- these are the regular vacation spots for rich people. Other exotic, expensive destinations go as well- Hawaii, the Caribbean, Dubai, Greece. Avoid acting like the stereotypical tourist; many people, especially the locals, find it annoying. Don't combine a colorful T-shirt and some shorts with white sports shoes, a big backpack, a baseball cap, sunglasses and a huge camera hanging at your neck (the typical tourist outfit). Don't buy tons of cheap, tacky souvenirs. Don't travel in large groups- your family or significant other is enough.
6. Be generous. The number one thing that you must do if you want to be a socialite is this- give.
Yes, and you should have a few charities under your belt. The great thing about this part is that it can be whatever you want, whatever amount you want, be it $30 or $20,000. You don't have to tell people about how much you gave; just tell them about the cause. And as you go up the ranks you will be able to give more. Oh, and there are perks like meeting celebrities, the affluent, intellectuals, politicians, artists and free things like gifts, free access to facilities, and rooms not open to the public. For a good example, check out the Metropolitan Art Museum in New York.
7. Socialize. After all, that's what being a socialite is all about.
Make friends wherever you go. Whether you're at the local supermarket or at a posh event, you meet a lot of new people every day. Be friendly, appear interested in the person you're talking to, exchange phone numbers. But don't worry too much about establishing a genuine, lasting friendship with all those people. Keep your circle of close friends small, but establish superficial relationships with as many people as you can- you never know when you might need them. Remember, it's all about building a well-rounded social network; many of the "friendships" you'll establish will be for the sole purpose of gaining some advantages. Better yet, befriend the right people. A little chit-chat with the local it-girl can go a long way. Having a few socialite friends will come in very handy; after all, the simplest definition of being a socialite is hanging out with other socialites. Learn about event planning, and cultivate your taste in things like flowers, appetizers, music, etc. As a socialite, you'll be expected to throw some big, stylish events and parties. When you finally get your big break and your committee asks you to help plan some gala, this will come in handy. Reading Vogue (particularly the articles chronicling events thrown by real socialites) should help you develop this intuition. Of course, there will be a lot of people to help you plan an event, like your PR assistant, secretary and so on, but you must know how to organize them all. Get some phone numbers of service providers like caterers, decorators, DJs etc.; they're extremely useful. Have the magical C word- charisma. Don't be a bore. It's pretty easy- just act like you're having a great time. Smile a lot, have interesting conversations with other people at parties, be lively and energetic. As you spend more time around socialites, you will learn a few tricks about charming your audience. Be photographed next to VIPs. Photos of important people always appear in newspapers and magazines the day after an event- and you may have the chance to hit Page Six if there's someone famous next to you. But don't make it too obvious- like rushing by the closest socialite as soon as photographers enter your line of sight- that's just pathetic.
Seek real friendship with some people. You will still need someone to be there for you when you failsomeone who would not alienate you from the very moment you show them your less perfect sides.
Surviving in the world of the rich and famous & what not to do
1. Don’t be a total social climber. These specimens are immediately detected and removed from
the social scene; their desperation to become a socialite can be sensed in an instant. Being tagged as a social climber is the worst thing that can happen to an aspiring socialite. Don’t go out of your way just for meeting someone. Even if you happen to run across a VIP, don’t freak out; just be natural and treat them like you would treat any other person. If there’s someone you know from magazines or socialite blogs, but you haven’t been introduced to them, don’t say ‘hi’ to them. Doing all sorts of crazy stuff only to meet someone, like stressing out their personal assistant to make them give you their phone number, is also a big no-no. Don’t be desperate about getting into somebody’s good graces. Putting yourself in a position of inferiority to someone would do nothing but make that someone treat you like you were inferior. Have some dignity. Don’t auto-invite yourself to parties; this is extremely rude. Not to mention it’s very likely that the bodyguards will never let you in without an invitation, but as soon as the host notices you, you’ll be out of there in an instant; and you can say goodbye forever to other parties and events.
2. Avoid controversy and scandals as much as possible. Do your best to keep your public image
clean. No sex tapes, no drugs, no controversial divorces, no public breakdowns and scenes. Be respectable and mind your morals. Stay cool and collected even when you’re raging mad. If someone did something bad to you, find a civilized way to deal with the situation.
3. Learn to deal with malicious gossip. Some people are very mean and catty, but don’t let
yourself be affected by what they say. Remember that scandal Olivia Palermo was dragged into, which led to the closing of Socialite Rank? Her reputation was ruined soon after that, but she managed to end the charade by revealing the identity of those behind the bitchy, malicious socialite blog Socialiterank.com and defend her public image. Sometimes it's better not to reveal some things from your past (only if you're 100% sure they're not going to be discovered anyway). Don't give gossipers more material, so they can say more mean things about you. Of course, we're talking here about innocent little things that may get misinterpreted. If, for example, you had a nose job when you were still young and unknown, don't talk about it, if you don't want people to go like, "She's totally fake; just another manufactured beauty". The best way to bring gossipers to silence is to laugh it off and admit that you’re not perfect (even if society expects you to). By acting like that, you’ll gain many admirers and you’ll still be able to walk with your head held high, no matter what is said about you.
4. Don't lose yourself. In a world as superficial and materialistic as that of socialites, it's very easy
to forget who you really are and where you come from. Whenever you feel like it, take a break and unwind, to avoid turning into a very shallow person. Always keep in mind your personal values.
Be Cool At Any Age
Being cool has nothing to do with age, economics, race or education. Cool comes from the inside and changes the way people look at you. Seriously, I'm a middle aged white woman and I'm pretty close to being cool. I'm not hot or rich but I'm kind of cool so trust me, you might be able to pull off "cool". There are actually fifteen step to being cool but I'm only going to share three with you today. I don't want to overload you with cool tips today. First and most important, don't try too hard to be cool or you look pathetic. Cool is only legit if it is effortless. If you are cool you need to act as though you don't know it. If you act like you think you're cool, people will think you are a "wanna-be-tough-doof". And nobody likes that guy. If you have to promote your own image, if you ever tell anyone you are "cool," you are a "tough-doofloser". So never ever tell anyone you are "cool". Except for me, of course, in this article. I'm so almost cool I can get away with it and I'm trying to help you. Cool has nothing to do with appearance. You don't have to be Fonzi or Harrison Ford. It's all about attitude and confidence. If you are cool you are just as happy alone as you are with a bunch of people. You like hanging out with yourself, listening to your awesome music, dancing in the car and making sophisticated conversation that nobody ever hears. If you don't like hanging out with you, who else will want to? Independence and self reliance is very very cool. Cool doesn't need anyone. But cool people like and are interested in everyone. If you're cool you are just as likely to flirt with the old man at Wal-Mart as the crazy hot bartender with perfect forearms. You will dance with the old lady with a cane instead of the hot blond with perfect store bought boobs. That's why everybody likes being around a cool person. Cool people never ever over react or fly off the handle. That's not cool at all. Cool people are understated but solid. If a ten year old tries to steal your purse out of the basket in the grocery store you don't go crazy yelling at them. You don't come unglued and risk looking absolutely lame. You look them in the eye and talk in a hushed tone. You think about Clint Eastwood, that's cool. A screaming middle aged woman is not cool or scary. A fearless, in your face, glacier cold woman can stop your heart. Finally, listen to everyone but never ever try to use language that's not your own. Do not say "rap" "home dog" "bling bling" (you will go to cool hell for that one) "crib" or "posse". The problem is you have no idea when words go out of style. And if you use a word that's dead and gone, so is your hope of being cool. Using out of date words makes you sound ancient. And don't curse just to sound cool. That just makes you sound desperate. Go slow, be cool and relax, you'll make it.
Get a Job
Whether you're looking for your very first job, switching careers, or re-entering the job market after an extended absence, finding a job whittles down to two main tasks: understanding yourself and understanding the job market. Presuming you've already chosen a career and are currently searching for jobs, here are several ways to actually get a job. Network. The best companies to work for tend to rely heavily (up to 40%) on employee referrals. Make a list of all of your friends, relatives, and acquaintances. Call each one and ask them if they know of any openings that they could recommend you for. Don't be too humble or apologetic; tell them what you've been looking for, but let them know that you're flexible and that if they have any suggestions, you're open to them. This is not the time to be picky about jobs; a connection can often get your foot in the door, and you can negotiate pay or switch positions later, once you've gained experience and established your reputation. Touch base with all of your references. The purpose of this is twofold. You can ask them for leads, and you'll also be refreshing their memory of you in their mind. (Hopefully their memory of you is a good one, or else you shouldn't be putting them down as a reference.) If a potential employer calls them, they won't hesitate as much when remembering who you are. Volunteer. If you aren't already, start volunteering for an organization that focuses on something that you're passionate about. You may end up doing boring or easy work in the beginning, but as you stick around and demonstrate your commitment, you'll be given more responsibilities. Not only will you be helping others, but you'll also be gaining references. You should emphasize your volunteer experience on your resume, as companies that treat their employees well tend to favor candidates who help the community somehow. Develop your personal elevator pitch. Many structured interviews, particularly those at large companies, start with a question like "tell me about yourself." The interviewer doesn't really want you to go back to grade school and talk about your childhood. This is a specific question with a specific answer...in two minutes or so, the interviewer wants to get you to relax and loosen out your vocal cords, understand your background, your accomplishments, why you want to work at XYZ company and what your future goals are. Prepare for a behavioral interview. You might be asked to describe problems you've encountered in the past and how you handled them, or you'll be given a hypothetical situation and asked what you would do. They'll basically want to know how you'll perform when faced with obstacles in the position you're interviewing for. Be able to give honest, detailed examples from your past, even if the question is hypothetical (e.g. "I would contact the customer directly, based on my past experience in a different situation in which the customer was very pleased to receive a phone call from the supervisor"). You might find yourself listing facts--if so, remember that in this kind of interview, you need to tell a story. Some questions you might be asked are: – – – – "Describe a time you had to work with someone you didn't like." "Tell me about a time when you had to stick by a decision you had made, even though it made you very unpopular." "Give us an example of something particularly innovative that you have done that made a difference in the workplace." "How would you handle an employee who's consistently late?"
Research the company. Don't just do an Internet search, memorize their mission, and be done with it. If it's a retail company, visit a few of their stores, observe the customers, and even strike up a few conversations. Talk to existing employees--ask them what it's like working there, how long the position has been open, and what you can do to increase your chances of getting it. Become familiar with the history of the company. Who started it? Where? Who runs it now? Be creative, and do whatever you think the other candidates don't have the guts to do. Settle down. If you've moved around a lot, be prepared to offer a good reason for it. Otherwise, you'll need to make a good case for why you want to stick around in the area where the job is located. A
company doesn't want to hire someone with wanderlust who still wants to relocate. Be prepared to outline why you are where you are today, how long you intend to stay there, and why. Give specific reasons like "This county has the best school systems in the entire state, and I have a daughter who might find the cure for cancer" or "I was drawn to this area because it's at the cutting edge of innovation for this business and I want to be a part of that." The more details, names, and specifics, the better. Make a list of work-related skills you'd like to learn. Your employer will be interested in hearing about how you intend to become a better employee. Think about which skills will make you more competent in the position you're applying for. Public speaking, project management, team leading, and computer programs are usually beneficial. Find some books and upcoming conferences that would significantly improve your abilities. In an interview, tell the employer what you're reading and learning, and that you'd like to continue doing so. Cold call. Locate a specific person who can help you (usually the human resources or hiring manager at a company or organization you're interested in). Call that person and ask if they are hiring, but do not become discouraged if they are not. Ask what kind of qualifications they look for or if they have apprentice or government sponsored work programs. Ask if you can send your resume indicating what field you want to go into. Indicate whether you would accept a lesser job and work up. Reflect after each phone call on what went well and what did not. You may need to write out some standard answers on your list of skills so you can speak fluently. You may need to get some additional training to break into your chosen field. None of this means you cannot get a good job, only that you need to become further prepared to do so. Change your attitude. There's a difference between making phone calls and going to interviews thinking "I'm looking for a job" versus "I'm here to do the work you need to have done". When you're looking to get a job, you're expecting someone to give something to you, so you focus on impressing them. Yes, it's important to make a good impression, but it's even more important to demonstrate your desire and ability to help. Everything that you write and say should be preceded silently by the statement "This is how I can help your business succeed." Fit the job to the skills rather than the other way around. Many people search for jobs, then try to see how they can "tweak" the way they present their own skills and experiences to fit the job description. Instead, try something different. Make a list of all of your skills, determine which kinds of businesses and industries need them most (ask around for advice if you need to) and find businesses that'll benefit from having you and your skills around. It's important the nature of the job fits your personality and salary requirements, otherwise you'll have spent a significant amount of time to find a day job you dread getting up for every morning. Tips • Realize that you may have to work your way up. For example, if you want to become an apparel buyer, work for a company that manufactures or sells such goods. • Remember you are doing some HR workers a favor when you present yourself and they do not have to go out and find workers like you. If you get a rude person, be jmost self-employed or an entrepreneur, in which case your task is not so much to find and get a job, but to create a job. Most people who work for themselves, however, often started off with a "day job" that paid the bills until their preferred income source could take over.wal mart can help you • Be willing to spend some time learning about the job. Observe or intern to get some experience. • Of course, it's not everything, but it is best to dress appropriately to create the right impression. • Use placement agencies. They sometimes keep a good chunk of your income for themselves, but they can get you decent placements, so you can improve that resume. Never go to just one agency. Always go to as many as possible. It is easy and it increases your chances a lot! Warnings If you're doing a thorough job search, you will get rejected sometimes. If you're not getting rejected, you're not putting yourself out there enough. And if you don't learn to see rejection as a chance to improve your approach, then you'll have a very difficult time getting a job.
It can be stressful
A life makeover can be a hard achievement. Reduce your stress levels so you can keep going on your evolving process. 6 WAYS TO REDUCE STRESS An Angel says, 'Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn't happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.' Try these great ideas for increased peace and less stress in your life! 1. Pray. 2. Go to bed on time. 3. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed. 4. Say No to projects that won't fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health. 5. Delegate tasks to capable others. 6. Simplify and unclutter your life. 7. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.) 8. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places. 9. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don't lump the hard things all together. 10. Take one day at a time. 11. Separate worries from concerns . If a situation is a concern, find out what God would have you do and let go of the anxiety . If you can't do anything about a situation, forget it. 12. Live within your budget; don't use credit cards for ordinary purchases. 13. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc. 14. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble. 15. Do something for the Kid in You everyday. 16. Carry a Bible with you to read while waiting in line. 17. Get enough rest. 18. Eat right. 19 Get organized so everything has its place. 20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life. 21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone. 23. Having problems? Talk to God on the spot. Try to nip small problems in the bud. Don't wait until it's time to go to bed to try and pray. 24. Make friends with Godly people. 25. Keep a folder of favorite scriptures on hand. 26. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often a good 'Thank you Jesus .' 27. Laugh. 28. Laugh some more! 29. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all. 30. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can). 31. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most). 32. Sit on your ego. 33 Talk less; listen more. 34. Slow down. 35. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe. 36 . Every night before bed, think of one thing you're grateful for that you've never been grateful for before. God has a way of turning things around for you.