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Cover Art by Linda Huggins

Cover Art by Linda Huggins If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your
Cover Art by Linda Huggins If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your
Cover Art by Linda Huggins If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your
Cover Art by Linda Huggins If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your
Cover Art by Linda Huggins If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your
Cover Art by Linda Huggins If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your
If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your foremothers struggled for 72 years
If you honor women, remember to VOTE on November 7. Your foremothers
struggled for 72 years so you could cast a vote. Don’t let them down!

Volume XXI, Number 6 November & December, 2006

Women’s Community Center

NOW News

Voices Around the Table:

What makes a home?

Local Perspectives

Women at Work

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Body & Soul

Community Bulletin Board

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Community Resources

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UnsungHeroine

Kay Tift: Growing Healthy Groups

By Berta Parrish

If eyes are windows to our souls, then Kay Tift’s soul is open, enthusi- astic, and expansive. If one’s home is where her heart is, than Kay’s heart is filled with people, purpose, and plea- sure. An 87-year heroine’s journey has brought her from a conservative, middle-class background to being an inspirational role model for women who want to expand and enrich their own lives and the lives of others. The Call to Change. As the daughter of a high school principal in Upland, CA, Kay was destined for motherhood, education, and com- munity service. After graduating from Berkeley, she began teaching in the Japanese Relocation Camp at Tule Lake while her husband Floyd served during WWII. Like most women of that era, she didn’t have a life goal. So after the war, she returned to being a stay-at-home wife, raising three chil- dren. Later, while living in Washing- ton, D.C., volunteering and being a member of the League of Women Voters didn’t satisfy her restlessness. She was depressed and didn’t want to duplicate her mother’s patriarchy- ruled existence. Something had to change or she was heading towards a breakdown. The Trials and Tests. Searching for something more, she took a job teach- ing in a psychiatric clinic for emotion- ally disturbed children which required regular therapy for all staff members. It helped when her daughter told her, “Mom, you don’t have to be a sec- ond-class citizen all your life. You’ve been a martyr-victim long enough.” With new psychological insights and

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her family’s permission, Kay earned a Master’s in education and a Doctorate in human resource development. She left second-class citizen status when she became a consultant and later the head of curriculum development for the National Drug Abuse Training Center. She loved the excitement, the work, the prestige, and the people. The Abyss. Despite the job suc- cess, increased confidence, and rec- ognition, Kay began feeling empty. She describes it like this: “My head had gotten pretty crammed with intellectual stuff. I loved the idea of thinking, but I really wasn’t able to care very much about people in gen- eral…I wasn’t gentle because I had grown up trying to get recognition in a man’s world.” She became disil- lusioned because the external rewards didn’t make her feel as good as she thought they would. Something else, something deeper, was still missing. A powerful inner voice told her that ego- achievements were part of her life’s journey, but not the final goal.

The Healing of the Feminine

Spirit. Once again searching, Kay became involved in the human poten- tial movement that was impacting education, politics, psychology, and women’s studies. Now she believes that “nature abhors a vacuum – that if you’re missing something, why, part of your inner self reaches out for it. There’s just a sweeping nature that wants us to be whole.” This search led Kay and Floyd to the Findhorn Spiri- tual Community in Northern Scot- land immediately after retiring. The community building and motto “You can do it superbly alone – now we must learn to do it together” attracted them. The initial one-year commit-

ment lengthened as she learned to let go of her ego and to give and receive interdependent love from others. She admits to being a slow learner: “It took seven years before the same inner voice that brought me to Findhorn, told me it was time to return to our roots in California.”

The Return to Share the Boon.

Acting upon this inner knowing, Kay and Floyd moved to Cayucos where they volunteered for a variety of agen- cies and causes. In 1987, she joined the Women’s Alliance whose goal was to nurture women’s spirituality as a foun- dation for personal and global heal- ing by bringing women from different races and sexual beliefs together to work as a team at its summer solstice camps. Kay served as a group process staff member and was grateful to hear outstanding speakers, such as Joanna

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League of Women Voters hosts Ukrainian leaders:

A real-world civics lesson

By Galen Ricard

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Left to right: Tetyana Khimchenko, Yuliya Yesmukhanova, Trudy Jarratt, Tetyana Pechonchyk and Oksana Levkova.

It was an eight-day week recently for three up-and-coming Ukrainian lead- ers. Their itinerary spanned the county, with a diverse sampling of Central Coast lifestyles, leaders and land- marks. They toured county govern- ment offices, met with local officials, attended receptions with community leaders and activists, and were taken behind the scenes of various media operations, with a few time-outs for sight-seeing. It was an intense, peripa- tetic, and exhilarating real-world civ- ics lesson that, to a woman, they fully immersed themselves in. The October 14-22 trip was spon- sored by the League of Women Voters of San Luis Obispo County as part of the Open World program, which gives emerging Eurasian leaders a firsthand look at the U.S. political system, busi- ness, and community life. The Cen- tral Coast was one of two major stops on the group’s tour, which included Washington, DC. For Ukraine, it’s a time of renewed opportunities. Since gaining its inde- pendence in 1991, it has shaped a

democracy largely based on Euro- pean values and struggled with the complexities of a modern post-Soviet national identity. The country’s initial progress was clouded by political drift and corruption during the 1999-2004 term of its second president, then dra- matically revived by the Orange Rev- olution of 2004 that elected Viktor Yushchenko as president in a wave of pro-Western sentiment. “The theme of the tour was ‘accountable governance,’” said Trudy Jarratt, president of the local League. “The Ukrainians learned about the openness of our government, includ- ing the high level of activism – here and throughout the U.S. We, in turn, learned about a well-educated, com- mitted, pragmatic, and passionate people who want to insure that their country has a government that’s hon- est, open, and accessible. They want a strong democracy. We have much in common. “What particularly struck me was their amazement at observing citizens

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Happy holidays!

Our theme

The “loose” theme of this issue is “home”:

from Linda Huggins’ dreamlike painting of a cottage and picket fence that invites us into the landscape to Trisha Oksner’s article on Tirtza

Abuan, who hopes to make her cooking avocation into a profession; from Berta Parrish’s cover article on Kaye Tift, who has chosen to make her home in inten- tional communities to Galen Ricard’s account of the Ukrainian women’s visit and their observations on our home country compared to theirs. Many of you also submitted your answers to our Voices Around the Table question: What makes a home a “home” to you? Enjoy the responses.

New columns

We have new columns by local naturopaths, who will be offering you sug-

gestions and insight into health issues not usually available from medical doc- tors. We invite women who provide alternative therapies, such as color therapy, sound therapy, and others to submit articles. We also are beginning a new col- umn, “Younger Women Speak Out,” which will offer you the voices of young women in our community.

New advertising team

Three women, led by Margaret Hennessy, who once ran her own local pub- lication in Colorado, are working on getting regular advertising for the Press. Jacky Lopez, Carol Dawn, and Maria Foster will be calling and visiting local businesses and encouraging them to support the Women’s Press with ads or busi- ness profiles. The price for the latter, a ¼-page spread with your logo, business

information, and a short article about what you do, will be $149. Give us a call for an appointment: 544-9313.

Writer’s guidelines and volunteer manual

My planning committee has been working on developing both writer’s guide-

lines and a volunteer manual, both almost complete. The volunteer manual will give details about the type of work expected from volunteers as editors, advertis- ing staff, distributors, etc., including the number of hours spent per issue. Both will be posted soon on our website: www.womenspress-slo.org. I hope you and your friends refer to it and call to volunteer. The more women we have, the more diversity in voices and viewpoints we will have.

Next issue

The topic I’d like to explore in our next issue is “Superwoman,” society’s expectations that women can do it all and our striving to do it! Frances Yee, a Cal Poly student, submitted an article that gave me the idea. Especially young

women are feeling pressures to do and be all, and I think we need to talk about it. Please submit any viewpoint or article related to the theme. I welcome them. Another idea is to look at women in other parts of the world. Always want- ing to keep a local focus, I will accept articles on this topic if you or someone local you know has a relationship with someone abroad or has traveled there and has a personal account.

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Call me if you would like to be come involved in a publication that keeps getting better: 474-6444. Meet other interesting and dedicated women. No date has been set for the next staff meeting, but I will put you on a notification list.

Joy to you and all your loved ones,

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Angie King, President Kathleen Deragon Susan Howe Jan Potter Robin Werderits

Volunteering:

Good For Your Health and Business

by Margaret Hennessy

What can helping others do for our well being? Apparently, a lot! You may be surprised to find out that a solid link has been established between doing volunteer work and good health. Several years ago, NBC “Today Show” regular Dr. Art Ulene, in his annual fitness campaign, put signifi- cant emphasis on mental health as well as physical fitness and how the two are closely related. Social interac- tion can play a huge role. A 10-year study of 2,700 subjects in Wisconsin showed that men who were socially isolated were twice as likely to die of heart disease, cancer, and other illness. Many volunteers will tell you that they experience a kind of “helpers’ high” from their work, which seems to override the sense of being a “do gooder.” It may be that these people simply enjoy what they do, which in turn affects their immune system in a positive way. Or, it may be that volunteers who take care of others simply take better care of themselves. Dr. Ulene stressed that mental fitness is also a critical part of a persons’ total fitness program. Over the past 20 years that I have vol- unteered for different community- based organizations in several states, I have heard over and over again the same statement: People feel good

about helping others. It makes them

feel needed and provides a sense of belonging. We all need to feel as if we are a part of something that can make a difference. Even in some small way.

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There are a variety of volunteer opportunities in this community. They range from helping animals, children, seniors, healthcare, the homeless, as well as abused women. But what if you are working and do not have time to physically volunteer? I have personally talked to many business people who are discouraged because of this lack of available time. The answer? Sponsor- ship. Find an organization that you feel good about working with and help sponsor an event. I have worked in public relations for over 30 years and there is no better way to build your business than with goodwill. The people in your community will take notice. The best way to achieve your goals is to help others achieve theirs. I have seen it work many times. To find out more about volunteer and sponsorship opportunities with the Women’s Community Center and other local organizations call

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Letter to the Editor

I was interested to read in your last issue the section Voices Around the Table:

“Why do you think sexual harassment continues to be such a problem in our schools and in the workplace?” But as I read each response, I felt increasingly frustrated as each response focused on what women were, or were not doing, to end sexual harassment. The truth is this: sexual harassment continues in our workplaces and our schools because MEN continue to commit acts of sex- ual harassment. Before something can be prevented, we need to be clear about who has the power to prevent, and only the person committing the act has the power to NOT commit the act. Vic- tims can do things that may reduce their risk, but they cannot actually pre- vent the act from happening. We must be clear about who is responsible. Sexual harassment contin- ues to be a problem because some men, certainly not most, have not learned that it is unacceptable, as well as unlaw- ful. Women can definitely play a part in stopping the problem, but men need to step up to the plate if issues like sexual harassment, sexual assault and domes- tic violence are ever going to be erad- icated. Violence against women is not just a “women’s issue.” It belongs to all

of us, because it affects all of us. So let’s hold the men in our lives accountable and help them to take responsibility for their own behaviors and attitudes. Men must stand up and speak out against

sexual harassment

and

any other forms

 

so

that we

can all enjoy a more peaceful world. Please contact our office (805-545- 8888 or www.sarpcenter.org) for more

information on prevention efforts, as well as men in the movement. Sincerely,

Jennifer Adams

Executive Director Sexual Assault Recovery and Prevention Center of SLO County

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A Woman of Passion and Compassion

By Susan Howe

Our free peer support group for women, occurring weekly on Thursdays at 7 PM, is fortunate to have an imminently quali- fied and hugely non-judgmental counselor who joined our ranks October 5, 2006. Dona has been interested in the field of psychol- ogy since the 7th grade. She experienced one of her classmates being mistreated and was so upset by it that she dedicated her life subsequently to fighting for the underdog. She comes to us with an almost completed licensure in her MFC degree. She returned to college in her late 30’s after a hiatus for marriage and a child. Her interests have taken her into studies in the Jungian school and other “mental dishes.” She has a par- ticular passion for equality for homosexuals as some of her fam- ily members are gay. Dona is unphased by whatever anybody is as long as it does not hurt anyone else. Her mother was a Christian evangelist and she was forced to go to Bible camp, which raised her feminist consciousness at age 8. She was a whiz at memorizing Bible verses and was in a compe- tition to the very end, winning it in fact. However, the boy who was second was given the prize “just because he was a boy.” In later years, when she and her sister in -law (Jamie) were both mar- ried to abusive husbands and living in Holland, the feminist edu- cation continued as Jamie and she talked over their relationship with the abuse. She read a great deal of feminist literature, and left her husband soon after her son’s birth. Dona became aware of the vast amount of violence against women and gays through her many contacts. She volunteers at SARP (Sexual Assault and Rape Prevention) and has helped Planned Parenthood in the past. Her life is enhanced by living with an intriguing partner, Michael, and his teenage son. Michael is also in service work and has had the distinguished position of poet laureate for San Luis Obispo. Three gorgeous cats also share the home. Thank you, Dona, for being of service.

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Family Law Action Committee

No meetings in December

Dealing With Divorce

3rd Wednesday of each month – 7 PM Upcoming: November 15 and January 17 Talk with other women who have been there, done that in a supportive, non-judgmental environment. $5 donation

Self-Represented Litigants’ Clinic

4th Tuesday of each month – 5:30 PM Upcoming: November 28 and January 23 Get family law advice from local attorneys and/or paralegals. Reservations required. $25 donation

An Open Letter to the Wonderful WCC Community

By Angie King, Board President

Thank you to everyone who responded to our announcement in the last issue of the Women’s Press that we were actively recruiting new members to be on the WCC Board of Directors. We got a lot of calls! It makes me humble to think that what we do has made a difference to you, and that you responded so generously. We talked at some length at the last Board meeting about some of the qualities we were specifically looking for in new Board members, and realized we have to clarify our own goals and objectives before we can ask people to join us in furthering the mission of WCC. After all, isn’t the first question you have in your mind about this job — what is it you actually do? If you read the Women’s Press, you know some of our activities, but there’s more that goes on quietly as well: volunteers who are drawn to the Center for reasons of their own, help us with a project, and then (sometimes) move on, having touched us and, by extension, the women’s com- munity in San Luis Obispo, with their generosity, wisdom, and grace. So, what do we do? What have we accomplished, and is it what we had in mind 6 years ago when we signed an agreement with the Women’s Resource Center to take over their space, their assets, and their liabilities as a new organization. To try to make sense of it all, I looked through the past 6 years of board meeting minutes. My, we are a lively bunch! We have energy and enthusiasm and high hopes. We are still a young non-profit, guided by the vision of the founders, without much infrastructure or long-range continuity planning. Those who study non-profits say this is entirely nor- mal, and in fact, welcome. But at some point, the group must “grow up” and build that infrastructure and plan for the future. I think we’re at that stage and the burst of energy from taking on new board members is just what we need to grow up healthy and strong We are holding a strategy planning session in early Decem- ber, from which will emerge, we hope, the plan and vision for the second stage of our development as a nonprofit organization. So, to all of you who have expressed an interest in our Board, thank you. We will be contacting you, probably after the holi- days. In the meantime, if you have ideas or suggestions you want us to have in developing our planning, please call the Center and leave a message, or e-mail at info@wccslo.org.

A Bit of History of the WCC

WCC became what it is because of the tenacity of a few women:

Jan Potter, Dawn Williams, and Sue McMeans. They knew how scarce help was for women of little or no means in divorce situ- ations. They knew the extreme lengths to which some fathers go in fighting a divorce, and how detrimental that was to the woman and her children. In February 2000 we attended a conference in Fresno on some of these topics, and came home energized to start a place where women could find that help, and be protected. That was the genesis of the WCC. Almost immediately, a woman came into our lives offering the possibility of a large sum of money, enough to buy a building. While that possibility didn’t work out, we are still looking for that endowment to enable us to create a real women’s center building. In the meantime, we were approached by the Women’s Resource Center board to consider a merger or consolidation. By June we had hammered out the details; WRC officially dissolved, and we became the new nonprofit tax exempt agency, Women’s Community Center. Immediately, we asked for county grant money to run a family law clinic – and got it! We then asked the San Luis Obispo County Community Foundation for a grant to buy computers and office equipment – and, again, got it! We signed up with a web space and joined the modern world. We quickly gained a reputation in the community as an umbrella organization that sponsors events for people. Examples include a seminar on art therapy, a program for Cal Poly students designed to help them create their own empowering models of womanhood, computer classes for women. We also produced public presentations on topics of interest to women, such as Bev- erly Urban on the impact of domestic violence on the workplace economy; T.S. Wylie on her hormonal protocol to combat the symptoms of menopause; a tax amnesty workshop by Lisa Gonza- lez; and last spring’s “Women’s Way to Wealth” in coalition with other women’s agencies. (BTW, that seminar will be repeated in early 2007!) Meanwhile, the core activities, the family law classes and clin- ics, have flourished. We have a monthly class which prepares lit- igants for the divorce process; a monthly legal clinic staffed by volunteer attorneys; a manual on how to put your case together, including tips on etiquette in court; court watchers who monitor the way the court treats women without an attorney and report findings to the court; and a program to accompany women to court for moral and emotional support. All these programs con- tinue today and all were organized and are run by volunteers. From the beginning we have been fortunate to have Cal Poly interns who find us, who are wonderful ,and whom we miss when they graduate and move on. Since 2004 we have been a service site for a number of women doing probation-ordered community service, enabling us to meet some wonderful women, many of whom have continued to vol- unteer after completing probation. There were 2,000 copies of the Women’s Press printed when we became the publisher in 2000; over time, we have increased circu- lation to the present 6,000 copies, still distributed free throughout the county, and to your home by paid subscription. As you can see, the paper has become a premier publication, again, thanks to the wonderful volunteer editors and production staff over the years. Along the way, we moved from upstairs in an inaccessible building to a row house along Marsh, for a time, with the Com- munity Counseling Center, and now, clustered with other non- profits at the Goodwill Building. We are looking forward to the future with enthusiasm.

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Cover Art

Linda Huggins of Cambria and the Bay Area, is a plein air painter of California landscapes and seascapes. Ms. Huggins “has a highly developed sensitivity to the fleeting quality of light and hones in on the beauty of place and space with a subtle yet exquisitely rich palette. Her impressionistic use of the oil medium infuses the works with a lively energy that capture the natural essence of the scene in an econ- omy of marks, a Haiku in paint, so to speak, pure poetry…” She has studied with various masters including Van Waldron, Charles Mov- alli, Libby Tolley, and Kevin MacPherson. Linda is represented on the Central Coast by the Chambers Gallery in Cambria.

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Coordinator’s Corner

By Angie King

By the time you read this, the elec- tion will be history, and I can only hope I am right that the fear monger- ing radical extremists in the Republi- can party have been undone by their own hubris. Whatever the outcome, we must look forward; the winter sol- stice is coming, and the re-warming of the earth follows soon thereafter, and it will be spring again. Keep that thought. Back in October (who can remem- ber that far back?), it was Love Your Body Day, and once again, Julia Palm, NOW member and events planner extraordinaire, organized a commu- nity resource fair on campus. Infor- mation was made available to Cal Poly students about how the media use unhealthy images of women (too thin, tied up, naked) to sell every- thing, including liquor and tobacco, and ways to combat the pressure that makes American women mistreat their bodies to try to conform to the media image. If we refuse to succumb to the advertising, it will be a start to defeat- ing the cultural bias against our own natural body shapes. Each year NOW Foundation sponsors a poster contest. This year’s poster featured the Statue of Liberty, saying: “Give me your curves, your wrinkles, your natural beauty yearning to breathe free.” The winning designs of the past contests are now compiled in a calendar for 2007, avail- able soon. You can order a copy of the 2007 Love Your Body calendar for yourself or as a gift at NOW’s online store (www.now.org). Also in October, we had a very successful fundraiser as part of the Morro Bay Harbor Festival. Thank you to each and every volunteer who helped us sell the drink tickets and glasses. NOW will receive $375 for your weekend’s work. We use all our funds to pay the costs to produce our actions – rent space, buy sup- plies, publicity, postage, etc. Our next public event will be the annual Roe v. Wade celebration – we’re planning another movie at the Palm for Sunday, January 21. Mark your holiday calendar now – the NOW winter party will be our regular meeting day – December 19th – with a short business meeting at 6 and party at 7. For location and direc- tions, send us an email at slonow@ kcbx.net.

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Reproductive Rights News

South Dakota Abortion Ban: When South Dakota’s law banning nearly all abortions in the state—the most restrictive state measure enacted since Roe v. Wade legalized abortion nationwide and scheduled to go into effect on July 1, women’s rights sup- porters throughout South Dakota banded together and collected tens of thousands of signatures, enough to

temporarily halt implementation of the legislation, and to refer the law to the voters on November 7th.Polling showed that voters would reject the law, but here’s the catch: voters believe the ban “goes too far” because there is no rape or incest exception. The same polls show that the ban would be approved if it had those excep- tions, even without a health exception and without regard for other circum- stances of women’s lives.It is danger- ous to frame the issue that way.The stronger, longer range, argument calls for laws that protect women’s health and respect their need to plan their families, while also appealing to those voters for whom the idea of “govern- ment intrusion” into personal deci- sions is anathema.

Henry Hyde Retires after 32

years; his Amendment turns 30: In October Illinois Republican Repre- sentative Henry Hyde announced he would not seek another term.It also marked the 30th anniversary of the Hyde Amendment, the legislative doc- trine used to control the reproductive lives and limit the health care options of poor women. Passed by Congress every year since 1976, the current ver- sion denies federal coverage for abor- tion, except in cases of incest, rape or life endangerment, but without any exception to preserve the woman’s health, placing the financial burden on already-tight state Medicaid bud- gets, in effect encouraging states not to expand abortion coverage. Currently, more than half of the states provide

no additional funding, according to the National Abortion Federation, which notes that only South Dakota provides less coverage than the Hyde Amendment.Since the amendment’s enactment, the Guttmacher Insti- tute has found that 20-35 percent of women eligible under Medicaid who would choose abortion have carried their pregnancies to term due to lack

of personal financial means and the

absence of state funding. About 12 million women are covered by Medic- aid.In addition, the Amendment fur- ther politicizes abortion care, instead of recognizing it as a fundamental

component of reproductive and fam- ily planning health care.

Harsh Restrictions on Young Women’s Access to Abortion Stymied

in Senate: Failing in a last-minute effort to increase abortion restrictions before Congress leaves Washington, D.C., to campaign, Republicans were unable to force a vote on a bill that would deprive young women of family support, threaten their friends and rel- atives with jail time, and restrict their access to abortion services. The Sen- ate could not muster the required 60 votes, although the House had passed the measure earlier. The Teen Endan- germent Act would have restricted young women’s ability to access abor- tion services, and provided only mea- ger exceptions to protect the young woman’s health. Said Kim Gandy, NOW President, “They really don’t care about real women’s lives. The Republican leadership was determined to trade off the rights of young women for a few Brownie points with their right-wing base, just before the elec- tions. No doubt they will be back.” The Teen Endangerment Act would have imposed mandatory parental notification and delay requirements on young women who need abortion services outside of their home state; make it a federal crime even for an aunt or grandmother to accompany a young woman across state lines to obtain an abortion, thus making criminals of trusted friends and family members who help teens unable to involve a parent in their decision; and will subject young women, abortion providers, and oth- ers to a confusing maze of overlapping and conflicting state and federal laws, which will make it more difficult and more dangerous for young women to obtain abortions. The Other Side of the Story: We all think of pro choice as the right

to choose to have an abortion. But it is as, and maybe more, important, the right to choose not to have one. Take the case of the 19-year-old girl in Maine who was literally kidnapped by her parents and taken to a doctor for an abortion. The young woman, however, wanted her baby, and she managed to escape along the way and called police. She had not told them she was pregnant, even though, as an adult she was under no obliga- tion to inform them of anything. And with good reason, as it turns out. Her choice is why we must continue to fight for a woman’s right to make the decision about her own body.

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NOW Calendar

 

Nov 21:

NOW regular meeting, 6 PM

Nov 7:

Nov 30:

Election Day

Birthday of Shirley Chisolm,

Nov 8:

1924, first black congresswoman

Washington state votes for women’s suffrage, 1910 Nov 11:

 

(1969), first black presidential nominee (1972)

Birthday of Abigail Adams, early advocate of women’s rights, 1744 Nov 12:

Birthday of Elizabeth Cady Stanton, 1815 Nov 15:

Birthday of Georgia O’Keefe,

1887

Nov 18:

First national women’s confer- ence, Houston, 1977

Dec 1

AIDs Day Without Art Dec 16:

Birthday of Margaret Mead, 1901 Dec 19:

NOW regular meeting, 6 PM Holiday Party

Election News

This is obviously written before elec- tion results are known, but if the past holds true, more women than men will have voted this fall. The ratio of women to men voters has been climbing for the past 20 years, and in 2004, the scales were tipped. As more women vote, we can expect to see real “family values” actually get trans- lated into legislation – like equal pay, affordable child care, a living wage for all, universal health care, etc, etc. The sad part, however, is that only 65% of eligible women actually vote. And speaking of universal health care, remember it was Schwarzeneg- ger who vetoed universal health care – because it would cost too much money! He also vetoed four pieces of legislation designed to curb employer unfair labor practices because he said it would hurt the state economy. One bill would have increased penalties

against employers who violate gender equity wage requirements (remember equal pay?). I am counting on the failure of Prop 85, the teen consent initiative. Every- one I spoke to before the election about this issue, said, “What, are we still hav- ing to fight this one? Is that on the ballot again? “I hope that this frustra- tion with the antics of a minority that wants to punish women for their sexu- ality translated into a landslide defeat for Prop 85. NOW had alerted activists to monitor the Yes on 85 messages – in automated phone bank calling, radio and TV spots, etc., and let them know which groups pay for those ads and calls. This was one race that pulled out all the stops with out-of-state corpora- tions funding this Yes campaign. Ironic that one of the other Propositions (89) would restrict corporation spending on proposition campaigns.

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San Luis Obispo NOW Purchases Science Books About Women

There are only a handful of prominent women today in science. The number of high school graduates going on to a college science curriculum is declin- ing. Women in particular seem to be turned off by the isolating nature of hard science, and many report they view it as socially irrelevant. However, it is science and technology that will cure the world’s major social problems – poverty, illiteracy, disease. These issues seriously affect women and women must be part of the scientific innovation. Sally Ride, former astronaut and one of those prominent women, spends her time now improving sci- ence education for children at the middle school level. At a recent con- ference dedicated to Grace Hopper (another of those women and a pio- neer in developing computing), Dr. Ride challenged her colleagues to

work with her to motivate young girls to stay with science. The San Luis Obispo chapter of NOW took that challenge. We have purchased a set of books designed for the middle school student, called Women’s Adventures in Science, part of the Scholastic Series by Joseph Henry Press. Each of the 10 books in the series is a biography of a current woman scientist who explains her field in language a young reader will under- stand. They are filled with the obvious passion these women have for their careers. It is hoped young girls will be inspired to go on in science and create the next innovations that change their world. San Luis Obispo NOW is arrang- ing to donate these books to teachers in the county, as a teaching resource for their schools.

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Sexual Harassment Update

Remember Anita Hill? In 1991, she almost prevented Clarence Thomas from becoming a Supreme Court Justice when she revealed his sexual harassment of her in his nomination hearings. Almost. But her testimony has helped others stop similar behav- ior. A whole generation of women has been emboldened by the publicity she engendered on this topic to complain of harassment against them at work, resulting in both federal and state laws prohibiting such practices, and some

huge awards against employers in civil cases. Baker & McKenzie, a San Fran- cisco law firm, paid $3 million in dam- ages in 1994. To decrease exposure to such claims, companies now offer sex- ual harassment training. The results have paid off. The number of claims now brought has sharply declined. Where cases do get to court, the fines are higher; it is the companies without a policy in place or without regular training or with sub-standard training that make the news. Observers note that 90% of complaints are successfully dealt with internally. While some workers feel constrained by sexual harassment pre- vention policies, the attorneys who represent these women have an easy answer. “Just ask your daughter or your spouse if they think they should have to tolerate uninvited touching or suggestive comments at work.” Sexual harassment is not con- fined to the white-collar office. In

fact, in California women farm work- ers are regularly subjected to abuse and harassment by their field bosses, forced to trade sexual favors to get paid. These women are often not pro- ficient in English and have no way to know they have rights under the law; they are frightened they will lose the only means of support for themselves and their children, and they are cul- turally inclined to be quiet. That is now changing. For the past 10 years, a group of Farm Worker

Women Leaders has organized and trained about 500 women every year. These women arrange house parties at the home of a farm worker, who invites her own friends and relatives. In this supportive atmosphere, the farm worker leaders explain the law, using skits and humor to get their points across. Agribusiness companies are now providing sexual harassment training to their managers and super- visors to make sure they follow the law in the fields. Of course, a verdict of almost $1 million in 2005 against a grower in California helped change attitudes towards sexual harassment in agriculture as it did 10 years before in the white-collar office jobs. If you feel you have been harassed at work, call the US Equal Oppor- tunity Commission at 800-669- 4000 or www.eeoc.gov or the state Department of Fair Employment and Housing at 800-884-1684 or www.dfeh.ca.gov.

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By Dian Sousa

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When I was little my greatest fears assaulted me in the guise of three hid- eous ideas which presented themselves monotonously in a queasy, horrific pattern of torment depending on what I’d learned in school that day and what I’d watched on television that night. The first sick notion lodged itself in my tiny, half formed brain, after watching an episode of Twilight Zone in which a child sits on her bed, leans against the wall to read her favorite illustrated, abridged Arabian Nights –and then, just as she turns the 1st page—the wall becomes a whirlpool, sucking her, book and all, into the 4th dimension. To this day, I keep the wall next my bed covered in fine gauge chicken wire, just in case. If I successfully made it through the day in the correct dimension, the fear would meet me at school dressed as one of the thin-lipped, ear-twist- ing Nuns, who in 1968, roamed the playground of Our Lady of Victory Catholic School in Compton, Califor- nia, hunting for little girls whom they would always catch behind the annex singing their wispy, cotton versions of “Heard it Through the Grapevine” while line dancing a spastic, antedilu- vian, precursor of Crump. The worst fear however was subtle. It was a vague though terrifying pos-

sibility that wormed its way into my consciousness every night through the warm, wood paneled voice of Walter Cronkite. I’d watched my parents and older brothers sob over the murder of JFK, then throw up their hands and sob again over the assassinations of Martin Luther King and Bobby Kennedy. I watched a young, intelligent, soulful America voicing its righteous anger over civil rights abuses, the draft, the incomprehensible Vietnam war. And I thought, “I hope I will be brave someday, but I hope I don’t have to become President.” That was my biggest, most ridicu- lous, most persistent fear,—that I, a little girl from Compton California, whose mother was a hairdresser and whose father was more often than not, laid off from Mc Donald Douglas— might have to grow up and become President of the United States. (True, I’d never seen a woman in that office but I believed it was only a matter of time.) Examining these fears now from the hazy vantage point of 40 years, I see them only as little shadows of crazy innocence and I mourn them: The possibility of a spontaneous vacation in the 4th dimension and the Nuns who have all fledged to some other,

hopefully, more rewarding hunting ground. But more than anything, I miss democracy and possibility. I miss the sweet idea that “we are all created equal,” that anyone from any class, race, or gender in America, could become President if their ideas are sane, if they are motivated by peace and compassion to govern their coun- try because they love it and because they truly respect the human beings with whom they share it, and for whom they have the honor of serving. Because SLO Code Pink will not give in to fear and has not given up hope, we are raising money for our campaign to “Buy Back the Media.” Placing ads in newspapers and on radio stations to promote those can- didates who support peace and will govern with integrity based on the will of the people and guided by principles of compassion and justice. We are waging a full grassroots cam- paign in support of Sharon Beery for 22nd Congressional District. www.sharonbeeryforcongress.com. For a full platform of recom- mended candidates or other infor- mation, please visit our website:

www.slocodepink.org

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Cynic’sCorner

Universalism

By Jacqueline Turner

  • I recently went to a party… well,

not a party actually… it was really a fundraiser for a very good cause. The party fundraiser was kinda bor- ing, but my heart was in the right place by being there, and I was plan- ning my exit when I encountered this attractive older woman sitting at one

of the tables; she was the only one at the event that looked like someone

  • I could relate to, so I sat down near

her. We started to talk. You know, the usual stuff — where do you live, what do you do, blah blah blah, when the conversation turned deeper. I don’t know how that happened, but all of a sudden we were actually talking to each other. Confiding almost. Then she dropped a bombshell:

she had just come from a function for women of the Republican Party.

  • I had already sized her up as part of

the landownership class of SLO, or one the ‘Haves’. This is okay with me because I want to be that someday anyway. Then she said, “You can’t be voting for anyone other than Repub- licans (Schwartzeneger) because they (Democrats) will raise taxes, and you don’t want that, do you?” I was really taken aback because I didn’t know

how I felt about that! Cowardly, I changed the subject. After all, I was at a shindig, and here I was involved in a pseudo-political/philosophical conver- sation with a stranger with apparently different values than me. There were more bombshells because we started to discuss the Bible, religious beliefs, and abor-

tion rights. (Bloody stuff for a Friday night after a full week of work.) For many days after, I couldn’t stop think- ing about her issue regarding ‘raising taxes.’ Why did that subject not reso- nate with me? I started to ponder the question of what was truly impor- tant to me. Here’s where we get to the good stuff… I realized that:

I DO NOT CARE THAT

MUCH ABOUT TAXES! My heart and my vote (if we can find a candi- date) will go to support the person(s) who are concerned with universal things like environment, education, health care, poverty, children’s rights, women’s rights, men’s rights, animal rights, love, peace, freedom, safety, the future of this planet, etcetera. Am I an idealist, a liberal or just a damn fool?! A Democrat or a Repub-

lican?. Those entities no longer work for me… I propose that we start a competing group, namely The Uni- versalism Party. This Party would promote universally loving and car- ing for Humanity and the Universe more than, or as much as, the indi- vidual. Making choices based upon the whole, or universal, picture. It’s religious, political, philosophical, and

easy.

Universalism! The belief that human beings are collectively and individually responsible to our planet and to all humanity! The Greater Good! Sounds so simple. Can we get it started? Hugs, Jackie Turner

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Let There Be Peace On Earth And Let It Begin With Me

By Beverly Engel

With the current problems in the Middle East, many of us are wonder- ing if there will ever be peace in that area. And many of us are despair- ing since Peace on Earth seems way beyond our reach. But I believe there is hope as long as there are many peo- ple focusing on doing what they can to create peace in their own backyards. If each person took responsibility for creating peace in his or her own heart, mind, and spirit, I think we could cre- ate the miracle needed to create peace in the world.

Peace begins within each individual.

Peace begins within each individ- ual. It begins by each person coming

to appreciate the differences between people instead of fearing them. It begins with each person committing to the values of tolerance, empathy, and compassion. Most important, peace begins when each person comes to know, deep in their heart, that the things they despise, fear, and hate in others are qualities that lie buried deep inside themselves.

Peace begins in each family

Peace begins in each family. It begins by each parent taking respon- sibility for breaking the cycle of abuse and neglect that has been passed down from generation to generation. It begins when each parent comes to view his or her children as unique individuals who have the right to their feelings, preferences, and per- ceptions – when family members learn to really listen to one another, to apologize to one another, and to

forgive one another. The reason peo-

scorned. It begins when we recognize

power-hungry, violent, and tyranni-

ple become violent is the same rea- son they become abusive—because they have been abused, because they have been ignored, because they have been shamed.

When we stop the neglect and abuse in our families, we take one giant step toward stop-

ping the violence in our culture.

Peace begins in our community.

Peace begins in our community. It begins when we teach our children to accept the differences between people

and when we model this acceptance in our daily lives. It begins when we no longer continue to believe that our church, our political party, or our beliefs are superior to those of others – when we agree to meet in small dis- cussion groups or circles to discuss our differences and to create solutions to our problems. It begins when we view a child=s anti-social actions as a cry for help and when we support a system in which first-time offenders are asked to take responsibility for their actions, gain empathy for those they have harmed, and make reparations instead of being merely being punished.

Peace begins in our country.

Peace begins in our country when we refuse to be divided because of our political beliefs – when we start to have respect for the differences that make us such a rich country,

that we are perpetuating violence with our strong-arm tactics throughout the world and when we begin to under- stand that the violence we project into the world

through our

movies

and

music is bound to back to us like a r e t u r n i n g

our

come

boomerang. Peace begins when we recognize that it is pure arrogance to assume that our way is the only way and that those in other countries who have different beliefs are wrong. It

begins when we learn to listen to the views of those from other countries and other cultures and when we open our hearts to take in their views.

Peace in our world.

Peace in the world will come when we all treat one another as an equal,

no better or worse than we are. It will come when we are no lon- ger threatened by our differ- ences because we are able to commu-

nicate our ideas freely and listen to one another with open hearts and open minds – when we stop judging others for being selfish,

cal and recognize that we are guilty of the same faults and shortcomings. It will come when we turn ourselves into a society in which social justice, love, and compassion are so prevalent that violence becomes only a distant memory.

A pivotal moment in history.

Many people believe that this is one of those pivotal moments in his- tory when we can change the world for the better if we bring wisdom actively to the for and apply it with diligence and clarity, and if we engage in deep dialogue for the purpose of what Rumi has called, looking for the “root of the root” of our collective selves. Many spiritual teachings point to this as a time of great change and redemption. There is a song that says,

“We will have peace because we must.” Because of continual terrorist attacks, the war in Iraq, the situation between Israel and Leb-

anon, and the threat of North Korea, more and more peo-

ple are forced to face how bad things have become. It has caused many to enter

a

period

of

reflection, to get back in touch with our common humanity. It will no doubt encourage many more people

Be the change you want to see in the world. — Mahatma Ghandhi

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when diversity is celebrated instead of

cruel, controlling, narrow-minded,

to join the efforts for peace.

In times of crisis people tend to put aside their petty differences for the common good. During times of crisis people also want to know what they can do to help. There is something that each one of us can do to create peace. We must start by examining the way we make enemies out of our loved ones, how we view our mates as oppo- nents rather than allies, and how we teach our children to be either victims or victimizers. Then we must closely examine the ways we treat those who are different and our own tendency to judge and exclude others. Once we have cleaned up our own psyches and our own homes, we can expand our efforts by becoming Ambassadors of Peace in our communities. By becom- ing role models for others, including our children, we can have a powerful effect on the world. By introducing and advocating dialogues and circles in our communities we can begin to really hear and understand one another and begin to end dissension and prejudice. By learning about alter- natives to violence such as mediation, conflict resolution, and restorative justice, we can heal our wounds and replace revenge with justice. We are not powerless to change our violent world. Each of us is capa- ble of making real changes in the way we live our lives—changes that can make a significant contribution to changing the world.

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Voices Around the Table:

My House Is Yours

I’ve always liked the phrase ”Mi ... casa es su casa” That to me means that wherever my home is, whatever its shape or color, it’s always there for sharing: ideas, thoughts, provok- ing perspectives, or just a cup of cof- fee and some small talk. Our homes can be made of whatever material. What matters is what we put on the inside, how we build and nurture it, that and how we treat the people that pass through the front door to greet us. Home is about people, not mate- rial. It can be a country, a city, a nook in the forest, or a Sunday drive. Home to me is intangible.

Tyler Aldrich

A House Is Not a Home

Growing up in a six-story Brooklyn building, I sometimes took day trips out of the city to the easternmost part of Long Island to beach communities known as “The Hamptons.” Marvel- ing at the impressive homes that were scattered along the coast, I often won- dered what it must feel like to live in a house that had grand pianos, floor- to-ceiling windows, and what it would be like to walk your own private steps to nature. I was accustomed to only concrete and brick buildings, (and to my young mind), I was certain that the happiest people alive lived in these glass houses. In those days, I fantasized that

if I lived in one of those beachfront homes, my life would be perfect… my parents wouldn’t fight, the boy who I liked would like me, and I would be

beautiful and smart. I thought that just by living in one of those houses, I would find the home I was constantly seeking.

An Inner Feeling— An Outer Structure

What makes a home a “home” for me? Well, certainly home is being in the midst of my children and their families, nature and loved ones, and I can say happily that there are peo- ple with whom I feel “at home.” Still, having said that, I need to admit that “home” for me awakens an inner long- ing—I have always wanted to own my own home, but haven’t been able to afford one. As a child we moved every three years; and as a single mother, I moved with my jobs. Other people long to travel to distant shores; I dream of staying put, of a quiet place, a place of my own where I can be: I won’t get the call that the landlord is selling and I’ll have to move out, or watch the rent jump so high I’ll need to move yet again, nor worry if I’ll get docked for a nail-hole or wear and tear. I can play music without worrying about shared walls and don’t have my walls reverberating with the noise of those less considerate. Even knowing this is no panacea, I dream of money to fix up that home, the freedom to buy the furniture I really like. Perhaps if you’ve never owned a home, you’ve had these dreams too. Then my thoughts go to those around the world who find themselves homeless, and those who have far less than I; I think of my spir- itual home – the most precious of any that I would not trade for a physical one. I think of the abundance I have all around me, the gratefulness I feel, and with all these thoughts, wonder why this dream lingers. But it does. So I share this with you and acknowledge the paradox. I accept what is even as I hope with trust, knowing I am unconditionally loved and, house or no, I’m a very l u c k y lady.

tures hats –an old, worn cowboy hat from our sojourn in Colorado, a fur- trimmed one from New Hampshire, a coconut palm one from the Big Island. Everywhere the eye lands is a vignette, a story. Our collection provokes recol- lection as we go about daily life in the present, continually embraced by the past. That’s what makes a place home – it’s where the memories are.

Shana Ross

Warmth

What makes a house feel like home to me is warmth; the warmth that comes from the heart and soul. It is my haven and where I feel inspired to be creative. I love my time alone at home as well as sharing it with friends and family. Most of those times cen- ter around good food, music, and vigorous conversation. When I walk into a space and my soul can breath, my heart says “Aaaah!”, and I smile from the inside out, then this feels like home. If there is little soul warmth, it doesn’t matter how dressed-up a space is, it doesn’t feel like home. I like peo- ple to feel love and warmth when they come into my home. A good measure is if I feel like I could curl up and take a nap: then this feels like home.

Renee Sanpei

Safety

Home means safety to me - where, as a child, the shadows following me down the street couldn’t go. I think you have to feel safe for where you are for it to be a home.

Angie King

A Reflection of Life Lived

Going Inside

When I was a little girl, I loved box turtles and always had one or two

for a pet. I loved watching them with their funny little noses that turned into part mouth and their tny beady eyes and soft, tickly claw feet. They liked to swim and catch their food in the water and they liked to sit on a rock in the sun. Then suddenly they would be gone inside their green mosaic shells. They didn’t need a nest or lair or a roost or a house. I used to wish I was a turtle. The saying goes “Home is where the heart is” and I think this is true in the most literal sense. We are at home only when we feel at peace in our own skin, when we know who we are and when we accept and nur- ture our deepest self inside our bodily home. But once we begin to go inside that home we walk around in, we’ve got to start house cleaning or we won’t feel comfortable. We have got to start being aware of what we eat that makes us not feel good and we’ve got to be aware of what we’re feeling when we’re off and why. But most of all we have got to be aware of what has closed our hearts and do the work to clean that off. And some- times it really helps to sit on a rock in the sun.

is lost to me. My connection to her comes from the only photo I have of her. It is a black and white, taken circa 1938, when she is in her early 40s. She and my father (who is in his late teens) are walking arm in arm, dressed it seems for synagogue, both smiling serenely at the camera. Looking at the photo, no one would guess that in the coming months my family would be prisoners in a Nazi work camp. I spent a week in Timisoara search- ing the census archives for genealogy records, walking neighborhood streets, talking with elders in the Jewish-Hun- garian community, attending a Shab- bot service, and roaming the Jewish cemetery. Though no longer a thriv- ing Jewish-Hungarian community as it once had been, my father’s birth- place offered itself to me in a way that only a place of personal history can:

the more I came to know of Timiso- ara, the more I felt my family ghosts becoming formidable. Two days before my departure, quite unexpectedly, I located my grandmother’s grave. With wild ivy close encroaching, her indomitable headstone stood as a force to reckon with, marking her place in the world. At that moment it did not matter that my only physi- cal contact with my grandmother would be here, this unyielding marble slab etched with only the skeleton of who she was and when she lived, resting upon this patch of earth. As is the Jewish custom, I placed a stone on her grave, a gesture meant to remind my grand- mother’s soul of its connection to the living, and recited the mourner’s prayer. Having retraced my roots I discovered a piece of home in a place I least expected.

So home really means gong way inside and a c k n ow l e d
So
home
really means gong
way inside and
a c k n ow l e d g -
ing that “yes,”
this is the only
true home, the
place where our
hearts and souls live
so we need to take
good care of them. We need to treat
our true home as a sacred place where
we can know we are Divine.

Bailey Drechsler

Today, I know better. I lived in houses that, though not palatial by any means, were
Today, I know better.
I lived
in
houses that, though not
palatial by any means,
were wonderful: there
was the Shell Beach house
with balconies overlooking
the ocean; there was the
condo near golf courses
surrounded by lakes
and palm trees, and for
a short time, there was
the Manhattan apartment near
Sutton Place with views of the Hud-
son. None of this impressed me once
I started living there because wher-
ever you go – there you are! So, if A
House is not a Home … those people
who were in my fantasies were prob-
ably happy with their houses … but
I will never know if they ever felt at
HOME there.
I live simply now, in San Luis
My home holds everything for
which I am grateful. My children, my
pets, my history. Its condition paral-
lels how I am living my life. When I
am grateful, it offers me abundance-
-memories, comfort, and energy.
When I am feeling needy, disheveled,
or lonely, I see in its rooms the things
that need attention and respect.
My home wears its scars like
badges of honor. The handprints on
the walls that grow higher with the
passing years; the worn trail in the
carpet, guiding thousands of footsteps
to its hub; the dented wall behind the
front door, marking countless enthu-
siastic entries--these things celebrate
its history and offer all who enter a
glimpse of what has come before.
The messes and imperfections
were all created in the living of my
days within its walls. My home is a
reflection of who I am. It has flaws
and faults that remind me of my own.
Imperfect, yet loved. Complete, yet a
work in progress.
Jodee Smith
Healing Place
My home nurtures me spiritually,
emotionally, and physically. I have a
“healing house.” Having my compan-
ion animals makes my house a home.
Susan Howe
Home
where the heart is after all.
is
A Home is Border-less
In an elegy written for her mother,
Barbara Atkinson
Emily Dickinson describes her grief as
a state of being “Homeless at home.”
Where the Memories Are
I
have read this poem countless times
and my heart still breaks open when
I
come to Dickinson’s darkest line in
her elegy: it brings me face to face
with my own familial losses. Begin-
ning with the death of my father when
Obispo, in a cozy two-bedroom house
with two cats, fourteen fish, lots of
friends, and my daughter and son-in-
law nearby. Truthfully, I have never
been more at Home.
I have moved so many times my
family of origin calls me “the gypsy.”
It’s true, I can easily imagine living in
a brightly painted wagon festooned
with bells, only a few pots and pans to
call my own. But my husband is more
traditional, so we compromise by cart-
ing our stuff around like a snail carry-
ing its home on its back.
Each new house quickly becomes
familiar as we unpack – there are
the clay dolphins one son made in
third grade, swimming in the bath-
room near the tiny wise old lady who
appeared when the other son went off
to Berkeley. On the fireplace mantel
is a vase, shaped like a Victorian lady
with flowers sticking out of her head,
chipped and cracked during the Loma
Prieta earthquake. In the kitchen
there’s a painting of the tumbledown
beach hut on Kauai where we lived;
the dining nook sports a painted drop-
cloth decorated by a crazy artist friend
in Santa Cruz and the hallway fea-
I
was seven, my mother’s death when
I
was 25, and an elusive ancestral his-
Elizabeth McGregor
tory I have felt this brand of home-
Jacqueline Turner
lessness ever since childhood. For me,
the heart of a home is family, and
so I have sought to reclaim
remnants of my
family in any way
possible.
This past
summer I trav-
eled to Timiso-
ara, Romania,
the
birthplace
of

my father, and where my maternal grandmother, Erszebeta, wrote me intermittent let- ters in elementary English up until she died in 1974. Yet, who she was as a woman, and what her life was like as a Jew who survived the Holocaust,

A Home Is an “At-Home” Feeling

My Uncle Everett was raised on

an Iowa farm and lived on that farm

until his death.

I am sure no other

place could have been home to him. I

grew

up

in

a military family so my

actual home changed many times in my childhood I feel at home at Uncle

Everett’s because I have been going to

that lovely Iowa farm since my early childhood. In another home

of an aunt in Indiana after being away for many years, I told my

cousin as we

 

sat in the

cozy

din-

ing

room,

“I feel like I am home”. She

assured me, “Well, you are!”

There is something about walking

in and just feeling that peace of mind when you are home. Some work-

places qualify.

I had a job a few years

ago that was an uneasy fit.

My co-

worker wouldn’t answer my questions and would barely talk to me. My superiors made no effort to become

acquainted

with me but did let me

know they were indeed superiors! (Or

so they thought!) My next workplace

was

like being home again.

I was

taught the job, was appreciated for my

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efforts, and enjoyed an easy camara- derie. Walking into that office was a homecoming every morning. There were ups and downs but that’s what you get at home! That “at-home” feeling existed in a tiny bar my husband operated on the worst street in a big city in Northern California. The denizens of this saloon were very poor, varying from semi- homeless to lower middle-class. My husband truly liked and respected his customers and bartenders. Conse- quently, they treated us and the bar with respect and affection. It was a home away from home for many of them. Many of them were there when we opened at the crack of dawn and many stayed until closing time. They brought food to share at potlucks. One grizzled, skinny gruff- looking man, on winning our chili

cook-off, had tears of joy running down his face. One evening we ran into one of our most down of the down-and-outers. She was a former prostitute and her life was written all over her face. She had spent some time in Folsom Prison and she looked much older than her actual years. She was scolding her boyfriend in the parking lot because his shirttail was not tucked in. She looked at me very solemnly and declared “This is our place. We just don’t go in there without our shirttails tucked in!” One of our bartenders died an early death from a larger than usual mixture of drugs and alcohol. Her boyfriend made his beer money by selling any items he could find or walk off with. But after his girl friend died, he brought me her treasured little doll. He asked me to take it and keep it. “You will take care of it”, he said. I keep that doll displayed in a case. It reminds me of those people and their dignity. Now, moving into old age, I find I am one of those seniors who are ready to move on. Our house is too big for us now and too far away from our children. We hope to sell it soon and move to a condo near the family. I picture my husband, cat, and myself living with fewer possessions, free to

s

t

r o

l l

come sign for our new home: “mi casa es su casa!” We hope they will come and visit and feel very much at home!

Rosalee Kay Calvillo

A Home of My Own

Gardens of quiet, The music of light, Open abandonment, Wings of flight.

Breath as food, Signs of love, Beauty in my midst, A hovering of doves.

Sadie sniffing, Freedom to roam, As Heaven meets Earth, I’ve finally come home.

I confess I can’t keep up with how economics, technology, and the chang- ing shape of the family has changed the definition of “home” At the risk of being trite again, I hope that we continue to feel “home is where (and when) “the heart is” joyous.

Hilda Heifetz

Home Sweet Home

I don’t know where to begin, but Frost said “Home is where they have to take you in.” It’s cuttings on the kitchen window sill, a refuge when you’re ill,

a guardian at the foot of the bed, and a place to rest your head, people who love you to talk to. It’s not grand vistas or chandeliers— things to impress your peers, acres of cars in the garage. Not Shangri-La or the Taj Mahal. Not a mirage— not that at all. It’s cozy and warm, where you won’t come to any harm.

Home as Mother, Body, Earth

Home is a place that holds all things in close and loving embrace. To her, we bring our tears, joys, sacred objects, intimate relationship with ourselves and others, disappoint- ments, self-humor, creativity, food, and warmth. She receives us always

with a comforting gaze, a hot cup of tea, and overstuffed armchair into which we can fall and rest ourselves form the wears and tears of our mate- rial world. Home is all of that which dwells within us. Home les deep in the urn of our bellies, a well of resource from which we can draw at any given time, if we know the secret of our own address. Home is that soft hand that reaches out for us from the deepest, hidden arc of ourselves when we call out to her in our need and yearning. Call to her, call to yourself. She will answer with gentle words spoken into your inner ear. Listen for her. Listen for her in silence and she will come, long skirts rustling with the move- ment of a strong and certain pace as she makes her way through the maze of our underworlds, ascending to meet us. Feel her perfume reach you in the currents of her motion. Know the full sturdiness of her core body as she sits down beside you, lending her presence into your own experience. Meet her gaze. Home is a grove of pine trees sigh-

your name to the stars. Home is my father’s apple tree, under whose limbs I lay on moist soil and dozed to the scent of fallen fruit and the drone of bees seeking sweets. Home is a late afternoon breeze that gently brushes my hair. Home is the fire I make with my own hands, held in the open belly of the earth, so that I may dream into the light. Home is the fecund mother, the hibernating bear, constantly turn- ing in her cycles of fertility and decay. Home is her deep caves and young grasses and rivers that course down steep ravines. Home is the detritus on forest floors that muffle my foot- steps as I make my way through terri- tory and landscape I do not yet know. Home is the turning inward of my own eye so that I may know of my own vast horizons.

Amelia Free

Barbara Atkinson Kathy Bond
Barbara Atkinson
Kathy Bond

A Home is Where the Heart is Joyous

The importance of home to me and all other living creatures has shown itself in so many ways. I’m aware that it is a profound instinct provided by nature for survival of the organism and a shelter for the arrival of new generations…arrival and sur- vival, a nice lilt!? A familiar example in other species is a type of sonar abil- ity in the homing pigeon, the bat, etc., and the caves, dens, nests, rocks, as some of the places we can call their homes. But for me, and for them, they are essentially more than a place. And for us, humans, it is certainly not limited to one kind. As I look back over my 92 years, I have lived in more than a dozen locations—different climates, different relationships, differ- ent circumstances. One thing

ing in
ing
in

curling winds in the night at 10,000 feet while a choir of barred owls sings

When We Dream of Houses

By Ron Masa, Ph.D.

Let’s explore one of the more fre- quently appearing dream symbols, the HOUSE. Every dream symbol includes powerful, personal meanings and generic, archetypal levels as well. First, our body “houses” us in one sense. A dream house with many

particular issues; these may be alluded to. It helps to ask, during what years of my life did I live in that particu- lar house? Who else lived there? What issues or themes do I recall from that home and that era? In retrospect, could you find a

on which visible life depends, just as the invisible realm of dreams underlies and supports daily life. “The condition of our true and private self is what dreams are about. If you rise refreshed from a dream--a night’s settlement inside some house

unexplored rooms may suggest great undiscovered potential within us. A run-down house might suggest we need rest and physical self-care. A house’s condition may also com- ment on the state of our mental and emotional well-being. Our house is a refuge and place of identity, so houses often tell us about our place in the world and how we identify ourselves. If you exaggerate the pronunciation of the letters in the word “house”

theme or two that described that por- tion of your life? These will get you started unraveling the many layers of meaning in the house in your dream. There are many symbols of the interior of houses. The dream house may have higher levels (like a sec- ond floor or attic) that can connote spiritual values, or less positively, ungrounded intellect. A basement could suggest the unconscious or per- haps sexuality, while hallways indicate

that has filled you with pleasure--you are doing okay. If you wake to the memory of squeezing confinement, rooms without air or light, a door dif- ficult or impossible to open, a trou- bling disorganization or even wreckage inside, you are in trouble--with your- self… Jung, in a difficult time, slowly built a stone garden and a stone tower. Thoreau’s house at Walden Pond, ten feet by fifteen feet under the tall, arrowy pines, was surely a dream-

it sounds like “How-You-See” and, indeed, our “point of view” may be

a passage or transition of some sort. The favorite room of many dreams

shape come to life “Winter Hours”)

(Mary Oliver,

examined.

is the bathroom! This may be because

Happy Homey Dreaming.

examined. is the bathroom! This may be because Happy Homey Dreaming.

When we dream we are in a child- hood house once again, it gives us an automatic frame of reference for a slice of our personal history and may refer to child parts of the psyche still present in us. In a given house, certain people lived with us and we dealt with

such universal processes are so hidden there… just as our interior life is hid- den from our waking self. And because the release of toxins and the process of cleansing are so important to the mind and heart. Plus, all that plumbing connects to invisible, hidden resources

Ron Masa, Ph.D. co-leads TeleDream (a telephone dream group) and Dream- Talk (an e-mail-based dream group) Info at www.UniversityofYourself.com or call (707) 937-0454

 

r e m a i n e d

c o n s t a n t — t h e

FEELING

of

being

“at

home.” It’s become trite to

say “a house

is not a home,” but

the truth of it

expresses my own feeling.

A home

happens when (not just where ) there

is

some sense of family, some sense

of refuge, some sense of attachment,

some investment of

my creativity,

some openness to daily connectedness to what goes on beyond. As to the lat- ter, I like to think that wherever I live, I am also at home in the world.

to the library, pool, or spa, Natu- rally, with the process of aging, there will also be time spent in doctor’s offices!, Hopefully we will travel and will feel at home in Amtrak sleepers, motel rooms and ships. Working will be voluntary - performing in the- atres, assisting in public school class- rooms, following passions rather than a paycheck! We will miss our won- derful friends here but we have a wel-

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Macy, Jean Shinoda Bolen, Angeles Arrien, Starhawk, and Susan Griffin. She realized how hungry women are to share with one another. “I’m not alone” was a common thread of dis- covery and reassurance for the partici- pants. Wanting a deeper commitment to community life and to their personal growth, Kay and Floyd moved to the Tierra Nueva Cohousing Commu- nity in Oceano in 2000. This beauti- fully landscaped 27-unit passive solar complex brings children, parents, and retirees together to build an inten- tional community for social interac- tion and support. It’s one of over 50 cohousing communities in California and 200 nationally. Group consen- sus resolves problems and facilitates important decisions. The residents devote a lot of time and effort to establish the mores and customs that inform the community. Kay chooses to participate in Tierra Nueva to remain active and to practice openness and community building. She loves the intergenera- tional energy and the variety of activi- ties in the Common House. But most of all, she’s pleased to see an increas- ingly healthy community emerging with residents yielding personal time to support its growth. The Journey Continues. Cur- rently studying Ken Wilber’s integral approach to human evolution, Kay continues the inner journey, trying to stay open to uncertainty, to be unat- tached to living and dying, and to trust in the Universe. She’s grateful for the many gifts that have been given to her. And, we’re grateful for the many gifts of time, talent, and love that she has passed on to others.

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stand up at public comment time dur- ing government meetings to express

their concerns. They will surely take this part of our democracy home to Ukraine.” The delegates included:

Tetyana Khimchenko, 41, dep- uty director of “Every Child,” a new social service organization in Ukraine that works with vulner- able children and families. Oksana Levkova, 26, youth director for WETI, which pro- vides public education on envi- ronmental issues and promotes ecological tourism in the Car- pathians, Ukraine’s highest mountains, famed for their for- ests and thermal springs. Tetyana Pechonchyk, 23, a sci- entist and public relations pro- fessional with the Ukrainian Independent Information & News Agency. They were accompanied by a facil- itator, Yuilya Yesmukhanova, as well as a translator, Irina Primakova. The group was chauffeured almost everywhere by Lois Hughes, an inde- fatigable League member, who accom- panied them most of their waking, walking, and talking hours

Hughes’ impressions:

They were impressed by our fos- ter-care programs. Unlike their current programs, we have short- term stays available for children with the intent to keep fami- lies together wherever possible. That’s their goal, too, but not yet the reality. There, once children are removed from their homes,

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District 2 Supervisor Shirley Bianchi poses with Ukranian Leaders at a banquet in their honor. Left to right: Oksana Levkova, Tetyana Pechonchyk, Shirley Bianchi, Tetyana Khimchenko and Yuliya Yesmukhanova.

they may not ever get back. Social services are an emerging area, and Tetyana Khimchenko is a leader in that field. Both journalists were actively

They do eat salads, they do not

drink vodka (or anything else) in copious amounts, and they love to travel, visit and share ideas of all kinds. They love their coun- try and are extremely enthusias-

“They were charming, well-edu-

interested in the nuts and bolts of media operations, as well as

tic about the future. The American phrase, “Plan B,”

issues such as freedom of speech, science and responsibility, and government and election cov- erage. Our local media opened their arms to them. Stereotypes were regularly

was new to them, and one they took special delight in – and it’s sure to turn up in their work in Ukraine. Sara Horne, past president of the League, who, along with her husband

upended by reality. Told to expect aloofness, the visitors were, instead, routinely met with hugs and enthusiastic hand- shakes. People on the streets and in restaurants would walk up to say, “Welcome! I saw the news- paper article about your visit.” American stereotypes of Ukrai- nians were similarly debunked:

Boyd provided full accommodations for the group, as well as some chauf- feuring, had similar observations:

cated and extremely positive that their country will become a dynamic democracy. They were impressed by how transparent our government is, and how accessible our public officials make themselves. They were really surprised to see so many public offi-

cials at the banquet in their honor. Jack O’Connell, state superintendent of public instruction, was keynote speaker, and numerous county and city officials and staff were among the sold-out audience. I think that anyone who had con- tact with them came away with the feeling that if all Ukrainians are like these young women, their govern- ment — and our world — will be in good hands in the future.”

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For more information about the League, there’s “League 101 – Ev - erything You Ever Wanted to Know about the League – How and Why We Do the Things We Do,” held Nov. 15, 4111 Broad St., SLO, from 1-3 p.m. The League website is slo.ca.lwvnet.org. Or call 543-2220.

BookReview

By Charlene Huggins

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Will Ends Ever Meet?

Joan works full time at Hearthside, a diner frequented by tourists, in Key West Florida. She makes $2.25 an hour plus tips. She works 40 hours a week, 52 weeks a year. She does not make enough money to take a motel room, rent an efficiency, studio or apartment. She cannot save enough money for two months worth of security deposit and rent. She lives in her truck. She is homeless and (Not) Getting By in America. She is one of a growing seg- ment of the American population who work one and two jobs, seven days a week and still cannot afford a place called home. This is one woman’s experience in 1998. In 2005, according to the National Low Income Housing Coalition, “at the locally prevailing minimum wage an individual cannot earn enough to afford the Fair Market Rent of a one-bedroom apartment in any county in the U.S.” Most of these individuals punch-the-clock without health insurance, sick leave, paid vaca- tion, or personal observance days. In the spring of 1998, less than two years after the welfare reform statute was signed into law, Barbara Ehren-

reich was curious: What types of jobs were available to citizens newly enter- ing the workforce? Ms. Ehrenreich thought it would be a good idea if a Harper’s journalist did some old-fash- ioned reporting and experience what it would be like to live on the mini- mum wage. Her good friend, Louis Lapham, editor of Harper’s maga- zine, challenged her to be that person and she accepted. The result was her observant book Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America. She decided she’d live only on the earnings made from “unskilled” labor jobs: waitress, maid and retail clerk, posing as a recently divorced home- maker re-entering the work place. Realizing she had advantages others did not, she allowed herself some ini- tial cash, “$1000 for the first month’s rent and deposit, $100 for initial gro- ceries and cash in [her] pocket, and $200 stuffed away for emergencies” and, a big plus, a car. She lived this life for two years. Ms. Ehrenreich writes about the experiences she shares with her fel- low members of the “invisible under- class”: housekeepers, waiters, retail

clerks. I suspect it’s an invisibility of a complicit nature. Prodigious consum- ers of all economic means, we encoun- ter the working poor everyday of our waking lives (they are not invisible). We go to the grocery stores, the Wal- Marts, the restaurants, the gas stations; we engage and interact daily with the American service industry, but do we ever pause to contemplate the cost of our conveniences and money savings? Ehrenreich’s experiment forces her to both wear and reveal the veil of invis- ibility, learning that earning a wage isn’t enough. “Unskilled” is a misno- mer and having a job doesn’t necessar- ily mean having a life, civil rights, or the basic necessities. The largest and fastest growing segment of the U.S. economy is the service industry and the jobs generated do not provide the necessary income for a family’s sur- vival. Ehrenreich’s book, an easy read, chronicles moments of humor, com- passion, and the challenges she tem- porarily experiences in this milieu of anxious survival, giving insight then and now into the inequities and strug- gles of our country’s most under-val- ued citizens.

New Regular Feature

Younger Women Speak Out

The first article in our new column devoted to the voices of younger women in community is written by Jaymi Heimbuch.

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Younger Women’s Task Force, Central Coast (YWTFCC) is nearly one year old! And what a productive year it has been. Beginning with our launch meet- ing on January 24, 2006, we have grown to over 50 members and hosted a variety of events to help younger women in our community. Our activ- ities of 2006 included social activist gatherings like Letter-to-the-Editor Writing Potlucks; a real estate work- shop where local experts taught younger women what they needed to know to buy their first house; item drives and fundraisers that gathered thousands of dollars worth of much needed items and money for our local women’s shelters; reviews of feminist books; booths at the Farmer’s Market registering people to vote and educat- ing younger women on election issues; and our monthly meetings featuring educational speakers from our com- munity. YWTFCC has been an increas- ingly significant presence in our area. We plan on growing even more! Our

goal for next year are to become an even stronger resource for younger women. We plan on holding work- shops, one on media effects on younger women and body image and another with local experts educat- ing younger women on reproduc- tive health issues and solutions. We will spearhead a Progressive Women’s Summit where like-minded groups can combine efforts to achieve a larger goal that benefits younger women in our area, and we will continue with letter-to-the-editor writing socials, book reviews, and other educational events. If you are interested in partici- pating, we encourage you to attend meetings and get involved. Everyone concerned with protecting and pro- moting the rights of younger women, regardless of sex or age, is welcome to participate. Our monthly meetings are held the last Wednesday evening of every month. More information about YWTFCC can be found at our web- site www.ywtf.org.

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What’s Cooking? Classes on Mediterranean Cuisine By Trisha Oksner
What’s Cooking?
Classes on Mediterranean Cuisine
By Trisha Oksner

Tirtza Abuan, single mother and full-time math teacher at Morro Bay High School doesn’t rest on her laurels. She also enjoys teaching Mediterranean-themed cooking classes and catering small parties.

With daughter Danielle, 19, now a sophomore at UCLA and Natalye, 15, looking to college in three years, Tirtza is focusing on the next phase of her own life and how she will han- dle the “empty nest.” “I realized that this is a good time in my life to build something up, so that by the time my second child leaves home, I have something I enjoy doing that is fulfill- ing outside of my full-time job,” she said. That “something” has taken the form of teaching Mediterranean- themed cooking classes and catering small parties. Born in Casablanca and raised in Israel, France, and the United States by an Algerian mother and Moroccan father, Tirtza is uniquely qualified to share her expertise with others. She grew up watching her mother prepare vats of homemade food for the school districts in their small town of Kiryat Gat in Israel. At home, her mother often prepared family feasts for 100-plus people with- out breaking a sweat. “When you enjoy something, you embrace everything about it,” Tirtza said. “I don’t think of cooking as work. It is a creative focus and an outlet for me. People always love to eat and they always need to eat. I find cooking to be fulfilling.” Being able to mesh her lifelong dedication to teaching with

Ask Tirtza Abuan “what’s cooking?” and she has a ready list of her latest activities. But now the single mother and full-time math teacher at Morro Bay High School has decided to literally get cooking by turning her favorite hobby into a source of additional income – both financial and spiritual.

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her lifetime love of cooking has been a dream come true. It all started this past spring, when she brought a Moroccan dish to a women’s group potluck at her synagogue in San Luis Obispo. The women raved and suggested she teach a cooking class. By summer, she had put together some marketing mate- rials, got a business license, and held her first series of classes in Los Osos, focusing on main dishes, breads, and desserts from Algeria, Tunisia, and Morocco. For each class, Tirtza provides a handout with a recipe and informa- tion about the region where the recipe originates. As she prepares each dish, she addresses relevant historical and cultural points, while the handful of students take notes, nibble on appetiz- ers, and ask questions. Everyone then dines together on the finished prod- uct.

Pam

Logan,

a

member

of

the

women’s spirituality group, attended the first series of classes and was hooked. “I had never taken a cooking

class before,” she admitted. “While I like North African foods, I don’t know much about preparing them. But the whole experience was fun, educational, and very social. I even re-created the recipes at home and they turned out great.” If students find that their recipes don’t turn out as well as Pam’s did, Tirtza has reassuring words for them. “You can’t be too hard on yourself,” she said. “Cooking is something you get better at the more you do it. And sometimes, your mistakes can turn into your best recipes, a dish you never expected.”

For Tirtza, creating a business from her hobby was something she never expected. “I want to model for my kids how to find ways to ful- fill themselves, develop meaningful friendships, and have a spiritual self. It doesn’t matter how old you are, there is always time for making your journey in life. You just have to be willing to explore.”

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information

on

upcoming

classes, call 805-234-7931.

The Wonder of It All

Call Waiting

By Hilda Heifetz

I have found that unanswered ques- tions don’t like to go away. They tend to hang around (often secretly), expecting the answer to arrive. That it might take as long as 70 years doesn’t seem to matter… as in this case:

It was back in 1929, when I was in high school in New York City. We were studying the work of poet John Milton, on his blindness. There is a line in it: “They also serve who only stand and wait.” Well, to a 15-year- old New Yorker, that was very puz- zling. I was conditioned to action and impatience. So of what possible use can anything or anyone be just stand- ing around and waiting?! The teacher never explained. But, in 1999, quite unexpect- edly, a Dr. Robert Becker threw light on Milton’s line. Not intentionally or directly, but nevertheless… Dr. Becker, an orthopedic surgeon, wrote a remarkable book entitled: “The Body Electric.” He was researching the mysterious connection between elec- tro-magnetic currents and the knit- ting (even recreating) of bones, tissue, and body parts. In describing the roles of cells, he pointed out the vital pres- ence of neutral cells. These cells, called “undifferentiated,” are unique because, unlike other types of cells, they have no specific function until the organ- ism has a special need. They then take on the capability of a failed or miss- ing cell, obeying instructions that will benefit the troubled organism. (These spare cells are among the stem cells making headlines today.) How fasci-

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nating to read about these tiny body- guards, seemingly idle, but very alert. How does all this relate to the poetry of John Milton? Well… as I came to this part of Becker’s book a long overdue light flashed on. This was a wonderful example of how “They also serve who only stand and wait”! After all these years and at the microscopic level of a cell! SCIENCE illuminating LITERATURE? But why not? After all, isn’t everything in the universe interconnected? I am convinced that all the disciplines are merely fragments of one whole cosmic process. We humans seek knowledge by analyzing, verbalizing, piece-by- piece, always taking things out of con- text. As it turns out, it’s a charming paradox to find that all these separate viewpoints and finite methods are in pursuit of oneness and infinity.

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Tunisian Carrot Salad

Tirtza Abuan

  • 1 lb. carrots

  • 2 large garlic cloves

  • 1 t. cumin

  • 1 T. white vinegar

¼ c. chopped Italian parsley

  • 5 T. olive oil

Salt & pepper to taste

Peel carrots and boil in water until slightly tender (about 25 minutes). Rinse in cold water, drain and slice into ¼ inch rounds. Heat up oil, add chopped garlic and cook until lightly browned. Add sliced carrots, salt, pepper, vinegar and cumin and cook another 10 minutes. Let mixture cool and then add chopped parsley.

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Nourishing Moments

By Jeanie Greensfelder

Love is, above all, the gift of oneself. — Jean Anouilh

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Love of Self

Andy and I visited our two-year- old niece who was so excited at our arrival that she greeted us at the door

with “I

I’m clean!”

... Wearing a white dress with tiny red and purple tulips, she pirouetted barefoot around the living room. Later she showed us the animals in her playhouse and demonstrated her lion’s roar. Down on the floor we joined her

on all fours. “Nicole is in love with herself,” I said. “That’s it,” Andy said. “We all need to love ourselves.” With that, we shook our paws and roared. Is this a good moment to notice how wonderful you are?

The Best Moment Is Now

When I read the question, “What was the single best moment of your life?” my mind went blank. Finally,

a thought came: “This is the best moment of my life.” I was puzzled because rain kept me from the hike I’d wanted to take, but soon I under- stood my internal message: the best moment is the present moment, the only moment. Sometimes that thought pops into my mind at the computer, on walks, or at meals: “This is the best moment of my life!” and I welcome the reminder to appreciate small things and whisper or shout, “Hallelujah.” Andy and I share a laugh when one of us dips a spoon into a bowl of bran cereal and says, “This is the best moment of my life!” And we are reminded not to take life for granted. Sometimes the word “best” doesn’t work for me, and I substitute “most important” or “only moment of my life.” What reminds you to be grateful to be alive?

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Mind Your Business:

Your New Women’s Business Center

By Andrea Zeller

Have you heard the great news? Mission Community Services Corp. (MCSC) received a Notice of Award from the U.S. Small Busi- ness Administration for a five year $750,000 grant! What does this mean to you? Expanded small business support services at no cost to you! Your tax dollars are now supporting small busi- ness counseling and other support ser- vices designed especially to meet the special needs of women here in San Luis Obispo County. MCSC’s Wom- en’s Business Partners (WBP) pro- gram is committed to each individual that seeks our assistance and will care- fully guide you towards improving your financial situation. From teach- ing basic budget skills, credit repair, to starting or growing your own business, we make sure you have whatever it takes to succeed! We offer care, guid- ance and positive inspiration in a safe educational environment all designed to make sure you get absolutely the best help available. MCSC/WBP employs its unique Mission Small Business Success Model of service which includes six spe- cific steps designed to assist small and minority-owned businesses execute overlooked yet critical tasks in devel- oping their business. Most business owners miss these important steps and unfortunately, experience high failures rates. When you first contact MCSC, we’ll invite you to come in for a free in-take assessment of your situation and goals. We then design a carefully crafted plan that leads you step by step through all the critical steps necessary

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to achieve success. Once you agree to the plan, we then stay with you side by side while you get the education you need and plan your business from start to finish (including succession planning, an often overlooked step!). Once you have your business plan in hand, WBP stays with you and envelops you with the highest level of professional advice wrapped in a multi-discipline team advisory effort, we help you to access the capital you need to make your vision come alive and then we teach you to monitor the health of your business as it grows. Women’s Business Partners are there for you over the long term - - even as long as10 years if that’s how long you wish to stay linked with the supportive environment of our sophis- ticated professional mentoring pro- gram. And of course, we hope each woman that we help succeed will in turn reach to the next woman climb- ing up the ladder of business success. Get in touch with us today so you can take advantage of WBP’s expanding services! MCSC is now a part of the U.S. Small Business Administration Women’s Business Centers (WBCs) national network of more than 90 educational centers designed specifi- cally to assist women start and grow small businesses. WBCs operate with the mission to level the playing field for women entrepreneurs, who still face unique obstacles in the world of business. Reach MCSC and the Wom- en’s Business Partners Center at (805) 595-1357 or www.MCSCorp.org. Se Habla Espanol.

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Andrea Zeller, Executive Director of Mission Community Services, coordi- nates Women’s Business Partners (WBP) to ensure all community resources are leveraged and optimized to support entrepreneurial women. WBP serves everyone interested in establishing self- sufficiency through small business owner- ship while primarily focusing assistance towards socially and economically disad- vantaged women.

Turn Your Job Interviews Into Job Offers

By Dianne Legro

We all have only one chance to make a good first impression. Here are some ideas to make the most of your interviews and hopefully turn your

Be yourself

life that you have had. Show how you can transfer your successes to the new position. Connect a success from your past

interviews into job offers. There are definitely strategies and tactics that make the most of each phase of your

work life experience that matches the company’s current challenge. Carefully prepare a story that

interview- The opening phase, the selling phase, outlining benefits, posi- tioning yourself, repositioning your competition, overcoming weaknesses, closing, rapport building, great ques- tion asking… to name a few. Let’s take a breath and start with the simplest and most effective advice I know. You probably heard this grow- ing up, and it is always true.

describes the learning that came from a failure. Many interview- ers will ask about your past fail- ures and you can beat them to the punch by working it into your discussion of lessons that have strengthened you as a leader. This will elevate you in the interview- er’s mind, not diminish you. Have a good story ready that shows you are big enough to admit that mis-

Right from the start. No mat- ter how nervous you are, your

takes have been part of your edu- cation.

goal is simply to establish trust with your interviewer and give

Ask good questions. How does the interviewer define success in this

the interviewer a few ideas about what you can do for the com- pany. You tune up the parts of you that match the job and tune down the parts that don’t, but never pretend to be someone or

job? How do they measure that? What is an example of a previous success? What are the biggest cur- rent challenges? Why is this job open right now? What is the his- tory of this position?

something you are not. It is a sure recipe for disaster.

Go in with confident body language. Everything about you speaks!

Have a ready list of anecdotes,

Non-verbal cues are more impor-

examples, and stories that you are happy and confident to retell about your past triumphs. These personal examples go a long way towards helping you to convey who you are on the whole. Look for ways that you and your

tant than verbal ones. Studies show that body language com- prises 55% of the force of your response, whereas verbal content provides only 7%, and “paralan- guage” (intonation, pauses, eye contact) represents 38% of your

interviewer are alike, and talk about them. Look for important things and emotions that you both have experienced, and the

impact. Make sure that your body lan- guage is congruent with your mes- sage. Most interviewers believe the

currents that drive your interests in common. You are interviewing the interviewer here as well.

nonverbal, so make sure your mes- sage matches your body language. Traumatized interviewees often

Research the company and tell them what you can do

appear downcast, even when talk- ing about their strengths. Difficult

How can you help this company

questions cause them to fidget, or

in the future? You will know that if you have done your research. Find out how you can help, and

become overly rigid and defen- sive. Your actions reveal your inner

develop a strategy to clearly com- municate your value. Underline the ways your strengths match the needs of the job. If your strengths don’t all match, create ‘bridges’ using unique talents and experiences in

confidence so practice in front of a mirror, or better, with a coach who will help you to conquer these moments by using groups of related gestures that are specifi- cally placed, not random.

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Follow up

At the end of the interview ask when they plan to make their decision. You will learn how long you will have to wait! One phone call to follow up is allowable if you haven’t heard. Always send a thank you letter! Even if you think it went poorly, say one or two clever things you wish you had said. Refer to the interview “I gave more thought to the question you asked about relocating…” “What you said about X gave me some new insights into Y.” The process can be enjoyable and

stimulating for both parties. To learn more, ask a coach or find books or resources on:

Job interview questions Interview phases Public speaking Leadership Career issues Conducting an interview your- self Happy Job Landing!

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YourCareer

When the Interview Turns to Salary

By Denise Nickeson

I was recently on an interview and the interviewer asked me how much salary I expected halfway into the interview. I was a bit caught off guard by his question and blurted out a wage that was really lower than I wanted. How could I handle this better next time?

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Salary discussions can sometimes be like a card game—the one who shows his hand first is often the loser. Try to NOT be the first one to mention sal- ary figure. In this situation, an accept- able response would be to request that any salary discussion be postponed until there is an offer on the table. You want to make sure you a) want the job and b) they want you before you start discussing salary. Some employers will be okay with that, some won’t. If they press you for a figure, you might try to ask them first if they had a range in mind. They probably do but may not want to share it with you! If they say something like, “Well, it depends on experience!” you could say, “Well, with my experience and qualifications what would be your best offer?” Now, if you don’t want to con- tinue with the coy back and forth, you could offer them a range. “I am look- ing for something in the $12-17 range.” (Don’t make your range too small).

Just make sure you know what the lowest amount is that you’ll accept. In this case it better not be more than $12/hour if that was your low range! Some other arsenals at your dis- posal would be to know, ahead of time, what a typical salary range would be for the position for which you are interviewing. Some ways to do this would be to go one the internet; www. salary.com; www1.joboptions.com; www.bls.gov (the Bureau of Labor Statistics web site), to name a few. Another option would be to call some companies that are in the same indus- try (and that you are NOT looking to pursue for employment) and see if someone in human resources or a hir- ing manager would be willing to share the info with you. Make sure that you tell them that you are doing research and are trying to get an idea of the sal- ary ranges for a particular position. Or, better yet, see if your network of

contacts knows anyone who works at the company (ies) you are targeting. See if they can help you out. Keep in mind that base pay or sal- ary is just part of the picture. Benefits such as vacation, sick time, health care benefits, any bonus or incentive pro- grams or other perquisites are poten- tially negotiable. The job offer/ salary negotiation stage is a good time to ask about the above and salary and/or per- formance review frequency. Last but not least, GET EVERYTHING IN WRITING!

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Denise Nickeson’s background includes working as an employment trainer/job coach for an occupational training cen- ter as well as a personnel manager and corporate trainer for desktop support ser- vices company in Silicon Valley. She is available for private career assessment and job coaching services. You can reach her at dnickeson@hotmail.com.

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The Metaphoric Life

By Heather Mendel

Living the metaphoric life is a way of approaching our daily experiences with an awareness and a sense of con- nection that that deepens our lives. Ancient peoples were far more in tune than we with the wonders of the nat- ural world and how nature impinges on our perceptions. We are all famil- iar with the optical illusion. A com- mon example is an image of a goblet. We look at it and then some magi- cal shift occurs and it is no longer a goblet, but two faces turned towards each other. As we continue to watch, the faces magically disappear and it is once again a goblet we see. And then the faces appear again, and finally we find ourselves able to switch easily back and forth between these elusive twin realities. A frustration sets in — if we can see one image in two totally different ways and find two complete truths, which is real? Foreground or background? They are both real, both valid, and both have something for us to enjoy experiencing. We live in a state of fas- cination with our technological devel- opment; to live the metaphoric life, we need to peer into the background of a connective reality that we bypass in our literal lives. The underlying pat- terns of connections are there, like the two faces in the optical illusion, wait- ing for us to stop long enough to per- ceive them.

What would you do if you came home and found a snake on your doorstep? This happened recently to a friend. I loved the humorous coin- cidence of the fact that my friend’s name is Eve! Living on a literal level, we may feel, after the initial shock of seeing this uninvited guest at the front door, that we must find a way of get- ting rid of it. Coming from South Africa, home of extremely poisonous snakes, I was taught to be fearful of these creatures. In the twenty years I have been in the US, I have had two personal and unexpected meetings with their less venomous American cousins. Both occasions occurred at times in my life when I was deep in study about ancient cultures and their relationship with snakes that is very different to ours. Foreground or back- ground? For me these mysterious and magical moments of meeting were portals to the metaphoric life. With a sense of wonder and delight, I was able to acknowledge the unexpected arrival of these snakes, symbols of ancient wisdom, as a sign, a very per- sonal sign, of the connection we have to a deeper reality. On both occasions, it was for me an acknowledgement of the truth of what I was studying. To live a metaphoric life, we need to pay attention to more than our daily schedules. Messengers from the deep appear, uninvited, in many

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forms. Books fall open on pages we had not meant to read and yet find words that are important for us to see in connection with issues in our lives. What elements of the natural world appear, as if by magic, into our field of vision? What lessons can we learn from the seasonal changes that occur every three months? What dream images, uninvited but welcomed, come to awareness each morning with clues to a deeper understanding of reality than just our superficial percep- tion encourages? I love the goblet and the faces that represent the twin realities of our exis- tence and the ability we have to move from one to the other. I am paying more attention to these shifts that occur and add meaning and humor to my experience. Are you? I would appreciate hearing about the meta- phoric experiences of our readers and invite you to share them with us.

Heather Mendel has focalized women’s spirituality groups for the past 15 years. She can be contacted through her web- site at www.wordartist.com, e-mailed at heathermendel@charter.net or called at

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Immune Health:

Preventing the Flu & Colds Naturally

By Dr. Darya Boland ND

If you catch colds easily, get more than two colds a year, suffer from chronic infections, get frequent cold sores, or have swollen lymph glands, it’s time to support your immune sys- tem. Supporting immune function involves a comprehensive approach. With the cold and flu season upon us, there no time like the present to start. Supporting the immune system is critical to good health. On the other hand, good health is vital to support- ing the immune system. Enhancing the immune system may involve diet, lifestyle, stress management, nutri- tional supplementation, botanical, and homeopathic medicines. Nutrition is fundamental to all health. Nutritional factors that depress immune function include nutri- ent deficiency, excess consumption of sugar and refined carbohydrates, and consumption of allergenic foods. Optimal immune function requires a diet that is rich in whole foods, as organic as possible, and limited ani- mal fat and fish consumption. A good multi-vitamin and greens drink (such as nanogreens) should also be part of your daily regime.

Lifestyle practices that enhance healthy immune systems include:

not smoking, maintaining proper body weight, regular exercise, getting enough sleep, and meditation. Many herbs have been shown to stimulate and support the immune system. Echinacea, Astragalus, Glyc- yrrhiza, Rhodiola, and Schisandra are herbs that are often prescribed. Homeopathic remedies, taken orally or injected, are natural alter- natives to the flu shot. Homeopathic remedies are made from plant or mineral sources that are diluted to the point where all that’s left is the source’s energetic properties. The goal of homeopathic medicine is to stim- ulate the body’s recovery process, so essentially the homeopathic flu shot strengthens the immune system. As a Naturopathic Doctor, my goal is to help you protect your great- est asset ~ your health!

For more information, or to help you get started on building a strong immune sys- tem, contact Dr. Darya Boland ND at the Advanced Alternative Medical Cen- ter. 805.462.2262

Natural Medicine Chest For Your Home

By Marleen Walmsley

Here is a cheat sheet of natural medi- cines that will save you a great deal of money (up to 90% savings over the packaged version of the same thing). Some can be prepared from bulk herbs which you can buy at some health food stores around the county. Folk and native remedies are just as good, and often purer than packaged ones. Spices: I buy pure organically grown spices like oregano, rosemary, and cinnamon for pennies as bulk herbs. They aren’t irradiated, and are so much fresher. A small commercial brand jar of cinnamon, for instance, will cost $5 or more, while the bulk herb is around 20 cents. This is also true of teas and dulce available in health food stores. Unsure how to prep the herbal tea or tincture? Most stores have people in that department that can tell you step by step how to prepare and apply. If they don’t have a person there, they will refer you to a book in the depart- ment for the public that tells how.

AILMENT

HERB OR MEDICINE

TO BUY OR TO PREPARE

Bruising, muscle aches

Arnica – 6C homeopathic ointment or pills

Any health food store

Intestinal parasites

Pumpkin seeds

Trader Joe’s, health food store

 

Wormwood tincture

Health food store

 

Black walnut tincture

Health food store

 

Artemesia Quassia Supreme

Health food store

Constipation

Cornsilk

Boil 15 minutes, take 3x day

 

Milk of Magnesia

 

Headaches

Feverfew (pre-headache)

Health food store

Prostate

Saw palmetto

Boil 20 minutes, cool, take on ongoing basis

Skin itches

Milk

Dab on cotton ball

Mosquito bites – prevent

Laurel leaves

Boil, cool, spray on skin

Warts

Thuja – homeopathic pills

6C potency under tongue

 

Ayurvedic pitta oil

Apply daily for 3 days

 

Dandelion, fresh stems

Apply directly for 3 days

Poison oak

Jewelweed, oatmeal

 

Weak Immunity

Astragalus, Ligustrum,

Any health food store

Goldenseal, Echinacea

Heart – weak

Hawthorn berry

Any health food store

 

CoQ10

Any health food store

Sunburn

Aloe vera juice fresh from plant

Health food store

Nursing – sore nipples

Marshmallow

Health food store

Gallstones

Cranberry juice

Organic only. Take 1 week.

Fever

White alder bark

Boil 20 min, cool, drink

Aspirin alternative

White willow bark

Boil a handful in water 15 minutes, cool, drink 2 cups

Hyperactivity

GABA, an amine

Found in amino acid section of health food store

Congestive heart failure

Hawthorn berry, Magnesium, CoQ10

Health food store. Best if taken in combination.

Antidepressant

St. John’s Wort

Health food, drug stores

Nail fungus

Tea tree oil

Apply with cotton swab. Avail at drug stores, health food stores

Pimples

Dab toothpaste, leave overnight

The chalk in the toothpaste dries the pimple.

Puffy eyes in morning

Witch hazel on cotton balls

Cucumber slices work, too

Edema

Dandelion or raspberry leaves

Health food store

Insecticide

Laurel leaves

Boil bay laurel leaves 15 min., cool and mist on skin.

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meditation, hypnosis, fresh air, deep breathing, clean foods—organic whole foods, and a 28-day detox program, gave her the boost to get through the grieving process. We all have stresses and emotions, some are bigger than others, and our bodies are physically sensitive and will react and change. Our good health, wellness, and aging process depend upon how we process, resolve, let go, laugh, and move on from these stresses. It’s all about the smooth flow of Qi!

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Jenny Dull is a California Board Licensed Acupuncturist and Chinese Herbalist, as well as, a Nationally Cer- tified Diplomate of Oriental Medicine, Acupuncture, and Chinese Herbology. She accomplished graduate training in China in Gynecology and Orthopedics, and has experience in integrative sports injury and cosmetic facial rejuvenation, which entails acupuncture, Chinese herbs, Qigong, and diet protocols. Jenny is determined and dedicated to each patient’s mind and body in healing and is a guide to harmonized health. Edu- cating each patient about his/her health is a priority for Jenny. 805-481-3442

Moving Onward with Passion and Courage

By Laura Hyde

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bonds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.” -- Patanjali Every day our future beckons us to follow the path of our greatest dreams and joy. Committing to our high- est purpose and moving onward with passion and courage summons legions of support. Others who resonate to our same level of willingness with the same degree of intention will be drawn to us. Connections will be made. Cir- cumstances will be crafted. Energetic dots will be connected—all aspects of the divine plan that have been created to assist us as our progress. Our purpose is to awaken and be light-workers on the planet. As we give birth to the best we can be, we become living channels of love and

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Chunky Qi

by Jenny Dull

I had been treating a woman who had lost her best friend five months ago, and she described herself as hav- ing “chunky Qi.” She spiraled into a dark cave of depression, fatigue, pain, heaviness—she had lost her motiva- tion for life. I understood her and as she was talking about her symptoms, my mind was imagining rivers and streams flowing through her body that had been clogged by pollution, damned up by coagulated thinning waters, rocks, and trash. This analogy of water in a river relates to Qi flow- ing through our bodies. In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), acupuncturists and herbal- ist work with our Qi (pronounced “chee”), which is our vital force, our positives and negatives, electricity, energy. This Qi runs externally/inter- nally via our network of channels through our brain, internal organs, muscles, fat, fluids, and blood. The goal is to be in harmony and homeo- stasis by keeping our Qi moving smoothly through these channels. When we are under stress, have an extreme traumatic experience, or have long-term emotions unresolved, our Qi becomes stagnant in the channels, thus in our organs, muscles, brain, etc. This stagnant Qi causes blockage and our signs and symptoms can vary depending on each person’s vulner- abilities. Qi is the mover/the energy/the leader for our blood and body fluids’ flow, and when Qi is stagnant from grief, stress, anger, and other emo-

tions, everything else will clump up. Our lymph system, for instance, needs movement, flow, and sifting energy to detox our bodies. When our Qi is dis- turbed by emotions and stress, the Qi slows down or stops in different parts of our body and the lymph cannot do its job. Usually, our digestion and immunity weakens. This may show up as sinus infections, fatty tumors that come and go, fat, migraines, depres- sion, a feeling of heaviness, foggy thinking, fatigue, dizziness, etc. So imagine our Qi is smooth flow- ing water, flowing down the river. When we have a stress upon the river, the water diverts, can clog, can “eddy out,” can be damned up: we become out of balance. Luckily we have an innate ability to heal ourselves, but we sometimes need a kick-start. I could feel her energetic “chunky Qi” in the channels along my patient’s arms and legs, which caused physi- cal pain and tenderness. I certainly could not feel her depression physi- cally, but the acupuncture stimulated and moved through her to stimulate hormone balancing, specifically her “happy hormone,” serotonin. After a few acupuncture treatments, my patient started to feel movement in her body, awakenings, more energy, and a sense of sunshine in her mood. By using acupuncture as a tool to access her Qi, she smoothed her “chunky Qi” and released her clumps of coagu- lated, stuck, toxic fluids. Lifestyle changes such as move- ment, exercise, stretching, more water,

except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different per- son, filled with love and understand- ing, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed.” Begin fulfilling your purpose on this planet by moving onward in the direction of your dreams. There is no step too small. Every action you take, like every piece of a puzzle, leads to a bigger picture of accomplishment. Our future lovingly beckons us to move onward. All we have to do is walk our paths one step at a time with trust and

peace. When we commit ourselves to

unconditional love in our hearts.

offering the best within us, the natu- ral outcome is that it is good for our- selves, for the planet, and for other

Affirmations for Moving Onward with Passion and Courage:

people. But this kind of choice inevi- tably holds difficulty and challenge

• By expressing my gifts and abili- ties I live with enlightened pur-

because without Spirit’s guidance we

pose.

cannot do it. Nor should we, because

  • I Am a magnificent child of Love

if we attempt to do it on our own, it

and I am supported by the uni-

won’t reflect the best that we can and is not worthy of what Spirit has called

verse. As I allow my light to shine forth,

us here to do. Each of us possesses

  • I support others in shining their

greatness and the capacity for making

own light.

our dreams come true. We move from,

  • I deserve to live a life filled with

“I dream,” to “I dare,” to “I Am.” If you believed your dream was possible,

peace, joy, and love, and so does everyone else.

what might you do next?” Then take that step. Courage is an essential ingredient to moving onward with passion. We

Laura V. Hyde is the Spiritual Leader of the Circle of Spiritual Enlight- enment in San Luis Obispo, CA:

muster courage by dreaming big, giv- ing birth to our dreams, and bringing forth our highest potential. We muster courage by releasing the past. Eileen Cady wisely penned in the book God Spoke to Me, “Dwell not on the past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters

www.spiritualcircle.org. Laura is also the author of the books Gifts of the Soul and The Intimate Soul, and the host of the show “Relationship Wisdom” on San Luis Obispo Public Access Television. Visit Laura at: www.laurahyde.com or call: 805.748.7506

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Dream Dinners Opening In San Luis Obispo

YMCA Receives 50% Of Proceeds For First Two Weeks

A Grand Opening Celebration will be held Thursday, November 30th from 5:00 PM to 7:00 PM at Dream Dinners, located in the Ferrinis Square in San Luis Obispo (795 E. Foothill Blvd.). Half of all proceeds from the event, and continuing for the next two weeks will be donated to the SLO County YMCA for community-build- ing programs. The Grand Opening will run from 5 to 7 PM, on Thursday, Novem- ber 30th. This free event will offer delicious food samples and a dem- onstration. A number of prizes will be given away; including a 5 Cu. Ft. Deep Chest Freezer donated by Idler’s Appliances, 1 year’s worth of Dream Dinners and 2 Lift Tickets at Mam- moth Mountain Ski Area. Half of all proceeds from this event and con- tinuing for the next two weeks will be directed to support YMCA programs in San Luis Obispo County. What is Dream Dinners? Dream Dinners is an innovative concept in meal preparation that eliminates menu planning, shopping, prep-work and clean-up by moving the meal assem- bly process out of people’s kitchens and into specially equipped stores. Dream Dinners’ guests pre- view a monthly menu online at dreamdinners.com and then, at a spec- ified time, go to the Dream Dinners store to assemble their meals, from ready to use, pre-washed and chopped ingredients. Rotating through refrig- erated recipe stations, scooping fresh, prepped raw ingredients into the pro- vided baking pans or gallon-sized zip- top bags, you can assemble your meals which all come with the appropriate cooking instructions. Dream Dinners enables you to provide your family with nutritious, wholesome, home-cooked meals with less stress. They do the grocery shop- ping, preparation and clean-up which gives you the opportunity to enjoy family dinners with less mess and stress. We hope you will give Dream Dinners a try and help the YMCA in the process!

Open House

Equal singles 60+ , a social group for active non smoking men and women is having an “open house.” Dec. 2, 2006, 5 pm at the Blacklake Golf Resort in Nipomo. Complete dinner with choice of beef or chicken and dance music, all only $25 per person. Inclusive. If you’re a resident in SLO or Santa Maria Counties, make reservations before Nov. 25th by phone 489-5481 or e-mail dg17@juno.com.

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2 bedroom, 1 bath, upper apt. Laun- dry, garage, and pool $525/mo. Includes utilities. Credit and background check (310) 948-4541

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on November 9th from 6:00 to 9:00pm at Edna Valley Vineyard.

Featuring artists Jer Houston and Judy Ann of Saiku Studio and Gallery in Cambria The event will include live acoustic jazz by Jim Chalifoux, a silent auction, Edna Valley Vineyard wines, a choco- late fondue fountain provided by Out- spoken Beverage Bistro, and a cocktail supper provided by Palazzo Giuseppe, Phoenix Fine Catering, Trumpet Vine Catering and the Cakery. Tickets are $40 and all proceeds benefit the Sexual Assault Recovery and Prevention Center of San Luis Obispo County. For tickets or more informa- tion call (805) 545-8888 or visit www.sarpcenter.org to purchase tick- ets online.

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Five Wishes Forum

Wednesday, November 8th, from 2:00 p.m. to 3:30 p.m. at the San Luis Obispo City/ County Library

November 2006 marks the 28th anniversary of National Hospice Month, and Hospice Partners of the Central Coast will host a community forum to educate the public about the Five Wishes document as an effective way to deal with end-of-life issues. More than five million Americans

have turned to the Five Wishes docu-

ment to make sure their preferences are known and respected. The end of

life is an intensely personal, emotional,

and spiritual experience for every-

one - the person who is dying, their caregivers, family members and other

loved ones. The Five Wishes approach to advance care planning has proven

popular and effective for all ages.

To register for this free commu- nity forum or for information on hospice care, call Hospice Partners of the Central Coast at (805) 782-8608. Hospice Partners, a non-profit, State licensed, Medicare certified Hospice Agency provides hospice care to the residents of San Luis Obispo County and northern Santa Barbara County.

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Women’s Shelter of SLO Needs Mentors

Do you want to mentor a child in need? Do you want to give back to the community? The Women’s Shelter

Program of SLO County is recruiting for the mentor program. CHAT men-

tors attend a 40-hour training and then are matched with a child from

our program. The mentor has visits

with the child and does advocacy in

the community and the school sys-

tem for the child. The Women’s Shel-

ter Program is also recruiting Crisis volunteers for the crisis line. If you are interested in either of these oppor- tunities, please contact Beth Raub at 781-6401 x202.

New Occupational Therapy, Speech and Learning Resources Center Opens in Arroyo Grande

Sande Rutstein, Licensed Occu- pational Therapist, Owner of New Directions for Kids, and Karyn Lutes, Licensed Speech and Language Pathologist, Owner and Director of The Learning & Speech Coach, join to offer therapy services and learning resources to children and adults with special needs and learning challenges. The new Center will provide both individual and group services to fami- lies on the Central Coast at::

290 Station Way, Suite #A Arroyo Grande, CA 93420

Sande Rutstein offers on-going individual therapy and sensory inte-

gration groups, yoga therapy, infant

massage, Handwriting and Socializa-

tion Groups. Her vision is “holding

the potential of each precious child.”

Phone: 805-541-7628

E-mail: srutstein@sbcglobal.net

www.newdirectionsforkids.com

Karyn Lutes provides custom

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and programs.

Phone: 805-474-1144 E-mail: 5Lutes@sbcglobal.net

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ABUSE

Adults Molested as Children Support Group (AMAC)

 

545.8888

Center for Alternatives to Domestic Violence

 

781.6406

North County Women’s Shelter & Resource Center,

 

(inc. domestic violence support groups)

461.1338

Rape Survivors Support Group, SLO

 

545.8888

SARP (Sexual Assault Recovery & Prevention)

 

545.8888

Support Group for Sexual Assault Survivors

 

545.8888

Women’s Shelter Program of SLO

 

781.6400

www.womensshelterslo.org

ADDICTIONS

AA Meeting

 

541.3211

Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)

 

595.2695

Al-Anon

 

534.9204

Cambria Connection (12 step support)

 

927.1654

Casa Solana

 
 

Women’s Recovery Home 481.8555

Compulsive eaters Anonymous, H.O.W.Concept

 

546.1178

Drug & Alcohol Services

 

781.4275

NA

800.549.7730

Overeaters Anonymous

 
 

541.3164

SCA, SLAA & SAA (Sex, Love & Romance Addictions)

 

461.6084

TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly)

 

929.1789

Women for Sobriety

http://www.womenforsobriety.org

215.536.8026

CHILDREN & FAMILIES

Childcare Resource Connection

541.2272

or 800.727.2272

Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA)

“A child’s voice in Court in SLO County”

541.6542

Children’s Services Network

781.1847

First 5: Children & Families Commission

781.4058; ask for Susan Hughs

Homeschooling in SLO County (HSC)

462.0726; ask for Barbara

La Clinica De Tolosa La Leche League

238.5334

489.9128

Migrant Childcare Program

544.4355

and 466.3444

MOMS Club of South SLO county

473. 2548

Partnership for Children

541.8666; ask for Beth

Real F.A.C.T.S. (Forum on Abused Children)

460.9016

Social Services

781.1600

Support for Kids Coping with Domestic Violence

473.6507

EMERGENCY/CRISIS

Hotline

www.slohotline.org 800.549.8989

Sexual & Rape Prevention (SARP)

545.8888

or 800.656.HOPE (4673)

Temporary Restraining Order & Victim Witness

Program 781.5821

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT

A.D.A.P.T. (Aid in Divorce Adjustment Problems Today)

543.0388

Alzheimer/Dementia Resource Center

434.2081

or 534.9234 or 800.443.1236

CALL–Concerned Agoraphobics Learning to Live

543.3764

Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA)

542.0577

(SLO) 481.5093 (Grover Beach)

927.1654

(Cambria) 466.8600 (North County)

Community Counseling Center

543.7969

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance Group

927.3703

Eating Disorders Support Group

546-3774; free, meets weekly in SLO Hospice of SLO County (inc. miscarriage/stillbirth support) 544.2266 or 434.1164

Safe and Sober Support Group

473.6507

Senior Peer Counseling

free, trained in-home counseling for 60+ 547.7025, ext. 15

Talk/Listen - Emotional support

489.5481

Transformations Counseling Center

Free monthly workshops 541.7908

FINANCE/BUSINESS

Consumer Credit Counseling Services

800.540.2227

Mission Community Services Corporation Women’s Business Partners

 

595.1356

www.mcscorp.org

GAY & LESBIAN

Gay and Lesbian Alliance of the Central Coast

 

541.4252

PFLAG.Parents & Friends of Lesbians & Gays

 

438.3889

SOL (Single Older Lesbians)

 

Mostly socializing! Call 474.9405

HOSPICE

 

AIDS Bereavement Group (Hospice)

 

544.2266

Hospice of SLO County

 
 

544.2266

and 434.1164

Hospice Partners of the Central Coast

 

782.8608

JOBS/CAREERS

 

AARP

788.2643

Cal Poly Foundation

 
 

Jobline 756.7107

Cal Poly University

 
 

http://calpolyjobs.org 756.1533

Cuesta College

 
 

http://www.cuesta.edu Jobline 546.3127

The Creekside Career Center

 

www.slocareers.org 788.2631 or 788.2690

Department of Rehabilitation

 

549.3361

Mission Community Services Corporation Women’s Business Partners

 

595.1356 www.mcscorp.org

Private Industry Council (PIC)

 

www.jobhunt.org 788.2601

LEGAL

ACLU Helpline

 
 

544.0142

Core Mediation Services

 

544.6334

medeee8@aol.com

District Attorney’s Office – Victim Witness Center

 

781.5821

Family Law Facilitator

 
 

546.3769

Lawyers Referral Services/Legal Aid Alternative

 

788.2099

Pro Per Divorce Workshop

 

544.9313

Senior Legal Services

 
 

543.5140

MEDICAL SUPPORT/SERVICES

ALS Support Group (Lou Gehrig’s Disease)

 

227.4785

Alzheimer’s Support

 
 

534.9234

(LO); 547.3830 (SLO);

226.8669

(Templeton)

Caregivers of Early-Stage Alzheimer’s

547.3830, 534.9234 (SLO/Los Osos)

American Cancer Society

 

Paso Robles 238.9657

Anorexia Nervosa & Bulimia Support Group

 

541.9113

Arthritis Foundation

 
 

892.5556

Cancer/ Breast Cancer Support Groups

 

543.1481

ext. 3 for information

Caregivers of Aging Parents

 

547.3830

(AG); 927.4290 (Cambria);

226.8669

(PR); 547.3830 (SLO)

Endometriosis Association

 

www.endometriosisassn.org

Enhancement, Inc.

 
 

(for breast cancer survivors)

771.8640

www.enhancementinc.com

EOC Health Services Clinics

 

no or low cost reproductive health services

544.2478

(SLO); 489.4026 (Arroyo Grande)

Healthworks of the Central Coast

 

no or low cost reproductive health services

787.0100

(SLO); 773.4500 (Pismo);

610.8865

(Atascadero)

Long-term Care Ombudsman Services of SLO County

 

785.0132

Lymphedema Education & Support Group

2nd Monday, 4:00-5:00 pm 782-9300 for info

Parkinson’s Support Groups

466.7226

(Atascadero/Templeton)

481.7424, 473.1714 (Arroyo Grande)

544.1342

(SLO)

Planned Parenthood

SLO 549.9446

Stroke Support Group

471.8102

(SLO)

Caregivers of Stroke Survivors

544.2266

(SLO)

Women’s Support/Therapy v (general)

534.1101

Women’s Healthcare Specialists

544.4883

POLITICAL

Code Pink

ososousaville@aol.com

Commission on Status of Women

545.8412; Dawn Williams

Democratic Women United

541.4252

League of Women Voters

543.2220

NOW (National Organization for Women)

slonow@kcbx.net

SLO Green Party

http://www.slo.greens.org 544.1580

Younger Women’s Task Force

www.ywtf.org

READERS/WRITERS

Adult Literacy

541-4219

Nightwriters

549.9656; contact Shirley Powell

Sisters in Crime

http://SinC-CCC.blogspot.com

SENIORS

Adult Day Care

544.1414

(SLO); 748.9070 (Arroyo Grande);

434.2081

(Templeton); 927.4290 (Cambria)

Computerooters:

Computer help: 528.3892

Department of Social Services:

In-Home Support to the Elderly/Homemakers help with ADLs 781.1790 nursing help for the terminally ill 781.5540

Equal Singles 60+ Meet Monthly

489.5481, dg17@juno.com

Foster Grandparents.Senior Companions

782.9200

Senior Peer Counseling

free, trained in.home counseling for 60+

547.7025

ext. 15

SPIRITUAL (OR NOT)

Circle of Spiritual Enlightenment

995.1390

Awakening Interfaith Spiritual Community

Sunday service, 10–11 AM; 772.0306

Central Coast Jewish Historical Society

543.9452

Meditation Group

Mondays, 7:30–8:30 PM; 772.0306

New Beginnings Church

Every Sunday, Coalesce Bookstore, MB

WOMEN’S CENTERS/SHELTERS

Homeless Shelter

781-3993

Housing Authority

543.4478

North County Women’s Resource Center, Shelter

461.1338

Prado Day Center

786.0617

Women’s Community Center, SLO

544.9313

Women’s Shelter Program of SLO

549.8989

(crises), 781.6401 (business)

www.womensshelterslo.org

OTHER WOMEN’S ORGANIZATIONS

Altrusa International, Inc.

481.1039; Cici Wynn, President

Hadassah.SLO

543.9452

Women’s Network, SLO

546.3727

www.womenslo.org

OTHER GROUPS & GATHERINGS

Central Coast Peace and Environmental Council

544.3399

or 783.2383

Compassion & Choices (formerly Hemlock Society)

938.7853

or 458.5481

Please send additions, corrections or deletions to:

editors@womenspress-slo.org or leave a message at the WCC: 805.544.9313. Last update 10/28/06.

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My boyfriend and I both cook and clean and it is wonderful. He used to own a cafe and art gallery so he creates some delicious and aesthetically pleasing dishes and I enhance them with my nutritional touches and playful garnishes. We also work together to maintain a clean home space. What a joy it is for us both to reap the many benefits of living in a well-maintained and beautiful home.

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Hair Salon, Apropos Clothing, Soho Hair Salon, Tom-Mel Beauty Center

• SOUTH COUNTY: Arroyo Grande – Natural Balance, Mongo’s, World Gym, Act II Boutique, Andreini’s, Central Coast Yoga, CJ’s Restaurant, Country Kitch-

en, Curves-AG, Cutting Edge, EOC Health Services Clinic, Family Chiropractic, Girls Restaurant, Grande Whole Foods, Hunter’s Landing, Kennedy Club Fitness; Avila Beach – Custom House, Sycamore Hot Springs; Grover Beach – World Gym, Back Door Deli, Cindi’s Wash House, Nan’s Pre-owned Books, Therapeutic Body Center, 30-minute Fitness; Halcyon – Halcyon Store; Nipomo – Center for Holistic Healing, World Gym, California Fresh; Pismo Beach – HealthWorks, Honeymoon Café, Pismo Athletic Club; Shell Beach – De Palo & Sons Deli, Seaside Cafe, Steaming Bean • SANTA MARIA: Café Monet, Hunter’s Landing, Library, Loading Dock, Mar- ian Medical Center

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