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BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER

LESSON I................................................................................................LOVE ONE ANOTHER.

LESSON II ............................................... BE OF THE SAME MIND WITH ONE ANOTHER.

LESSON III...................................................................................ADMONISH ONE ANOTHER.

LESSON IV. ..........................................................................................SERVE ONE ANOTHER.

LESSON V .......................................................................BEAR ONE ANOTHER'S BURDENS.

LESSON VI. .................................................................................SUBMIT TO ONE ANOTHER.

LESSON VII....................................................... ENCOURAGE AND EDIFY ONE ANOTHER.

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BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER
LOVE ONE ANOTHER
I Thessalonians 3:12; 4:9

Paul frequently uses the analogy of the human body to illustrate how the church is to
function. See I Corinthians 12:14-27. For further reference study Romans 12 and Ephesians 4.
What is Paul saying here:
A. No individual Christian can function effectively by himself. Just as there are
many parts of one body in the physical makeup of human beings, so the body of
Christ is made up of many members. And each member is important. No
member of Christ's body can say, “I don't need you”. We all need each other.
B. No member of Christ's body should feel he is more important than another. See
Romans 12:3.
C. We should strive to create unity in the body of Christ. Study I Corinthians 12:12.

The most significant key to unity and effective body function is love. We are to "love
one another." Love is the “more excellent way”. See I Corinthians 12:31; 13:13.
The exhortation to "love one another" appears more frequently than all others. Of
the 58 references to what we are to do for one another as fellow believers, 11 times we are told
to love one another. If you add Christ's direct Commands to “love one another”, which are
recorded in John's Gospel, the total comes to 16 in the New Testament.
Christians are to be just as devoted to each other as are the individual members of a
close-knit family unit. For we are a unique family unit. We are "blood brothers." Read
Ephesians 1:7. “We are family”.
Consider the following practical steps for developing loving family relationships in the
church.
I. DON’T ATTACK YOUR CHURCH.
If you attack your spouse, or children not honoring their parents you only destroy your
own home. Have you heard, “don’t bite the hand that feeds you and if you do, you won't be
fed”.
When a church attacks their pastor or its members you only destroy your own church. So
take seriously what the Bible says about brotherly love.

A. I Thessalonians 4:9-10.
B. Hebrews 13:1-3.
C. I Peter 1:22.
D. I Peter 3:8-12.

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II. EVALUATE YOUR ATTITUDES AND ACTIONS TOWARD OTHER


MEMBERS OF THE CHURCH.
Some Christians find it difficult to identify with other believers at the "feeling" level.
Consider the following reasons:
A. You may fear rejection. Some individuals have been so deeply hurt by others
they are afraid to express their feelings.
B. You may have had a family background where displays of love were uncommon.
It will take time, prayer and association with Christians whom you can trust to
reverse such behavioral patterns.
C. You may spend too much time thinking of yourself. A selfish, self-centered
person is never happy. Happiness results from reaching out in love to others.

III. EXPRESS LOVE IN A TANGIBLE WAY.


A. The giving of a gift.
B. A note or word of appreciation to someone who has helped you.
C. An invitation to dinner.
D. Leading a soul to Christ.
E. Volunteering for a church responsibility.

All of the foregoing may be summed up in the words of Christ in John 13:34, 35.

Answer the following questions:

1. Reading the references, what is Paul saying?


a.
b.
c.

2. What is the one most important key for a church to have in order to be effective and
have unity?

3. If we don't take seriously what the Bible says about love what will happen in our
homes and churches?

4. List the three reasons why some Christians find it difficult to relate to other believers.
a.
b.
c.

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1. a. No individual Christian can function effectively by himself.

b. No member of Christ's body should feel he is more important than another.

c. We should strive to create unity in the church.

2. Love for one another.

3. We destroy our own homes and churches.

4. a. Fear of rejection.

b. Family background.

c. Selfishness.

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Lesson 2
BUILDING UP ONE ANOTHER
BE OF THE SAME MIND WITH ONE ANOTHER
Romans 15:5-6 & James 1:8

One of Satan's most effective strategies is to destroy unity among Christians. He


is the author of confusion, false doctrine, and church splits.
We are clearly taught in the Bible that Satan's malicious strategy can be defeated. It is
the power of “one-mindedness” in those who make up the body -- the local church.

I. CHRIST PRAYED FOR UNITY.


In Christ's prayer to the Father in John 17, the central theme is that His disciples might
experience unity and oneness. Read John 17:9-11. Later Jesus amplified this same request. See
John 17:20-23.
Jesus Christ was God in the flesh. He was and is one with the Father. And oneness in
the church in a marvelous way reveals to non-Christians that Christ was indeed God. If Satan
can destroy our unity, he has destroyed the most powerful means of communication to lost men
that Jesus Christ was God.
Wars and lack of harmony among mankind have been the norm -- the standard for
human behavior. And when lost people see true unity and true oneness, their hearts cry out to be
a part of that kind of love.
Jesus knew in advance that Satan's tactic would be to destroy unity in the church. Thus
he prayed that God would protect believers from the evil one. See John 17:15.

II. THE JERUSALEM CHURCH SET A DYNAMIC EXAMPLE OF UNITY.


The unity in the Jerusalem church was profound. Read Acts 2:46 & Acts 4:32.
This does not mean that there were no problems, that Satan did not try to destroy their
unity. Read Acts 5:1-11 & Acts 6:1-4.
It is important that we do not miss the results of the unity of the Jerusalem church.
Study Acts 2:47; Acts 4:32-33 & Acts 6:7. We see here a direct correlation between unity in
the body of Christ and the results of that unity in the lives of non-Christians.

III. ONENESS OF MIND WAS PAUL'S GREAT CONCERN.


A. Romans 12:16.
B. Romans 14:19.
C. Romans 15:5-6.
D. Ephesians 4:2-3
E. Philippians 1:27.

Though many different personalities are part of any given local church, they can be
drawn together as one heart and soul. And where there is unity, there will be a dynamic witness
for Jesus Christ.

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Lesson 2 (cont’d)

Answer the following questions:

1. What is Satan's strategies and what does he do?


a. b.
c. d.

2. Can his strategy be defeated and how?


a.
b.

3. Can a church claim in prayer John 17 and experience unity and oneness? And if so,
why?
a.
b.

4. If your answer is yes in question #3, then why do churches still experience splits?

5. It is important that we do not miss the results of the unity of the Jerusalem church.
List at least three results.
a.
b.
c.

6. Did you read all the references that are listed in point III? What one thought did you
get?
a.
b.

7. If there is unity in the church there will be a ____________ ________ _______


____________ ______________.

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1. a. Destroy unity among Christians.


b. Causes confusion.
c. Teach false doctrine.
d. Causes church splits.

2. a. Yes.
b. By “one-mindedness”

3. a. Yes.
b. Jesus prayed it and his prayers are always answered.

4. They don't pray together and claim John 17.

5. a. The Lord added to the Church.


b. They had all things common with great power to witness and grace was upon them
all.
c. The Word of God increased -- the number of Churches grew.

6. a. Yes or No
b. Unity

7. Dynamic witness for Jesus Christ

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Lesson 3
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ADMONISH ONE ANOTHER
Romans 15:14 & Colossians 3:12-16

The church is like a family unit. Sometimes it is necessary for a parent to admonish a
child, or for a sister to admonish a brother. It is equally true in a church. Although it is not easy
to do this, in the end it usually turns out to be a spiritually rewarding task. “Open rebuke is
better than secret love”. Proverbs 27:5.
There is no greater sign of love than to be willing to risk rejection in order to help
someone spiritually. If you admonish in the right spirit, with the right motive, using an
appropriate method, the person who is not living a life worthy of the Gospel of Christ will
probably some day thank you for your love.

I. WHAT IS IT TO ADMONISH ANOTHER?


The word "admonish" means to correct, counsel, reprove, or warn. See I Thessalonians
5:12-15 & I Corinthians 4:14. It would seem on the surface that Paul's instruction to the Roman
Christians to “admonish” or to "warn" one another, in Romans 15:14, contradicts what he has
just emphasized. See Romans 14:13. How is it possible to admonish without judging?

II. THE BASIS FOR BEING ABLE TO ADMONISH.


Paul complimented these Christians by letting them know he was convinced they were
“able to admonish one another”. Here is why he felt that way:
A. They were “FULL OF GOODNESS”.
That is, they were living holy, Christlike lives. See Matthew 7:3-5.
Make sure you “clean up your own act” before you help someone else clean up his.
B. They were “FILLED WITH KNOWLEDGE”.
The "knowledge" spoken of here is knowledge of God's Word. Our basis for
admonishing someone else must be definitely supported by Scripture. We are not to
impose standards contrary to Scripture, such as the Pharisees did. If we are not
learning Scriptures as we should, we need to be admonished. See II Timothy 2:15.

III. HOW TO ADMONISH.


A. It must be done with deep concern and love. Read Acts 20:31. Note Paul
admonished “with tears”. See also II Thessalonians 3:15.
B. It must be done with pure motives. Read I Corinthians 4:14. We do not do it to
embarrass or scandalize a person.
C. It must be done with a proper goal. Our one basic objective must be to help the
person become more mature in Jesus Christ. See Colossians 1:28-29.
Not only are we to admonish each other when we have sinned, corrective admonishing,
we are also to warn each other to stay away from sin, preventive admonishing. See Colossians
3:16. It is the responsibility of each of us to become mature in Christ so we in turn can help
others become mature.

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Lesson 3 (cont’d)

Answer the following questions:

1. In the introduction there are listed three ways to admonish a person. What are they?
a.
b.
c.

2. Is it possible to admonish without judging?

3. List the two reasons why Paul thought they could admonish without judging?
a.
b.

4. What does it mean to be filled with goodness?

5. What does it mean to be filled with knowledge?

6. To have the right spirit to admonish as stated in our introduction; What attitude do we
need to have?

7. When we admonish someone to embarrass or hurt them do we have the right motive
at heart?

8. What is our goal in admonishing?

9. What does it mean to use corrective and preventive admonishing?


a.
b.

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1. a. Right spirit.
b. Right motive.
c. Right method.

2. Yes

3. a. Full of goodness.
b. Filled with knowledge

4. Live holy - Christlike

5. To know the Word so scripture can be used to support our admonishing.

6. With a deep concern and love.

7. No.

8. To help the person become more mature in Jesus Christ.

9. a. Corrective is to help when a person has sinned.


b. Preventive is to warn a person to stay away from sin.

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Lesson 4
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SERVE ONE ANOTHER
Galatians 5:13

We have often heard the expression, “We are saved to serve”. Not only are we saved to
serve Christ, we are saved to serve one another in love.
In the book of Galatians Paul talks about the freedom we have in Christ, see Galatians
5:1. Many people to whom Paul was writing thought Salvation was something to be earned
by keeping the law and observing holy days. Paul said just the opposite. Study Galatians 2:16-
21.
Paul was careful to tell us that our freedom does not give us the license to do as we
please. True freedom in Christ means we must live in total commitment to Christ. Though
Paul knew freedom in Christ, yet he frequently introduced himself as a servant of Christ. See
Romans 1:1 & Philippians 1:1.
Being a “servant of Christ” involves us with other members of the church. Turning our
lives over to Christ also means turning our lives over to each other. We are part of a body of
which Christ is the head. Study Ephesians 5:23.
In the fifth chapter of Galatians Paul is concerned about how Christians relate to each
other. He reminds his readers that the world “bites and devours one another”, but Christians are
to “serve one another”. What a contrast!

I. THE WORLD BITES AND DEVOURS ONE ANOTHER. Galatians 5:15-21.


Man was designed to live in relationship to others. See Genesis 2:18. When sin entered
the human race, man's need for relationships with others did not cease, but it became
complicated and distorted in Romans 1:25. He began to "use" others rather than serve others in
love.

II. CHRISTIANS SERVE ONE ANOTHER IN LOVE. Galatians 5:13.


By faith in Christ's death and resurrection, we are set free from the domination of our
sinful natures. Rather than using people for our own good, we can actually serve one another in
love. The acts of this behavior Paul called the “fruit of the spirit”. See Galatians 5:22-23.
This fruit is the result of people in relationship who are not serving each other selfishly, but
"serving one another in love."
As a member of the family of God, with all its rights and privileges, a Christian is to be
a servant to all other members of that family. And in serving one another in love, we find true
freedom in Jesus Christ. Our deepest needs are met in legitimate ways.

Other passages to consider: Luke 22:27 & Matthew 20:28.

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Lesson 4 (cont’d)

Answer the following questions:

1. What is true freedom in Christ?

2. What is the contrast between how the world treats one another and how Christians are to treat
each other?
a.
b.

3. What did mankind do to each other after sin entered?

4. Can Christians serve one another in love without using one another for their own good?

5. How can Christians serve one another without selfishness?

6. If you are self centered and selfish can you serve one another

7. With question #l in mind, we find true freedom in Jesus Christ when we _________
_______ _______ ___________ ___________.

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1. We live in total commitment to Christ.

2. a. The world bites and devours one another.

b. The Christians are to serve one another.

3. Started using others rather than serve others in love.

4. Yes.

5. Being filled with the Holy Spirit and letting the fruit of the Spirit rule in our lives.

6. No.

7. Serve one another in love.

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Lesson 5
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BEAR ONE ANOTHER'S BURDENS
Galatians 6:2

It is entirely possible for Christians to be surprised by temptation and fall into sin. See
Galatians 6:1. Paul is not speaking here of the person who is given over to sin and thus not
genuinely born again.
Our attitude toward such a brother or sister is extremely important and sensitive. We are
to restore them, and by so doing help bear their burdens. Christians have a responsibility when
others sin. We are to attempt to restore that person -- that is, we are to help that person
acknowledge his sin and overcome it. In so doing we are bearing that person's burdens and
thus fulfilling the law of Christ.
In our lesson this week we will see how Paul gives specific guidelines for carrying out
this process.

I. RESTORATION IS A TASK FOR SPIRITUAL CHRISTIANS.


Paul wrote, “Ye which are spiritual, restore him”, in Galatians 6:1. Generally
speaking, there are two classes of people in the New Testament; Christians and non-Christians.
But there are also two classes of Christians; Spiritual and Carnal. Spiritual Christians live by the
Spirit. See Galatians 5:25. They also manifest the fruit of the spirit in their lives. Read
Galatians 5:22-23. Carnal Christians are described in I Corinthians 3:1-5.
Dealing with sin in the life of a carnal Christian is not the task of someone else who is
also carnal. It is the responsibility of someone who is spiritually strong and mature.

II. RESTORATION IS TO BE DONE WITH HUMILITY.


“Restore such an one in the spirit of meekness”, wrote Paul. In essence he was
referring to humility. Read Galatians 6:3.
Christians who approach another Christian about sin must do so with a great sense of
their own unworthiness to be called children of God.
There is a no more effective approach than a gentle, compassionate, kind and patient
attitude when dealing with another person. Study Colossians 3:12-13.

III. RESTORATION MUST BE DONE CAUTIOUSLY.


“Consider yourself lest you also be tempted”, said Paul in Galatians 6:1. The lusts of
the flesh are very deceptive - - and very attractive. Some Christians when attempting to help
another believer who is trapped in some sin, soon find themselves participating in the same sin.
This Paul warned against. Read I Corinthians 10:12-13.
Evaluate your life by asking yourself these questions: Am I walking in the Spirit - led
by the Spirit? In other words, am I among those who are spiritual? Am I truly helping to bear
the burdens of those who have suffered spiritual set-backs?

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Lesson 5 (cont’d)

Answer the following questions:

1. What is “fulfilling” the law of Christ?

2. Can any Christian restore another Christian who has fallen into sin?

3. What two classes of Christians does Paul speak of?


a.
b.

4. What is the difference between the spiritual and carnal Christian?


a.
b.

5. List four kinds of attitudes we should have when dealing with another person?
a. b.
c. d.

6. The lusts of the flesh are very_______________ and very ____________________.

7. When helping another Christian is it possible that you could fall into the same sin?

8. With question #7 in mind read, reread, and read again the three questions before
dealing with a person in sin.

9. List the three ways to bear one another’s burden.


a.
b.
c.

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BEAR ONE ANOTHER'S BURDENS

1. Bearing one another’s burden.

2. No. Only the spiritually strong and mature.

3. a. Spiritual.
b. Carnal.

4. a. Spiritual: They live by the spirit and manifest the fruit of the spirit in their lives.
b. Carnal: They manifest in their lives envying, strife, divisions, and walk as men of
the world.

5. a. Gentle.

b. Compassionate.

c. Kind.

d. Patient.

6. a. Deceptive.

b. Attractive.

8. Follow instructions.

9. a. Be spiritual.

b. Do with humility.

c. Do in caution.

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Lesson 6
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Submit To One Another
Ephesians 5:21

The words submit or submission are found often in the New Testament. In its most
general use, the word "submission" means to yield to another's admonition and advice - in other
words, to be obedient. The word "submission" describes the believer's attitude toward his Lord
and Master, Jesus Christ. It is also used to describe the relationship of one Christian with
another. We are to "submit to one another."
When Christ came into the world he brought into being a whole new approach to
relationships between people. In the pagan world of Jesus' day, there was no such thing as
mutual submission. Man basically operated out of selfish motives. The same is true today.
Obedience and submission become a means to a selfish end and brought forth equality.
In Christ all believers have the potential to “submit to one another in the fear of God”.
Even those who have positions of authority -- pastors, husbands, employers -- are to relate to
others with an attitude of submission.
This is what Christ demonstrated for us, when He, the Lord of the universe, became a
servant to all men. Read Philippians 2:6-7. Paul made it clear that all Christians are to follow
Christ's example. Study Philippians 2:3-8.
Study carefully the following scriptures that teach submission and obedience to others.
Note the variety of relationships in the context of each directive. Use these scriptures as criteria
for evaluating your own attitude toward other members of Christ's body.

I. Pastors to other members of the Church. See 1 Peter 5:2-3.

II. Church members to pastors. See 1 Timothy 5:17-20 & Hebrews 13:17.

III. Younger men to older men. 1 Peter 5:5-6.

IV. Husband to wife. See 1 Peter 3:7 & 1 Corinthians 7:3-4.

V. Wives to husbands. See Ephesians 5:22,24 & 1 Peter 3:1-4.

VI. Parents to children. Ephesians 6:4 & Colossians 3:21.

VII. Children to parents. Ephesians 6:1-3 & Colossians 3:20.

VIII. Masters (employers) to servants (employees).Study Ephesians 6:9 & Colossians


4:1.

IX. Slaves (employees) to masters (employers). Study Ephesians 6:5-8 & 1 Peter 2:18.

X. Christian to government officials. Read Romans 13:1, 5, 7 & 1 Peter 2:13-17.

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Lesson 6 (cont’d)

Answer the following questions:

1. In one word describe submission.

2. What new approach did Christ bring into the world in regards to relationships
between people?

3. What are the results of obedience and submission in all relationships?

4. Can we submit to one another?

5. Did Christ demonstrate submission?

6. Whose example of submission are we to follow?

7. As you can see the variety of relationships and study each, what main thought stands
out of why it is important to submit to one another?

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SUBMIT TO ONE ANOTHER

1. Obedience.

2. Obedience and Submission.

4. Yes.

5. Yes.

6. Christ.

7. List your own answer, the following is the pastor's thoughts:

We are to respect each others position and do all we can to live together realizing we are
all in the same condition needing God and one another. Unity, harmony, equality,
respect, peace and everything that is kind comes from a people that submits to one
another in the fear of God.

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Lesson 7
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ENCOURAGE AND EDIFY ONE ANOTHER
1 Thessalonians 5:11

Paul constantly did all he could to build up the body of Christ. But knowing he could
only do so much as an individual, his strategy was to get others to do the same. Study
Colossians 2:2 & 4:8.
God's design and plan is that every Christian be a functioning part of the church. See
Ephesians 4:15-16.
Paul's directive to the Thessalonians church is an appropriate exhortation with which to
conclude our study. They were told to “comfort themselves together and to edify one another”.
The word “comfort” means to console or to encourage. Coupled as it is with the word “edify”,
or to “build up”, it is used to describe functions that will help Christians to be built up in their
faith, and to help them build up one another in Christ.

I. THE PRIMARY MEANS FOR ENCOURAGING ONE ANOTHER.


Paul made it clear what constituted the primary means for mutual encouragement --
God's truth. Study Titus 1:9 & 1 Thessalonians 2:13.
In other words, the best way for us to comfort, or build up one another, is to skillfully
use the Word of God in our counseling. See 1 Thessalonians 4:13-18 as an example.
There is nothing so powerful, so significant, so reassuring as the Word of God. We are
not sharing human philosophy or temporal concepts and ideas that are limited to space and time.
See Matthew 24:35. This is why God's Word is to be the primary means Christians are to use to
“comfort one another” and to “edify one another”.

II. HOW WE CAN ENCOURAGE AND BUILD UP ONE ANOTHER.


We must first realize how important the Word of God is within the body of Christ.
Secondly, we must determine to learn what God’s word says. Thirdly, we must be ready to
share the Word with others who are in special need of encouragement. Read Hebrews 10:24-
25.
Christians in New Testament days met together for the church to function -- to mutually
encourage each other. See Colossians 3:16.
In conclusion, we must understand how important each of us are if the church is to
function the way it should. We should love one another, be of the same mind with one another,
admonish one another, serve one another, bear one another's burdens, submit to one another, and
encourage and edify one another.

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Lesson 7 (cont’d)

Answer the following questions:

1. What was Paul's strategy and why?


a.
b.

2. What is God's designs and plan for every Christian?

3. What does the words comfort and edify mean?


a. Comfort:

b. Edify:

4. What is the best way to encourage and build up one another?

5. There is nothing so ____________, so _____________, so ______________ as the


___________________ of God.

6. List the three ways we can encourage and build up one another?
a.

b.

c.

7. What was the function of the early New Testament Church?

8. Read the last paragraph -- can you really see now how important each of us are if the
church is to function the way it should.

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ENCOURAGE AND EDIFY ONE ANOTHER

1. a. To get others to build up the body of Christ.

b. He couldn't do it all by himself.

2. To be a functioning part of the church.

3. a. Comfort: To console or to encourage.

b. Edify: To build up.

4. By using the Word of God.

5. a. powerful.

b. significant.

c. reassuring.

d. Word.

6. a. Realize how important the Word of God is in building up one another in the Church.

b. Be determined to learn what God's Word says.

c. Be ready to share the Word with others in need of encouragement.

7. To mutually encourage and build up one another.

8. Read the paragraph indicated.

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