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Quips and Quotes
A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how
much you are loved by others.

“Love is what makes the world go round.” This lesson
addresses what is likely the most important and
powerful, albeit misunderstood and undefinable, of all
human emotions, love.

The Wizard of Oz
Lesson Objectives

Suggested Instructional





What is love?

What are the different types of love?

How is liking someone different than loving someone?

What influence does culture have on our notions of love?

Research study: Gender differences and love
o How do males and females define love? Are there different types of love?
How do you know if you are in love? Is there any validity to the saying,
“Love at first sight”? Does the meaning and type of love differ with age? Is
love universal?

Research/Construction: How is love represented in literature, poetry, art, sculpture
and music?

or computer-based presentation on love. o Create an anthology of definitions or quotes that define love. commitment.  Creative dance/music: Love o Create a dance to music that portrays the theme of love. passion).  Discussion: What does love mean? o Based on the passage from Corinthians (refer to Teacher Information) discuss what it means to love someone.  Research/Discussion: Love and the mass media o How are love. three-panel display. longterm marriage?  Discussion/Construction: Sternberg’s model of love o Using Sternberg’s triangular model of love (intimacy. intimacy and romance depicted or portrayed in the media? o What value messages are being communicated?  Discussion: Love and marriage o Do you need to love someone to have a successful. discuss how this model may account for all the varieties of love . Experiential o Create a poster. or portfolio of different portrayals of love. o Create an anthology.

(liking. Resources  Interactions : Strengths in Families: Accentuating the Positives  Interactions : Dear Pat. o Are there any aspects to Sternberg’s model that are inaccurate or incomplete? o Construct your own “Model of Love”.  Research: Making marriages last o On the basis of Schlesinger’s list of the ten most important criteria for a lasting marriage (See Interactions. to be in love? . o ○ Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time.  Discussion: Quotations o The way to love anything is to realize that it might be lost (G. romantic. Chesterton). Strengths in Families). infatuation and companionate).2: Teacher Information What does it mean. “Lovestruck in Lucky Lake” Lesson 4. for that’s the stuff life is made of (Benjamin Franklin).3. interview or survey married couples to compare their comments and feedback. K.

the emotional arousal and physical drives in the love relationship.. represented as points on a triangle. including communication. How is liking someone different than loving someone? . but also the commitment to maintain that loving relationship (Alcock et al. passion and decision/commitment:  Liking involves intimacy in the absence of passion or decision/commitment. brother or sister. bondedness and warmth toward the other. or liking with the addition of physical arousal and attraction. in this sense. passion. How can we conceptualize love as a state? Sternberg (1986) has proposed a triangular model of love representing the varieties of love. has subsided (Adler et al. at least in the physical sense. and a desire to care for the loved one 2. While physical attraction and sexuality may be prominent. liking does not include feelings towards casual acquaintances. All love experiences consist of three components. such as when the passionate love of the honeymoon becomes companionate love. which represents not only the decision to love someone. These components are: 1. the closeness or bond between the two people. love can evolve or change over time. friend.Love can assume many forms and varieties. or country. 221). such as the love of one's mate. 2001.  Companionate love involves intimacy and decision/commitment in which the passion. p. What are the different types of love? Varieties of love experiences can be described in terms of the relative importance of the three components of intimacy. p. nurturance and dominance may also contribute to the experience of passion 3. self-disclosure. 1998. especially in the early phases of the relationship. child. other intense feelings such as need for self-esteem. Further. parent or grandparent.  Romantic love derives from a combination of intimacy and passion without commitment. intimacy. but refers to friendships in which one feels closeness.. 222).  Infatuation consists of passion without intimacy or decision/commitment. decision/commitment.

Goodwin (1995) argues that love. the relationship between love and marriage is the other way around. whereas romantic love is influenced more by what we anticipate in the future. by contrast. and marriage is seen as the basis on which to explore a loving relationship. Berscheid (1985) suggests several ways in which liking and loving differ:  Liking is relatively stable over time. . whereas romantic love tends to be more fragile and volatile. is largely a Western and individualistic phenomenon and that in Western cultures.What seems clear is that loving is not simply an extreme form of liking. Individualism places greater emphasis on personal achievement and self-reliance.  Liking is influenced in a logical way by rewards (we like people more who reward us more). places priority on the welfare and unity of the group. 223). at least in its passionate stomach churning Hollywood manifestation. p. marriage is seen as the culmination of a loving relationship. p. What influence does culture have on our notions of love? One of the main dimensions on which cultures differ is individualism-collectivism. Collectivism. In cultures where arranged marriages occur. The cultural background in which people have learned about love is important in shaping their concept of it (Gross and McIlveen. whereas romantic love is often unrelated or even intensified by frustration or rejection (Alcock et al. In reviewing the research. 1998. 485). 1998.  Liking is strongly influenced by the actual exchange of rewards..