Marriage and Family Enhancement
Volume 1, Issue 2 January—March 2010

Special points of interest:
 Husbands Love Your Wives  Wives Respect Your Husbands  Appropriate Discipline For Your Children  Recognizing the Enemy  Exercising Your Authority in Prayer  Husbands as Leaders

Husbands Love Your Wives
Husbands, have you ever found it difficult to love your wife? There will be times that her behavior may seem to make it impossible. The good news is that you have it within you to love her exceedingly. Just as Christ sacrificed his life for the church and poured His love into the church, he expects you to sacrificially love your wife. Jesus continuously nourishes, protects and provides for the church and He has laid out this wonderful example for you. Just as you protect yourself, feeds yourself, pampers yourself, you are to do the same for your wife. Pamper her, know what her needs, desires, goals and aspirations are in life. See that she is esteemed by you. When she has done all she can to dress beautiful, she needs to know from your own mouth that she is beautiful. She needs to know and see that she comes first , not your mother or some other woman. Now that you are joined as one, she is to take precedence before all relationships except God. Develop a close and intimate relationship with the Lord, so that you can also have a close, intimate relationship with your wife. Don’t allow her to be disillusioned and discouraged by your lack of openness and intimacy. Learn what really makes her happy. Find out what areas that need healing in her life so that she can experience complete healing in her soul. Experiencing healing in one’s personality will release a peace within your marriage and family. Encourage her, as my husband did, to attend Christian retreats so she can experience an encounter with God. Provide for her financially, she needs more than just groceries in the house. Allow her to have an allowance for shopping.

Inside this issue:

Appropriate Discipline For Your Children Recognizing the Enemy Exercising Your Authority in Prayer Husbands, You are the Leader Wives, Gentle and Quiet Spirit She Builds Her House Standing Strong Against Attacks


Nothing gives a woman more joy than to have monies for more than just necessities. Get rid of the little foxes that spoil the vine; resentment, anger and malice. Nothing will hinder your prayers more than holding on to unforgiveness. Remember to be tender, affectionate with her throughout the day. Let her know that you love her verbally and with actions.
So, again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33




Wives Respect Your Husbands
Wives, have you ever found it difficult to respect your husband? Or have you made it a practice to disrespect your spouse? As the Apostle Paul have admonished wives to respect their husbands, it is not a requirement that’s difficult to carry out. There is nothing more that shrivels and despairs the spirit of a man than disrespect by his wife. Paul somehow knew this would be a problem with wives. It started in the garden of Eve. Eve decided to disrespect God and her husband by taking control to make her own decisions. Choose today to honor your husband, allow him to be the head of the household, praise him, esteem him, venerate and defer to him. This does not mean that you are inferior or to become a doormat. It does not mean that you do not have leadership ability. We are called to be a helpmate to our husbands. Assist him and give your opinions when needed. Be exemplary in being that meek and quiet person; a woman of godliness and excellence.




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Appropriate Discipline For Your Children
As a parent you desire to see your children grow and mature; becoming a responsible individual. Discipline is a part of loving your children. It is not responding in vehement anger and rage to correct your child. Parents must set guidelines and standards for their children to follow and inform their children of the consequences for disobedience. Parents must be firm and consistent to exercise discipline when children disobey. We are to discipline out of love and patience. “Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.” Romans 12:19. Character assassination, degrading your children will only release fear, deepseated anger and bitterness against you. “For rules to be effective, they must be defensible, definable and enforceable.”(Anderson). Parents build your children up by praising and affirming them for the those things that are truly worthy of praise. Let them know verbally that you love them, hug them and kiss them on their cheek. There is nothing like the warm embrace of a parent reassuring that child that he/she is very important and special. “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.” Eph 6:4

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise” Ephesians 6:1,2

“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of darkness of this world”

Recognizing the Enemy
Husbands and wives must recognize that your spouse is not your enemy. Although, Satan would rather you think that your spouse is the enemy. Dispel this lie. If there is an area in your heart that you have not submitted to Christ through repentance and renunciation, Satan can have open access to use and control your behavior. For example, sins of the flesh, unresolved anger, jealousy, hatred. These sins grants the enemy to work dysfunction within the relationship for the purpose of destroying families. Just as God spoke to Cain about his sin of anger, he refused to master the sin. “Why are you so angry?” the Lord asked Cain. “Why do you look so dejected? You will be accepted if you do what is right. But if you refuse to do what is right, then watch out! Sin is crouching at the door, eager to control you. But you must subdue it and be its master.” God has given us power to master sin and not allow Satan to use us for his advantage. “Look! I have given you the authority to trample on snakes and scorpions to destroy all the enemy’s power, and nothing will ever hurt you.” Luke 10:19. We are not left helpless and defenseless. Recognize that the enemy is here to kill, steal and destroy. Be alert and prayerful!

Exercising Your Authority in Prayer
There is nothing more important than exercising the power of prayer in the home. It is essential that husband and wives spend quality time in devotion. Spend time with your spouse in the Word of God and prayer. Wives if your spouse do not take interest in prayer, you must purpose in your heart to spend time with God in prayer and the Word. Cultivate your relationship with the Lord. Ask Him to open your understanding to prayer, reading and meditating in the Word. The Lord will be faithful to honor your desire to draw close to Him. Our relationship with the Lord is to be close and intimate, but this doesn’t happen by being indifferent and complacent. You must put forth effort by loving the Word, praying and seeking God. Prayer releases a refreshing peace over your soul. It grants you the ability to fully rely and trust God. It removes the hindering work of the enemy from your life and family. Providing a shield and protection over your family. I can testify that God is so faithful to watch over His Word to perform it. I have interceded and prayed for many that God have miraculous provided healing and deliverance. So great is His faithfulness! “One day Jesus told his disciples a story to show that they should always pray and never give up.” (Luke 18:1).

“Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit”.. Ephesians 6:18

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Husbands, You Are the Leader
Husbands you were designated and ordained by God as the leader in your marriage. This is your responsibility in your family. Don’t shrink back on your responsibilities or become a dictator. Lovingly and sacrificially take on your role as a leader in the home. Walk with wisdom and know what it means to be a leader in your family. Just as you train for a skill or profession to be knowledgeable and effective on your job be willing to be trained to be the best leader, husband and Dad in your home. This means being teachable. Submit to godly counseling, attend marriage enrichment seminars, above all read the Word of God and ask Him to enlighten you on your responsibilities as a leader. Take your wife on a weekend marriage retreat and lavish all your attention on her. As a leader of your home, recognize you can’t meet every need of your wife. There are needs that only the Lord Jesus can meet in a individual’s life. Recognizing that you are not perfect and she is not perfect can move out the potential for stress and disappointment in the marriage. There is not a formula for being the leader; but with Christ you can do all things through Him as He gives you strength. Be responsible with the finances in the home by being the godly steward that God has called you to be. Good stewardship with finances and other areas makes a reflection on your relationship with the Lord Jesus. Choose to love the Lord exceedingly and this love will pour into your leadership ability.

...I will lead them in paths that they have not known: I will make darkness light before them, and crooked things straight. Isaiah 42:16

Wives, Gentle and Quiet Spirit
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparelrather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” (I Peter 1-4) I thought that it was odd, that when I started holding Bible studies with women, how that women could just ramble on and on with excessive talking. Can you imagine a spouse being disillusioned by continuous nagging and excessive talkativeness by his wife? Whenever I start talking and it gets to be a bit much, the Holy Spirit reminds me, now you need to be quiet and mindful of your words. Ladies, our beauty and adornment is not about how gorgeous and beautiful we look on the outside, but it is about the inner man. A beautiful spirit on the inside, because we have submitted to the Lord in obedience. We have cultivated our heart in the Word and prayer. Therefore, when we are with our spouse, this beautiful spirit comes forth. This is how we win our unsaved husband to the Lord. It is not by nagging, preaching and leaving scriptures; we must honor God.

“Let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit”

She Builds Her House
“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” Proverbs 14:1 I’ve seen many examples of a woman destroying her marriage. For example, confiding confidential information of your marriage to someone that does not have your best interest at heart. So called “friends” that are just pushing you to dissolve your marriage are not true friends. For God says, he hates divorce, but yet this has been your focus through ungodly advice. Gossiping about your husband; speaking slanderous and malicious ways about him to others, this is a sure way to destroy your marriage and home. A wife that fails to be submitted to the precepts of the Lord and rebels against his ways are headed for destruction. Dealing with the root issues of bitterness can open the door for healing and restoration in one’s marriage. Trying to hold on to one’s rights will only continue a cycle of dysfunction within the marriage. We must let go of pride and humble ourselves. Ladies begin with shielding and protecting your marriage by submitting to the precepts of God. Ask the Lord to set a guard before your mouth and keep the door of your lips. Do as David did, ask God to create in you a clean heart and a right spirit.

Those who follow the right path fear the Lord; those who take the wrong path despise him. Proverbs 14:2


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Standing Strong Against Attacks
“A final word: Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil. For we are not fighting against flesh-andblood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.” Ephesians 6:10-12. Husbands and wives must recognize that marriage is a Godordained relationship and once entered into by covenant vows, Satan is on the war path to destroy what God has ordained, whether you are a believer or non-believer. We must be proactive. Take an offensive and defensive approach to protect your marriage against the spiritual attacks of Satan. Now, no one Word of God, having a teachable heart, asking God for wisdom in your circumstances. Asking God to reveal to you what tactics Satan are using in your marriage to bring about disharmony and destruction. Some of these tactics may be obvious, some will be subtle. We are not to give place to the enemy by anger, control, manipulation, complacency, jealousy. There are many sins of the flesh that I have not listed, but we as believers need to be submitted to God. “Submit to God, resist the enemy and he will flee.” Stand strong against the attacks of the enemy by obedience to God, prayer, exercising your God-given authority. Know what tactics are taking place and rebuke the presence of evil forces in your home.

goes to war without knowing who his enemy is and what tactics and schemes are being used against him. That means husbands and wives are to
“Hold up the shield of faith to stop the fiery arrows of the devil.” Ephesians 6:16


become knowledgeable about their enemy, Satan. It is done through spending time in the

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