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Assalamualaikum everyone. In sha Allah today we will talk about Eriksons

Stages of personality. Erikson develop the stages of personality to determine the
characteristic of a person based on how he did in each stage of life. It consist of
8 stages which is trust vs mistrust that happens from birth to 1 years old until
Integrity vs Despair that happens from age 65 to death.
Lets begin with the first stage, Trust vs Mistrust.
Trust vs Mistrust
Just now you can see that Salwa, the kid goes to her mom instead of her
After birth, baby will ask themselves Whoss gonna take care of me?, Whos
gonna feed me?.
According to Erikson, kid at this stage need for a constant care, love and
affection from the primary caretaker. It could be mom, dad, or anybody. Lets say
tonight in the middle of the night, your baby cry. Then you come to him and feed
him. On the next day, ur baby cry again. And u still feed him. This is constant
care. But on the next day, ur baby cry and u dont care. And then he stop. And
then he cry again. This time u feed him. After several hours he cries again n u
dont feed him. Now, this is called as unpredictable care. Kids will develop a
sense of trust in others if he gets a constant care. What will happen if the
caretaker is unpredictable? In the future the kid will develop a sense of mistrust
in other people.
Lets go to the second stage, autonomy vs shame and doubt.
Autonomy vs Shame and Doubt
In this scene u can see how the mother encourage one daughter to do things and
stopping another daughter from doing things
How much of the world can I control?, this is the question kid at this age will
ask themselves.
According to Erikson, kid at this age need to develop a sense of personal control
over physical skills and a sense of independence. Such as toilet training. Parents
should give their kid some times to do things on their own. Yes it is tiring waiting
for ur kid to wear cloth by himself. But that kind of training will make him feel he
can do things independently. Success in this will leads to a sense of autonomy,
the feeling of confidence to survive in the future. But failure in this will make
develop a snese of shame and doubt on himself. He will doubt himself whenever
he wants to do anything
Initiative vs Guilt
From the scene just now u can see two girls trying to copy the block of robots.
Salwa able to do it and she tries to build another thing. But Salma wasnt able to
do it. So he just give up.

Kid in this stage will ask themselves Can I be like them?

Erikson stated that kids in this age need to begin asserting control and power
over the environment. They will try to imitate what adults do. Like the scene
earlier, the kids want to imitate the work of her mother, the robot. One can do it
while the other one cannot do it. Success in imitating will leads the kid to find
purpose or goal. Just like Salwa who tries to make new block because she
succeed. Failure in this will leads to no initiative to pursue goal. Just like Salma
who just give up after she failed to build robot
Industry vs Inferiority
Just now u saw how excited Asha was when she got A in exams while Iqra was so
depressed because she only got C
Kids will ask themselves, Who is better? You or me?
Erikson said that in this stage, kids need to cope with new social and academic
demands. They will compare themselves with others. They want to be the best.
When the kid succeed many times, he will develop a sense of competence, want
to be better and better and the best. On the other hand, if the kid failed many
times, he will develop a sense of inferiority, feels he is nothing compared to the
Identity vs Role Confusion
What happen here is that Faiz is confused with his identity. He mingle with girls
more than man. And he acts like a girl, talking about shawl and girly stuff.
Who am I?. Teens will ask themselves that question
Based on Eriksons theory, teens need to develop a sense of self and personal
identity. In this stage, teens will try to do many things to find who is he? What he
want to be? Teens who Succeed in finding identity will leads to an ability to stay
true to himself, stand firm in what he believes. And failure in finding identity will
leads to role confusion and a weak sense of self, easy to be manipulated
Intimacy vs Isolation
In the first scene, Asha was depressed with her carry mark. But she got friends to
comfort her when shes down. Iqra on the other hand also depressed. But she
doesnt have friends to comfort her. So she dies alone with all the depression
Young adults, like us will ask ourselves, Whos gonna comfort me when Im
According to Erikson, young adults need to form intimate, loving relationship with
others. It can be friends, lover and spouse. Intimate relationship could also mean
hugging, holding hands and playing together. Its not necessarily sex. Young
adults who succeed in forming relationship will develop feelings like caring and
empathy towards others. But for those who failed to form one, they will fall into a
dark hole of loneliness, isolate themselves from other people
Generativity vs Stagnation

In the first scene, u can see the students love Professor Aiman because he cares
about his students. Professor Aiman on the other hand was hated by the
students because he doesnt really care about them. What he cares is his salary.
Thats it
Adults will ask themselves, How can I make this world a better place?
Erikson stated that adults need to create or nurture things that will surpass
them. They need to create positive changes that benefit others. Just like Kakashi
who trained Naruto to surpass his father, the Fourth Hokage. Or like the father of
Sultan Muhammad Al-Fateh who sent him to many teachers to be better than
him. And both of did. They change the world into a better place. Those who
succeeds will feel that he is useful and has accomplish something big in his life.
But those who fail to do it will not care about the world. What matter is his
personal life.
Integrity vs Despair
Grandpa Aiman in this scene is happy with his life because he accomplish his
goals in life. But Grandma Hilwa is disappointed and full of regret because she
did not meet her life goals
Grandparents gonna ask themselves,How much have I contributed?
Erikson said that older adults need to look back on life and feel a sense of
fulfilment. Those grandpa who complete their goals in life will live peacefully
without any regret. And they are ready to die. But for those grandpa who feels
like they fail to reach their goals will live in despair and regret. They are afraid to