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Smart Approaching Techniques

Smart Approaching Techniques


Strategies and tips for approaching women
during the day and night.

Smart Approaching Techniques

2012 Maverick Traveler


http://www.mavericktraveler.com

Smart Approaching Techniques


I came, I saw, I conquered.
- Julius Caesar
I came, I saw, I approached.
- Maverick Traveler

Unless you already know (or can get introduced to) the girl via a social
circle (e.g., friends, job, church, etc), youll have no other choice but to come
up to complete strangers and talk to them.
A cold approach is the purest way of meeting a girl. Purest in the sense
that you do not need to know anyone else in order to get to her. The only
thing you need is the desire to meet new women and the right techniques to
get there.
The objective of this guide is to help you approach women in the wild:
streets, parks, coffee shops, malls, planes, bars and clubs.

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Strategy
Direct vs. Indirect
Approaching typically falls into two general categories: direct and indirect.
A direct approach is when you come up to a girl and start the conversation
in a way so she knows right away that youre interested in her.
You might, for example, come up to a girl and tell her that she looks
beautiful, ask her if shes single, then ask her whether shes available for
dinner, drinks, or sex.
An indirect approach is when you come up to a girl and start the
conversation in a way thats not easily obvious youre interested in her.
You might, for example, ask her for directions to a nearby landmark,
whether she knows what time supermarkets close, or whether she can give
directions to some destination.
Most of the time youll be using an indirect approach. The reason for that
is because an indirect approach gives the girl more time before she forms an
opinion about you. Whereas a direct approach forces her to make up her
mind within seconds (mostly on your physical appearance), an indirect
approach lets you build up a connection with the girl before you move
deeper in the seduction phase.
During daytime you want to use mostly indirect approaches, but in
nighttime youll be using a mix of direct and indirect approaches.

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Daytime vs. Nighttime
Approaching is also very different depending on the time of day.
During daytime the girls are doing normal things: walking, running
errands, relaxing, reading, etc. Theyre not expecting to strike up
conversations with complete strangers, so their state of mind is very different.
Since the girls are not looking to be hit on, use indirect openers to get her
attention, and move on from there.
During night time, the girls dress up, put on make up, and go out to a
venue like a bar or a club to dance, drink, meet new people and have sex.
Since the girls that are going out knowing that theyll be hit on, its OK to
be more direct.

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Anatomy of a Perfect Opener


The Opener
The opener is what you say to the girl to get her attention; its the first
sentence to comes out of your mouth. Since you only have one chance to
make a first impression, the opener needs to be short and effective.
En effective opener will serve the following two purposes:

Get her attention


Bait her to ask you a question(s)

Your job is to open your mouth, blurt out something interesting, and then
hope that she finds you, combined with what you said, interesting enough to
ask a followup question or two.
The bait is an indirect way of hooking the girl so that she can easily
followup with a question to you. Same way that you use bait on a hook
when you go fishing, an effective opener baits the girls interest and continue
the conversation.
Keep the opener simple; the easier the bait, the easier it will be for a girl to
respond to your opener.
Once youve delivered the opener, try to segue into a normal conversation.
Ask open-ended questions avoid yes or no questions at all costs.

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Daytime Approaching

Street
Strategy
Street approaches are the bread and butter of any cold approach.
First, approach only if the girl is slowly walking somewhere or is stopped.
Remember the basic rule from physics: an object in motion tends to stay in
motion.
Girls that are walking somewhere fast will be harder to stop, than girls that
are walking slowly or have completely stopped.
The best is to come up from the side, but if that isnt possible, come up
from the front.
Never approach directly from behind.
Examples
General Inquires
Do you know a good coffee shop around here? One with great coffee?
Do you know a good local restaurant with local food?
Do you know a bar thats open late?
Do you know wheres the train station?
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How do I get to the beach?

Situational
Be a bit more clever and creative.
How is she dressed? Is she carrying some popular designer bag? Does she
look like shes a local?
I like your [sunglasses/bag/etc], do you know where I can buy them?
Thats a cute dog, what kind is it?
Is this the way to the train/metro station?
Follow up: No, why do people keep telling me otherwise. Am I that
gullible?
Is there a restaurant called [some name] around here?
Follow up: This city is one of the most confusing Ive ever been to.
It this towards [some neighborhood]?
Follow up: youre the 4th person Ive asked this today

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Coffee Shops
Strategy
Coffee shops are synonymous with relaxed atmosphere and are ideal for
approaching.
The key is to sit yourself next, or close to the girl.
Either make a comment about an environment (e.g., weather, another
person, etc.), about one of her possessions (e.g., laptop, book shes reading,
etc).
Examples
The language student
Bring a foreign language book to the coffee shop, and pretend youre
studying her language. All of a sudden act really confused because you
misunderstood something (pronunciation, grammar rule, etc). Suddenly you
find a girl sitting next you whom you can ask question.
Excuse me, do you know how to pronounce ?
Excuse me, these words seem very similar, do you know a difference?
You guys have a difficult language, sort of similar to my own.
The dramatic call
Call a friend, or just fake a call. Speak in English (or another language) for
a little bit, then abruptly hang up displaying some emotion (e.g., anger,
disappointment, happiness). Look over to the girl next to you and share your
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feeling with her.
Crazy news
Man, my sister just got engaged!
I cant believe it! My boss wants me back home tomorrow.

The closing time


Do you know when this place closes?
Why do places close so early here?
Wow, I cant believe they close so early. In my country coffee shops stay
all night.

The sudden rain


Wow, I didnt expect it to rain so hard in this country.
You can add the following baits:
My friend told me it never rains here.
And I thought the weather is similar to where I come from.

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Book Stores/Libraries
Strategy
Book stores and libraries are great for approaching because people are
browsing for information which you can use as a springboard for your
opener.
Examples
At the bookshelves
This book is very interesting. Have you read it?
Are you going to travel to [some country shes planning to travel]
I wonder if this book is any good
For some reason I always keep coming back to this section.
Why is it every time I come back, they have more and more [or less and
less] books here?

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Parks
Strategy
Approaching in parks is great because the girl demonstrated that shes not
in a rush to get somewhere, and would be more open to talking to a stranger.
Bring a book or some reading material even if you dont have any
intention of reading.
Walk around the park, and find a bench next to a cutie.
Dont ask her something right away.
Wait five or ten minutes.
Examples
The weather
What a beautiful day, I didnt think they have such nice days in [current
place]
Is it always sunny/cloudy/rainy here?
They said its going to rain, but all I see is sun and blue skies.

Her book
Sounds like an interesting book.
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Thats my favorite book of all time.


Hey, is that book/magazine any good?
Wow, thats a big book.

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Malls
Strategy
Malls are great for approaching because theyre a target-rich environment
with many opportunities.
Your approach ideas range from asking information about a particular
store to flirting with store assistants.
Examples
Excuse me, do you know where I can buy sports clothes? I want to buy
some Adidas pants so I can look cool.
Where I can find [store that doesnt yet exist in the city].
Where can I find a flower store?
Where can I find some local food here?
Once youre done with this, you can follow with regular street openers.

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Bus stops
Strategy
Bus stops are great for approaching because you can ask for directions and
then continue into topics related to the current place.
Carry a map with you so you can ask for information on the spot.
Since shes not going anywhere, you can approach casually by slowly
walking up to the time table, studying it, then looking at your map. Then you
can ask her a question.
Examples
Excuse me, does this bus go to point A? If not how do I get there?
Do you know how to get to here (pointing on your map)?
How late to the buses run until?
Seems like buses dont run often, should I just take a taxi?
How much does the bus cost?
Does the driver accept cash or coins, or only some card?

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Nighttime Approaching

Bars
Strategy
Bars make an ideal environment for approaching because theyre social
arenas meant to gather not previously known individual together, and with
the help of alcohol help them mate.
Examples
At the bar
You look/dont look like you speak English.
You seem/dont seem to be from around here.
You look/dont look [some nationality].
After she answers in English:
Oh, your English is really good. Where did you learn it?
Were you just speaking [some language] to your friend?

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Clubs
Strategy
Clubs are like bars on steroids. Theyre the modern day equivalent of
animal leks, areas specifically created for human beings, to go, drink,
stimulate sexual acts (dance), and eventually make further arrangements to
perform those acts (pickup and have sex).
Using aggressive indirect approaching or direct approaching.
Examples
At the line to the club
Seems like the whole town is here, is it always this busy?
Seems like no one showed up.
At the bar
What kind of drink is that?
You look like you speak English?
You dont look like you speak English.

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Other Approaching

Long distance journeys


Strategy
Approaching a person sitting next to you (or across from you) on planes/
buses/trains is an ideal situation. The good news is that shes stuck being next
to you for the duration of the flight, and therefore cannot go anywhere.
Assuming shes not a complete social recluse or a bitch, a very high
percentage of these approaches will be successful.
Examples
Place A = The place youre leaving from.
Place B = The place youre going to.
So, business or pleasure?
Do you live in place A or place B?
You dont look [nationality of place A] or [nationality of place B]
Good to finally be on a short flight after the crazy flight a week ago.
Going to be fun sitting in a plane for X hours.

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If approaching was easy, then youd see everyone talking to everyone else
on the streets.
While it can be challenging at first, with proper methods, practice, and a
little bit of luck, youd wonder why youve never done it before.
Happy approaching.
Also, dont forget to visit www.mavericktraveler.com for more tips on
approaching, meeting and seducing women from all over the world.

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