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By Janelle Webster
Janelle Webster Kate Call
The experiences I had while at BYU have enriched my marriage, my church and community service, and my home.
After a few years of blankly staring at the box marked OCCUPATION on IRS forms, bank forms, or birth certificates, I finally feel comfortable writing Homemaker on any form placed in front of me. I found it perplexing to try and find a suitable one-word description to write on a line when I had so many interests and opportunities fighting for my attention. After graduating from the Marriott School of Management I worked as a bonds broker. Then I became a math tutor and managed a chain of tutoring centers. Just prior to starting my family I was a “Mad Scientist” and gave science demonstration assemblies all over the San Francisco Bay Area. I was and continue to be co-owner of a successful electrical sign company with my husband Alex. Six years ago, my love for real estate investment prompted me to pursue a Real Estate Broker’s license. After two years of marriage I became a full time mother. What one word could capture in a meaningful way all of the skills I’ve gleaned from these great experiences? In the small moments of introspection I had while mulling over what to write on the OCCUPATION line on those hosts of forms, I often found myself pondering, “Who am I? What will I become?” I discovered that there was one
Occupation: Homemaker Cont. on pg. 2
Living Against the Grain Kimi’s Nutrition Tips
Kimi Sycamore Anna Packard
Beating the Blues N.E.D.A.W.
Genevieve Busch Bev McCrostie
Women and Careers Check out our blog at byuwsr.blogspot.com
BYU Women’s Services and Resources, located in 3326 WSC, is an organization aimed at helping women recognize their self-worth and full potential. We offer counseling, workshops, lecture series, and seminars about current women’s issues. We invite you to be active and to get involved. Our office is open Monday through Friday 8 a.m. to 5 p.m.
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Occupation: Homemaker Cont. from pg. 1
place where all of my talents and roles flourished: at home. Being a homemaker has challenged and improved all of the skills I acquired in my educational and vocational years and encouraged even more. With the help of my Finance degree from the Marriott School of Management, I have budgeted and invested my family into a measure of financial freedom. I have found unlimited uses for my science performance and teaching skills at home, at church and at my daughters’ schools. I have been able save my family considerable amounts of money by representing myself in real estate transactions. But it is my management skills that have proved most valuable, as they have made me a better communicator, organizer, peacekeeper and nurturer in my home. I have also developed talents I never knew existed while at home like writing, home decoration, home renovation, and patience. I am currently an administrator for the member missionary website mormonwoman.org. Many of my management, marketing and presentation skills have been helpful to the development of the site. Without the support of my husband and my full-hearted acceptance of the role of homemaker, I would never have had the time to devote my heart to such a spiritually satisfying project. I feel compelled to note that I didn’t come to full time homemaking naturally. During my first years home I found myself spending a lot of time on the computer creating home based businesses like
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an eBay store selling antique glassware and hosting furniture estate sales via craigslist. The extra money was nice, but I knew we were already living within our means. It wasn’t until I found my toddler dismantling my laptop and deliberately hiding the keys that I got the clue that my priorities were mismanaged. I stopped hosting my Internet businesses and started hosting pre-school and singing time for my toddler instead. There were other aspects of homemaking that did not come naturally. For a while I indulged these weaknesses and told myself, “So I’m not a gourmet cook and my house isn’t always perfectly clean. No biggie.” Years later, instigated by a friend’s critical comment on my homemaking skills, I decided to pour myself into creating a better home environment. I learned to follow a housekeeping schedule I found on the Internet and I asked my friends to teach me how to cook. There was a great deal more peace in our home after making these improvements, but I also felt smart! I found that I could learn new things, even if I didn’t have a natural inclination toward them. There are many more aspects of homemaking I need to master, but these precious experiences in the first years of my marriage taught me a lot about lifelong learning at home. I no longer think of the words “ambitious” and “homemaker” as antonyms. I feel ambitious every time I work on my food storage project. I
feel ambitious every time we choose to bring another child into our family. I feel ambitious every time I write something that my testimony is seared upon for the member missionary site I volunteer for. I graduated from BYU in 1998 but my education didn’t stop there. I have been learning and implementing new skills every day since I left the Marriott Center wearing a blue cap and gown. I never felt that my degree was something to fall back on “just in case.” Instead, the experiences I had while at BYU have enriched my marriage, my church and community service and my home. I never felt that my degree was something to fall back on “just in case.” Instead, the experiences I had while at BYU have enriched my marriage, my church and community service and my home.
“Without the support of my husband and my fullhearted acceptance of the role of homemaker, I would never have had the time to devote my heart to such a spiritually satisfying project.”
There is one experience I mark as my most successful moment to date. At the Salt Lake Temple Visitor’s Center there is a wall covered in murals that highlight significant events in the life of Jesus Christ. While visiting the Temple with my children, I was able to walk that wall with my oldest daughter Elizabeth, who was six at the time. Elizabeth stopped at each picture and related the events of the Savior’s life to me from memory. At the end of the long line of murals, Elizabeth looked up at me and asked, “Why are you crying mom?” Too overwhelmed to respond, I hugged her with all the energy of my being and was gratified by the feeling that motherhood and homemaking were the best career choices I ever made.
Local Restaurants with Gluten-free Options
Five Guys Burgers and Fries: Let them know you can’t have wheat and ask them to change their gloves. Their fry vats are only used for french fries and the seasoning salt is McCormick. (Allergy note: they use peanut oil and have peanuts available for snacking). Biaggi’s Italian Ristorante at the Gateway: They have a huge GF menu including pastas, pizza, salads and desserts. It’s a great place to go for a nice date or meal. Zupa’s Soups and Salads: Ask for their allergy information. “Nuts about Berries” and the Mango Salad are GF and so is the tomato soup. Make sure to tell them you don’t want noodles added and that you don’t want the bread. PF Changs Chinese Restaurant at University Mall: They have a GF menu and a good GF dessert. A waiter told me that GF food is brought out on the round plates with PF Changs printed on the edge of the plate. Don’t eat it if it comes out on another plate. Wait until you can talk with your waiter.
You just found out you have Celiac Disease: Don’t worry. There is hope and you are not alone By Kate Call
Do you know someone who eats a gluten free diet? If not, chances are you will in the future. Eating gluten free has become not only the newest health diet but the only way 1 percent of our population can live, that is 1 out of 133 people or about 330 students on campus. What is gluten and why do people have to live without it? Gluten is a protein found in wheat, barley, and rye. This protein is a binding agent that causes flour to become sticky when wet. So what’s the big deal about gluten? For those suffering from the autoimmune disease, celiac, it makes all the difference in the world. When a person has celiac disease, gluten in food triggers an immune response and their body begins to attack itself, damaging the small intestine and causing an inability to absorb nutrients from food. Essentially, they are starving while eating. You can imagine the sort of problems that can be caused by such a disease. Symptoms range from chronic diarrhea and constipation to migraines or even infertility. Not to mention feeling ill every time you eat. Luckily, when a person suffering from celiac disease or gluten intolerance cuts gluten completely out of their diet, the body heals and symptoms, most often completely go away. How do I deal with this diagnosis? As a woman living gluten free, I understand the frustration, embarrassment, and even anger that a person feels when they first learn they have to change their lifestyle permanently. You go through a period of mourning and want to cry just thinking about going grocery shopping. You worry about what you can’t eat and everything feels extremely overwhelming. Not to mention that food is a part of every social event, date, and activity you attend. This alone is enough to make someone want to turn and run. There is hope and you are not alone. Here are a few simple steps that will help you get on the right path.
4 Tips to help you deal with Celiac Disease:
1. Write down all of the foods you can eat. Include fruits, vegetables, meats, cheeses, milk products. Be specific. It is good to see all the individual foods you enjoy that are gluten free. 2. Research, research, research! There are many good resources, forums, blogs, and web pages with recipes, product reviews, and support groups. Celiac.com and celiac.org are two great resources to start with. 3. Start out simple. Don’t go to the store and buy a ton of gluten free mixes and breads without researching them. Processed gluten free foods are more expensive and sometimes are not very tasty. Start out by purchasing things you are used to that are gluten free. 4. Contact the local GIG aka Gluten Intolerance Group. They will be happy to help you adjust to your new lifestyle and will offer support and ideas. Need to talk about eating gluten free? Appointments and classes are available in the Women’s Services & Resources office 3326 WSC.
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Tips for debunking unhealthy myths
By Kimi Sycamore Photo by Brooke Beecher
Microwaves zap all the nutrients out of vegetables.
Sugar causes diabetes
All fats are bad
Microwaving is one of the easiest ways to prepare vegetables. Whenever we cook vegetables there will always be some loss of water soluble nutrients, like B vitamins and vitamin C, because these nutrients are sensitive to heat. However, you can still get nutrients by cooking them in as little water as possible and for as short of time possible. Many nutrients dissolve in water and then drain out, which is why steaming is the best way to cook vegetables because they don’t come in direct contact with water; but microwaving is still a great way to cook vegetables.
Diabetics do need to watch their sugar and carbohydrate intake to properly manage blood sugar levels. However, if you do not have diabetes, sugar intake will not cause you to develop the disease. Sedentary lifestyle, overweight, and consumption of high calorie foods are the main risk factors for Type 2 diabetes.
What are some safe, not-too-sweet snacks?
Fruit • Apple slices with peanut butter • Oranges • Fruit smoothies made with plain yogurt • Pineapple with low-fat cottage cheese Other Ideas • Hummus with a wheat pita • Baby carrots • Air popped popcorn • Almonds • Pretzels • String Cheese
Fats: we all need them. Fats help us absorb nutrients, and they make up 50% of our cell membranes. However, when consumed in excessive amounts, fats contribute to weight gain, heart disease and certain types of cancers. The key is to replace the bad fats (saturated and trans fats) with the good fats (monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats). The good fats help promote good health and are necessary in our diet, in small amounts.
What kind of fats should I be eating?
Monounsaturared Fat • Canola oil • Nuts • Avocados Polyunsaturated Fats • Seafood like salmon and tuna • Corn Oil • Soybean Oil
What are some tasty microwaved veggies?
Greens • Broccoli • Green beans • Soy beans Other Vegetables • Sweet potato • Cauliflower
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It’s not eating late that t is bad. It’s the food thaht we often eat late at nig that isn’t so healthy.
Skipping meals is a great way to lose weight.
Red meat is bad for your health
You shouldn’t eat late at night
Many people think that by skipping a meal and eating less food they will lose weight. This isn’t true! People who think skipping meals means weight loss do not understand how our bodies work. If you skip a meal, your body will think that you are in starvation mode and will therefore overcompensate by slowing down your metabolism. Usually you end up overeating at the next meal. A better approach is to eat smaller, healhty meals more frequently with snacks in between to keep you going.
It is true that some studies have linked red meat with increased risk of heart disease, partly due to the saturated fat content. It is true that poultry, like chicken and turkey, is naturally lower in saturated fats (but that is only true if you do not eat the skin). It is a nutrition myth, however, that red meat is altogether bad for your health. Instead of excluding red meats, choose leaner cuts of beef and pork. You can also compare the marbling on different cuts of meat to tell which ones are leaner. Or read the sticker in the corner of the package and it will tell you the fat content.
It really doesn’t matter if you eat late at night. Your metabolism doesn’t stop when the sun goes down. It’s not eating late that is bad. It’s the food that we often eat late at night that isn’t so healthy. Also, if we’re up extremely late at night we become hungry, and snacking adds extra calories into our diet that we wouldn’t have eaten if we had been sleeping.
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By Anna Packard, Psychology Intern Photos by Brooke Beecher
Every February I begin my “bud watch.” As I walk by trees on campus I look hopefully at their branches for any growing buds. Watching those buds grow and eventually burst into beautiful blossoms makes me smile as I know spring has arrived! But… it’s February and still dark and cold outside. More often than not, those branches are covered in snow and ice. I don’t blame those little buds for their reluctance to make an appearance! For many, February can be a difficult month. At this point, winter has been present for three months and many people find themselves weary of dark, cold evenings. February boosts our mood a little with the red and pink construction-papered-hearts of Valentine’s Day. But overall, this holiday does little to alleviate the the Blues of winter that still persist. This time of year leaves many women particularly vulnerable to feelings of sadness, loss of interest in life, lack of motivation, irritability, fatigue, and feelings of insecurity and self-doubt. In other words, many women experience some depressive symptoms that are not sufficient (either in number or severity) to warrant a diagnosis of major depression. However, this “Congratulations, you’re not depressed” does little to alleviate these blue feelings. So when faced with the Blues, what can one do to overcome them? Here are some simple but powerful strategies to combat the Blues.
3. Exercise frequently
Yes, it’s dark and freezing outside! Who would want to exercise under those conditions? But exercise is one of the best natural anti-depressants. Test it out! Rate your mood on a scale of 0-10 before you work out, and again immediately after. You might be surprised at how effective exercise is.
4. Find something to look forward to and that makes you excited
It can be as simple and cost-effective as a spring hiking trip to Zion with your best friends! Often when people feel the Blues, it’s hard to feel excited about anything. Something positive you can anticipate will help pull you through those low moments. This should be something realistic, specific and attainable.
5. Set a non-academic goal and work toward it
A goal keeps you going despite unmotivated moments. This goal should be positive and have an end date. Avoid vague, unrealistic, and unhealthy goals. Some good goals might
1. Get out and be social
Isolation is the compulsion when feeling the Blues. Making an effort to get out and talk to others can feel like such a chore. However, the best way to combat those negative feelings is to do exactly what they tell you NOT to do. That is, go out and connect with friends and loved-ones. Over time this will feel less effortful and you’ll find yourself engaged in meaningful relationships.
2. Share your feelings with someone you trust
In this blue place, it is common to try to avoid negative emotions and you may even feel associated shame and embarrassment. Try reaching out and sharing your experience with someone you trust and who will validate your feelings.
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Many times we are not consciously aware ofing when we are speak s. critically to ourselve
7. Find a balance.
include training for something you’ve never tried before. For example, this year I plan on participating in BYU’s Splash and Dash Biathalon. This goal motivates me to get in the pool in February! Other goals may include reading a chapter nightly from a non-academic book or finishing your scrapbook of freshman year. This is a great opportunity to be creative!
6. Monitor and challenge negative thoughts
Negative thoughts are frequently associated with and exacerbate a low mood. Many times we are not consciously aware of when we are speaking critically to ourselves. Find a piece of paper and begin to monitor your thoughts. What negative judgments and accusations are you making about yourself ? Then, once you get these thoughts on paper, challenge their validity. Ask yourself questions such as, “Am I really a ‘failure’ because I got a D on that homework assignment? Why is that homework assignment defining who I am? What other evidence am I ignoring that says I’m NOT a failure?” “So I didn’t have a date last weekend. Does that really mean I’ll never get married and be a total failure at love? Why am I using one weekend to predict my future?”
It can be easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of school, work, and social expectations and find yourself lost in the process. You may find yourself vacillating between feeling overwhelmed and completely checked out. Take time to reconnect with yourself and seek to find balance. Recognize that you don’t need to do everything perfectly and perhaps the best thing you can do is to do some things imperfectly! Practice saying NO when you have too much on your plate and seek help when you need it. Give yourself permission to pamper yourself! You are worth it!
The good news is that the majority of the Blues resolve and women find they reconnect with their excitement for life. These strategies can help toward that end. Test them out and hopefully you will see the color returning in your life. And soon the world will be filled with all the colors of spring as those little buds finally emerge and blossom! If you notice your mood doesn’t improve or worsens, counseling services available at the BYU Counseling and Career Center is also a good therapeutic option.
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National Eating Disorders Awareness Week
By Genevieve Busch Photos by Brooke Beecher
I began ruminating about imperfections I started to notice about my own body. Mind you, at 5’6’’ and 125 pounds, I was certainly a healthy size for someone my age. However, this did very little to disseminate the thoughts of “What if I were to lose 10 pounds?” and “What would happen if I only ate half as much as I do now?” By my junior year, I was attempting to limit my calorie intake to 500 calories a day (a quarter of the recommended daily calories for someone with my BMI). The lethargy from being so nutritionally depleted, along with the negative thoughts that constantly wracked my brain, left me perpetually irritable and dismayed that my efforts didn’t appear to be paying off. Even though my friend’s eating disorder did exacerbate other pre-existing medical conditions, she was able to receive the help that she needed before she caused any irreversible damage to her body. Fortunately, I was also able to stop before I found myself too far gone down the paths of despair and disappointment caused by eating disorders. The process of exorcising my thoughts of physical perfection was an undertaking that took roughly four years, but it was expedited by a number of uplifting influences, like loving friends and the scriptures, and an understanding of healthy practices which led to a much more positive outlook on how I viewed myself and the rest of my life. Last year, I was walking through the Wilkinson Center when I noticed a booth set up by Women’s Services and Resources for something called N.E.D.A.W. Being somewhat familiar with the sort of causes WSR champions, I decided to find out what was going on (I won’t lie, I was also rather curious about what the mysterious acronym stood for). Upon closer investigation, I found out that N.E.D.A.W. stood for National Eating Disorder Awareness Week. Naturally, after my high school experience, I was more than happy to receive the opportunity to write about N.E.D.A.W. this year. N.E.D.A.W. was established in 1986 to raise awareness about both eating
When I was a sophomore in high school, I learned that one of my close friends was bulimic. She told me that the purging was a release, an emptying of the part of herself that she hated the most. The feeling that followed her self-induced purging was a moment of relief from the constant pain she felt when she looked in mirrors or put any food in her mouth. Once I knew about her problem, I figured that I was strong enough to listen to her without feeling influenced to look at myself differently. I couldn’t have imagined the kind of influence such selfdestructive thoughts would have on me. After spending so much time listening to my friend’s dissatisfaction with her body,
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Help a Friend
If you or a friend are struggling with an eating disorder, please contact our office in 3326 WSC. We are here to help.
disorders and healthy preventative measures that can be taken to help victims recover from these life-threatening illnesses. Because eating disorders are difficult to come forward and speak about, the number of people with such illnesses is much higher than many people realize. In the United States, it is estimated nine million victims suffer from eating disorders. Further estimations show that one in every 200 women suffer from anorexia, and that two in every 100 women suffer from bulimia. Of the nine million estimated cases in America, 10 to 15% of the victims are male. Eating disorders can affect anyone indiscriminately. They can develop regardless of gender, race, class, nationality, and age. Despite there only being one week each year dedicated specifically to the cause, the ultimate mission of N.E.D.A.W. is to effectively prevent both eating disorders and body image issues while making the general public aware of these illnesses and providing better access to treatment so that more victims can receive the help they need without fear or shame. In addition, N.E.D.A.W. seeks to make known that most eating disorders develop because of the pressures and physical expectations placed on both genders by the engine of society. In order to accomplish the admirable goal of eradicating these illnesses, vol-
unteers, eating disorder specialists, social workers, health care providers, and educators come together to raise awareness in communities about eating disorders through the distribution of literature on the subject, as well as holding seminars to explain the dangers that eating disorders present and the importance of early prevention of these illnesses. At our own university, there will be both a panel discussion on helping friends with eating disorders and a presentation on how media negatively impacts self-image. What’s so great about N.E.D.A.W. is that virtually anyone can become involved; even if you don’t have any research or professional experience behind you, you can put up posters, distribute pamphlets, or organize community awareness activities like hosting a speaker or putting together a N.E.D.A. walk. I’m incredibly grateful that the issues I had with my self-image were overcome before I damaged myself beyond repair. Unfortunately, there are millions of people all over the world that suffer silently from deadly illnesses that prey upon their minds and waste away their bodies. In the pursuit of perfection, men and women are dying from a starvation of both body and soul. In order to stop these very real illnesses, it is up to every person to spread awareness and hope. It’s time to talk about it.
Workshops for Women
At our Voices of Courage workshops, you can learn how to stand up for yourself and those you love, and how to stop abuse.
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W omen and Careers
Re c e n t l y, I listened to several YouTube songs performed by Susan Boyle, a contestant on the 2009 Britain’s Got Talent. In particular, the song “I Dreamed a Dream” from Les Misérables struck a chord with me. Unlike Susan who finally got her opportunity to achieve her dream at the age of 47, mine came in my early 30s. Like Susan, it was friends who encouraged me to pursue my dream—to attend university, to become a teacher. Going to university began as a back-up plan. Married and with three small children, I was a busy stayat-home mom, who also did the bookkeeping for my husband’s auto body shop. When stable employment for my husband began to be problematic, I started working full time as a secretary to help support our family. An Ensign article, detailing the number of women who, for a variety of reasons, would be the sole breadwinners, gave me the final push I needed. In 1985 I enrolled in the Bachelor of Education program at the University of Alberta. During my last semester at university, we had our fourth child. The possibility that I might have to support my family became a reality when our youngest child was only six months old. My husband was no longer able to support our family, and the decision was made that he would be the stay-at-home dad and I would work. Our role reversal did not prevent me from serving in a variety of church callings, including Primary and Young Women’s President and Gospel Doctrine Teacher. My first year of teaching in a Junior/Senior High School was all the encouragement I needed to apply to teach at the college level! Over the next 20 years, teaching in the Office Administration program at Olds College and then at Red Deer College offered several opportunities for me to pursue my entrepreneurial interests by developing innovative programs.
By Bev McCrostie
Education Panel for Women
While working on my Masters in Education in 2002, I began researching the emerging profession of Virtual Assistants. A Virtual Assistant (typically abbreviated to VA) is an entrepreneur who provides professional administrative, technical, or creative assistance to clients from a home office. Inspired by the VA community, I had a new dream. My dream was to create a college level VA training program in Canada. I spent months surveying VAs, filling out government paperwork, and finding an experienced VA to help develop courses. Hard work and determination paid off in 2003 with the launch of the Virtual Assistant Certificate Program at Red Deer College. The VA Certificate, taught entirely online, became the first government accredited VA training program in Canada. My VA students are predominantly women who want to work from home so that they can have a flexible work schedule and be more available for their families. During this time our marriage ended after 22 years, and I became a single parent. Five years ago I remarried. In the pursuit of my life’s dreams, time and time again I have been reminded that I needed to remain focused and committed in spite of the challenges that came my way. This academic year I am completing a sabbatical leave at Brigham Young UniversityProvo in the Marriott School of Management with a focus on women’s entrepreneurship. I have had numerous opportunities to connect with successful men and women entrepreneurs and to assist students in developing their own business ideas through the Home Based Business Plan Competition. The things I miss the most during this leave are my children and two (soon to be three) grandchildren and teaching my online classes. I plan on teaching for many more years and pursuing my own entrepreneurial ventures, preferably somewhere with warmer winters than those in Western Canada! I would also like a more flexible work schedule so that I can spend more time with my family. I am currently serving as a Relief Society Teacher and a Temple Worker in Provo.
Want to learn about all the different paths you could take with your education? Come to our panel discussion on February 26, 2010 in the WSC Garden Court.
Director LaNae Valentine Office Manager Brooke Beecher Marriage & Family Therapy Interns Lauren Barnes Carly Larsen Nutrition Counselor Kimi Sycamore Marketing & Public Relations Nikki Mena Katie Nelson Event Coordinator Bianca Martinez Office Specialist Sarah Johnson
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