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Date: January 2010
Use Humor to Get Initial Attraction - Three Techniques by Big Business
Hey guys, Quick Quiz: The best way to break through that first shield women put up when a stranger approaches them is to: A) B) C) D) Wear crazy outlandish clothes that make her notice you. Use humor and make her laugh. Tell her something great about yourself. Say something insulting so she knows you don’t take her seriously.
We’ve known for a while that the answer is (B). The data doesn’t lie. Making her laugh is the best and easiest way to the “hook point” where a woman stops wondering what you want and starts enjoying the conversation. And, it’s not just ANY kind of humor either. You don’t want to be try-hard or a clown. Attraction humor is kind of a funky skill. It’s easy to teach on a Love Systems live bootcamp, because we can work on your delivery, tonality, timing, and what exactly to say – live, in real pickups with beautiful women – until you’re getting it right.
It’s not normally easy to teach with words on a page, unless you happen to have access to someone who is both: 1. A highly-accomplished and knowledgeable pick up artist, and 2. An extremely talented, successful, and experienced comedian.
I’m talking of course about New York-based Love Systems instructor Big Business. So sit tight, take notes, and use these introductory techniques to “break through her shield” tonight.
My three favorite ways to make people laugh in bars...
By Big Business, professional seduction coach and stand-up comedian When I got started doing pickup, I noticed that making people laugh was an incredibly quick way to get interest from beautiful women. Not only that, but it made dealing with their male and female friends a lot easier. There are a lot of reasons why this works so well – I’m not going to rehash what you already know from reading the seduction bible Magic Bullets. Just remember that humor makes you an asset to whomever you are talking to because laughter releases chemicals that make people feel good. Now, a lot of people think that becoming funny isn’t possible. They think that you just have to be born that way. NOT TRUE. As someone who’s been doing stand-up comedy for six years in New York City, I can tell you that I’ve seen a TON of people go from awful to incredible. All it took was the proper instruction and lots and lots of practice. (They were also willing to make mistakes and learn from their mistakes, which is an incredible skill set to have when meeting women as well, but that’s a whole other story.) At the moment, I’m currently working on a one day seminar to help guys become funnier when they are talking to women. Right now I’m going to share with you my three favorite ways to make strangers laugh in bars.
Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #1 – Self-Deprecation The average guy (who hasn’t found Love Systems) tries to make himself look as cool as possible by bragging about his job, his body, and his history.
Doing the opposite – as long as it’s obvious that you’re pretending – is one of the easiest ways to make people laugh. For example: • • • Tell people that you are a virgin and that this is your first time meeting women. Explain how living in your parents’ basement is actually a lot cooler than it sounds. Let everyone know that you are actively stalking your last ten girlfriends (or should I say “the last ten girls who made the mistake of telling you where they lived...”).
Just make sure it’s obvious that you’re joking without a lame “just kidding” at the end. Pick things to say that anyone meeting you for the first time would know can’t be true.
Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #2 – Ridiculous Statements This is somewhat similar to self-deprecation because you’re also saying things that are obviously not true. But instead of being negative, they’re just ridiculous. They key to using ridiculous statements is to back them up with good specifics. Specifics make something funnier and more “realistic” even if it’s obviously not true. For example:
“I’m pretty excited. I finally got my pet zebra in the mail.” “I heard that astronauts drink for free in this bar. Is that true? Being in space makes me thirsty.” “I just got back from Australia. Did you know that they call oral sex ‘going up’ over there?”
My favorite thing about ridiculous statements is that sometimes you don’t even have to make them up. If you ever trip over your words or get confused about the details in a story, then that can be the start of a great ridiculous statement. Pretend that the mistake is what you meant to say. Stick with it and see where it goes.
Big Business Attraction Humor Secret #3 – Misinterpretation This started out as one of my favorite games to play in bars and ended up being a great way to make people laugh. Because bars are so loud, I’d pretend like I misheard people and respond to things they didn’t say...
THEM: “So, where did you grow up?” BIG BUSINESS: “No, I don’t need another drink. Thanks, though.” Then I thought, “this would be even funnier if it wasn’t loud at all.” I started mishearing things in quiet bars and it got even better reactions than before, so long as they could tell that I was kidding. After a while I started misinterpreting everything. Some nights, just for fun, I would decide to interpret everything I heard the exact same way, regardless of what it was... THEM: “Do you know what time it is?” BIG BUSINESS: “Wow. Are you really going to hit on me like that without even asking my name?” Or THEM: “I grew up in Philadelphia.” BIG BUSINESS: “Wow. Are you really going to hit on me like that without even asking my name?”
If you’re going to go out and try misinterpretation tonight, make sure you are mishearing them in a way that makes you look good. For example, always assume they are hitting on you, or are asking for your phone number, or trying to buy you a drink. So in a way, this is kind of the opposite of Attraction Humor Secret #1 – Self-Deprecation. I deliberately chose a couple of attraction humor techniques that are pretty similar, so if you get one of them, you should be good at all three. As with anything, practice makes perfect, so don’t be afraid to go out there and land flat a few times. At least you’ll have a good time doing it! - Big Business
Big Business is a professional Love Systems dating coach based in New York and a successful stand-up comedian. He leads the exclusive Love Systems Humor, Improv, and Attraction oneday seminar.
Big Business is also available for private 1-1 instruction and telephone training. Email or call (+1 323-836-0150 ext.110) our Program Manager Jeremy to book an appointment.
Big Business also recommends the following resources for humor and attraction:
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IVS Volume 3 – Storytelling with Sinn and Future IVS Volume 6 – Identity with Tenmagnet, Sinn, and Future IVS Volume 23 – Cold Reads with Savoy and The Don IVS Volume 30 – Teasing with Braddock and Dahunter IVS Volume 32 – Role Plays with Cajun and Tenmagnet IVS Volume 35 – Humor with Braddock and Cajun
Good luck using these techniques. Make sure you let everyone know how well they worked out for you on The Attraction Forums.
Take care, Savoy