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ISLAMIC

MANNERS
Husn-e-Akhlaq

Compiled by

Sayyiduna Imam Abu Qasim

Sulayman Bin Ahmad Tabarani


(Passed away in 360 AH)

Translated into English by


Majlis-e-Tarajim (Dawat-e-Islami)

Islamic Manners
An English translation of Husn-e-Akhlaq

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TABLE OF

CONTENTS
14 Intentions for Reading this Book ........................................................... v
Two Madan pearls .................................................................................. v
Intentions.................................................................................................. v
Al-Madina-tul-Ilmiyyah............................................................................vii
Preface ........................................................................................................... ix
Authors Introduction ................................................................................xii
Name and Kunya .................................................................................xii
Birth .........................................................................................................xii
Student life ..............................................................................................xii
Honourable teachers ........................................................................... xiii
Brilliant students .................................................................................. xiii
Publication and compilation ............................................................... xiv
Commendation ..................................................................................... xiv
Demise..................................................................................................... xv

ISLAMIC MANNERS ..................................... 1


Blessings of reciting the Holy Quran, remembrance of Allah ,
Qufl-e-Madna of tongue, love for the poor and keeping their
company ......................................................................................................... 1
Excellence of good manners ........................................................................ 2
The excellence of politeness, meekness and courtesy .............................. 5
Excellence of meeting people amiably........................................................ 6
The excellence of smiling at a Muslim brother ......................................... 6
The excellence of being lenient and tolerant ............................................. 7
The excellence of patience and generosity................................................. 9
The excellence of controlling oneself in anger ........................................ 11
The excellence of compassion and kind-heartedness ............................ 12
The excellence of controlling ones anger ................................................ 14

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The excellence of forgiving others ............................................................ 15


The excellence of being a well-wisher to the Muslims ........................... 18
Excellence of purity of heart and refraining from malice against
Muslims ........................................................................................................ 20
The excellence of mediation ...................................................................... 22
Excellence of fulfilling rights ..................................................................... 22
The excellence of helping the oppressed.................................................. 22
Preventing an oppressor from oppression .............................................. 23
Prevent your nave ...................................................................................... 24
The excellence of helping Muslims to cater for their needs .................. 24
The excellence of removing someones worry ........................................ 27
The excellence of supporting the weak .................................................... 29
The excellence of providing for the orphans ........................................... 30
The excellence of upbringing & spending on orphan children till they
are grownup ................................................................................................. 33
The excellence of good manners ............................................................... 33
Excellence of doing good deeds ................................................................ 36
Condemnation of oppressing a Muslim .................................................. 37
Excellence of making permissible recommendation for a Muslim
brother .......................................................................................................... 39
The excellence of helping a Muslim and protecting his honour .......... 40
The excellence of showing affection for people ...................................... 42
The excellence of helping Mujidn ....................................................... 42
The excellence of helping a Hajj pilgrim and serve him at Iftar ........... 43
The excellence of showing affection for children, respecting elders,
and scholars ................................................................................................. 44
The excellence of making space for scholars in a gathering .................. 45
The excellence of offering a pillow to a Muslim brother ....................... 45
The excellence of giving food .................................................................... 46
The excellence of clothing a Muslim brother .......................................... 57
The rights of neighbour.............................................................................. 58

      
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14 INTENTIONS FOR READING THIS BOOK





The Noble Prophet             
  has said:

i.e. a Muslims intention values more than his deed.

(Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 6, pp. 185, ad 5942)

Two Madan pearls

C Without a good intention, no reward is granted for a righteous


deed.

C The more righteous intentions, the greater reward.


Intentions
1-4 Every time I read this book, I will start by reciting amd1, alt2,
Taaww3 and Tasmiya4. (By reading the Arabic lines given
at the top of this page, these four intentions will then be acted
upon.)
5.

I will look at the Quranic verses,

6.

and the blessed Ad.

7.

I will read this book from beginning to end for the pleasure of
Allah      .

8.

To the best of my ability, I will read it whilst in the state of


Wu and facing the Qibla.

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9.

(Whilst reading the book) Whenever I read the name of

Allah, I will say ,

10.

and whenever I read the blessed name of the Beloved and


.
Blessed Prophet I will read $

11.

(On my personal copy of this book) I will underline the


essential and important points if it is necessary.

12.

I will persuade others to read this book.

13.

14.


With the intention of acting upon the ad Give
gifts to each other, it will enhance affection amongst you,
(Muwa Imm Mlik, vol. 2, pp. 407, ad 1731) I shall buy this book
(one, or as many as I can afford) and will gift it to others.

If I find any Shar mistake in the composing etc., I will


inform the publisher in writing. (Verbal information to the
writer or publisher about mistakes is usually ineffective.)

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AL-MADINA-TUL-ILMIYYAH
From: Shaykh-e-arqat, Amr-e-Al-e-Sunnat, the founder of
Dawat-e-Islami, Allma Mauln Abu Bilal Muhammad Ilyas
Attar Qadiri Razavi Ziyai          !"
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propagation of Quran and Sunna is committed to revive the
Sunna, to propagate the call to righteousness, and to publish the
religious knowledge of Shara in the entire world; and in order
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4.

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The first priority of Al-Madna-tul-Ilmiyya is to deliver the


phenomenal and exceptional books of the erudite scholar, Imm
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simple language and style. All Islamic brothers and sisters are
requested to provide their full possible support in this educational,
research based and publication-related Madan work and they are
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and to motivate others to do the same.
May Allah      grant Dawat-e-Islami and all its departments,
including Al-Madna-tul-Ilmiyya success, growth, peace, prosperity
and popularity and may Allah      bless our virtuous efforts with
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Ramadan-ul-Mubrak, 1425 AH

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PREFACE

A person once asked the Beloved and Blessed Prophet  

  
  


about good manners while the Noble Prophet     
   recited
the following verse:


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O dear Prophet, adopt forgiveness, and enjoin virtue, and turn away
from the ignorant.
[Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran)] (Part 9, Sra Al-Arf, verse 199)

The Holy Prophet  

  
   then said, Good manners means,
that you should gracefully treat the one who breaks off a relation with
you, you be generous to the one who deprives you, and you forgive
the one who oppresses you.1

Sayyidun Abdull Bin Mubrak  



  
   has said, Meeting
people with a smiling face, treating them kindly and avoiding causing
harm to anyone are the traits of a well-mannered person.2
Dear respected Islamic brothers! One of the aims of our Beloved
Prophet  

      coming in the world is to rectify the character
and matters of people by eradicating bad habits and inculcating in
them the best manners. Hence, the Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor
1

Iy-ul-Ulm-id-Dn, vol. 3, pp. 61

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 404, ad 2012

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of Umma          )  *  , through his words and deeds, set a code
of conduct and practically implemented it in every walk of life. He

         )
  *
  also urged us to stick to it in all circumstances.
The wealth of good manners which is a special blessing of Allah     
is granted to the fortunate people only. Good manners beautify the
character of a person while bad manners make it ugly and disgusting.
Someone has rightly said:
ay fal-o-kamrn narm-o-sn mayn
er ban km biga jt ay ndn mayn

This book, Islamic Manners is the translation of Makrim-ulAkhlq, the masterpiece authored by the great Muaddi of the
Islamic world Sayyidun Imm Ab Qsim Sulaymn Bin Amad
abarn  .  
 ' - , (     . The Arabic book was first translated into
Urdu by Majlis Al-Madna-tul-Ilmiyya, and the translated Urdu
version (usn-e-Akhlq) is finally rendered into English now.
In this book, Sayyidun Imm abarn  .  
 ' - , (     has
accumulated a number of Ad, highlighting different aspects of
manners. It is hoped that this excellent booklet would prove to be a
very good gift for those Islamic brothers being busy in individual
efforts,      
/012 3 .
In order to adopt good manners, to receive steadfastness in obedience

to Allah      and His Beloved Rasl          )  *
  and to develop
the fervour of striving to reform myself and the people of the whole
world, buy this booklet from Maktaba-tul-Madna, read it and gift
it to others, as many as you can afford. Whatever merits this translation
has is certainly by the grace of Almighty Allah      , by the favour


of His Noble Prophet          )  *
 ( ,
  and Awliy Kirm 64 5  
 
 &
and by the sincere Du of our great Shaykh, the founder of Dawat-e-

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Islami, Allma Mauln Abu Bilal Muhammad Ilyas Attar Qadiri


Razavi          !"
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be a human error on our part.
In this translation, special care has been taken to ensure
the following points:

C An easy and idiomatic translation has been made for the


convenience of less educated Islamic brothers.

C The translation of Quranic verses has been taken from Kanz-ulmn, the translation of the Holy Quran by Al arat, Imm
Amad Raz Khn %&  ' & (     .

C References of Quranic verses, Ad and sayings of saints have


also been mentioned.

C At some places useful and necessary explanatory notes have also


been included.

C [In the Urdu translation] Diacritical marks have been placed on


difficult words to facilitate pronunciations.

C The meanings of difficult words have been given in parenthesis.


C Punctuation marks have been placed carefully.
We pray to Allah      to enable us to act upon the Madan Inmt
and to travel with the Madan Qfilas so that we could realistically
make efforts to reform ourselves and people of the entire world.
May all the Majlis of Dawat-e-Islami, including the Majlis AlMadna-tul-Ilmiyya flourish by leaps and bounds!

Department for Translation


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AUTHORS
INTRODUCTION
Name and Kunya
The name of the author is Sulaymn Bin Amad Bin Ayyb Mur
Lakhm abarn. His Kunya is Ab Qsim but he   
   
' &
  ( is
known as Imm abarn.

Birth
He   
   
' &
  ( was born in afar-ul-Muaffar 260 ijr at Tibriyah.

Student life
He   
   
 ' &
  ( started acquiring knowledge in his childhood.
When he   
   
' & ( was 13 years old, he learnt Ad at Tibriyah
from Sayyidun Amad Ibn Masd Muqaddas 7. 8  
 ' - , (     . He
 
   
 ' &
   
 ' &
  ( then moved to Syria where he  
  ( learnt Ad
 
 

from expert Muaddin. He   
   
' &
  ( then headed towards Egypt

in 280 ijr. In 282 ijr he   
   
' &
  ( was in Yemen. In 283 ijr,














'
&
(
he      
   travelled to Madna. Then travelling through Makka
Mukarrama, he   
   
' &
  ( again came to Yemen. In 285 ijr, he
 
   
 ' &
   
 ' & (
  ( came back to Egypt and in 287 ijr he  
 
 
travelled to Iraq. During these journeys, he   
   
 ' &
  ( had the
honour of listening to Ad from leading scholars of ad. He

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 ' &
  (

then migrated to Persia (Iran) where he


stayed till his demise.

 
   
 ' &
  (
 

Honourable teachers
In Takira-tul-uff, Sayyidun Imm aab 7. 8 
' - , (     has said
that the number of teachers of Sayyidun Sulaymn Bin Amad
abarn  .  
 ' - , (     is more than one thousand. Sayyidun Imm
Ab Nam Afan = ( . >    : ;  9 , a brilliant student of Sayyidun
Imm abarn  . 
' - , (     , has stated in book, ilya-tul-Awliy,
Imm abarn  . 
' - , (     has narrated Ad from numerous,
eminent scholars, some of whose names are given below:
1.

Sayyidun Al Bin Abdul Azz Baghw

2.

Sayyidun Ab Muslim Kash

3.

Sayyidun Muhammad Bin Abdull aram

4.

Sayyidun Abdulla Bin Amad Bin anbal

5.

Sayyidun Isq Bin Ibrm Dabr

6.

Sayyidun Ysuf Bin Yaqb Q (7. Sayyidun Muhammad



Bin Umn Bin Ab Shayba (? @
   

 
 ( )
 
 
 &

Brilliant students
Numerous students quenched their thirst of knowledge from this
learned scholar. A few names of them are as under:
1.

Sayyidun fi Amad Bin Ms Bin Mardya

2.

Sayyidun fi Muhammad Bin Amad Bin Amad Jrd

3.

Sayyidun fi Muhammad Bin Isq Bin Muhammad Bin


Yay Aban and

Authors Introduction

4.

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Sayyidun fi Muhammad Bin Ab Al Amad Bin



Abdur Ramn amn akwn (? @        
   &
 ( ).
Moreover, even some of your eminent teachers have narrated
Ad from you.

Publication and compilation


Sayyidun Imm abarn  .  
 ' - , (     has written a number of
books. Some of them are as under:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.



( Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr)

9
( Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa)


( Al-Mujam-u-aghr)

F9[ Makrim-ul-Akhlq (this book)]



9
( Kitb-ul-Awil)

9

( Kitb-ul-Ad-i-iwl)




(Kitb-ud-Du)

Commendation
Sayyidun Imm Samn = ( . >    : ;  9 has stated in Al-Ansb,
Sayyidun Imm abarn  .  
 ' - , (     was fi-ul-ad of his
time. He   
   
' &
  ( travelled several countries with the purpose of
acquiring knowledge of ad. He   
   
 ' &
  ( met numerous
scholars and had extensive discussions with the uff of Ad
[i.e. those who have memorized Ad]. In the last years of his age
he   
   
' & ( permanently settled in Iban and authored a large
number of books.

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Sayyidun Imm Ibn Askir   


   
 ' &
  ( has stated in Tarkh




Dimashq: Sayyidun Imm abarn .  
 ' - , (     is one of those
who committed numerous Ad to memory and travelled from
place to place for the purpose of acquiring Ad.
Sayyidun Imm Ibn Ammd $. A  
' - , (     has stated in Shart-uaab, Sayyidun Imm abarn  .  
 ' - , (     was a reliable and
true Muaddi. He   
   
 ' & ( possessed strong memory with
expertise and deep knowledge of the authenticity and narrators of
Ad on different topics.

Demise
This eminent scholar great at showering the rain of knowledge and
quenching the thirst of knowledge seekers departed from this mortal
world to the immortal one in the month of ul-Qada 360 ijr.

(
)
May Allah      shower His mercy unto him and forgive us for his sake!

      
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Blessings of reciting the Holy Quran, remembrance
of Allah , Qufl-e-Madna of tongue, love for
the poor and keeping their company
1.


Sayyidun Ab ar Ghifr   >    * B
 ( has stated that he said
to the Prophet of Rama             
   : Y Raslall
        
   
  
 ! Kindly give me some advice. The Holy
 



Prophet          )  *
  said, I advise you to fear Allah      .
Undoubtedly, it is the (essence) of your religion. I said, Please,

give me more advice. The Holy Prophet          )  *
  said,
Recite the Quran and remember Allah      in abundance, as
it will be Nr (light) for you in this world as well as in the
heavens. I requested, Y Raslall          )  *  ! Give me
some more advice. The Beloved Mustafa             
  
said, Make Jihad obligatory for you, as it is the monasticism1
of my Umma.

I then requested again for more advice. The Noble Prophet



         ) 
  *
  said, Laugh less, for excessive laughing kills
the hearts and dulls the faces. I said, Give me more advice.

The Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, Keep quiet, for silence
1

Monasticism means devoting oneself to worship and staying away from people.
(Tafsr Bayw, part 27, Tat Al-ya 27, vol. 5, pp. 305)

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is a shield against satan as well as a helper in your religious


works. I said, Advice me something more. The Beloved

Prophet          )   *
  said, Look towards the one who is
inferior to you in worldly status rather than the one who is
superior to you. In this way, you will not be looking down
upon the favour Allah  1    has bestowed on you. I said,

Y Raslall          )   *
  ! Advice me something more.

The Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, Love the Maskn
(poor and needy) and keep their company. Advice me more,

I respectfully said. The Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said,
Speak the truth even if it is bitter.
I said, Please, advice some more. The Beloved and Blessed

Prophet          )   *
  said, Establish relation with your
relatives even if they break up with you. I said, Y Raslall


  
         )
  *
  *
  ! Advise more. The Holy Prophet      )
 
said, In Allahs matter, do not be afraid of any condemnation
or rebuke. I requested for some more advice. The Noble
Prophet          )   *   said, Like the things for others that

you like for yourself. Then the Noble Prophet          )  *
 
tapped me on my chest and said, O Ab ar! There is no
wisdom like tactic, there is no piety like abstinence from sins
and there is no gentleness like good manners.1

EXCELLENCE OF GOOD MANNERS


2.

Amr-ul-Mu`minn, Sayyidun Al-ul-Murta D E     


   

6  C

has narrated that the Noble Prophet          )  *
  has said,
Undoubtedly, through good manners, a person is able to attain
the rank of those offering al, fasting during the day and
worshipping at night. [And sometimes] a person is written as

Attarghb Wattarb, Kitb-ul-Qa, vol. 3, pp. 131, ad 24

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haughty and rebellious whereas he does not have power over


anyone except for his family.1
3.


Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >     
B
 (

has reported that the Beloved Rasl          )   *
  has said,
Through good manners, a person can attain the rank of the
one who performs alt-ut-Taajjud and remains thirsty
owing to fasting in hot summer.2

4.


Sayyidun Ab Dard   >    *
 ( has reported that the Blessed
B
Rasl          )   *   has said, There is nothing that weighs
heavier on the scale of deeds than good manners.3

5.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Beloved and
B

Blessed Prophet          )  *
  has said, Shall I not give you
the news about the best of all among you? We said, Why

not! He          )  *
  said, The one who is well-mannered
4
amongst you.

6.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Prophet of
B
Rama, the Intercessor of the Umma          )   *   has
said, On the Day of Judgement, those amongst you who
would be dear and near to me in my company are the ones
who have good manners and adopt humbleness. People love
them and they love people. Those amongst you who would be
disliked and distant from me in my company are the ones
who are arrogant, boastful and talkative.5

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 4, pp. 369-372, ad 6273-6283

Al-Istikr lil-Qurub, Bb: M-J f usn Al-Khalq, vol. 8, pp. 279, ad 1672

Sunan Ab Dwd, vol. 4, pp. 332, ad 4799

Attarghb Wattarb, Kitb-ul-Adab, vol. 3, pp. 330, ad 4071

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 409, ad 2025; Attarghb Wattarb, Kitb-ul-Adab,


vol. 3, pp. 332, ad 4080

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7.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -  >    
 B
 ( has narrated that



the Noble Rasl          )  *
  has said, Allah      says: I have
created mankind through My knowledge. When I intend
goodness for a person, I grant him good manners and when I
am displeased with someone, I inflict bad manners on him.1

8.


Sayyidun Jbir Bin Samura   >    *
 ( has narrated that the
B
Beloved Prophet          )   *   has said, The best amongst
the Muslims is the one who is the best in manners.2

9.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Holy
B

Prophet          )  *
  has said, A perfect Mu`min (believer)
is the one who is the best in manners.3

10.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Prophet
B
of Rama, the Intercessor of Umma, the Owner of Janna

         ) 
  *
  has said, Fire would not burn the person
whose face and manners are made excellent by Allah      .4

11.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Beloved
B
Rasl          )   *   has said, Good manners melt the sins
as the heat of the sun melts the ice.5

12.


Sayyidun Usma Bin Shark   >    *
 ( has narrated that
B

the blessed companions  >    
B
 ( asked the Beloved Prophet



  
        )
  *
  *
  , Y Raslall      )
  ! What is the best

thing bestowed to man? The Holy Prophet          )  *
  said,
Nothing better than good manners is bestowed upon man.6

Jmi-ul-Ad, vol. 5, pp. 325, ad 15129

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 7, pp. 410, ad 20874

Sunan Ab Dwd, vol. 4, pp. 290, ad 4682

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 249, ad 8038

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 247, ad 8036

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 1, pp. 179, ad 463

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13.


Sayyidun Ab ar Ghifr   >    * B
 ( narrated that the Holy

Prophet          )  *
  gave me the following piece of advice,
Wherever you live, fear Allah      and perform a good deed
forthwith if a sin occurs, for this [good deed] would wipe out
the sin. And treat people with good manners.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF POLITENESS,


MEEKNESS AND COURTESY

14.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    * B
 ( reported that the Beloved Prophet

         )
  *
  has said, Shall I not inform you of the person
hellfire is arm (prohibited) for? The one who is good-natured,
soft-spoken, forgiving and fulfiller of peoples needs.2

15.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >     *
 ( has reported that the Noble
B

Rasl          )  *
  has said, A Mu`min is so good-natured
and soft-spoken that people consider him a foolish person due
to his gentleness.3

16.


Sayyidun Irb Bin Sriya   >     *B
 ( reported that the Noble

Prophet          )   *
  has said, A Mu`min is like a camel
led by a halter around its nose. If it is tied [to something] it
stops and if it is walked, it starts walking. If it is made to sit
on a stony ground, it sits.4

17.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( reported that the Holy
B

Prophet          )  *
  has said, Glad tidings to the one who
adopts humility without misery. Glad tidings to the one who

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 397, ad 1994

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 1, pp. 244, ad 837

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 272, ad 8127

Sunan Ibn Mja, Kitb-us-Sunna, vol. 1, pp. 32, ad 43; Tafsr R-ul-Bayn,
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keeps the company of Islamic scholars of jurisprudence and


wisdom and refrains from the company of the disgraced
sinners. Glad tidings to the one who spends excessive wealth
of his in the path of Allah      and avoids useless talking.
Glad tidings to the one who is acting upon my Sunna and
does not give it up to adopt Bida (innovation).1

EXCELLENCE OF MEETING PEOPLE AMIABLY


18.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( reported that the Holy
B

Prophet          )   *
  has said, You cannot make people
happy with your riches but your amiability and good manners
can make them happy.2

19.


Sayyidun Jbir Bin Abdull   >    *
 ( reported that the
B
Prophet of mankind, the Peace of our heart and mind, the

most Generous and Kind          )   *
  has said, The best
adaqa (charity) is that you pour water from your pot to
your brothers pot and meet him cordially.3

THE EXCELLENCE OF SMILING AT A


MUSLIM BROTHER
20.


Sayyidun Ab ar Ghifr   >    * B
 ( has reported that the

Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )  *
  has said, Filling
your brothers mug with water from your own mug is adaqa.
For you to call [people] towards righteousness and prevent
[them] from evil is adaqa. Your smiling at your Muslim

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 7, pp. 355, ad 10563

Al-Mustadrak lil kim, Kitb-ul-Ilm, vol. 1, pp. 329, ad 435

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 391, ad 1977

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brother is adaqa and showing the way to someone who is


lost is also adaqa.1
21.


Referring to Sayyidun Ab Dard   >    *
 ( , Sayyidatun
B

Umm-e-Dard  >  
   

 B
 ( has stated that he used to smile
when talking. She enquired of his smiling habit during talks,

Sayyidun Ab Dard   >    *
 ( replied he had seen that the
B

Holy Prophet          )  *
  would continue to smile during
his blessed conversation.2

22.


Sayyidun Jbir   >     * B
 ( reported that whenever there was

revelation on the Beloved Prophet          )  *
  , I would say

that the Holy Prophet          )  *
  was about to instil fear in
people, and when there was no revelation, the Noble Prophet
3

         )
  *
  was the most smiling and obliging of all.

THE EXCELLENCE OF BEING LENIENT AND


TOLERANT

23.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Mughaffal   >    *
 ( reported that
B


the Beloved and Blessed Prophet         )   *
  has said,
Undoubtedly, Allah      shows leniency and likes leniency.
He      bestows [the reward on His bondman] for leniency
that He      does not bestow for strictness.4

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 3, pp. 204, ad 3328

Trkh Madna Dimashq li Ibn Askir, vol. 47, pp. 187, Raqm 5464

Al-Kmil f uaf-ir-Rijl, Raqm 42/1663 Muhammad Bin Abdur Raman Bin Ab


Layl, vol. 7, pp. 392

Sunan Ab Dwd, Kitb-ul-Adab, vol. 4, pp. 334, ad 4807

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24.


Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >  
   

B
 (

has reported that the Noble Prophet          )   *
  said,
Allah      likes easiness in every matter.1

25.


Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >     *
 ( reported that the Holy
B

Prophet          )  *
  has said, The thing that has gentleness
2
is embellished.

26.


Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >  
   

B
 (

has described that the Holy Prophet          )   *
  said, When
Allah      intends to bless some family, He      creates in their
hearts love and kindness.3

27.


Sayyidun Saal Bin Sad   >    *
 ( has reported that the Holy
B



Prophet          )  *
  said, Peace is from Allah      while
4
haste is from satan.

28.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( reported that the Holy
B

Prophet          )   *
  has said, A persons honour is his
religion, politeness is his wisdom and gentleness is his good
character.5

29.


Sayyidun Ashaj Ar   >    *
 ( has described that the Beloved
B

and Blessed Prophet          )  *
  said to me, You possess
two characteristics that Allah      likes; tolerance and calmness.

I asked, Y Raslall          )   *
  ! Have I myself gained
those characteristics or I was innately born with these two
characteristics by Allah      ? The Prophet of Rama, the



Intercessor of Umma          )  *
  said, Allah      set up

a Bukhr, Kitb-ul-Adab, vol. 4, pp. 106, ad 6024

Musnad Al-Bazzr, Musnad Ab amza Anas Bin Mlik, vol. 2, pp. 329, ad 7002

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, Musnad isha, vol. 9, pp. 345, ad 24481

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 407, ad 19

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 3, pp. 292, ad 8782

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your nature on these two characteristics. Then I said, All


praise is to Allah      Who set up my nature with these two
characteristics, with whom He      and His Beloved Prophet
1

         )
  *
  are happy.
30.


Sayyidatun Umm-e-Salama  >  
   

 B
 ( has reported that


the Noble Prophet         )  *
  said, The one who does not
possess even one out of three characteristics should not hope
to be rewarded for any good deeds:

i.

The piety that refrains him from arm deeds,

ii.

the forbearance that prevents him from misleading, and

iii.

good manners with which he leads his life among the


people.2

THE EXCELLENCE OF PATIENCE AND GENEROSITY


31.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Holy Prophet
B

         )
  *
  said, Perfect faith is the name of patience and
generosity.3

32.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    *
 ( narrated that the
B

Noble Prophet          )  *
  said, The Mu`min who keeps
relation with people and tolerates the sufferings caused by
them, is much better than the other Mu`min who does not
keep relation with people and does not show patience for
sufferings caused by people.4

Al-Sunan-ul-Bayaq, Kitb-un-Nik, vol. 7, pp. 163, ad 13587

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 10, pp. 153, ad 175

Al-Musnad li Ab Yal, Musnad Jbir Bin Abdull, vol. 2, pp. 220, ad 1849

Al-Sunan-ul-Kubr lil Bayaq, vol. 10, pp. 153, ad 20175

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33.


Sayyidun Jbir Bin Abdull   >    * B
 ( has narrated that the

Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, When Sayyidun Nab
Ibrm 64  5 
    was made to visit the earth and the sky, he
64
 5 
    saw a transgressor and cursed him, so the transgressor
was doomed. Seeing another sinner, he 64  5 
    cursed him as
well, so Allah      sent a revelation to him: O Ibrm! Without
doubt, one who has disobeyed Me is also My bondman, and
any of three things will protect him from My wrath. He would
either repent and I would accept his repentance or he would
implore Me for forgiveness and I would forgive him or such
people will be born in his generation who will be worshipping
Me. O Ibrm! Do you not know that one of My names is
A-abr i.e. the Patient.1

34.


Sayyidun Ab Ms Ashar   >     *
 ( narrated that the Noble
B

Prophet          )   *
  said, There is no one showing more

patience than Allah      upon listening to something painful;
people attribute offspring to Him and He      still pardons
and gives them sustenance.2

35.


Sayyidun Ab Masd   >     *
 ( narrated, When you find any
B
of your Muslim brothers involved in sins, do not abet satan
by saying such a thing as: May Allah      humiliate him and
to hell with him. But rather you should say like this: May
Allah      give him the ability to repent and forgive him!3

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 5, pp. 322, ad 7475

a Muslim, pp. 1506, ad 2804

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 9, pp. 110, ad 8574

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THE EXCELLENCE OF CONTROLLING


ONESELF IN ANGER

36.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( reported that the Holy
B
Prophet          )  *  has said: The powerful is not the one
who knocks down people! The companions asked, Y Raslall


  
         ) 
  *
  *
  ! Then, who is powerful? He      ) 
 
replied, The powerful is the one who controls himself when
in anger.1

37.


Sayyidun Anas   >    *
 ( narrated that the Blessed Prophet
B

         )
  *
  went past some people and witnessed that they
were competing to lift a stone. What is going on here, the

Blessed Prophet          )  *
  inquired. The people said, Y

Raslall          )  *
  ! This is the stone we considered as
the stone of the powerful in the pre-Islamic era of ignorance.

The Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, Shall I not inform
you of the most powerful among you? The most powerful
amongst you all is the one who overcomes his anger.2

38.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >     *
 ( reported that a person
B

came to the Merciful Prophet          )   *
  and said, Y
Raslall          )   *   ! What can save me from Allahs

wrath? The Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said to him, Do
not get angry.3

39.


Sayyidun Wab Bin Munabbi   >   *
 ( narrated, It is stated
B
in the Torah, when you get angry, remember Me; and when I
am in wrath, I will remember you. And have patience when
you are oppressed; My help for you is better than your own

a Muslim, Kitb-ul-Bir Wa-ila, pp. 1406, ad 2608

Jmi-ul-Ad lis Suy, vol. 18, pp. 493, ad 13087

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 2, pp. 587, ad 6646

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help for yourself. Move your hand [i.e. make efforts]! The
doors of sustenance will be opened for you.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF COMPASSION


AND KIND-HEARTEDNESS
40.

 narrated that the Blessed Prophet


Sayyidun Anas   >    *

B(

         ) 
  *
  has said, By the One the All-powerful under
Whose unlimited powers my soul is! Allah      bestows
His mercy only on the one who is merciful. We asked,

Y Raslall          )   *
  ! Are we all merciful? He

         ) 
  *
  replied, The one who only shows mercy to
himself and his family is not merciful but rather merciful is
the one who shows mercy to all Muslims.2

41.


Amr-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidun Ab Bakr iddq   >    *
 (
B
narrated that the Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor of



Umma          )  *
  has said, Allah      says, If you want
My mercy, show mercy towards My creature.3

42.


Sayyidun Usma Bin Zayd   >     *
 ( narrated that the Noble
B



Prophet          )  *
  said, Verily, Allah      shows mercy
towards the bondmen who shows mercy [to others].4

43.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Holy Prophet
B




        ) 
  *
  said, Allah      does not have mercy on the
one who does not have mercy on others.5

Fay-ul-Qadr, vol. 4, pp. 629, Tat Al-ad 6022

Az-Zud-ul-ind, vol. 2, pp. 616, ad 1325

Al-Kmil f uaf-ir-Rijl, Raqm 23\593, Khlid Bin Amr, vol. 3, pp. 457

a Bukhr, vol. 1, pp. 434, ad 1284

a Muslim, pp. 1268, ad 2319

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44.


Sayyidun Jarr   >    * B
 ( has narrated that the Beloved and

Blessed Prophet          )   *
  said, The one who does not
show mercy is not treated with mercy. And the one who does
not forgive is not forgiven.1

45.


Sayyidun Jarr   >    *
 ( has reported that the Holy Prophet
B


        ) 
  *
  said, The one who does not have mercy on
those on the earth is not treated with mercy by the Owner of
the sky.2

46.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Masd   >    * B
 ( has reported that

the Most Dignified Prophet          )  *
  said, Show mercy
to those on earth, the Owner of sky will have mercy on you.3

47.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >     *
 ( narrated that he
B

heard the Beloved Prophet          )   *
  saying, Show mercy;
youll be treated with mercy. Forgive; you will be forgiven.4

48.


Sayyidun Sal Bin Sad   >     *
 ( stated that a woman once
B

came to the Holy Prophet          )  *
  for the fulfilment of
her need but she found no place near the Holy Prophet
         )
  * 
 . Seeing this, a companion stood up letting her
sit where he was sitting. Her need was then fulfilled. The Noble

Prophet          )  *
  enquired from the companion, Why
did you do so? The companion said, I had mercy on her.

After listening to this, the Holy Prophet          )  *
  said,
5
May Allah      have mercy on you!

Attarghb Wattarb, vol. 3, pp. 154, ad 3448

Attarghb Wattarb, vol. 3, pp. 154, ad 3451

Muannaf Ibn Ab Shayba, vol. 6, pp. 94, ad 10

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 5, pp. 449, ad 7236

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 6, pp. 161, ad 5854

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49.

14


Sayyidun Qurra   >    *B
 ( narrated that a person said to the

Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *
  : Y Raslall

         )
  *
  ! I have mercy on the goat when I slaughter it.



The Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, Allah      will have
1
mercy on you if you have mercy on the goat.

THE EXCELLENCE OF CONTROLLING ONES ANGER


50.


Sayyidun Anas Juan   >     *
 ( narrated that the Holy
B

Prophet          )   *
  said, The one who suppresses his
anger despite being able to vent it, Allah      will call him
before all the people on the Day of Judgement and let him
choose whichever of the maidens of Paradise he desires.2

51.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    
B
 ( narrated that the
Beloved and Blessed Rasl          )   *   said, Swallowing
anything is not greater than swallowing ones anger for the
pleasure of Allah      .3

52.


Sayyidun Anas   >    *
 ( narrated that the Holy Prophet
B

         )
   *
  was going past some people who were wrestling.

The Prophet of Rama          )   *
  enquired, What is



going on? They said, Y Raslall        )  *


  ! So-and-so
is a very strong man. He defeats everyone! The Holy Prophet

         )
  *
  said, Shall I not tell you who is even stronger
than him? If the person who is oppressed by someone,
swallows his anger and controls himself; he dominates his
own satan and that of the other.4

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 5, pp. 304, ad 15592

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, Kitb iffat-ul-Qiyma, vol. 4, pp. 222, ad 2501

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 4, pp. 222, ad 2501

Musnad-ul-Bazzr, vol. 2, pp. 345, ad 7676

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53.


Sayyidun Anas   >    * B
 ( narrated that the Prophet of

Rama, the Intercessor of Umma          )  *
  said, Are
you not able to become Ab umum? The companions

  > 
  
 

B
 ( asked, Who is Ab umum? The Noble Prophet

         ) 
  *
  said, This is the person who says in the early


( i.e. O Allah      ! I

morning:

bequeath my life and respect. Hence, he would not answer


back to the person swearing at him; he would not oppress his
oppressor and he would not hit the one who hits him.1
54.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Abbs -   >    
 B
 ( has said in

exegesis of the verse ( i.e. and those who swallow

their anger2), It implies that someone misbehaves you and


you are able to answer back but still you suppress your anger
and do not answer back.

THE EXCELLENCE OF FORGIVING OTHERS


55.


Sayyidun Anas   >    *
 ( narrated that the Merciful Prophet
B
         ) 
  *  
 said, On the Judgement Day when people
would be standing in wait for accountability, an announcer
would say, The one whose reward is due on Allahs
benevolence, stand up and enter Paradise. The announcer
would say for the second time, The one whose reward is due
on Allahs benevolence, stand up. People would ask, Who is
he whose reward is due on the benevolence of Allah      ? The
announcer would say, Those who would forgive others.
Thus, countless people would stand and enter Paradise without
accountability.3

Jmi-ul-Ad lis Suy, vol. 3, pp. 410, ad 9447

Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran); Part 4, Sra l-e-Imrn, verse 134


Attarghb Wattarb, vol. 3, pp. 211, ad 17

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56.


Sayyidun Uqba Bin mir   >    * B
 ( reported that the

Holy Prophet          )   *
  once held my hand and said,
O Uqba! Shall I not tell you about the good manners of
people of the world and the Hereafter? I respectfully said, Yes

please! Then he          )  *
  said, Keep relationship with
him who severs relation with you, give to him who deprives
you and forgive him who oppresses you.1

57.


Sayyidun Ubayy Bin Kab   >    *
 ( narrated that the Holy
B
Prophet          )   *   said, One who likes that a palace be
built for him in Paradise and his ranks be raised, should
forgive the one who oppresses him, bestow upon the one who
deprives him and keep relation with the one who severs
relationship with him.2

58.

Sayyidun Ab Abdull Jadl  .  


 ' - , (     narrated that he
asked Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa

 > 
   
 

 B
 ( about the good manners of the Beloved Mustafa
         ) 
  *  
  *  
 . She replied, He          ) 
 was not a
talker of bad things nor a wrong doer. Neither did he holler
in the markets nor was he an avenger but the Noble Prophet
3

         )
  *
  was forgiving and tolerant.

59.


Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >  
   

B
 (

has reported that the Noble Prophet          )  *
  has never
hit anyone except Jihad and neither did he retaliate for personal

reasons. However, the Beloved Prophet          )   *
  did take
revenge, for Allah      , on the one who committed the deeds
declared arm by Allah      . When the Noble Prophet


  
         ) 
  *
  *
  was asked for something, he      ) 
 

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 17, pp. 269, ad 739

Al-Mustadrak, Kitb-ut-Tafsr, vol. 3, pp. 12, ad 3215

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 409, ad 2023

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did not refuse. But the Holy Prophet          )   *   forbade

the acts causing sins because the Holy Prophet          )  *
 
kept away from people in such matters. If there were two

alternatives given, the Noble Prophet          )   *
  always
1
adopted the easier one.
60.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( reported that the Holy
B

Prophet          )   *
  has said, On the Day of Judgement,
Allah      will forgive the sins of the person who forgives the
mistake of a repentant person.2

61.


Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >  
   

B
 (

has reported that the Prophet of Rama          )  *
  has
said, Forgive the mistakes of those who are considerate towards
you unless they deserve punishment as per the Shara (Islamic
Sacred Law).3

62.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >     
 B
 ( has stated, Do
not punish those who are considerate towards you if they are
righteous.4

63.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    * B
 ( reported that the Beloved

Mustafa          )  *
  has said, adaqa [charity] does not
decrease wealth at all. Allah      heightens the respect of the
one who forgives. And Allah      bestows elevation on the
one who shows humility for Allah      .5

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 9, pp. 451, ad 25039

Musnad-ul-Bazzr, vol. 2, pp. 477, ad 8967

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 9, pp. 544, ad 2553

Fay-ul-Qadr, vol. 3, pp. 299, ad 3233

a Muslim, pp. 1397, ad 2588

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64.

Sayyidun Marwn Bin Jin   


   
 ' &
  ( has said, The
world exists on the fact that someone forgives the one who
misbehaves.1

65.

Sayyidun Maysira Bin albas   


   
 ' &
  ( has said, Good
tidings to the one who renders the right where people do not
know how to give right. Thus, Allah      bestows the awareness
of His pleasure upon him. It is such a time that only the one
who maintains anonymity can get absolution. Their hearts
are luminous lamps in the darkness. Allah      opens the
doors of Paradise for them and spares them from the ordeal
of every dusty and dark place.

THE EXCELLENCE OF BEING A


WELL-WISHER TO THE MUSLIMS
66.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    
 B
 ( narrated that

Holy Prophet          )   *
  has said, Dn refers to wellwishing (to act whole-heartedly upon the commandments of

Shara). The companions   >    
 B
 ( said, Y Raslall


  
         )
  *
  *
  ! Towards whom? He      )
  replied,
Towards Allah      , to His Book, to His Prophets, to the
Imm of the Muslims and towards ordinary Mu`minn (true
believers).2

67.


B
Sayyidun Anas   >    *
 ( narrated that the Prophet of


Rama          )  *
  has said, Mu`minn are well-wishers
and affectionate towards one another no matter if they live in
different cities. Whereas, hypocrites cheat each other even if
they live in the same cities.3

Trkh Madna Dimashq li Ibn Askir, vol. 18, pp. 84, Raqm 2157

a Muslim, pp. 47, ad 55


Attarghb Wattarb, vol. 2, pp. 361, ad 12

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68.


Sayyidun Bakr Bin Abdull Muzan   >     * B
 ( said, If I
entered a crowded Masjid and someone asked me as to who
the best person among them were; I would first ask the
questioner, Do you know the well-wishing person among
them? If he knew him, then I would say, He is the best of all.
I also know that the person deceiving them is the worst of all.
I am afraid, their best person may indulge in making mischief
and I am also optimistic that their worse person may become
pious.

69.


Sayyidun Anas   >    *
 ( narrated that the Most Blessed
B

Prophet          )   *
  has said, None of you can become a
true believer (Mu`min) unless he likes for his brother what
he likes for himself.1

70.


Sayyidun Mu   >    *
 ( asked the Prophet of mankind,
B
the Peace of our heart and mind, the most Generous and
 
Kind          )   *
 about perfect faith. The Beloved







Prophet      )   *   said, The perfect faith implies that
you have love and hold a grudge only for the sake of Allah

     and make ikrull in abundance. He   > 
   *
 
 ( then
B

requested, Y Raslall          )   *
  ! And afterwards?

The Holy Prophet          )   *
  said, Like for people what
you like for yourself, and dislike for people what you dislike
for yourself and speak good or maintain silence.2

a Muslim, pp. 42, ad 45

Al-Musnad Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 8, pp. 266, ad 22193

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EXCELLENCE OF PURITY OF HEART AND


REFRAINING FROM MALICE AGAINST MUSLIMS
71.


Sayyidun Ab Sad Khudr   >     *
 ( has narrated that the
B
Beloved Prophet          )   *   said, The Abdl of my
Umma will not enter Paradise merely because of their
righteous deeds. But rather they will enter Paradise due to the
mercy of Allah      , generosity of Nafs, purity of heart and
due to being merciful to all Muslims.1

72.


Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( has narrated that he and
B

other companions   >    
 B
 ( were present in the blessed

court of the Holy Prophet          )  *
  . The Noble Prophet
         )
  * 
 said, Through this way, a person deserving of
Paradise will come to you. Meanwhile, an Anr companion
came with his beard dripping with water of Wu and holding

his shoes in his left hand. He   >    *
 ( then made Salm. On
B

the second day, the Noble Prophet          )   *
  told the
same news again and the same Anr companion came. On
the third day the same thing happened.

After the Beloved Prophet          )   *
  left, Sayyidun

Abdull Bin Amr   >     * B
 ( followed the same companion
and said to him, By Allah      ! I have a matter with my
father and I will not go to him for three days, kindly allow me
to stay with you for three days if it is reasonable. The Anr

companion consented to the request. Sayyidun Anas   >     *
 (
B

said: Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >    *
 ( said to me, I
B
stayed three nights with him but I did not witness him doing

any worship at night. However, when he   >     *
 ( tossed
B
and turned, he would invoke ikrull until he would get up

Kanz-ul-Umml, vol. 12, pp. 85, ad 34596

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to perform alt-ul-Fajr. Sayyidun Abdull   >    *B
 ( said
that he did not listen anything from the Anr companion

  > 
  *
 
 ( apart from good. When the three days passed, I
B
was very likely to deem his deeds insignificant but I told the
Anr companion, O bondman of Allah (     )! I am not
really angry with my father nor have I abandoned him but I

heard the Holy Prophet          )  *
  saying thrice A Jannat
(i.e. a person deserving of Paradise) will come to you now and
you were the one who came all three times. I, therefore, firmly
determined to stay with you to observe what you do so that I
could follow you. But I did not see you doing any major worship.
So how did you attain such a high rank that the Beloved and

Blessed Prophet          )  *
  praised you in this way?

The Anr companion   >    *
 ( said, There is no deed
B
other than the one you have witnessed. Sayyidun Abdull

  > 
  *
 
 ( said, Listening to this, I was about to return when
B
the Anr companion called me and said, I have no deed other
than one you have witnessed but I have no grudge in my heart
against any Muslim nor am I jealous of what Allah      has

granted to others. Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >    *
 (
B
said: I said to him, These are the very virtuous deeds, due to
which you are ranked high, whereas we are unable to do that.1

73.


Sayyidun Muwiya Bin Qurra   >    *
 ( has stated, The
B
best among people is the one who has a purified heart and
refrains from backbiting the most.2

74.


Sayyidun Kab   >     * B
 ( was asked, How would a sleeping
person get forgiveness and a al-offering person earn

Al-Muannaf li Abdur Razzq, vol. 10, pp. 260, ad 4944

Al-Muannaf li Ibn Ab Shayba, vol. 8, pp. 4944, ad 8

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gratitude? He   >    *B
 ( said, A person offers al standing
at night and makes Du for his sleeping-brother, in his
absence. Allah      grants forgiveness to his sleeping-brother
due to his Du. And due to well-wishing for his sleeping
brother, the person standing in al deserves to be thanked.

THE EXCELLENCE OF MEDIATION


75.


It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab Dard   >    *
 ( that the
B

Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, Shall I not tell you about
a virtuous deed that is better than al, fasting and adaqa
(charity) in respect of the level of reward? The companions

  >  
  
 B
 ( said, Why not! The Prophet of Rama, the

Intercessor of Umma          )   *
  said, Improve your
relation with each other because disunity causes damage to
the religion.1

EXCELLENCE OF FULFILLING RIGHTS


76.


Sayyidun Anas   >    * B
 ( narrated that the Holy Prophet

         )
  *
  said, Whosoever fulfils a right with his tongue,
his reward will continue to increase until Allah      grants
him his full reward on the Day of Judgement.2

THE EXCELLENCE OF HELPING THE OPPRESSED


77.


Sayyidun Bar` Bin zib   >    *
 ( narrated that the Beloved
B
3

Prophet          )  *
  has ordered us to help the oppressed.

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 228, ad 2517

ilya-tul-Awliy, Raqm 399, vol. 8, pp. 192, ad 11851

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 369, ad 2818

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78.


Sayyidun Anas   >    * B
 ( stated that the Beloved and Blessed

Rasl          )  *
  said, Help your brother whether he is an
oppressor or an oppressed. I said, I can help an oppressed, but

how can I help an oppressor? The Holy Prophet          )   *
 
1
said, Prevent him from oppression.

PREVENTING AN OPPRESSOR FROM OPPRESSION


79.


Sayyidun Qays Bin Ab zim   >     
 B
 ( stated that he
listened to Amr-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidun Ab Bakr iddq

  > 
  *
 
 ( saying: O people, you all recite this verse:
B

 
 
0B C!   @A ( ?2  #7 ? #?
      
./+B N? L M & JK ( $ 0 GH I ? F E/0B C 4D
O believers! Take care of yourselves. He who has gone astray
will not harm you when you are on the right way.
[Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran)] (Part 5, Sra An-Nis, verse 64)

(Then he   >    *
 ( said) I have heard the Prophet of Rama,
B

the Intercessor of Umma, the Owner of Janna          )   *
 
saying, When people see the oppressor and do not stop him
from oppression, then they all will be tormented by Allah     
soon.2

80.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >    *
 ( narrated that the
B

Beloved Prophet          )   *
  said, If you witness my

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 112, ad 2262

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, Kitb-ut-Tafsr, vol. 5, pp. 41, ad 3068

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Umma respecting an oppressor, and you declare an oppressor


to be the oppressor, this will make you apart from them.1

PREVENT YOUR NAVE


81.


Sayyidun Numn Bin Bashr   >     *B
 ( narrated that the Holy

Prophet          )  *
  said, Keep on preventing your nave
(inexperienced young people lacking in understanding2).3

THE EXCELLENCE OF HELPING MUSLIMS


TO CATER FOR THEIR NEEDS

82.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    
B
 ( narrated that the

Holy Prophet          )   *
  said, There are some people
who Allah      has created to cater for the needs of others.
People approach them when they are in need. These are the
very people who will be safe from the torment of Allah     
on the Judgement Day.4

83.


Sayyidun Sal Bin Sad   >    *
 ( narrated that the Merciful
B




Prophet          )   *
  said, Allah      has the treasures of
good and bad (i.e. good and evil) whereas their keys are human
beings. The good news is for the one who Allah      has made
like a key to good and a lock on evil, and the bad news is for
the one who was made like a key to evil and a lock on good.5

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 2, pp. 621, ad 6798

Commenting on this ad, Sayyidun Allma Abdur Raf Munw  .  


 ' - , (    
has stated, The guardian has been addressed that he should prevent his nave
dependents from extravagance. (Fay-ul-Qadr lil Munw, vol. 3, pp. 579, Tat Al-ad 3894)
2

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 92, ad 7577

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 12, pp. 274, ad 13334

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 6, pp. 150, ad 5812

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84.


Sayyidun Ibn Abbs -   >     
 B
 ( narrated that the Noble



Prophet          )   *
  has said that Allah      says, I am
Rab. I have made good and evil predestined. Good news is for
the one who has the key to good and bad news is for the one
who has the key to evil.1

85.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Beloved
B

and Blessed Prophet          )  *
  has said, The person who
removes difficulty and trouble from a Mu`min, Allah      will
create for him two such portions of Nr (light) on the ir
bridge which will provide light to numerous creatures that no
one other than Allah      knows their number.2

86.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Noble
B

Prophet          )   *
  said, Anyone who eases the worldly
suffering of a Muslim, Allah      will ease his trouble on the
Judgement Day. And the person who hides the faults of a
Muslim, Allah      will hide his faults in the world as well as
in the Hereafter, and Allah      keeps helping him as long as
he keeps helping his Muslim brother.3

87.


It is narrated by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( that the
B

Beloved Prophet          )   *
  said, Creation is nourished
by Allah      and the most beloved to Allah      among His
creation is the one who benefits His creation the most.4

88.


Sayyidun Anas   >    *
 ( narrated that the Prophet of Rama,
B

the Intercessor of Umma          )   *
  said, Whosoever

Ad-Dur-rul-Manr, vol. 5, pp. 622, Sra Al-Anbiy, Tat Al-ya 21

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 3, pp. 254, ad 4505

a Muslim, pp. 1447, ad 2699

Al-Musnad li Ab Yal, vol. 3, pp. 232, ad 3465

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fulfils his Muslim brothers need, it is as if he worshipped


Allah      throughout his life.1
89.


Sayyidun Ab Ms Ashar   >    *
 ( narrated that the Holy
B

Prophet          )  *
  said, A Mu`min for another Mu`min
is like a building, some portion of which supports the other.2

90.


Sayyidun Numn Bin Bashr   >    *
 ( narrated that the
B
Prophet of mankind, the Peace of our heart and mind, the most

Generous and Kind          )  *
  said, The example of the
Mu`minns mercy, love and kindness to kith and kin is like a
body. When one of its parts gets hurt, the whole body is
feverish and restless.3

Sayyidun Sulaymn Bin Amad abarn  .  


 ' - , (    
  ' & ( was blessed with the vision of the
narrated that he  )  *


Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *
  in a dream and
enquired about the aforementioned ad, the Noble Prophet

         )
  *
  said three times whilst pointing with his blessed
hand, This is correct.
91.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    * B
 ( narrated that a person

asked the Beloved Mustafa          )   *
  , Y Raslall

         )
  *
  ! Which deed is most rewarding? The Beloved

Prophet          )   *
  said, Making your Muslim brother
happy or paying his debt or giving food to him.4

92.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Holy
B

Prophet          )  *
  said: A Mu`min is like a mirror for a
Mu`min. A Mu`min is a brother to a Mu`min. Wherever he

Al-Firdaus Bi-Mr-ul-Khab, vol. 2, pp. 286, ad 6111

a Bukhr, vol. 2, pp. 127, ad 2446

Shar-us-Sunna lil Baghw, vol. 6, pp. 453, ad 3353

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 123, ad 7678

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meets his brother, he protect him from harm and safeguards


him in his absence.1
93.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    
 B
 ( reported that

once the Prophet of Rama          )  *
  asked the blessed

companions  >    
B
 ( : Tell me about the tree that resembles
a Muslim man. Its leaves do not fall and it bears fruit all the
time following the command of Rab      . Sayyidun Abdull

Bin Umar -   >    
 B
 ( stated that a thought struck my mind
that it was of course a date palm tree but in the presence of
Amr-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidun Ab Bakr iddq and Amr-ul
Mu`minn Sayyidun Umar Frq -  >    
B
 ( , I did not find
it suitable to speak up. When both of them did not speak, the
2

Holy Prophet          )  *
  himself told, It is a date palm tree.

94.


It is narrated by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( that
B

the Beloved Prophet          )   *
  said, Whoever offers
hospitality to a Mu`min or helps him satisfy his needs, he will
be bestowed servants in Paradise by the grace of Allah      .3

THE EXCELLENCE OF REMOVING


SOMEONES WORRY
95.


Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( reported that the Beloved
B


and Blessed Rasl         )  *
  said, Undoubtedly, helping
worried people is liked by Allah      .4

96.


Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( reported that the Blessed
B
Prophet          )   *   said: The one who helps a grieved

Sunan Ab Dwd, vol. 4, pp. 365, ad 4918

Musnad-ul-Bazzr, vol. 2, pp. 236, ad 5714

ilya-tul-Awliy, vol. 3, pp. 62, ad 3173

Al-Musnad li Ab Yal, vol. 3, pp. 452, ad 428

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person, Allah      writes 73 virtues for him. Through one
virtue Allah      makes his world and Hereafter better. The
rest of virtues cause high ranks for him.1
97.


Sayyidun Ab Sad Khudr   >    *
 ( has narrated that once
B
we were travelling with the Noble Prophet          )   *  when
a person riding on a very weak animal came and he started

turning his ride left and right. The Holy Prophet          )  *
 
said, The one who has an extra (animal) ride, should give it
to the one who has no (animal) ride and the one who has
leftover food, should give it to the one who has no food.
Similarly, different kinds of things were mentioned; at last,
we realized that no one had the right to keep the leftover.2

98.


Sayyidun Ab ar Ghifr   >    *
 ( has reported: I asked the
B


  
Noble Prophet          )   *
  *
  , Y Raslall      )
  !
Which deed will lead a bondman to freedom from Hell? The



Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, Have faith in Allah      .
I asked, Is there any specific deed to carry out in addition to

having faith? The Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, Keep
giving something in charity from the sustenance given by
Allah      . I said, If he is poor and finds nothing to give in

charity, then? The Blessed Prophet          )   *
  said, He
should call others towards righteousness and prevent them

from misdeeds. I said, Y Raslall          )  *
  ! What if
he is not able to speak with eloquence for calling others to
righteousness and forbidding them from misdeeds, then?
The Prophet of Rama          )   *   said, He should do
some good to an ignorant person. I again asked, If he is
himself an ignorant person and cannot do any good to

Al-Musnad li Ab Yal, vol. 3, pp. 445, ad 425

Sunan Ab Dwd, vol. 2, pp. 175, ad 1663

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others, then? The Beloved Prophet          )   *   said, He
should help some miserable person. The Holy Prophet

         ) 
  *
  then said, Do you not want your brother to
have some merit that removes pain from people? I said, Y

Raslall          )   *
  ! Will the person doing so enter
 
Paradise? The Merciful Prophet          )   *
 said,

Anyone, whether a Mu`min or a Muslim adopts one of these
characteristics, I will hold his arm and take him to Paradise.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF SUPPORTING THE WEAK


99.


It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( that
B

the Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, The one who attempts
to provide for a widow or a poor person is like a Mujid
(warrior) who fights in the path of Allah      .2


100. It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( that the
B

Noble Prophet          )  *
  said, The one who attempts to
provide for a widow or a poor person is like a Mujid
(warrior) who fights in the path of Allah      or he is like that
person who observes fast during the day and stands in worship
in the night.3

101.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Holy Prophet
B
         ) 
  *  
 said, The one who digs a grave (for a dead
Muslim), Allah      will grant him a house in Paradise and
he will keep on getting its reward till the Judgement Day. The
one who gives bath to the dead body of a Muslim, will be as
clean from his sins as he was on the day when his mother gave

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 2, pp. 156, ad 165

a Bukhr, vol. 3, pp. 511, ad 5353

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 3, pp. 275, ad 874

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birth to him. The one who shrouds a dead body of a Muslim,


Allah      will confer heavenly clothes on him equal to the
number of deceased persons clothes. The one who consoles a
grieved person, Allah      will make him wear the attire [i.e.
clothing] of piety and (when he dies) his soul will be blessed
among other souls.
The one who solaces a troubled person, Allah      will grant
him two such heavenly robes that even the whole world cannot
be their price. The person who follows the bier till the burial is
completed, Allah      will write three Qr in reward for him
and one Qr is bigger than the Uud mountain. The one who
provides for an orphan or a widow, Allah      will give him a
place under the shade of His Arsh and grant him Paradise.
The one who observes fast or gives food to the poor and follows
a funeral procession and visits a patient, sin will not reach him.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF PROVIDING


FOR THE ORPHANS

102. It is narrated by Sayyidun Sufyn Bin Uyayna   


   
' &
  ( :

The Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *
  said, I and
the person who provides for an orphan, no matter the orphan
is a relative or a stranger, will be in Paradise like this. Then
Sayyidun Sufyn Bin Uyayna   
   
 ' &
  ( made a gesture
2
with his fingers, [indicating closeness].

103. It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    * B
 ( that the

Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, The best home among the
houses of the Muslims is the one in which the orphan is treated

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 6, pp. 429, ad 9292

Al-Adab-ul-Mufrid, pp. 58, ad 133

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well, and the worst home amongst the houses of the Muslims

is the one in which the orphan is ill-treated. He          )   *
 
then said, I and the one who provides for an orphan will be

like this in Paradise. And the Beloved Prophet          )  *
 
put his index and middle fingers together [to show closeness].1

104. Sayyidun Ab Ms Ashar   >    *
 ( has narrated that the
B

Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, Satan does not come near
the dining-mat, at which an orphan is present.2

105. It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    * B
 ( that the

Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, By the One Who sent
me with the truth! On the Judgement Day, Allah      will
not torment the person who is merciful to the orphan and
treats him with kindness and is merciful to him because of
his orphanage and vulnerability. And he does not show his
arrogance to his neighbour due to the wealth bestowed on
him by the grace of Allah      .3

106. Sayyidun Ab Umma   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Holy
B
Prophet          )   *   said, The one who strokes the head
of an orphan, Allah      rewards him with one virtue for each
hair and the one who provides for an orphan girl or an orphan
boy whether they are his relatives or strangers, so he and I will

be in Paradise like this. The Blessed Prophet          )   *
 
4
then put his thumb and index finger together.

107. Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( has narrated that a person
B

complained to the Noble Prophet          )   *
  about the

Al-Adab-ul-Mufrid, pp 58, ad 137

Majma-uz-Zawid, vol. 8, pp. 293, ad 13512

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 6, pp. 296, ad 8828

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 7, pp. 472, ad 11036

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hardness of his heart, so the Holy Prophet          )  *  said,
If you want your heart to be softened, then feed the Maskn
and stroke the orphans heads affectionately.1

108. Sayyidun Mlik Bin Amr Qushayr   >    *
 ( has narrated
B

that the Merciful Prophet          )   *
  said, The one who
provides for an orphan Muslim till the orphan is self-sufficient,
Allah      surely makes Paradise Wjib for him.2

109. Sayyidun Jabr Anr   


   
' &
  ( has reported from his father
that once a boy saw the Holy Prophet          )  *  in Masjid

and said, Y Raslall          )  *
  ! Peace be upon you! I
am an orphan boy and I have a poor and dependent mother.
Whatever Allah      has bestowed on you, kindly give us a
little out of that! Allah      wants your pleasure till you are
pleased. The Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor of Umma,

the Owner of Janna          )   *
  replied, O boy! Repeat
what you have said, as you talk like an angel. The boy repeated
what he had said. Then the Beloved Prophet          )   *  
said, Bring whatever is available in the house of l-e-Rasl.
Therefore, food grain was brought which was more than a

handful but less than two. The Noble Prophet          )   *
 
said, O boy! Take this. It has two times meal for you, your
mother and your sister. I will keep helping you by praying to
bless this meal.
The boy left and reached the gate of Masjid where he came

across Sayyidun Sad Bin Ab Waq   >    *
 ( who stroke
B
his head affectionately. The narrator said that it is not known

whether he gave him something or not. When he   >    *
 (
B
1

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 7, pp. 472, ad 11034

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 19, pp. 300, ad 669

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was present before the Holy Prophet          )   *   , the

Most Blessed Prophet          )   *
  said, When you met
the orphan boy, did I not see you stroking his head with

affection? Sayyidun Sad Bin Ab Waq   >    *
 ( said,
B

Why not! The Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, Each hair
you touched on his head will bring you a reward.
We have learnt from this ad that stroking the head of an
orphan is Mustaab.

THE EXCELLENCE OF UPBRINGING & SPENDING ON


ORPHAN CHILDREN TILL THEY ARE GROWNUP

110.

It is narrated by Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha



iddqa  >  
   

 B
 ( that the Prophet of Rama, the

Intercessor of Umma          )  *
  has said, The one who
9 9 , then he will
fosters a child until he is able to say
not be held accountable by Allah      .1 2

THE EXCELLENCE OF GOOD MANNERS


111.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Yazd Kham   >    *
 ( has narrated
B

that the Beloved and Blessed Rasl          )   *
  has said,
3
Every good act is adaqa (charity).

Commenting on this ad, Sayyidun Allma Abdur Raf Munw  .  


 ' - , (    
has said, This ad refers to all children in general whether they are orphans or
offspring of oneself or those of anyone else. (Fay-ul-Qadr, vol. 6, pp. 174, Tat Al-ad, 8696)
1

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 3, pp. 370, ad 4865

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 6, pp. 454, ad 18766

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112.


Sayyidun Abdull Bin Masd   >    * B
 ( narrated that the

Holy Prophet          )   *
  has said, Every goodness is
adaqa whether done to a rich or to a poor.1

113.


Sayyidun Ab Ms Ashar   >    *
 ( has narrated that the
B
Prophet of mankind, the Peace of our heart and mind, the

most Generous and Kind          )  *
  said, Good and evil
are created for human being. Both will be made to stand on
the Judgement Day. The good deed will give good news to its
doers and will promise the goodness, whereas the evil deed
will say to its doers, Stay away! But they will not be able to
do so and will cling to their evil deed.2

114.


It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( that the
B

Most Dignified Prophet          )  *
  said, The people doing
righteous deeds in the world will also be upright people in the
Hereafter and the people doing evil deed in the world will be
evil in Hereafter.3

115.


It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( that the
B
Noble Prophet          )   *   said, Do you know what a
lion says at the time of roaring? The blessed companions


 

  > 
  
 B
  *
 
 ( said, Allah      and His Prophet      ) 
 

know the best. The Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )  *
 
said, The lion says: O Allah  1    ! Inflict me not upon a
righteous person!4

116.


Sayyidun Jbir Bin Abdull   >    *
 ( narrated the Beloved
B

Prophet          )   *
  as saying, If charity passes through

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 10, pp. 90, ad 10047

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 7, pp. 123, ad 19504

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 1, pp. 156, ad 156

Al-Firdaus Bi-Mr-ul-Khab, vol. 1, pp. 297, ad 2155

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70 thousand hands, its reward for the last person would be


equal to that of the first person giving charity.1
117.


Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( reported the Holy Prophet
B

         ) 
  *
  as saying, Every day after the sunrise, each
joint of the human body owes adaqa. If you make a just
decision between two persons, it is adaqa. If you help
someone mount his ride, it is also adaqa. If you help
someone load his luggage on a ride, it is also adaqa. Saying
something good is also adaqa. Every step taken to perform
al is also adaqa. And removing troublesome thing from
the path is also adaqa.2

118.


Sayyidun Ubayy Bin Kab   >    *
 ( has narrated that the
B

Prophet of Rama          )   *
  passed by me while I

was with a person. The Great Prophet          )   *
  said,
O Ubayy! Who is this? I said, He is my debtor. I am asking

him to pay my debt. The Noble Prophet          )  *
  said,
O Ubayy! Treat him in a good manner. Saying this, the Holy

Prophet          )   *
  left. When the Beloved and Blessed

Prophet          )   *
  passed by me again, the person was not

with me. The Noble Prophet          )  *
  asked, O Ubayy!
How did you behave with your brother who owes you? I said,

Y Raslall          )   *
  ! He was not able to pay the
debt. So I have forgiven one third of my debt for Allahs sake,
one third for your sake and the rest one third for the belief of
monotheism I have been blessed with. The Noble Prophet
         ) 
  *  
 (happily) said three times, May Allah     
have mercy on you, we are ordained to do the same.

Al-Firdaus Bi-Mr-ul-Khab, vol. 2, pp. 199, ad 5128

a Muslim, pp. 504, ad 1009

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Then the Prophet of Rama          )  *  said, O Ubayy!
Undoubtedly, Allah  1    has created some people among
human beings to do righteous deeds. Righteousness and good
deeds are their favourites. The attainment of righteousness
had been made easy for those who were keen to do righteous
deeds and they were showered with blessings. Hence the
example of the desirous of virtues is like the rain which
Allah  1    showers upon barren and drought-affected land,
blessing the earth and its habitants with life. Without doubt,
Allah  1    has also created the enemies of goodness among
human beings. Goodness and the good deeds were made hateful
to them. They were restrained from seeking righteousness.
Their example is like the rain which Allah  1    stopped
showering on barren and drought-affected land, causing the
earth and its habitants to be doomed.1

EXCELLENCE OF DOING GOOD DEEDS


119.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Beloved
B



Prophet          )  *
  said: Allah      has sent me to teach
the most excellent example of best manners and good deeds.2


B
120. Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Noble

Prophet          )   *   has said: Indeed, Allah      likes
good and noble deeds, and dislikes evil deeds.3

121.


Sayyidun Umn Ibn Affn   >    *
 ( has narrated that the
B

Holy Prophet          )   *
  has said: There are 117 good

Al-Mawsa li Ibn Abid Duny, vol. 4, pp. 141, ad 4

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 5, pp. 153, ad 6705

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 241, ad 8012

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manners before Allah      . The person who adopts any one
of them, Allah      will indeed grant him the Paradise.1

122. Sayyidun Ab Sad Khudr   >     *
 ( has narrated that the
B

Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, There is a Lau [a type
of sacred tablet] before Allah      on which 315 manners
are inscribed. Allah      says: The one who acts upon any
one of them and does not associate partner with Me, I will
grant him Paradise.2

123. It is narrated that the Beloved Prophet          )   *   said,
There are 333 characteristics of faith (mn). Whosoever acts
upon even one of them will enter Paradise.3

CONDEMNATION OF OPPRESSING A MUSLIM



124. It is narrated by Sayyidun Uqba Bin mir   >    * B
 ( that

the Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, When you see that
Allah      is bestowing favours upon a bondman despite
his sins, then this is a respite for him from Allah      . He

         )
  *
  then recited the following verse:


  B B B


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Musnad Ab Dwd iyls, Al-Juz-ul-Awwal, pp. 14, ad: Umn Bin Affn

Umda-tul-Qr Shara a Bukhr, vol. 1, pp. 196, Tat Al-ad 9

Marifat-u-aba li Ab Nam, vol. 3, pp. 328, Raqm 1943, Ubayd Ab Abdur


Ramn, ad 4806

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Then when they forget that with which they were admonished.
We opened unto them the gates of all things, until when they
became delighted at what they were given, then We seized them
suddenly, now they were left in despair. Then the root of the
unjust was cut off; and all praise belongs to Allah, the Rab of
all the worlds.1
[Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran)] (Part 7, Sra Al-Anm, verse 44, 45)

125. Sayyidun Ammr Bin Ysir   >    *
 ( has said, To become
B
disappointed with the blessings of Allah      , to give up hope
of getting help from Him and to become unafraid of His
hidden plan are indeed major sins.2

126. It is narrated by Sayyidun Khuzayma Bin bit   >    *
 (
B

that the Most Beloved Prophet          )   *
  said, Refrain
from the curse of the oppressed, as it is listened above the skies
and Allah      says: (O oppressed!) By My majesty and
Honour! I will help you indeed, although, with a short delay.3

127. Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( said that the Prophet of
B
Rama, the Intercessor of Umma, the Owner of the Janna

         ) 
  *
  said, Refrain from the curse of the oppressed
even if he is an unbeliever because his unbelief is with his
own being.4

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 6, pp. 122, ad 17313

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 2, pp. 20, ad 105

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 4, pp. 84, ad 3718

Attarghb Wattarb, vol. 3, pp. 142, ad 3415

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128. Sayyidun Jbir   >     *B
 ( has narrated that the Blessed Rasl

         ) 
  *
  said, Cruelty will be darkness on the Day of
Judgement.1

129. Sayyidun Ibn Abbs   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Holy
B



Prophet          )   *
  said, Your Rab      says, By My
Majesty and Honour! I will take revenge on oppressor sooner
or later and I will also take revenge on the one who found an
oppressed but did not help him despite having ability to do so.2

EXCELLENCE OF MAKING PERMISSIBLE


RECOMMENDATION FOR A MUSLIM BROTHER

130. Sayyidun Ab Ms Ashar   >    *
 ( narrated that Raslull
B

         )
  *
  said, When a needy comes, intercede for him
so that you get reward; and Allah      will have whatever
decision He      wants be pronounced by the tongue of His
 3
Prophet          )  *
  .

131.


Sayyidun Samura Bin Jundab   >    * B
 ( has narrated that

the Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, The nicest charity is

the charity of the tongue. The blessed companions  >    
B
 (

asked, Y Raslall          )   *
  ! What is meant by the

charity of the tongue? He          )   *
  replied, Your
intercession whereby you get a prisoner freed, save someones
life and convey good to your brother and remove any trouble
from him.4

a Muslim, pp. 1394, ad 2578

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 1, pp. 20, ad 36

a Bukhr, vol. 1, pp. 483, ad 1432

Shuab-ul-mn, vol. 6, pp. 124, ad 7683-7683

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132. Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >  
   

B
 (

has narrated that the Most Dignified Prophet          )  *
 
said, The one who approaches the king about a good deed of
his Muslim brother or about easing his trouble, Allah     
will help him on the day when his steps would be wobbling in
crossing the ir bridge.1

133.


Sayyidun Ab Sad Khudr   >    *
 ( narrated that the
B

Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *
  said, It is a big
Jihad (holy war) to speak the truth before a cruel ruler.2

THE EXCELLENCE OF HELPING A MUSLIM


AND PROTECTING HIS HONOUR

134. Sayyidun Ab Dard   >    *
 ( narrated that the Noble Prophet
B

         ) 
  *
  said, Whoever protects the honour of his
Muslim brother will be protected by Allah      from hellfire

on the Day of Judgement. The Holy Prophet          )   *
 
then recited the following verse:

^

B B

=dp:  Q A o  H nB D #Q !  #g1 b#
V
And it is incumbent upon Our mercy, to help the Muslims.3
[Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran)] (Part 21, Sra Ar-Rm, verse 47)

135. Sayyidun Imrn Bin an   >    *
 ( narrated that the Noble
B

Prophet          )  *
  said, One who is able to help his brother

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 2, pp. 374, ad 3577

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 72, ad 2181

Mishkt-ul-Mab, vol. 2, pp. 215, ad 4982

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and he does so in his absence will be helped by Allah      in


the world and in the Hereafter.1

136. Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( narrated that the Beloved
B

Prophet          )   *
  said, One who helps his brother in
his absence will be helped by Allah      in the world and in
the Hereafter.2

137.

Sayyidun Jbir Bin Abdull and Sayyidun Ab ala



  > 
   
B
 ( have narrated that the Beloved and Blessed Prophet
         ) 
  *  
 said, One who does not help his Muslim
brother at the place where he is being insulted, Allah     
also does not help him at the place where he needs help. And
the one who helps any Muslim at the place where he is being
insulted and his honour is being tarnished, Allah      helps
him (i.e. the helping person) at the place where he needs help.3


138. Sayyidun Sal Bin Mu Bin Anas Juan   >    *
 ( narrated
B

from his father that the Noble Prophet          )   *
  said,
One who protects the honour of a Muslim from a hypocrite
who speaks ill of him behind his back, Allah      will send an
angel towards him (on the Judgement Day) who will save
him from Hellfire. And whoever says something to humiliate
and disgrace a Muslim will be prevented by Allah      on the
bridge of Hell until he is relieved of what he said (i.e. he
provides any proof).4

Al-Bar-uz-Zakhr Al-Marf Ba-Musnad-ul-Bazzr, vol. 9, pp. 31, ad 3542

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 6, pp. 111, ad 7637

Sunan Ab Dwd, vol. 4, pp. 355, ad 4884

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 2, pp. 194, ad 433

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THE EXCELLENCE OF SHOWING


AFFECTION FOR PEOPLE

139. Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Noble
B
Prophet          )   *   said, After faith, the best deed is to
show affection for people.1

140. Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    
B
 ( narrated that the

Holy Prophet          )   *
  said, Spending wisely is half
economy, showing affection for people is half wisdom and
asking a good question is half of learning.2

141.


B
Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( narrated that the Prophet of

Rama, the Intercessor of Umma, the Owner of Janna
         )
  * 
 said, Meeting people with courtesy is adaqa
3
(charity).

THE EXCELLENCE OF HELPING MUJIDN



142. Sayyidun Zayd Bin Khlid   >     * B
 ( has stated, One who
makes provisions available to a Mujid will be granted the
reward like that of a Mujid and one who provides for the
family of a Mujid will also be granted the reward like that
of a Mujid.4

143. Sayyidun Zayd Bin Khlid   >     *
 ( narrated that the Beloved
B

and Blessed Mustafa          )   *
  said, One who makes
provisions available to a Mujid going for Jihad, so indeed
he himself does Jihad; and one who takes care of a Mujids

Jmi-ul-Ad lis Suy, vol. 2, pp. 13, ad 3495

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 5, pp. 254, ad 6568

Shara a Bukhr li Ibn Bil, vol. 9, pp. 305

a Ibn ibbn, vol. 7, pp. 71, ad 4613

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family well, he will also be granted the reward equal to the


reward of a Mujid.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF HELPING A HAJJ PILGRIM


AND SERVE HIM AT IFTAR

B
144. Sayyidun Zayd Bin Khlid   >    *
 ( narrated that the


Prophet Muhammad          )   *
  said, One who serves a
fasting Muslim with Ifr or makes provisions available to a
Mujid for Jihad will be granted the reward (of fasting &
Jihad), and their reward will not also be decreased.2

145. Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( reported that the Beloved Prophet
B



         ) 
  *
  said, Allah      will make three persons enter
Paradise due to one Hajj: (i) The deceased person, (ii) the one
who performs Hajj on behalf of the deceased and (iii) the one
who fulfils the will of the deceased.3

146. Sayyidun Salmn Frs   >    *
 ( reported that the Beloved
B
Mustafa          )   *  said: If anyone serves a fasting Muslim
with Ifr with his all earnings, angels will keep praying for
his forgiveness throughout Ramadan and Jibrl 64  5 
    will
shake hands with him at Layla-tul-Qadr. And when Jibrl
64
 5 
    shakes hands with someone, his heart becomes soft
and his tears increase.

Someone asked, Y Raslall          )  *
  ! What if someone
doesnt have the means to do so? The Prophet of Rama
         )
  * 
 said, No matter if there is only one morsel or
a piece of bread. Another person asked: Y Raslall
1

a Muslim, pp. 1050, ad 1895

Al-Muannaf li Ibn Ab Shayba, vol. 4, pp. 599, ad 251

Al-Sunan-ul-Kubr lil-Bayaq, vol. 5, pp. 293, ad 9855

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         )


  * 
 !

What if someone doesnt even have the means



to do so? The Noble Prophet          )  *
  said, No matter
if there is only one milk beverage. Someone else said, What
if someone doesnt have the means to do this too? The

Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, He should at least have
a fasting person do Ifr with a mouthful of water (so that he
gets this reward).

THE EXCELLENCE OF SHOWING AFFECTION FOR


CHILDREN, RESPECTING ELDERS, AND SCHOLARS

147. Sayyidun Ubda Bin mit   >    *
 ( has reported that he
B

heard the Beloved Prophet          )   *
  saying, The one who
does not respect our elders, does not show affection for our
young ones, and does not honour our scholars, is not from
my Umma.1

148. Sayyidun ab  


    
' & ( has reported from his grandfather
that the Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *   said,
The respect for a white-haired Muslim and (a scholar or fi
of) the Quran who neither does something to excess in the
Quran nor avoids it, is in fact the respect for Allah      .2

149. It is reported by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( that the
B


Noble Prophet         )  *
  said, If a young person respects
an elderly person due to his age, Allah      will make others
honour him in return.3

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 8, pp. 412, ad 22819

Sunan Ab Dwd, vol. 4, pp. 344, ad 4843

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 3, pp. 411, ad 29, 20

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THE EXCELLENCE OF MAKING SPACE FOR


SCHOLARS IN A GATHERING

150. Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Holy
B
Prophet          )   *   said, Extend your gatherings [i.e.
make space] for a scholar due to his knowledge, for an elderly
person due to his age and for the ruler due to his status.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF OFFERING A PILLOW


TO A MUSLIM BROTHER
151.


It is reported by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( that
B

Sayyidun Salmn Frs   >    *B
 ( once went to meet Amr-ul
Mu`minn, Sayyidun Umar Frq   >    *
 ( who was sitting
B

at that time, leaning on a pillow. He   >    *
 ( offered that
B

pillow to Sayyidun Salmn Frs   >    *
 ( so Sayyidun
B


Salmn Frs   >    *
 ( said, ! What the Prophet of
B

Rama          )  *
  has said is the truth indeed. Amr-ul
Mu`minn, Sayyidun Umar Frq   >    * B
 ( said, O Ab
Abdull! Do let me know what the Most Dignified Prophet
         )
  * 
 said.

Sayyidun Salmn Frs   >    *
 ( said, I once went to the
B

court of the Beloved and Blessed Mustafa          )   *
  . At

that time, he          )   *
  was sitting, leaning on a pillow.

He          )  *
  gave me that pillow and said, If a Muslim
goes to meet his brother and he offers his pillow to him in his
honour, Allah      will forgive him.2

Kanz-ul-Umml, vol. 9, pp. 66, ad 25495

Al-Mustadrak lil kim, vol. 4, pp. 783, ad 6601

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152. It is narrated by Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >     
B
 (

that the Holy Prophet          )  *
  said, Three things should
not be returned: perfume, pillow and milk.1

THE EXCELLENCE OF GIVING FOOD



153. Sayyidun Abdull Bin Salm   >    *
 ( narrated that when
B

the Holy Prophet          )   *
  came to Madna, a large
number of people rushed to see him. I also came out to have
a glimpse of him. As I saw the luminous face of the Merciful

Prophet          )  *
  , I felt sure that this is not the face of a
liar. The first thing I heard from the Prophet of Rama, the

Intercessor of Umma          )  *
  was to give food, spread
Salm, treat your relatives well and offer al when people
are asleep; you will enter Paradise peacefully.2

154. Sayyidun Ubda Bin mit   >    *
 ( narrated that a person
B

came to the Noblest Prophet          )  *
  and said, Which

deeds are preferable? The Holy Prophet          )   *
  said:
To have faith in Allah      , to testify His Oneness, to do
Jihad in the path of Allah      and accepted Hajj. When the

person was leaving, the Most Dignified Prophet          )  *
 
called him and said, Giving food and talking politely are
comparatively easier.3

155. Sayyidun Amr Bin Absa   >    *
 ( narrated: I once went
B

to the blessed court of the Beloved Prophet          )   *
 
and asked humbly, What is Islam. The Merciful Prophet

         ) 
  *
  replied, To give food and to talk politely. I

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 362, ad 2799

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 219, ad 2493

Majma-uz-Zawid, vol. 1, pp. 224-225, ad 201-202

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asked, What is faith? The Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor



of Umma          )   *
  replied, To have patience and to
show generosity.1

156. Sayyidun uhayb Bin Sinn   >    *
 ( narrated that he heard
B

the Beloved and Blessed Rasl          )  *
  saying, A better
person among you is the one who feeds food [to others].2

157. Sayyidun Jbir


  > 
  * B
 
 (

has reported: The Noble Prophet


said, To feed food to a hungry Muslim is one
of the means of forgiveness. Allah      says:

         )
  *
 



=;d : _W c ` $ u & W   ? s  t 0r  q 
Or the feeding on a day of hunger3
[Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran)] (Part 30, Sra Al-Balad, verse 14)

158. Sayyidun Shur   


   
' &
  ( has narrated from his grandfather,

The Most Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, To feed food
and to spread Salm are also the means of forgiveness.4

159. It is narrated by Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >    *B
 ( that
the Prophet of mankind, the Peace of our heart and mind, the

most Generous and Kind          )   *
  said, If a person
feeds food and gives water to his Muslim brother until he is
sated, Allah      will move the feeding person as far away

Majma-uz-Zawid, vol. 1, pp. 227, ad 210

Al-Musnad lil Imm Amad Bin anbal, vol. 9, pp. 240, ad 23981

Al-Mustadrak lil kim, vol. 3, pp. 372, ad 399

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 22, pp. 180, ad 469

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from Hell as the distance of seven ditches. The distance


between two ditches is 100 years.1

160. Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun isha iddqa  >  
   

B
 (
has reported that the Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor of

Umma          )   *
  has said, As long as the dining-mat
of a person is laid, the angels keep praying for his forgiveness.2

161.


Sayyidun Jbir   >    *
 ( has reported that the Merciful Prophet
B



         ) 
  *
  said, To Allah      , the most favourite food
is the one being eaten by more people.3


162. Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( has reported that the
B

Beloved Mustafa          )   *
  said, Goodness reaches the
house where guests are present faster than even the knife run
in the hump.4

163. It is reported by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( that the
B

Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )  *
  said, The person
who arranges to satisfy the hunger of his Muslim brother and
gives him food till he is full will be forgiven by Allah      .5

164. Sayyidun Jbir Bin Abdull   >     *
 ( has reported that
B

the Noble Prophet          )  *
  said, The one who feeds a
hungry person will be given a place by Allah      under the
shade of His Arsh.6

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 22, pp. 180, ad 3368

Al-Mujam-ul-Awsa, vol. 3, pp. 324, ad 4729

Al-Musnad Ab Yal, vol. 2, pp. 288, ad 2041

Sunan Ibn Mja, vol. 4, pp. 51, ad 3356

Al-Musnad Ab Yal, vol. 3, pp. 214, ad 3407

Tamd-ul-Farsh lis Suy, pp. 8

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165. It is reported by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *B
 ( that the
Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor of Umma, the Owner of



Janna          )  *
  said, Allah      loves the person who
satisfies a hungry stomach (i.e. the one who feeds a hungry
person).1

166. It is reported by Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( that the
B



Beloved Prophet Muhammad          )  *
  said, Allah     
will remove hardships of the Judgement Day from the one
who feeds something sweet to his Muslim brother.2

167. Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >     *
 ( reported that the
B

Beloved Prophet          )  *
  said, In Paradise are indeed
palaces, the interior of which is visible from its exterior, and

exterior is visible from the interior. The companions   >     
B
 (

asked the Beloved Prophet          )   *
  , Who these are


for? The Blessed Prophet         )   *
  said, These are for
the one who talks courteously, gives food and stands before
Allah      at night when people are sleeping.3

168. Sayyidun Jbir   >    * B
 ( has narrated that someone asked
the Prophet of mankind, the Peace of our heart and mind, the

most Generous and Kind          )  *
  : Which deed is like

Hajj? The Noble Prophet          )   *
  said, To give food
4
and to talk politely.

169. Sayyidun Budayl   >    *
 ( has narrated that the Beloved
B

Prophet          )  *
  said, Without doubt, I prefer feeding
one morsel to my brother for the pleasure of Allah      to

Al-Kin Wal-Asm, vol. 3, pp. 1188, ad 2081

Al-Firdaus Bi-Mr-ul-Khab, vol. 2, pp. 281, ad 6050

Al-Mustadrak lil kim, vol. 1, pp. 631, ad 1240

Al-Sunan-ul-Kubr lil Bayaq, vol. 5, pp. 430, ad 1039

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giving 10 dirham in charity. And I prefer giving 10 dirham in


charity to freeing a slave.1

170. It is reported by Sayyidun Ab urayra   >     *
 ( the
B

Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor of Umma          )  *
 
has said, Allah      will say on the Day of Judgement: O son
of Adam! Why did you not visit Me when I was ill. He would
say, O my Rab      ! How could I visit You, whereas You are
Rab of all the worlds. Allah      will then say, Did you not
know that My so-and-so bondman had fallen ill and you did
not visit him. If you had visited him, you would have found
Me with him. Allah      will say then, O son of Adam!
I asked you for food, why did you not feed Me? He would
say, O Allah      ! How would I feed You when You are Rab
of all the worlds. Allah      will say, Did My so-and-so
bondman not beg food of you? But you did not feed him. Did
you not know that if you had fed him, you would have found
its reward from Me?

Then Allah      will say, O son of Adam! I asked you for
water, why did you not give Me water to drink? He would
say, O Allah      ! How would I give You water to drink
when You are Rab of all the worlds. Allah      will say, Did
My so-and-so bondsman not ask you for water? But you did
not give him water. If you had given water to him, you would
certainly have found its reward from Me.2

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 7, pp. 100, ad 9627

a Muslim, pp. 1389, ad 2569

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171.

Amr-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidun Al-ul-Murta D E     


   
6  C
said, I prefer gathering my friends for one food to buying
a female-slave from market and freeing her.1


172. It is narrated by Sayyidun Amr   >    *
 ( that the wife of
B

Sayyidun Imm usayn (  >    *
 ( ) sent a message to him,
B
We have prepared delicious food and fragrance for you. Please
bring people of your status when you come. Sayyidun Imm

usayn   >    *
 ( went to a Masjid and gathered all Maskn
B
and beggars and took them to home. Women from the
neighbourhood came to his wife and said, By Allah (     )!
Maskn have gathered together in your house. Then

Sayyidun Imm usayn   >    *
 ( came to his wife and said,
B
I make you swear for the right I have on you that you will
not save the food and fragrance. She did as was asked. First


he   >    *
  *
 
 ( fed the Maskn. Then he   > 
 ( clothed and
B
B
perfumed them.

173. Sayyidun Isml Bin Ab Khlid   >    * B
 ( narrated that

Sayyidun Al Bin usayn -   >     
 B
 ( was riding past some

Maskn that were eating leftover pieces of bread. He   >    *
 (
B
greeted them with Salm. The Maskn invited him to eat and

he   >     *
 ( recited the following verse:
B

^  '  F  6B BF st w^ x  b B  B?  ?  F ( B? 2 


e#
 




Who do not wish greatness in the land nor turmoil.


[Kanz-ul-mn (Translation of Quran)] (Part 20, Sra Al-Qaa, verse 83)

Kanz-ul-Umml, vol. 5, Juz 9, pp. 118, ad 25967

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He   >     * B
 ( then dismounted the ride and had meal with

them. Afterword, he   >    *
 ( said, I accepted your invitation.
B

Now you accept my invitation. Saying this, he   >     *
 ( took
B
them to his home and feed them, and gave clothes and dirhams
to them.1

174. Sayyidun Amr Bin Dnr   >     
 B
 ( narrated that the

dining-mat of Sayyidun Abdull Bin Abbs -   >    
 B
 (

was capacious and he   >    *B
 ( spoke coherently.

175. Sayyidun Ab Bakr Qarsh 7. 8  


 ' -  , (     narrated: Once
crystallized sugar was made for ujjj. It was too large to be
loaded onto quadrupeds. Then it was carried away on a
carriage and brought to the caliph Abdul Malik. The caliph
came out of his home and was astonished to see it. He could
not decide what to do with it. After a pause, he called one of
his servants and said, Take this to Sayyidun Abdull Bin

Jafar   >     *
 ( .
B

In those days, he   >     *
 ( was staying at the caliphs residence.
B

When the huge rock sugar was brought to him, he   >    * B
 (

was amazed and people were gathered to watch it. He   >    *B
 (
asked, What is it? They replied that it was a huge rock sugar

sent to him by the caliph. He   >    *
 ( saw such a strange
B
thing that no one had ever seen before. Pondering for a while,
he said to the slave, Bring leather sheets and axes. Therefore,

leather sheets and axes were brought. He   >    *
 ( then said,
B

What each of you gets is yours. He   >     *
 ( then stayed there
B
until the huge rock sugar was broken into pieces completely.
When the caliph was informed about it, he was surprised and

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said, He [i.e. Sayyidun Abdull Bin Jafar   >    *B
 ( ] is the
most knowledgeable about this matter.

176. Sayyidun Urwa   >     *
 ( said: When I met Sayyidun
B

Sad Bin Ubda   >    *
 ( I heard someone announcing,
B
Whoever desires to have meat and fat should reach the house

of Sad Bin Ubda. Sayyidun Urwa   >    *
 ( further
B
said: I then met his son, Qays, who was also making the same

announcement. Sayyidun Sad Bin Ubda   >     *
 ( made
B
Du: O Allah      ! Grant me ability of glorifying You in
abundance. Grant me respect which lies in virtuous deeds
only, and virtuous deeds are possible by wealth. O Allah      !
I cannot depend on less money nor can it be sufficient for me.1

177. Sayyidun Nfi   >     *
 ( narrated that Sayyidun Abdull
B

Bin Umar -   >    
 B
 ( used to keep fast and Sayyidatun

afiya Bint-e-Ubayd  >  
   

 B
 ( prepared something for
him to eat at Ifr. One day a good-quality pomegranate was
brought to her. Mean while, a beggar knocked at the door. He

  > 
  *
 
 ( said, Give it to him. She said, For him is something
B
better than this pomegranate. Then Sayyidatun afiya

Bint-e-Ubayd  >  
   

 B
 ( asked me to give the beggar suchand-such thing. Then the pomegranate was presented to

Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar -   >    
 B
 ( again but he

  > 
  *
 
 ( said, Take it back and give it to some other beggar
B
because I have intended to give it in charity.

178. Sayyidun Nfi   >     *
 ( narrated that Sayyidun Abdull
B

Bin Umar -   >    
 B
 ( fell ill. So I bought him some grapes
for one dirham. As I gave him those grapes, a beggar came

and asked for something to eat. He   >    *
 ( said, Give them
B

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to the beggar. I did as asked. I then sent someone to buy those


grapes from the beggar without letting Sayyidun Abdull

Bin Umar   >     *
 ( come to know about it. When the grapes
B
were presented to him again, the same beggar came again. He

  > 
  *
 
 ( said again: Give them to him. It happened three
B
times, and each time he ordered us to give the grapes to the
beggar. Eventually, people prevented the beggar in such a

way that Sayyidun Abdull Bin Umar   >    *
 ( was not
B
aware of it.1

179. Sayyidun Khayama   >    *
 ( has reported that Sayyidun
B
     >  HI  called some of his companions,
s Bin Maryam 64 5 
  F. G 
fed them and stood up to say, Treat worshippers like this.2

180. Sayyidun Ab Quba   >    *
 ( narrated that Sayyidun
B

Khayama   >     *
 ( always kept a basket of date pie under
B
his bed. When the reciters of the Holy Quran came to him, he
3

  > 
  *
 
 ( served them with it.
B

181.

Sayyidun Ibn Awn   


   
 ' &
  ( has said, Whenever we

visited Sayyidun Muhammad Bin Sirn   >    * B
 ( , he would
serve us with date pie and a cold and sweet beverage.4

182. Sayyidun Ab Khalda   


   
 ' &
  ( has narrated: Once we
went to Sayyidun Muhammad Bin Sirn   
   
 ' &
  ( so he
said, What should I serve to you! All of you may have eaten
bread and meat at your homes. He   
   
 ' &
  ( then called

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 3, pp. 259, ad 3481

Shuab-ul-mn lil Bayaq, vol. 7, pp. 102, ad 9638

ilya-tul-Awliy, vol. 4, pp. 121, Raqm 254, ad 4974

ilya-tul-Awliy, vol. 2, pp. 305, Raqm 193, ad 2321

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his maid and asked her to bring honey. After the honey was
1
brought, he   
   
' & ( served it to us with his own hands.
183. Sayyidun Ibrm Bin Ab Abla   
   
' &
  ( narrated, We

would visit Sayyidatun Umm-e-Dard  >  
   

 B
 ( at Bb-ul
Asb of Bayt-ul-Muqaddas where she  >  
   

 B
 ( would tell

us Ad. When we intended to leave, she  >  
   

B
 ( would
ask for sweet pie and other edible things for us.

184. Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( has narrated that the
B
Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *   said, When
something sweet is served to you, you should have some of it
and when perfume is presented to you, do apply a little of it.2

185. Sayyidun Ibrm Jama   


   
' &
  ( has narrated, A Bedouin
entered the house of Sayyidun Abbs Bin Abdul Mualib

  
B
 
   > 
 ( . At one corner of the house, Sayyidun Abdull

Bin Abbs -   >    
 B
 ( would give Fatw, answering every
question asked him. And at another corner of the house,

Sayyidun Ubaydull Bin Abbs -   >    
 B
 ( would serve
food to each visitor. Seeing this, the Bedouin said, Whoever
wants blessings in the world and the Last Day must come to

the house of Abbs Bin Abdul Mualib (-   >     
 B
 ( ); they
3
give Fatw, teach Fiq and feed food to people.

186. Sayyidun Zubayr   >     
 B
 ( has stated that Sayyidun

Ubaydull Bin Abbs -   >    
 B
 ( would have animals
slaughtered and distribute meat among people. Which is

ilya-tul-Awliy, vol. 2, pp. 305, Raqm 193, ad 2323

Majma-uz-Zawid, vol. 5, pp. 46, ad 7991

Trkh Madna Dimashq li Ibn Askir, vol. 37, pp. 480, Raqm 4456

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why, the place in the market of Makka was famous as The


Slaughterhouse of Ibn Abbs.1
187. Sayyidun Al Bin Muhammad Madin   
   
 ' &
  ( has said,
A camel or some goats weighing equal to the meat of a camel
used to be slaughtered everyday for Sayyidun Abdull Bin
2

Abbs -   >    
B
 ( .
188. Sayyidun Abn Bin Umn 3> J   
' - , (     has narrated: With
the intention of slandering Sayyidun Ubaydull Bin Abbs

  
 B
 
   > 
 ( , a person falsely announced among people that

Ubaydull Bin Abbs (-   >    
 B
 ( ) had invited them to
lunch at his house. Hearing this, people started flooding at
his house until it was full. Sayyidun Ubaydull Bin Abbs

  
 B
 
   > 
 ( inquired about it so people replied, Your
Highness! You had sent a person who called all these people

at your house. He   >    *
 ( understood the whole matter and
B

said, Close the door. He   >    *
 ( then ordered his servants,
B
Bring all fruits from the marketplace. Therefore, fruits were

brought and, mixed with honey, served to people. He   >     *B
 (
once again called his servants and said, Bring roasted meat
and bread. The servants brought food and served the people.

After people finished, he   >    *
 ( said, Do you think I have
B
done what I had intended (i.e. acted according to the

announcement)? People replied, Yes. He   >    *
 ( then
B
said, We do not mind if more people come.3
189. Sayyidun Imm Shaab  . 
' - , (     reported that Sayyidun

Asha Bin Qays   >     * B
 ( sent a person to Sayyidun Ad

Bin tim   >     *
 ( to borrow a cooking pot. Sayyidun
B
1

Trkh Madna Dimashq li Ibn Askir, vol. 37, pp. 472, Raqm 4456

Trkh Madna Dimashq li Ibn Askir, vol. 37, pp. 481, Raqm 4456

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Ad Bin tim   >     * B
 ( filled the pot with food and sent it

to Sayyidun Asha Bin Qays   >     *
 ( who returned the pot
B
with the message, I had asked for an empty pot! Sayyidun

Ad Bin tim   >    *
 ( sent the pot back with the message,
B
We do not lend empty pots.1

190. Sayyidun Ibn Abbs -   >    
 B
 ( has said, There are three
people I cannot be equivalent of, and there is the fourth person
I can only provide for, with the help of Allah      . The first
among them is the person who makes space for me in his
gathering. The second is the one who quenches my thirst
when I am extremely thirsty. The third is the person whose
feet have been dusty because of visiting my home frequently.
And the fourth is a needy person who spends whole night
awake worrying about his need and finds me in the morning
fulfilling his need. This is the person who I can only provide
for, with the help of Allah      . If I am unable to fulfill the
need of a person who has visited my home three times, I feel
ashamed of it.

THE EXCELLENCE OF CLOTHING A


MUSLIM BROTHER
191.


Sayyidun Ab Umma   >    *
 ( narrated: Asking for his
B
new Qam (i.e. a long loose type of shirt) one day among

aba   >    
 B
 ( , Amr-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidun Umar

Frq   >    * B
 ( put it on. I (i.e. the narrator) presumed that

he   >     *
 ( recited the following Du:
B

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i.e. all praise is to Allah      Who caused me to wear this
cloth, and cover my Satr, and I adorn (myself) with it in life.

He   >    *
 ( then said, I saw the Beloved and Blessed Prophet
B


        ) 
  *
  put on new clothes and recite the same Du

as I did. The Noble Prophet          )   *
  then said: I
swear by the One under Whose omnipotence my soul is! Any
Muslim who puts on new clothes and recites this Du then
gives his old clothes to any Miskn/Faqr Muslim for seeking
the pleasure of Allah      , he will remain in refuge, peace,
and nearness of Allah      for as long as even a single thread
of these clothes remains on him whether the giver is alive or
has died.1

192. It is narrated by Sayyidun Ab Sad Khudr   >     *
 ( that
B

the Holy Prophet          )   *
  said, One who feeds a hungry
Miskn will be made to eat the food of Paradise by Allah      .
One who gives water to a thirsty person will be made to drink
pure sealed wine by Allah      on the Judgement Day. And
one who clothes an unclothed person will be made to wear
green robes of Paradise by Allah.2

THE RIGHTS OF NEIGHBOUR


193. It is narrated that the Prophet of Rama, the Intercessor

of Umma, the Owner of Janna          )   *
  said, Jibrl
   ) kept on bringing me the commandment from
(64  5 

Allah      regarding the rights of the neighbours until I
presumed that he would soon declare them inheritors.3
1

Kitb-ud-Du li abarn, pp. 142, ad 393

Sunan-ut-Tirmi, vol. 4, pp. 204, ad 2457

a Bukhr Kitb-ul-Adab, vol. 4, pp. 104, ad 6105

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194. Sayyidun Abdull Bin Amr   >    * B
 ( ordered to slaughter

a goat, so it was slaughtered. He   >    *
 ( then asked his
B
servant if he had sent some meat to his Jews neighbour. He

  > 
   *
 
 ( then said that he heard the Beloved and Blessed
B

 5 
Prophet          )   *
    ) kept on
  saying, Jibrl (64
bringing me the commandment from Allah      regarding
the rights of the neighbours until I presumed that he would
soon declare them inheritors. 1

imm Kfir (unbelievers) can be given adaqa Nfila


except for Zak etc. and adaqa Wjiba, whereas arb
Kfir cannot be given even adaqa Nfila. Now all Kfir in
the world are arb and cannot be given any kind of adaqa.
Sayyidun Shaykh Amad also known as Mull Jwan
 
   
 ' &
  ( has stated in the book, Tafsrt Amadiyya,
 
The knowledge able people are aware that all Kfir in the
present era are arb. (Tafsrt Amadiyya, part 10, At-Tauba,
Tat Al-ya 29, pp. 458)

Furthermore, the meat of ritually sacrificed animals cannot


be given to unbelievers regardless of whether they are imm
or arb. Describing the rights of the neighbours, the Beloved

and Blessed Rasl          )   *
  said, An unbeliever in
neighbourhood has only one right that is the right of a

neighbour. The companions   >    
 B
 ( asked, Shall we give
them some meat from our ritually sacrificed animals? The
Noble Prophet          )   *   said, Do not give anything
to unbelievers from your ritually sacrifices to Allah      .
(Shuab-ul-Imn lil Bayaq, vol. 7, pp. 83, ad 956)

Al-Musnad lil amd, vol. 2, pp. 270, ad 593

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195. Sayyidun Ab Umma Bil   >    *B
 ( narrated that once

he heard the Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *
 

saying when he          )  *
  was riding his she-camel, Jad:

I make a will to you about the neighbour. He          )  *
 
repeated it many times. The narrator said he thought to himself

that the Noble Prophet          )  *
  would declare him an
1
inheritor.

196. Sayyidun Anas Bin Mlik   >    *
 ( narrated that the Prophet
B
of mankind, the Peace of our heart and mind, the most



Generous and Kind          )  *
  said, Allah      nourishes
all creatures and likes the one among His creatures the most
who treats humanely those nourished by Allah      .2

197. Sayyidun Ab Shur Kab   >   *
 ( narrated that he heard
B

the Most Beloved Prophet          )   *
  saying, One who
has belief in Allah      and the Judgement Day should treat
his neighbour well.3

198. Sayyidun Ab urayra   >    *
 ( narrated that the Prophet
B
of Rama, the Intercessor of Umma          )   *   said,
One who has belief in Allah      and the Day of Judgement
must not hurt his neighbour.4

199. Sayyidun Ab Juayfa   >    *
 ( narrated that a person with
B
a complaint against his neighbour came to the Holy Prophet


  
         )
  *
  *
  . He      )
  said, Put your household
things on the path. He put the things on the pathway. People
walked past and cursed his neighbour. The neighbour came

Al-Mujam-ul-Kabr, vol. 8, pp. 111, ad 7523

Al-Musnad li Ab Yal, vol. 3, pp. 232, ad 3465

a Bukhr, vol. 4, pp. 105, ad 6019

a Bukhr, vol. 4, pp. 105, ad 6018

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to the Noble Prophet          )  *  and said, Y Raslall

         ) 
  *
  ! Why are people treating me like this? The

Prophet of Rama          )   *
  said, How are people
treating you? He told, People are cursing and condemning

me. The Beloved and Blessed Prophet          )   *
  said,
Allah      had cursed you before people did so. He said, I
will never ever do it again. Then the complainant came so

the Holy Prophet          )   *
  said, Retain your things,
for Allah      has removed your trouble.1

200. Umm-ul-Mu`minn Sayyidatun Umm-e-Salama  >  
   

B
 (

has reported, The Most Beloved Prophet          )  *
  and
I were once under a blanket when a she-goat of our neighbour
entered the house. As it took a piece of bread into its mouth,
I moved towards it and pulled the bread from its jaw. Seeing

this, the Merciful Prophet          )  *
  said, Your hurting
it will not bring you peace because this is not less than hurting
the neighbour.2

Attarghb Wattarb Kitb-ul-Bir, Wa-ila, ad 3911, vol. 3, pp. 287

Jmi-ul-Ulm Wal-akam, pp. 173, ad Al-Khmis Ashr