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Situational Sexual
Behaviors: The
Ideological Work of
Moving toward Polyamory
in Communal Living
Groups
Jade Aguilar1
Abstract
Drawing on interviews and participant observation, I analyze two communal
living groups where members are encouraged to participate in the practice of polyamory. Through examining the ideological work these members
perform as they transition from monogamous relationships to polyamorous
practice, I reveal how circumstances shape sexual behavior. More specifically,
I demonstrate how members practice and sometimes embrace a nonmonogamous relationship model because of links between structural and cultural factors in the communities and because of the ideological connection
members draw between feminism and polyamory.
Keywords
polyamory, situational sexuality, ideological work, intentional communities
Introduction
A number of nineteenth- and twentieth-century communal living groups,
such as the Oneidas, viewed monogamous relationships as problematic and
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Corresponding Author:
Jade Aguilar, Department of Sociology and Womens and Gender Studies, Willamette
University, Salem, OR 303-847-8363, USA.
Email: aguilarj@willamette.edu
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undesirable, particularly because they distracted members energy and commitment for the group (Metcalf 1996; Oved 1988). Some of these communities also believed that heterosexual monogamy reflected the patriarchal
ownership of women, which they actively resisted. In this article, I examine
contemporary communal groups who face a similar concern to their nineteenth- and twentieth-century predecessors regarding the role of monogamy.
Like their predecessors, these communities provide a unique microcosm of
society where alternative sexualities can thrive because many of the societal
structures that encourage monogamy are replaced by communal structures
that promote nonmonogamy.
While living in these groups, community members experience less exposure to the pressures to be monogamous that exist in the dominant culture,
thus giving them more freedom to openly adopt nonmonogamous sexual
practices. First, members encounter idealized representations of monogamy
in mainstream media less often because of limited access in the community.
Second, the economic benefits of monogamy, such as tax incentives for
marriage or the higher costs of single living, are absent in the community.
Third, members understanding of the theory of social constructionism distances them from essentialist notions of monogamy as natural, a common
belief in the dominant culture. Finally, community members tend to be
young, well educated, white, able bodied, and from middle- to uppermiddle-class backgrounds, confirming that those who have access to status
and power more actively resist dominant cultural constructions of sexuality
and have the least to lose by doing so (Nol 2006; Sheff and Hammers
2011; Wilkins 2004).
These communal living sites, however, are still influenced by mainstream
cultural influences, social expectations, and sexual scripts. All members in
this study moved to the communities as adults, and thus have deeply ingrained
dominant cultural notions of gender, sexuality, intimacy, and relationships.
They have regular meetings about how to challenge what they call the dominant culture hangover, referring to the patriarchal and capitalist ideologies
they learned to embrace as they were socialized. Thus, the processes whereby
members of these intentional communities shift from having exclusively
monogamous relationships to open, nonmonogamous relationships merits
investigation precisely because this shift highlights how social structures
powerfully (re)shape sexual beliefs and behaviors.
My analysis highlights (1) how the communities cultures and policies
influence their members choice of relationship models and (2) the ideological process members undergo to make sense of these new relationships.
Through examining these themes, my research bridges the situational
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model. Several social factors sustain the ideology of monogamy, but two
factors are particularly strong: its institutionalization in the form of marriage,
and the construction of monogamy as a natural component of human biology
and evolution. As Duggan and Hunter (1995, 108) point out, the state conflates both of these factors by codifying monogamy into law through marriage while also asserting its naturalness for heterosexual couples.
Together, beliefs that marriage represents a normal part of the life course
and that people are naturally monogamous serve to reproduce monogamy as
a hegemonic discourse and practice. The emotion of jealousy, which many
people experience at the thought that their lover might stray, reinforces the
idea that monogamy is biological, making jealousy appear to be an innate
proof of love and commitment. Other powerful cultural and structural norms
supporting monogamy include idealized constructions of the nuclear family
and the idolization of monogamous romance and love. Dominant cultural
scripts suggest that weddings, a celebration of lifelong monogamy, should be
the happiest day of peoples lives. The media are also saturated with messages about ones soul mate or one true love (Ingraham 2008; Otnes and
Pleck 2003).
As illustrated by Schmookler and Bursiks (2007, 819) study, although
women and men both value monogamy, women place greater importance on
both emotional and sexual monogamy. Schmookler and Bursik propose
that this gender difference occurs because monogamy involves relating
emotionally to another person, allowing the self to be dependent on
another, and sexual restraint, all behaviors that society positively reinforces in women (832). Men, on the other hand, learn to demonstrate independence, self-sufficiency, and hypersexuality with multiple partners,
characteristics that are not as relevant for sustaining monogamous relationships (Schmookler and Bursik 2007, 833). These social constructs of gender
affect the differences in value men and women place on monogamy.
Women experience particularly severe repercussions for rejecting monogamy. Less-severe consequences include being labeled as promiscuous and
having their morality called into question; more-severe consequences may
include losing their children, family, friends, jobs, and/or their reputations.
These repercussions go far beyond mere social disapproval of a deviant
behavior. As Emenss (2004, 13) study of legal briefs shows, lawmakers legally
codify monogamy in a wide range of contexts with proscriptions against promiscuity, against adultery, against bigamy, against singlehood, and against
deviations from what we might call simple monogamy, the idea of one partner
at a time. Given the social and legal ramifications, very few people, and especially few women, dare to [overtly] challenge this entrenched ideology.
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Given monogamys dominant status in U.S. society and the many social
factors working to maintain its dominance, an individuals deliberate
rejection of it would take a great deal of ideological work. Berger (1981,
114) coined the term ideological work to explain how a person or group
makes sense of the dissonance between their actual behavior and stated
values.
Among the communards, disjuncture occurs when members join an intentional community where polyamory is practiced and encouraged, and their
deeply held beliefs about monogamy are challenged. In order to reconcile
their belief system with their newly adopted sexual practices, individuals
must engage in ideological work to find a common ground between their new
understandings of the philosophies of polyamory and their long-standing
knowledge of feminism.
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Situational Sexuality
Barkers (2005, 83) study showed that most polyamorous individuals viewed
their polyamorous behavior as natural, spoke of being wired this way,
and said they couldnt help their desire for multiple relationships. As
Barker notes, this prevalence of biological explanations is unsurprising given
the strong discourse in Western culture at present that things with biological
origins are somehow more real than products of socialization or cultural
construction (83). At the same time, the notion that sexual behavior necessarily leads to a construction of a sexual identity constitutes a more recent
idea. Historian Regina Kunzel writes, Most historians locate the formation
of modern Euro-American sexual identities in the late nineteenth and early
twentieth centuries. Around this time, so the argument goes, sexual acts
became newly constitutive of identity: what one did, and with whom, came
to define who one was (2002, 253). This idea has been most strongly associated with gender-based sexual behaviors, such as hetero-, homo-, and
bisexual sex leading to gay, lesbian, and bisexual identities. In addition, other
people engaging in non-gender-based sexual behaviors also employ the construction of a sexual identity, such as polyamorists (Barker 2005), sadomasochists (Langdridge and Butt 2004; Newmahr 2008), and asexuals
(Scherrer 2008). Thus, polyamorists biological discourse makes sense given
their place in the history of sexuality.
From the 1940s through the 1970s, sociological texts used situational
sexuality to describe the occurrence of homosexual behavior in social settings and institutions that are predominately same-sexsuch as prisons,
military settings and boarding schools. It was used as a way of differentiating
real homosexuals from those who engaged in homosexual behavior only
when heterosexual sex was unavailable (Escoffier 2003, 531). As scholars
employed a more social-constructionist theory of sexuality, distinguishing
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Methods
Research Setting
I used participant observation, content analysis, and in-depth interviews to
investigate two egalitarian intentional communities from 2006 to 2007.
Both were rural and depended on operating several small businesses to meet
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their economic needs. At the time of my visits, the larger community, Red
River, had approximately hundred members, while Applewood included
about twenty-three members. I received Institutional Review Board (IRB)
approval from the University of Colorado at Boulder and followed their
protocols, including changing the names of the communities and the interview participants to protect members identities and having participants sign
consent forms.
Both communities belonged to the Federation of Egalitarian Communities,
which is a union of communities which have joined together in a common
struggle to create a lifestyle based on equality, cooperation, and harmony
with the earth. They also both identified as feminist communities, and one
was part of a loosely organized group of feminist eco-villages who claimed
to hold feminism as a core value.2
Data Collection
During my stay at each community, I was a noncovert researcher with
peripheral membership in the community (Adler and Adler 1994). I lived,
ate, worked, and attended community meetings and social functions alongside the members of the community, but I did not participate in group decisions or advocate any of my own positions. During the several months that I
stayed at each community and the years I retained contact with the groups, I
slowly became what Naples (2003) calls a conditional insider, a term that
reflects the shifting insideroutsider dichotomy and the continued negotiation of insider status in fieldwork. This status allowed access that was
unavailable in the beginning, giving me a deeper understanding of the role
polyamory plays in members lives.
To recruit interview participants, I posted a page on the main bulletin
board of each community that explained the purpose of the study. These communities valued social research, were open to researchers visits, and encouraged members to participate by allowing them to count time spent interviewing
toward their weekly labor quota of thirty-five to forty-five hours. I paid the
community eight dollars per interview hour to compensate for their lost labor.
Each interview lasted approximately two hours. Follow-up questions were
very informal because I was living at the community while conducting interviews. I digitally recorded interviews unless the participant opted for me to
take hand-written notes instead (n = 2). I kept all audio files and transcriptions in a secure location, locked via password.
While polyamory was not the sole research focus, members talked about it
eagerly and often. It may be, however, that those members who readily spoke
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about polyamory in the interviews were most strongly affected by it, either
positively or negatively. About half of the members of each community (and a
significantly larger percentage of those under age thirty-five) had engaged in
polyamory at some point. Those without personal experience with polyamory
shared their opinions about polyamory and its role in the community.
Analysis
I gathered field notes, interview transcripts, and community documents using
inductive data-gathering methods (Lofland and Lofland 1995). I categorized
the data into emergent themes throughout the data collection and analysis
process using constant comparative methods (Glaser and Strauss 1967). I
added questions about polyamory to interviews based on data I obtained while
observing participants and based on themes that emerged in the first interviews. I recognized that saturation had been reached when subsequent interviews yielded no additional information. Using axial coding, I systematically
identified relationships between concepts that revealed causal conditions,
contextual factors, actions and interactions taken in response to the phenomenon, intervening conditions that assisted or hindered actions and interactions,
and consequences of actions and interactions (Berg 1995; Neuman 2003;
Strauss and Corbin 1990). During the writing/analytical processes, I revisited
the data many times to cross-check or verify my conclusions.
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I think about some of the parties that we have here sometimes and how
open they are, how much people have freedom of expression. You
know, theres a level of intimacy, and openness, and connection, and
welcoming that I think we offer here in our social scene that I havent
experienced in many other places, and my take on why that is, is
because were living so closely and theres a lot of shit that we deal
with, with each other, and the shit we deal with is painful, it sucks a lot
at times, its frustrating, and theres a lot of things that people dont like
about each other, and things that happen, and the fact that on some
level, were dealing with it, even if badly, does still allow us a level of
openness and intimacy and self-expression that is pretty amazing.
The reimagining of sexual contact from something you do only with a partner to something done for fun and communion with friends normalizes such
contact, easing the transition to having multiple partners, yet by keeping the
make-out party optional, members conform to the community rhetoric that
all sexual preferences are accepted, embraced, and celebrated.
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for his wife that each partnership contains different qualities depending on
the partners unique physical, emotional, or intellectual connections. The following year, when I asked John what happened between his wife, Meghan,
thirty-one, and the other man, he said:
Well, I got more jealous as time went on, because a serious relationship
developed between them, and, although we were initially monogamous,
were in a community that encourages polyamorous relationships. And
that was really hard. It got messy, really messy. It was hard, it put a lot
of strain on our relationship, it was really painful, and Meghan now
believes that there is a part of her that isnt necessarily monogamous.
At the time of the second interview, the man with whom Meghan had developed a relationship had recently left the community, and John was forming
a new secondary relationship with a recently arrived female member. John
and Meghan still considered themselves in a committed relationship with
each other that involved co-raising their young son. Like John and Meghans
situation, most women who practiced polyamory said that their male partner
first suggested it. It is possible that women and men were equally open to
initiating a polyamorous relationship, but women hesitated to disclose this
to me out of fear of being judged as promiscuous, a label with more serious
consequences for women than men. Even though John encouraged the relationship between the other man and his wife, he still struggled with the
transition from a monogamous to an open relationship. Like other couples
at the communities, John and Meghans initial excitement about multiple
partners partially obscured the obstacles they faced in adjusting to this new
relationship model.
Members like John and Meghan transitioning into polyamory must engage
in a great deal of emotional work because of the complexity of and their inexperience with feelings of jealousy. Both the communities offered emotional
care for the transition to polyamory in the form of support groups and counseling. Community members willingly did the work, because personal growth
was highly valued and rewarded. A beginners pamphlet on managing polyamorous relationships, Open Hands, was available (Adelova-Calta 1996).
This text stresses the benefits of nonpossessiveness, personal growth, and
rebelling against the dominant cultures limited definition of relationships:
Why bother with open relationships? In part it challenges part of our
socialization: societys standard is monogamy, a possessive contract
which implies love is scarce, like CD players or hair driers, and once
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youve got it, you better grab it and hold it, because you dont want
to be without it. I think we can be more creative than this about our
feelings.
The idea behind open relationships is that each relationship is free
to determine the best way to communicate. If it includes sex, thats
fine. Because we have not escaped our socialization, we have to work
with our lovers in order to accept other sex partners. But it is useful
work, in helping us to understand our desires and insecure feelings and
if we succeed, we set our lovers free, to come back to us out of true
desire.
This passage of the pamphlet exhorts community members to challenge their
dominant cultural socialization and resolve jealous feelings. Jealousy,
instead of being viewed as a natural/biological emotion to be overcome,
represented a cultural byproduct of monogamy reinforced by the dominant
society. As they worked to overcome jealousy, members began to see other
emotions and social institutions as socially constructed. In other words,
members felt that if they could actively overcome the powerful emotion of
jealousy, then questioning and reassessing other powerfully dominant ideologies presented to them as natural also became possible. This engagement
with social constructionism promised members a transformed worldview and
was, according to several members, empowering.
Members often cited a broad commitment to personal growth and development on many levels as a key reason for joining an intentional community.
Polyamorous relationships required intense emotional work, and members
viewed this work as progress toward their personal development goals. Red
River offered weekly formal group meetings on both polyamory and radical
honesty, and Applewood held weekly meetings to discuss members emotional needs, with the conversation often revolving around polyamorous
relationships in the community. In these meetings, members reaffirmed that
no one person can fulfill all your needs and putting all your eggs in one
basket can lead to emotional dependency and a loss of self-esteem. They
asserted that polyamory keeps women from rivaling each other for male
attention and allows for honesty and openness to emerge. Another passage
from the Open Hands handbook provided evidence for the benefits associated with overcoming jealousy:
At the point when you are able to overcome your jealous feelings,
when you can be happy that your lover is enjoying being with someone
else, there is a tremendous liberation that occurs. You stop holding
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tight, and love with open hands; this makes you much more attractive
to your lovers, who will feel both free and secure. This starts a positive
cycleyou feel better about yourself, and make lovers and friends
happier, too.
This text states that by working to overcome their jealous feelings, members
will become more liberated, be more attractive to their lovers, feel better
about themselves, and make themselves and others happier.
Members emphasized the emotional labor required to maintain these
enormously complex and emotionally demanding relationships. Petrella
(2007, as cited in Haritaworn, Lin, and Klesse 2006, 521) suggests that polyamorists borrow from the Protestant ethic by presenting themselves as morally superior to those merely engaging in sex as a carnal pleasure, because
polyamorists engage in spiritual and emotional growth. The emotional labor
polyamorous community members performed came with the benefit of not
only personal growth but also validation from the community as someone
who wanted to become better, as was evidenced by this statement from
Martin, twenty-two:
[Being a member] has also changed my ideas about monogamy and
how relationships should be. Its kind of opened my eyes, and I kind
of got rid of the notion of jealousy for the most part. I still see it sometimes in myself, probably in other members of the community as well.
Im better for [the change].
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By contrast, monogamy did not get the same feminist stamp of approval,
particularly in heterosexual relationships, precisely because of its implied
ownership of women by men. One member wrote, in a book about her experience at the community, We arent a society that gives much respect or support to marriage or marriage-like arrangements (Kinkade 1994, 183). She
suggested that a growing interest in feminist thinking among community
members encouraged women to feel complete in [themselves] and not
dependent on a man. [The women] are urged not to arrange her life to suit her
partners, nor subordinate her other interests to the success of her relationship (1994, 183). This encouraged sexual and relational independence and
persuaded female members that monogamous long-term relationships were
not in their best interests and did not follow the feminist philosophy of the
community.
Additionally, the community treated all members as individuals, not as a
part of a couple or a family unit. This treatment was most apparent in the
assigning of living quarters. Every member, including each child, was
assigned her or his own room. Barbara, seventy-six, a founder of both of the
communities in this study, explained that:
The [original] structure is still in place, with everybody having their
private room. Male and female, they can get together. They can sleep
in each others room. But we dont house people as families. We house
people as individuals. I think that is whats led, not to the dismantling
of family, but to the encouragement of alternative families, which,
even here, there might be, you know, someone as a primary parent and
then theres maybe a secondary parent, but other parents relationships
are polyamorous.
In addition to housing people as individuals, all the rules, benefits, and costs
of membership took place between the community and the individual. Every
member received the same monthly allowance, with no additional benefits or
special privileges awarded to couples or families. These structural factors
defined the individual as the basic social unit just as the communitys support
of feminism and polyamory defined multiple lovers as the basic relationship
configuration over monogamy.
Conclusion
This research offers a processed view of ideological work that members of
two intentional communities undertook to accept polyamory as a sexual/
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relational practice. Members did not initially join the community to practice
polyamory, but once there, they encountered several mechanisms that
encouraged polyamory while discouraging monogamy. Most new members
fully embraced the idea of nonmonogamy and could easily understand it as
a feminist sexual arrangement, but the practice of nonmonogamy presented
a challenge that required a great deal of ideological and emotional work both
on their part and on the part of other members.
In previous studies of noncommunal polyamorous groups, couples or individuals engaged in multiple relationships after they had already become
interested in the theories of polyamory (McLean 2004; Nol 2006; Sheff
2005, 2006). In my study, most polyamorous members found themselves
practicing polyamory before they had fully subscribed to the philosophy.
Thus, members spent more time doing remedial ideological work (Berger
1981). They validated their actions by linking them to feminism, a parallel
philosophy to which they already subscribed. My research reaffirms Snow
and Benfords (2000, 56) views of ideology as a cultural resource used to
frame activity: a process that involves the articulation of elements of existing beliefs and values, most of which are associated with existing ideologies. For most members, the combination of the connection between
polyamory and feminism, the communities ongoing emotional and structural
support of polyamorous relationships, and the members desire for personal
growth through ideological work proved sufficient for their acceptance and
even embrace of the practice.
In addition, this research contributes to a broader understanding of situational sexuality. As Escoffier (2003, 552) points out, all sexual performance is fundamentally situational and does not always result in long-lasting
social psychological commitment to any one form of sexual activity. What
I have termed situational polyamory occurs when monogamously identified
people enter a community encouraging polyamory and marginalizing
monogamy. As described in this study, the particular features of these communities as well as the privileged social location of the members allowed
members to shift away from their former practice of sexual/relational
monogamy. Their access to financial, social, and cultural capital promoted
experimentation with nontraditional sexual and relational arrangements and
supported the time-intensive ideological work needed when rejecting dominant ideologies.
Further research should focus on how members sexual/relationship practices change after members leave the community. I suspect that members
who return to mainstream society return to monogamy, because the situational circumstances encouraging polyamory will no longer be present, and
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preference as a way of organizing sexual identity (hetero-, homo-, and bisexual identities), the way in which people conduct their relationships (monogamous, polyamorous, or otherwise) seems to have a more complex
relationship to self-identity (84). Past studies of situational homosexuality
in prisons or the military suggest that ones sexual identity does not necessarily change even if sexual behavior changes (Rust 2000). The lack of
change in sexual identity was also true for community members in this
study. Members who practiced polyamory did not actively embrace the identity of a polyamorist. The members lack of claim on the identity was due
to their awareness of the situational status of their practices. It was also due
to their belief (shared by much of Western society) that sexual identities are
something one is essentially born with, not a practice in which one
engages. They did not see themselves as born with a desire for polyamory,
so community members did not claim this identity. This contrasts the polyamorist participants in Barkers (2005, 83) study who often explicitly stated
that they were naturally polyamorous and therefore claimed a polyamorist
identity. As our scholarly understandings of sexual identity move beyond
gay, lesbian and bisexual into other axes of desire and ways of relating,
empirical studies such as this one illuminate the complex intersection
between identity, desire, and behavior.
Declaration of Conflicting Interests
The author declared no potential conflicts of interest with respect to the research,
authorship, and/or publication of this article.
Funding
The author received no financial support for the research, authorship, and/or publication of this article.
Notes
1. Katz later wrote The Invention of Heterosexuality (2005), showing how heterosexual behavior is also socially constructed and maintained.
2. Feminist Ecovillages, http://www.ic.org/eco/.
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Bio
Jade Aguilar is an Assistant Professor of Sociology at Willamette University in Salem,
OR. Her research is centered in gender, sexualities, and Intentional Communities in the
United States. Her recent work includes research articles appearing in the Journal for the
Study of Radicalism, and Communal Societies.