FILIPINA WOMEN’S NETWORK ANTI-VIOLENCE RESOURCE GUIDE

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C E N T E N N I AL ISSUE | MARCH 2006

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4 TH ANNUAL F I LIPINA SUMMIT

Concerned About Your Relationship?
RIGHT AND WHAT’S WRONG 2 0 0 6 VA G I N A W A R R I O R S

A GUIDE TO HELP YOU DECIDE WHAT’S

BECOMING A SWAN PRINCESS: A T R A N S G E N D E R E D S TO RY

Justice to Comfort Women
POWER A N D C O N T R O L

Gutierrez AnGeles

Marisa
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Marily Mondejar President, Filipina Women’s Network

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We Filipinos are a proud people who value family, faith, and tradition. We are also a compassionate people. We help each other in times of need. Despite personal difficulties, we help friends and neighbors even if it means personal sacrifice. When someone dies, we grieve with them. When someone is sick, we comfort her; bring her food. Why is it then that when someone we know is in an abusive relationship, we become tongue-tied and helpless? We avoid the person. We change the subject. We feel embarrassed. We sympathize but we do not often help. When the Filipina Women’s Network announced the production of Eve Ensler’s The Vagina Monologues in 2004, FWN came under attack not only by the Filipino community but also by our own members. I was personally criticized through emails and phone calls for “defaming” our organization and the Filipino community, for being a bad role model, of being immoral, for daring to speak the word “vagina” and “puki.” I became known as the “vagina lady.” We lost members. Some of our volunteers feared for their safety and questioned the wisdom of FWN’s collaboration with Eve Ensler’s V-Day, the global movement to end violence against women and girls. It was difficult emotionally to separate myself from the backlash. The resistance however challenged me and provided an opportunity for reflection and dialogue. I felt there was something deeper to the hostile reaction and that
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somehow we have struck a chord – why were people so threatened by vaginas or “pukis”? The Vagina Monologues is a play that highlights the tragedy and comedy about women’s sexual lives. While at times funny, the play is graphic in its description and representation of women’s experiences. We held home viewings and weekly rehearsals of The Vagina Monologues: to find out where the hostility and anger comes from and to alleviate any uneasiness about pukis. We made sure that every attendee felt safe and that their opinions were heard. What resulted was unexpected. These home viewings and weekly rehearsals became community gatherings where women shared their stories, their secrets, and their recipes. It became a love fest and a food fest. We called them Vagina Love Feasts. At these community gatherings, we met Filipina victims of domestic violence sharing the shame or “hiya.” We found that many of us still think that domestic violence only affects other communities, the “puti,” poor people, the uneducated, the TNTs. We sensed helplessness. No one knew where to go for help. Very few knew about resources that were available. We found that agencies tasked with helping women in abusive situations lack culture- and language-appropriate resources for Filipinas. Agencies cannot often relate to the specific complexities that Filipinos face in a domestic abuse situation. We learned the meaning of fear. Victims of domestic violence are so afraid for themselves, for their children. Their aggressors instill such fear and isolation that victims often feel that no one will listen or help. We learned about Claire Joyce Tempongko. Marissa Corpuz. Giovannie Pico. Many stories of

Filipinas still not ready to come out publicly. As the president of the Filipina Women’s Network, I have made it one of our organization’s top priorities to help end domestic violence. The success of our campaign can be achieved only through coalition building. For two years now, we have produced The Vagina Monologues with an all-Filipina cast and with Tagalog vignettes to make it closer to home. The Vagina Monologues fundraisers have benefited CORA, WestBay, the Filipinas Against Violence Campaign and Eve Ensler’s Annual V-Day Spotlight Campaigns (The Murdered and Missing Women of Juarez, Mexico in 2004, The Women of Iraq in 2005, and Justice to Comfort Women in 2006). This year we are premiering the first Tagalog version of The Vagina Monologues, “Usaping Puki” as a tribute to the Filipina Comfort Women survivors and in homage to our Filipina culture. But we need to do more. We need to partner with all our sister community service agencies and organizations. We need to rally our workplaces to eradicate domestic violence. We need to lobby our elected officials to provide more funding for much-needed resources for Filipinos. We need to engage our friends and neighbors about the roots of domestic violence. We need to encourage victims of abuse to seek help. We need to talk to our sons and our daughters about the realities of domestic violence. And, most importantly, we need to recognize that in each of us is a compassionate Filipino who can and should do anything she can to make Filipinos lead better and constructive lives.

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Message froM the fWN BoarD ChaIr

Tessie Zaragoza Chair, FWN Board of Directors

When Marily Mondejar approached the Filipina Women’s Network’s (FWN) Board to produce “The Vagina Monologues” in 2004, there were hesitations, primarily because it would be a huge financial obligation. FWN was running on volunteer energy and to venture in the area of money was too daunting a risk. However, two performances later, the FWN has catapulted to the forefront of the Filipino community’s efforts to break the silence about domestic violence and identify the providers who support the needs of Filipinas. FWN’s efforts did not

remain unnoticed. Recognition of our community outreach resulted in partnerships and commendations from many organizations including the California State Assembly presented by Speaker Pro Tempore Leland Y. Yee, Ph.D., the San Francisco Commission on the Status of Women presented by its Executive Director, Emily Moto Murase, Ph.D., and the declaration of “Filipina Women’s Network Day” on March 13, 2005 in Alameda County proclaimed by the Alameda County Board of Supervisors and on March 14, 2005 in San Francisco by Mayor Gavin Newsom. “The Vagina Monologues” also became a stage for personal transformations for many of our members. For more than eight weeks, Filipinas treasured the weekly rehearsals where they felt safe to share, to remember, to learn, to understand, to empathize, and to journey with one another in the performance of a lifetime.

A performance engulfed in their collective experience to bring the urgency of the essence of “The Vagina Monologues” – the urgency to stop the violence against women and girls. What was viewed as an outreach to the Filipino community to become aware of domestic violence, evolved in the bonding of more than 100 women of Philippine ancestry. Domestic violence has become a common denominator of the Filipina women, both Fil-Ims and Fil-Ams (Filipino Immigrant/Filipino American). FWN, under the leadership of Marily, took the bull by its horns and uttered loud and clear “PUKI!!!” and shattered the timidity of the Filipino community. We are nurses, educators, homemakers, students, attorneys, united to stop the violence against women and girls.

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Program: The Vagina Monologues Usaping Puki About V-Day V-Resources 17

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2006 Vagina Warriors 10, 11 The Vagina Monologues Cast and Crew 18, 19, 20 Acknowledgments 23

O N T H E CO V E r Marisa Gutierrez Angeles 13 V-rESOUrCE ArTICLES Eve Ensler & V-Day Spotlight: Comfort Women of Asia 4 Becoming a Swan Princess Battering Personalities Equality Wheel Power & Control V - F E AT U r E S Filipinas Against Violence V-Diaries First Vagina Warrior About FWN How to Reach FWN 21 12 12 12

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that deny the existence of domestic violence in our community. As the Cycle of Violence ends, the Cycle of Healing begins. Help us heal our community. V-Diaries: A Year Later… Last Year: Published 35,000 V-Diaries distributed in the San Francisco Chronicle, Examiner, and the Bay Area Business Woman throughout San Francisco Bay, Peninsula, and greater East Bay. FWN helped form the Filipino Community Alliance, a coalition of Filipino organizations who have pledged to end domestic violence in the Filipino community. Giovannie Pico: Survivor. Advocate. Single Mom. Actor

This Year: We are committed to its annual publication until domestic violence stops in the Filipino community. Expanded distribution of the V-Diaries to include South Bay, Sacramento, and Stockton areas. All cast & crew members of this year’s The Vagina Monologues graduated from a three-hour domestic violence training workshop conducted with the help of Asian Women’s Shelter, API Legal Outreach, and CORA. This program allows its graduates to become trained advocates and peer counselors in the fight to end domestic violence. Giovannie Pico: Vagina Warrior. Advocate. Acting Coach. Founder: May “K” the Giovannie Pico Foundation

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Genevieve Jopanda VP, Youth & Community Advocacy

Since the first publication and release of the V-Diaries, we have received 141 calls for help and requests for referrals. V-Diaries, the anti-violence resource and help guide for Filipinas became a tool in the metamorphosis of healing and transformation amongst us. It is only through education and awareness can we break the silence, and help change attitudes

© 2006 The V-Diaries is a publication of the Filipina Women’s Network.

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Eve Ensler and V-Day 2006 Spotlight Comfort Women of Asia
By Genevieve V. Jopanda

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n December 1941, Japanese military forces landed on the island of Luzon, Philippines during the Asia / Pacific Wars of WWII. Military ‘comfort stations’ were constructed in Manila and other occupied cities. An estimated 50,000 – 200,000 young women were forced to offer sexual services to the Japanese troops, coining the term ‘comfort women.’ Women from Korea, China, Taiwan, North Korea, Indonesia, Malaysia, the Netherlands, Timor L’Este, and the Philippines were sold to ‘comfort stations,’ deceptively recruited by middle men to think they were going to be given a better job, or detained and forcibly abducted. In the cramped and shabby ‘comfort stations,’ women were beaten, tortured, and raped by up to 30 soldiers a day. In the early 1990’s, surviving victims of Japan’s military sexual slavery broke their silence and began to call for justice. Despite years of protest by the survivors, the Japanese government still denies legal responsibility to this day. In 2002, Eve Ensler visited the Philippines and interviewed the Filipina survivors at a V-Day benefit performance of “The Vagina Monologues.” She promised the Filipina survivors that she and V-Day will work with them until justice is served. Continuing with
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In April 1943, 15 year old Maria Rosa L. Henson was taken by Japanese soldiers. In 1992 after a radio announcement to urge comfort women to come forward, Maria Rosa L. Henson broke her silence. She passed away at age 69 on August 18, 1997 of a heart attack at the Pasay City Hospital, Philippines. her promise, she spotlights the Comfort Women of Asia in this year’s V-Day campaign. Today, the aging survivors range from 75-90 years old. They are continuing the campaign and the social movement for all victims and survivors until they receive reparation and redress, and a formal apology from the Japanese government.

Genevieve V. Jopanda is a youth and community advocate for the Filipina Women’s Network. She can be reached at genevievej@ffwn.org. | w w w. f f w n . o r g

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I’m a Vagina Warrior

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At the orientation of The Vagina Monologues, the cast and crew were given a journal to capture their thoughts as the production progressed. Ultimately, they found a deeper meaning to their participation as buried memories and feelings started surfacing. The following are excerpts from their journals reflecting their involvement in The Vagina Monologues and The Filipina Women’s Network.

The word vagina has been coming up a lot lately. In fact it’s printed in big pink letters on posters popping up all around town. People tell me they find the word vagina, and the posters offensive. Do you know what I find offensive? A 17 year old girl with a broken nose, beaten so badly she requires emergency room treatment. Beaten by five young men hanging out at the high school. That’s offensive. Half a million rapes a year in this country [United States]. That’s offensive. A teenage girl hit with a two-by-four by members of her high school wrestling team. Yep, I find that offensive too. That’s what V-Day and the Vagina Monologues are all about – ending the violence. And that’s why I’m thrilled to be a member of the cast of Eve Ensler’s “The Vagina Monologues.” That’s why I’m proud to be a Vagina Warrior. Are you offended? You should be.

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My mother is dying
Dying not because of disease, or by accident, or freak of nature. Dying because my father is beating her to death. I am eight years old. My aunt is taking me and my sisters out of school early. We think it’s going to be a special day. My mother is dying. “Go home now and stop your papa from hurting your mama.” Her driver drops us a few houses away from our own and drives away. We surprise my father at the door. He takes us to our chauffeur, announcing that he will take us out to lunch. My mother is dying on the marble floor. Her body badly beaten, twisted like a used rag. The man my father ordered to “beat her until she’s dead” lets her live. He puts her in a taxi to a hospital. My mother is dying. He’s a government official whose “compadres” protect him. No one protects her. – Imelda Oppenheim

u so muc h,” He said, “i love yo her mouth shut, as he duct taped hind her back, tied her hands be a belt He beat her with reclaiming proc laiming, he’s manly dignity hurt by her lies elity, and imagined infid d wounds, ening scabs of ol e stinging skin op th , et by the family screams kept secr of fire, beyond this circ le and fear, passed the rage e she’s always alon to a place where ld onto something where she can ho righteous anger. literature, or even God, lieve, for a reason to be She dared to ask e to life That there is mor had survived. than the one she

Excerpted from “New Times,” San Luis Obispo, California weekly on February 12, 2004.

Filipina Women’s Network Responds: Filipinas Against Violence
By Marily Mondejar

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nding abuse against Filipina women and girls is a major concern for the Filipina Women’s Network (FWN), because domestic violence is widespread in the Filipino community and a violation of basic human rights. According to UNIFEM, one in three women will suffer some form of violence in her lifetime, becoming part of an epidemic that devastates lives, fractures communities, and stalls development. Despite some progress on this issue over the past decade, its horrendous scale remains mostly unacknowledged. New dimensions include the global trafficking of women and girls. It was the killing of a Filipina woman, 28-year-old Claire Joyce Tempongko, witnessed by her two young children, in 2000 that prompted the investigation of San Francisco’s citywide response system that handles domestic violence. Kamala Harris, now San Francisco’s District Attorney, wrote in an article in Asian Week (Dec. 5, 2003), “Our city desperately needs a change in our criminal justice system. I can sum up why I’m running for district attorney with the story of one Filipina American’s life: Claire Tempongko.” Another Filipina woman, 32-year-old Marisa Corpuz, was killed by her husband, William Corpuz, in September 2004. Her

death is prompting San Francisco prosecutors once again to rethink the city’s system for safeguarding victims and counseling their abusers. William Corpuz had just completed 39 weekly counseling sessions before he slashed Marisa’s throat in their home shared with her parents and one of their two young children. FWN Responds: Advocacies That Make a Difference FWN works on ways to interrupt the cycle of violence against Filipina women and girls by linking violence to the source that feeds it: gender inequality. FWN multiplies the power of its strategies through the Filipinas Against Violence advocacy campaign and collaborations with other women’s groups, domestic violence agencies, faith-based organizations, and with the local Philippine and U.S. governments. Raising Money and Consciousness Since 2004, FWN has collaborated with V-Day, empowering and celebrating women and their sexuality with a festival of theatre, comedy, and the spoken word highlighted by the all-Filipina performance of Eve Ensler’s The Vagina Monologues. 2006 marks the first Tagalog version (“Usaping Puki”) performed in the U.S. Filipino Men Pledge At The Vagina Monologues performance, we ask the men and boys in the audience to pledge by imprinting their hands on paper and canvas – that “These Hands

Are Not Going To Hurt Filipina Women and Girls.” Prevention Interrupting the cycle of violence is vital, stopping violence before it starts is crucial. FWN responds in two ways: (1) the publication of the V-Diaries, anti-violence resource guide; (2) domestic violence training. The cast and crew members are invited to participate in domestic violence trainings to strengthen the growing numbers of trained advocates and peer counselors in the Filipino community. Collaborations FWN draws attention to the serious domestic violence problem

in the Filipino community by partnering with domestic violence agencies, the Domestic Violence Consortium, the San Francisco Commission on the Status of Women, local governments, the Philippine consulate, professional women’s associations, faithbased organizations and for-profit corporations. Bringing the voices of advocates together bring our issues center stage.

Marily Mondejar is an organizational change consultant. She can be contacted via email at marily@image360.com.

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ChILD aBUse Catta Center 707. 664. 3225 Child & Family Services San Francisco 415. 206. 8772 Parental Stress Alameda 510. 893. 5444 800. 829. 3777 www.pscfamily.net Respite childcare, parenting classes, family, hotline Child Abuse Prevention Council Stockton 209. 464. 4524 Working with families, support groups

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Hayward, CA 94544 510. 670. 5150 No-fee court affiliated assistance with custody, child support, etc. DA’s Office Domestic Violence Advocate Oakland 510. 268. 7276 Contact: Ali

Building Futures with Women And Children / Sister Me Home 1395 Bancroft Ave. San Leandro, CA 94577 866-A-Way-Out 510. 357. 0205 www.bfwc.org Spanish; Women and Children Emergency Shelter Program 22634 2nd St., Suite 205 Hayward, CA 94541 510. 581. 5626 510. 786. 1246 888. 339. SAFE Spanish; 90-day stay, women and children of domestic violence / homeless Save 39155 Liberty St., Suite C310 Fremont, CA 94538 510. 794. 6055 510. 574. 2250 510. 574. 2252 save-dv.org Spanish, Hindi, Tamil; 60-day shelter Shepherd’s Gate Livermore 925. 443. 4283 Fax: 925. 449. 3114 Tri-Valley Haven PO Box 2190 Livermore, CA 94551 800. 884. 8119 925. 449. 5845 925. 449. 5842 Cantonese, German, French, Spanish, Tagalog, Hindi; Emergency shelter for women and children of DV; 3.5 month max stay Saint John’s Shelter 1321 N.C. Street Sacramento. CA 95814 916. 448. 0701 Spanish, Vietnamese Stand Against Domestic Violence 1410 Danzig Plaza Concord, CA 94520 888. 215. 5555 925. 676. 2845 www.standagainstdv.org
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CoUrt serVICes / LaW eNforCeMeNt offICes Court Info Co.alameda.ca.us/courts/ index.shtml Court dates, fill out forms Alameda County Superior Court Berkeley Clerk’s Office 2000 Center St., Rm. 202 Berkeley, CA 94704 510. 644. 8999 Filing for Temporary Restraining Orders

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DA’s Office – Stalking 510. 272. 6295 Victim Witness Advocate: Kelly Sage; Trains stalking victims; Stalking Inspector: Corey White Fremont Police Dept. Domestic Violence Advocate Fremont 510. 790. 6939 Contact: Carol DoMestIC VIoLeNCe sheLters 24-Hour Emergency Shelter 4700 International Blvd. Oakland, CA 94601 510. 534. 6030 510. 534. 9140 – Fax Women and children; 30-90 Days AASRA-Federation of Indo-American Fremont 800. 313. 2772 510. 657. 1245 South Asian Languages; Women and Children (Priority to South Asian); M-F intakes and overnight emergency

Asian Women’s Shelter 3453 18th St., #19 San Francisco, CA 94110 877. 751. 0880 415. 751. 7110 Various Asian Languages 9:00 am – 5:00 pm; M-F intakes; 12 week stay La Casa de Las Madres 1850 Mission St., #B San Francisco, CA 94103 877. 503. 1850 415. 503. 0500 www.lacasa.org Spanish, Mandarin, Tagalog, French, Arabic; Women and children; 9:00–5:00; M–F intakes

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LesBIaN, gaY, BIseXUaL, traNsgeNDer, & QUestIoNINg AQAU San Francisco 415. 292. 3900 Queer youth services Network for Battered Lesbian & Bisexual Women San Francisco County 415. 281. 0276 Support group Community United Against Violence 160 14th St., San Francisco, CA 94103 415. 777. 5500 415. 333. Help 415. 777. 5565 www.cuav.org Legal advocacy, free counseling, 24-hour support line, emergency assistance (hotel, food, etc.) to domestic violence and sexual assault victims, education, prevention Maitri Hotline San Mateo County PO Box 60111 Sunnyvale, CA 94086 408. 730. 4049 888. 8. Maitri www.maitri.org South Asian Women Peer support / counseling for domestic violence, Family law, immigration domestic violence issues, translation, interpretation, transitional housing and community education Pacific Center Alameda County, Berkeley, SF County 2712 Telegraph Ave. Berkeley, CA 94705 510. 548. 8283 www.pacificcenter.org Group and individual counseling, narcotics anonymous, HIV and Aids group, social groups

My Sister’s House Sacramento 906. 428. 3271 www.my-sisters-house.org 24-hour help line, provides safe haven for battered Asian / Pacific Islander women and children

Marin Abused Women’s Services 734 A Street San Rafael, CA 94901 415. 924. 6616 415. 457. 2464 415. 924. 3456 – Spanish www.Maws.org Asian Women’s Home 2400 Moorpark Ave. San Jose, CA 95128 408. 975. 2739 www.aaci.org Asian languages; Women and children CORA (Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse) San Mateo 650. 312. 8515 650. 652. 0800 Spanish; 6-8 weeks; Women and Children La Isla Pacifica San Jose 408. 683. 4118 Women and Children Next Door 1181 N. Fourth St., Ste. A San Jose, CA 95112 408. 279. 2962

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Alameda County Superior Court Family Court Clerks 1225 Fallon St., Rm. 250 Oakland, CA 94612 510. 208. 4935 Restraining order application for self-filing

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Law Center for Families 510 16th St., Suite 300 Oakland, CA 94612 510. 451. 9261 510. 763. 2169 – Fax Income required; Services are free or on a sliding scale; Legal advocates for deaf women and children victims of domestic violence in greater Bay Area seXUaL assaULt Bay Women Against Rape Oakland 510. 430. 1298 sfcf.org.bawar.htm Serves rape and incest victims; Intake: M-F 10-3; 10 free then sliding scale; Short-term counseling, referrals, accompaniment to hospital, court advocacy Eden Information and Referrals Alameda 510. 537. 2552 M-F 10-4; Counseling, legal, sexual assault, CalWorks Sage Project San Francisco 415. 905. 5050 sageinc.org Girls in custody, substance abuse Women Against Rape 3543 18th St., San Francisco, CA 94110 415. 861. 2024 Sexual assault teeNs National Domestic Violence Hotline 800. 799. Safe Rape Crisis Line 510. 798. 7273 Asian Community Mental Health 510. 451. 6729 Teens and adults

Center for Family Counseling 510. 562. 3731 Girls and Boys; Free family counseling for 8-17 yr-old girls / boys; girls self-esteem group; boys anger management group; After-abortion counseling talk-line, confidential, nonjudgmental, and unbiased Community Solutions Gilroy 408. 693. 4118 Drop-in support groups

Batterer’s treatMeNt PrograMs The Men’s Program (of MAWS) 415. 924. 1070 24-hour hotline Peer support groups for male perpetrators Living Without Violence 1725 Technology Drive Santa Clara County 408. 441. 5682 Batterer resources, children services

Men Overcoming Violence (MOVE) 1385 Mission St. #300 San Francisco 415. 626. 6683 Counseling programs for heterosexual, gay and bisexual men Xanthos, Inc. 2325 Clement Ave. Alameda 510. 522. 8363 Anger management, alcohol / drug recovery; 52-week DV batterer program

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Legal Aid of Napa County 1227 Coombs St., Napa, CA 94559 707. 255. 4933 707. 255. 2312 – Fax Seniors only; Only services senior clients in abusive situations; For domestic violence retraining orders in Napa area, refer to Napa Emergency Women’s Services Napa Emergency Women’s Services 1001 Second St., Napa, CA 94559 707. 255. 6397 707. 252. 3687 707. 252. 3069 – Fax Contact legal advocate Gabby Caro for help with restraining orders The Cooperative Restraining Order Clinic San Francisco 415. 864. 4777 415. 864. 4722 415. 864. 1082 – Fax Bilingual Service; Restraining Order Assistance free of charge; Paperwork served to batterer at reduced fee

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“Vagina Warriors: The New Revolution” celebrates new activists and leaders who are working to end violence against women in the Filipino community. Vagina Warriors are the women and men who have often experienced violence personally or witnessed it within their communities and dedicated themselves toward ending such violence through effective, grassroots means. The Filipina Women’s Network is proud to honor eight women who personify courage and conviction. They have faced and overcome adversity in their lives and are now actively involved in or heading efforts to end violence against women and girls. Tess Crescini Tess Crescini is a real estate broker and co-host of her own community TV channel program conceived to educate and empower individuals who have reclaimed their lives
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from cruelty. Like herself. Shortly after she came to this country with her father at 13, she was date-raped. She endured psychological, physical and financial abuse by her first and second husbands. She was sexually assaulted by a trusted friend, became dependent on antidepressants and contemplated suicide but was deterred by her responsibility to her three sons. Education and writing became the refuge of the published poet and author from Fremont. She is president of the Filipino American Real Estate Professionals Association, and a June bride-to-be. Ligaya Hattari Ligaya Hattari is project manager for administration of California Indian Manpower Consortium in Sacramento. She is a scholar, teacher and a researcher who earned her doctorate in Anthropology with her dissertation on domestic violence within the Asian / Asian American communities. Ligaya speaks freely
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about her experience with domestic violence, which informs her work as a member of the board of My Sister’s House and volunteer facilitator for its Women to Work program. A single mother to a 15-year-old son, she encourages him to understand the dynamics of healthy against unhealthy relationships, advocating efforts to address domestic violence (DV) issues and her labor of love at My Sister’s House as her greatest contributions to the women’s movement. Sarah Jane Ilumin Sarah Jane Ilumin is a professional singer, event planner, and president of her design firm in Daly City. A mother to a grown son, she first played the role at age 9 when she assumed the responsibilities of her mother, who was abused by her father. Hearing that her parents were planning to split their four children between themselves, Sarah Jane vowed to support her three siblings.

She grew up sooner than most and did not take time to process the intense emotions she felt through the years she mothered her family. She joined the cast of The Vagina Monologues to “complete my healing.” She is quick to tell her story“so that others can find their strength” in her example. Dorka keehn Dorka Keehn has been a trailblazer for 14 years. She co-founded 1000 Flowers, a GOTV initiative to engage women in the 2004 elections. She formed EMERGE, a political leadership training program for women Democrats in Northern California. She also co-formed Women Count, a national nonpartisan media and education drive to mobilize women in the 2000 elections. Dorka is a member of the Commission of the Status of Women of the City and County of San Francisco and has been its president and vice president. She chairs the Justice and Courage

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Domestic Violence Panel, convened to review San Francisco’s response to domestic violence cases in light of the murder of Claire Joyce Tempongko. Gloria Megino Ochoa Gloria Megino Ochoa was the first Filipina elected to a mainland U.S. County seat and almost made it to the U.S. Congress after her term of office on the Santa Barbara County Board of Supervisors in 1993. The Deputy Chief Counsel of the California Senate Judiciary Committee was born and raised in the Philippines, earned her BS in Chemistry and juris doctor at UC Davis. For almost 30 years, she has been in the forefront of the women’s movement, drawing from her personal experience with domestic violence to help draft women- and survivor-friendly legislation such as the domestic violence prevention act that became a model for other states and basis for federal law known as Violence Against Women Act. In June she will head the board of

directors of Sacramento-based My Sister’s House and hopes to expand the agency’s services. Jonah Oliverio Jonah Oliverio defines fearlessness. She is an administrative assistant by day and a community educator on call. A member of the survivors’ panel of Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse (CORA), the Pacifica resident shares her experience at public events and agency workshops to deepen the cultural sensitivity of staff members responding to domestic violence cases. For 14 years, Jonah was locked in a marriage with a man who subjected her and their two sons to violent verbal outbursts, namecalling, curses, public humiliation, and threats. He slapped her around. Twice police were called to their home by concerned neighbors. She sought counseling, liberated herself from her abusive husband, and gives moral support to other survivors at her support group.

Imelda Oppenheim Imelda Oppenheim is a personal fitness trainer in San Mateo who has worked in diverse fields including event planning and marketing. Her serenity belies her painful past. Healing for her is “a work in progress.” She joined the cast of FWN’s The Vagina Monologues to “reconnect with my roots” and to honor her mother who is a domestic violence survivor. Her abusive father used the children to punish their mother after she left to save herself from a savage beating. The five children were split up, some resettled in the United States with their mother. Despite the separation, they were nurtured by their mother’s gift of hope for a better life. She taught Imelda “never to accept any type of abuse.” Beverly Upton Beverly Upton has had a long and brilliant history of advocating for women’s rights. The executive director of the San Francisco

Domestic Violence Consortium and Partners Ending Domestic Violence, she leads 18 member agencies in setting and implementing direct service and public policy. Beverly is a relentless champion of collaboration of shelters, legal service providers, and public policy agencies to close gaps thereby providing optimum service for clients and their children. Her service began with her exposure to the human rights struggle of garment workers, which sent her to India and Pakistan to set “codes of conduct.” Her personal experience with domestic abuse adds fuel to her passion to end family violence.
Special thanks to CHERIE M. QUEROL MORENO, 2004 Vagina Warrior and 2006 Vagina Warrior Selection Committee Chair. Cherie is Community Outreach Coordinator for CORA (Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse). CORA’s 24-hour support lines: 800. 300. 1080 and 650. 312. 8515

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whom she talked. As this behavior gets worse, he may not let the woman make personal decisions about the house, her clothing, going to church. He may keep all the money or even make her ask permission to leave the house or room. 3. Quick Involvement: Many battered women dated or knew their abuser for less than six months before they were engaged or living together. He comes on like a whirlwind – “you’re the only person I could ever talk to,” “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.” 4. Unrealistic Expectations: He is very dependent on the woman for all of his needs. He expects her to be the perfect wife/ girlfriend, mother, lover, and friend. He may say things like, “if you love me, I’m all you need – you’re all I need.” She is supposed to take care of everything for him emotionally and in the home. 5. Isolation: He tries to cut the woman off from all resources. If she has men friends, she is a “whore,” if she has women friends, she is a “lesbian,” if she is close to family, she is “tied to the apron strings.” He accuses people who are her supports of “causing trouble.” He may want to live in the country without a phone. He may not let her use the car. Or he may try to keep her from working or going to school. 6. Blames Others for His Problems: Someone is always doing him wrong – out to get him. He makes mistakes and then blames the woman for upsetting him. He may tell the woman she is at fault for almost anything that goes wrong. (Continued on p. 24)

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SUPPORT Listening to you non-judgmentally TRUST PHYSICAL • Being emotionally Supporting your SAFETY affirming and goals in life Staying in touch with understanding • Respecting your own needs and motivations • Valuing your right to your own feelings, • Respecting partner’s opinions friends, activities and physical space opinions • Expressing self non-violently SEXUAL ACCEPTANCE OF EXPRESSION Accepting that RESPONSIBILITY “no” means “no” Accepting responsibility for • Asking, not expecting behaviors and attitudes • Caring about partner’s sexual • Acknowledging past use of needs and wants violence • Sharing birth control responsibility • Admitting being wrong

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“I have never been so passionate about any particular cause until I joined FWN’s Filipinas Against Violence advocacy campaign,” Marisa recalled. “When I accompanied my daughter, Jessica, to an audition of The Vagina Monologues, I was so moved by the commitment of the cast and crew – women working together united in ending violence in the Filipino community – that I knew I wanted to be part of the solution. “Silent killer” is what she calls domestic violence. The discussions about how to help, where to go, and what to do, when someone is in an abusive relationship reminded her of a friend who went into hiding to get away from a violent marriage. She wonderes where she is now. It was 16 years before Marisa saw her mother again. She was six when her mother left for the U.S. She and her four brothers were raised by a nanny and by longdistance love. She grew up seeking to understand why her mother had to find a job in a foreign land to support their family. She quickly learned independence and to appreciate family relationships. She went on to earn an industrial management engineering degree from the Mapua Institute of Technology.

Marisa is a giver. Two years ago, she registered with the bone marrow registry. “The opportunity to give life and share life is the ultimate gift,” said Marisa. When she was contacted that she was a match for a 17-year-old leukemia patient, she did not hesitate. She went through a battery of tests to ensure that the young woman can look forward to a future – a future that was robbed from her stepdad when he was diagnosed with cancer and lost the battle. Marisa raised her two children, Jessica, 17, and Jonathan, 15, to “live each day as if it were your last.” Her passion for life fuels her anti-violence advocacy, her philanthropy and her determination that every Filipina deserves a violence-free society.

My Mom Words to describe my mother: Strong-willed. Passionate. Loving. Sincere. Generous. Honest. Supportive. My relationship with my mother stands on a very strong loving foundation. Now that I’m in college and away from home, our bond is all the more strengthened. My mother was born and raised in the Philippines. I remember her telling us to appreciate what we have because she never had much growing up. Don’t get me wrong, we weren’t spoiled, but she made sure that we experienced the finer things in life that she didn’t have. Such as a good education, travel, shopping couture, owning fine jewelry, attending the latest concerts featuring pop artists, dining at fancy restaurants, and many more.

My mother is the most supportive person I know. When she found out that I wanted to major in theatre, she told me to do what I enjoyed and give it my all. She nurtured my dream of performing on stage. My mother is the one person I can count on for the things that matter most. She is my source for strength and inspiration to achieve what in most cases would be impossibility. The issues surfacing in the production of “The Vagina Monologues” allow the two of us to appreciate more our mother-daughter relationship – a relationship that is oftentimes lost in the modern day social struggles that women face. We continue to communicate and spend time with each other whenever we can, discussing a myriad of issues. “No matter what you do, have faith,”she frequently reminds me. And it is her faith in my ability that I am able to generate the energy and inspiration I need to approach and explore the complex issues affecting women of my generation. – Jessica Angeles
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the First Vagina Warrior
By Stephanie Grace Loleng and Bettina Santos Yap
If it weren’t for Eve Ensler, The Vagina Monologues would not exist. She is the mastermind behind not only one of the most controversial and powerful performance pieces about women’s sexuality, but also behind a worldwide movement to stop violence against women. The Vagina Monologues is based on interviews Ensler did with over 200 women. Many celebrities such as Jane Fonda, Selma Hayek and Glenn Close have performed the show and support the work Ensler has done. As Ensler performed in venues throughout the globe, from small towns to large cities, hundreds of women told her their stories of rape, incest, domestic violence and genital mutilation. From this, Ensler was inspired to create V-Day. V-Day, is a global grassroots movement that organizes campaigns to show The Vagina Monologues in different communities to raise awareness about violence against women and funding for local anti-violence groups. “The movement is completely inspirational,” said Ensler. “The movement keeps getting larger and larger and keeps spreading. We’re having victories everywhere. We are in fact ending violence against women.” Ensler visited the Philippines a few years ago, to watch the first-ever Tagalog performance of The Vagina Monologues. While there, she met with Filipino comfort women who were forced to have sex with Japanese soldiers during World War II. Their stories of being taken from their families while they were teenagers, to be prostitutes for the Japanese military, touched Ensler so much she vowed to make their struggle public. This year, V-Day is dedicated to these women. Many are now in their twilight years and are demanding an apology from the Japanese government and reparations for the injustice they experienced. During Filipina Women’s Network’s (FWN) performance of The Vagina Monologues, a delegation of Japanese women from different NGOs that seek justice for these comfort women, will be special guests at the San Francisco FWN performance. “I believe firmly that

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the empowerment and the freeing of women is freeing of human beings,” said Ensler. V-Day has staged large-scale benefits and has highlighted international women’s issues. In the beginning, Ensler got a lot of flack for using the word “vagina” so liberally. She said that a lot of people asked her not to use that word, but she used it anyway and that women everywhere should empower themselves. “Are there people who wish I wasn’t talking about vaginas? You bet. Are there people who like to keep women in the dark ages? You bet. Anytime you move anything forward in this world people are going to have a problem with you.

So I think the whole key to being empowered as a woman is taking risks, being bold, risk not being liked if you’re standing up to something you believe in,” said Ensler. It’s this attitude that inspired FWN to launch the “Filipinas Against Violence” campaign. Because of the lack of any agency or organization in the U.S. that helps Filipina women and girls in violent situations, FWN saw the need to do something to

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Eve Ensler is currently on tour performing her new play “The Good Body,” that encourages women to love their bodies – no matter what size or shape. She said she has had many women in her life that have been very supportive of her, especially her mother who has

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As V-Day benefit performances of “The Vagina Monologues” reach more people, and as the V-energy spreads, 2006 is the year when we envision a new world, where violence would end and V-World is finally born. Between February 14 and March 31 this year, over 2,500 fundraisers are taking place in 1,150 colleges and communities in over 54 countries worldwide – the largest number of events ever for V-Day!
Here’s what V-World will look like

work to stop violence against women and girls. V-Day is a global movement to stop violence against women and girls. V-Day is a catalyst that promotes creative events to increase awareness, raise money and revitalize the spirit of existing anti-violence organizations. V-Day generates broader attention for the fight to stop violence against women and girls, including rape, battery, incest, female genital mutilation (FGM) and sexual slavery. The ‘V’ in V-Day stands for Victory, Valentine and Vagina.
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educate people in the Filipino community to stop the violence. “I honor so deeply the work you’ve done in your community for V-day and you’re just true Vagina Warriors in leading the fight. You’ve broken through such extraordinary things and I’m moved and honored to call myself your sister and friend,” said Ensler.

attended numerous performances. “I think we’re all in this together and the more brave we can be talking about the truth of our lives and really saying what happened to us…the chances are that we free ourselves and everyone around us,” said Ensler.

When the violence stops, women and girls will be: » Allowed to be born in China, India And Korea » Swimming in Iran » Safe in their beds at home in the United States, Europe and Asia » Eating ice cream in Afghanistan » Keeping their clitorises in Africa and Asia » Wearing blue jeans in Italy » Voting in Kuwait » Walking in the park at night in the United States » Openly flirting in Jordan » Safe at parties on college campuses » Playing with toys and not being sold as them in Asia, the United States, Europe and Eastern Europe » Driving cars in Saudi Arabia » Wearing trousers in Swaziland » Safely walking home from work in Juarez, Mexico » Enjoying sex » Celebrating their desires » Loving their bodies » Running the world
About V-Day

V-Day is an organized response against violence toward women. V-Day is a vision: We see a world where women live safely and freely. V-Day is a demand: Rape, incest, battery, genital mutilation and sexual slavery must end now. V-Day is a spirit: We believe women should spend their lives creating and thriving rather than surviving or recovering from terrible atrocities. V-Day is a catalyst: By raising money and consciousness, it will unify and strengthen existing anti-violence efforts. Triggering far-reaching awareness, it will lay the groundwork for new educational, protective, and legislative endeavors throughout the world. V-Day is a process: We will work as long as it takes. We will not stop until the violence stops. V-Day is a day: We proclaim Valentine’s Day as V-Day, to celebrate women and end the violence. V-Day is a fierce, wild, unstoppable movement and community.

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Dunham, Bettina Yap, Cherie Querol Moreno
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SABIhIN NINYO

Lina Mesina Susbilla, Sorcy Apostol
ExTRO – SABIhIN NINYO

TINANONG NAMIN ANG ISANG ANIM NA TAONG GuLANG NA BATANG BABAE INTRO – ANG BABAENG MAhILIG MAGPALIGAYA NG MGA PukE

Michelle Buendia

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Elena Mangahas

Kit de Castro
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ANG AkING PukING GALIT

Edna Rodis, Joy San Andres INTERMISSION PA R T T W O Marisa Angeles

Marily Mondejar

Edna Murray

INTRO – BINuGBOG ANG PAGkABABAE SA AkING LALAkI

Jei Africa

Leah Laxamana

INTROdukSYON

Leah Laxamana, Mae Brana, Edna Rodis, Byumi Gonzalez, Sarah Jane Ilumin
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PAGkAT GuSTO NIYA ITONG TITIGAN

Bettina Santos Yap

INTROdukSYON SA BOSNIA

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Byumi Gonzalez, Cameron Garcia
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Rinabeth Apostol

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Marisa Angeles Edna Murray

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12 YEARS OLd. SINAMPAL AkO NI NANAY

Mae Braña, Michelle Buendia
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Marisa Angeles

Anne Almendral

ANO’NG AMOY MO?

Joy San Andres, Anne Almendral, Mae Brana, Genevieve Dwyer
ISANG hINdI NAkATuTuWANG kATOTOhANANG PukI: FEMALE GENITAL MuTILATION

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Elena Mangahas, Sorcy Apostol, Lina Mesina Susbilla
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Sarah Jane Ilumin

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Byumi Gonzalez

Mae Braña, Rebecca Apostol, Anne Almendral, Leah Laxamana
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MY AngRY VAgInA

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Evelyn Luluquisen, Leah Laxamana
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IntRO – MY VAgInA WAS MY VILLAgE

Vangie Cononizado Buell, Jessica Angeles
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Tess Crescini Ligaya Hattari Sarah Jane Ilumin Dorka Keehn Gloria Megino Ochoa Jonah Oliverio Imelda Oppenheim Beverly Upton

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Elena Mangahas
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Rinabeth Apostol

Rica Echavez, Genevieve Jopanda, Leah Laxamana, Evelyn Luluquisen, Joy San Andres
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Leah Laxamana

Cherie Querol Moreno Minette Mangahas

Marie Rivera Yip

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Maria Luisa Osmeña, Katrien Van Riel, Julia Van Riel
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Jessica Angeles Christina Dunham
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Cameron Garcia, Minette Mangahas, Anna-Liza Estoesta, Lina Mesina Susbilla, Byumi Gonzalez, Joy Almquist
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June Pariña, Jena Kocian, Rica Echavez, Jennifer Jimenez
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Teresa Ferrer Guingona

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Tess Crescini, Vici Layus, Rica Echavez, Christina Dunham, Marie Rivera Yip, Evelyn Luluquisen
MY SHORt SkIRt

Rinabeth Apostol

IntRO – I WAS tHERE In tHE ROOM

Bettina Santos Yap

Teresa Ferrer Guingona Sorcy Apostol

Lina Mesina Susbilla, Vici Layus, Imelda Oppenheim, Sarah Jane Ilumin, Tess Crescini, Joy Almquist

Jena Kocian, June Pariña, Anna-Liza Estoesta, Jennifer Jimenez, Minette Mangahas
IntRO – SAY It (FOR tHE cOMFORt WOMEn)

Giovannie Pico Joy Almquist Edna Rodis

I WAS tHERE In tHE ROOM

IntRO – REcLAIMIng cunt REcLAIMIng cunt

Sorcy Apostol, Vangie Canonizado Buell
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Backstage: Beyond Being V-Day Women
By Lorna Lardizabal Dietz
Rehearsals, more rehearsals, more tongue-twisting words spewing out of our mouths, more rehearsals – more, more, and more. Yet every week-end, we juggled our personal commitments to be there to rehearse, aiming to perfect our craft for the love of “pop culture through community theater.” We’ve revealed and shared so much of ourselves during the time we spent together. Courageous and daring are only a few adjectives that describe us since we, at Filipina Women’s Network, produced “The Vagina Monologues” (TVM) yearly since 2004 at the historic Herbst Theatre. All of us, through inevitable osmosis, throughout the duration of our rehearsals – and culminating in the adrenalin-pounding, knees shaking, and thoroughly thrilling performances, poured out our passion and compassion in bringing our message forward. We are not alone. You came along and cheered with us, supporting our stuttering mouths through phrases like “Usaping Puki.” Let’s bring you backstage and give you some juicy highlights about our “being-ness,” our friendships, and camaraderie… so you get to know us beyond our names and our uhum, so-called titles of profession and vocation. Genevieve Jopanda, who understands how karmic benefits and consequences play in her decision-making process (“gaba” in the Visayan dialect), and Minette Lee Mangahas, who believes in living honestly and joyfully, both have first names that are French in origin. While Genevieve and her four other siblings were named after French saints, Minette says her name means “girl or cat.” We would never have guessed that Cherie M. Querol Moreno – the woman who walks like a fashion model on a catwalk, wields the fountainhead of her pen like a

sword, and believes in never letting anything get in her way – hates Math. Or, that Cameron Garcia (a.k.a. a former police officer who is the first Filipina transgender to publicly come out) is actually former Philippines’ First Lady, Imelda Marcos, in disguise. We commend Cameron for driving to and from Monterey, and joyously carpooling with our Silicon Valley performers. Edna Austria Rodis takes on a totally different persona when watching horror movies: she screams, clings to her companion, and yes – shuts her eyes during those gory, oh-so bloody scenes. Our parents played a huge role in influencing us to “Do your best… do the right thing,” according to Teresa Ferrer-Guingona, who has a Masters degree in Human Sexuality Studies and is currently working on a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. Lina Susbilla, an Eleanor Roosevelt admirer and a tree-climbing aficionado (aha!) in her pre-Florist days, also had parents who told her to “do the best that you can.” When Marily Mondejar asked us how we knew that our parents were proud of us, Sarah Jane Ilumin and Imelda Oppenheim – both inspired by the life and works of Oprah Winfrey – talked about their careers. Imelda poignantly remembered “when I was accepted to Juilliard Ballet School” while Sarah said, “When I became a professional singer.” Jennifer (Jenna) kocian answered, “When they’d take me shopping at Stanford Mall and didn’t yell at me.” In a more somber note, Jenna confessed: “Even though I don’t see or call myself a survivor of domestic violence, I am.”Amidst the laughter and the celebrations, we opened up to each other about our fears. While Edna Murray, a holisticallytalented massage therapist and health educator who cites her father as her inspiration, confidently affirmed, “No fear! I believe in God. I can start all over again!” Vici Aquino-Layus, who first watched her friend, Edna Rodis, perform in the 2005 production of “The Vagina Monologues,” felt that “the challenge to perform in TVM” is

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ANNA-LIzA ESTOESTA Sales Representative, Farmers Insurance, Jeffrey Wong Insurance Agency

ANNE ALMENDRAL Mother, Wife, Business Woman, Almendral Management Services

BETTINA SANTOS YAP Marketing Consultant

BYUMI GONzALEz Operations Agent, Bank of America; Freelance Fashion Designer, T-sh/ B’yumi Couture

CAMERON D. GARCIA Sexual Assault Counselor, SART, Monterey Rape Crisis Center

CHERIE M. QUEROL MORENO Community Outreach Coordinator, CORA

CHRISTINA DUNHAM Associate Publisher, Filipinas Magazine; Vice-President, Atlantic Bancorp of America

EDNA AUSTRIA RODIS Registered Nurse, Kaiser Medical Center

EDNA BISCOCHO MURRAY Clerk, Alameda County; Professional Massage Therapist

ELENA MANGAHAS Co-Chair, Little Manila Foundation

EVELYN LULUQUISEN Human Resources Manager, U.C. Berkeley

GENEVIEVE DWYER President, Genevieve’s Corporation

GENEVIEVE V. JOPANDA City Operations Manager, South Bay, Hertz Corporation

GIOVANNIE PICO Actor; Founder, May “K”: The Giovannie Pico Foundation

IMELDA OPPENHEIM Trainer, Excel Personal Training

JEI AFRICA, PSY.D. Clinical Director, Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse (CORA)

JENNIFER FRANCIA KOCIAN Financial Consultant, World Financial Group; Cosmetologist

JENNIFER S. JIMENEz Client Support Specialist, Community Overcoming Relationship Abuse (CORA)

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her greatest fear. Not to worry, Vici! Rica Echavez, who admits that she is full of surprises (delightful, we add!), is afraid about “not doing enough or taking the wrong path.” Trying to relax in our perfectionism was no easy task. There were words to live by (or mottos) that kept popping up during rehearsals or in our e-mails. While Leah Laxamana – our administrative powerhouse who also freelances in graphic and web designs – believes in living life without regrets, Byumi Gonzalez, who says she struts better than any supermodel and claims to own a wardrobe that would make Donatella Versace join the unemployment line, displayed her “joie de vivre” with “Who needs a love life when you’re loving life?” Not to be outdone, Jennifer S. Jimenez, who provides counseling and emotional support to female survivors of domestic violence, simply blurted out, “Just do it!” About our legacies for those who follow us, legacies for more women who dare to come out and speak up for their rights – well, there were varied responses. Evelyn Luluquisen, who declares her life is an open book, candidly said, “ I did it my way!” June Pariña, who recently went home to the Philippines to do some research on her family history, stated: “Experience the world, find your way. If you get lost, always know where ‘home’ is.” Altruism also scored high with the “legacy” question. For instance, Joy Francia Almquist, our Florence Nightingale, wants to be remembered as “the person who gave herself for the good of others.” My, oh my, we found more littleknown trivia about our 2006 TVM cast and crew. The very busy Stephanie Loleng had successfully jumped from the world of print media to public broadcasting, found time to co-author a coffee table book, and practice yoga. Cabo, Christina Dunham’s adorable Black Labrador-Pit Bull (who’s more Lab in temperament), greets visitors and clients in her office. C’mon, Christina,

JESSICA ANGELES Student, Cal State Fullerton

JOY FRANCIA ALMQUIST Registered Nurse, BSN, PHN

JOY SAN ANDRES Teacher, Sunnyvale School District

JULIA VAN RIEL Student

we also found out you are quite a sultry singer and a successful swimsuit model on the runway! Even Genevieve Dwyer’s transformation these past few years is breath-taking. Not only does she make the divorce process easy for her clients, she also had to replace all her old, “fat” photos with bling-bling, head-turning portraits. The spontaneous, fun-loving AnnaLiza Estoesta, known to many of her friends as the “Annalyzer,” takes pride in her ability and willingness to put others before herself as well as having a close-knit multi-cultural group of friends. In the meantime, Joy San Andres, who first joined TVM in 2005, has made a joyous 180 degree transformation – from performer to Tagalog coach to Tagalog translator. Joy’s selfconfidence boosted her performance in the more challenging Tagalog monologues in “Usaping Puki.” There are many risk-takers in the cast but none as determined as Mae Brana. She definitely pushed the envelope. Mae left a successful business in the Philippines to pursue her MBA in San Francisco, dared to explore the wonders of political empowerment in her MBA program’s student council, and finally found her groove among the FWN members when she volunteered during our Filipina Women’s Summit in October 2005 with her best friend, Anna Mamon. The businesswomen in this year’s cast inspired us to believe that we can have it all. We’re curious to find out how Michelle U. Buendia manages to balance her life as a wife, a mother with two kids, and still perform in the Tagalog version of TVM so eloquently and flawlessly. (Sigh!) One of our 2006 Vagina Warriors, Tess Crescini, is a survivor of emotional, mental, and physical domestic abuse. As someone who has successfully overcome her personal circumstances, Tess co-hosts a TV show entitled “Survival,” which raises awareness of and advocates for ending domestic violence. We also met Anne Almendral, who articulated her priorities when she had to take care of her family’s health challenges

JUNE PARIñA Director, Media Relations, The Blueshirt Group

KATRIEN VAN RIEL Student

LEAH LAxAMANA Administrative Assistant, Korn / Ferry International

LINA MESINA SUSBILLA Owner, Lena’s Flowers & Gifts; Commissioner, Commission on the Status of Women, San Mateo Cty.

MAE BRANA Gemologist; MBA Student, University of San Francisco

MARIA LUISA OSMEñA, MD Pediatrician, LiveWell Medical Clinic

MARISA ANGELES Office Manager, Bonita House, Inc.

MARIE RIVERA YIP Retired, Alameda County

MICHELLE U. BUENDIA Financial Coach, World Financial Group

MINETTE LEE MANGAHAS Program Associate, Center for Art and Public Life, California College of the Arts

REBECCA CONCEPCION APOSTOL Member, Board of Directors, Philippine National Day Association;

RICA ECHAVEz Mortgage Consultant, Capital West

RINABETH APOSTOL Performing Artist / Activist

SARAH JANE ILUMIN Vice President and Manager, Yashi Okita Design

SORCY APOSTOL Instructor, Sacramento City College; Regional Manager, UC Davis School University Partnership

TERESA FERRER GUINGONA Member, Filipino Task Force, CORA; Board Member, Asian American Recovery Svs.

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during the rehearsal weekends. “I’m a mother first, a businesswoman next,” she declared. We clearly have an early advocate for Filipina women’s empowerment in Anne. She didn’t say “businessperson” or “business professional.” Anne insisted on using the word, “businesswoman” with pride. Way to go! Dr. Jei Africa, a known expert in cultural competence, mental health, and substance abuses, gave voice to her predicament about the cast’s choice for its curtain call costume changes. She was puzzled. “What is it about ‘red’? I’ve never worn a red outfit in my life.” Evangeline (Vangie) Canonizado Buell, the grandmother who will be eternally remembered for her poignant rendition of the monologue, “I was There!” with her daughter, Nikki Vilas, in our 2004 production, is one of our Vagina Warriors (2004). After having suffered abuse as a child, Vangie successfully turned her life around to become one of our Filipina community’s sterling role models: an elegant grandmother, a musical artist, a community activist, a prominent Filipino American historical and inter-cultural advocate, and a celebrated author. Vangie’s dearest friend, Marie Yip, also joined us in this year’s TVM. These two life-long friends are inseparable. In 2004, she brought the house down with her dead-pan sense of humor in the group monologues. Nowadays, Marie celebrates her retirement by being involved with her love for theater and travel activities. Her great sense of fashion – and never a hair out of place! – makes us proud! This year, we had more families join the cast. Maria Luisa Osmeña, M.D., brought her daughters, katrien Van Riel, a third grader at Presidio Hill School, and Julia Van Riel, a kindergartener from the same school. This forward-thinking pediatrician, who believes in serving children and families, just opened her brand-new medical clinic at the Shops at Tanforan in San Bruno (yes, with lots of parking space!)

last January 29. Bringing medical services directly to her patients during mall hours is quite an innovative concept. Imagine, we can shop while waiting for our appointment! Let’s talk about the Apostol motherdaughters team. Mom Sorcy Concepcion Apostol and daughters Rebecca Apostol and Rinabeth Apostol spent their own money and commuted to San Francisco every weekend for rehearsals. They’re that committed to the cause of ending violence against women and girls. Sorcy commuted from Sacramento/Central Valley while her daughters traveled from Los Angeles. None of our 2006 TVM cast and crew knew that Rebecca’s dramatic prowess was evident when she participated in a short stage presentation with 11 other youth representatives from all over the U.S. that breathed life to a lyrical essay, “The Flames of Consciousness,” in the 2002 National Empowerment Conference of the National Federation of Filipino American Associations. Rinabeth, named after Queen Elizabeth, emphasized to us that her parents and Spiderman inspire her. Rinabeth’s quirky sense of humor showed up when she stated her motto: “When life pisses in your dreams, just add chlorine and keep on swimming.” She even disclosed that parental advice was also spiked with metaphors, such as, “As long as you hang out with turkeys, you’ll never soar with the eagles!” Then, we met the mother-daughter pair – Marisa Angeles and her daughter, Jessica Angeles. Jessica, who is currently a student at Cal State-Fullerton, commuted from Southern California every weekend just for this production. Marisa, a single mom, is a passionate advocate for the National Marrow Donor Program. She must have gone beyond what was expected of her because someone donated a family ad in her name for TVM 2006 and some money to fund this year’s VIP Reception, which Marisa chaired.
TESS CRESCINI Broker, RW-Heritage Homes & Investments VANGIE CANONIzADO BUELL Author, Musician, Events Coordinator VICI AQUINO-LAYUS Financial Aide Consultant, San Jose State University

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executive Producer: MARILY MONDEJAR President, FWN; Executive Director, Institute for Image Management

executive Producer: TESSIE zARAGOzA Chair of the FWN Board; President, Organ Donor Rights Network

Producer: KEN MARQUIS Executive Producer, GLOBAL360, Inc.

director: BETTINA SANTOS YAP Marketing Consultant

director: ELENA MANGAHAS Co-Chair, Little Manila Foundation

director: GIOVANNIE PICO Actor, Founder, May “K”: The Giovannie Pico Foundation

editor, v-diaries: GENEVIEVE V. JOPANDA City Operations Manager, South Bay, Hertz Corporation

editor, v-diaries: STEPHANIE LOLENG Writer

art director: AL S. PEREz Principal, Creative i Studio

Musical director: SOCORRO “KIT” DE CASTRO Musical Director, Landsberg Productions

CONNIE LLORENJUNGMANN Photographer, CLJ-Photo.com, Senior Accountant, xythos Software

LORNA DIETz Marketing and PR Consultant, RadiantView.com

MARISA ANGELES Office Manager, Bonita House, Inc.

SONIA DELEN Managing Director, Banc of America Leasing

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Becoming a Swan princess
By Byumi Gonzalez
I was a stud in high school. My father forced me to be a part of the Junior basketball team, and I remember those hot sweaty afternoons where I had to engage in rough, competent routines, rebounds and defense. The boys called it play. I called it torture. I had such a small, boney frame as a kid, and I remember my peers pushing me around like a punching bag – I was abused with hard fists and relentless punches. I was scared of those hard, rubber basketballs, and I remember falling head first on the floor with a bloody nose because I failed to catch the one ball flying towards my face. I didn’t mind it though. I got to hangout with the hottest boys in school. I’d see them undress in the locker rooms, and take steamy showers after practice. My eyes explored every single part of their manhood on a regular basis, and to me that made it all worth the game. I was forced to learn how to smoke, shoot air guns, play video games, and learn how to pick up fights with the nerds and the wankers. While deep inside all I wanted to do was, play Barbie dolls, sew, cook and do my nails. Everyone hated me. Everyone, including myself. I felt like the ugly duckling. A butterfly caged in her own cocoon. I hated the fact that I couldn’t shave my facial hair even if it was itchy. I felt uncomfortable wearing loose, boring clothes and pants that felt like they were falling because they were 2 sizes too bigger. I hated being a man. I hated how everyone expected me to be a man. When I got to college, everything changed. It became “Co-ed “and everything was more diverse. Because I grew up in an all boys Catholic school that required uniforms, the liberty of being free to wear anything you want put a big smile on my face. I started plucking my eyebrows, growing my hair, and shaving my legs. I said goodbye to the loose clothes and started wearing my mom’s clothes to school. Everyone was shocked. My basketball friends didn’t talk to me anymore. My dad was ashamed of me. I got mocked and bullied everyday. The more they made fun of me, the more I enjoyed it. My wardrobe started to bloom, and the girls loved me for my style. I started getting compliments, and as my hair started to grow, it became softer and shinier. I graduated College as the “Batch Queen.” I became the most popular girl in school. People stopped giving me crap. The girls took care of me, and I started to hangout with the rich, snobby glam girls and the cheerleaders. My basketball friends talked to me again because they were dating my girlfriends. I got my diploma wearing a dress, and because my brother never graduated college, I finally got my father’s respect. I’m now 27, and I just went through my breast augmentation surgery last month. The ugly duckling is now a swan princess, and my basketball shorts are neatly folded in an old, dusty box hidden under my bed, where it belongs.

Salutations & Glorious Greetings to FWN and the Cast & Crew of The Vagina Monologues 2006

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And let’s see what our production crew was up to this year. Our co-directors brought in creative and insightful ideas. Our tried-and-true actor from Hollywood who founded her “May ‘K’: The Giovannie Pico Foundation,” opened her heart and home to cast members who needed additional coaching. Thank you, Giovannie Pico! Stockton-based Elena Mangahas, our co-director who roared “Cunt!” in our 2004 TVM production, believes in a peaceable future while co-director, Bettina Santos Yap, whose mother originally wanted to name her Beatrice, feels that her “sense of community” will resonate well with future generations. We were so blessed to have the adorable ken Marquis join us as “producer extraordinaire” this year. This Emmy-nominated TV producer and former child actor, among his numerous credentials, coached the actors before Giovannie Pico took over. Ken really made it happen. He made sure that the cast and crew totally understood the nuances of a theater production – and especially with the novice performers, who had to learn the basics of stage projection and stage presence – for a Wow! performance. Al Perez, the “darling of our Filipino community” and our art director, is truly one of our most heart-warming success stories in graphic design and volunteerism, dispelling

the myth that these two genres are oil-andwater mixtures. Pistahan Parade and Festival, the annual celebration of our Filipino culture and heritage, is Al’s main non-profit cause. You bet, we’re there to support you this August, Al! What if we were to tell you that synchronicity and serendipity were responsible for bringing Socorro “kit” de Castro, our musical director, to us in 2004? Lorna Dietz was so attracted to Kit’s mastery of the keyboard in 2000 that she insisted on keeping in touch. When Kit came on board, lo and behold, we had one of the most talented Filipina woman composers / song-writers in our midst. Although we now know about Kit’s credentials, here are just a few tidbits: Socorro, along with her husband, keyboardist Norman Landsberg, run Landsberg Music Productions, a full service music production company providing music direction and arrangements for album productions, live performances, as well as scoring for commercials and films such as Ramona S. Diaz’ award-winning documentary, “Spirits Rising.” Kit also has her own CD of original compositions, self-titled “Socorro.” Connie Lloren, our volunteer photographer, another veteran since 2004, has always kept us straight and narrow with her accounting and project management skills. If you loved many of our performers’ headshots, chances are that it was Connie’s work.

Sonia Delen, who recently humbly announced her promotion to Managing Director at Banc of America Leasing, decided that this year, she would just do production work. Thanks to her, Bank of America will always stay top-of-mind because we have wonderful memories of our rehearsals in their auditorium during the past three years. As executive producer, Tessie Zaragoza managed the business aspects of producing TVM since 2004. She made our productions look and feel effortless. We didn’t realize that it is Tessie’s skills as a diplomat and negotiator that helped us overcome many challenges. As a staunch advocate for transplant donors, we’ve seen Tessie take community relations in non-profit work to new levels of professionalism in the Filipino community. Tessie’s co-executive producer, Marily Mondejar, ever-articulate and ever-evolving as a true example of “A Filipina who could be President,” declined the inclusion of too much trivia in her honor. Marily said, “My job is to be invisible and let the cast and crew shine!” As for me, the volunteer society columnist for this year’s TVM cast and crew, I do have the last word. I didn’t know many of the cast members – and I had to come up with newsy and juicy tidbits. So, I lurked in the yahoo group and planted spies all over the place who willingly fed me inside information about the fabulous TVM cast and crew. I revealed

their personal highlights while remaining respectful and sensitive. Really, my role was to read between the lines. There’s really more to Filipina women that you’ve met backstage this year. We’ve offered you some delectable morsels of thought about our “Filipinas in Motion.” We’ll be back. And you’ll be back. And you’ll bring your friends to meet more of us. We look forward to our next time together. Lorna Lardizabal Dietz is a public relations, marketing, and strategic business consultant in the San Francisco Bay Area. Although Lorna claims that she will make the time to update her website, www.radiantview. com, she feels that some of her activities, such as her consulting work with the Filipino American Senior Opportunities Development Council, Inc. in San Jose and her business development responsibilities at www. filipinasmag.com (Filipinas Magazine) rate “high” on her priority list. Lorna thinks that perhaps Marily Mondejar is right in assuming that a society-gossip column on Page 6 of a reputable publication might just be a new, “pop culture” avenue of promoting Filipino American empowerment. Lorna Dietz can be reached at lornadietz@gmail.com.

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(Continued from p. 12) 7. Blames Others for His Feelings: He may tell the woman “you make me mad,” “you’re hurting me by not doing what I ask,” I can’t help being angry.” He really makes the decision about what he thinks and feels but will use feelings to manipulate the woman. 8. Hypersensitivity: He may be easily insulted. He claims his feelings are “hurt” when he’s really mad, or he takes the slightest setbacks as personal attacks. He will “rant and rave” about the injustice of things that have happened to him. These things are really just part of living, like being asked to work overtime, getting a traffic ticket, being told that something he does is annoying, being asked to help with chores. 9. Cruelty to Animals or Children: This may be a man who punishes

animals brutally or is insensitive to their pain or suffering. He may expect children to be capable of doing things far beyond their ability (hits a 2-year-old for wetting their diaper), or he may tease children or young brothers and sisters until they cry. (60% of men, who are with women, also beat their children). He may not want children to eat at the table or expect them to keep to their room all evening while he is at home. 10. “Playful” Use of Force in Sex: He may like to throw the woman down and hold her down during sex. He may want to act out fantasies during sex where the woman is helpless. He may be letting her know that the idea of “rape” excites him. He may start having sex with the woman while she is sleeping or demand sex when she is ill or tired.
Adapted from Project for Victims of Family Violence, Inc., Fayetteville, AR

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Filipina Women’s Network P. O. Box 192143 San Francisco, CA 94119 Phone: 415. 278. 9410 Fax: 415. 840. 0655 E-mail: filipina@ffwn.org Website: www.ffwn.org Mission Statement Established in 2001, FWN’s mission is to enhance public perceptions of Filipina women’s capacities to lead, change biases against Filipina women’s leadership abilities and promote the entry of Filipina women into positions of leadership in corporate, government, and nonprofit sectors. FWN achieves its mission through public education forums that heighten Filipina women’s visibility, research on Filipina women’s issues, leadership, skill building and career development programs for Filipina women, and influencing popular culture. Goals 2006-07 Increase financial assistance capabilities to ensure that FWN educational programs and events are accessible to Filipina women of all socio-economic backgrounds. Increase FWN’s network of Filipina women business owners and those employed in corporations, government and nonprofit organizations and utilize the database as a pipeline for opportunities for corporate visibility and professional development. Endow the Filipina Leadership Development and Mentoring Program Generate operating funds for the establishment of a national headquarters and research library to house our historical collection documenting the achievements of Filipina women in the U. S.
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Fundraising Events, Corporate Sponsorships and Naming Opportunities Partner with the Filipina Women’s Network and support Filipina women, America’s untapped source for leadership and talent.
FILIPINA WOMEN AGAINST VIOLENCE Campaign to stop abuse against Filipina women and girls. V-Day San Francisco Spotlight 2006: Justice to ‘Comfort Women’. All-Filipina women production of “The Vagina Monologues” performed in English and Tagalog (“Usaping Puki”). Sunday, February 26, 2006 Herbst Theatre 401 Van Ness Ave., San Francisco Tickets: (415) 392-4400 www.cityboxoffice.com Call: (415) 278-9410 for sponsorships. COUNCIL OF REMARkABLE FILIPINA WOMEN Mentoring Circles – creating a community of Filipinas helping each other succeed and cultivating future community leaders. Sponsor a mentoring circle. Call (415) 278-9410 4TH ANNUAL FILIPINA SUMMIT October 27-29, 2006 San Francisco Attention Corporations: Plan Your Participation Now! Send your Filipina employees to the Summit. Call (415) 278-9410. The Filipina Summit is convened in October because the earliest documented proof of Filipino presence in the Continental United States was in October 1587 in Morro Bay, California. “V-DIARIES”: ANTI-VIOLENCE RESOURCE GUIDE Annual publication designed to provide a voice for domestic violence survivors and Filipina women and girls in abusive situations including a resource list of domestic violence agencies, shelters, legal and counseling services and law enforcement offices. Publication date: March 2006. Call (415) 278-9410 to place an ad. FILIPINA WOMEN WHO COULD BE PRESIDENT Leadership program for Filipina women. Building the Filipina community’s pipeline of qualified leaders, to increase the odds that some will rise to the president position in all sectors. Sponsor a “presidential candidate.” Call (415) 278-9410 FILIPINA WOMEN’S NETWORk MAGAZINE Annual publication about the nuances of Filipina culture, empowerment articles, career strategies, and highlighting the accomplishments of Filipina women in the U. S. Publication date: October 2006. Call (415) 278-9410 to place an ad. kAPAMILYA COMMUNITY PARTNER FUND Endow research projects and educational programs about the Filipina American Experience. Call (415) 278-9410 for naming opportunities and for sponsorships.

How to reach the Filipina Women’s Network • P. O. Box 192143, San Francisco, CA 94119 • Phone: 415 / 278. 9410 • Fax: 415 / 840. 0655 • www.ffwn.org. The views and opinions of advertisers and contributors expressed in this publication do not necessarily state or reflect those of Filipina Women’s Network. © 2005 Filipina Women’s Network. All Rights Reserved. No part of this publication may be published without the expressed written permission of the publisher.
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Coming Together As a Community: Managing our Future . . .
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Filipina Summit “Shaping the Filipina Image” A Future Search Conference
Filipina Women’s Network October 27-29, 2006 Crowne Plaza Union Square, San Francisco Questions? 415.278.9410 To register: http://fwnfuturesearch.mollyguard.com For more info: www.ffwn.org/FutureSearch.htm

PAST: Milestones in society, self, and the Filipina community over three decades PURPOSE: Experience similarities, share facts of each others’ worlds PRESENT: External forces shaping our lives and our community right now PURPOSE: Talk about same world, find common ground, confront chaos, take responsibility FUTURE: Ideal scenarios and common ground PURPOSE: Translates dialogue into aspirations, discover common ground ACTION PLANNING PURPOSE: Increase probability of aligned actions

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