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Your personality type: “The Consul” (ESFJ-A

Strength of individual traits: Extraverted: 48%, Observant: 8%, Feeling: 4%, Judging: 11%,
Assertive: 11%.
Role: Sentinel
Strategy: People Mastery

Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by
us all.
Deborah Day

People who share the ESFJ personality type are, for lack of a better word,
popular – which makes sense, given that it is also a very common personality
type, making up twelve percent of the population. In high school, ESFJs are
the cheerleaders and the quarterbacks, setting the tone, taking the spotlight
and leading their teams forward to victory and fame. Later in life, ESFJs
continue to enjoy supporting their friends and loved ones, organizing social
gatherings and doing their best to make sure everyone is happy.
At their hearts, ESFJ personalities are social creatures, and thrive on staying
up to date with what their friends are doing.
Discussing scientific theories or debating European politics isn't likely to
capture ESFJs' interest for too long. ESFJs are more concerned with fashion
and their appearance, their social status and the standings of other people.
Practical matters and gossip are their bread and butter, but ESFJs do their
best to use their powers for good.

Respecting the Wisdom of Leadership
ESFJs are altruists, and they take seriously their responsibility to help and to
do the right thing. Unlike their Diplomat (NF) relatives however, people with
the ESFJ personality type will base their moral compass on established
traditions and laws, upholding authority and rules, rather than drawing their
morality from philosophy or mysticism. It's important for ESFJs to remember
though, that people come from many backgrounds and perspectives, and
what may seem right to them isn't always an absolute truth.

This is especially apparent at home. Play Dates Aren't Just for the Kids! Supportive and outgoing. ESFJ STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES ESFJ Strengths  Strong Practical Skills – ESFJs are excellent managers of day-to-day tasks and routine maintenance. ESFJ personalities respect hierarchy. Again. ESFJs can always be spotted at a party – they're the ones finding time to chat and laugh with everyone! But their devotion goes further than just breezing through because they have to. take care of what they have the power to take care of. and that disinterest isn't a comment about them or the activity they've organized – it's just not their thing.ESFJs love to be of service. If things aren't going right. Being pretty conflict-averse. and it's easy for ESFJs' feelings to be hurt if their ideas are rejected. . ESFJs truly enjoy hearing about their friends' relationships and activities. which allows them to keep things clear. it's just a part of life. Coming to terms with their sensitivity is ESFJs' biggest challenge – people are going to disagree and they're going to criticize. The best thing for ESFJs to do is to do what they do best: be a role model. or if people just aren't interested. so long as they know that they are valued and appreciated. it's important for ESFJs to remember that everyone is coming from a different place. enjoying any role that allows them to participate in a meaningful way. and enjoy that so many people do appreciate the efforts they make. ESFJs pick up on it and to try to restore harmony and stability to the group. enjoying making sure that those who are close to them are well cared for. and prefer plans and organized events to open-ended activities or spontaneous get-togethers. People with this personality type put a lot of effort into the activities they've arranged. and ESFJs make loyal and devoted partners and parents. or there's tension in the room. and do their best to position themselves with some authority. remembering little details and always standing ready to talk things out with warmth and sensitivity. at home and at work. and while it hurts. stable and organized for everyone. ESFJs spend a lot of their energy establishing social order.

ESFJs may also be unwilling to step out of their own comfort zones.  Very Loyal – Valuing stability and security very highly.  Reluctant to Innovate or Improvise – Just as they can be critical of others' "unusual" behavior. ESFJs are strong team players. usually for fear of being (or just appearing) different. Strong Sense of Duty – People with the ESFJ personality type have a strong sense of responsibility and strive to meet their obligations. and have no problem with small talk or following social cues in order to help them take an active role in their communities.  Good at Connecting with Others – These qualities come together to make ESFJs social. ESFJs are true pillars of any groups they belong to – whether it is their family or a community club. potentially limiting their creativity and open-mindedness. comfortable and well-liked. and win-win situations are the stuff smiles are made of.  Sensitive and Warm – Helping to ensure that stability. ESFJs are eager to preserve the status quo. . being careful not to offend or hurt anybody. which makes them extremely loyal and trustworthy partners and employees. which affects many decisions they make. ESFJ personalities seek harmony and care deeply about other people's feelings. and can be very cautious. even critical of anything unconventional or outside the mainstream. ESFJ personalities have a strong need to "belong". People with this personality type may also sometimes push their own beliefs too hard in an effort to establish them as mainstream. ESFJ Weaknesses  Worried about Their Social Status – These Strengths are related to a chief Weakness: ESFJs' preoccupation with social status and influence. people with this personality type can always be relied upon.  Inflexible – ESFJs place a lot of importance on what is socially acceptable. though this may sometimes be more from a sense of social expectations than intrinsic drive.

ESFJs often neglect their own needs in the process. Furthermore. criticizes their habits.  Often Too Needy – ESFJs need to hear and see a great deal of appreciation. in an attempt to get reassurance of how much they are valued. especially a person close to them.. and the feelings of security and stability that come with strong romantic relationships are extremely warming. ESFJ personalities take each stage.  ESFJ RELATIONSHIPS  Prizing social validation and a sense of belonging so highly. which can make it challenging to address any problems that come up. beliefs or traditions. from creating understanding early on to building mutual respect and support for each other's opinions and goals. and marriage and family are the ultimate goal.. Nothing is more hurtful or depressing to ESFJs than to realize that their partners don't respect their dreams or opinions. something that can quickly overwhelm those who don't need it. Vulnerable to Criticism – It can be especially challenging to change these tendencies because ESFJs are so conflict-averse. Knowing that they are loved and appreciated has a huge effect on ESFJs' mood and self-esteem. romantic relationships hold a special level of importance for ESFJs. making it ultimately unwelcome.  If they feel like this support isn't there. such as when their partners deliver criticism. very seriously. People with the ESFJ personality type dislike conflict and criticism. ESFJs can be surprisingly tough and .  ESFJs don't do casual flings – they need to know that their partners will always be by their sides offering unwavering support. ESFJs can feel extremely hurt. If their efforts go unnoticed.  Too Selfless – The other side of this is that ESFJs sometimes try to establish their value with doting attention.  With such a goal in mind.  Live Long Enough and Everyone Makes Mistakes. Everything about ESFJs' relationships is based on satisfying mutual needs. from dating to everything thereafter. people with the ESFJ personality type may start fishing for compliments. ESFJ personalities can become very defensive and hurt if someone. No other kind of relationship provides people with the ESFJ personality type with the same level of support and devotion.

).  . . with partners who appreciate their care and generosity fully. etc.  ESFJs are often very organized in how their relationships develop. As the two partners become more comfortable with each other.tireless in the face of hardship. and are happy to take on such responsibilities in the name of taking care of the people they care about. and who reciprocate as well. loyal people who want to feel trusted and valued. ESFJs' emphasis on process and tradition continue with established gender roles and socially acceptable activities. following established dating rules and traditions (don't call first. since ESFJs are so centered on the physical world and are quite emotional. Another snare is their fixation on social status and approval – it's not uncommon for ESFJs' social circles and relatives to play a bigger part in their choice of dating partners than even their own values. but they need to know without a doubt that their partners are behind them 100%. so long as their partners are willing to reciprocate. less mature ESFJs may lack the inner strength and wisdom to attract this in healthy ways. ESFJs are often open to experimenting and trying new things. with maybe one more opposing trait to help ESFJs focus on logical decisions when appropriate. it can too easily lead to emotionally abusive relationships. and this sort of intimacy is a great way to do so.  Unfortunately. partners should share ESFJs' Observant (S) trait. This is a terrible trap – not only is it unattractive. third date. In general. a wonderful quality. and overall great sexual partners.. ESFJs just need to make sure they take the time to ensure that they build relationships that allow them to satisfy their own needs and dreams. compromising their own principles and values in exchange for their partners' approval. which reduce ESFJs' self-esteem further. They can be very needy.  However. As their relationships enter more sexual stages. or to be more open-minded in new situations. They are great with practical matters like money management and administrative tasks. but it can also be useful to develop a sense of introspection that Introverted (I) partners can provide. and certain personality types are best able to meet those needs.But Learning From Those Mistakes Makes a Better Person  ESFJs are warm. People with this personality type love to find ways to make their partners happy.. they tend to be very affectionate and sensual.  ESFJs have specific needs for their relationships.

to avoid being insulated from other viewpoints and opinions. dull moments are sure to be few and far between. seeing the support they offer as much as a responsibility as a pleasure.  ESFJs have a tendency to believe that their friends can do no wrong.  We're All in It Together  On the other hand. While in their weaker moments. ESFJs almost always use their powers for good.  ESFJ personalities are also sensitive to the traditions of friendship. and their support and dedication keep those friendships close and strong. and being so comfortable with introductions and small talk. they are far more interested in maintaining strong relationships.  Doing everything they can to make sure their friends are happy. rather than making snap judgments and conclusions. the ESFJ personality type is a pleasant and sincere one. This is a dynamic that ESFJs genuinely enjoy. encouraging and inspiring others. There's nothing quite as hurtful to people with the ESFJ personality type as finding out that a trusted friend is critical of their beliefs or habits. Their energy and social intelligence win them many acquaintances and friends.ESFJ FRIENDS  ESFJs are very social personality types. except maybe being told so in a direct confrontation. It's important for ESFJs. seeking large circles of friends and proving themselves more than willing to spend the time and energy necessary to maintain these relationships.  By and large. ESFJs are naturally very popular in pretty much any environment. and this is a great tool for doing so. ESFJs are known for standing by their friends no matter what. and providing a constant source of emotional support and encouragement. . but they also expect their efforts and support to be reciprocated. ESFJ personalities can sometimes use these observations to manipulate others. Loyal and warm. always stepping up to defend them regardless of circumstances. ESFJs can greatly expand their circle of friends if they learn to be more receptive to other perspectives. as with anyone. With so much zest for life and company. to relate to and understand ever more people. ESFJs are great at using their sensitivity to stay in tune with what motivates and drives their friends. and they expect the same benefit of the doubt in return. Altruists that they are.

ESFJ parents are able to establish rules and authority without being entirely overbearing. ESFJ parents step in firmly. People with the ESFJ personality type enjoy the support they are able to give their infants.  Handling Adversity Fosters Growth  As their children grow and begin to explore more. and as time goes on and they have their own . and they cherish every moment of it. using their compassion and support to smooth over the occasional miscommunication or difference of opinion. and expect their words to be respected. Family being as important as it is to ESFJs. by arranging play dates. but also socially. Feeling like they are losing their children. ESFJs try to ensure that their children feel safe and happy. Not a Destination  As their children grow into adolescence and begin to push away from their parents. It's important to remember that when grown children leave the home. and it's often the case that they try to use indirect pressure to try to teach life's lessons. an accomplishment ESFJs can be proud of. ESFJ parents view the parentchild relationship in black and white terms.  ESFJs value harmony and stability highly. who are utterly dependent on their care. ESFJs have an excellent opportunity to display their warmth. When they are forced into a confrontation by their children's blatant wrong-doing though. this is an incredibly rewarding start to the relationship.  From the start. ESFJs may not just keep their children safe physically.  ESFJs' children will always appreciate the sensitivity and warmth that they were raised with. affection and dedication in ways that have a real and positive impact.  Having children is often the culmination of ESFJs' life goals. ESFJs can take this transition personally. camps and other activities so much that their children aren't free to make the blunders that lead to emotional growth and social independence. but often becomes overprotective. with their authority as final. Sensitive yet firm. Believers in traditional roles. it's because their parents were successful in preparing them for the next phase of their lives. ESFJs' love and care grows with them. ESFJ personalities sometimes try to prolong their dependence as long as possible.  Character Is a Journey.ESFJ PARENTS  As parents.

as ESFJs are comfortable with authority. Monotony and routine work are not a challenge for the ESFJ personality type. ESFJ CAREERS Because ESFJs' traits are so strongly expressed. instead of corporate accountants crunching numbers in some back room. and often work best in environments with clear. This is often the driving force behind ESFJs' careers and career advancement. as they are happy to do what needs to be done. and makes religious work and counseling particularly rewarding. allowing ESFJs to organize not just an environment. but people who genuinely enjoy it. enjoying bringing order and structure to their workplaces.  ESFJs' best careers all have the additional benefit of providing them with perhaps their most important requirement: to feel appreciated and know they've helped someone. leading with practical sense and social vigor. but the people in it. not Conflict  Careers as administrators are a natural fit. .  Being as altruistic as they are.  Purely analytical careers are often too dull for ESFJs though – they need human interaction and emotional feedback to be truly satisfied in their line of work. Good listeners and enthusiastic team members. Teaching is another great option. but are supportive and friendly enough to keep that authority from feeling overbearing. Their practical skills combine well with their dependability. ESFJ personalities' comfort with busy social situations and practical knowledge and skills come together to create people who are not just able to be productive and helpful. helping people and interacting with them directly. ESFJs are well-organized. making ESFJ personalities surprisingly good accountants – though they often prefer to be personal accountants.children. predictable hierarchies and tasks. ESFJs find it hard to be satisfied unless they know they've done something valuable for another person. people with the ESFJ personality type are excellent providers of medical care and social work.  Cooperation. they will cherish the fact that those children have the benefit of grandparents who love and care for them unconditionally. the careers they find most satisfying usually revolve around making the best use of these qualities.  Whatever they choose to do.

hard-working people who respect the authority of their managers. even dependent on clear hierarchies and roles. ESFJ personalities can take it personally. and their dedication and loyalty earn them the respect of their managers. safety and guidelines. which has the side effect of making them particularly sensitive when they come under criticism. ESFJs are patient. and ESFJs may need their coworkers to make an effort to express their appreciation from time to time. efficient. and whether subordinates. and use their warmth and social intelligence to make sure that each person knows their responsibilities and is able to get done what needs to get done. When their suggestions and help are turned down. On the other hand. ESFJs have clear tendencies that show through regardless of their position. ESFJs are comfortable. Often seeking friends at work. ESFJs often need to work on a team – being stuck alone chipping away at paperwork for days on end just leaves them tired and unfulfilled. ESFJ personalities expect authority to be respected and backed up by rules and standards.ESFJ IN THE WORKPLACE When it comes to the workplace. they thrive in workplaces with structure. colleagues or managers. Excellent networkers. . ESFJ Subordinates With clearly defined responsibilities and a sense of purpose. Routine tasks are not a problem for ESFJs. ESFJs always seem to “know just the guy” to bring a project together on time. While ESFJs may struggle with too much freedom and improvisation. ESFJs take pride in these qualities. rejections like these can be pretty demoralizing. ESFJ Colleagues Teamwork is a concept that ESFJs have no trouble putting into practice. people with this personality type are almost always willing to lend a hand when and where it’s needed. People with the ESFJ personality type thrive on social order and harmony. Already somewhat vulnerable to stress.

this is so accurate it's a little creepy" or "finally. ESFJs' dedication is invaluable in many areas. ESFJs are good at creating and maintaining a secure. At the same time. ESFJs need to put in a conscious effort to develop their weaker traits and additional skills. and just generally react badly. ESFJs have a strong respect for traditional power structures. CONCLUSION Few personality types are as practical and caring as ESFJs. lose their temper. and if after all their efforts convincing their subordinates to work together someone ends up challenging their authority. they can stress out. Whether it is finding (or keeping) a partner. ESFJs find ways to make everyone feel involved. and the enjoyment they feel in managing other people translates well into management positions. As team leaders. uniting people and smoothing relations in order to get things done. People with the ESFJ personality type are sensitive about their status and dislike conflict. Yet ESFJs can be easily tripped up in areas where their kindness and practical approach are more of a liability than an asset. someone understands me!" You may have even asked "how do they know more about me than the people I'm closest to?" . including their own personal growth. stable and friendly environment for themselves and their loved ones. Known for their social and administrative skills. reaching dazzling heights on the career ladder. or managing their workload. So long as expectations are clearly outlined. You may have muttered to yourself. and prefer situations where everyone knows their role.ESFJ Managers ESFJs enjoy the responsibility that comes with organizing social situations. What you have read so far is just an introduction into the complex concept that is the ESFJ personality type. "wow. learning to relax or improvise. ESFJs are effective and enjoyable managers.

You simply need to learn how they succeeded. we did not spy on you – many of the challenges you've faced and will face in the future have been overcome by other ESFJs.This is not a trick. We've studied how ESFJs think and what they need to reach their full potential. CAREER PATHS . And no. You felt understood because you were. FRIENDPS  6. 4.