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Fairfield County Women’s Center Newsletter
Director: Bernice Marie-Daly, Ph.D.
TABLE OF CONTENTS
April 25, 2010 Volume 2, Issue 5 Editor: Laurel S. Peterson Women in Non-Trad Careers 2 Dr. B’s Report Chelsea Rising Dear Artemis Women’s Right to Vote Tina Langley, cont. 2 3 3 4 4
Find Your Center
MEET TINA LANGLEY!
Tina Langley is the new face at the desk in the Women’s Center. A student at NCC since 1997, she is studying to be a respiratory care therapist and eventually hopes to become a nurse. She came to school later in life and has taken her classes slowly—one or two at a time. At the beginning, it was difficult with three children, she says, to make ends meet and still pay for her classes, but she stuck it out, and that’s an important thing to her. What struck me most about Tina was her spirit of perseverance. More than once when we were talking about her schooling or her life, she said, ―You’ve got a find a way to keep climbing up that mountain. Eventually, you’ll get there.‖ She divorced her husband when he started ―stepping out.‖ Apparently, he was so absent from their home that she was in school for a year before he noticed. (She took up golf, too, and he never knew.) Young women today, she says, have to figure out ―who they are,‖ because once they know that ―they won’t let a man dictate to them.‖ She found out about the FCWC through last winter’s Connecticut Women’s Hall of Fame exhibit. She came out of her Western Civilization class, saw it in the lobby, and got talking to some of the other women looking at the banners. They were comparing notes about which of the women they recognized, and Tina commented on how those women had made it
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Julia Ward Howe/Mother’s Day Proclamation 5 Academic Festival Shots EPortfolio 6 6
Fairfield County Women’s Center at Norwalk Community College 188 Richards Ave Norwalk, CT 06854 203-857-6941 Hours: M—Th: 10 –6
Funded by the NCC Foundation
2009-2010 Director’s Report From Dr. Bernice Marie-Daly (Dr. B)
I’m happy to say that more and more students are connecting with the Women’s Center! For example, the Artemis Column on the next page is written for students by students, and students instantly bought all the earrings at our EAR-resistible earring sale held during the campuswide Stress Free Zone before finals last semester. Our chair massage was also a huge success. Students come to talk privately about their financial concerns every Wednesday afternoon and contribute periodically to donation drives for Malta House and the Domestic Violence Crisis Center. As well, Students frequently come to FCWC looking for referral information for personal issues and social services to agencies throughout Fairfield County. Other students created service learning projects, applying what they were learning in the classroom to real life situations, while more than 110 students decorated tshirts in support of those who have experienced abuse at the co-sponsored Airing Your Dirty Laundry event last month. The Fairfield County Women’s Center also offered programming for the community at large this year, by hosting the Connecticut Women’s Hall of Fame Exhibit, participating in the Academic Festival and twice cosponsoring the internationally acclaimed film, Pray the Devil Back to Hell. Finally, I’m excited to tell you that over two hundred students attended our Classroom Connection Programs and over 1,000 students participated in an FCWC event this year. The FCWC Newsletter and ePortolio (http://norwalk.digication.com/bmarie-daly/home//) are great ways to stay in touch. In September we’re going to re -establish the FCWC Club, have some fun, and create innovative, engaging campus-wide projects and a blog or two. Maybe you’d like to join us! Take a moment to stop by the Center (W-116) and let me know what’s on your mind. You’re always welcome. Dr. B
"The full and complete development of the world and the cause of peace requires the maximum participation of women as well as men in all fields." -- UN Declaration on Elimination of Discrimination Against Women.
WOMEN IN NON-TRADITIONAL CAREERS WEDNESDAY, APRIL 13, CULINARY ARTS The room was filled to overflowing! Check it out. (Above, Prof. Gary Mecozzi with a room full of attendees; below, the panelsists: engineer Carole Bilson , police officer Heather Franc, and Bonnie Hagen, LEED/Green Technology. In a related note, Last month Congressman Jared Polis of Colorado and Congresswoman Rosa DeLauro of Connecticut introduced H.R. 4830, the Women and Workforce Investment for Nontraditional Jobs (Women WIN Jobs) Act, which has the support of NASDCTEc. This bill would help place women in high wage, high demand jobs through education and training services. More specifically, funds could be used for such activities as recruiting low-income women for careers in nontraditional occupations; providing comprehensive career guidance and counseling; assisting low-income women in accessing programs leading to a degree, industry recognized certificate or credential, and apprenticeship programs; and coordinating with public secondary education institutions to improve the transition of participants into an institution of higher education, a program of study or a registered apprenticeship program. The bill would also convene a national commission to examine and make recommendations for improving the status of women in high-demand, high-wage nontraditional occupations. The commission would include representatives from business and industry, education, and state workforce and economic development agencies.
CHECK OUT CHELSEARISING.COM: A STUDENT BLOG
Dear Dr. [Marie-] Daly: I am a student in Dr. Milton’s Gender Roles in the Everyday World course. Thank you for coming in and explaining the Women’s Center awhile back! For the service [learning] project, I have a created a blog, focusing on the goal to raise awareness of gender issues, roles, and inspire readers, allowing them to recognize the importance of their voice. The intent is to act as ―The Second Simone‖ (de Beauvoir), dethroning myths that prevent progress of civil rights. I’ve included my own photography, as well as widgets for resources (articles, books, movies, etc.) to help readers further any interest in gender studies. It was suggested for me to contact you, perhaps a link to the blog could be featured in the FCWC newsletter: www.chelsearising.com I’m open to suggestions and thoughts! Best wishes, Chelsea
DEAR ARTEMIS: An Advice Column
Written for Students by Students
their wardrobe. Undesirable behavior from men as a result of a woman’s clothing choices dates far back in history. Long ago, the only women who wore more promiscuous clothing were prostitutes. In Simone De Beauvoir’s, book, The Second Sex, she writes that these women would wear high heels, clinging clothes, heavy make up, and strong scents to make their services known to potential customers. Although you are most certainly not a streetwalker, history still unconsciously associates skimpier clothing with negative sexual stereotypes. I do understand that you still want to be sexy and not dowdy, though. If you would like a suggestion for a ―happy medium,‖ I recommend mixing sexy pieces with more covered up ones. For example, if you wear a short dress, make sure it is not too tight and does not show too much cleavage, or wear a sexy top with looser pants. However, you don’t need to dress overtly sexy to get a guy, because you’re wonderful the way you are: A good guy will care about who you are on the inside, and not be focused on what you wear!
Whenever I go out with my friends at night, I never attract nice guys. I always get hit on by guys who are players who don’t respect me, and try to get me to go home with them! I want to look sexy, but I also don’t want creeps to be hitting on me. Why can’t I just find a nice guy the way I’m dress- Dear Artemis: I have been in relationships with many guys, but they never ing now? last. The guy slowly becomes distant and eventually breaks up with me. I don’t understand why: I’m sweet, I’m caring, I -TRYING TO FIND A BALANCE do a lot of nice things for them, and I’m very willing to spend all my time with them. I think I’m the perfect girlDear Trying: friend; Why don’t the guys I’m dating see the same thing? Your situation is extremely common; Most women, if not all, constantly find themselves puzzled in front of the mirror over the ―balance‖ in -PERFECT GIRLFRIEND (continued, p. 4)
Remembering the Long Road to Women's Suffrage
It is easy to get cynical or discouraged about the slow progress on issues like health care, education or economics. But a historic health care law eventually passed. Even more contentious has been the long struggle for women's rights. This year is the 90th anniversary of the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution giving women the right to vote. That simple step took 72 years from the day that Elizabeth Cady Stanton stood before the first women's convention in Seneca Falls in 1848 and shocked many people by suggesting that women should have that right. At the Seneca Falls gathering, Mrs. Stanton, speaking publicly for the first time, read her Declaration and Resolutions supporting basic women's rights. All were adopted unanimously except the final one calling for women's right to vote. Many thought it was too extreme and would endanger the success of achieving other rights. Editors writing of the convention used terms such as "the most shocking and unnatural incident ever recorded in the history of womankind" and attacked women's rights as a "monstrous injury to all mankind" that would "demoralize and degrade" women. Women's rights would end in the destruction of home and family, some argued. In the 1850s, Cady was joined by Susan B. Anthony, a Quaker, one of the few religious groups that supported women's rights. Cady and Anthony effectively shared leadership of the women's movement for decades and complemented each other's skills. Their immediate goal was to persuade the New York State Legislature to extend the Married Women's Property Act of 1848 so that a woman would have the right to keep her own earnings, to use or invest them in her own name, and to bargain, sell, and carry on any trade or perform any services on her own account. They argued that a woman should be able to enter into contracts, sue and have joint guardianship over her children. As a widow, she should have the same property rights as the husband would have at her death. Compiled by Tina Langley from http://womenshistory.about.com/od/suffrage1848/a/seneca_falls.htm. DEAR ARTEMIS (cont. from page 3)
Although you may be the ―perfect girlfriend,‖ and a man no doubt loves an affectionate woman, he also desires a woman who has a world outside of the relationship. A woman that gives herself blindly to a man loses the dimension of freedom that at first made her fascinating. Over time, the man becomes bored, because in the words of Simone De Beauvoir, ―she is nothing more but his slave.‖ A guy wants his girlfriend to be absolutely his, yet a stranger. He wants her to ―conform exactly to his dream and to be different from anything he can imagine.‖ This sounds complicated, but this basically means that, although it’s great that you are so devoted to your partners, it’s important to have your own world, not just an interconnected existence with whomever you are dating. Guys love a woman who is devoted to them, but usually only find a strong lasting attraction with a woman who has some independence. If you have a special hobby, devote time to that sometimes, make time for other people you care about, and so on. It’s wonderful that you are such a giving person, but it’s important to also make time for you!
Mother’s Day Proclamation By Julia Ward Howe (1819-1910)
Arise then...women of this day! Arise, all women who have hearts! Whether your baptism be of water or of tears! Say firmly: ―We will not have questions answered by irrelevant agencies, Our husbands will not come to us, reeking with carnage, For caresses and applause. Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn All that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience. We, the women of one country, Will be too tender of those of another country To allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs. From the voice of a devastated Earth a voice goes up with Our own. It says: ―Disarm! Disarm! The sword of murder is not the balance of justice.‖ Blood does not wipe our dishonor, Nor violence indicate possession. As men have often forsaken the plough and the anvil At the summons of war, Let women now leave all that may be left of home For a great and earnest day of counsel. Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead. Let them solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means Whereby the great human family can live in peace… Each bearing after his own time the sacred impress, not of Caesar, But of God— In the name of womanhood and humanity, I earnestly ask That a general congress of women without limit of nationality, May be appointed and held at someplace deemed most convenient And the earliest period consistent with its objects, To promote the alliance of the different nationalities, The amicable settlement of international questions, The great and general interests of peace.
Julia Ward Howe
was born in New York City in 1819 and died in Portsmouth, Rhode Island, in 1910. Howe was an intelligent and inquisitive child. She educated herself and became a formidable intellect in a time when women were very limited in their educational endeavors. She benefited from the excellent library her brother shipped from Europe during his travels. Without her father’s knowledge she became acquainted with writers such as Balzac and Sand. Howe was torn between her love for her father and her ambitions as a writer, a thinker and an individual. She was as fun loving as she was serious. As a wealthy heiress, social contact (though limited by her father) connected her with some of the leading minds of the time. It was her brother Sam who exposed her to people like Longfellow, Dickens, Charles Sumner and Margaret Fuller. Howe became very involved in the reform movement and supported issues like abolition, women's rights, prison reform and education. She developed close friendships with members of the Boston intellectual elite -- William Ellery Channing, Thomas Wentworth Higginson, and Theodore Parker. While she was prevented from attending to some of the work she wished to engage in, she managed to free herself from her husband’s demands and secure her own interests. She was fluent in seven languages and a serious scholar of philosophy. When her poem, the "Battle Hymn of the Republic," was published in 1861, it brought her instant celebrity, and the song would make her one of the most famous women in 19th century America. Howe continued her study and work for reform. Women’s Suffrage was the cause she was most involved in and she began to be known for her strong and outspoken views. Her fame brought her even more autonomy, and her ambitions were beginning to be realized. After the death of her husband 1876, she established a career for herself as a preacher, a reformer, a writer and a poet. Howe traveled the world promoting Women's Rights, Peace, Prison and Education Reform as a preacher, lecturer and dignitary. She was seen as a bridge between Society and Reform and used her celebrity and social status to further her ideology. Among her many contributions to American society is her famous "Battle Hymn of the Republic," which has become a national anthem of sorts. She was also co-editor and writer for The Woman's Journal, which lobbied for suffrage and human rights. She was instrumental in creating Mother's Day, which she envisioned as a day of solemn council where women from all over the world could meet to discuss the means whereby to achieve world peace. They would also convene as mothers, keeping in mind the duty of protecting their children. She became the first woman elected to the Society of Arts and Letters. Compiled by Tina Langley from http://www.juliawardhowe.org/ bio.htm
THIS SEMESTER’S FINAL CLASSROOM CONNECTION APRIL 22, 9:30—10:30
Forum, East Campus Janet Genovese’s Nursing Class is hosting Susan Delaney, speaking about Domestic Violence.
ACADEMIC FESTIVAL SHOTS! On the left , ―Matthew Shepherd: Twelve Years Later,‖ and on the right, ―Women in Politics‖ with Patricia Russo of our own advisory board! Thanks everyone!
Tina Langley, continued
possible for women now to have education. Bernice Marie-Daly, the Center director, overheard her and commanded her to ―Write that down!‖ so she could post it on the center’s eportfolio (See below!). Dr. B and Tina got talking, and Tina was impressed by the mission and outreach of the Center. She knew she wouldn’t be taking classes in the spring, and after debating between working or volunteering, decided to give her valuable time to the Center. For fun, Tina rides a Harley Road King motorcycle, sews, and goes to concerts of all kinds. She also occasionally bakes for the church, although she cautions her church friends not to ask her to bake when she’s studying, as she’s been known to forget ingredients, and bake a pancake instead of a cake! She’s looking forward to finishing her degree and is already planning a trip to the Caribbean or Hawaii to celebrate. Drop into the Center and have a chat with Tina: Talking to the people who come into the Center is the part of the job she enjoys the most!
EPORTFOLIO: COME JOIN US! This is where Tina Langley posted her comments—check them out: The FCWC is building its own eportfolio! It’s a place to dialogue about women’s issues, post your own women’s center-related comments and documents, and check out the projects and happenings at the center. Come see what we’re doing at www.norwalk.digication.com/bmarie-daly/home. Send your comments to email@example.com and we’ll upload your comments to the site.
HAVE A GREAT SUMMER!! SEE YOU BACK HERE IN THE FALL!
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