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THE PERSON BEHIND ME

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PRINCIPLES

NOW I KNOW MY PREFERENCE Testimonial on MBTI

A NEW DIRECTION TO MY THOUGHT mbti@ TEST MEDITATION Meditation the free natural medicine

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PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT

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PRINCIPLE OF ‘THE SECRET’ Experience and experiment

From The Desk of Our Team...
Energy never exhaust, it only transforms from one form to another. Energy exists everywhere, in every cell, in every Human being. We sometimes bring us to a halt because we sometimes drop to identify our inbuilt vigor. We sometimes fall short to cope up with situations because we think that by no means we are equipped. But naively & heavenly we are intrinsic equipped. Epoch is calling for to find out our self & to plant our energy in right route to reach our aspiration. Here aspiration has its integrity. Our team endeavored to devote our energy to reveal our interior energy. BIRAJ DEB

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE What is it and why it matters THE REAL HERO for me

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MEDITATION: A panacea

? TOWARDS FLOURISHING Defeating all agony
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A MAN IS WHAT HE THINKS ? ABOUT ALL DAY LONG
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GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU

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A FIGHT AGAINST DESTINY
A tale of Mr. Saurav Sharma. want to share an inspiring story about one of our seniors Mr. SAURAV SHARMA. I was born on Sep.15, 1984. I am very laborious, sincere, intelligent & punctual in his life. I am bought up in a nuclear family. my father was a businessman, my mother is a clinical psychologist and my brother was a software engineer. We were an exuberantly happy family. I love spreading happiness & touching the lives of people. Part 1: In my first year in St. Xavier's College I found my health deteriorating day by day. I visited a doctor. After checkup it was found that I am suffering from throat cancer. This was a very terrible news for me and as well as my family. All the member of family became hopeless. I found that, I have been nearing the second stage of the disease. I was very much tensed and disheartened; I started avoiding people and stopped socializing. Few months later I found that my negative and gloomy demeanors seeped into my family as well, and they also started feeling alike. I started introspecting, as the last thing I wanted was his family to be unhappy in my last days. By then I had slipped into the final stage of his cancer. My doctor advised me to be confident and happy; and utilize the time I had in my hand for fulfilling all the dreams, missions and goals that I aspired for. The doctor told me cancer affects people mentally more than physically. I realized that I actually did not have any option and, so, started living the advice of his doctor. Day by day my mental power strengthened and the hope from his life was taking shape. My family also started to acknowledge my acceptance of my fate; and cooperated unconditionally in my endeavors. A symbiotic trait of mutual healing was accomplished and positive consciousness enveloped the family.

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FIVE YEARS AND 17 EXCRUCIATING OPERATIONS later, a team of doctors confirmed that I WAS FULLY CURED. The conviction in living happily and putting behind the negative jives cemented my mental stamina to fight back a fatal disease. I chose to live happily and through unconscious spirit of the Secret Mantra: Conceptualize Visualize and Realize; I brought myself back on track much to the surprise of many and all. Part 2: Tragedy struck in June 2008, when my father passed away due to brain hemorrhage and an eventual pulmonary attack, being a long time diabetic. My consoled myself again but fate had some more brutal deals to make- my brother married for ten months passed away three months later, in August 2008, in a car accident, leaving behind his widowed sister-inlaw and mother. The family was in a state of shock and my relatives and friends rushed to astrologers to find out the starry signals of the mishaps. They were advised by astrologers to keep themselves away form me as I might bring bad luck to them and my association may be fatal to them. These remarks were funny to many but for Saurav it was earth shattering. My closest friends left me when I needed their support the most without even guilt consciousness.

Determine that things can and shall be done, and then we shall find the way. ABRAHAM LINCOLN.

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Saurav again had to pull up his socks and take stock of the situation rationally. I wondered about the millions of orphans in the world and how the live. I had to fight back against my fate. I wanted to find out ways to overcome the negative climate surrounding my family and social set-ups associated with me. I found out that the solutions lie within me. My mantra for happiness is multi-pronged. Hereunder is a snippet of these wisdom pills:? Develop a hobby and immerse yourself into it. ? Respect every individual and greet them with a smile, these gestures pull them towards you. ? Be imaginative at least twice a day and shut out all the worries in a closet; close your eyes and just think of some delightful and happy future moments. ? Spend time with yourself crying out a bit to ease out your emotions. Your emotions and tears also need a space and the steam needs to fizzle out. Else your agony becomes bottle-necked. ? Never be a 'cry-baby' in public. It is detested by people. ? Be rational and calm during toughest of times. ? Always remember, people live by 'DEEDS' not by 'DATES' ? It is said that God is the last resort for everything. So, look for a support base in him and concentrate on his omnipotence and omnipresence. ? Do not hunt for support from others. Trust God and your own self for support. ? Many companions leave you during crisis but do not be disheartened as some new companions join you during testing times and they remain forever. Indeed. Recently, I have completed MBA. And I am one of the toppers in EIILM. I have good Communication skill as well as a depth of knowledge in every subject. I am very co-operative by nature, with a good character & behavior. My honesty & intelligence is my virtue. I always give respect to my elders, faculties, staffs, and friends. And I helps\my juniors. I hold a Diploma in graphology and enjoys reading popular fictions, biographies and

autobiographies. I love to listen to Sufi music and popular Punjabi classics. I had been a volunteer for the Missionaries of Charity for the past eight years. I have won many accolades at various forums in debating and public speaking. My fate has made me a bibliophile. As I immersed myself into the character in the book that I have read to heal my wound. So, from this story of one of our most revered seniors, Mr. Saurav Sharma, I have learnt that if there is strong will power then nothing is impossible in this world. We have to live by choice and not by compulsion. In every adversity there is an opportunity to come up head and shoulders. Being benign and helpful is the greatest human virtue of all. And Saurav epitomizes that. As we have seen that Mr. Sharma has even defeated the dangerous disease Cancer by his will power to survive happily, & wanted to get achievement in his life. If we have courage, patience and practice to do any thing, than surely we'll succeed in our life. ASHOK SINGH GAUTAM ROLL NO: T009

Men often become what they believe them selves to be. If I believe I can not do something, it makes me incapable of doing it. But when I believe I can, then I acquire the ability to do it even if I did not have it in the beginning. MAHATMA GANDHI

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AND THAT WAS ALL WE HAD……….
cold silvery mist had veiled the evening and the moon yet to wane to scatter it. The endless roads seem to pass without any destination. As I steal a glance at her face, she turns towards me with a smile. We have known each other for years, but today there was an unusual strangeness between us. May be the parting was disturbing her. It has been a long journey and silence had the greater share. I know she is looking at me, but I can't meet her eyes, don't know why…. But…. As I drove the car, I looked at the outside world, it was cold and crisp and so were my feelings. She was near me, yet a thousand miles apart, it seemed. “You are so quiet….!” She asked me. I just looked into her eyes and I knew, she understood everything my eyes said. All through the drive I had been wondering, what fate has in store for us? After all, time was too short; all we had was today. Her eyes, which were otherwise so bright, had an unwonted melancholy in them. As we reached the Restaurant, I parked the car, got off and walked beside her. “Good old days remembered”, she said. All the longings disappeared as we reached the place. We have come here innumerable times. The stream flowing behind the restaurant and the tranquil atmosphere has always enchanted us. We took our seats at the table by the window as we have always had. As I ordered for the food, I saw a few men sitting near us having a glance at her. Men always look at her like that. And it warms me that, just for the moment they think she's mine. “How are your studies going on?” I asked.

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Mrinmoy Rajkhowa Roll No.: T037
As she replied, I saw, intensity so deep in her eyes that I was unable to hear what she said. “Why are you so pensive?” she seemed a bit concerned as she said so. Before I could say anything she held my hand, the warmth of her hand was always there but it was different today. As I looked at her face her eyes tells it all. Its different and special. “May be we should leave”, I said gently removing my hand from hers. “It's all right,”- her voice too had warmth of her hands and her eyes sootheness that have always relieved me. Out of the restaurant, we went for a walk along the stream; the silvery mist was touched by the first rays of moonlight. There was a bridge over the stream and she stopped there without a word. I stopped beside her, looking at the calm water of the stream flowing gently under the moonlight. continued...

“All power is within you. You can do anything and everything. Believe in that. Do not believe that you are weak; do not believe that you are half-crazy lunatics, as most of us do nowadays. Stand up and express the divinity within you.” -Swami Vivekananda.

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We stood there for a long time without any words. For me there was the grave realization that I had almost lost her. There was something she wanted to tell on that calm and beautiful evening, but may be it was too late. To me it seemed to be a magic spell that I hoped would never end. She wanted to say, I wanted to say. May be words were not enough. I took her hands in mine and looked in her eyes and said, “I had always loved you.” The rays of moonlight touched the tears that dropped from her eyes and she fell in my arms and started crying like a baby. All through the years, being a good friend, I never realized that she loved

me too. But it was too late; she was leaving the next day. We had no tomorrow together, but our love would live a lifetime. We went back to the car park. We got inside the car and drove back. There were no words exchanged until we reached her house. As I stopped the car and looked at her, she was trying to say something, but unable to do so. She brought her face towards mine and I could feel the tenderness of her lips. I released her, knowing that we cannot go any further, there are many people to hurt. She walked out and said, “Goodbye, I'll always love you.” That was all we could have had. And that was all we had!!!

Wealth is all in one's point of view
ne day… a wealthy family man took his son on a trip to the country, so he could have his son see how poor country people live. They stayed one day and one night in the home of a very humble farmer. At the end of the trip, and when they were back home, the father asked his son,

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The father continued asking, “What did you learn?” The son responded, “I learned that we have one dog in our house, and they have four. Also, we have fountain in our garden but they have a stream that has no end. And we have imported lamps in our garden…. where they the stars! And our garden goes to the edge of our property. But they have the entire horizon as their backyard!” At the end of the son's reply the father was speechless. His son then said, “Thank you Dad for showing me how poor we really are.”

“Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.”
“What did you think of the trip?” The son replied, “Very nice dad”. Then the father asked his son, “Did you notice how poor they were?” The son replied, “Yes.”

ALBERT SCHWEITZER

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THAT’S THE WAY...
MY EXPERIENCE WITH MEDITATION he term MEDITATION is now a day widely talked about and famous all over the world. It is generally defined as the process of introspection combined with mindfulness. The word meditation has never been new for me as I have been listening it since my child hood and sometimes had got a chance to feel its magical charm. When I was in my school there was a yoga teacher who used to make us to do it. It was more or less interesting and I did it in my home but it happened only for few time. After almost 10 years when I joined EIILM, I encountered with Mr. Sudhir Maheswari the life skill trainer. He made us to do meditation in the classroom but then it was not good at all as I was not habituated to do it. It was rather monotonous and boring. I felt a pain on my back a. it was really annoying to follow the instructions made by the trainer regarding the birthing, to think whatever he said to, and whatever he likes with closed eye. But as it was over I felt something new. All type of stresses and tardiness had said a goodbye. Next morning I did it in my room and felt something wonderful that I have never felt ever before. Meditation is as old as our age old culture is. It flourished in different cultures in much different form and ultimately got the new modern form which is gaining currency termed as 'SCIENTIFIC MEDITATION'. Some intellectuals promoting it saying it as a tool of mindfulness some other define it as the way of attaining mental peace, calmness. It is now used in health care. Corporate leaders, managers even the

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officers of armed forces are not only prescribed but they are now being plasticized regularly. I am not much differ with these views but instead describing about these more it is handy to discuss about my own experience about it. On doing meditation I always stress upon the postures and the techniques of it that is sitting cross-legged (one knee over the other)the spine should be straight but not stretched. All the muscles should be in completely relaxed mode but looseness is not allowed. One should be very alert during the meditation. These things are necessary for scientific meditation and help to generate energy. I start with breathing exercises followed by the prayer and then get deeper and deeper in my own and find there a whole world of joy, excitement and relaxation and finally reach to the vital stage of introspection. Continued...

“You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.” Swami Vivekananda

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For me it is much more than finding peace and relaxation. It has made a new track for my ambitions to travel. During I usually reach to a point from where I can myself and my actions, my problems and able to find a solution for that. It is more likely to have a bird's eye view over your own personality. After doing it I find myself as a new person who is more passionate and focused. I have also tried to get some remarks of my colleagues about their experience with meditation. One of them feels himself more energetic after doing it. Another one now can handle himself better that is he feels

himself emotionally strong. My roommate thinks he can now more concentrate towards his study. I do it whenever feel confused and try to get an answer and out of ten times seven times I get a good solution. Ultimately I can say that it really going to help you if you are little bit devoted to do it regularly and the scientific world is giving the proof for it. ABHIK CHAKRABORTY ROLL NO.: T001

The Secret Principles
s the decent 'The Secret' has shown “How thoughts become things”. That's really true that, it is nothing but thought which rules on the world. Thought affects our feeling. Thought & feeling make our future. Because whatever we feel, think is the creature of our future. So, we have to choose our thoughts carefully. According to my experiment with the secret principle, I have found that Thought is quite similar to belief. A belief is an idea that we accept to be true. It can be a fact, a guiding principle an opinion, or a faith in someone or something .Earlier I was very shy and introvert type person, and was unable to express my thoughts, feelings & opinion in front the people or audience, due to lack of self-confidence, internal fear & negative feelings. But now after watching that inspirational movie & realizing the importance and power of belief, I realize that if they can do this, why can't I?In fact, I can do 100 times better than them. That's the ample confidence now I have gained inside myself.

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Now I have known the fact that our brain conveys our thought and belief to our body. If we are happy and we believe in achieving success in whatever we want, our brain tells our body to get ready do this and expect success. On the contrary if I think I will fail or I can't do this then our brain tells our body doesn't even try there is no chance of success his body is slow, dull & tired. I mean whatever our mind conceives it achieves. We get what we expect. What we resist we persist. Wish is our success. Hence, all power is within us, under our own control. There is only need to use them in the right manner to attain success everywhere. ONKAR NATH PRASAD ROLL NO: T42

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A NEW DIRECTION TO MY THOUGHTS mbti TEST
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hy I am who I am and why I do what I do? Taking the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) test was a quick and easy way for me to take a private look at myself and get some knowledgeable and objective insight myself. It helped me to "know myself" & understand why I function & respond to circumstances the way I do. It changed my thoughts and ideas about myself and rectified some of my misconception about me. I am an INFP (Introversion, iNtuitive, Feeling, Perceiving). Later on I came to know that INFPs is the rarest species of the 16 Jungian Personality types since only 4.4% of total population own this type. It is stated that INFPs only exist not more than 1.5% of the general population. INFP is known as "The Questor" or some also call them "The Dreamer". After the MBTI test I learned that different people have different preferences in how they receive information, make decision and perceive. It helped me see who the people around me really are and why they are like they are, which helped me a lot. I learned to be more respectful and mindful of others whose preferences differ from mine. It was impactful, just knowing how other people think and realize. My thoughts and suggestions are not the only answer. I don't get as upset with others when they say things I don't agree with. I found the information very helpful. It gave me insight into why people behave as they do and hopefully, I am a bit more patient with those who differ from me. Also I can appreciate someone with a different perspective and what they can add to the decision making.

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As an INFP I used to be shy and reserved. I have an extreme dislike of conflict and criticism. I use to react emotionally to stressful situations and reserved about expressing my feelings. My biggest problem is trying to not reveal myself. Generally, people are able to hold back and keep people at arms length, but I always struggle with this. I like to open up and be me, but it takes an intelligent and serious person to understand me. I started to think that these are the serious flaws in my personality. I will not be successful in corporate job. Often I became upset thinking about that. But through a class taken by our life skill teacher Prof. Sudhir Maheswari I started to think in a new way. I knew myself in a totally different way that I knew before the MBTI test. It helped me to be clear on my blind spots and work more specifically to strengthening those areas. It helped me to gain even greater self-confidence and esteem. I have learned that everyone has their own personality traits that effect how they deal with issues. Different approaches are not a bad thing, but a chance to grow and learn from others' approaches. They are driven to do something meaningful and purposeful with their lives. The INFP will be happiest in careers which allow them to live their daily lives in accordance with their values, and which work towards the greater good of humanity. MBTI identifies an individual's preferred style of communication and provides guidance on how they can modify that style to be more effective and avoid areas of misinterpretation between people of different types. continued...

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My biggest insight was in how to communicate with others. I have a better understanding of how my communication style may or may not work with others, and what I need to do to make adjustments This has certainly improved my working life, my career and my personal life. It has helped me to build a stronger, more comfortable and more successful relationship with others. It is an excellent tool to assist one to understand

their weaknesses, strengths and avenues to assist in dealing with other people. I would recommend to anyone the benefits of doing it. Our respected sir did an excellent job! Fun and informative! Thank you Sir! SUKANTA BISWAS ROLL NO.: T074

MEDITATION: THE FREE NATURAL MEDICINE
efore sharing my experience with meditation, here I would like to tell something about it's importance for three reasons, First, the brain needs a lot of oxygen to functions at high level of intelligence, All the food we eat is eventually converted into oxygen or energy. Brain consumes 20% to 25% of total oxygen of our body. So meditation helps in satisfy the oxygen demand. Second, meditation provides relaxation. And third, Meditation is most effective way to increase alpha content of our brain wave which helps in learning. It connects with deeper cell & provides strength to it. So, As far as my experience is concern regarding meditation, I am in the habit of doing meditation from past 5 years. I usually do Meditation & Yoga in the morning from 6:00 Am to 6:30Am at the park nearby. And believe me it helps me a lot to provide Concentration Power, Self Confidence & in Enhancing my Memory Power. It has provided Mental Peace & gradually decreased my Negative Thoughts, Shyness & Hesitation.

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In Nutshell, I have gained a lot from meditation, as it purifies our heart & blood naturally. So, If you are not doing Meditation, really you are missing something. Because Meditation is such a free natural medicine of panacea which cures all type of diseases & stress. Hence, You should also start to do meditation from today, because tomorrow never comes. It is very easy & less time consuming exercise, will require just your daily sincere effort regard this .Then after some time, You will realize & appreciate the value & importance of Meditation as you will be more happy & healthier than earlier. Onkar Nath Prassd Roll no.: T042 “Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.” Mother Teresa.

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PRINCIPLE OF ‘THE SECRET’
EXPERIENCE AND EXPERIMENT houghts become things. The great secret of life is law of attraction. The law of attraction means when we imagine about a thought, we are attracting the same thoughts to us. We attract to us the predominant thoughts. Our present thoughts are creating our future life. Every one uses the law of attraction consciously or unconsciously. Similarly I also use the law of attraction in my life. I used the law of attraction unconsciously. When I was pursuing B.Com (Hons') from MBB College I unconsciously used the law of attraction. In the first year I thought could I become the topper of our university? Gradually I used to visualize that I topped in o u r u n i v e r s i t y. Sometimes I dreamed in the night that I joined various award programs &I am giving inspirational speech to others. There were some other very good students in my class, but when I started conceptualizing, visualizing & realizing that I am the topper; slowly a hidden power pervades my whole body, soul and brain. Finally in the part-1 and part-2 exam I became the university topper & I won the Gold Medal. That was the greatest and happiest moment of my life. Law of attraction tells that expect the things which you want & don't expect those you don't want. When we focus on the things that we don't want, they will go to show over and over. As example “I don't want to be late”. The law of attraction does not hear that I don't want it. It manifests the thing that we are thinking of. For last few months I am trying to get an Educational Loan. But I thought it is very tough to get a loan. Here I expect which I don't want. As a result still now I am fighting for a loan, though my

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father is a govt. employee. But After watching 'The Secret' in our institute (EIILM) consciously I am trying to use the law of attraction. I am trying to follow the process of 'Conceptualize-Visualize-Realize'. I purchased the book 'The Secret' written by Rhoda Byrne. Now every time I try to expect those which I really want and not expect which don't want. Results are coming and gradually my thoughts are becoming things. I wanted to join the Technical Team of our college's magazine (Voyager) and I have been selected for the Technical Team through an interview. For more advantage I have to make it habitual way of being, not just one time event. BIRAJ DEB ROLL NO: T15

“Arise, awake & not stop until goal achieved, there is only one sin in the life that is weakness, command it by hard labour.” -Swami Vivekanand.

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE:
WHAT IS IT AND WHY IT MATTERS

We have been conditioned to believe that IQ is the best measure of human potential. In the past 10 years, however, researchers have found that this isn't necessarily the case -- that in actuality, your emotional intelligence quotient (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success. . Now the question comes, what is emotional intelligence? In the early 1990s, Dr. John Mayer, Ph.D., and Dr. P e t e r S a l o v e y, P h . D . , introduced the term "emotional intelligence" in the Journal of Personality Assessment. They used this term to describe a person's ability to understand his or her own emotions and the emotions of others and to act appropriately based on this understanding. Then in 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman popularized this term with his book “Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.” Substantial disagreement exists regarding the definition of EI, with respect to both terminology and operationalizations. One attempt toward a definition was made by Salovey and Mayer who defined EI as “the ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and emotions, to discriminate among them and to use this information to guide one's thinking and actions.” Emotional Intelligence (EI), often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ), the EQ principles provide a new way to understand and assess people's behaviours, management styles, attitudes, interpersonal skills, and potential.

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s your intellectual intelligence the greatest predictor of what you'll accomplish in life?

Emotional Intelligence is an important consideration in human resources planning, job profiling, recruitment interviewing and selection, management development, customer relations and customer service, and more. It is one of the most important ideas to hit the business world in recent years. It is based on the notion that the ability of managers to understand their own emotions, and those of the people they work with, is the key to better business performance. Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. Conventional wisdom has it that there is a direct connection between our IQ and our ability to succeed in life. But there have been many studies that show IQ only accounts for about 20% of our success. The major attributes of success are our social and emotional intelligence. Yet there is very little emphasis put on emotional intelligence. Only a handful of schools have any formal programs that address emotional intelligence. We have an emotional mind and a rational mind. In large part, our emotional mind developed to help us survive. When man first wandered the earth anytime he encountered some new experience, he needed to make instant decisions about whether the encounter involved something that he could eat or something that might try and eat him. To rely on the rational mind, which works much slower than the emotional mind, might have meant the end of mankind. The emotional mind springs into action much quicker than the rational mind. But unless we learn to control the emotional mind, we will make lots of bad decisions and poor choices.

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Our emotional intelligence has such a large impact on our success in life, it is important that we fully develop our emotional skills. Here are the top five reasons why your emotional intelligence determines your success in life. 1. Overall impact on success. It has been said that your IQ can land you a job but your lack of EQ can get you fired. Your IQ only accounts for 20% of your success in life. Your emotional intelligence and social intelligence are much greater determinants of the success you will achieve in life.

4. Impact on our health. There is a direct connection between our emotional health and our physical health. If our lives are filled with stress, our physical health suffers. It has been estimated that well over 80% of our health problems are stress related. We experience stress primarily because we are not comfortable emotionally. We need to understand the link between our emotional health and our physical health.

5. The connection between poor EQ and rising crime. Unfortunately there is a direct connection between poor emotional skills and the rising crime rate. Children who have poor emotional skills become social outcast at a very young age. They might be the class bully because of a hot temper. They have learned to react with their fist rather than reason. Poor social and emotional skills contribute to poor attention in class and feelings of frustration. They rapidly fall behind and make friends with others in the same boat. There is a direct path to crime that starts early in life. While there is no doubt that family and environment are great contributors, the common thread is poor emotional and social skills, it is the direct result of poor training in emotional skills. continued...

2. Delayed gratification. Delayed gratification is the top predictor of future success. People who are able to pay the price today and delay the rewards are much more likely to succeed in life. Unfortunately we have become a nation seeking instant gratification. This shows up in our everyday lives in the foods we choose to eat, the buy now pay later way of life, our inability to follow an exercise regime and putting mindless entertainment ahead of self-development.

3. Our relationships with others. Our emotional skills have a direct and important bearing on our relationships with others. We need to understand our feelings, where they come from and how to properly express them. We will not maintain healthy relationships unless we can control our emotions, communicate our feelings in a constructive manner and understand the feelings of others.

“Never in this world will hatred ceased by hatred…. hatred is ceased by love.” Gautam Buddha.

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So how do you develop emotional intelligence? You need to know your emotions. You need to develop self-awareness - to be able to recognize feelings as they happen. You must learn how to manage your emotions. Unless you learn to manage your emotions you will constantly be battling feelings of gloom and distress. One of the best ways to develop your awareness of your own emotions is to meditate. Take some time out to relax, being aware of your breathing as it flows in and out. Observe your thoughts and feelings as they come and go, without judging them. This will give you a degree of detachment, as you realize you are more than whatever thoughts and emotions you are experiencing at the time. Another good way to become more aware and accepting of your emotions is to keep an emotional journal. Just take five minutes each morning to write down how you're feeling. Writing things down in this way gives you a degree of detachment and allows you to express your feelings in a way which is safe. You must learn to motivate yourselves. Learn to emotional self-control - to delay gratification. Remember - You Are Not Your Emotions. There are no "bad" emotions. Whatever you feel is giving you valuable information: either about the situation that you're in, or about some event that's happened in the past that you need to learn from and move on. A trap that people often fall into is feeling that they 'ought' to feel a certain way - that they are a 'bad person' for feeling emotions they have been brought up to believe are wrong to express or even to feel. If they are on a spiritual path, it can be even worse, as they may feel they 'ought' to be above feeling that way. Remember, it's how you respond to those

feelings that matters. Whatever emotion you're feeling, you still have a choice about how you act on it - and that's what counts. Judging yourself does not make you a better person. If we are to succeed in life, we need to learn to recognize emotions in others. We need to develop empathy. We need to be attuned to what others want or need. And you need to develop your emotional intelligence so you are capable of healthy relationships. SUKANTA BISWAS ROLL NO: T074

15 Ways to Enhance Your Day
Get up ?early. Look around outside before going to ? work Relax and enjoy your meals. ? Spend ? time with friends. Pace yourself. ? Find a ?quiet place to go to. Praise ?yourself and others. Develop ? positive relationships. See your ? mistakes as stepping stones. Keep track of your own moods so you ? can watch out for them. Say No ? without feeling guilty. Learn effective time management. ? Pay attention to health, diet and sleep. ? Exercise ? regularly. Keep from comparing yourself to ? others.

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THE REAL HERO for me...
very person on this planet has different perceptions of life, but I see it as a path of challenges on which everyone has to traverse till the soul attains “Moksha”. My life's journey begins in the year 1927, in a small village called UDIANA nearby RANGIYA, ASSAM. I was the 3rd eldest among the five siblings. I started my primary education in GORDON HIGH SCHOOL, NALBARI, ASSAM. I gave my studies and joined the INDIAN INDEPENDENCE MOVEMENT as India was under British domination. After the independence of India I joined the CPI (M) party and became an active member of the organization. It was during the Indo-China war in 1962, when I was arrested as I was a left party activist and was put into jail in BHUBANESWAR, ORISSA with some of the eminent personalities of Assam like Vishnu Rabha who was a very well-known and great freedom fighter, artist, writer, etc. When I was in jail I used to weave fishing net and had accomplished weaving a complete fishing net during the period of my stay in jail. After my return from jail I was elected as the President of many organizations like Trade Union, Motor Union, etc and had promoted many programs for the welfare of the lobour associations. I also stood twice in the ASSEMBLY ELECTION as an independent candidate in the years 1978 and 1985 but unfortunately I was unable to win. In the year 1988, there was a disastrous flood which created a chaotic situation in the whole of Assam. Many people lost their lives and properties were damaged. The situation was so

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unbearable to me that I went to the supreme authorizes of the government hoping for an urge for helping aid for the flood affected people. After that the government arranged relief camps and other necessary facilities for the survival of the people. After I strive day and night for the relief of the flood affected people for couple of weeks the situation came to normal, I was elected as the President of GAON PANCHAYAT for my dedication towards the people and society. In spite of all these happenings I managed to make out time for my personal life too. I tied the knot of marriage in the late 50s and used to work as an advocate's clerk or petition writer to earn my livelihood in order to perform my duties and responsibilities towards my family. And brought up three daughters and five sons with proper education and ethics with all the efforts, I had to offer them. This is how my journey of challenges continued…………. The above story is about my grandfather, late Md. Tajul Islam who had seen different phases and colours of life. His life was full of challenges and he h a d a l wa y s m a n a ge d to overcome them and so according to my view he is the real hero for me. During his old age he was a patient of high blood pressure and this was the root cause of his death on 14th July 2008. Though his life ended, and is away from us, I can never the forget the love and affection and the path he had shown to our family. Samiul Alam Roll no.: T061

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MEDITATION: A PANACEA

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editation is a process of self regulation of attention, in the service of self enquiry. There are two techniques of meditation

A . Mind fullness: In this process the focus is on a background perception and experience. B. Concentrative meditation: In this process is on a preselected specific object. In our class we have be a taught to practice the concentrative meditation to meditate, we need to understand two factors A . How the mind works B . And become familiar with awareness In order to understand these two factors we need to cultivate and nurture attentiveness, alertness, vigilance and a sharp vision. After practicing meditation, I recently have been feeling very relaxed. It is difficult to express my feeling to others, as it is a new and completely different feeling. At the beginning, When Prof.Sudhir Maheshwari introduce us to meditation, I really found it quite monotonous and boring. Also it brings in a short of hesitation and frustration doing meditation in the class. Only after, when I attempted it alone in my own room, A few times for 20mins, I could find out its healing effects. It was really enjoying and I felt energized and relaxed after doing it. I discovered that after meditation my mind settles into a piece full state and I feel good about it. I am going to practice meditation everyday for a while. Meditation helped me to gain self confidence and to develop concentration. Now I am sure that during meditation our brain get enriched

with fresh oxygen thus increase a capacity of our brain, to work more efficiently in a focused. Practicing meditation do not let our mind to be distracted .that is why I am able to do what I need to do after meditation with the help of meditation. I also have overcome some of my physical and mental pains .I belief that in future it will bring more positive results to me. Meditation is a mind-body intervention. Meditation has some therapeutic effects and so meditation can be used in health care. Meditation regulates metabolism, blood pressure, respiration, heart rate and brain chemistry. Earlier I had a spine problem. But which after practicing meditation I have cured. Also many negative feelings that used to disturb me earlier are not so prominent, after practicing meditation. I am sure that meditation has some healing effects, and so suggest every one to practice it for a while. Meditation helps us to gain something, which medication can never. VIKLESH KUMAR ROLL NO: T087
“Whatever forms of meditation you practice, the most important point is to apply mindfulness continuously, and make a sustained effort. It is unrealistic to expect results from meditation within a short period of time. What is required is continuous sustained effort”

Dalai lama

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TOWARDS FLOURISHING
Defeating all agony
od never promised us that every time the sky will be blue. Some times reality is very different than we think it to be. Suddenly every hope tumbles, relation collapses. Life becomes a test for survival. You get hurt, mind becomes blocked. Slowly the Light of Hope becomes dim. But a divine ray from your soul pervades the whole body and holds the zeal to fight with time and faith. 'Time never waits'- you become older but you realize that you had chosen the right path at the right time. Mrs. Basanti Choudhury, a real soldier, thinks 'life means holding good values in mind even in tough situation and get going.' She is working in EMPLOYMENT EXCHANGE.

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doctor the operation was successful. But a mistake was committed by the doctor. Actually he did not take out the entire piece of bone; a small part remained into the flesh. Gradually it infected the whole throat. He became seriously ill. His family admitted him into the CMRI hospital. But it was impossible to save him. Doctors unofficially declared “no chance”. Hopes die away, dreams crumpled, only a shade of believe on God was still alive. Suddenly the family got into a catastrophic trouble. Time passed away like stream, very fast and furious. Mrs. Basanti Choudhury got totally depressed and tensed. Gitangshu, the elder son was pursuing B.com then, from CU and he had just given the part-I. Gitangshu was confused as what to do? He appointed Dr. K.K. Chaucharia for better treatment of his father.

A small family of five members was happily dwelling at Shibnagar, Agartala. Mr. Gouri Sankar Choudhury, husband of Mrs. Basanti Choudhury, was a Lots of money nearly 7 lakhs, tall & handsome man. He were spent for his treatment was working as a manager in but there was no improvement United Bank of India. Their in his health. Conditions children Goutami, Gitangshu became serious and serious, and Tridib were in their he could not even talk. One teenage. The elder boy day in the night the sun set for Gitangshu was learning ever, he died……... Bharat Nattyam & others were busy with 'Rabindra The family lost all hope, Sangit.' All in all they were a devoid of any guardian. Mrs. happy and complete family. Choudhury was in depression for few weeks. It seemed to be Mrs. BASANTI CHOUDHURY (Right), Somebody said 'life is a the end of everything for her. GRANDDAUGHTER, GITANGSHU journey'-a journey with time CHOUDHURY, GOUTAMI CHOUDHURY As the entire savings was in tough and easy condition. spent on treatment they faced (Right to left) But nobody knows when short financial support. Even time will go against you. One day, Mr. Choudhury they had to decide that whether they should sold while taking his dinner at home, a small bone of their house to face the cost of study or they should chicken got stuck into his throat. He did not take it stop their study? Gitangshu wanted to do MBA but seriously. But after few days the pain began to Mrs. Choudhury could not help him. He turned into increase. He went to a doctor. The doctor suggested depression & joined ICWA, which is a cheaper an operation. The family members arranged the course in terms of money. operation as soon as possible and according to the

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Relatives are only relative not absolute – no body lend their helping hand. Rather they mentally tortured her. We know how a widow treated in our society. She was disappointed dejected. But when she looked at the face of her children, she recalled her responsibilities. Her husband's dream became her power. She knew that her children have to shine. She has to shape the dream of her husband. Her husband had often told her “I am a manager, my children will be a manager, better than me” but it was not an easy job for her. Their financial condition was totally become worst. She started to save money by reducing the family expenditure. She handled every tough condition by herself and admitted Gitangshu in the Institute of Modern Management. But responsibility did not finish here. She has a daughter and young son. Few years after: Gautami married and get a job as a teacher in a school. Today younger brother Tridib has done BBA and doing job in HDFC Bank Bangalore. And Gitangshu shaped the dream of his father. Now he is a Branch Manager in TCS. I can recall I was in the last birthday party of Gitangshu when Mrs. Choudhury hugged him and tears came out automatically. Even now she is doing job, but age made her older. She has done her job. She is proud of her children. I visited their house several time. I talked with Basanti Choudhury, Gitangshu Choudhury and Gautami Choudhury. Today they are happy. They love their mother very much. The never forget those straggle. Life some time take tests -but we should not depressed. BIRAJ DEB ROLL No: T015

A MAN IS WHAT HE THINKS ABOUT ALL DAY LONG
Wise men and philosophers throughout the ages have disagreed on many things, but many are in unanimous agreement on one point: "We become what we think about." Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "A man is what he thinks about all day long." The Roman emperor Marcus Aurelius put it this way: "A man's life is what his thoughts make of it." In the Bible we find: "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he." One Sunday afternoon, a cranky grandfather was visiting his family. As he lay down to take a nap, his grandson decided to have a little fun by putting Limburger cheese on Grandfather's mustache. Soon, grandpa awoke with a snort and charged out of the bedroom saying, "This room stinks." Through the house he went, finding every room smelling the same. Desperately he made his way outside only to find that "the whole world stinks!" So it is when we fill our minds with negativism. Everything we experience and everybody we encounter will carry the scent we hold in our mind.

“We are what our thoughts have made us, so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live, they travel far.” Swami Vivekananda

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GOD HAS A PLAN FOR YOU
nce there were three trees on a hill in the woods. They were discussing their hopes and dreams when the first tree said, "Someday I hope to be a treasure chest. I could be filled with gold, silver and precious gems. I could be decorated with intricate carving and everyone would see the beauty." Then the second tree said, "Someday I will be a mighty ship. I will take kings and queens across the waters and sail to the corners of the world. Everyone will feel safe in me because of the strength of my hull." Finally the third tree said, "I want to grow to be the tallest and straightest tree in the forest. People will see me on top of the hill and look up to my branches, and think of the heavens and God and how close to them I am reaching. I will be the greatest tree of all time and people will always remember me." After a few years of praying that their dreams would come true, a group of woodsmen came upon the trees. When one came to the first tree he said, "This looks like a strong tree, I think I should be able to sell the wood to a carpenter" ... and he began cutting it down. The tree was happy, because he knew that the carpenter would make him into a treasure chest. At the second tree a woodsman said, "This looks like a strong tree, I should be able to sell it to the shipyard." The second tree was happy because he knew he was on his way to becoming a mighty ship. When the woodsmen came upon the third tree, the tree was frightened because he knew that if they cut him down his dreams would not come true. One of the woodsmen said, "I don't need anything special from my tree so I'll take this one", and he cut it down. When the first tree arrived at the carpenters,

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he was made into a feed box for animals. He was then placed in a barn and filled with hay. This was not at all what he had prayed for. The second tree was cut and made into a small fishing boat. His dreams of being a mighty ship and carrying kings had come to an end. The third tree was cut into large pieces and left alone in the dark. The years went by, and the trees forgot about their dreams. Then one day, a man and woman came to the barn. She gave birth and they placed the baby in the hay in the feed box that was made from the first tree. The man wished that he could have made a crib for the baby, but this manger would have to do. The tree could feel the importance of this event and knew that it had held the greatest treasure of all time. Years later, a group of men got in the fishing boat made from the second tree. One of them was tired and went to sleep. While they were out on the water, a great storm arose and the tree didn't think it was strong enough to keep the men safe. The men woke the sleeping man, and he stood and said "Peace" and the storm stopped. At this time, the tree knew that it had carried the King of Kings in its boat. Finally, someone came and got the third tree. It was carried through the streets as the people mocked the man who was carrying it. When they came to a stop, the man was nailed to the tree and raised in the air to die at the top of a hill. When Sunday came, the tree came to realize that it was strong enough to stand at the top of the hill and be as close to God as was possible, because Jesus had been crucified on it. The moral of this story is that when things don't seem to be going your way, always know that God has a plan for you. If you place your trust in Him, He will give you great gifts. Each of the trees got what they wanted, just not in the way they had imagined. We don't always know what God's plans are for us. We just know that His ways are not our ways, but His ways are always best.

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A RAY OF INSPIRATION
t is really a story of inspiration, many times we meet a simple person of very simple and traits but some times they show very different prospects of life by doing some thing extraordinary. And one such person is my cousin, “NAYAN JYOTI DEKA”. Throughout his life he struggles a lot to put himself in a better position, and he succeeded. Today he lives a respectable life in DELHI, working as a mechanical engineer in HERO HONDA INDIA. His dedication towards achieving his goal was tremendous. He has proved himself as a man of strong desire and willpower; he is like an inspiring light house for me who has made an honest effort to get success instead of making excuses. He always tells me to take life seriously. He is a perfect guide for me and I do not think anybody else can be a figure of inspiration other than Nayan Da. Below I have written what he has to say about the different phases of his life........ . My father was teacher and I am the youngest son of the family. When I was 9 years old my father expired due to pressure stroke and a chaotic situation arises in the family. My elder brother had to give up his studies because because there was no earning person in the family. My elder brother decided to start a business by opening a small shop. As our economic situation takes a very pathetic turn, my mom was earning our live hood for the family by selling goats, duck. I always interested to study. My mother never makes me realize about our economic plight and problems between them and y studies. I got scholarship in 4th standard. As the high school was far from our home, my mom sent me to our uncle's home which was walking distance from the school.

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My uncle has three sons. They were not good in studies. In every class they showed their poor results. And as I was quite good in my studies, I always used to get good positions in class. For that reason my aunty felt very jealous of my outstanding performances and used to send me for various works. I usually did not get much time to study. Early in the morning he went to paddy fields after I came back to home and went to school. After coming from school I used to go to field to bring back their cattle back home. When the school was closed, whole day I worked in their paddy field. Every Sunday I went to market with my uncle to selling various goods. As the days were passing, I had to spend less time in studies but still I managed well. And because of my perseverance and hard work in 10th standard during matriculation exams I came out with flying colors. My mom's and papa's dreams had come true. I took admission in college in science stream. I started to teach to teach tuition to manage my college fees. In higher secondary again I got first division, with letter marks in two subjects. Then I appeared in engineering entrance examination and got selected in Assam Engineering College for Mechanical Engineering BANDEEP BORAH ROLL No:T012

Be the change that you want to see in the world. Mahatma Gandhi

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LOGO THERAPY MURLI MANOHAR VERMA
ROLL No: T038 ogo therapy is a type of psychotherapy that was first developed by Viktor Frankl in 1938. The therapy asks therapists to be aware of their client's spiritual self, as well as the baser instincts first identified by Freud and reinterpreted by Adler. Logo therapy also holds onto existentialism as one of its core tenets, yet at the same time also embraces religion (Logo therapy). Logo therapy is usually called the "third school of Viennese psychotherapy." To get a better understanding of logo therapy it would be beneficial to compare it against the first school. The first school was Freud's psychoanalysis, which relied on the identification of inherited (usually sexual) mechanisms that had been socially altered. Freud's theory held that all neuroses could be linked back to the warring parts of the self he called the id, ego, and superego . The "logo" in logo therapy means "meaning" in Greek. Frankl chose logo because it was his feeling that man's search for meaning in his life was his sole purpose. Logo therapy is a person-centered therapy that focuses on the future, and is truly a modern therapeutic model for a modern audience. Today many people do not need to worry about the basics of life such as food or shelter. In fact more people are successful at their chosen vocation than ever before, yet there is still a hidden despair. How can this happen? 1 It seems that it is all centered on identity. Modern individuals do not need to rely on their base instincts very often. In the wake of this new reality man does not know how to supplement this inherited motivation that he is now suppressing. One supplement that man found was the family.

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Rigid social constructs provided a comfortable place for man to exist. However as time has gone by the family has not remained as rigid or permanent as it was in past. This double blow to self-identity has left man in what Frankl calls an "existential vacuum" Existential Choice: One of the key ideas behind Logo therapy is the idea of existential choice. This idea states that no matter what the situation is, fundamentally, everyone has control over them, and has a choice to make. Some people may have better choices (cosmetically) than others; however, the choice is there just the same. The idea of existential choice works well with depressed patients. Giving them existential choice allows them to take ownership of their own situation, while at the same time allowing them to find support though their existential search. The never-ending search or battle for survival: The most important part of logo therapy, once a patient understands existential choice, is the understanding of how each of us has an existential burden. Frankl writes that while previously psychoanalism dealt mainly with showing patients the depth of themselves psychically, logo therapy adds a dimension of "height" that covers spiritual matters. In a logotheraputic session, the client is directed in their search for deeper meaning. While it is the responsibility of the therapist not to over-burden the client, it is still the client's job to process these feelings and find meaning in them where they can. continued...

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As individuals we are all placed into different situations that make up our identity. We each are born into different ethnic, monetary and social situations, which help define our personalities. However, logo therapy rejects all of these conditions. It asks that we each become aware of ourselves and begin a search for identity. Logo therapy in Practice: Logo therapy is generally utilized in practice with another form of therapy such as cognitive therapy. A therapist using logo therapy should be careful not to push too hard or not enough when discussing spiritual matters; as with other therapy the least restrictive means necessary is the path to take. As Frankl himself put it in Man's Search for Meaning: "Logo therapy is neither teaching or preaching. The logo therapist's role consists of widening and broadening the visual field of the patient so that the whole spectrum of potential meaning becomes conscious and visible to him. There are specific ways a therapist can try to push a client towards finding meaning in their life. The first is by creating something or doing something else for others. By taking an active role in life, by being a creator, or by having a relationship with someone else meaning can be found in doing something greater than (or at least not exclusive to) yourself.. The second way meaning can be found is through love. In this case a therapist can try to reinvigorate or direct a client to past relationships that were important to them. In addition the therapist could suggest trying to develop new relationships. It should be noted that Frankl makes clear that in order to have meaning in these relationships there needs to be love. The love he describes is not the type of unconditional love that is represented in Rogation, Person-Centered therapy. It is intimate love (though not always physical) that therapists should avoid in order to remain objective. The third and final way to find meaning relies heavily on existential choice, as it is to face suffering head-on and experience it. A therapist could use this approach with two types of client. The first is a

person who is facing death and knows it. In that case, logo therapy would help the client navigate the psychological stages of death mapped by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. The second type of client that could find meaning through suffering is the survivor who had a family member die. In this case, logo therapy would be beneficial because it takes into consideration the confusing spiritual dimension that is left in the wake of having a loved one die, Frankl thinks that death is a wonderful opportunity to find meaning. The next thing to take into consideration is the therapeutic relationship. In logo therapy having a good trustful dynamic between the client and the therapist is essential. Therefore, logo therapy is not something a therapist should employee early in the counseling relationship. This criteria stems from the nature of the therapy itself. It is easier to discuss things in a cognitive behavioral therapy session, but for logo therapy, this is more difficult because religious/spiritual feelings are usually guarded jealously. Finally looking broadly at Viktor Frankl, it is easy to see how profoundly he changed psychoanalytic therapy. Before he introduced logo therapy, people were thought of as psychological machines to be tinkered with, with the therapist as mechanic.

“You have to grow from the inside out. None can teach you, none can make you spiritual. There is no other teacher but your own soul.” Swami Vivekananda.

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THE PERSON BEHIND ME
very person has something to say about his own life. I see it as a challenge which everybody must face, head-on. Now I would like to share some moments of my life. My father, was a jailor in the district jail of TEZPUR,ASSAM. I along with my mother, two younger brothers and a little sister resided at GUWAHATI, as a result it was quite difficult for my father to look after us. He then died in the year 1962. I being the eldest among the four siblings had to sacrifice many personal interests for the sake of the family. I was very much passionate about cricket, but had to give up cricket because we did not have enough money to run the family as well as take care of my interests. The economic condition of our family became very grim. I studied at a paathshala upto the 7th standard in GUWAHATI and after that had to complete the matriculation examination privately, firstly because of monetary problems and secondly the entire load of running the family was bestowed upon me after the death of my father. Continuing in this way i then got into a job in a small newspaper company after completing my higher secondary education in GUWAHATI from ARYA VIDHYAPEETH COLLEGE in 1970. I was the only earning source of the family then. After working for 3 years in that company I was able to stabilise the economic condition of the family. In the year 1974 I went to KOLKATA and pursued graduation in B.A from CALCUTTA UNIVERSITY. After completing my graduation, i went back to GUWAHATI and assisted my younger brothers and sister to pursue further education and to become stable in life. I then appeared for and cleared

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the exam of INDIAN RAILWAYS and joined office as a junior clerk. Gradually the condition of the family became even better and after a few years I along with my brothers was able to successfully arrange my sister's marriage. Then in year 1984 I tied the knot of marriage and after one and half years I was blessed with a son. Today I am close to my retirement from service, and waiting to put my legs up and enjoy the rest of my life with my family. The above story is about SRI SUMIT NAG, my father. He is the person whom I value the most and look upto for any type of inspiration. He has been a true godfather and a mentor all my life. He has guided me and preached the true principles of life.Whenever I am low on confidence I look upto him and draw inspiration by recalling the challenges he had to face and overcame. Today my father is the Assistant General Manager of NORTHEAST FRONTIER RAILWAYS, from a simple boy who studied in his school life under earthen lamps. So who else can inspire me more than my own father. Hope I can ever come close to the stature of my friend, philosopher and guide…………….MY FATHER. Supratim Nag Roll No.: T077 “God is one, but he has innumerable forms. He is the creator of all and He himself takes the human form” GURU NANAK

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NOW I KNOW MY PREFERENCE
Testimonial on MBTI ABOUT ME I am a quiet, friendly, responsible and conscientious. I am a loyal person, I respect my family. When I see any poor & needy people I can't control myself. This is showing my kindness. I am enjoying the present time. I don't like conflicts, I like peace and think that every person has own decision, so I think that they are free with their opinions. I am a shy person so think that I am always quiet. WHAT I THINK ABOUT ISFP: ISFPs may be quite charming and ingratiating on first acquaintance, flowing with compliments which may (or may not) be deserved. On other occasions, the same individual may be aloof and detached. Some ISFP males are fiercely competitive, especially in sport or table games, and may have great difficulty losing. This competitive nature, also seen in other SP types, sometimes fosters 'lucky,' 'gut' feelings and a willingness to take risks. Organized education is difficult for the majority of ISFPs, and many drop out before finishing secondary education. Their interest can be held better through experiential learning, at which many excel. ISFPs will practice playing an instrument or honing a favored skill for hours on end, not so much as practice as for the joy of the experience. ISFPs enjoy learning subjects that relate to helping and knowing about people. They may be easily overlooked in the classroom unless the teacher has recognized their special ways of learning and their unique contributions. Encouragement helps draw out ISFPs. At work, ISFPs contribute by attending to the practical facts relating to the needs of people and all living things in their environments. They can infuse a particular knod of joy into cooperative nature. Because they pay attention to the humanistic aspects of the organization, they act in ways that ensure others' well-being. People enjoy ISFPs because they bring understanding yet adaptability to the realities of their work. The friends, family members, and even pets of the ISFPs' partners become important to them as well. ISFPs take it upon themselves to make their environments places where there is the potential to have a harmonious existence for all. After the MBTI test I saw that I am an introversion. now I can move towards my goal because I can find out my preferences. I am planning my study hours and planning my schedule. This is the improvement of myself after taking MBTI test and I fell that this is very helpful for every individual viz, manager and a businessman. MURLI MANOHAR VERMA ROLL No: T038

A lot of people have great ideas, but nothing in the world is cheaper than a good idea with no action

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PERSONAL EMPOWERMENT
Marlene Blaszczyk

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se Empowering Words When You Talk to Yourself

Words can be empowering. I can I love to I want to I will I must I am We can reach a new level of living, if we feed ourselves empowering words and practice saying them until they become a habit. I know first hand that it takes time.

(whether you are speaking out loud or silently) How do you talk to yourself? Do you use the words "can't", "won't", "don't need to", "why try"? Many people do. Do you find that what you say to yourself turns out to be true? Why is this?

And I also know that it's worth it. You see your brain is like a computer that you feed each day. It doesn't know always know what's real or not unless you tell it. Example: If someone you love has hurt you, you may tell yourself that all people who love you will probably hurt you too. Your brain just files this information for reference, it's data, little zeroes and ones and no column that asks "true or not true?" Now your brain thinks, based on what you told it, that everyone you'll ever love will hurt you. How do you think you will respond the next time you get hurt? Right!! Now, what if we instead told our brain: "Okay this person ripped my heart out - but that's only one person. I'm lovable and have many loving people in my life who are not out to hurt me. I know that the right people are coming into my life all the time. If someone hurts me, I will forgive them and bless them on their way." Try it for a week. Catch yourself saying, "I can't", when you don't really mean it and instead try, "I can", and see how you think and feel about yourself. Remember, the words you use to empower yourself will have a lasting effect, only if you practice them and they become a habit (an acquired behavior pattern regularly followed until it has become almost involuntary). They say it takes at least 28 days to develop a habit. After a week, you will see that it becomes easier. It's a mindset and you can control your thoughts. Be proactive and not reactive - give yourself some good words. Dream big and empower yourself! Believe you can and you will. source: www.inspirationalstories.com

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OUR DEVOTED GROUP
ABHIK CHAKRABARTTY ASHOK SINGH GAUTAM BANDEEP BORAH BIRAJ DEB MRINMOY RAJKHOWA MURLI MANOHAR VERMA ONKAR NATH PRASAD SAMIUL ALAM SUKANTA BISWAS SUPRATIM NAG VIKLESH KUMAR

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