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COMMUNITY RALLIES BEHIND ISSUE 4 VOLUME 5 2010 SHEIKH MANSOUR LEGHAEI…….1  ENTERTAINING OUR CHILDREN—THE
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SHEIKH MANSOUR LEGHAEI…….1
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 OUR COMMUNITY. RASUL AL
A’DHAM ISLAMIC CENTRE– BANK-
STOWN– PROFILE
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 PATHOLOGY OF DIVORCE––
PART 4– ANGER MANAGEMENT
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Community rallies behind Sheikh Mansour Leghaei

The past month has seen a surge in support for Sheikh Man- sour Leghaei to
The past month has seen a surge in support for Sheikh Man-
sour Leghaei to remain in Australia. Not only has this been a
uniting factor for the Muslims, the Christians too have
shown their support for this movement attending rallies and
holding prayer vigils. There was a flurry of articles this
month in the major newspapers about the case mostly posi-
tive but recently, some negative articles have appeared in The
Australian newspaper. Let’s put our hands together and con-
tinue our support to Sheikh by writing to the newspapers’
editors. Let’s show our appreciation to the Greens, the Chris-
tian Coalition, and all those who are tirelessly fighting
against injustice within our community.
Christian Coalition– Some members of
the Christian Save the Sheikh Coalition.
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Show of support– A snapshot of some of
the 800 people who attended the BBQ and
rally at Steel Park Marrickville on Sunday
28th March 2010

Editorial

Salaam Alaykum!

community, Sayyid Abdul Majeed Mustajaab, and his departure from this journey of life May Allah be pleased with him and ex- tend his mercy upon him. Surely we are Allah's and to Him we shall surely return [Quran 2:156]

I would also like to take advantage of the section here to praise Al- lah (SWT) for the birth of our Imam Íasan Al-Askari (as) in this month. We also urge our readers to continue to pray that we may not be deprived from our beloved Sheikh Mansour, and to remain positive during this period leading up to the great news Inshallah.

Welcome once again to the Month of Rabi'ul Thani Al-Fajr News- letter!

This time round we are back with more to enlighten you about the issues facing our community especially in living in the west, this would include the evil acts of fornication, divorce, the soft war on our thoughts and values and the final instalment with suggestions on how we can entertain our children to ensure healthy develop- ment of our children.

We have also included a short biography of Ayatollah Sheikh Mohammad Íusain Al-AnsÁri, one of our very humble and emi- nent scholar May Allah be pleased with him. We have also in- cluded a story of Hayder Shkara, one of the members of Al-RasÙl Al -A'dham Mosque in which Sheikh Al-AnsÁri leads.

We hope you enjoy this month’s issue, and we strongly encourage readers to provide us
We hope you enjoy this month’s issue, and we strongly encourage
readers to provide us with feedback, this would be greatly appreci-
ated. You may contact us through info@al-fajr.org.au -
May Allah be pleased with us all.
Mustafa Barakat and Abidali Mohamedali (editors)

Also included is a story on one of our active members among our

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We wage a battle with ourselves every day and increasingly the battle with our environment and thoughts foreign to us with the line between good and evil becoming blurred. Let’s revisit the revolution of Imam Husain (as) and glean timeless morals to

The Revolution of Al-Íusain bin ‘Ali (as)- A Battle of thought, values and morals

By MohamedTufayl Mohamedali

On the face of a battle both fighters look alike. Both are clad in armour, the attire of war is present in both as they both carry the sword, the shield, and both ride horses. On the level of the army, the archers both have bows and arrows perhaps the weapons are even made by one and the same person and the horses are bought from one and the same trader what then is the difference be- tween the two? Why is there a bat- tle between the two if there is no outward difference why is one ‘twin’ attacking the other? Are they seeking the same objective or share the same desire or is it something else?

are all fighting a mental battle at least those who observe, ques- tion, resist and seek to find meaning those who seek to defend and uphold Islamic values in the midst of moral decadence and in an environment rapidly moving towards the material and base pole of man’s existence. Muslims today can be likened to the salmon that swims against the current of the river – resisting the ‘flow’ to get to their real and suitable habitat.

It is at this point that we can appreci- ate the resistance and revolution of Imam Íusain (as), and we can take lessons from his stand against false ideologies, deadly propaganda and militant media that seek to propagate falsehood, mischief and spurring the greed for materialism and the fulfil- ment of desires completely neglect- ing the true nature of the human being, and destroying the balance.

true nature of the human being, and destroying the balance. The revolutions and reforms in the

The revolutions and reforms in the context of humanity have always been fought not between brothers but between ideologies and thoughts, whereas both may seem outwardly to look the same, they each have a difference at another level and this is the thought of humanity that distinguishes one from the other, and that causes one to fight the other or associate one with another.

The concept of ‘fighting’ can be motivated by two causes, either for competing interests or conflicting interests the former are perhaps confined to limited resources for example two people fighting for the same job or position. This form of battle is indi- vidualistic and limited as it is a personal and subjective interest which has little or no bearing on the larger society or community. The battle of thoughts and values differs from the battle of com- peting for a common object of desire, in that, the former kind of battle is what revolutions and reforms are all about they are felt both at the individual and societal levels and they affect not only individuals but entire populations, even if initiated between indi- viduals. It is precisely this form of ‘fighting’ that was the drive

behind the tragedy of Karbala. Revolutions and reform are thus the terms given to battles that are motivated by conflicting interests and objectives, usually a characteristic of conflicting human thought and their effects and consequences.

Throughout all of history, the mental wars in the soul of the individual have manifested themselves as battles and wars on the field but if we look closer, we can see that these very battles and wars are constantly being fought within our- selves but to win we need to take lessons from the external battles and wars, from the characteristics of the two camps and side with the righteous and just one. Such battles would include that of Prophet Musa (as) against Fir’aun, Imam ‘Ali (as) against MuÁwiya, and Imam Íusain (as) against YazÐd.

Today, we are in the age of the soft war psychological and intellec- tual information overload in the form of media and very little if no discrimination between what is truth and what is false. Our values, our beliefs and our identity and morals are constantly being openly challenged, tarnished and attacked. We are now more than ever re- sponsible to sift and assess the information we come across and

we are also now in a better position to appreciate the importance of knowledge and the correct mental framework and patterns we should adopt to re- spond, because it is our thought that will build us or destroy us. It is the task of maintaining inde- pendent and truthful thought without allowing others to think for us for if that happens, we be- come slaves and it is this humiliation that Imam Íusain (as) fought so valiantly against – the hu- miliation of dependant thoughts and actions.

The battle of Karbala may be over on the plains of the desert but it continues on in the plains of the hearts and minds of man…

The battle between truth and falsehood has always taken this shape and many have been
The battle between truth and falsehood has always
taken this shape and many have been deceived sim-
ply by the occasional identical outward appearance
of both. It is important to appreciate that the very
concept of truth and falsehood is based on thought and mental-
ity – it is expressed physically because thoughts shape our actions.
Thus, in every age and at every level, man is in constant battle
with false thoughts and ideologies – when he succumbs, he loses
both materially and spiritually – but when he resists and over-
comes – he profits both materially and spiritually. Applying this
reality to the contemporary time, whether we like it or not – we
He gave us one lesson that was the key to success in these battles –
‘Sacrifice’. Give one option up for a better one when you see it and
you know it. In thought and in act – we ought to be selective, and
exercise our free will – and only with that can we make sacrifices
and reach the peaks of success, honour and prosperity as an individ-
ual, a community and a society.
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Entertaining our children - Some sug- gested solutions - Part 2

by Dr. Ali AlSamail

In the first part of this article, we discussed the impact of modern ‘entertainment technology’ and the consequences of this rapidly advancing technology on the physical and psychological health of our children. In this second part, we hope to discuss some of the possible solutions that have been suggested in order to counteract the effects of this entertainment technol- ogy and to help children grow in a healthier environment.

speak English poorly. Whilst they are in some way bilingual, they are at the same time without a language in which they can appre- ciate literature or communicate complex or deep thought proc- esses. We need to encourage our children to read in either or both the languages that they use to communicate in their everyday life, because this can help them develop skills that may become invalu- able in their adult life.

Of course, faced with a choice be- tween reading and television or the internet, the child is unlikely to choose reading. One way around this is to set up a bargaining system, in which the child can earn the right to use ‘entertainment technology’ only if they read a certain amount of a certain book. This relates to the dis- cussion of discipline mentioned in the first part of the article. Children need to understand that good things in life do not come cheap and that something of good quality comes only after effort and time. This strat- egy of making children earn time that they can use for entertainment

Physical activity and reading are just two of many ways to ensure our children grow
Physical activity and reading are
just two of many ways to ensure
our children grow up to be happy
and healthy

One obvious and important solution is physical activity. Physical activity, in the form of casual exercise (riding a bicy- cle around the neighbourhood), organised team sports (joining the local football team) or a family activity (a family bushwalk) can have many benefits. The first benefit of course is that regular physi- cal activity decreases the likelihood of obesity and the numerous and danger- ous sequelae of obesity. The second benefit is psychological. Physi- cal activity can increase self-confidence, facilitate social interaction and allow children and adolescents to express themselves in a health way. It is the far better alternative to sitting at home in front of the television or the internet, where physical inactivity, idleness and boredom can combine to produce dangerous consequences.

Another important part of the solution is reading books. As we discussed last week, children often complain of having too much time, and this is part of the reason they resort to the internet and the many avenues it provides for killing time. Unfortunately, the internet and television offer empty solutions with little potential for self-improvement. In the past, before this technology developed, children would spend their time reading books as a leisure activity. This has decreased dramatically among children and adolescents today. Reading, even when it is purely a leisure activity, can have great educational and psychological benefits. It improves grammar, writing skills, vocabulary, verbal self-expression and comprehen- sion. There is also evidence that reading improves memory and raises intelligence. While reading, children and adolescents can pick up a variety of skills without ever feeling that they are ‘learning’. Reading is also important because it opens children’s and adoles- cents’ minds and exposes them to different perspectives on life.

purposes will not only bring about a healthy balance between work and play, but will also allow the children to appreciate the free time they have from a much younger age.

Finally, childhood is a wonderful time to learn. Children, and even adolescents, have time that they will never have as adults. They also have the capability to learn more easily and in a shorter period of time. Therefore, once parents feel children are ready, childhood can be a great time to learn new skills. Children can learn a second (or third language), martial arts, public speaking or any other specific skill or set of skills. There are so many skills and abilities that we as adults wish we had, but which we can no longer make time to learn. Children have a unique opportunity to learn these skills without the constraints of time or other pres- sures. This does not mean that children will have no free time, all it means is that children will enjoy their free time more if they have to earn it, and if they do not have so much of it that they do not know what to use it for.

Of course, the conditions for parents and educators are usually far from ideal and what has been suggested above may be difficult to implement. However, these are suggestions that are useful to keep in mind, and even implementing them to a small degree can go some way to helping our children grow into healthier, happier adults.

Reading is particularly important for our children, many of whom have learnt English as a
Reading is particularly important for our children, many of whom
have learnt English as a second language, or who at least have par-
ents who learnt English as a second language. Unfortunately, the
children of the first generation of migrants are often ‘language-less’.
They speak the language of their country of origin poorly and also
Dr Ali Alsamail is a graduate of the University of Newcastle
Medical Program. He is currently practicing at Bankstown-
Lidcombe Hospital. He is also a graduate of the Imam Husain
School of Islamic Theology, with a Diploma in Islamic Studies
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Our Community

Every month, Al-Fajr will highlight activities of the community to create a camaraderie between ourselves and become more aware of the services and facilities that different centres around Sydney offer. We shall endeavour to provide a snap- shot of the activities/objectives of different centres from the members themselves! This month, we shall highlight the tragic passing of one of the young members of the community, finally a profile of the Rasul Al-A’dham Islamic Centre as part of a series on Islamic centres in Sydney.

Sayyid Abdul-Majid - Blessed in life and death

by Ehssan Veiszadeh

Hundreds gather at Kogarah’s Al-Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre to re- member the life of Sayyid
Hundreds gather at Kogarah’s Al-Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre to re-
member the life of Sayyid Abdul-Majeed Mustajab-Al Dawa
(Photo: Reza Falamaki)

For three consecutive nights, hundreds of mourners gathered at Kogarah’s Al Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre to remember the life of Sayed Abdul-Majeed Mustajab-Al D’awa.

His older brother, Abdul-Hameed, addressed the crowd gath- ered at Al Ja’afaria Islamic Centre and explained of being con- fronted with five urgent messages from Sydney, after checking in to his Dubai hotel at 5:30 am.

After returning one of the calls, Abdul-Hameed was horrified to hear of his brother’s death. ‚It was very, very tough to be on your own and to hear this tragedy of your brother dying, but at the same time I was thinking about Imam Husain (AS) that he was even at a worse situation being left alone he had no one, every single one of his family had passed away,‛ Abdul-Hameed said.

He remembered a brother ‚full of energy‛ who made it his life goal to defend the Ahlul Bayt any way he could.

Abdul-Hameed also explained that although he had no family in Australia, his friends had given him the support he needed through the difficult period following his brother’s death. ‚I’d like to extend my appreciation to every single one of you,‛ he said.

This is one thing I was thinking about in Dubai when I was receiv- ing so many phone calls from Australia. We have no one in Austra- lia – I don’t have any uncles or aunties [in Australia]. But there were people who were calling us and fulfilled that position of my uncle, who fulfilled the position of my aunties and my relatives. And I really, really appreciate Allah for that support that every one of you has given us.‛

Sayed MaÎdi Al-Modarresi who also addressed the congrega- tion, said the large gathering was a testament to Abdul-Majeed’s unique personality and status in the community. ‚He was a blessed man in his life and he is a blessed man after he has departed this world, and this gathering is only a sign of its blessings,‛ Sayed Al-Modarresi said.

On Sunday, March 21, Abdul-Majeed, 24, called the adhÁn for Maghrib prayers at Arncliffe’s Al-ZahrÁ Mosque and made his way to Sydney Airport to see off his brother before his trip to Iran.

As youths, brothers and sisters, this is the stuff you should aspire to and aim for, that on the day you put your head down on the rock and you depart this world, you have this many brothers and sisters – mu’minÐn and faithful lovers of Allah (SWT) and followers of the Ahlul Bayt come to your remembrances and watch you recite beautiful recitations of the Holy Qur’an. How noble is that? How beautiful is that?

According to Bankstown police, Abdul-Majeed had been riding his Sachs scooter on Juno Parade, Greenacre,
According to Bankstown police, Abdul-Majeed had been riding
his Sachs scooter on Juno Parade, Greenacre, when a black Audi
turned across his path. Paramedics took him to St George Hospi-
tal for treatment to head and leg injuries, but he died during sur-
gery.
That week, his friends organised a three-night congregation for
Abdul-Majeed at Al-Ja’afaria Shi’a Islamic Centre in Kogarah.
Abdul-Majeed’s father and brother flew from Tehran to Sydney
on Tuesday night.
Abdul-Majeed was born in Iran and moved to Australia with his
family in the late 1980’s. His mother and father returned to their
country of origin last year. Abdul-Majeed had no family in Aus-
tralia at the time of his death.
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This is the second instalment of a new Al-Fajr feature called ‘Connecting the dots’. Each week we will profile one of Sydney’s many Shi’a Islamic centres. Please email us with your suggestions on interesting profiles or facts about your local centre on abidalim@gmail.com.

Masjid RasÙl - Al A’dham – Bankstown

By Ehssan Veiszadeh

B y E h s s a n V e i s z a d e
Hayder gives out certificates to his taekwondo students
Hayder gives out certificates to his taekwondo students

Earth people,” he says. “It’s hard for people to get beyond the perception that they are the Sheikh’s sons. They’ve talked to me many times about the expectations the community places on them and how it affects them. But in the end they are very down to earth and cool peo- ple.‛

Most teenagers look forward to a life of partying and socialising after getting their driver’s license. But for Hayder Shkara, getting his license meant he could attend his local Islamic centre more regularly.

With the pressures of his final year at high school, Hayder turned to Al- RasÙl Al-A'dham Mosque in Bank- stown for spiritual relief. ‚I was actu- ally finishing Year 12 and I was having a particularly stressful time,‛ Hayder says. ‚I also did taekwondo and com- peted overseas during my HSC and that also stressed me out a lot. So I’d go to the mosque maybe once or twice a week, but that was on my own accord which was something I never thought of doing.‛

Today, 19-year-old Hayder is one of the more active members of Al-RasÙl Al-A'dham Mosque helping organise events and offering

taekwondo lessons run from inside the centre. He says visitors to the mosque could expect a strong spiritual experience. ‚I’m not sure if it’s the centre ar it comes from Sheikh himself.

Masjid Rasul Al-A’dham - 3 Vimy Street, Bankstown.

Weekly program:

Thursdays: Dua Kumail after Salaat.

Major Occassions: Arabic Lecture after Salaat The masjid is the main organiser of the Ashura Day processions in the city.

For more information please visit

www.alansaree.info or www.ashura.com.au

There are no distractions, there’s no gimmicks. It’s just a strong spiritual experience.‛

Hayder is currently studying a combined law/ journalism degree at the University of Technology, Sydney, but says he is considering a career in taek- wondo. Last year Hayder represented Australia at the Taekwondo World Championships in Den- mark, reaching the third round.

Profile: Ayatollah Sheikh MuÎammad Íusain Al-AnsÁri

Ayatollah Sheikh MuÎammad Íusain Al-AnsÁri was born in Iraq in 1952. He was brought up into a family known for its religious back- ground and scholarship. He gained much knowledge from his fa- ther Hujjah Sheikh Abdul Ghaffar Al-AnsÁri during the period of his academic studies.

After finishing a degree in Civil Engineering from Baghdad Univer- sity, Sheikh moved to Najaf Al-Ashraf in the middle of the seventies and started his studies in that well-known university of Is- lamic knowledge and law until he attained the position of IjtihÁd. He studied and taught there until the year 1991 when he migrated to the Holy city of Qum in Iran.

In Qum he continued teaching and attending the lectures of his first cousin, Grand Ayatollah Sheikh AÎmad Ñebt al- Sheikh Al-AnsÁri until the late Marj’a died about 1996. He did not attend any other lectures and continued giving lec- tures in high levels of Fiqh (jurisprudence), UsÙl (principles), AqÁed (beliefs), TafsÐr (commentaries on the Qur’an), etc, until he left Qum towards Australia in 1999.

He is currently mostly residing in Sydney, serving as the resi- dent Àlim at Al-RasÙl Al-A'dham Mosque in Bankstown.

Hayder recalls visiting the Bankstown mosque for the first time as an 11-year-old. He remembers accompanying his father to small gatherings of local faithfuls, gathered to listen to Ayatollah MuÎammad Íusain al-AnÒÁri’s sermons. ‚I remember that despite the low number of people, Sheikh was really humble and made everyone feel really comfortable, despite his status.

Ayatollah al-AnÒÁri is Australia’s most senior Shi’a cleric and is the representative of Grand Ayatollah Sayyid Ali SÐstÁni. ‚I didn’t really understand the importance of Sheikh back then, but now that I think back on it, it would have been very humbling for a person like him to be at a place with such a low crowd.‛

person like him to be at a place with such a low crowd .‛ Towards the
Towards the end of high school, Hayder began to take a keener interest in the
Towards the end of high school,
Hayder began to take a keener
interest in the sermons and
started to attend the mosque
more regularly. It was then that
he befriended Sheikh al-AnÒÁri’s
three sons. ‚They seemed really
nice, polite, easy-going and down to
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This month, we shall continue our discussion on the major causes of domestic violencethat of anger and discuss some sug- gested and recommended ways to eliminate this illness from our hearts.

The Pathology of DivorceDomestic Violence P2– Let’s diffuse the anger!

Series of Lectures presented by Sh. Mansour LeghaeiWritten by Abidali

would want to be forgiven by the Almighty (SWT) on the day of judgment, so one must forgive the mistakes and misgivings of others especially the loved ones.

CAUSES OF ANGER

The first and most effective step towards curing a disease is identi- fying the cause of the disease. Often this alone can lead to a cure or even more effectively, a suitable prevention strategy. Under- standing the cause of anger can aid greatly in recognising anger, acknowledging it, identifying areas of weakness and thus leading to its effective prevention.

Loss of Control - One of the fundamental causes of anger is the loss of control over one’s emotions. Anger is caused by one’s inability to mentally cope with frustrating situations. Angry people wish to solve a problem emotionally. This can manifest itself when one has to illusion of not being in full control of a situation.

Biological Causes - Illness in gen- eral and specific diseases such as thyroidism (low or high produc- tion of thyroxin), low blood sugar, pre and post menstrual cycle etc., often can lead to emotional epi- sodes. This does not give the right to the sufferer to get angry but he/ she must avoid situations that trigger the emotions and attempt to control them nonetheless.

Pride - Men are often subject to this, considering themselves the ‘lord of the house’. This notion of superiority often leads to conflict when that so called superiority is challenged. Prophet ‘Isa (as) was asked as to what precedes anger, he replied ‚Pride, arrogance, and belittling people‛ (MishkÁt al AnwÁr : 219)

Learning- One of the more influential and yet controllable causes of anger is the influence of peers, parents, movies and violent games. Children especially, learn anger and aggression from their environment and therefore it is imperative that every parent beware of what their child is watching, who he/ she is playing with and what he/she is playing. Seemingly harmless violent games can result in harmful personalities later in life.

WHAT TRIGGERS ANGER

Sexual frustration- Often affects men more than women, whereas the woman may have lack of sexual desire while the man is virile and active. This often leads to sexual frustration and anger.

Stubbornness- This problem affects both sexes equally, often in the times of anger some have the ten- dency of being stubborn in reaction to the anger. This often leads to more anger and perhaps even violence. At times of anger the receiving party must con- cede, even if temporarily, to calm the situation down.

Humiliation- Chronic humiliation of a

person would eventually lead to severe anger. It is essential that both parties in any relation- ship especially that of marriage, be treated with respect and affection. One of the essential characteristic of a wife is that she be ‘obedient’ (QÁnitÁtun), to her husband as much as she is to her father.

), to her husband as much as she is to her father.  Unnecessary jokes -

Unnecessary jokes- As mentioned in

the last article, sensitive jokes often lead to provocation and episodes of anger.

Hunger- The common English saying ‘a

hungry man is an angry man’ rings very true.

FatiguePhysical and mental fatigue

coupled with any form of provocative or non- provocative action may lead to anger. One must choose appropriate times to bring up problems or issues.

In each of the above cases it must be noted that the most effective way to keep the peace is to ensure that anger is not triggered, but it should be understood that the one who suffers anger must work to ensure that these or any other triggers do not lead to loss of control. This list is not exhaustive and different people and personalities have different triggers.

BITTER FRUITS OF ANGER

Several things can lead to an episode of anger in most normal people. Although in
Several things can lead to an episode of anger in most normal
people. Although in some cases those with a severe anger problem
need the slightest of triggers. These people are mentally ill and
therefore need professional treatment. The triggers of anger can
be:
Anger is the key to all evils and when one recognises the bitter
fruits of this character, one cannot help but avoid it. It can:
 Spoil Faith– By being angry, one looses control over one’s
mind and hence eventually indulges in numerous sins. This
action on its own leads to the erosion of faith.
 Revenge mentality- Often those who suffer from the
character of revenge hold grudges for years and can
rehash old wounds with surprising speed and clarity.
This character can be remedied by inculcating and
developing the character of forgiveness. Just as one
 Effects on children– One of the most profound effects of
anger are the effects that manifest themselves often after
many years in the offspring. Effects range from anger itself
to low self esteem leading to other psychological and physi-
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cal disorders including depression, eating disorders, discon- tentment, etc. Often children of parents who get angry end up in broken relationships and are ill equipped to handle difficult situations.

Duties of the Sufferer

Although this applies mostly to men, it can be translated to fe- males also who have this problem of anger.

translated to fe- males also who have this problem of anger.  Turns a gentleman to

Turns a gentleman to a criminalRespectable people who suffer from anger often end up com- mitting severe crimes of domestic violence, or in extreme cases even homi- cide and suicide.

Hostility (not to accept the unchangeable)- The definition of hostility in this case is the inability to accept the unchange- able. These people can- not take rejection or criticism and become cynical and hostile to even well seeming and positive criticism. They therefore are unable to effectively develop them- selves.

Depression- depression is anger turned inward toward the self.

Cardiovascular problems- especially in older people can result from chronic anger.

CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy)- En-

deavour to rationalise the situation and diffuse the ‘perceived’ anger first. Understand the ‘threat’ against you and then react in the way that is most appropriate.

Remember God and His wrath on you. The

simple rule one must remember is that as much as you hurt the other you will be hurt more! Ac- cording to ahadith, even if one dies a martyr, he will not be able to avoid the wrath of Allah (SWT) for hurting a creature of Allah (SWT) and not having sought forgiveness or not having be- ing forgiven by that person.

Use Humour- silly humour can defuse rage.

The angry person must use humour to diffuse the situation and avoid the emotion of anger gripping the mind.

Drop your expectation - Do not expect too

much from your spouse, such that the situation does not allow you to become angry or frus- trated.

Change your position and environment - Imam ‘Ali (as) says ‚when you get angry, keep quiet‛. In another place Imam ‘Ali (as) advises his companions to sit if they are standing and lie down if they are sitting when they are angry. This could involve taking a walk outside or another action that may diffuse the negative thoughts.

Make a wuÃhÙ’ or ghusl with cold water- Hadith have mentioned that anger is the fire of shaitÁn, distinguish it with wuÃhÙ’ or ghusl with cold water.

Hug and kiss your children- This is an elixir that can read- ily diffuse anger. If constantly done, can eliminate emotional outburst in the home.

Keep a punching bag handy! This is if worse comes to worse.

Seek counselling and ther- apy. If symptoms persist see a doctor and often only a men- tal institution and potent medication and therapy can be used to control anger if none of the above works.

Even though anger is more prevalent in young adult males, if anger is not controlled at a younger age, it will most certainly affect the sufferer even in old age making the person more stub- born and angry at little things.

TECHNIQUES TO MANAGE ANGER

In managing anger, like any other illness, there are responsibilities that both the recipient and the sufferer must implement to ensure that the ailment is cured. Anger and domestic violence as its con- sequence is similar in that context.

Duties of the Recipient

1. Understand the triggers of anger in the spouse and endeavour to avoid these.

2. Agree with him/her (for the time being)- It does no good to bring up issues at an inappropriate time or place. This is espe- cially true at the time when the person is angry and is unwill- ing to listen to reason. Accept defeat at that time and bring up the issue when the situation has calmed down.

and bring up the issue when the situation has calmed down.  Remember Prophetic Words of
 Remember Prophetic Words of Wisdom (below) 3. Choose the best time and the words.
 Remember Prophetic Words of Wisdom (below)
3. Choose the best time and the words. Do not confront your
spouse when he/she is hungry and tired! Feed/entertain them
before letting loose with what has been troubling. Find the
appropriate good mood to bring up sensitive issues.
Prophetic words of wisdom
‚No servant of God has ever drunk a drink better in the Sight of God
than an anger that he repressed for the sake of Allah‛ (Kanzul
‘Ummaal:5819) ‚O Moses! Control your anger against whom I have
authorised you over, and I will control My Wrath against you.‛ (Al-
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From this issue, we will analyse the topic of adultery and fornication, its evil nature and how we can avoid it based on the teachings of the Holy Qur’an in Surah Nur.

Fornication is Corruption

Written by Musatfa Barakat, Based on lecture by Sheikh Mansour Leghaei

In Islam, the Arabic term ZinÁ signifies voluntary sexual inter- course between one individual and another while not being married to each other, irrespective of whether one or both of them are mar- ried to other persons or not. Hence, it does not, in contrast with the usage prevalent in most Western languages, differentiate be- tween the concepts of "adultery" (i.e., sexual intercourse of a mar- ried man with a woman other than his wife, or of a married woman with a man other than her husband) and "fornication" (i.e., sexual intercourse between two unmarried persons which includes extra- marital sexual intercourse).

The etymology of the word adultery comes from the Latin words ‘ad’ (toward), and ‘alter’ (other), which is interpreted as possessing a sexual desire towards others (i.e., outside of the contract of mar- riage), which translates further into sexual corruption, and conjugal infidelity.

The Chapter of ‘Al-NÙr’ (Surah 24) in the Holy Qur’an is solely dedicated by Allah (SWT) to this evil act of ZinÁ. It deals with is- sues such as sexual relations, marital and extramarital relations, the impact of an individual sexual behaviour on the self as well as pub- lic heath. In this chapter of the Qur’an, Allah (SWT) has issued some decrees that are not mere matters of convenience. Allah has ordained these decrees for our serious observance in life. Even the very recitation of this chapter should be observed as it can protect one’s wealth, private parts and women from such indecencies, as observed in the following tradition: Imam Sadiq (as): Protect your wealth and your private parts by recitation of Surah al-NÙr, and protect your women with it.” [al-Sadooq; ThawÁbul-A’mal, p.138]

Zina, verily it is a shameful act and an evil way‛ [Surah 17: Ayah 32]. Clearly, the condemnation of adultery is introduced to hu- mankind in stages where the final message is that even the mere approaching of this act is vicious and condemned.

Islam has condemned this act to the extent that there are very spe- cific laws that enable the community to ensure that even approach- ing this sin is avoided. These laws include:

1. Dividing humans into two categories of: Mahram (Mahram’s are a group of persons to witch marriage is forbidden e.g. mother) and non-Mahram. The full list can be obtained from the Holy Qur’an. (Surah NisÁ: 22-23)

2. Prohibition of physical contact between non-Mahrams. Imam Sadiq (a.s): ‚There is no one except that they have committed fornica- tion: As the fornication of the eyes is to see, and the fornication of the mouth is to kiss, and the fornication of hands is to touch”. [Wasa’elu- Shi’a vol.20 p.191]

3. Prohibition of mingling of non-Mahrams.

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Prohibition of lustful looks (to be sexually aroused in looking at another): whether live or on screen; such as TV, internet (Facebook), magazines, posters, etc. Imam ÑÁdiq (as) said: “a (lustful) look is one of the poisonous arrows of Satan, and how many (lustful) looks inherited long regrets.” [Ibid]

Prohibition of privacy between non-Mahrams. It is narrated from the Prophet MuÎammad (saw): ‚Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day then shall not sleep in a place wherein he can hear the breathing of a woman who is not Mahram to him.‛ [Wasa’lu- Shi’a- vol.20 p.185]

One might ask why is it that people enter into such an evil path even though they clearly know that it is wrong? Instinctively, in every human being there is an inner energy called libido, which is responsible for the sexual desire that one may experience. Sexual activity is one of the literal physiological human needs, included on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The functions and purpose of the sex- ual desire is for mating (forces that lead to marriage) and reproduc- tion (continuation of creation), which assists in maintaining the survival of the human race.

Obligation of HijÁb and prohibition of adornments for non- Mahrams The rules of Islam are two sided, on the one hand males are commanded to lower their gaze, while on the other hand females are obliged to dress modestly this acts as a bar- rier from entering into illicit relationships for a healthy soci- ety the dress code must be respected.

Prohibition of all alcoholic beverages: The key of fornication Alcohol places an individual in the state of unconsciousness with respect to one’s conscience (i.e. ability to determine be- tween right and wrong). This makes it easier for one to open the gates that lead to fornication.

In understanding that sexual activity is a human need, an individ- ual may undertake to satisfy such needs through either marriage or fornication. Both of these are sexual activities, however marriage is morally lawful, publicly celebrated and is the means in which indi- viduals will be able to tame the inner wild creature that exists within in a stable, predictable, safe and psychologically sound man- ner. However, adultery is morally unlawful, a shameful act that is publicly hated and is the means for unleashing that inner wild crea- ture. This creature once unleashed, is never satiated but demands more, the more you give it. The psychological dimensions of adul- tery and its social ramifications are severe and long lasting.

Prohibition of music since it plays with the subconscious: The transmitter of fornication Music also places an individual in the state of unconsciousness with respect to the remembrance of God, Hence making it easier for one to open the gates that lead to fornication.

This prohibition of fornication has its roots in all divine religions, for example, in Judaism
This prohibition of fornication has its roots in all divine religions,
for example, in Judaism the Old Testament states, ‚You shall commit
no adultery‛ [Exo 20:14]. In Christianity the New Testament states,
‚You have heard that it was said: Do not commit adultery. But I tell you
that anyone who looks lustfully at a woman has in his heart already com-
mitted adultery with her‛ [Matt 5:27]. Finally in Islam, the complete
and final message to man, the Quran states, ‚And do not approach
9. Encouraging marriage and discouraging celibacy - Islam has
enunciated the easiest ways of satisfying sexual desires and ful-
filling sensual feelings, leaving no excuse for one to enter into
fornication.
10. Permission of divorce. [when necessary]
11. Prescription of fasting.
12. Legislation of various types of punishment, both in this world
*Detailed explanations will come in subsequent articles.

and the next these serve as a deterrent from stepping into these evil paths.