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Sunt ranit adeseori de mine insumi, de oameni, de priviri, de taceri, de. Sunt un cer. Ba
senin, ba cu nori, ba cu soare dogorator, ba cu ploi reci sau calde de vara, ba cu zapaezi si
troiene mari. Sunt o poveste lunga. Trist si vesel, credul si suspicios, copil si batran, ziua si
noapte.... Respect, indrum, ambitionez,dau aripi, rasfat , iubesc... Ma reazam de zidul
inimii mele si privesc cerul instelat...
They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this word : someone to
love, something to do and something to hope for.
If you are depressed you are living the past .
If youa are anxious you are living in the future.
If you are at peace you are living the present
Happiness os a journey not a destination. Most importantly NEVER EXPECT.
One must keep theirwants and needs in accord. Want the things you need not the things
you want.

When our rational and emotionalsides are in agreement then thats happiness

Hirostom
Filipescu

Lao Tzu

Greek
saying

The Four Noble Truths of Buddha ( The Awakeened One) :


1. Life is suffering, in other words, life is inherently dissatisfactory.
2. Suffering is caused by desire. Desire comes from attachment thinking. Here he means,
small ,,I" desires : I want food, I want sex, I want fame, I want success, only for me, me me.
Always concern with I, me , my,mine.
3. There is an end to suffering : cut off the roots of desire andyou cut off the roots of suffering.
4. The Noble Eightfold Path : His prescription for mindfull living, including : Right View, Right
Intention, Right Speech, RightAction, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness, Right
Concentration.
Buddha discovered that life sucks if it is all about me. Many people get to where you are and
feel that something is missing. That is because everything in the universe is always changing,
changing, changing! Nothing stays the same. Only live for all beings. Let go of everythhing.
Than you actually get everything .

Michael
Bruffee

Distorted thinking
All-or-nothing
thinking

Overgeneralization

You view a negative event as a never ending pattern of


defeat.

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Mental filter
Discounting the
positives

You dwell on the negatives and ignore the positives.


You insist that your accomplishments or positive qualities
dont count.

Jumping to
conclusions

You conclude things are bad without any definite evidence :


a) mind
reading : you assume that people are reacting negatively to
you,
b)fortune
telling : you predict that things will turn out badly.

Magnification or
minimization

You blow things way out proportion or you shrink their


importance.

Emotional reasoning You reason from how you feel: ,, I feel like an idiot, so I must
be one ".

,,Should statements" You criticize yourself or other people with: shoulds, should
not", musts sau oughts.

Labeling

10 Blame

You look at things in absolute, black and white categories.

Instead of saying yourself ,, I made a mistake", you tell


yourself : ,, I am a jerk ora loser"
You blame yourself for something you werent entirely
responsible for or you blame other people and overlook ways
that you contributeed to a problem.

Ideea 1

Ideea 2

Ideea 3

The price of happiness


What is the key to self-esteem and hapiness?
Seeing yourself as a human being with defects.
You feel the way you think
The loss of self - esteem and feelings of hoplessness are the worst aspects of
depression.
Some people belive they get depressed because they feel defective and inferior
and belive that there is something deeply wrong with them. They feel themselves
they are not confident, charming, pretty or smart enough to feel happy or
worthwhile. They compare themselves to others who appear to be more confident
and successful.
We are not victims of circumstances beyound our control.
Greek philosopher Epictelus said : ,, Men are no disturbed by things, but by the
views thewy take on them. This means that thoughts- not actual events - create our
moods.
Only one person in the worls can ever make yourself depressed , worried, or angry and that person is you! This ideea can change your life.
Most bad feelings come from illogical thoughts (distorted thinking).
Bad feelings like depression, anxiety, guilt, hoplessness, frustration and anger are
often caused by distorted thinking. When you put the lie to these distorted
thoughts, you can change thee way you feel.
Distorted thinking

You can change the way you feel


The steps to feeling good.
Distorted thinking exercice
Step one : Describe the upsetting event
Step two : Record your negative feelings : identify your negative emotions and rate
how intense each one is; use words like sad, anxious, guilty, lonely, hopeless,
frustrated, inferior. Etc.
Step three : Record your negative thoughts
Mood log
negative thoughts ( rate)
distortions
positive thoughts ( subsitituate
negative thoughts with ones that are more positive and realistic)

Healthy and unhealthy thoughts

All-or-nothing thinking

You look at things in absolute, black and white categories.

Overgeneralization

You view a negative event as a never ending pattern of defeat.

Mental filter
Discounting the
positives

You dwell on the negatives and ignore the positives.


You insist that your accomplishments or positive qualities dont
count.

Jumping to conclusions You conclude things are bad without any definite evidence :
a) mind reading : you
assume that people are reacting negatively to you,
b)fortune telling : you predict that
things will turn out badly.
Magnification or
minimization

You blow things way out proportion or you shrink their importance.

Emotional reasoning

You reason from how you feel: ,, I feel like an idiot, so I must be
one ".

,,Should statements"

You criticize yourself or other people with: shoulds, should not",


musts sau oughts.

Labeling

Instead of saying yourself ,, I made a mistake", you tell yourself : ,,


I am a jerk ora loser"

Blame

You blame yourself for something you werent entirely responsible


for or you blame other people and overlook ways that you
contributeed to a problem.