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byAlekRolstad
Friday,22July2016

Guysoftenthinkagirlshotness=howhardtogetsheis.Buttheresalotmoretoitthanjustherlooks.6morethings,infact.

Menoftenthinkhotwomenarehardertogetthanwomenofaveragelooks.Theusualrationalehereisthathotwomenare
AWAREoftheirhotness,whichleadsthemtogrowpickierinthematinggame.Beinghot,agirlisregularlyhitonbymen,
andgetsusedtohersurroundingstellinghershesbeautiful.
Eventhoughthereissometruthtothistheory,intodayspostweregoingtohavealookatsixoftheotherthingsthatcome
intoplay...Sixmorevariablesthathelptoshapethehowdifficult(ornot)youllfindittoseduceaparticulargirl.Beyondand
belowthesesixthings,wewillseetherearesomanykeyvariablesthatonemightwonderifitsevenworthwhiletodwell
muchonthem.
Thequickanswertothatlastquestionisno...Dwellingonthevariousitemsthatmakeagirleasierorhardertogethaslittle
(ifany)effectonyouractualinfieldperformance.Reasonforthisbeingthatitsveryoftenhardandevenimpossibleto
tellatthestartofthingswhetheragirlwillbehardtogetoreasy.
Notonlyisithardtotellwhetheragirlishardtoget,evenwiththeknowledgeofallthevariablesatplay,butitisvery
difficulttopinpointwhichvariableisactuallyhavinganimpactonaparticulargirl...Plushowthatvariableaffectsthe
difficultylevelofpickingherup.
Thatbeingsaid,Ibelieveawarenessoftheseotherfactorsmightchallengethecommon(limiting)beliefthatjustbecausea
girlishotsheishardtoget(wemightcallthistheonlyhotnessmattersbelief).Thenotionthatagirlishardtogetasa
resultofbeinghotmightsometimesbethecasebutisfarfromalwaysthecase.Removethismentallimitation,andyou
mayevenstarttofeelmoreconfidentwhenyouapproachhottergirls.
Lastly,Ialsobelieveyoullfindthisarticleaninterestingreadinitself(oratleastIhopeso!).Letshavealookatthose
variables.

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6ThingsthatMakeHerHardertoGet(orEasier!)
First,wellcoverthemainvariablesthataffecthowhardtogetagirlis(otherthanlooks),andafterthatwellcoverafew
interestingtheoriesaboutlooksanddifficulty.Thevariablesweregoingtotalkaboutare:
1.Agirlspersonality
2.Hermood
3.Hersocioculturalbackground
4.Hersocialcircle
5.Whereandhowyoumeether
6.Andherselfawarenessofherlooks
Asweexaminethesevariableswellalsoseewhysomewomenwhoarentgoodlookingmightactliketheyarestraightup
gorgeous...Andmayactuallybehardertogetthanamoreobjectivelybeautifulgirl.

Variable#1:HerPersonality
Evenwithoutadegreeinpsychology,wecanobservethatdifferencesinpersonalityplayacrucialroleinhowawoman
viewsherself.Allwomenaredifferent,bothphysiologicallyandpsychologically.
Awomanspersonalitytraitsaffectherbehavior.Maybeshepossessesafewnarcissistictraits[1]?Insuchcase,herlevelof
selfconfidencemightgoupandherlevelofpickinesswillfollow.Maybesheisintroverted[2]?Manymen,includingme
sometimes,mistakeintrovertedwomenforuninterestedwomen...Whentheyinfactintrovertedwomensometimesare
interested(sometimesveryinterested),theyjustdontshowit.Thiscanthrowamonkeywrenchintothefirstmeetifyou
arenttunedintothosepersonalitydifferences.
Therearemanypersonalitytraitsthatcanhaveanimpactlikethisonhowhardagirlistoget.Somewomenaremore
neurotic,othersaremoreintroverted,whereasothersareextroverted.Allofthesedifferencesplayacrucialroletodefinea
girlsbehaviorinthematingprocess.

Variable#2:HerMood
Thisoneisvital.Rememberthatwomenchangemoodsallthetime(Ivetalkedaboutthisonebefore[3]).Forexample:
Justasmallamountofstimuliisenoughtochangehermoodcompletely,especiallyinnightclubs[4].Eventheweather
canhaveaneffectoverhermood.
Earliereventspriortoyoumeetingherwillalsodefinehermood(didshejustfinishahardexam,andnowshewants
tohavefunandunwind?Didshejusthaveafightwithherbestfriend,andnowshesinaterriblemood?).
Herhormonalcyclesalsoplaysahugerolewhenitcomesdowntohermood.Issheovulating[5]?Issheonher
period?
Hermoodwillhaveahugeimpactonhowreceptivesheisandhowopensheishookup.Considerthefollowing:
Sheisfeelingsocial
Sheishorny[6](orovulating)
Sheisinahappymood
Nextconsiderthese:
Shedoesntfeellikebeingsocial
Shehashitaphaseinhercyclewheresheisntfeelinghornyatall
Shehadacruddyday

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Ifsheshadacruddyday,itsgoingtobehardertohititoffwithher.

Now,itsobviousthingsllbemucheasierwhenhermoodisright,comparedtowhenhermoodiswrong.Guesswhat,we
areallhumans...Andweallexperiencedifferentemotions.Womenevenmoresothanmen.Soagirlwhomightbehardto
pickuponedaymightbeeasieronanotherday.Moreoftenthannot,hermoodiswhatdefinesthelevelofdifficulty
whenitcomestoseduction,andnotnecessarilyherlooks.

Variable#3:HerSocioculturalBackground
Thisoneisobvious,butherewehaveYETanothervariablethathasnothingtodowithherlooks.Agirlraisedinafamily
withaliberatedviewofsexwillbeinmanycaseseasiertopickupthanagirlwithstrictermorals.
Nownotethatinmanycases,therearenocorrelationsbetweenherbackgroundandhercurrentvalues.Therearemany
casesofwomenrebellingagainsttheirparentsmoralswhoactuallydotheoppositeofwhattheirinitialmoraldoctrines
instructthemto.
Religiousgirls[7]mayforexamplebelieveinarevisedversionoftheirreligion.Ionceshaggedatheologystudent
(currentlyapriest)onaSundaynightaftermeetingheroutsideofagaybar.Thisisofcoursearatherextremeexample,but
itillustratesmypoint.
Duetothistendencyofsomegirlstorebelagainsttheirbackgrounds,Isuggestyouavoidanytoobold
assumptionsabouthowdifficultitllbetopickherup,basedonhersocioculturalbackgroundalone.Nevertheless,
thisisanotherkeyvariabletokeepaneyeon.

Variable#4:HerSocialCircle
Socializationplaysanelementalroleintheformationofourpersonalities.Eventhoughourappraisalformsabaselinefor
whoweare(seemypreviouspoint),oursocialcircle[8]givesusmorerecentinputsandhasabiggereffectonwhoweare
rightnow,atthisexacttime.
So,whomshehangswithreflectsanddefinesherbehavior.
Doesshehangwithsexuallyliberated[9]people?Ifyes,shemightbeaneasiertarget
Doesshehangwithmoreconservativepeople(notinthepoliticalsense)?Ifyes,shemightbeahardertarget
Doesshehangwithpeoplewhohookupalot?Ifyes,shemightbeaneasiertarget
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Doesshehangwithpeoplewhorarelyhookup?Ifyes,shemightbeahardertarget
Areherfriendsinrelationships?Ifyesshemightbelookingforaboyfriendherselfwhichwillaffectthedynamic
Etc
KeepinmindthoughthatVERYindependentandconfidentwomentendtogotheirownways.Thismeansthatshe
doesntreallyCAREaboutwhatherfriendsaredoing,nordoesshecareaboutwhatherfriendsthinkofher.Butthisstems
fromherpersonalitysomepersonalitiesaremoreopentosocialinfluence,whileothersaremoreindependent.

Variable#5:WhereandHowYouMeetHer
Yes,contextisakeything.Thesituationdoesntjustaffecthermood(anothervariable),butaffectsherhardnessor
easinessallbyitself.Thesocialscenarioyoumeetherinwilldefinethesocialframeinwhichtheseductiontakesplace.
Somescenariosmakehereasiertoget,whereasothersmakeherharder.
Considerthesescenarios:

Sheissurroundedbyherfriends:difficultscenario,dependingonwhoherfriendsare(seethepartonher
socialcircle).Iftheyareprudish,thingsmaybecomereallyhardifsheiswithmoreliberatedfriends,thingsget
easier.

Sheisalone:wellshemightbecomeabitmoreprotective(sincesheisalone)howeverwomenwhoarealone
(lonewolves)tendtobetheeasiesttargets.

Sheisoutwithhermum(orworsegrandma):sometimesitcanworkout,butgenerallyspeaking,these
girlstendtobehardnutstocrack.

Sheisoutwithabiggroup:thisoneisadoubleedgedsword.Biggroupsmakeiteasierforhertoleave(they
arealltogetherafterall),howevertherecanbemorecockblocks[10],andherantislutdefense[11]maytriggerasa
resultofthehighernumberofobserverswatchingoverher.

Sheisinagaybar:herguard[12]goesdown
Sheisinavenuewithlotsofmalepredators(badmaletofemaleratio):herguardgoesup
Theenvironmentandthesituationyoumeetherinplayanothercrucialrole.Insomescenariosshellbehardertopickup
inothers,easier.

Variable#6:HerSelfAwarenessofHerLooks
Eventhoughwevespentalotofthispostonthedifferentthingsthatdetermine
howhardtogetagirlisorhoweasytogetsheis,itstimetoreturntothat
originaltheoryonlooks.
Aswediscussedintheintroduction,itiscommontothinkgirlsarehardertogetif
theyrehotter.Eventhoughwehavecoveredtheothervariablesthataffecta
girlsdifficultylevel,letsdirectlytacklewhythehot=hardtheoryisonlypartly
true.
Whyisitsocommontobelieveanattractivewomanismoreconfidentor
pickier?Well,onesignificantreasoncanbethatthehotgirlKNOWSshes
hot.Shesheardoverandoveragainthatsheishot...Andplentyofmenhave
hitonheroverandoveragaintoo.
Itisallaboutherownselfperceptionofherbeauty.Ifshethinkssheshot,
shewilldemandmorefrommenwhowanttodateher,talktoher,orsleepwith
her.Nowdobeadvised,uglywomensometimesbelievetheyaresuperhotasa
resultofmenhittingonthemalot(inmynextpostwellcoveratheoryforwhy
manyaveragewomenactuallybelievetheyaresuperhot),butsimplysaidifa
girlisforexampleinasituationwherethereisahighdemandforwomen,she
willgetheregoboosted[13].Thinkofaclubwithabadratio,oratownwithvery
fewhotwomen[14],oryourlocalITfaculty.
Howevernotethatusually,hotwomentendtohaveahigheropinionofandmore
selfawarenessconcerningtheirownlooks.Yet,onequestionremains:how
muchdoesherownselfperceptionactuallymatterwhenitcomesdowntopickingherup?Willitposeanymajor
difficulties?
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Sometimesitmight,butkeepinmindthat5othervariablesalsocomeintoplay.Herawarenessoverherownlooksisonly1
ofthose6variables.Soifthisvariablemakesagirlhardertoget(e.g.,sheknowssheishothenceshegrowspickier,
etc.),keepinmindthatthereare5othervariablesthatcanbalancethingsoutorthosevariablesmightevenmakethings
harder,orothertimeseasier,dependingonthevariable.
Bottomlineisthis:hotwomenareNOTnecessarilyHARDERtopickupthananyotherwomen.Itdependshowtheyscore
onthevariables.

ThingsthatMakesaGirlHardtoGet(orEasy)
Inthispost,wevechallengedthenotionthathotgirlsarealwaysthehardesttopickup.Wevecovered6differentvariables
thatdeterminehowharditistopickupaparticulargirl.
Thosevariablesare:
1.Agirlpersonality
2.Hermood
3.Hersocioculturalbackground
4.Hersocialcircle
5.Whereandhowyoumeether
6.Andherselfawarenessofherlooks
Nowkeepinmindnottooverlyobsessedwiththesevariables.Havetheminthebackofyourhead.Thebestthingto
doinfieldistojustlookoutforthefollowing:
Screenforgoodtargetsorratherscreenoutbadtargets[15]:girlswhoareoutwithtonsoffriends,surrounded
bymenetc
Avoidsituationsthatcanmakewomenbecomedifficulttoseduce:forexample,avoidbadvenues[16].

Lookoutforapproachinvitations[17]ifyouwantto:eventhoughIfindsuchstrategyabittoopassive
formytaste.However,ifyoudogetanapproachinvitation,capitalizeonit.
Approachagirl[18]anywaytofindoutwhetherornotshesworthyourtime.Giveitatrybeforeyouwalkoff(younever
knowwhatmighthappen,andoftengirlswillsurpriseyou).

Sharpgame[19]iskey:always!
ThereisanotherfactorthatalsoplaysahugekeyrolethatIhaventmentioned:namelythatbeautyisalsoVERYsubjective
[20]...Especiallywhenitcomesdowntowhatonemightconsidera10.ThereasonIhaventmentionedthisinthispostis
becauseIwilldedicatemynextpostonthis.Iwillalsoafterthatwriteapostondifferenttheoriesonhowlooksaffectsthe
levelofdifficulty.Soifyoufindthistopicinteresting,staytuned.
Questionsandcommentsarewelcome,asalways.
Untilnext,
Alek

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