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Shyness
Unsafe sex
o Underestimate risk (shitty math, illusion of unique invulner)
o Faulty decision making (sexual arousal, alcohol myopia)
o Pluralistic ignorance (wrongly believe hookups more popular and
condoms lss than actual)
o Abstinence education
o Decreased intimacy and pleasure
Conflict
o personal autonomy and close connection to others
o openness versus closedness.
o stability versus change.
o integration with, versus separation from a social network.
o 2.3 dating couples /wk, 1-2/mo spouses
o personality, attachment style, similarity, sleep, stage of life, alcohol
o instigating events 38pct children, 25 chores, 22 communication,
rest lesure finances etc.
o cause most conflict: criticism, illeg demands, rebuffs, cumulative
annoyances (eg social allergies)
o attributional conflict, misundestandings
o enagement and escalation
avoid/negotiation/escalation
direct/indirect
negative affect reciprocity, demand/withdraw (women/men)
negotiation and accommodation (direct/indirect)
constructive/destructive, active/pasive
Violent resistence
Gender
Both genders equal, women at least equal/more likely .
Men more likely to injure 0 62% injured and 71 receiving
treatment women
Men more likely to use violence as tool in oingoing pattern of
force/domniantion, 8/9 IT are men
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Impelling influences
Inhibiting influences
o Distal
o Dispositional
o Relational
o Situational
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Self Blame- Psychological abuse leads the victim to conclude she must
be somehow to blame.
Fear of reprisal
They still love their partner
Hope
Economic Dependency
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Maintaining and enhancing relationships
o Cognitive maintenance mechanisms
Cognitive interdependence
Positive illusionment
Superiority
Inattention to alts
Derogation of tempting alts
o Behavioural maint mechanisms
Willingness to sacrifice
Prayer
Michelangelo phenomenon
Accommodation
Self control
Play
Forgiveness
o Staying content
Positivity
Assurances
Sharing tasks
Openness
Support
*KEEP DOING THESE THINGS. TEMP BENEFITS, SUSTAIN
o Preventitive maintenance
RPEP realist expecations, open communaciton, play
o Marital therapy
Behavioural
Cog-behavioral
Integrative behavioural empathy detatchment tolerance
buiding
Emotionally focused
Insight oriented
Explain difficulty, hope for desirable change, more effective +
advantageous behaviour
Earlier address = better
Conflict tactic scale
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Part C 3 choose 2 5 point questions
Possible topics
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Forgiveness
Speaker/listener technique
o Calm,clear communication about contentious issues, incrases chance
partners will udnestand and validate despite disagreemnts
o Rules for the Speaker-Listener Technique:
o The speaker has the floor.
o Speaker: Be brief and specific. Speak for yourself.
o Speaker: Stop and let the listener paraphrase.
o Listener: Paraphrase what you hear.
o Share the floor.
o No problem solving.
Concern/respect w/o falling into noxious cycle
Committed sex
Sternberg
Friendship
Relationship dissolution