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by Irma Walter 2010
You must leave a man to his own devices, no matter how stupid you think they are. Quit meddling. Your methods work for you. Men have their own problem-solving modes, which might be slow and cumbersome in your opinion, but they are a result of the man's own thinking. Therefore they will always work better for him. Making a man feel bad about his methods only blocks his mind and then he can't learn from you. If you feel that a man hasn't got what it takes to do a job, then do it yourself (you should be able to, if you've come to your position by going through the ranks??) and train him on easier problems that he is able to achieve until you are confident that he can handle the big ones. It's contraproductive to take the chance of a man failing in his efforts, because it will automatically affect his standing in the ranks. If a man failed, you must not comfort or encourage him. There is just no way you as a woman could do this situation justice. Don't relate any of your own failures to him as a matter of “encouragement”. You'd force him to compare
On Working with Men (8 of 14)
by Irma Walter 2010
himself with a woman, which would only serve him to feel low enough to have to reach up to scratch a worm's ankle. “Has the world come to that?” The best thing you can do to help is to control your signals and, if at all possible, let it pass. We give energy to what we focus on. What the man needs is a new challenge to prove himself and if you want to save his usefulness to your ends, you'd be inobtrusively designing that challenge for him, rather than letting the gang descend on him with theirs. Insist on enforcing the hierarchy in this case. Point each one to their own tasks at hand by engaging their minds towards their own challenges. “What needs to be done next? How can we find solutions? Who can come up with some suggestions?” When you leave the site of failure, you'd want all energies channelled into a desirable direction, rather than imploding the hierarchy.