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Whmenareavoidingworkandmarriage
Summary:Thepreviouspostdescribedhowmenareabandoningtheratraceanddroppingoutofthefulltimeworkforce.Theusualexplanations(givenwithoutaskingthem)arethattheyrepawnsofeconomicand
socialforces,orneuroticPeterPansthatrefusetogrowup.WhilesatisfyingtoLeftandRightandpartially
correct,theseignorethecorefactthesemenhaveagency,andarerationallyrespondingtochangesinour
society.Wecanlearnmuchfromthem,forthistrendhasjustbegun.Theeffectonsocietywillbeimmense.

LiftingtheveiltoeewhatIwon.Oh,ittoil&troule.

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Forwhatdomenworkhardandlong?
Menworkmostoftentoobtainsocialstatusandmoney,togetwomen,andtosupportafamily.Economically

Menworkmostoftentoobtainsocialstatusandmoney,togetwomen,andtosupportafamily.Economically
independentwomenhaveradicallychangedeveryaspectofthatgame,especiallyforthemenatthebackof
thepack.
(1)Womensaddedparticipationintheworkforceincreasescompetitionforgoodjobsanddepresseswages.
(2)Sexisnowmoreeasilyavailableoutsidemarriage,oftenwithoutexpensivedatingrituals.
(3)Partiallyliberatedfromtheneedformaleproviders,womenincreasinglyselectfordarktriadtraits(i.e.,
entertainingjerks,oftentreatingthembadly).SomeofTaylorSwiftssongsclearlydescribehowthisworks.
Successinthesexgamesforbetas(mostofusarebetas)largelycomesfromlearningthegame(fakingdark
triadbehaviors).Whyshouldmenmarrythesewomen(whentheyreover28andreadytosettle)?
(3)Mens(oftenillusory)patriarchalruleofthefamilyisgone.Nowwomenneedmenonlytogetlegitimate
childrenandpaychildsupportafterthedivorce(womenfile~80%ofdivorces,anddivorcesendroughlyhalf
ofmarriages).Only18%offathersgetprimarycustodyofthe26%ofminorchildrenwholivewithonlyone
parent.Formoreinformationseethe2013CensusreportonCustodialParents.Whyshouldmenmarry?
(4)Ginwasthecheappowerdrinkofchoiceforthoseseekingalternativelifestylesin18thcenturyLondon.
Technologyhasgiventodaysratracedropoutsmoreandbetteralternatives:greatbooze,designerdrugs,rock
music,athousandchannelsonTV,andcomputergames(whichpushthesamebuttonsinthebrainas
addictivedrugs).Marriagenowhasmorecompetitionforaroleinmenslives.

Amodernwomenlookingforagoodhuand.

Marriageinthenewworld
Thesetrendsarestillrunning.Perhapstheyhavebarelybegun.Wecanonlyguesswhatsocietywilllooklike
after10or20moreyearsofthesechanges.Evenmoreimportant,loomingaheadisanotherdestabilizer:
sexbots(theyarecoming).
Butourworldoftodaymakesmarriageandevenworkinghardtogetawomanlookasanachronisticas
serenadinggirlsintheeveningtoearntheirlove.Eventheliteraturethatencouragedmarriagehaslostmuch

serenadinggirlsintheeveningtoearntheirlove.Eventheliteraturethatencouragedmarriagehaslostmuch
ofitsforce(obvioustoanyonewatchingHollywoodsattemptstomakeromanticcomedies;seehereand
here).AsAllanBloomexplainsinClosingoftheAmericanMind

Alltheromanticnovelswiththeirdepictionsofhighlydifferentiatedmenandwomen,theirsteamy,
sublimatedsensualityandtheirinsistenceonthesacrednessofthemarriagebondjustdonotspeaktoany
realitythatconcernstodaysyoungpeople.

Hollywoodhasadapteditsstoriestothisnewworld.Forexample,thehitseriesCastlefocusesonthe
romancebetweenNYPDdetectiveKateBeckettandrichplayboyRickCastleandhowiterodeshis
characterfromalphaintoapudgybeta(aswiththeBookofJob,theauthorstackedonahappyending).Itsa
powerfulcautionarytaleofhowtraditionalromancehasbecometoxicinmodernAmerica(seethedetails
here).

Concluion
Socialandeconomictrendshavemademarriagehaslessattractivewhilenewalternativeshavearisen.Men
haverespondedrationally,inthegrandtraditionofWesternreligiousandphilosophicalthought
prioritizingotheraspectsoflifeovertheaccumulationofmaterialgoodsandpursuitofgoodwomen(akathe
ratrace).
Bydroppingoutthesemenactagainstsocietysnorms,showingthattheyhaveagencytheabilitytoact
independently,exercisingfreechoice.Asusual,theestablishmentsanalystsrefusetoseethis,letalonelearn
fromtheirexamples.Buttimewillmakethesetrendsimpossibletoignore.
Weareseeingjustthefirstsmallwaveofthisphenomenon.Thenewgenerationofmennowinschoolwill
showusitsfullforce.Bornintothisworld,theyseeitwithgreaterclaritythantheirparents.Wewillseehow
theyreacttotheincentiveswehavesetforthem.

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Ifyoulikedthispost,likeusonFacebookandfollowusonTwitter.Seeallpostsaboutwomenandgender
roles,especiallythese
Therevolutioningenderrolesreshapessocietyinwaystoodisturbingtosee.
AlookaheadattheNewAmerica,afterthegenderwars.
Bookstohelpusseethestrangenewworldfollowingtherevolutioningenderroles.
Loveinthenewworld,afterthegenderwars.
TheEconomistproclaimsthatmenareTheWeakerSex.
WomenaremovingontopofmeninAmerica.
MenaregoingGalt.Marriageisdying.Willsocietysurvive?
Whenmarriagedisappears:risinginequalityasthethreattothefamily.

Anoteaouttherieandfallofromantic

marriage
AsexplainedbyAllanBloominClosingoftheAmericanMind
Noneofthisresultsfromthesixties,orfromtheappealto
masculinevanitybegunbyadvertisersinthefifties,orfromany
othersuperficial,pop-cultureevents.Morethantwohundred
yearsagoRousseausawwithalarmtheseedsofthebreakdown
ofthefamilyinliberalsociety,andhededicatedmuchofhis
geniustotryingtocorrectit.Hefoundthatthecritical
connectionbetweenmanandwomanwasbeingbrokenby
individualism,andfocusedhisefforts,theoreticalandpractical,
onencouragingpassionateromanticloveinthem.Hewantedto
rebuildandreinforcethatconnection,previouslyencumbered
bynowdiscreditedreligiousandcivilregulation,onmodern
groundsofdesireandconsent.

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Heretracedthepictureofnaturethathadbecomeapalimpsestundertheabrasionofmodemcriticism,and
heenticedmenandwomenintoadmiringitsteleologicalordering,specificallythecomplementaritybetween
thetwosexes,whichmeshandsetthemachineoflifeinmotion,eachdifferingfromandneedingtheother,
fromthedepthsofthebodytotheheightsofthesoul.Hesetutterabandontothesentimentsand
imaginationsofidealizedloveagainstcalculationofindividualinterest.
Rousseauinspiredawholegenreofnovelisticandpoeticliteraturethatlivedfeverishlyforoveracentury,
coexistingwiththewritingsoftheBenthamsandtheMillswhowereearnestlyatworkhomogenizingthe
sexes.Hisundertakinghadtheheaviestsignificancebecausehumancommunitywasatrisk.Inessencehe
waspersuadingwomenfreelytobedifferentfrommenandtotakeontheburdenofenteringapositive
contractwiththefamily,asopposedtoanegative,individual,self-protectivecontractwiththestate.
Tocquevillepickedupthistheme,describedtheabsolutedifferentiationofhusbandsandwifesfunctions
andwaysoflifeintheAmericanfamily,andattributedthesuccessofAmericandemocracytoitswomen,who
freelychoosetheirlot.Thishecontrastedtothedisorder,nay,chaos,ofEurope,whichheattributedtoa
misunderstandingormisapplicationoftheprincipleofequalityonlyanabstractionwhennotinformedby
naturesimperatives.
Thiswholeeffortfailedandnowarouseseitherwomensanger,asanattempttotakefromthemrights
guaranteedtoallhumanbeings,ortheirindifference,asirrelevantinatimewhenwomendoexactlythesame
thingsasmenandfacethesamedifficultiesinensuringtheirindependence.Rousseau,Tocquevilleandallthe
othersnowhaveonlyhistoricalsignificanceandatmostprovideuswithaseriousalternativeperspectivefor
analyzingoursituation.Romanticloveisnowasalientousasknighterrantry,andyoungmenarenomore
likelytocourtawomanthantowearasuitofarmor,notonlybecauseitisnotfitting,butbecauseitwouldbe
offensivetowomen.
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Fascinatingarticleconcerningthishiddentrend.Missingthoughwassomethoughtaboutmenrevertingto
homosexualsexasasubconsciouspoliticalactinreactiontothisunderclassmessmenfindthemselvesin.
Currentlyconsideringthelargepopulationofmen(andwomen)becomingincreasinglyvisableandsocially
acceptable,homosexualitycouldalsobepartiallyaproductoftheeconomicsituationpeoplefindthemselves
whichaffectstheirsexualchoices.Itspossiblethescenariothisarticleaddresseshasbeenrepeatedthrough
historyassocietieschangeordegenerate.
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