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Virtuous Woman

By Carolyn Hughes
The "Virtuous Woman" is found in the book of Proverbs, Chapter 31. If we look closely, we will
find this woman was not just an ordinary woman, for the scripture begins by asking, "Who can
find a virtuous woman?" meaning, do you know where she is, or where she abides? The answer
in fact is quite simple, she abides in the will of God.
You will not find her wasting valuable time in useless television programs, or spending hours on
the telephone. This woman, as scripture describes her, has it "going on." She is involved in
productive activities, from the rising of the sun, until the going down of the same. She is not your
stereotypical bored housewife that today's society knows. She is a woman of purpose. She is a
strong contributor and asset to her home. She manages her affairs well. She is business-like,
intellectual, and above all else God- fearing. Her husband and children proclaim her as blessed.
She is a "virtuous woman".

What makes a woman virtuous? Virtuous is described as being good, righteous, worthy,
honorable, moral, upright, and honest. Not surprisingly these are the same characteristics that
God requires of you, as his daughters. When you become virtuous, society honors you, and God
himself will surely bless you. For then she exemplifies the very way he would have her to be.
The virtuous woman places all of her trust in the Lord. She knows that only through him, she has
"come this far by faith." When her child is sick, she is able to say "All is well" as the
Shunammite woman. She is full of good works like Dorcas, after her deliverance she sings"
Miriam's song." She possesses the wisdom and judgment of Deborah, and pours out her heart
before the Lord as Hannah did before she received the blessing of Samuel. And she realizes
when she lays her head down each night, that as Mary, in her own unique way, she is truly
blessed among women.
She knows her redeemer lives and never fails to thank him for "Just another day." She is a
woman of vision, and destiny. God has placed within her Spirit a ministry that must come forth.
She is not ashamed to wash the feet of Jesus with her tears and dry them with her hair because he
alone is her life-line. Her head is held high, her steps are sure, and her words are seasoned. Her
appearance portrays her royalty within the body of Christ.
Yes, she knows the storms will come, the winds will blow, there will be times when the "ends
may not meet" there may be sickness, trials, and heartache. However, the conclusion of the
matter is this, she is assured that there will be times of joy, laughter, and deliverance with life
more abundantly; this is the promise of her Father in heaven.

The Virtuous Woman, where can she be found? Women say with me- I am she, because I can do
all things through Christ, who strengthens me.
Carolyn Hughes, 2003Carolyn Hughes is a mother of a five-year old boy, and wife of seven years. She is active in
church ministry,and is involved in an array of activities such as youth leader, secretary, and
Special Program Coordinator. Her passion is inspirational Christian writing.

What should we learn from the virtuous

woman in Proverbs 31?
Question: "What should we learn from the virtuous woman in Proverbs 31?"
Answer: Proverbs is a book based on metaphor. It is packed with word-pictures of universal
truths. Throughout Proverbs, wisdom is anthropomorphized as a woman. As early as Proverbs
1:20, wisdom is compared to a woman who shouts in the streets, chastising fools and scoffers.
Proverbs 31 provides a detailed metaphor of feminine wisdom in the context of a family and a
The most quoted section, verses 1031, is a chiastic poem, that is, a poem that cycles through
repeated thoughts in a particular order. The chapter speaks of the worth of a good wife to her
husband, the manual labor that she does, her fulfillment of responsibilities to those who need her,
her ability to provide for her family, and her wisdom in caring for herself so she can share her
strength with others. These ideas are presented in a kind of circular pattern throughout the
The chapter begins with King Lemuel recounting advice his mother had given him. She exhorted
him to not fall to weaknesses that would compromise his position as king, but to care for the
poor. One of the weaknesses the kings mother mentioned was the susceptibility of his strength
or noble character (31:10)to be harmed by improper relationships with women. Although
verses 10-31 do not directly follow this warning in the original, they do illustrate a fitting
description of what kind of woman Lemuel should seek.


An excellent wife, who can find?

For her worth is far above jewels.
The heart of her husband trusts in her,
And he will have no lack of gain.
She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.
A good, supportive, trusting wife is a blessing to a man. A woman who partners with her
husband, who is reliable and looks out for his interests, gives a man a security that is greatly
lacking in the world. She is worth more than a substantial paycheck. To bring in the metaphor,
wisdom provides the same benefitsit is worth more than money, you can always trust it to
make the right decision, and it provides blessings for those who have it.

She looks for wool and flax,

And works with her hands in delight
She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hands grasp the spindle
She looks well to the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
The wife of Proverbs 31 isnt afraid of work. She gets up in the morning and gets things done. In
the time of Solomon, this involved making fabric and sewing clothes, but verse 27 certainly
applies directly to us todaytaking care of our responsibilities is a characteristic of wisdom.

She rises also while it is still night

And gives food to her household
And portions to her maidens
She is not afraid of the snow for her household,
For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
She extends her hand to the poor,
And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
Another characteristic of wisdom is the grace to help others. The Proverbs 31 wife ensures that
those under her care receive what they needfood, clothing, protection. And she is able to serve
others out of the excess of her work and the leaning of her heart. She has so internalized her role
as a provider that it extends past her immediate responsibilities and into the community.

She is like merchant ships;

She brings her food from afar
She considers a field and buys it;
From her earnings she plants a vineyard
She senses that her gain is good;
Her lamp does not go out at night
She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies belts to the tradesmen.

Beyond that, shes savvy. Shes educated about the world and the world of business. She knows
how to use her skills to provide for her family, and shes not afraid to go interact with that world,
whether it be as a merchant or a buyer. She knows how to use her strengths to her best
advantage, and she fully realizes how valuable her efforts are.

She girds herself with strength

And makes her arms strong
She makes coverings for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
And she smiles at the future.
She opens her mouth in wisdom,
And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
The Proverbs 31 woman not only knows her worth, she knows her responsibilities to herself. She
would not be able to provide for others if she neglected her needsboth physical and spiritual.
She makes sure her appearance reflects her respected position as an influence in her community.
Her greatest strength is her wisdomher accurate judgment about the world and her influence in
it. And she is quick to share the wisdom she has gained to encourage others to reach their

Her husband is known in the gates,

When he sits among the elders of the land
Her children rise up and bless her;
Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
"Many daughters have done nobly,
But you excel them all."
Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Give her the product of her hands,
And let her works praise her in the gates.
She knows that, as a partner in her marriage, she has a tremendous influence on her husbands
ministry. She can integrate her lifeboth domestic and professionalwith her ministry in such a
way that her husband has the freedom to serve. In fact, her reputation is so established, that it
bleeds off onto him.
The Proverbs 31 wife is a fierce provider and protector for those she cares about. She is wise to
the ways of the world, but lives by the wisdom of God. As in the rest of the Proverbs, these
specific examples provide a metaphor for the larger truth. How any individual woman
exemplifies these characteristics will depend on her situation, gifts, and abilities. The key is in
verse 30, just as it is in the beginning of Proverbs, in 1:7:
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Recommended Resource: Beautiful in God's Eyes: The Treasures of the Proverbs 31 Woman by
Elizabeth George

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