August 2016

God is our refuge and strength,
an ever-present help in trouble.
Ps 46:1

Dear Fellow Believers.

True Identity

Have you ever been to a masquerade party?
Masquerading as someone else can be fun; it
makes you feel like a different person and
gives you a sense of freedom to do something
you might not normally do.
For me, wearing a
mask was a way of life
for the first forty-five
years of my life! Most
people can understand
the reality of physical
pain and will freely
admit when something
hurts, but emotional
pain is much harder to
acknowledge. Wearing a mask gave me the
ability to protect inner hurts and fears while
projecting an image of having life all together.
Many women who come to the Refuge wrestle
with a loss of identity and have spent a lifetime wearing an assortment of masks in an
effort to avoid emotional pain and to create a
sense of worth and value. Facing reality and
the mess within can be confusing, unpredictable, and painful. For me it was an emotional
risk. I knew that without a mask, I would feel
vulnerable, out of control, and exposed. I
feared that if others knew the truth, I would
be looked down upon, appear helpless and
weak, or perhaps reveal an inner self that I
might not like, or even want to know existed.
So, I put on a mask to become someone
worthy of love and acceptance.
But hiding behind a mask, or living life on the
surface, is just plain self-reliance which was
never God’s intention for His image bearers.
He is our protector and He calls us to a deep,
dependent relationship on him. Unfortunately,
our fleshly nature insists on self-sufficiency, or
spiritual independence, and relief from pain.
We would much rather stay in charge, plan for
the future, keep things predictable, and antici-

Personally, I had to get to the point where I
realized that all my masks were lies and that
Christ had called me to depend on him to walk
in truth. When the time came to remove the
masks and rely solely on Christ, I felt very
scared. It was messy and painful and came
with an intense fleshly desire to hide behind
the familiar instead of stepping out in freedom, unashamed. Yet I knew it was time. I
would not be alone. “He has delivered us
from the domain of darkness and transferred
us to the
kingdom of His
beloved
Son” (Colossians 1:13). I could no longer
trust in my own defenses but began to trust
Christ
as
my
shield
and
defense
(Ps 28:7). The Apostle Peter wrote, “Live as
people who are free, not using your freedom
as a cover-up
for evil, but
living as servants of God”
(1 Peter2:16).
To live in freedom from pretense involved
a yielding of
my will to His.
And it involved developing a new understanding of my true identity which is in Christ.
The more I understood Christ’s deep, passionate love for me, the more secure I felt. And
the more secure I felt, the more confident I
became. This is not a confidence in self, but a
confidence in Christ to be my everything.
Walking in true freedom is a lifestyle—a
moment by moment lifestyle of agreeing with
God about the true condition of my heart and
life—not as everyone else thinks it is, but as
He knows it to be.
Loving and serving Him with you ~ Cheryl

Yanina’s 3 weeks
“I came here desperate to
find the relationship with
God that I once had. Upon
arriving, God began working
in me, breaking me and
healing me. I learned to truly forgive and not to continue to grieve. Being here
taught me to trust Him even
though it may not be easy. I learned to let go and
let Christ live through me. No matter the times,
what comes up or what may happen along the
way, I will keep my faith on the Lord and it will be
okay. He will protect me, teach me and take me
through it all. ~Yanina

I AM ACCEPTED:
John 1:12

I am God’s child.

John 15:15

I am Christ’s friend.

Rom. 5:1

I have been justified.

1 Cor. 6:17

I am united with the Lord, and I am one spirit
with Him.

1 Cor. 6:19-20

I have been bought with a price. I belong to
God.

1 Cor. 12:27

I am a member of Christ’s body.

Eph. 1:1

I am a saint.

Eph. 1:5

I have been adopted as God’s child.

Eph. 2:18

I have direct access to God through the Holy
Spirit.

Col. 1:14

I have been redeemed and forgiven of all my
sins.

Col. 2:10

I am complete in Christ.

I AM SECURE:

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There are many ways to get involved: Play,
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Rom. 8:1-2

I am free forever from condemnation.

Rom. 8:28

I am assured that all things work together for
good.

Rom. 8:31-34

I am free from any condemning charges
against me.

Rom. 8:35-39

I cannot be separated from the love of God.

2 Cor. 1:21-22

I have been established, anointed, and sealed
by God.

Col. 3:3

I am hidden with Christ in God.

Phil. 1:6

I am confident that the good work that God
has begun in me will be perfected.

Phil. 3:20

I am a citizen of Heaven.

2 Tim. 1:7

I have not been given a spirit of fear but of
power, love, and a sound mind.

Heb. 4:16

I can find grace and mercy in time of need.

1 Jn. 5:18

I am born of God, and the evil one cannot
touch me.

I AM SIGNIFICANT:
Matt. 5:13-14

I am the salt and the light of the Earth.

John 15:1,5

I am a branch of the true vine, a channel of
His life.

John 15:16

I have been chosen and appointed to bear
fruit.

Acts 1:8

I am a personal witness of Christ’s.

1 Cor. 3:16

I am God’s temple.

2 Cor. 5:17-21

I am a minister of reconciliation for God.

2 Cor. 6:1

I am God’s co-worker. (1 Cor. 3:9)

Eph. 2:6

I am seated with Christ in the heavenly realm.

Eph. 2:10

I am God’s workmanship.

Eph. 3:12

I may approach God with freedom and
confidence.

Phil. 4:13

I can do all things through Christ who
strengthens me.

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