Victoria’s 9 Month Graduation

Carrie’s Three Months

November 2016

“I have learned so much about
the Lord these three months
since I have been here at the
Women’s Refuge. I came to the
Refuge unaware of the depths
of my woundedness within me.
Since being here, Christ has
opened my eyes and begun to
heal me from the past. His holy
Word is starting to make sense
to me and sink in. Also these beautiful women here pour
God’s love into us all throughout the day by giving us
wise counsel and special prayers. Through this process,
the Lord is straightening out my distorted beliefs and
alleviating many of my fears. I am slowly awakening to
the wonders of His glory and His deep love for me. I
know now I am not defeated. For God has proven to be
faithful and in Christ I have found my hope and my salvation. ~ Carrie
Joy In God’s Faithfulness
Sing, O daughter of Zion! Shout, O Israel!
Be glad and rejoice with all your heart, O daughter of
Jerusalem! The Lord has taken away your judgments. He
has cast out your enemy. The King of Israel, the Lord is in
your midst; You shall see disaster no more.

Langie, Victoria & Cheryl

Zephaniah 3:14-16

The Women’s Refuge has a desire to bring healing and
wholeness through Christ to each woman who comes
to our program. This graduation is a wonderful opportunity to show how the healing of one individual can
affect her marriage, her spouse
and her extended family. We
help women develop long term
goals using biblical solutions.

Victoria & husband Christian

Victoria & father Edgar

PS 46:1

Loving our Neighbors
Dear Friends,
As bands of rain and wind passed overhead, my son
and I were struggling to put up hurricane shutters.
Just then, a neighbor walked by on the sidewalk and
casually asked about the looming hurricane. She
stood there for a moment before blurting out, “My
father died last night!” I looked at this dejected,
grieving woman’s face and asked if she needed a
hug. As she nodded her head, I quickly jumped off
my front porch, held her for a moment and then
prayed with her. Afterwards, my son offered to hang
their storm shutters.
It was a poignant
moment where strangers caught in the midst of a
spiritually, and physically.

Unfortunately, many of us live in
neighborhoods where we don’t
know each other and only get
outside ourselves when calamity
Yet the Golden Rule
teaches “Do to others what you
would want them to do to you.”
We are to love and meet the needs of our neighbor
with the same amount of energy and intentionality
that we meet our own.

Meet our Board Member
Lucy moved to Vero Beach in 1960
where she and her husband Bill
welcomed the birth of their 4th
son. Upon retirement in 2002
and after hearing Donna Robart
speak at a local church, she
volunteered at the Refuge. From
stuffing envelopes to substituting in
the office, Lucy has continued to
serve as Board secretary since 2005.
She has been blessed with 15 grandchildren and 7 great grandchildren.


Most people are willing to help people we like or
already know. And we don’t mind helping people
when it’s not their fault or they didn’t deserve it.
And, certainly most of us don’t mind giving from our
own excess. But what motivates a person to be
neighborly? Typically, people are motivated by
either morality (i.e. altruism), or a sense of a
religious responsibility (i.e. a charitable duty). In
both instances, guilt is the primary motivator.
It’s only when we recognize our own neediness,
woundedness, destituteness, and culpability that we
can begin to identify with our neighbor’s needs. We


so desperately need help! Have you ever been saved
by someone who didn’t owe you anything? Jesus
came into our world, our neighborhood, not owing
us anything, yet having compassion.
motivation comes when we understand our own
unworthiness and the free gift bestowed upon us.
I’ve come to know that I can only love my neighbor
to the degree that I love myself. I don’t mean a
self-exalting, conceited love of myself, but rather a
healthy understanding that despite my fallibility and
sinfulness, I am forgiven, loved and accepted.
Furthermore, His abundant love, forgiveness, mercy
and grace are lavish gifts I have received and get to
pass on to the people that I meet
each day, even in the midst of
life’s storms.
People who come to the Refuge
have often reached the bottom of
their own ability to help themselves. They are emotionally and
spiritually wounded sojourners
seeking sanctuary amongst a
community of people who not only understand and
empathize, but are ready to respond to their needs.
We are grateful for the opportunity to bring healing
and wholeness to marriages like Christian and
Vicky’s (read their testimonies in this issue) and the
many others who recognized their neediness and
responded to Christ’s love.
We pray you will be aware of God’s
abundant grace and mercy toward
you this Thanksgiving.
Cheryl Wood
Director of Counseling Services


We love sharing testimonies!
Here are some excerpts from
letters we’ve received from
past residents.


When I graduated . . . I knew I was going to
face many challenges but I had no idea the
extent of them. I have been able to face those
challenges because of my relationship with
Christ, what I learned during my time at the
Refuge and your continued love and support.
I want to focus on God’s faithfulness and
blessings. . . God has done so much: Restored
relationships with my children and family and
their amazing support and love. Blessed me
with the support of my local pastor and
church. Provided a place for me to live.
Provided a car. Provided a job with overtime to
help pay for unexpected expenses. Given me
time to spend with my father during his illness.
Provided encouragement through Christian
friends to be in involved in church, Bible study
and attend support groups. Thank you for
being there . . .God is continuing to use you to
impact my life.”

Thank you to all who joined us for our 18th Annual Golf
Tournament Fundraiser. It was a great success! Our new
venue at Orchid Island Golf & Beach Club was absolutely
beautiful and the staff was very helpful and accommodating.
We started the morning with a light continental breakfast,
courtesy of Einstein Bagels, Publix and Natalie’s Orchid
Island Juice Company. Each golfer was treated to a goodie
bag and by 8:30 they were on the course, ready to play a
team scramble. Tee sponsorship was noted at each hole
displayed with signage professionally done by Cutting Edge
Sign Arts. By lunchtime, the players were ready to enjoy the
sumptuous lunch served by the chef and staff at Orchid
Island. Everyone feasted on curry chicken sandwiches, roast
beef sliders, salmon fillets, deviled eggs, several choices of
fresh salads as well as many
delightful desserts.
After lunch the excitement was
evident as the raffle got under
way and those attending had the
chance to win one of 10
bountiful gift baskets filled with
prizes and gift certificates from
over 50 generous business
donors. In addition, several local
golf courses donated certificates
for a foursome round of golf and
cart fees. Thank you again for
everyone involved in our
fundraiser, especially to Orchid
Island Golf Club.
We had our best year ever !

“My time at the Refuge was hard, but
life changing! Thanks for being used of
the Lord in so many wonderful ways
to “rescue the perishing” and that’s not
just the lost! “
“I learned about friendship and how
important it is to be considerate of
others. I learned not to act out
independently, look for God and invite
Him in with everything that I do. I
learned to look up the truth in the
Bible instead of listening to the noise in
my head. I learned to respect authority
and obey even the slightest rules.
If you can’t obey God in the small
things, how will I be able to obey the
big ones?”

Our needs:
Outside security cameras and lights
Protective fencing and signage
New carpets for residential houses & office
Six chair seats re-upholstered
Basic Fax machine

We often wonder in today’s culture just who is our neighbor.
Are the people who live on the street where we live our
neighbors? One of the definitions of neighbor according to
WikiLeaks is “someone nearby or close”. Yes, but there are
lots more. WikiLeaks is not the Bible. (Smile)
“One’s fellow human being: to be generous toward one's less
fortunate neighbors. 4. a person who shows kindliness or
helpfulness toward his or her fellow humans: to be a neighbor
to someone in distress.” I like this definition. So did the Bible.
Defining “Neighbor” in Luke 10:25-37
“Just then a religion scholar stood up with a question to test
Jesus. “Teacher, what do I need to do to get eternal life?” He
answered, “What’s written in God’s Law? How do you interpret it?” He said, “That you love the Lord your God with all
your passion and prayer and muscle and intelligence—and
that you love your neighbor as well as you do yourself.” “Good
answer!” said Jesus. “Do it and you’ll live.”
Looking for a loophole, he asked, “And just how would you
define ‘neighbor’?”
Jesus answered by telling a story. “There was once a man
traveling from Jerusalem to Jericho. On the way he was
attacked by robbers. They took his clothes, beat him up, and
went off leaving him half-dead. Luckily, a priest was on his
way down the same road, but when he saw him he angled
across to the other side. Then a Levite religious man showed
up; he also avoided the injured man.
“A Samaritan traveling the road came on him. When he saw
the man’s condition, his heart went out to him. He gave him
first aid, disinfecting and bandaging his wounds. Then he lifted
him onto his donkey, led him to an inn, and made him comfortable. In the morning he took out two silver coins and gave
them to the innkeeper, saying, ‘Take good care of him. If it
costs any more, put it on my bill—I’ll pay you on my way
back.’ “What do you think? Which of the three became a
neighbor to the man attacked by robbers?” “The one who
treated him kindly,” the religion scholar responded.
Jesus said, “Go and do the same.”
I think that about covers it. ~ Donna
The Message (MSG) Copyright © 1993, 1994, 1995, 1996, 2000, 2001, 2002
by Eugene H. Peterson

Thankful for:

We invite our “neighbors”
to join us for our weekly Bible Study
held every Friday morning
from 8:30 to 10 am.
Men and women from our community
Board member
Pat Marine

are welcome to attend.

God’s protection from the storm
God’s word to guide us
God’s daily provision
Our faithful supporters
Prayer warriors
Our Board & staff
Our volunteers

Christian’s testimony
“We were just a few months away for our
10th anniversary and it seemed like we
were not going to make it. No hope. It
didn't work. Or perhaps God had forgotten
about what He had joined together to
Himself. We were in the worst spot ever.
Well, it happened to be the best spot at the
same time. Worst, there is nothing else you
can do about your marriage. Hope is gone,
period. Best, the place of surrendering,
moving out from the controlling center and
finally letting Almighty God intervene.
That's how my wife ended up at the Women's Refuge.
Indeed, marriage was not the issue. We were. So, if she was
already getting help I just needed to decide whether to take
action on the matter regarding my own personal contribution in all this mess. Unforgiveness, rejection, anger, etc...
not really able to get far carrying that heavy load.
Donna and Cheryl offered help and I took it. Twice a week I
went to the Refuge for individual counseling, marriage
sessions and a lot of homework. Hope came back while the
skies began to light up again. The material they gave me
was mind blowing and all the staff was extremely special.
During our time in Vero we found a family in them. I'd say
they are the tools in the Healer's hands, the One that had
not forgotten about us like I thought. Jesus did show up.
Right on time. Right at spot, like I thought!
~ Christian

A Prayer
Serving others
Allow me to serve others
With gladness…..never keeping score,
Always giving, never expecting to receive.
Allow me to give of myself,
Give of my talents and give of my goods,
Give of my time and give of my energy,
Give of my heart and give of my soul.
Help me to understand the needs of others,
Never criticizing, never demeaning, never scolding,
never condemning.
You have always been so gracious to me,
Always loving, always forgiving, always restoring.
While never chastising me for my waywardness,
Even though I have been wrong more times than I
can remember.
Father, keep a critical spirit far from my heart and
further from my lips.
Allow me to serve others with gladness,
with compassion and tenderness,
Never diminishing their value as my price for caring.
Let me extend mercy to the brokenhearted, just as
You have done often for me.
Real Prayers for Real People with Real Problems
by Jack Watts