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After returning from work, office, travel, or whatever has separated you,
begin with a good greeting.

Meet him with a cheerful face.
Beautify and perfume yourself.
Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
Receive him with love and endearing sentences.
Try to prepare delicious food for him and have it ready on time.
Soften Your Voice
For your husband only, it shouldn’t be used in front of ‘non-mahram’
men (men who can marry you if you were unmarried).
Physical Beautification
Take care of your body and fitness.
Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
Bathe regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood
traces or bad smells.
Avoid that your husband should observe you in dirty clothes or
rough shape.
Avoid prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tattoo.
Use the types of perfumes, colours, and clothes that the husband
Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time.

However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course, only act
as such in front of mahrem men and women.
 Be Happy With What Allah Has Ordained.
 You shouldn’t be depressed because your husband is poor or has a
small time job.
 You should look at the poor, sick, and handicapped people and
remember Allah (SWT) for all that has been given to you.
 You should remember that real wealth lies in one’s Iman and piety.
 Indifference to Worldly Things

 You should not consider this world as your last hope and interest.
 You should not ask your husband for unnecessary things.

problems at work. e.Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible (Halal). or Yield your right or Wait until his anger subsides and discuss the matter peacefully with him. and the wife is his support and consultant. the majority in the hell would comprise women because they were ungrateful for the good done to them.g. if she never appreciates?  Devotion and Loyalty  Support your husband particularly when he is going through a bad phase in life . and I have the right to know Guardianship While He is Absent .  Please Him If He Is Angry               First of all.  Obedience  Obey your husband in all that he commands you. If he was angry because of external reasons then: Keep silent until his anger subsides Find excuses for him. someone insulted him Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened. apologize. If he is mistaken then: Keep still instead of arguing with him. money.  Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give away as charity and feed the poor and the needy. try to avoid what makes him angry.  In Islam. You should tell me what happened I must know what made you so angry. tired.g.  Be Grateful  According to the Prophet (Pbuh). You are hiding something. e. then try to appease him as follows: If you are mistaken. unless it is prohibited (Haram). and property if needed. but it means that one should look forward to the life hereafter and utilise whatever Allah has given us to achieve paradise (Jannah). an accident or a bankruptcy  Support him through your own work. the husband is the leader of the family.g. e.  The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do any good to her. But if you can’t.  The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways.

accidents.  Do not allow any non-mahram man to be alone with you in any place.  Do not go out of your house without his permission and put on full hijab. not insulating or backbiting others.  Take care of the house and children. diseases.  You should avoid putting him in a position where he has to choose between his mother and his wife. especially his parents.  You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives. etc. getting fired.  You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.  Be good to his parents and relatives in his absence. etc. perfection of food. death.  Encourage him to pray at night. your husband. send letters to them. counter his ill-treatment with good treatment  Support in Da’wah  Cooperate with your husband and remind him of different obligatory and voluntary worships.). e. particularly intercourse and things that the husband doesn’t like other people to know.  Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.  When he ill-treats you.  Show Respect to his Family and Friends  You should welcome his guests and try to please them. etc.g.  When you face hard times and disasters that may happen to you..  Phone his parents and sisters.. be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of paradise.  Keep the secrets of the family. Protecting yourself from any prohibited relations. your children. arrested. etc. disrespecting them.  Listen and recite the Qur’an individually and with your husband. e. welcoming their wives.  Patience and Emotional Support  Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances. etc. .  When facing hardships in Da’wah (imprisonment. relatives or property.g.  Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in. support them in time of distress.  Refuse people whom he does not like to come over.  Admirable Jealousy  Jealousy is a sign of wife’s love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam. buy gifts for them.  Take care of his money and property.

soothing his pains. etc. sewing etc. etc. . Learn all the necessary skills for managing the house. etc.  Encourage him to go for Jihad when needed and remind him that you and children will be in the preservation of Allah. Take care of their nutrition. education. Listen to Islamic tapes and songs individually and with your husband. Learn to raise your children properly and in an Islamic way. Preservation of Finances and the Family Do not spend from his money. decorated and well arranged. health.g. e.  Learn Islamic rules (ahkam) and good manners (‘adab) for women. car. Protect his house. offering opinions..  Support your husband’s activities by encouraging him. Be Perfect of food and prepare healthy foods. Teach them Islam and tell them the stories of the Prophets and Companions. even for charity without his permission unless you are sure that he will not mind it. manners.  Pray particularly after Fajr and before Maghrib.  Good Housekeeping          Keep it clean.  Share in arranging Da’wah activities for women and children. Change house arrangements from time to time to avoid boredom. while he is absent. Keep the children in good shape. etc.  Yield some of your rights and a part of your time with your husband for Da’wah. clean clothes.