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their participation.
Absolutely everyone in support of the
cause of womens rights is welcome to
join the march, including men and LGBT
people, Savage said.
HRC announced on Wednesday that it
is organizing a contingent of HRC sta,
members, and volunteers to participate
in the march.
The Womens March on Washington
is scheduled to kick o at 10 a.m.,
Saturday, Jan. 21, at the intersection of
Independence Avenue and Third Street,
S.W., near the American Indian Museum
and the U.S. Capitol.
Savage said she was not aware of plans
for an LGBT contingent in the march other
than the HRC contingent, but she said
members of the D.C. area organizing group
would welcome such a contingent and
announce it on the local groups website,
wmwdclocal.com. The site for the national
group organizing the Womens March on
Washington is womensmarch.com.
She said at least two of the citys gay
bars, Cobalt and Nellies, expressed
Rep. LUIS GUTIRREZ (D-Ill.) speaks at the We Are Here To Stay immigrant rights rally at
Metropolitan AME Church on Saturday, Jan. 14.
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By MICHAEL K. LAVERS
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Hundreds
of
State
Department
personnel had already been red during
the so-called lavender scare when
Joseph DeCola began working at the U.S.
Embassy in Uruguay in July 1967.
His wife was pregnant with their
rst child when he received a State
Department cable that told him to return
to D.C. for a consultation.
DeCola told the Washington Blade on
Tuesday during a telephone interview
from his home on Manhattans Upper
West Side that he remembered walking
through the warrens of the State
Department looking for the room to
which he was told to report. He rst
realized he was going into the oce of the
State Departments Bureau of Diplomatic
Security when he saw the abbreviation
SY on a plaque by the door.
I was like, Wow, what on earth would
the Security Bureau want to talk with me
about, DeCola told the Blade. [Their job
was to] nd and kick out or whatever gay
people. Thats what it was.
It was the faggot oce, he added. I
didnt know that going in and didnt know
that until the interview began.
The agents confronted DeCola about
a sexual encounter he had with a young
soldier from Fort Belvoir, Va., whom he
met in the locker room of a YMCA that
was located near the White House a
decade earlier.
President Lyndon B. Johnson in 1964
asked his longtime aide Walter Jenkins
to resign after D.C. police arrested him
for alleged homosexual conduct at the
YMCA in which DeCola and the soldier
with whom he had the sexual encounter
met. The Blade previously reported that
Jenkins was arrested on a similar morals
charge at the same facility in 1959.
DeCola, who is originally from
Columbus, Ohio, was the national
executive director of the Young
Republicans National Federation when
he met the soldier. DeCola told the Blade
that he gave names, including mine
after the D.C. police arrested him.
This was 10 years after the fact, said
DeCola. I was denounced by him.
DeCola entered the Foreign Service
in June 1963. He had worked in the
Dominican Republic during the countrys
1965 revolution.
The agents who interrogated DeCola told
him he could either have a hearing or resign,
in spite of his previous Foreign Service
experience. He decided to step down.
There was an apparatus, DeCola told
the Blade. The State Department had
The FBI on Jan. 16 arrested the wife of the gunman who killed 49 people and injured 53
others inside the Pulse nightclub in Orlando, Fla., last June.
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Kris Fair, general manager of New York, New York Salon and chair of The
Frederick Center board, a non-prot LGBT support organization in Central
Maryland, announced he is running for Alderman in Frederick, Md. If successful,
he would be the second openly LGBT individual to ever hold that oce.
After the presidential election, I realized how critical it is for local leaders
to step up, Fair, 32, told the Blade. Im running because I see opportunity to
strengthen every Frederick City neighborhood. Indeed, his three main priorities
are: enhancing the citys infrastructure; fostering ecient and responsive
government that is open to public debate and free exchange of ideas; and
ensuring equitable services for every city neighborhood.
If elected, Fair promises to continue advocating for LGBTQ priorities. The
Frederick Center has worked closely with the City of Frederick to increase its
HRC municipality equality index, he said. As Alderman, I will investigate ways
we can make our city more inclusive of the LGBTQ community and of diversity
in general.
Brian Gaither, co-founder of the Pride Foundation of Maryland, a non-prot
organization that makes no political endorsements, applauded Fairs candidacy.
With the work hes done at The Frederick Center, Kris has shown himself to be
a real advocate for Marylands LGBT community, Gaither told the Blade. I have
no doubt hell work for all his constituents as tirelessly as he has worked for us.
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VANCOUVER Men who seek sex online with other men are more likely to
spend social time with other gay and bi men according to a new study published
in December in the journal Sexual Health.
For the study, researchers from the University of British Columbias Simon
Fraser University and the University of Victoria polled 774 gay and bi men in
Metro Vancouver in an attempt to understand what relationship exists between
seeking gay sex online, other community connections and sexual behavior.
The most common forms of community involvement were reading gay news
(75 percent) and visiting gay bars or clubs (73 percent). Over half of the men
either watched (45 percent) or participated in (11 percent) a Pride parade.
Researchers found, however, that they experienced less emotional connection
to a general LGBT community identity.
While this may seem contradictory researcher Nathan Lachowsky explained to
the Georgia Straight by phone from Victoria (where he is an assistant professor
at the University of Victoria) that there is a dierence between identifying with
something versus spending time doing something.
He said that they found that guys who tended to use apps ascribed less importance
to collective queer identity. While in the past, he said, there may have been more
involvement in becoming part of a larger group or movement, but that things have
shifted toward more personalized networks, the Georgia Straight reports.
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VANCOUVER Gay and bisexual men taking antiretroviral drugs to treat HIV infection
may be at increased risk for syphilis, HealthDay News reports citing new research.
Based on a review of available evidence, researchers concluded that the drugs
may boost susceptibility to the bacterium that causes syphilis, although the
study did not prove cause and eect.
The nding might explain why new and repeat cases of syphilis in gay and
bisexual men have risen sharply compared to other sexually transmitted
infections over the past decade, researchers wrote.
The study team was led by Dr. Michael Rekart, from the University of British
Columbias School of Population and Public Health in Vancouver. The ndings
were published in the Jan. 16 issue of the journal Sexually Transmitted Infections.
The authors of an editorial that accompanied the study said the theory is intriguing
and warrants careful consideration. But the editorial also suggested that the increase
in syphilis cases among gay and bisexual men may be due to other factors.
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Dont listen to those who seek to normalize Donald Trump and downplay the
setbacks to come.
Dont worry, they say, marriage is settled law. Yes, but Roe v. Wade is more
established than Obergefell yet its at the
top of the GOP target list.
Dont worry, they say, the countrys
come a long way on gay rights and its too
late to turn back the clock. That may or
may not be true for privileged gays like
Peter Thiel, but make no mistake that the
trans community, among others, will suffer under President Trump.
Dont worry, they say, the marquee issues of the LGBT movement are nished
marriage, Dont Ask, Dont Tell repeal, a federal hate crimes law. Yes, but
what about the less visible issues like
LGBT youth homelessness, HIV infection
rates, violence targeting trans people of
color, not to mention all the myriad ways
in which a hostile Trump administration
could undo executive orders, guidance to
federal agencies, and other such changes. Make no mistake that the negative
repercussions of this election on LGBT
progress are already underway. A Justice
Department led by racist Sen. Je Sessions wont continue the Obama administrations guidance on trans students
use of bathroom facilities. An Interior
Department led by Rep. Ryan Zinke isnt
going to designate any more LGBT sites
as historically signicant, even though the
National Park Service last year unveiled a
Theme Study recommending more than
100 such sites.
And the climate for LGBT federal workers has already changed; a chill has descended across the government, sending
many back into the closet. For a recent
story, the Blade reached out to more than
a dozen LGBT federal workers for their
thoughts on the incoming Trump administration. We even oered them anonymity. No one would speak even o the
record or on background.
I remember walking into OPM shortly
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Price, his Health and Human Services Secretary nominee, are anti-LGBT. Steve Bannon, with alt-right ties, is his chief strategist. Theres that wall that Trump insists is
needed to secure our borders. And who
could forget, the I grabbed them by the
pussy video?
Our communities are hurting and scared,
the WMW mission statement says, the
rhetoric of the past election cycle has insulted, demonized and threatened many of
us immigrants of all statuses, Muslims and
those of diverse religious faiths, people who
identify as LGBTQIA, Native people, Black
and Brown people, people with disabilities,
survivors of sexual assault.
In the spirit of democracy and honoring the champions of human rights, dignity
and justice who have come before us, the
mission statement continues, we join in
diversity to show our presence in numbers
too great to ignore. The Womens March on
Washington will send a bold message to our
new government on its rst day in oce.
Its important not to get lost in rhetoric.
Human lives and hardship are at stake
here. In the 1950s, my mother who had
Type-1 diabetes, for health reasons had to
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very serious questions and concerns surrounding your future in the Oval Oce.
I wanted to approach you on your favorite medium. But, alas, that only allows
for so many characters, and these columns have to be 500 words or I dont get
paid. So, here we are.
As a gay American, I can tell you, like so
many other members of the myriad other
minority groups in this country, I greet
your presidency with extreme trepidation. That being said, I do wish you well.
Simply because your success is also our
countrys success. But, going forward, allow me to share some advice.
You dont know us. But in all fairness, I
feel like I hardly know us either. Theres just
too many to know, and I dont pretend to
speak for everyone. In all shapes, sizes, colors, aliations, backgrounds, genders, the
queer community in America is as vast and
varied as America itself. So, too, are the issues we face and the problems our various
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Social media has become nearly intolerable. LGBT timelines are among the
worst examples of the childish and churlish temper tantrum being thrown by too
many. Hysteria and hyperbolic exaggeration have become the norm on our feeds.
Theres name-calling. Theres cultural
insulting. Theres a constant accusatory
stream deriding claimed broad-based
intrinsic racism, bigotry, homophobia, or
just plain stupidity among others. Theres
mocking people who are less educated,
live dierent lives, have lower incomes,
arent as cool. Theres derision of those
outside the womb-like economic and cul-
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CHRIS ALLEN
By JOEY DiGULIELMO
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Chris Allen is a self-described big believer in limited government and
personal responsibility. Its why hes been in the D.C. Log Cabin Republicans
a chapter of the national LGBT GOP group for seven years, six of which
hes been on the board; four as president.
I think government works best when it has less to do and can do it more
eciently, the 33-year-old Jacksonville, N.C., native, in Washington a decade, says.
Allen wont say if he voted for Donald Trump (the D.C. chapter voted 56-44
not to endorse him) but says hes hopeful.
Trump can be very brash, which is o putting to some people, but
ultimately his past actions give me hope that he can do great things while
president, Allen, wholl spend the weekend celebrating the inauguration at
various events, says.
Allen came to D.C. for an internship program the summer before his senior
year at the University of North Carolina, Wilmington. He returned for another
six months later and segued into an appointment in the George W. Bush
administration. By day he works now as project manager with a small Native
American consulting company.
Allen is single and lives near 17th and T streets, N.W. He enjoys travel,
theater, TV, politics and trying to be a foodie in his free time.
Why Washington?
Im from a fairly small town, and what I
like about D.C. is that it has everything a
big city oers, while maintaining a smalltown feel. Its geographic location also
has its benets. Just a few hours in any
direction and you can be at the beach, in
the mountains, New York City or I can be
back home with family.
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Mosaic production
explores class, gender
in endearing dramedy
By PATRICK FOLLIARD
Diamonds may be some girls best
friend. But for 67-year-old trans woman
Darleena Andrews, who goes by Mama,
her life-long most trusted companion has
been a book Emily Posts Etiquette.
And Mama isnt selsh with her BFF, she
likes to share whats found between the
tomes cover with those who need it most.
In out playwright Philip Dawkins
engaging Charm now at Mosaic Theater
Company, Mama (BEllana Duquesne)
volunteers to school at-risk youth in the
social graces at the local LGBT center.
With her warm yet unappable demeanor
and professional attire, Mama seems the
ideal instructor. But because Mamas
ideas on gender expression are so rooted
in tradition (she believes if you present
as female then you need to call yourself
a girl), the centers harried director D
(Kimberly Gilbert) feels Mama might not
help in creating a safe space for everyone.
When D (who identies with no gender)
says tranny is an unacceptable term,
Mama, whos been living as a woman
since she was 19, quickly replies, Back
in the day, tranny was about the nicest
thing anybody ever called me. Despite
Ds misgivings, things move forward.
Held in a rundown classroom, Mamas
charm lessons attract a racially diverse
group of transgender and ostensibly
straight street kids. The unpolished
group played by a strong cast include
smart and leggy Jonelle (Justin Weaks);
shy, mentally unstable Lady (Joe Brack);
initially intimidating Beta (Clayton
Pelham, Jr.); a struggling straight couple
Victoria (Jade Jones) and Donnie (Louis E.
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Kennedy Center education and related artistic programming is made possible
through the generosity of the National Committee for the Performing Arts and
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Mariinsky Ballet
The Little Humpbacked Horse
(Konyok Gorbunok)
with the Kennedy Center Opera House Orchestra
Choreography by Alexei Ratmansky
Music by Rodion Shchedrin
NATALIE PORTMAN is considered a likely Oscar nominee for her work in Jackie.
Support for Ballet at the Kennedy Center is generously provided by Elizabeth and Michael Kojaian.
International Programming at the Kennedy Center is made possible through the generosity of
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Singer/actor Tveit to
make Wolf Trap debut
Actor and singer Aaron Tveit performs
at the Barns at Wolf Trap (1635 Trap Rd.,
Vienna, Va.) on Saturday, Jan. 21 at 8 p.m.
and Sunday, Jan. 22 at 7 p.m.
Tveit recently starred as Danny Zuko
in Grease Live! on FOX. He has also
performed in the national running tours
of Hairspray and Rent. This will be
Tveits rst performance at Wolf Trap.
Tickets range from $40-55.
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shop he manages.
Something about Scotts manner made
me feel comfortable and we struck up
a conversation. He was so kind and
solicitous that he made me feel special,
wanted and needed.
A couple days later I brought a small
gift to thank him for being so thoughtful
and sweet and making my insecurities
seem to disappear. It was late in the
evening and the shop was deserted.
Scott and I were talking when he
suddenly pulled me close to him in an
alcove of the shop and we started kissing
passionately. He told me how much he
liked it because he hadnt had that in a
very long time. Nor I.
We exchanged numbers and made
a plan to have dinner. We texted back
and forth before the dinner and Scott
mentioned that he really liked me but
didnt want to get too close for fear of
hurting me. So we agreed to take it slow.
However, we had a great time at dinner
and then went back to his place where we
made out passionately again.
I texted him when I got home to invite
him for breakfast in the morning and
he replied that the next week would
be better. The following afternoon, I
suggested that it would be great to see
each other, just for a bit, after I got o
work. He responded that he didnt want
to get close because all he did in past
relationships was hurt people when
he realized he wasnt truly in love with
them.He didnt want our situation to be
the same, so he wanted to keep it slow.
I told him that he shouldnt push away
good people who come into his life, and
he responded that Im pushy. I called him
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MICHAEL REPLIES:
Hes sent you the message that he isnt
interested. Reaching out to Scott again is
setting you up for more disappointment.
When someone tells you who he is,
what he wants and what he doesnt want,
its a good idea to pay attention. And I
dont think you were paying attention to
Scott when he made it clear that he is not
relationship material for you.
Im not saying this because Scott
wanted to take it slow. Taking it slow is a
ne, thoughtful way to move forward. Im
saying this because:
Scott overtly says he doesnt want to
get too close and decent relationships
require closeness.
Scott is big on mixed messages, saying
he wants to take it slow but then making
out with you. Mixed messages lead to
confusing relationships.
Scott doesnt take responsibility for his
behavior, moving forward with you to a
point, then shaming you for wanting to
continue going in the same direction.
Scott describes an awful track record,
stating that he doesnt fall in love and has
hurt every guy hes been involved with.
Im not faulting you for missing this
data. I understand that youve been
lonely and that Scotts attention felt really
nice. But when you feel special, wanted
and needed by someone you just met,
youre going into a fantasy.
In real life, there is no Prince Charming
who will ride in on a white horse to rescue
you and make you feel secure. Only you
can make yourself feel secure. And that is
what you must work on. Until you do, you
will be vulnerable to thinking that some
guy you just met can make it all OK, and
youll be apt to feel desperate and pressure
him if he shows any sign of backing o.
Of course, this sort of behavior is likely
to push guys away, not only wobbly ones
but also solid men who would like a
relationship of two equals.
I cant tell you fully in an advice column
how to become a more secure person,
but you can start by taking care of
yourself and developing a fullling life
on your own. Doing so will help you be at
ease when you meet people with whom
youd like to spend time, rather than
conveying neediness and having a sense
of desperation if they dont reciprocate.
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