TIPS FOR PARENTS: Tips and ideas to help you succeed THE TRUTH anti-drug campaign.

What is the most important way to prevent your children from using drugs and alc ohol? It's you. Children who learn by their parents or caregivers about the risks of drugs are a t: • 36% less likely to use marijuana; • 50% less likely to use inhalants; • 56% less likely to use cocaine, and • 65 % less likely to use LSD .** You are the m ost powerful influence in your child's daily life. Being a parent is challenging and you should learn and work hard, even for the best parents. The following ti ps give you ideas to do something positive for you and your child. ** Source: Keeping Your Kids Drug-Free: A How-To Guide for Parents and Caregiver s, National Youth Media Campaign Antidrug Of National Drug Control Policy, page 6. 2001. GET INVOLVED Children who have a relationship together with their parents and caregivers are a lower risk of engaging in risky behaviors. If more involved in their children' s lives, they will feel more valued and will respond to you. 1. Establish "toget her time." Establish a regular routine every week to do something special with y our child - even something as simple as going out to eat ice cream, play with yo ur baby or child, or reading a book. 2. Eat together as much as possible. Meals are a great opportunity to talk about the events of the day - to relax, strength en and connect. Studies show that children from families who eat together at lea st five times a week are at lower risk of getting involved in drugs or alcohol. Turn off the TV when eating increases the effectiveness. 3. Set clear rules and enforce them fairly. Children should know what the rules at home and what are th e consequences to breaking the rules. Although the types of rules and consequenc es in a young child are different from those of a child of 10 years, they must b e enforced fairly. Lonely Confused Happy Pressed Angry Scared LEARN TO COMMUNICATE The more you talk to a child, the easier the child talk about difficult issues w ith you. 1. Listen. Ask questions and encourage them to do the same. In its own words, repeat the child what he or she is saying. Ask what you think about t he decisions of the family. By showing your interest in hearing makes the child feel more comfortable talking with you. 2. Give honest answers. Do not make up what you do not know, tell you will find out. If asked whether you have used drugs, let them know what is i mportant: you do not want them using drugs.

3. Name and identify feelings. Show ways appropriate to express feelings and talk about how to recognize the emotions tha t others express. Include appropriate ways and times to say "no", judging the sa fety of situations. WADE EL ROAD Be an example - the person you want your child to be. 1. Be a living example daily and important values. Show the compassion, honesty, generosity and openness you want your child to hav e. 2. Know that there is no "do as I say not as I do." If you use drugs, you can no t expect your child to take his advice. Seek professional help if needed. If you smoke, stop. I always go out to smoke, until it stops. Keep the air your child breathes, clean. 3. Establish rules for taking medicines safely. Use labels on medicines. Discuss medicines / common substances and their uses, and the options available when not feeling well. PRAISE Y PREMIE What motivates a child to the approval of their parents? The right word at the r ight time can strengthen the connection that helps keep your child away from dru gs. The expressions of love, appreciation and gratitude are worth much. 1. Reward good behavior consistently and immediately. Provide a guide to love, s et limits and be supportive. Place reasonable consequences when they misbehave. Help them make healthy and safe dec isions. 2. Accentuate the positive. Emphasize the things your children do well. Try not be as critical. Affection and respect - helping a child feel good about hims elf - strengthen the good (and change bad) behavior more successfully than embar rassment or discomfort. A Word to the Wise When talking with children about alcohol and other drugs, including talks on hea lthy options and alternatives, answer questions simply and directly, and get inf ormation if you do not know the answer. Avoid stories and images of fear, does n ot explain how to use drugs or the effects they have. IDAHO RESOURCES Parenting is a process of continuous learning. For more information on becoming a better parent, or need assistance leaving the alcohol, snuff or other drugs, c all: WEB SITES IN IDAHO WITH INFORMATION FOR PARENTS • Information Center Early Childhood (click on the sun logo) Idaho Child

• • Center for Regional Resources Network for the Recognition of Idaho Drug and Al cohol / RADAR IDEAS FOR ACTION Each new stage in the development of a child provides a learning opportunity for you and the child care. What do you want to change about how you treat your son? What will be your desir e or goal? Examples: • • • • Read a book with my son before bedtime. Set a time to play wit h my son. Eat meals on the table. Recognize positive behaviors. My desire and go al is: What is one thing you can do this week to get closer to your desire or goal? Example: • • • • Read a book with my son before bedtime. Do this five days of Ju ly. Set 20 minutes each day to play with my son. Dining at the table without TV, 5 times this week. Recognize at least 10 positive behaviors in my son. I plan to take the following action this week to help me achieve my desire or go al: Record your progress on the next page. Examples: LIST GOAL: SU PROGRESS Playing with the child 20 minutes every day. Get support from family and friends. Reward yourself when you make changes that impact positively on the lives of children - and theirs. LIST Day SU PROGRESS How long? How Often? Mark "X" if it has Describe the activity Day 1 Day 2 Day 3 Day 4 Day 5 Day 6 Day 7 How did you do to try to achieve your desire or goal this week? (Circle one) I g ot the desire or goal to achieve cost me a desire or goal if he achieves his des ire or goal, scoring his progress continues for 2 weeks. It takes about three we eks for a new behavior

becomes a habit. If cost him his desire or goal to achieve: 1. Continue working on the same desire or goal O 2. Change your desire or goal to do so successfully. This publication was made possible by the following partners: • • • • • • • Idaho Regional Alcohol Drug Awareness Resource (RADAR) Network Cen ter Idaho Supplemental Nutrition Program for Women, Infants and Children (WIC) I daho Idaho Substance Abuse Program Infant / Toddler Program Idaho Tobacco Preven tion and Control Program CareLine Idaho Idaho Nurses Association We thank all organizations, programs and people gave us their time and skills to this project. The reviewers and writers include the coordinators of local WIC a gencies; Georgia Girvan, MHE, Emily Bush, MS, RD, LD, Linda Morton, MPH, RD, LD, Mary Jones, BUS, Galen Louis, Ph.D . and Judith Murray, RN, Ph.D., Terry Pappin , M.Ed.; Selina Carver, MS and Patricia Williams. Adapted with permission from: Office of National Drug Control Policy. January 2002. IDHW-170 cost per unit