"It's not good that man should be alone ...

" Yes, we all know these words and th is is born pure and simple need to find a partner to complement each other, is a nother human behavior, like everything, has to be regulated by an ethic that giv es way to the customs, cultures and laws . Marriage, family, couple, probably th e most stable and enduring institution from which make up the social fabric, hav en to which all turn their eyes and his feet and yet, is being subjected - marri age - to a strong review and critical. We are seeing the changes historical, cul tural and new ways of living or to conceive of life, both the social fabric as t he ethical consciousness and lucidity puts human behavior, it moves, becomes uns table and can enter the "crisis of change . The couple, marriage, conjugal love, ultimately, no less, and makes a series of changes that, contrary to what advoc ates of Christian morality, it becomes pathological by three fundamental causes: polygamy adultery and divorce. Why failure conjugal love? Why does it seem to d isappear ancestral ethics as "pure" kept him? The logical evolution of time and changes often give rise to the crisis, though, for me, one of the main reasons i s lack of a sincere and coherent plan of life in common, from the beginning, so that if the pair lacking from this root, there will be situations flawed from it s base. It is common to find difficulties by sociocultural factors (selfishness, commercialism, individualism, etc..) Ideologies, consumerism, greater openness of women outside the home, etc., Even the couple having formed a good foundation , which will not happen if not redirecting understanding of the couple to these basic principles of ethics, to ensure that their future is desired. Obviously th ere are some changes that have consequences after that, humans being what we pre sume, urge some rethinking to defend the basic values of conjugal love to guide and tips for the future, so close, and that tomorrow is already today. Is that f rom the conjugal love can not lead until the revolution of women through equal a nd partner, or do is you can not support social equality through the harmony of complementarity? In ethics I think there is only one possible answer to this 75% of marriage breakdown; response started passing on the love of truth, love wait ing to be definitive because it is authentic, it does not limit, not divided, no t resignation it is complemented with another being, you will do something big e go (and vice versa). A communion that, however sincere, is no longer going to be withdrawn by those ups and downs and occasional quirks that stop in the life of every couple. The crises facing them, they are lived, debated, shared and matur e solutions. All this will be cemented if the quality is required to operate the "rest of life." It is clear that there will be changes in the "I" that is learn ing, but learning is maturing and the "I" mature "you." "Solutions?, Where they exist, rather than traumatic decisions of moral guilt that pervades our people a nd, by extension, the entire society. Ethics does not propose a regulation on ru les for something that can get around and live as part of the essence of human m orality brings no good to do something trivial, banal, something which even ente rs the atmosphere of the vital essence, but both, - ethical and moral - reiterat ed their rationale, since from has always been said that "it is good that the man [as a human race] should be a lone ...". Needs the other and above all, feel that the essential interpersonal connection is grounded in conjugal love as the core configurator married couples . Now it appears and ethics is needed to give it the legislation solidifies the warp weaves the proper foundation. For conjugal love must be free, all-encompass ing, fruitful, based on the promise, fidelity, commitment and, above all, must b e rational, creative impulse of the first sensations, but emotions stabilizer fu ture. It is as coals, still alive, the first meeting between lovers. All this ma y sound simplistic and even utopian, but if we look at the bottom of our being, frankly, more of a crisis would go down the sewer to realize that what we feel, or should we feel for our partners, is stronger than all the problems that may c ome. And if they come in the company are best solved in isolation. JUAN JOSE LOP EZ NICOLAS. Family Counselor. Articles of Association for Family Living and Fami ly Therapy page. http://www.terapiayfamilia.blogspot.com