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It’s a Relationship

When considering a relationship (in general, not necessarily a Godly one), what do you

think are the 3 most important aspects?

These aspects of a relationship (even in a secular sense) are important because they draw

people closer together, and help make sure each person is on the same page. If we claim

God is our best friend and first priority as Christians, yet don’t spend any time with Him,

how can that be true? Just as when a father/son, boyfriend/girlfriend, or two good friends

don’t talk to each other, or invest in each other’s life, they will surely drift apart. In that

same way, if we are not spending time with God, we are going to find it much harder to

follow and find Him. “You’ll only be as close to God as you choose to be.”

• On a scale of 1-10, please rate how close you have chosen to be to God.

Going back to relationship… we can have relationship with God! We are His children,

the church is his Bride, we can even be friends of God (James 2:23)

1 John 3:1-10 (We are children of God)

• What do children to do/not do?

o 3 – Purify themselves, what are some ways that we can be impure that we

might let slip by the wayside at home?

o 6 – Don’t keep on sinning. Don’t go back to sin.

o 7 – Don’t be led astray by the ungodly

o 10 – Love your brother and sister! Loving them as Christ loved them, not

as some would say love is.
• I hope through this study we can be encouraged to grow closer to God while

we’re home for break instead of drawing further from Him like we often can

when we’re not surrounded by Christian community.

So how do we get closer to our heavenly father and have a relationship with Him?

• Jeremiah 29:13 – You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all

your heart

But how are we to seek Him? What can we do? There are three ways that I’ll talk about

to seek Him tonight. But before we get to that, a key element to remember, throughout all

three of these aspects of walking with God, is to rely on the Holy Spirit. You do not have

to seek God alone! John 14:26 – But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father

will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I

have said to you.

• Some of the verbs used to describe the Holy Spirit’s activities are the Holy Spirit

convicts, guides, tells, brings, hears, speaks, reasons, thinks, understands, wills,

feels, makes them known, appoints, bears witness, helps, intercedes, searches,

knows, teaches, lives, washes, sanctifies, justifies, gives, cries out, leads, desires,

strengthens, is grieved, can be blasphemed, and lied to. The Holy Spirit has

intelligence, he is a full being (like Jesus and God the father), he has feelings that

can be grieved, made sad or joyful.

Reading the Bible – Psalms 1:1-3
• We have heard it time and time again that we have to read daily. And that’s true,

but it is not at all like reading a textbook like we can make it to be. Reading as

though it is homework, or a daily task we must complete, is only going to lead to

burn out and a hard heart towards God.

• Reading the Bible is like God speaking to you, as if in conversation

o 2 Timothy 3:16-17 – All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for

teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, so that

the servant of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work.

• God talks to us in two ways through His Word, the two main Greek meanings

o Logos (Greek) – "reasoning expressed by words” the written words in the

Bible that convey meaning. John 1:1 - In the beginning was the Word

(logos), and the Word (logos) was with God, and the Word (logos) was


o Rhema (Greek) – “a spoken word, made by a living voice” what the Spirit

speaks to us (this points a reliance on the Spirit). A section of scripture

that the Spirit brings to our attention and shows us meaning that can be

applied to our daily walk Romans 10:17 - Consequently, faith comes

from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the word

(rhema) about Christ.

§ So you have to be open to the Spirit in order to hear the specific

things God is trying to tell you in that moment.

Prayer – it is just conversation! But like a conversation with your best friend, it is going

to be ineffective if you’re not invested. A quote from Christian author Fred Stoeker,
“Going through life without prayer is like playing wide receiver and never joining the

huddle. Your own prodigious talent may somehow allow you to play a decent game, but

your Quarterback (God) will never engage you as He could have.”

• Please rate your current prayer life 1-10 on the line provided. When considering

how to rate this, think of how often you pray, what you pray about, and how

concentrated you are on God when you pray.

• Pray no matter how bad you feel. 1 Peter 5:7 – Give all your worries and cares

to God, for he cares about you.

o “You’re his son. You’re worthy to be heard. He’ll listen to you because

perfect fathers (like God) listen to sons, no matter what they’ve done.”

How should we pray? Matthew 6:5-15

• What are some things that stick out to you in this passage?

o Pray for the benefit of God, not yourself (5-6)

o Don’t pray as the pagans do with many words (7)

o God knows what you need (8)

§ The Spirit helps you pray Romans 8:26 - In the same way, the

Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we

ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us

through wordless groans.

o Proclaim His name, and that His will (not ours) be done (9-10)

o He’ll help you today, and keep you from temptations (meaning you must

pray daily!) (11,13)

o Repent, asking forgiveness for your sins, and forgive others for theirs

against you (12)
Worship – Praising God both in church, and at home. We all can worship in different

ways, but I do believe proclaiming his name out loud is essential to everyone’s worship,

whether that be in song or just speaking.

What are some different ways you worship?

• On a scale of 1-10, please rate your current heart in worship. (Consider how well

you connect with God during worship, if you’re concerned with how you look to

others, if you’re afraid to sing, if you do all to bring glory to God).

Worship in the Spirit

• John 4:23-24 – “Yet a time is coming and has now come when the true

worshipers will worship the Father in the Spirit and in truth, for they are the

kind of worshipers the Father seeks. God is spirit, and his worshipers must

worship in the Spirit and in truth.”

Worship with gratitude towards God!

• Colossians 3:16-17 - Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you

teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns,

and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. And

whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord

Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

When it comes to worship through song, make sure you’re focused on God. I use worship

time (through music) to help me pray. It aligns my Spirit with God and helps me focus.

If we are abiding in and walking with Christ our natural tendencies will be to do things

honoring to God (because the Spirit is prompting us and guiding us). Don’t take junk in
and you won’t produce it. Likewise, if you want to bear good fruit, you have to plant

good seeds, not evil ones! Galatians 6:7 – Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked.

A man reaps what he sows.

• Make good decisions!

• If that means “embarrassing” yourself in front of old friends; who are you living

for? Are you living for God’s approval, or are you seeking the approval of men?

Run to Him, repent, dust yourself off, and resume your walk – do NOT be overcome with

the shame that will try to drag you down.

• James 4:7 – Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee

from you.

• Galatians 5:16 – So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the

desires of the sinful nature.
On a scale of 1-10, please rate how close you have chosen to be to God/how your

relationship with God is right now.

On a scale of 1-10, please rate your current experience reading the Bible. (Consider how

often you read, how well you understand it, does it feel like doing homework)

On a scale of 1-10, please rate your current prayer life. (Consider how often you

pray, what you pray about, and how concentrated you are on God when you pray.)

On a scale of 1-10, please rate your current heart in worship. (Consider how well you

connect with God during worship, if you’re concerned with how you look to others, if

you’re afraid to sing).