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In the game of Love it is said the most exciting thing about it is the THRILL OF THE CHASE--I'VE GOT TO HAVE IT. WHY? THE REWARD-THE PRIZE-GRATIFICATION . . . BEHAVIORS BASED UPON CONDITIONS The first neuro-chemical commander is: DOPAMINE
Dopamine is our REWARD circuitry AND the more we crave something or the stronger our desire to possess a thing increases our dopamine levels significantly. Addictions are linked to dopamine and for most of us--WE ARE ADDICTED TO LOVE OR IS IT LUST—MAYBE IT’S THE BIOCHEMICALS THAT OUR ANCESTORS HAVE ENGINEERED OUR BIOLOGICAL TEMPLE SYSTEMS TO RELEASE. What we don’t know is actually ruling US—biologically. When our dopamine levels drop because our mates no longer are pleasing to us, so does our desire for that so called special someone and if it continues to drop then we will more than likely--FALL OUT OF LOVE AND END THE RELATIONSHIP. Soon we could find ourselves singing a Teddy Pendergrass song,
I think I betta’ let it go. Looks like anotha’ love…T.K.O.
Dopamine is also a bonding agent from the mammalian circuitry within us that allows for parenting and living in groups. Below is a list of recognized behavioral patterns associated with those addictions...and remember dopamine isn't a bad thing, we just have to learn how to control our desires.
Excess Addictions Anxiety Compulsions Sexual fetishes Sexual addiction Unhealthy risktaking Gambling Compulsive activities Aggression Psychosis Schizophrenia "Normal" Addictions Healthy bonding Feelings of well-being, Depression satisfaction Anhedonia - no pleasure, world looks Pleasure, reward in colorless accomplishing tasks Lack of ambition and drive Healthy libido Inability to "love" Good feelings toward others Low libido Erectile dysfunction Motivated Healthy risk taking Deficient
No remorse about personal behavior Sound choices ADD Social anxiety disorder Sleep disturbances, "restless legs" Realistic expectations Maternal/Paternal love ---
What is dopamine’s greatest reward?
“BEWARE OF EXPLICIT LYRICS!”
Orgasm is the term we use to describe the ultimate HIGH that a full injection of dopamine gives us when we reach that peak, sexually. We truly take to the SKY ON A NATURAL HIGH and this starts us on the potential road of becoming a SEX ADDICT in search of that ultimate high that we get from these large amounts of the BIO-CHEMICAL DOPAMINE RELEASED 'GASMICALLY INTO OUR BLOODSTREAM. After that high wears off, we are soon in search of it again even in normal or so called healthy relationships and this can affect any relationship if that
ultimate high becomes stagnant. This is leads to sexual experiments. Thus, we have the different sexual positions. It addresses the need to try something different and see if that ultimate high can be taken to even greater HEIGHTS. LOVE HANGOVER . . . Many sexologists have termed this phase as "POST-SEXUAL SATIATION HANGOVER." OH, The HIGHS and LOWS of love or only being compatible when it’s TIME FOR SOME GREAT SEX. Some relationships seemingly last for awhile simply because the DOPAMINE EXCHANGE between these persons keeps them bonding over and over again even though they are totally incompatible as MATES. Dopamine must be kept in check or it becomes like a run-away locomotive within us. So, what assisting bio-chemical helps to stop or at least slow this run-away locomotive down—PROLACTIN. We owe our ancestors so much. They designed our temple systems with counteracting agents that I call, "MA'ATIAN WARRIORS." The diagram below shows us this sacred dance that goes on between dopamine and prolactin in what is labeled as the "PASSION CYCLE."
THE PASSION CYCLE
Dopamine- RED / Prolactin- BLUE
Immediately after orgasm that lingering surge of “something” that persons experience is nothing more than a bio-chemical released dose of PROLACTIN. The after effects of this bio-chemically released M.W. (Ma’atian Warrior) causes most men to fall asleep. Whereas in most women this M.W. (Ma’atian Warrior) reacts euphorically and takes a few days to wear off before the desire to sleep takes over. Scientists know how long prolactin last in laboratory rats which is about two weeks. They of course would love to discover just how long Prolactin last within the human biological temple system.
Don’t forget about the “Passion Cycle” where PROLACTIN AND DOPAMINE are engaged in a HIGH AND LOW cycle. What this means is when the dopamine levels are high the prolactin levels will be low and vice versa. Songs have been written describing this cycle as a “LOVE HANGOVER.” Science describes it as the P.O.H. (POST-ORGASM HANGOVER) Couples should check for these symptoms for persistent high levels of prolactin when complaining about certain things within their relationship during consistent and extended periods of time. 1) WEIGHT GAIN 2) MOOD CHANGES 3) DESIRE FOR FREQUENT SEX DROPS (ASSOCIATED WITH THE LIBIDO IN BOTH GENDERS) 4) DEPRESSION 5) HEADACHES 6) FOR MEN IMPOTENCY 7) MENOPAUSAL SYMPTOMS NOTE: SEXOLOGISTS HAVE NOTICED THAT WHEN THERE IS AN EXCESSIVE AMOUNT OF PROLACTIN WITHIN THE FEMALE TEMPLE SYSTEM, THEY TEND TO SHOW CHARACTERISTICS OF BEING HOSTILE WITH INCREASED MOMENTS EXPERIENCED AS ANXIETY ATTACKS. Also keep in mind that scientists are trying to gage the effects of what happens to humans sexually when long prolactin levels remain high in the temple system for more than two weeks. They are trying to figure out what can make and keep sex great between the periods when couples experience those times when what was good sexually this week isn’t next week. Ever think about why SEX for some is so good after an ARGUMENT? The answer is bio-chemical—DOPAMINE/PROLACTIN
other important area that couples must be aware of is how these BIO CHEMICALS can have a reoccurring affect on relationships . . . WANTING SPACE, EASILY AGITATED WITH EACH OTHER FOR NO APPARENT REASON— THE ILLUSION OF BEING SO IN LOVE SLOWLY FADES AWAY. Here again, we must revisit the NEURO CHEMICAL EFFECTS OF STRESS IN THE BRAIN THAT EFFECTS US SEXUALLY. ____________________________________________________________ stress (strĕs) noun 1. An applied force or system of forces that tends to strain or deform a body. 2. The resisting force set up in a body as a result of an externally applied force. 3. A physical or psychological stimulus that can produce mental tension or physiological reactions that may lead to illness. The American Heritage® Medical Dictionary Copyright © 2010 by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. Published by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company _____________________________________________________________________________ Prolactin is also linked to STRESS. Ever wonder why there are times when we all feel like a caged monkey or some wild animal longing to be free and when things seem hopeless, despair sets in and we just feel like “GIVING IN AND GIVING UP?” First, we feel like running away from everything or we become very hostile and will also fight anyone at any signs of miscommunication or challenging looks. Some may experience this as wanting to spread their wings and fly away when feeling pinned down by life. Secondly, after awhile (the flight or fight responses drop-the SNS, i.e., SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM activates these responses) when things appear as though they will never change and despair soon takes over, we then feel like GIVING UP. (prolactin bio-chemical increases--http://www.fi.edu/learn/brain/stress.html) The next time these emotions creep in, we must be aware of the fact that our Prolactin level has increased. So far, it is scientifically documented that orgasm once experienced sexually will cause dopamine levels to decrease while allowing prolactin levels to increase. As these two bio-chemicals dance with each other in our temple systems, the way we behave and the way we feel towards each other in our relationships changes drastically during a two week period of time.
Sometimes it could be for the worst if we don’t engage in sex with that same person for the next two weeks. However, more than likely couples don’t wait for that two week period to end before they experience that locomotive thrill again and again and AGAIN. The more sex we have -WITHOUT BREAKS IN BETWEEN- lessens the opportunities for our BRAINS TO EXPERIENCE A BALANCED STATE OF HARMONY BETWEEN THESE TWO MA’ATIAN WARRIORS.
Usually, when our temple systems urge for that HIGH isn’t soon satisfied addictively, we will seek out other artificial means to fulfill our DOPAMINE ADDICTION (YOU CAN HEAR THE WORD—DOPE at the beginning of this biochemical—drugs of all kinds including alcohol). Therefore, it appears that one of the advantages of RETAINING ONE’S VIRGINITY IS A WELL BALANCED DOPAMINE LEVEL WITHIN ONE’S BIOTEMPLE SYSTEM (BODY) that aides experiencing greater ease possessing a cheerful, enthusiastic and optimistic attitude for the simple activities in life.
CHAMBER 3: BIO ENERGY AND SEX
The BIO ENERGIES of the POST SEXUAL SATIATION EFFECT-commonly known as “LOVE’S HANGOVER”, continues to engage our hormones and neuro chemicals in such a manner that scientists noticed that in male rats who are sexually-satiated need 15 days to acquire their full desire for sex again. Can this be the case within the human male species as well and if so is there a way to get them back into the MOOD FOR SEX (lagging libido) before the 15 day recovery period ends?
The link of commonality within all male species is TESTOSTERONE as is the commonality within all female species is ESTROGEN. Therefore, something is bound to happen to these two hormones receptively when experiencing multiple orgasms and becoming sexually satiated. The something that is experienced within the temple system is a REDUCTION IN BOTH OF THESE HORMONES CAN AND WILL DECREASE THE DESIRE FOR SEX. The reward circuitry (DOPAMINE) that we talked about in Chamber 2 when satisfied temporarily hibernates. These neuro-chemicals along with these two hormones that have receptors hibernate on the nerve cells. The fewer the receptors that are present to receive the reward of orgasm de-sensitizes the remaining circulating testosterone and estrogen, which in turns decreases the releasing of dopamine into the bloodstream. When this happens, IRRITABILITY and ANGER are usually the emotions associated with decreased and desensitized hormonal levels of testosterone and estrogen. The other neuro-chemicals once released that increase within the reward circuitry of the dopamine switch board line is SEROTONIN and ENDORPHIN (HAPPY NEURO-CHEMICALS in a particular part of the limbic brain aides in decreasing dopamine and increasing prolactin alternatively). In order to have a healthy bond in a relationship, the levels of dopamine must be well balanced. SHOCKINGLY, monogamy isn’t something that is virtually natural amongst MAMMALS and HUMANS. Scientific studies involving mammals are proving
that there are no mammals that are sexually monogamous and only a few are socially monogamous when it involves raising their litter together.
Our ancestors programmed our neuro-mating chemistry to accomplish two things. 1) Bonding in a CO-PARENT SOCIETY. 2) SEPARATION CIRCUITRY used for detaching from our primary mate in order to acquire a secondary mate. The latter usually happens when relationships when the thrill of LOVE OR LUST is lacking in our primary monogamous relationships. Anytime we experience a sense of growing apart or incompatability, our neuro-mating circuitry influences us to go out and conquer new territories (extra marital affairs as they are socially called or one acquires the label of being promiscuous)—sort of speaking. All species is programmed to REPRODUCE ITSELF and when reproduction stops a new purpose for that species must be made. When we are dealing with a hangover or any imbalancement, our brain naturally begins to seek solutions in order to restore BIOLOGICAL BALANCE. This is also the case that many relationships experience when disharmony erupts while dealing with the effects of the highs and lows of ORGASMS.
If orgasms are natural some scientists think that it may be natural for relationship partners to suddenly find each other unattractive and quickly end the relationship as well. The other way to re-activate a lagging libido in any species is to introduce a new, receptive and eager to mate male or female into the equation. This may or may not be the answer to the relationship disharmony, however, it will certainly entice the sexually-satiated species to ride dopamine’s roller coaster again. Relationships that have experienced post orgasm hangover are dealing with what is known as the “COOLIDGE EFFECT”—NO DOPAMINE SURGE—LOSS OF SEXUAL INTEREST MOST OFTEN HAPPENS WITH OUR PRIMARY MATES. Our brain soon tells us that there is no REWARD waiting for us if we have sex with our same old, familiar sexual partners who don’t look for new ways to excite us, SEXUALLY. What we are truly dealing with is the reason that sex comes into play within the design of reproducing life forms, not just for PLEASURABLE RECREATION OR THE WAY WE THINK WE EXPERIENCE THE EXPRESSION OF PHYSICAL LOVE TOWARDS ONE ANOTHER. Now that recreational sex is global the SACREDNESS OF SEX HAS BEEN LOST and only in certain cultures is the sacredness of sex still practiced. However, as humankind strives to regain its harmony with life itself—The desires to relearn the healing aspects of this ancient science are significantly increasing. As long as our mammalian brain can experience the rewards of what an orgasm delivers, it will never understand that too much of a good thing can become harmful to one’s biological temple system and this sets us up to experience ADDICTIVE CYCLES such as drugs, etc., coupled with behaviors that keeps us on a constant QUEST for that next DOPAMINE HIGH. How can we escape this seemingly never ending cycle of that adrenaline rush for an orgasmic injection of dopamine? (adrenaline is one of the other neuro-chemicals that’s apart of the super switch board’s circuitry of incoming and out going frequencies from our brain, it causes our hearts to beat faster when we think we are in love and when we are ultimately having sex lovingly and/or lustfully)
The Ma’atian Judge that shows up to restore balance is known as “OXYTOCIN, the CUDDLE OR BONDING HORMONE.” Oxytocin is related to those butterfly feelings and the warm fuzzy feelings that we experience in our relationships. It is associated with being the “unconditional love” hormone that helps us to want to be generously nurturing in our expressions of affections towards our mates. In the female body its function induces labor contractions and milk secretions. Our ancestors added this feature for women so that they would bond with their children for life on an evolutionary scale. It also serves to bond us with our mates long enough to produce a child and help that child to grow up if the relationship can survive the post orgasm hangover. Oxytocin also acts as a bonding agent in friendships. This doesn’t mean that friends should become sexual partners. Yet, we all often desire a certain type of friendship with our lovers as well. We need the balancing magnetism between oxytocin and dopamine within the reward circuitry to operate at perfect levels in order to experiencing lasting and loving relationships. If these neuro chemicals are blocked in mothers, they will ignore their children. As the pendulum swings back and forth emotionally within relationships, levels of dopamine, prolactin, and oxytocin can reek havoc in our love relationships because if either one of these neuro chemicals decrease when they shouldn’t, our emotions will be affected. Remember, a decrease in dopamine interferes with feeling loving. Oxytocin levels then become desensitized which in turn affects our ability to bond on deeper levels. The ancient and sacred order of Hat Har other important role in the sexual rites was to teach its practitioners how to abstain from over sexual satiation while still enjoying the reproduction rites of sex initially. Even though much of humanity has strayed from the sacred rite of sex and its initial purpose, the focus is returning to engaging in the HEALING ARTS (SCIENCES) OF SEX.
Our ancestors overstood the importance of the link between evidences of the increase of oxytocin during extended periods of time when an abundance of affection was demonstrated and shared by couples. They obviously noticed how the receptivity of increased oxytocin in the bloodstream seemed to keep other neuro chemical levels balanced. What is being suggested here is that humanity, especially the Nu Afrikan must incorporate more moments of affection in our relationships in order to tame the effects of the highs and lows of recreational sex driven by the overloading our temple systems with dopamine. Oxytocin in non-addictive and it helps to maintain those warm fuzzy emotions between couples as it continues to deepen, and strengthen the bond in relationships as well. Oxytocin is the glue and thus the statement often voiced within enduring relationships is “WE’RE STUCK TOGETHER LIKE GLUE.” Scientists are now calling them researchers and these researchers have recorded that when a sexually promiscuous rodents brain was injected with oxytocin, they seemed to prefer their familiar mate more so than the unfamiliar partner, thus activating the Reward Circuitry of dopamine again to the anticipating or enjoying the familiarity of their common mate— FAMILIARITY BREEDS BLISS. So what are the health benefits of these neuro chemicals that are periodically released within our sacred temple systems? We will discuss that in Chamber 4: SEX AND HEALTH
The State of Black Relationships
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