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Hi. It s Sarah. We have an appointment by phone at 2?
Right. We ll start. I ll put the tape on so that I can send this to you. It s going to go quiet for a bit while I engage and then I ll share that comment with you? OK?
OK. Sarah is nervous and she pushed the phone harder against her ear.
The comment is she is at the biggest crossroads she s ever been at. Now do you understand what that means?
Yes. I do
Now I also need to explain that I ve set the intent that information I will give you will be for everyone s highest good - that means for all of us and I ask our guides to work together. It s probably with my guides as they know my body but they ll be working with your guides. To these guides there isn t a right or wrong - there s no judgments but it s not wrapped in cotton wool either. It s just the way it is. OK?
Yes. Sarah s voice is quiet.
They ll give you an opportunity to ask specific questions, OK? So I ll get on with it and let them do the talking.
Sarah waits in anticipation.
We shake our heads, Sarah. You have a great deal of knowledge. You understand you are a spirit having a human experience, yes? Yes. Sarah says. She s not sure she does but in that moment she thinks it s possible.
And yet you struggle to respect yourself. This spirit has come into this particular lifetime to help you to understand your power as a woman. Right. And to do that you have to be able to function equally at a physical, emotional and physical level. Now for you to respect yourself, you have to first stop judgement of yourself, Sarah. There is no good or bad or right or wrong way of doing anything. But you have a need to prove yourself to others. And that comes from many lifetimes of being judged by others and you taking on those judgements of yourself. Now just because other people want you to do the impossible by this time next week does not mean you have to demand that of yourself. But that seems to be how you function. You are very hard on that little girl in your heart. She is a very sensitive vulnerable child and she grew up in an insensitive family a family that did not deal with emotion. And that is female energy. So you were brought up to hide what you were feeling and be their version of Sarah. And yet that is not who you area. Confrontation is still difficult. Loving confrontation is to be able to say, what works for you doesn t work for me. Goodbye. Or your way isn t my way, good bye. You are a woman of integrity. You give your promises in words and you honour those promises in action. So what is the point in honouring your promises to people who break their promises to you. You ve done it all your life and that to us is called self abuse. What you are doing is saying you can behave in any way you wish, I will be honourable. So if they are being dishonourable and you are being honourable where is the balance in that?
How do you fight that then? . Sarah is curious.
You make promises and honor them in action, until you observe that someone else is not honouring their promises to you and then you go, excuse me this is not ok because now I do not trust your word. Now that isn t saying they have to change, it isn t saying they have to do it your way either. But what you are saying is there is no point in my trusting what you say because it s not what you do and therefore I don t trust you. When you feel anger it is the emotion of betrayal. You didn t get what you expected.
If you were to observe to how people are they are either let their emotions control them or they completely deny their emotions so they don t even know what that information they re telling them. Then here are you so sensitive with need for emotions but no one was listening to you. We don t want you to make any suggestions to anyone unless they ask for something and you have resolved yourself and so you can honestly tell them what helped you but please don t be naive enough that they re going to do anything to change it because most people just want to be the victim who winges and whines and doesn t want to do anything different. So we realise that doing what you ve always done is going to get you what you always had and expecting something different when you re doing what you ve always done is madness. You cannot deal with anger because your self respect is not anchored. We say to every spirit when it chooses to come into this life, please remember you have the right to be just the way you are, you have the right to your need physical, emotional and spiritual you have the right to have those
needs fulfilled and all at those levels and we are not giving you the responsibility to create your own meaningful life and at the end when you come home, we say well what did you learn of your responsibility of your physical emotional and spiritual and mental welfare and what did you teach by the example of your lifetime.
Now most people don t even understand the question. You understand the question. So some people would tell us some amazing fairy story and we would listen to these fairy stories and then we tell them what we watched. And they go oh well I didn t know you were watching and we say, yes we were watching but we weren t judging. We don t judge anybody s life. We don t have any authority. We have given you free will. We cannot work out why most people struggle to deal with their emotions in balance with their thoughts. So you have a thought that says anger is wrong and bad. Because you were brought up by parents who didn t deal with their anger constructively so they certainly didn t want you to express yours. So the only way they could deal with that was to say that you were not allowed to express your anger. So what you do with it is just push it down, and push it down and push it down till it is unmangable and even then you don t deal with it constructively. You d be better to go into the middle of the woods and scream.
And what is the ongoing creation of the anger is your unrealistic expectations of people.
That means you put the energy into things that give you don t get energy back from.
You must deal with your emotions as indicators of things you have to deal with in your life. So sadness says there is something missing or leaving your life.
So you take all these enigmas into these relationships and you choose men who are unemotionally available to you. And you choose men who do not understand how to deal with your emotional needs. And what does that do for you. So that s what s familiar. You must learn to act differently by using the relationship with your father.
We say you are someone who is in the rescue business. Your very good at listening to people winge and whine and you re good at the because you grew up doing that. So that s familiar too. You re very patient, listen and you may suggest changes. And hey presto you re surprised in six months time when they ve done nothing so if you ve listened to it once and then you listened to it again in six months and they ve not done anything that that s it, you ve heard it. You say I don t need to hear it again, I now need to know what you are going to do about it . And most people won t like that so they ll just disappear out of your life and they won t be wasting your time. And Sarah they can only do that if you allow it. So if you respect yourself you wouldn t allow it because your time is
valuable and you could be screaming in the woods rather than listening to someone winging and time is a very difficult commodity for you. There never seems to be enough. But yours spending lots of it giving time to all these other people who don t give it back to you. So if ever you have any relationship it has to be a relationship where you give and receive equally. Now it may not be the same thing that you receive as you give but you might be giving some emotional support and you might be receiving somebody fixing a shelf. You understand. It depends on the exchange you are dealing with what it is.
If it s a work situation you put the energy in and you get money out. And money deals with the practical level of money full stop. It doesn t deal with your emotional, intellectual spiritual needs. So you are this enigma it s a very apt word for you you re a square peg in a round hole. You re never going to fit into this world so why would you try? You re not here to fit in. You re here to show people a different way of doing things. Now whether they want to learn a different way of doing things is none of your business. So it s time to stop your rescue business and we d like you to put on your door, i ve gone to get a life I enjoy because listening to their problems is not going to make your heart sing.
You don t have to be nasty when you tell people, you can do it with a smile on your face and you can do it light heartedly. Just say its taken me a long time but I ve learned that listening to you is not going to enrich the quality of my life and that s my intent now to enrich the quality of my life.
Because your life has been like pushing water up hill. And you are tired of it. And you are tired because you seem to be trying to drag everybody to push this water up hill with you . And it s a pointless exercise. We can t stop you for what you are doing. Please feel free to keep doing it. We ll be interested in your explanation at the end but please feel free to keep doing it. Because it s fascinating for us to watch. We think, well this one is definitely a slow learner.
But eventually you seem to get there. So with all these disfunctional relationships you get fed up with it. You might not tell them why you are walking away but you eventually do it. It would be much more helpful to tell them why you did it.
Your relationship ended this time because you started to speak your truth and he didn t like it. You weren t prepared to put up with the nonsense and he saw the writing on the wall and he realised you are quite a focussed lady. There was never any real commitment to the relationship. How much did he communicate on his feelings. Eventually you started to get a life of your own without him being attached and he found that too challenging. Now that doesn t mean you have to do that, it just means you have to be who you are. It would be helpful to ask him why but don t expect and answer. It s just an opportunity. And then it will help you understand how little he answered the questions that were important to you. So you don t ask a question you re not going to know how wiling he is to answer the question. This is what you did with your father. That s your pattern. I
don t ask the question because I m not going to get an answer, or I wont get an answer that I understand.
He just said it doesn t work for me and you said pardon? and you went what part of this doesn t work for you? and he didn t answer. How can somebody after all that time just come along and say this doesn t work for me? . If you had had a problem with him, would you have just gone and said that s it ; you would have gone and said this is the problem I have, how can we resolve it and you had this naive belief that he was like you. You were shocked. It hadn t worked for him for a long time. You weren t giving him all your time and attention. And why would you be giving him all your time and attention. He certainly had insecurity issues, but you were the one building him up, even if it meant doing it at the expense of yourself.
You made his life very easy. But how easy was he making your life. So most of the time there was no intimate conversation. You were very convenient partner in his life. But if you asked him about his business you didn t get any answers and yet you talked about all the things you were doing, who you were connecting with, why what and how, so you were quite entertaining for him. You wouldn t say he was entertaining to you and you were always walking around him as if you were walking on egg shells and now you don t have to that.
And he comes along one day and says this doens t work for me and you hadn t seen that? So how much are you dealing with reality Sarah? If he had had any integrity he would have told you what his problems were long before that point. If he had a problem you would have been open to discussing the problem and he knew you well enough to know that. So he didn t want to resolve the problem.
So it was insulting to you.
But what you call love was need. So there was a part of your life that you didn t want to take care of yourself so you gave it to him to take care of for you. That need was to feel cared for. So you gave that little girl to him and you said you wanted to care for him and yet we looked at you giving him far more care than he ever gave you so there was an imbalance so now instead of giving it to him you need to give it to yourself. Not to his children, not to anyone else but to yourself.
You must make a promise to that little girl. To make sure that she s protected. I want you to repeat
I will care for you
Sarah repeats with a gruff voice I will care for you
I will protect you.
I will protect you.
At all times. At all times. In all places In all places.
no matter what
no matter what
So be it
So be it
So if you honour what you have said, she will trust you, because she doesn t trust you yet because you have given her to some very untrustworthy people. And what that man did at the end was outrageous and we mean outrageous. Just this doesn t work for me, goodbye it s like, pardon pardon? .
How can somebody just come along and tell you in just one sentence that it doesn t work for them and expect you to accept that without any explanation. That is insulting to your intelligence. It was outrageous and you were devastated.
You need to ask him what didn t work, how did it not work, why didn t you come and talk about it, why didn t you give me the opportunity to resolve it. That s how adults function Sarah. But he s not an adult. He s a little boy and everything is fine as long as it s on his terms and when its not on his terms he does the runner. He s good at it. You understand. And he projected on to you a lot of his first partner s problems on to you. He was trying to annoy you. He was trying to justify what he was doing, he was trying to upset you. He wanted to offload some of the responsibility on to you. You didn t do anything that was dishonourable but you need to deal with the anger that you have towards him because you are livid with him and you need to tell him i consider that that behaviour is childish so there you are you have another one like your father.
The work you ve done on yourself is good, but you ve got to know you did nothing dishonourable. You have assumed that there is something wrong with you when in fact you did nothing and he just copped out with no real reason because he believed that you were going to want some kind of commitment with him. And he was not wanting to make a commitment to you and instead of him saying I have real issues around this commitment thing then you could have said actually you don t need to make a commitment to me, you need to make a commitment to yourself.
And that s what you ve done in the last six months you ve made a commitment to yourself. And you have put into your life some of the boundaries that are built from self respect. The crossroads is here, sarah, are you really going to walk forwards with that self respect intact. And are you going to work with us in co-creation. Because if you want courage and strength we can give it, if you want information we can give it but we can t take one of your steps for you. Your gut feelings will tell you. You know when the relationship was ending your gut feelings told you he wasn t telling the truth so how come you can t listen to that. Your head goes, he looks ok, he sounds ok and the gut feelings tells you he s not. He was disrespectful at all levels to you. So where is the trust.
So he comes back tomorrow, he says, whatever I decided to do didn t work out, can we try again. What are you going to say.
What am I going to say?
Yes this is a what if?
my gut feeling is that I have no interest in that person as they are right now.
well done .. But I do have to say that I would say to him that he would have to prove himself I guess. He would have to go and find out why he did it...
..and what nonsense he had told you.
..and what nonsense he came up with.
So you d have to sit him down and say. Oh just like that, you think i m that stupid do you? You know I would have been prepared to have discussed it with you but you made the decision without discussing it with me. You didn t even give me the courtesy of explaining what was going on. I m not stupid, goodbye.
Have you learned the lesson. If you haven t you will have to go through it all again. So first thing you ask someone who wants a connection with you, what do you want from this connection with me, and you tell them what you want from the connection with them. You want something who is going to be respectful to you and who is going to provide you with the things that are important to you and not manipulate you, and judge you. Right? That s pretty basic. It requires open and honest communication on both sides. If you re honest with them then they must be honest with you.
There doesn t have to be an imbalanced situation. The minute someone doesn t honour the words the trust should not be there. All you did was challenge him, because he felt inadequate beside you, because you had people skills and he didn t. You were able to read people and couldn t. So he coudln t work out how you did those things. You weren t trying to make him feel inadequate.
Trust your gut feelings. You read people accurately. And they might not like it. They might not want you to know what they are about. Not everyone is like you.
i m thinking of leaving. I ve quit my work and i m selling my flat and I want to try and go somewhere else away from here.
That s the crossroads. Its like I know where I ve come from and I know what works from that and I need to get a different focus and you ve given yourself time to get that focus. And you will know that you can t force the decision and one day when you wake up the decision will be made, you cannot
force it and when it does you will go at it like a bull at a gate. You ve just got to trust that decision will get made in divine right order. And when the future seems decided and clear then you can put that into action. All you have to say is every day in every way my life enriches. And if you let things in that do not enrich your life then you let go. You are not accountable to anyone right now. There s just you to consider, and because there sjust you, you can take as long as you, you are not going to do something stupid. You are quite a practical woman.
So you have your head screwed on. You have lots of common sense. Close down the rescue business, put a sign up saying ive gone to get a life I enjoy . So you re not going ti be sitting there listening to their problems and you will use the time to do the things you enjoy and you re not going to know what you enjoy until you try it. You ve got to go and try so you can see if you enjoy it. But you have a very low boredom threshold so you mustn t do 20 things at the same time. We think there should be balance between work and play. So now you are thinking just doing play play you will just get bored. Play is what is creative.
All right. We think that what we have said you have understood and now we expect you to put it into action and when we meet you at the end we shall be interested in what you have taken responsibility for your life and what balance you have created. And yes you are beginning to achieve this. You have resolved the past, you ve moved on, you ve accepted you cannot be two halves of a relationship.
We trust what we have said has helped. We will now withdraw....
There is silence
As they went, they just shouted yes, she s going to do it.
did they?... They didn t pull any punches?
They don t!
And time is an issue for you. There is never enough
You must say that my intent is to enjoy your life