Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Galinato
Lit13 E26
Missing Key
There are important aspects in life that shape a person as he grows. One of these
is having a normal social life. According to Al Emantski A good life is a human life. A
human life is a social life, the essence of human nature is to be in the company of others
(Ccsdisabilityaction.org.nz). Social life doesnt only bring us friends and company, but it
Ms. Mijares is a woman whos still single, a virgin, and works as an employment
agent. Though her job offers her various opportunities to interact with different people,
she still hasnt found a relationship with another person. She may sometimes feel the
need for love. Like the time when she saw a male carpenters strong hands and she feels
the desire to grasp them. She seeks companionship and sex. But she ignores these urges
and desires for love. She is regard by the people she meets as someone who is strict, and
aloof. This is the result of certain circumstances that shaped her life.
Ms. Mijares never had enough time for herself. She had to take care of her sick
mother at the crucial stages of her life (the age where most women get married). She
never found time for social life and love. She was unable to fulfill her desires of love,
companionship, and sex. She became aloof, strict, and arrogant. She would always think
that speaking English to people would give her a better impression from others. Ms.
Mijares became an outlier in society because she lacked an important key in her life,
which is love.
Living a normal life means having a balance of the various aspects in life: social,
familial, etc. If one is having problems with family matters, he or she should fix it
shapes a person and it carries the first people humans interact to. It is where a person
Miss Emily grew up with an iron fist from her dad. She wasnt allowed to interact
freely with the community. The society pictured Emily and her father as a tableau; Emily
wearing white in the background, her father clutching a horsewhip with his back to her,
and both being framed by the opened front door (Faulkner 59). She was deprived of a
normal life. The only person who she was close to was her father. And when he died,
Miss Emily was greatly judged by society. She belonged to the prominent
Grierson family. All eyes were on her and all talks were about her actions. By being a
member of a prominent family, it made her an outlier in society. She was among the top
ranks and therefore it was not part of her upbringing to mingle with anyone from the
lower ranks of society. These circumstances, made her very eccentric. It was strange for a
woman who belonged in the upper ranks to have a house that smelled awful (Faulkner
59). It wasnt normal for someone who grew up in the upper ranks of the southern states
of America to be mingling with workers, workers especially coming from the north
intimacy with the partner (intouch.org). Every time a couple finds a problem in marriage,
they always try to fix it. They think about what happened to their intimacy, their
comfort, closeness, and mutual understanding with each other (selfgrowth.com). Certain
factors affecting emotional intimacy are a persons attitudes and personalities. The
second aspect, physical intimacy, pertains to sensual and sexual aspects of a relationship
(healthyplace.com).
The wife in the couple of the story Cat In The Rain by Ernest Hemingway felt that
her relationship with her husband lacked both aspects of intimacy. They lacked
communication and sex. This was evident when the wife was unable to express what she
felt to her husband. She had to use several metaphors, such as the cat in the rain and all
her materialistic desires in life, to convey to her husband the message that they both
lacked physical intimacy. Certain symbols in the story symbolized her desire for physical
intimacy with her husband. The man in the rubber coat, which she noticed, was
interpreted to be a symbol of a condom. In her struggle for conveying to her husband the
problem about physical intimacy, it was evident that they lacked emotional intimacy. Her
There are several factors in life that affect a persons growth and current state.
Social interaction and love are just two of them. It is necessary for a person to have a
balance of these aspects. If a person is purely social interaction and love, he or she might
neglect her professional responsibilities. And if a person lacks social interaction and love,
he or she cannot fulfill her professional responsibilities. These are keys in life that bring
happiness to a person. The three women discussed lacked social interaction and love.
Sources:
Family and Friends. CCS Disability Action: Including All People. Web. 13 Jan. 2013.
Aron, Professor Arthur. Why do we fall in love?. Health: How Stuff Works. Web. 13
Jan. 2013.
Kerry-Anne. The Important Stuff. Butterflies Instead: The Trees the Grass and Pretty
Things. Web. 13 Jan. 2013.
Yerkovich, Milan et al. Intimacy Imprint. InTouch Ministries. Web. 13 Jan. 2013.
Gordon, Lori H. Intimacy: The Art of Relationships. Psychology Today. Web. 13 Jan.
2013.
Definition: Emotion Intimacy. SelfGrowth.com Web. 13 Jan. 2013.
What is Physical Intimacy? Healthy Place: Americas Health Channel. Web. 13 Jan.
2013.
Lit 13 English Dept. Ateneo de Manila University. Manila: Ateneo de Manila University,
2012. Print.
http://www.ccsdisabilityaction.org.nz/aspects-of-life/family
http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/love/why-do-we-fall-in-love.htm
http://kerry-anne.co.za/2009/01/11/the-important-stuff/#more-46
http://www.intouch.org/magazine/content/topic/the_intimacy_imprint#.UPLe2IleszJ
http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199309/intimacy-the-art-relationships
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Definition_Emotional_Intimacy.html
http://www.healthyplace.com/relationships/intimate-relationships/what-is-physical-
intimacy/