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Issue 160 August 5, 2010

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ichael aaron thinks next issue has to be all happy stuff. That was my Facebook status as we were in the home stretch getting this issue out. The previous week I did a ton of work on our website, some computer maintenance, cleaned the office, made phone calls and developed our editorial calendar for 2011. All so I didn’t have to sit down and do a long story on recent suicides in the gay community, edit a feature on the issue of meth in our community, and work on a follow-up to our “HIV in Utah” story with a former Utahn who has left the state over his treatment here. Yes, this is the “Tough Issues” issue. I guess it can’t be unicorns and rainbows, as was suggested for our next issue, all the time. But these three topics should be, and are, on the top of agendas of our community groups and leaders. In fact, next week I will be attending a meeting where all of these issues will be discussed. And up-and-coming leader Turner Bitton is right. [“Rally for Equality to Build a Better Community,” page 11.] He notes that members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints take care of each other. If someone’s garage burns down, the local ward is there with hammers in hand to help rebuild. When someone has a death in the family, out come the funeral potatoes. “In many ways we don’t often support our own,” Bitton said. “If we draw on the lessons from the LDS Church we can learn something.” Is our community capable of growing into something like that? We bristle and puff our chests if a business disses a fellow gay or lesbian person, calling for boycotts and rallies. But do we do it for them, or do we do it so we don’t have the same issue when we walk in the same doors? I suppose we may find out on August 13 when Bitton’s rally happens on the Utah State Capitol grounds. His hope is to talk


by Michael Aaron

‘In many ways we don’t often support our own’

about developing a community that cares for one another. And he’s talking on a larger scale than you probably just read. He wants families and friends of people who come out to still love their son or daughter or friend. He wants a welcoming gay and lesbian community that isn’t rife with high school bitchiness, namecalling and judgmental attitudes. Yes, Bitton is 19. But is he “just” an idealist, or is he a visionary? He makes the point that most people in this community grew up in the LDS culture. Where did the compassion and circling-the-wagons mentality go? When a fellow member of our community finds that he or she has contracted HIV, we as a community should be funneling our strength to help him or her survive — financially, emotionally, physically. When one of us has his face bashed in by a ’phobe, we should be more concerned about the victim’s welfare than an angry sound bite on the evening news. When a friend finds himself addicted to a drug, we should make ourselves available to help, not to judge. While driving to the liquor store yesterday for my vitamins, I saw a woman get hit by a car as she was crossing the street. I pulled over and ran to her and found that about two dozen people came out of the woodwork to help out as well. That’s what Utahns do. That’s what any civilized, compassionate person should do. That is not the story I’m hearing from many people within our community. How do we change that? How do we evolve as a community to do the things we should do as individuals? That is your assignment for the next week. Develop ideas and send them to me at editor@qsaltlake.com. I’ll bring them up at my August 11 meeting and during my speech at the Rally for Equality on Aug. 13. And, yes, the next issue is about happy stuff — unicorns and rainbows. Or our pets. One of those. Until then. Q

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NJ Supremes Reject Marriage Case
In a 3-3 vote, New Jersey’s Supreme Court rejected a same-sex marriage case July 26, saying it needs to be dealt with in a lower court first. Lambda Legal’s motion claimed that New Jersey’s civil-union law for same-sex couples violates a 2006 state Supreme Court ruling that ordered the state to treat gay and straight couples the same. The civil-union law was the eventual outcome of that ruling. “Because of the Legislature’s inability to act and the Supreme Court’s decision today, New Jersey continues in a caste system where an entire people are thrown aside into a profoundly inferior status, spit on, dumped on, utterly degraded, by hospitals and employers who mock the term ‘civil union,’” said Steven Goldstein, chair of Garden State Equality. Lambda Legal said it was “terribly disappointed” by the decision. “Our plaintiffs and the New Jersey Legislature’s own Civil Union Review Commission documented the rampant discrimination same-sex couples face as a consequence of civil union status, and this ruling now relegates our plaintiffs to second-class citizenship for even longer,” said Deputy Legal Director Hayley Gorenberg. “Separating out one group and relegating the people in it to a lesser status, in this case to civil unions in New Jersey, invites discrimination from all quarters — the government, businesses, schools, medical providers, individuals.”

Quips & Quotes
It’s just heroically hard to do everything the average Mormon believes he or she is supposed to do in the course of a day. If you throw being gay right on top of that it really amplifies the challenges. As someone else said better than I could: ‘gays interrupt the Mormon plan for heaven.’” —George Cole, assistant executive director of Affirmation Gay and Lesbian Mormons, commenting on recent suicides of gay Utah men He’s been dead a year and still doesn’t have a headstone. At his funeral his parents said ‘We just feel he’s better off.’ How can any parent say that? I just don’t know.” —Allison Black, founder of Ogden’s PFLAG chapter, telling the Ogden Standard-Examiner about a young gay man she knew who killed himself when his LDS family rejected him The gay community has lost three friends in three weeks and I know of at least three others from this year. It saddened me as I stopped to talk to younger kids ranging in ages from 19 to 27, if they knew of the resources available to them when they felt they had reached the end of their rope. On a whole, the answer was no.” —Local drag personality Princess Kennedy, in In Utah This Week As a survivor of depression and a gay LDS man, I am here to tell all of you that ‘gay’ is not at the root of these deaths; depression is. Depression is a deadly disease and I admire those who survive it as well as those who make their best effort before putting an end to their life.” —Commenter “Dan” to an LGBTQNation article about Ransom. Todd attempted suicide previously and we know from that experience that his manic depression was a constant thorn in his side and that there were other factors that influenced his suicide. Todd didn’t always agree with us or want to share his life with us, but he was loved by us. That is the undeniable truth.” —Ransom’s family in a post to the memorial website ToddRansom.org
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Sonoma County, Calif. couple Harold Scull (left) and Clay Greene in one of few remaining photographs left in existence.
Sonoma County to demand more oversight of the Public Guardian’s office. They need to be watched.” Plaintiff Janette Biggerstaff, the executor of Scull’s estate, said the domestic-abuse allegations amounted to “the county spreading such terrible lies about Clay.” The lawsuit alleged elder abuse, elder financial abuse, breach of fiduciary duty, intentional and negligent infliction of emotional distress and false imprisonment, among other things. “Harold and Clay may have seen each other, by happenstance, once or at most twice before Harold died — not in the context of being able to see each other privately or in response to either’s requests, but on one or possibly two brief random public encounters in the presence of county personnel,” said NCLR Legal Director Shannon Minter. The cats’ situation ended badly as well. “County officials drove up to Clay’s home one day and took the cats away, over his anguished protests, without explaining to him what they were doing or where they were taking them,” Minter said. “It was completely traumatizing for him, and he still talks about it almost daily. The cats were taken by county officials to Harold at (the) Hill House (nursing facility), where one cat died shortly afterwards because of the trauma of the move, and the other cat ‘ran away’ and was never seen again shortly after Harold died. So, the short answer is that both cats were sadly lost as a result of the county’s callous actions.” Minter said he wasn’t sure if Scull had been allowed to keep the cats in his room at the nursing home or if they lived elsewhere at the facility.

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Anti-gay Arizona Law Blocked
Lambda Legal won a preliminary injunction July 23 stopping Arizona from revoking domestic-partner benefits for state employees. U.S. District Judge John W. Sedwick ruled: “(T)here is ‘an inherent inequality’ in allowing some employees to participate fully in the State’s health plan, while expecting other employees to rely on other sources, such as private insurance or Medicaid. ‘This back of the bus’ treatment relegates plaintiffs to a secondclass status by imposing inferior workplace treatment on them, inflicting serious constitutional and dignitary harms that after-thefact damages cannot adequately address.” Arizona lawmakers eliminated health care for gay state employees’ partners in a budget bill signed by Gov. Jan Brewer last September. Lambda represents 10 state employees whose partners need the benefits.


County Pays $600,000 in Gay Couple Case
Sonoma County, Calif., will pay $600,000 to settle a lawsuit with Clay Greene and the estate of his late longtime partner, Harold Scull. According to the National Center for Lesbian Rights, in 2008, after Scull suffered a fall, the county separated the Sebastopol couple, canceled their lease, auctioned their possessions, took their cats, ignored their mutual power-of-attorney documents, forced them into separate nursing homes, and never let the two men see each other alone again. Scull died in August 2008. The county said settling the case was the cheaper option for disposing of the matter and that officials’ actions had been based in part on concerns that there was domestic abuse in the relationship. “What Clay and Harold lost can never be replaced, but this settlement brings a measure of justice to their story,” said NCLR staff attorney Amy Todd-Gher. “Even as we celebrate this victory, however, we are deeply troubled that the County of Sonoma continues to refuse to take responsibility for their egregious misconduct and violations of the law in this case. We urge every citizen of


Gay Couples Sue Montana
Seven gay couples filed suit against the state of Montana on July 22 seeking legal recognition of their relationships and charging violations of the state constitution’s guarantees of equal protection, due process, privacy, dignity and pursuit of life’s basic necessities. Since Montana’s constitution bans samesex marriage, the couples want the state to implement a marriage-like domestic-partnership law as several other states have done. “It’s unfair for same-sex couples who have made commitments and formed families to be treated by the state like legal strangers,” said Betsy Griffing of the American Civil Liberties Union of Montana, which is helping with the case.


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Utah’s Gay Community Reels from Recent Suicides
Michael Aaron

them at odds with their conscience and beliefs. “Todd was very hurt when his parents felt that they could not attend his commitment ceremony with Jake Jacquez, his partner of eight years, however he and Jake were both welcome in our home.”

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A series of young gay men committing suicide in recent weeks has members of Utah’s gay community reeling and wondering what, if anything, they could have done to possibly have stopped them. David Standley, 21 of Ogden, took his life on June 30. Weber State University student Tim Tilley, 20, killed himself on July 11. Todd Ransom, of Salt Lake, killed himself in Battle Creek Canyon on July 19, a week after his 28th birthday. Reactions from the community were raw and harsh, blaming everyone from the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to the gay community to the suicide victims and their families. On July 15, gay Ogden activist and frequent QSaltLake contributor Turner Bitton wrote an OpEd piece, calling Standley and Tilley “leaders” and “beautiful individuals.” “The assassination of these beautiful souls was not carried out by one man but at their own hand. With one final act of self expression these two individuals charged forward with dignity and gave their life for the cause that they so nobly fought for,” he wrote. He called upon members of the community to “raise your voice loudly by stating that you are who you are and that ‘I am equal.’” Within hours of Ransom’s body being found, Salt Lake activist Eric Ethington wrote on his blog, “Another life has been lost to the hatred, bigotry and prejudice of the Mormon Church.” “I don’t want to elaborate here much, dear readers. Let me simply say that I place full blame on the Mormon Church and their intense bigotry and persecution of people like Todd,” he continued. The next day, Ethington called for a candlelight vigil on the Utah State Capitol grounds. Over 200 people attended, including Ransom’s friends and family. This writer’s reaction was a bit more personal. “I just want to scream and cry and rant and soapbox and tell people how hateful they are to their friends and family for being so damned selfish to do this. But I don’t. And I just did,” I wrote in my “First Person” editorial. “I’m angry, I’m hurt. I feel guilty. I hate myself; I hate my communities; I hate my god.” “Another Prince in Zion died recently of the disease of self-pity and victimization,” wrote Confessions of a Mormon Boy actor Stephen Fales. “But I’m angry at the reaction. What did they do here in Utah? They held a candlelight vigil in his honor up at the Utah State Capital [sic]. His death is being used as a political weapon. An opportunity to create an enemy. Rubbish.” The suicides caught the attention of 8: The Mormon Proposition director Reed Cowan, for which Ransom had signed up to be interviewed but left before it was his turn before the camera. “In Mormon culture, when one of these kids commits suicide, you never know at first if he’s gay because his sexual orientation won’t be in the obituary and families will sweep it under the rug,” he said. “But you hear from friends that he is gay and that’s why he killed himself.” Cowan urged gay Mormons, “until the message changes, people should stop going to the church. It’s not healthy for them, so stop going ... It’s time for the exodus. Get out. It’s a deadly message.” “There is a body count to the bigotry. It’s real,” he finished. Statistics are often thrown around about the issue of suicide in Utah. Often they are hyperbole, though the issue is recognized by the state government, which organized the Utah Suicide Prevention Plan, on which Utah Pride Center Executive Director Valerie Larabee sits. No statistics exist that show the problem of suicide among gay and lesbian Utahns be-

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Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken at the Salt Lake City Council meeting where the first pHoTo: DaviD DaniELS nondiscrimination ordinances were passed.

Fight for Nondiscrimination Ordinances Continues
Moab, Cedar City and Torrey are just a few of several Utah municipal governments now considering ordinances that would ban housing and job discrimination against gay and transgender residents, according to statewide gay and transgender rights group Equality Utah. At press time, Taylorsville is poised to become the seventh Utah municipal government to bar housing and employment discrimination against gay and transgender citizens. The city council has scheduled a public input meeting on the ordinances for Aug. 4. Although the council discussed the ordinances this spring, they had to wait for a citizens’ committee to review the proposed laws before acting. Salt Lake City began the trend last fall, when its city council unanimously approved two separate ordinances prohibiting discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity. Along with the capital, Utah governments with ordinances on the books are Salt Lake County, Park City, Logan, West Valley City and Summit County. The laws impose a fine ranging from a few hundred to $1,000 per violation, and exempt landlords renting four or fewer units and businesses with fewer than 15 employees or that are religiously owned. Equality Utah Executive Director Brandie Balken said that talks are in progress with several Southern Utah municipalities, including Grand County, Cedar City and gay-friendly Torrey, which hosted the nowdefunct Southern Utah Pride Festival and is home to the Women’s Redrock Music Festival, a Utah Pride Center-sponsored program held annually in August. “I’ve met with councilmembers and the mayor and now I’m presenting to the council to take [the ordinances] under advisement,” said Balken of Moab’s local government. “They’ve responded very well.” As more Northern Utah governments warm to the ordinances, Balken said that Equality Utah will be concentrating its efforts in the south of the state. “We don’t want this [these protections] to be concentrated in one area. We want to work with communities across the state,” said Balken. “In the last six weeks we’ve been reaching out to people in Southern Utah and getting those conversations rolling so we don’t have everything right along the Wasatch Front.” “Our population isn’t just in Northern Utah,” she added. Balken stressed that efforts to pass ordinances were also happening in the western and eastern parts of the state, in cities such as Price and Tooele — though, she added, residents have been leading the charge there. “One of the things that’s occurred now is I’m getting residents calling me from areas, and I feel, as opposed to this outside force coming in, when residents call me I know we’ve got the constituents’ support,” she said. “We have people who really want to engage in this conversation; talking to their mayors, their councilmembers, their neighbors.” Conversations are also continuing in Ogden, Weber County, Midvale, Murray, Holladay and Sandy, “though these are all kind of in process,” Balken added. The group has even talked to the mayors of staunchly conservative Provo and Orem at the behest of “residents calling us.” “The conversations were very respectful and I think the mayors wanted to be clear about the culture of their municipalities,” she said. “We had the opportunity to sit down and show them the ordinances and describe what protections they’d provide for their residents and the importance of those protections. We let them know we’d continue to reach out to their residents and to businessowners and people on the councils. They were more than willing to listen and they were gracious hosts.” “I think sometimes this is the first time people have engaged in conversations about LGBT people, and it’s important to create open space to have that first conversation,” Balken said. “I think sometimes we may misinterpret people’s actions; the first time we’re approached with something it takes thought. [It’s] giving people the access to language to talk about things they haven’t before.” Q

Taste of Square Dancing
Temple Squares, Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender square dancing group, will hold a free evening of square dancing for beginners this August. The group teaches “gender neutral” dancing (meaning that people can dance in any position) set to pop music. It is open to singles, couples and groups of friends of any sexual orientation or gender identity. Later in the evening, caller Ross Lopton will teach lessons in more advanced square dancing. When: Aug. 14, 7–9 p.m. Where: The Columbus Center, 2498 S. 500 East info: slcsquaredancing.org

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Family members of Ransom and Standley tell the gay community not to jump so quickly to the causes of Tim Tilley, David Standley and Todd Ransom their deaths. “David was loved and accepted by everyone cause no such data is collected. But the numwho knew him, regardless of his sexuality,” bers do show that there is a severe problem wrote Standley’s mother DeAnn Gallegos- especially among Utah males. According to Standley in a letter to QSaltLake and a post on the Centers for Disease Control and PrevenSalty Gossip. “David had a very severe mental tion, suicide was the leading cause of death illness his entire life where he experienced in Utah men aged 35–44. depression that he was unable to overcome. But some activists throw out statistics sayHis biological father also committed suicide, ing that Utah has the highest suicide rate in the which increased his chances to 90 percent that nation, which is untrue. Utah actually ranks he would also do the same. David had the same 10th in suicide. Others have said that Utah mental illness as his biological father and his has the highest teenage suicide rate. Numbers biological father’s father.” from the CDC show Utah has a large problem “Some people have said that Todd ended his with teenage suicide, but not the highest in the life because he was gay or felt persecuted by nation. Alaska is actually the state that leads the LDS Church and his family, but this is not on both of those statistics, followed by Nevada. true,” a family member wrote on a tribute web Where Utah does rate very high — in fact site dedicated to him. “We loved him uncondithe highest — is depression and the prescribtionally. We were always there for him. Todd ing of anti-depressants. In fact, Utahns are attempted suicide previously and we know prescribed twice the national average of antifrom that experience that his manic depresdepressant drugs. sion was a constant thorn in his side and that Perhaps this can help explain the higher suithere were other factors that influenced his cide rates than the rest of the nation. suicide. Todd didn’t always agree with us or Regardless, the issue of gay suicides is a want to share his life with us, but he was loved high priority of leaders of Utah’s gay commuby us. That is the undeniable truth. Ransom’s tribute site did shed some light at nity. The topic will be addressed in a monthly the conflict the family had with his sexuality. meeting of many of those leaders on August 11. In the meantime, friends and family of “Our lives changed when Todd announced to his family in 2001 that he was gay. Thus Standley, Tilley and Ransom are searching began the difficult dance that takes place be- their hearts and minds for answers. “I know it’s a little late, but I wish you tween a faithful Mormon family and a muchwould’ve given me another chance to change loved son and brother who chooses to live a your mind,” wrote Ransom’s partner of eight gay lifestyle. “It was difficult for his parents to publicly years, Jake Jacquez. “I didn’t think I had to acknowledge his homosexuality, and this hurt worry about you any more — I thought you Todd in ways that his parents did not intend. were managing. Instead you were hiding — On the other hand, in spite of his upbringing everything. I’m sorry you didn’t trust me to in the LDS Church, Todd insisted that family call that night or any night for the past several members affirm his sexuality in ways that put months.” Q

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Annual Sunstone Symposium to Present Gay Panels
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Rally for Equality to Build a Better Community
In the wake of the suicides of three young gay Utah men, a local member of the gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community is putting together a rally to address ways of keeping families with gay and transgender members together. Prompted by the July suicide of Todd Ransom as well as “the realization that one of my friends is going to pass away from Lou Gehrig Disease,” Turner Bitton has scheduled the “Rally for Equality” for Aug. 13, 6 p.m., on the south lawn of the State Capitol Building. At press time, the speakers for the event included Bitton, QSaltLake publisher and editor-in-chief Michael Aaron and Alison ers as Devices (Key Change-Agents) Used toBlack, president of Ogden’s PFLAG chapter. Reduce the Toxicity of LDS LGBT Inertia.” “I’ll be talking about the direction our Here, actor Charles Lynn Frost will discusscommunity needs to head, focusing on the insights he has gained into LDS familiesthings like nondiscrimination ordinances, with gay children in the years he has per-gay-straight alliances in high schools, things formed as Sister Dottie S. Dixon, a characterlike that that protect our community and who is a Mormon mother with a gay son. Inbuild our community,” said Bitton, adding the second presentation, “Coming Out Mor-that he thinks a big part of community buildmon Style: Three Recent Plays, One by Me,”ing is creating a support network for gay, lesplaywright Eric Samuelsen will discuss re-bian, bisexual and transgender youth. cent “coming out plays” with LDS themes. Black, said Bitton will speak about how Sister Dottie will also appear in a special“she’s been able to draw parallels between one-night performance Aug. 5 with Mr. De-two lives and reconcile” her membership in ity, the star of a humorous webcast aboutthe LDS Church (where she serves as a Prithe life of the ruler of the universe and themary teacher) and with loving and affirmtroubles of running the cosmos. Mr. Deity ising her gay son, who works for Equality New played by Brian Keith Dalton. Q York. “She’s going to be speaking on the role of mothers and how being a mother as well as a member of church shaped her to where she could accept her son,” he said. “It’s a story you don’t hear all too often because we like to criticize the LDS Church, and while there needs to be public debate spite or food break. Several communitywith the church, there also needs to be priorganizations are planning to have sched-vate conversations that take place between uled picnics in the terrace. Outside foodthe LDS Church and us.” and drink is allowed in the pavilion area Aaron, he added, will speak about “being only. The Maple Terrace will also be the venue for the annual group photo at 4 p.m. The official after party will be held at Club Try-Angles. The bar will be closed until 6:00 p.m. to allow the staff to enjoy the day at the amusement park. Official T-shirts, in sizes ranging from small to XL, are available at the QSaltLake offices, 1055 East 2100 South, Ste 206, for a $5 donation to the QCares Foundation. Discount coupons, good for up to eight people, are available at Cahoots, Club Try-Angles, Off Trax and the QSaltLake offices. Coupons will get each person in the park for $34.36 plus tax — a savings of over $8. As with Gay Days at Disney and other theme parks around the country, the Lagoon Corporation is merely the venue to the day and does not sponsor or endorse it. informed and actively fighting apathy.” Aaron’s July 22 editorial column in QSaltLake urged readers and the community at large to reach out to those struggling with suicidal thoughts. Bitton, who is a former member of the LDS Church, also stressed that straight Mormons can be allies in the struggle for gay and transgender rights. “If you look at LDS history, they’ve had close to 200 years of discrimination against them,” he said. “If we can build on these two heritages — the fact we’re discriminated against and at one point they were — we can draw some similarities from these instances of discrimination and prejudice.” As a former Mormon, Bitton also said he had seen the church take care of its members. When his uncle died in 2009, he said that ward members “comforted his widow, provided house payments and food and the ward came together to support their own.” “In many ways we don’t often support our own,” he said. “If we draw on the lessons from the LDS Church we can learn something.” Like Aaron, Bitton said that he also wants to see local gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people reach out to one another and support programs that support the community. “The [Utah] Pride Center is a perfect example of what I want to see happening in our community, but it’s only as good as its most active members, and unfortunately we have people who believe that the Pride Center doesn’t serve a purpose, or that activities like FAYME [For Active Young Men Everywhere, the Center’s group for gay and bisexual young men] don’t do anything for our community. But in many ways they teach us how to be healthy members of the community.” Q

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Once again, several papers, panels and presentations about gay and lesbian Mormons will be part of the Sunstone Symposium, an annual event that explores the complexities of LDS history, religion, culture, art and politics on what its parent organization calls “free and frank” terms. Themed “Reflecting on a Mature Faith,” this year’s symposium will be held, as in years past, at the Sheraton Salt Lake City Hotel, 150 W. 500 South, Aug. 4–7. The first gay-themed panel will be held Aug. 6, 10–11 a.m. Rev. Dr. C. Welton Gaddy of Monroe, Louisiana’s Northminster Church will present the paper “Same-Gender Marriage & Religious Freedom: A Call to Quiet Conversations and Public Debates” about the ways in which society can shift the debate over gay marriage from “a scriptural argument to a religious liberty agreement,” which includes the promise of equal rights under the U.S. Constitution. Later, from 2:15–3:15 p.m. Sunstone Magazine news editor Hugo Olaiz will moderate a panel on responses to 8: The Mormon Proposition, Reed Cowan’s controversial documentary about the LDS Church’s role in passing California’s Proposition 8, which re-banned same-sex marriage in the state. Here, panelists Laura Crompton of MormonsForMarriage.org and author Robert E. Rees (No More Strangers and Foreigners: A

Christian Mormon Response to Homosexuality) will discuss the film’s strengths and weaknesses, and its influence on same-sex marriage debates as well as the church’s behavior towards gay and lesbian members. On Aug. 7, John D. Gustav-Wrathall, a University of Minnesota history professor, will present a paper titled “Church, Priesthood, and the Gay/Lesbian Journey Toward Spiritual Maturity” as one of three papers presented between 8:45 and 9:45 a.m. This paper will examine the division between gay and lesbian Mormons who have left the church “via inactivity, excommunication, or suicide” and the “minority” who have remained and “subordinated their need for satisfying relational intimacy to Church law” which prohibits gay sex. Gustav-Wrathall will argue that the path to spiritual growth for gay and lesbian Mormons lies in engaging with tensions such as these. During the day’s 11:15 a.m.–12:45 p.m. session, a trio of papers will be presented as part of The Gay Mormon Literature Project: Johnny Townsend’s “The Chosen Family in Gay Mormon Literature,” about the families gay Mormons create when blood relatives reject them; Alan Michael Williams’ “Two Paradigms for ‘Gay,’” a comparison of his Ockham’s Razor and Jonathan Langford’s No Going Back, both novels on gay Mormon themes; and “The Family in Latter Days,”

by Gay Mormon Literature Project founder Gerald S. Argentsinger, which is a study of the popular gay movie Latter Days. The short film Two Loves: Documenting Gay Mormons’ Stories will be screened from 3:30–4:30 p.m. This is a 25-minute documentary featuring interviews with gay Mormons who have left the church, remained in the church, and with author Carol Lynn Pearson, the ex-wife of a gay Mormon man who has written several books about the church’s treatment of gays and lesbians. English literature and film student Michelle Ripplinger will present. Following directly at 4:45 will be the panel “Gay and Mormon on the Stage and Screen.” This will include the talk “Mormon Moth-

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QSaltLake Day at Lagoon Expected to Be Largest Ever
“I’m here for the hottie convention,” was on about a dozen of the hundreds of red T-shirts donned by lesbians, gay men and friends at last year’s annual Q Lagoon Day. Indeed, many park regulars wondered if there is a convention of sorts as the park is awash in red. This year, says QSaltLake editor Michael Aaron, looks to be shaping up to be the largest turnout ever. “Last year, we believe we had over a thousand people join us at Lagoon Day,” said Aaron. “The buzz this year is at a much higher squeal.” Usually held on the third Sunday in August, Aaron chose to move the day off of the KUTV 2-for-1 day. “While it was fun to be in a huge crowd and save a few extra bucks, it was also nearly impossible to get on rides,” explained Aaron. Sunday, Aug. 8 is the big day, beginning at 11:00 a.m. The Maple Terrace, north of Lagoon-A Beach and next to the Jumping Dragon ride, is available all day for a rePHOTO: BRIAN GORDON


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Park Silly Sunday Farmer’s Market welcomes and celebrates Utah’s diverse gay and lesbian community during the first annual Gay Day at Park Silly Sunday, Aug. 15, 10 a.m. to 5 p.m. QSaltLake will have a large presence at the Sunday market offering ticket giveaways, a Miss Park Silly Contest, and the tastes of Chef Drew Ellsworth at the featured chef booth and as he makes a presentation from the main stage. ‘Paint Park City Pink’ is the theme for the third Sunday in August as the Park Silly Sunday Market will be decorated with rainbow flags, colored balloons, and table cloths. Local gay and lesbian non-profit organizations will have a chance to present their programs and campaigns to Park Silly Sunday attendees. Nova Starr will host the 1st Annual Miss Park Silly Contest from the main stage from 1–2 p.m. as contestants will present and compete in an evening gown competition, dance-off competition, and a question and answer interview. Park City elite will judge the festivities and audience participation will play a large role in choosing the winner. The Miss Park Silly Contest is open to anyone regardless of sexual orientation or gender, and contestants are reminded that it is a ‘G’-rated entertainment contest, where creativity and cleverness is encouraged. Prizes and a Miss Park Silly sash will be presented to the winner. Chef Drew Ellsworth, from Ecole Dijon Cooking School and QSaltLake’s culinary and wine reviewer, will present cooking and catering tips from the featured chef booth near the main stage, along with sample slices of Chef Drew’s gourmet truffles. From 3 to 4 p.m., Chef Drew will take the main stage and prepare a summer barbequed duck entree offering samples and ideas for sides and wine pairings. This is the fourth summer for Park Silly Sunday Market but the first year the nonprofit organization will actively honor Utah’s gay and lesbian community with participation and recognition. The market features local arts and craft booths, produce from local farmers, cheese, pastry, and specialty food product booths, as well as bands and vocal entertainment, local arts organizations, non-profit booths, and the weekly featured chef demonstration and presentations. Park Silly has activities for children, a free bike valet, and most Park City businesses, restaurants, and art galleries are open. The market bills itself as an ecofriendly, open air market and street festival, with a goal to recycle as much of the waste as possible. The Park Silly Sunday Market is located

So You Think You Can Dance introduced traditional Tahitian dance to the country at large this summer, when Arizona contestant Lauren Froderman performed one of these dances on the hit program. But before that, Polynesian dance and music have been kept alive as an art form and a competitive dance style by Polynesian artists throughout the world. Locally, Jimmy Jay Tonga has created the Tagaloa Dance Troupe and is bringing his expertise in Tahitian dance and music to Utahns of all ages who might want to learn about the dance, its storytelling traditions and its music. “My brother, sister-in-law and I were the main group leaders of an award-winning Tahitian dance troupe in Southern California,” said Tonga. “When we came to Utah we looked for a dance group to join, but didn’t find one with the level of commitment and discipline we were so used to back in SoCal. So we decided to start a brand new dance troupe with a few other friends and create the group that we knew we could be proud of and hopefully raise the bar of commitment, structure here in Utah.” The Tagaloa Dance Troupe meets in a Taylorsville studio and classes are available for men, women and children. The classes offer an opportunity to learn about the history of the culture and its songs and dances that have been passed down from generation to generation. “But be warned, this type of dance isn’t for the faint of heart ... physically and sexually.” explained Tonga, referring to the rapid hip movements and sensual swaying in some of the dances, as well as traditional costumes that present female dancers in bikini tops and hula skirts. Men usually wear a hula skirt, which are made of straw, leaves and other organic greens. “Tahitian dance is from the island of Tahiti and it is a series of movements that were created by the Tahitians to tell stories of legends, wars and to entice a possible suitor,” Tonga added. “I teach as much of the history of on lower Main Street, behind the Kimball the movements of the dances that have been taught to me. Art Center, encompassing the town lift I’ve researched, learned songs, and listened to the tupuna plaza, and another section on upper Main [elders] about the history and meanings of our culture.” Street in the parking lot of the Park City Historians believe that Southern Asian explorers miPost Office. Parking is available on upper grated to the Pacific Islands located south of Hawaii and Main Street, along Park Avenue, and in northeast of New Zealand as early as 4000 BC, establishpublic parking areas. Free buses still run ing island colonies and kingdoms. Beginning in the 1500s, in Park City and can carry bikes. Taxi both French and English explorers attempted to claim vans are available to pick up bikes and any heavier loads purchased at the market, if a ride in a vehicle is needed. The weather in Park City is about 10 degrees cooler than the city of Salt Lake but during the summer, it is still very hot, so sunscreen and plenty of liquids are suggested. Occasional summer rain storms occur. Join in the festivities of the day and remember to paint Park City pink as Park Silly Sunday presents Gay Day. Park Silly Sunday Market is 10 a.m–5 p.m. on Sundays until Sept. 27. Gay Day at Park Silly Sunday Market is Sunday, Aug. 15, all day. For more information, visit parksillysundaymarket.com or the Park Silly Sunday Market office at 2210 Monarch Drive, Park City, or call 435-655-0994. Contestants interested in competing in the Miss Park Silly Contest can call QSaltLake at 801-649-6663.

specific islands for their own, and continued the rivalry of the mostly peaceful island people until Queen Pomare accepted French protection of Tahiti and Moorea, another island close by, in 1847. In 1957 all of the islands of Tahiti were reconstituted as a French territory, called French Polynesia, and in 1998, French Polynesia began to self govern with a president and an assembly. In the early 1800s, when English missionaries entrenched themselves in the culture of the islands, all traditional dance, song and entertainment were banned, as the English found traditional Tahitian dances provocative and offensive. Not until the beginning of the 20th century did French authorities authorize dancing to celebrate the taking of the Bastille. Shortly after that, dancing became part of all official Tahitian festivities. The dance (which include male-only, female-only and mixed) tells stories about Polynesian history, including how the gods formed the world, historic seductions, war and the arrival of visitors to the islands. The dance also conveys specific messages to a watching audience in a language created by the moves and hand positions. Some Tahitian dance also includes fire and acrobatics to enhance the story. “I was born and raised in the South Bay of Los Angeles in the city of Carson,” said Tonga, 37, and was raised LDS. “I came out in 2000 to my father, who in turn kicked me back in and told me that he would find help for me. I was in reparative therapy during that time and I met several men who I became very close with but gave up the therapy in 2004 and came back out.” Tonga’s late mother was of Samoan and European descent while his father is Tongan. He moved to Utah in 2006, joining his brother and sister-in-law, and graduated from the Utah College of Massage Therapy last October. Tonga is also an accomplished drummer and arranger of Tahitian music. “Our drums and drumming style are very different from other countries,” he explained. “They are hollowed out logs of the rosewood tree, which is called Milo in our language. This log drum is called a To’ere, the bass drum, Tari Parau, and the snare drum, Fa’atete, and is made from the same wood covered in shark or calf skin.” The drumming style depicts specific dances, with fast-

er paced drumming accompanying war or creation story lines and slower beats depicting sensuality and love. “I have competed with my old dance troupe Hitia O Te Ra in the San Jose Tahiti Fete, the Heiva i Honolulu twice and even the Fano Maohi competition here in Utah,” said Tonga. “In all competitions, we received first place honors, particularly with the music I arranged and for me being the best Ra’atira [storyteller].” The largest gathering of Tahitian dance and celebration is on the island of Tahiti each July. For 122 years, the annual Heiva Festival is celebrated, bringing tourists and locals from all of the Polynesian islands to a grand festival that features handmade crafts from artisans from each island, participation of island locals in ancient sporting events, and recreations of dance performances — as well as dance competitions. “I was so happy to see my Polynesian culture portrayed in such a way,” said Tonga, referring to the So You Think You Can Dance performance. “Te Au I Te Po [day and night] was beautifully portrayed by dancers and the choreographer, who is my friend.” The Tagaloa Dance Troupe is just getting started with Tonga, his brother, and sister-in-law sharing teaching duties of specific classes and music. Classes have grown and more will be added as the business grows and word-ofmouth spreads among Utah dance enthusiasts. “We are currently working on our Facebook page Tagaloa so that all who would like to learn more can e-mail and ask questions about us,” said Tonga. “I get a sense of pride when I see these little 5-year-olds practicing their tamaus [hip sways] and when I speak of our people’s legends or when I sing our aparimas to each other because I know that my people’s legacy will live on.” Tonga hopes his students will appreciate the cultural dance and continue learning the art form so he will be able to produce competitive dancers for local, national and international Tahitian dance competitions. One day, one of his students may be competing on a level that may land them on a national television dance completion. Q

To learn more about classes with the Tagaloa Dance Troupe, contact Jimmy Jay Tonga on Facebook, call 310-400-4999, or e-mail jaymt73@gmail.com.

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❝❝What is the happiest
gay/lesbian thing that has happened/will happen in Utah this summer?

guest editorial
Salt Lake’s Gay Community Has Serious Issues
sought retreat at the MCC in Salt Lake. There I saw this “roommate” as the audio director. That same day, he gave a talk on “being open minded and accepting others.” What a huge slap in the face. Soon after he came to realize that I was harmless, but not before making me feel like I was a piece of shit. I struggled with my status, I also struggled because the community in Salt Lake is so intertwined. Last year, I chose to leave Salt Lake. I was tired of being known as somebody who was created by a community and not for who I really am. Suicide was on my mind for years. I thought it’d be easier to leave this world and not have to worry about being accepted. Last year I was hospitalized because I wasn’t on medications. I spent four days

Suicide was on my mind for years
at the University Hospital battling pneumonia. I couldn’t get medications because the Utah AIDS Foundation constantly lost the paperwork needed for the Health Department and the Ryan White Program. I spent countless hours searching for taxes, bank statements and pay stubs. The UAF lost most of my paperwork, leaving me to have to take time off work to try to get help with meds. That all failed when I was admitted to the hospital. Four days, and many antibiotics and shots later, I was starting to make a recovery. Upon checking out of the hospital, I was told to call and make an appointment with the doctor to get me started on HIV meds. The next day I called and was told there were no openings for six months. So, I told myself that I’d try to stay healthy until I could leave in August.

David Suffered from Depression
Editor, I am David Standley’s mother. I just want everyone to know that David did not take his life due to any conflict with his sexuality [“Raise Your Voice, I Am Equal,” Turner Bitton, QSaltLake, July 22, 2010]. David was loved and accepted by everyone who knew him, regardless of his sexuality. David had a very severe mental illness his entire life where he experienced depression that he was unable to overcome. His biological father also committed suicide, which increased his chances to 90 percent that he would also do the same. David had the same mental illness as his biological father and his biological father’s father. We tried everything we could to help David, including hospitals, medication and therapy, but in the end it wasn’t enough to help him. I appreciate the hand you are extending to those in pain and hope that someone’s life can be saved through reading David’s story. I have always supported David and all of his gay and lesbian friends that I know. I know about the struggles you all face and I hope, someday, everyone will be loving and accepting of everyone regardless of their sexuality. I would also be willing to talk to anyone who may be having prob-

lems or feel like they do not have anyone to turn to. You are loved; you just need to reach out. DeAnn Gallegos-Standley Ogden

Best Defense is Complete Defense
Editor, Utah gay-group leaders and government workers have repeated the script of the advantages of preventing and prosecuting crimes against gay people (“Town Hall Survey and Meeting Discuss Gay, Transgender Safety,” QSaltLake, July 22, 2010). Prevention helps us avoid and discourage criminals before they commit their crimes, and prosecution helps us punish criminals after they commit their crimes. But, the script failed to advise us about what we can do to stop criminals at the moment they commit their crimes. Stonewall Shooting Sports of Utah promotes the idea that prevention and pros-

ecution alone are meaningless in stopping criminals unless people are also informed and armed to defend themselves and to stop criminals when they commit their crimes. Up to 2.5 million crimes a year in the United States are stopped with a firearm, according to The Journal of Criminal Law & Criminology published in 1995 by the Northwestern University School of Law in Chicago. An individual is up to 2½ to 4 times more likely to avoid serious injury during a violent crime with a firearm than without one, according to the “National Crime Victimization Survey” published annually by U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics. Clearly, the best defense against crime is a complete defense. Offering only parts of the solution leaves people helpless at the moment that criminals commit their crimes. David nelson Stonewall Shooting Sports of Utah Salt Lake City

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Ann Kanrei by Adam Alder Clark I think that ven though i’ve been in WashingPride Festival as ton for almost a year, I’ve kept up a whole is the with the community in Salt Lake. most fun event The last few weeks have been very all summer sad. With the news of losing three people long, I just wish to acts of suicide because of ignorance there were other big events like and intolerance, [“By Our Own Hands,” this all year long. QSaltLake, Michael Aaron, July 22, 2010] I look back at my journey over the last Bradley s three years in Salt Lake. Hulett I have many issues with the gay comThe announcemunity of Salt Lake. First and foremost, ment of Lady Gaga’s concert I checked into the psych ward at the LDS Hospital back in May 2006 because I was next year? having serious issues with my antidepreshahaha sants and the fact that I am HIV-positive. I struggled because I was always known as “Adam Alder, your cousin told me about you” or “Ah, yea, you’re the one with HIV, Derek snarr Marty Hood and your cousin told me about you.” My cousin paved the way for me in Ryan Shattuck the community. I hated being known by made up, and those stereotypes. When I confronted him are friends on about it, he simply said, “people should twitter again.. know, I’m just protecting those I care about.” It was especially hard when trying to make friends and meet new people. Maureen I was soon outted at work about my staDuffy-Boose tus because a co-worker, who was friends All the places with my cousin, decided to gossip to my where, at long staff. Not long after, I left. last, non-disI feel like the Salt Lake’s gay communicrimination ty has some serious issues when it comes ordinances are to singling people out and using their being or may yet HIV status as a way to “protect others.” be passed. I started hanging out with a guy named Brady a few years back. Everything was Richard Cocks cool, we were never intimate or did anyI love Q Lagoon thing like kissing. We hugged a few times. Day — all those One night when he asked me to come Mallards with watch a movie with him, his roommate their huge, (who was also his ex) showed up and this sweaty bills; other guy who knew me because of my and they’re cousin. So, five minutes later, the roomoh-so aggresmate asked Brady to come upstairs to talk sive that it gives me rooster to him. Then Brady and I left. The roompimples, they’re the best ride in mate then called Brady and asked him to the park. come home, then asked to talk to me and said, “I don’t know who you are, or what Gail Turpin you are, but you need to bring Brady back Dottie as Grand home.” Marshall of the It was at that point my emotions sank. Pride Festival. This guy didn’t even know me and because a person told him about my status, he singled me out and threw me under the bus due to his own issues with people living with HIV. So the following Sunday I


I’ve been here in Washington for nearly a year. When I first got up here, I met with a case worker. They had me fill out an application for meds. I also met with my doctor. Three days later I started my new regimen; they also back-dated my medical billing to the first of August. They didn’t even hesitate. Since then, I’ve started volunteering at the Lifelong AIDS Foundation. It’s helped me tremendously to help other people who are going through the same thing I’ve been through. I’ve also met new, less judgemental friends. I’m glad I moved. I think if I had stayed, I probably would have died. I just wanted to get my story out there because I know there are other people in Salt Lake struggling for acceptance. I hope one day they can find peace. I know I did. Q

guest editorial Irate About ‘8: The Mormon Proposition’
by Todd Hess


recently saW a Well put together documentary titled 8: The Mormon Proposition. Though the movie pointed out true and factual information about the Mormon Church’s involvement with California’s Proposition 8, I found the reaction by those that watched it that night, including their energy, snickers, jeers and hurrahs, appalling. Bottom line, the Mormon Church did a damn good job of rallying its people to donate time and money. We can all agree on that. However, many people don’t like how they did it. Many say, “Why should people in Utah fight for an issue that is in California?” This baffles me. When I flew out to San Francisco to work in the ‘No on 8’ campaign office in Castro the weekend before the election, was I breaking some code? No, I went out there to fight with whatever I could so I might have the opportunity to marry some day; because I believed in what they were fighting for,

just like the Mormons did. I think that many people who are upset with the Mormon Church and their involvement in Prop 8 are those who did nothing. They sat back and watched it happen. I saw first hand the apathy in Castro those final days. Yes, there were hard-working people in the campaign office, putting in sleepless days after sleepless days to make sure people voted no on Prop 8; driven by the passion of wanting to have the same rights as others. These same people, I saw brokenhearted, downtrodden, and lifeless on election night in the San Francisco hotel ballroom that was meant to be a celebration. Many in California and around the country thought there would be an easy celebration too. They did nothing. They didn’t send in money to help fight for a cause they actually believed in. They didn’t make calls. They didn’t put in time. They did nothing. And they watched as

the results came in and we lost. Why? Because an organization rallied their people in a cause they believed in. Upon returning home to Salt Lake, after the election dust had fallen and been swept away, I received a text from a friend telling me about the protest in downtown and asked if I wanted to come. Though I have marched in many protests, I simply responded, “I used up all my energy fighting before the election, where it mattered most.” I am grateful for the movie, as it is a stark reminder that any organization or group of people can pool their resources and win a battle. The makers of the film and those portrayed in it tried. They put in countless hours and millions of dollars. They gave of their means and time to defeat Prop 8. They are entitled to speak out against the behemoth organization. Are you?

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by Troy Williams

snaps n slaps
SNAP: Rally for Equality
The suicides of several young gay Utah men have rocked our community this summer, raising persistent questions not only about the state’s alarmingly high suicide rate, but the disproportionate number of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender people who take their own lives. To help queer Utahns who are contemplating suicide, our community is doing what it does best: talking honestly about the subject , as Turner Bitton’s Rally for Equality will do later this month. As we go forward, however, we also need to seek solutions instead of placing blame squarely on the shoulders of the LDS Church. Even though its anti-gay rhetoric has hurt many queer Utahns, suicide is a complicated subject with roots not only in hostile religious rhetoric, but in things like substance abuse, trauma, poor emotional support networks and mental illness. No one person commits suicide for exactly the same reasons, which makes holding up any reason as the cause is wrong, and actually just as harmful. In order to stop suicides in the community, we need to look at all of the factors behind it.

the straight line
Privileging Marriage
by bob Henline

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n our queercentric universe it’s become standard to focus our political capital on issues that mainly impact the gay population. For example, instead of fighting for universal health care we’ve spent the past few years asking corporations to provide partner benefits for domestic partners. The argument goes to the incrementalist, who proclaims that we need to win little chunks before we win big. This logic has flaws. When health reform debates ignited across the nation, the national gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender rights organizations were nowhere to be heard. We were not organized in such a way that could have assisted proponents of single-payer and universal coverage. The battle was over and we were left with an arguably weak, industry-friendly bill that couldn’t even muster support for a public option. Millions of underemployed Americans (many of them queer) could have benefited from true health reform, but for now that moment is lost. In our decision to work exclusively on issues that only impact the queer population, we are missing opportunities to channel our activist energies into a true world changing force. We know that all issues are intimately interconnected. When feminists enjoy legislative victories, queers are elevated. When economic reforms that benefit the poor are won, queers everywhere benefit. But not all issues are equal. And in fact, there are many social justice causes that are — dare I say it — a greater priority than gay issues. Case in point: I contend that ending the wars in Iran and Afghanistan is a greater priority to the world than repealing Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. We should be under no illusion anymore as to our true motives for war. The U.S. invaded the Middle East, devastated Iraq’s infrastructure, eliminated their public sector, and sold off reconstruction as well as the country’s natural resources to multinational corporations. Our purpose was to remake their economy into a free-market, neo-liberal wonderland. Today, 64 percent of all Iraqi oil reserves have been sold off to multinational oil interests. Iraq’s tax and finance laws have been restructured to benefit U.S. interests. We’ve made Iraq our bitch. This is not a cause any soldier should die for. I say bring the troops home now and then let’s talk about ending our military’s discriminatory policies.

Second: Climate change is a greater priority than gay marriage. The oceans and earth are revolting against our constant exploitation. Over the past weeks new spills have emerged in the Gulf, China, Michigan and here in Salt Lake City. Temperatures are heating up. Species are vanishing. Our entire way of life may be lost. A gay bridal registry at Target is going to be useless on a scorched planet. As we work toward federal protections for gay families, let’s also focus on federal protections for Mother Earth. I’d

We know that all issues are intimately interconnected.
love to see a carbon-neutral green Pride Parade next year! Third: Fixing our economy is a greater priority than passing the Employee Nondiscrimination Act. Those paying attention recognize a coordinated assault to the successful New Deal programs begun under Franklin D. Roosevelt and advocated by queer economist John Maynard Keynes. The ascendancy of the Tea Party brings a familiar chorus that we’ve heard from Reagan to Bush: government is the problem. Cut social services, “starve the beast,” deregulate corporations and privatize every possible corner of the planet. The safety nets that have become so valuable to so many of the most vulnerable populations are in great jeopardy. This is why I have no patience for Log Cabin Republicans. I don’t care if you are gay; if you hail to the god of free market capitalism and are determined to undermine the very social programs that provide public education, HIV funding, libraries and social security, then we are not batting for the same team. If you tell me you’re “socially liberal, but fiscally conservative,” I will respond that you are willfully naïve to the plight of the poor and underprivileged. Passing ENDA will be a great triumph for everyone. But let’s also remember to preserve protections for those with no employment whatsoever. Fourth: Undocumented Latino immigrants are being terrorized by vigilante

groups, witch hunts and hostile legislation. They need our help. Arizona’s harsh laws (which Rep. Stephen Sandstrom wants to implement in Utah) will destroy more families than Proposition 8 ever could. It’s important to recognize the history of economic “free trade” policies that have contributed to this crisis. NAFTA and CAFTA devastated the economies of small farms in Mexico. Millions of farmers have been displaced from their land. Desperate to provide for their families, workers risk great peril to cross the border. And when they arrive, our free market is always ready to employ. We exploit them in our shops, enjoy the cheap labor they provide, and then sit back silent as they are vilified by pundits and politicians. Instead of challenging the policies that have exacerbated our immigration problem, Tea Party xenophobes and right wing militants have focused their attacks on people, families and communities. The same voices attacking undocumented Latinos also attack queer Americans. All of these issues are connected. Social justice is full spectrum. One cannot be isolated from the other. As Equality Utah and others begin their endorsement process we should consider not only where a candidate stands on queer rights, but also on broader social justice issues. Just because someone might be “with us” on some gay issues doesn’t mean that they are then ipso facto, good for the state or country. We mythologize Harvey Milk in gay culture. We laud his accomplishments but often we ignore what he did. Harvey Milk practiced full spectrum social justice. He worked with labor unions, ethnic communities, churches and the elderly. He learned what issues they were in need of, and then rallied the gay community on their behalf. And when queers were targeted by The Briggs Initiative, the other justice communities rallied to our defense. The only way we are going to win equality for queers is to fight for the emancipation of all oppressed people. When we stand in defense of the poor, the undocumented, the environment and those ravaged by war, we will find that our own allies will grow. We will finally have the numbers we need to mount a sustained resistance to the corporate oligarchy that is dividing and plundering our nation. We must imagine a world of justice greater than our own. And we must stand together. The world is anxious for us to act. Q Troy blogs at queergnosis.com.

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The Sunstone Education Foundation’s annual symposium is one of the best academic conferences in the state. Where else can you find half a dozen non-judgmental, non-condemning panels on gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender Mormons (and often other faiths!), the church’s treatment of gay and lesbian members, and even queerfriendly spirituality? Snaps to the foundation for never forgetting, as religious authorities of all backgrounds often do, that their congregations, synagogues, mosques and temples aren’t populated by straight, cisgender (non-transgender) worshippers.

n July 8, 2010, ruling on two separate cases, U.S. District Judge Joseph Tauro ruled that Section 3 of the Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional because it violates the right of the state of Massachusetts to define marriage. What is most interesting about this decision is, of course, the backlash from the religious right. Please someone, anyone, explain this statement by Archbishop Joseph E. Kurtz of Louisville, Ky. to me: “Marriage exists prior to the state and is not open to redefinition by the state. The role of the state, instead, is to respect and reinforce marriage.” So, marriage exists prior to the state, and is not open to redefinition by the state. If we take that at face value, then there should be no government definition of marriage, nor should there be any government support of it. This would, of course, include all the legal rights associated with marriage, such as inheritance, adoption, tax policy, etc. — right? If the state has no right to define (or redefine) marriage, then it’s a matter that should between two people and perhaps any religious authorities to which they choose to affiliate themselves. Now, for the second part. “The role of the state, instead, is to respect and reinforce marriage.” How does this make any sense at all? Is the archbishop actually saying that it is the role of government to support an institution that exists prior to the state, and one over which the state exercises no authority whatsoever? Really folks, you can’t have it both ways. America is a nation founded upon the principles that all of us are created equally, and are entitled to equal protection under the law. That means that no law of the this nation can discriminate against any segment of society, but that all apply equally to all citizens. Defining (and “reinforcing”) marriage as strictly between a man and a woman violates that premise. Kurtz made the same tired arguments that are made daily in support of bigoted definitions of marriage — arguments that have nothing real behind them. “The fabric of U.S. society depends on


Why does the state have a duty to ‘privilege uniquely’ a man and a woman who choose to marry?

the definition of marriage as remaining unchanged. Nothing compares to the exclusive and permanent union of husband and wife.” I’ve asked this question a few thousand times, and still have yet to receive an answer: How? How does defining marriage as between a man and a woman impact the fabric of U.S. society? Gays are not going to run out and marry someone of the opposite sex just because marriage is defined as one man and one woman. People are who they are; it is our role as citizens, and the state’s role, to respect the rights of all people to be who they are. The second part of his statement is even better, “the exclusive and permanent union” of husband and wife. Yes, we all know that officially the Catholic Church is opposed to divorce, but that doesn’t stop it from happening. Heterosexual couples divorce all the time, the definition of marriage notwithstanding. In addition to the divorce issue, there is also the issue of exclusivity. All one needs do is watch the news to see how well that is working out. How many of America’s marriage defenders have had their political careers destroyed by extramarital affairs? Kurtz concluded with: “The state has a duty to employ the civil law to reinforce — and, indeed, to privilege uniquely — this vital institution of society. The reasons to support marriage by law are countless, not least to protect the unique place of husbands and wives, the indispensible role of fathers and mothers and the rights of children, who are often the most vulnerable among us.” Why does the state have a duty to “privilege uniquely” a man and a woman who choose to marry? Why should those people have privileges denied to other couples that wish to marry, or to those who don’t? What are the “countless” reasons to support traditional marriage and to deny those rights to others in our society? Q Bob Henline is a straight man. Don’t hold that against him — he was born that way. He is also a professional author and editor and published a best-selling political manifesto entitled “Constitutional Inequality.” His blog can be read at nonpart.org.

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American stage as female impersonators can be traced back to Francis Leon or as he preferred to call himself, “The Only Leon.” Leon was born in 1844 and rose to fame in the 19th century by performing in minstrel shows. By the time Leon was 29, his influence was such that every major minstrel troop had its own “Leon” imitator and eventually even Vaudeville shows. Leon was said to have owned more than 300 dresses, which he refused to call “costumes.” Some of his gowns cost as much as $400. But he could afford it because by 1882, Leon was earning more than any other minstrel performer in America. The press loved him and raved, “Leon is the best male female actor known to the stage. He does it with such dignity, modesty, and refinement that it is truly art.” In 1864, Francis Leon formed his own minstrel troop with Edwin Kelly, who was probably his lover. The pair began to feature theatrical elements using elaborate scenery and refined songs from operas. In three years Kelly and Leon were even able to open their own theater company at Hope Chapel in New York City. But not all was well. Leon, who was considered girlish and even effeminate off stage, was being defamed by Tom Sharpe, the brother of Sam Sharply [aka Sharpe], another well-known performer who owned a rival minstrel troop. On December 11, 1867 Sam Sharply stopped the pair as they were leaving Hope Chapel and quarreled with Kelly and Leon in front of the theater. ell petals, the arizona immiAt one point Sam attempted to strike the gration law (SB 1070) has gone diminutive Leon, who the New York Times into effect and the round up of had reported weighed 100 pounds or less. wayward Canadians can now Sam chased Leon while Tom Sharpe and Edwin Kelly began to struggle. As soon asbegin. Now, I know what you’re thinking, Kelly was pulled from Tom, he fired a pistoldarlings: “But Ruby, this law is just about at Sharpe who fell to the ground. In a fit ofthe Mexicans.” But I beg to differ, and rage Kelly then shot twice at the man as hehere’s why. lay in the gutter. Sam, seeing his brother Arizona’s law enforcement agencies are lying dead, fired off a round at Kelly, graz-stuck between a rock and a hard place. On ing his head. Before Sam could get off an-one hand, they have to implement 1070 other shot a police officer seized him. Thewhich, despite protestations, was obvibody of Tom Sharpe was then taken intoously designed to target Latinos (seriously, the vestibule of the Hope Chapel Theaterhow many Norwegian Day Laborers are to await an ambulance to take it to the cityclogging the streets of Phoenix, thereby morgue. Edwin Kelly was arrested andnecessitating a massive rewrite of traffic after a sensational trial he was found notordinances?). But on the other hand, every media outlet, the Federal Government, imguilty due to self defense. Kelly and Leon performed in Vaudevillemigration activists from both sides of the houses across America for the next 10 yearsissue, and scores of civil liberties organizauntil 1878, when their company sailed fortions will be watching every police action Australia and opened at the Queen’s The-and police policy under a microscope, looking for grounds for litigation. That’s not a atre in Melbourne. During their first four place any police chief or officers would volweeks there they made $11,000. One memuntarily want to be in, and my empathetic ber of their troop was Thomas Dilverd, a heart goes out to them. three-foot, one-inch tall African-America But as a result of this hyper scrutiny, female impersonator, who billed himself there is going to be inordinate political as “Japanese Tommy.” He popularized the pressure to make the implementation expression ‘hunky dory’ in American culof this law look color-blind. And so, I am ture. guestimating that a white Canadian illegal Kelley and Leon ended their long reimmigrant will have a street arrest value lationship in Australia where Kelly reof about 200 Mexican illegal immigrants. mained and became lovers with a fellow It’s only a matter of time before handcuffed American actor named W.H. Leake. When and shackled Canadians are paraded in Kelly died in Adelaide in 1899, he was burfront of the media for an obligatory slowied in the same grave as Leake. motion perp walk of shame. Francis Leon’s career began to fade as he And knowing media whore and showreached middle age. In America he joinedboat Sheriff Joe Arpiao’s taste for the thethe famous Jack Haverley’s Mastodon Min-atrical, he will probably have Maple Leafs strels which had preformed in London. monogrammed onto their pink prison-isWhether Francis Leon ever played insued underwear (seriously, he makes all Salt Lake is unknown to me, but the Saltof his prisoners wear pink underwear and Lake Herald reported that on June 30, 1882prison uniforms to A) humiliate them, and and August 12, 1882 Francis Leon and theB) show the taxpaying voters of Maricopa Haverley’s Mastodon Minstrels of SanCounty how tough he is.) Petals, I am no Francisco were staying at the White Housefan of prison offenders and I’m a firm beHotel in Salt Lake City. But they may justliever in the correctional system, but this have been traveling cross country on aguy is just a populist douchebag. No surtrain and laid over in Salt Lake, since theprise either, but 1070’s author and main paper didn’t mention them performing inpolitical proponent is white uber-Mormon a local show. Senator Russell Pearce, another law enThe once world-famous Leon died inforcement show-boater who worked for obscurity. He is mentioned in reviews inArpaio. Rumor has it that he’s also jockey1900, so he survived Edwin Kelly but whoing for Arpaio’s job. knows for how long. There are no notices Now, we could do an entire series of in America’s media to mark the passing ofMountain Meadow’s Mascara columns the “Only Leon,” but his legacy, that per-discussing the differences between elected forming in drag is indeed an American artvs. appointed sheriffs, or why so many form, lives on. Q Mormon law enforcement types go off the

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t’s a little knoWn fact that Utah used to love its drag queens. It’s true. The Ogden Standard Examiner reported in 1924 that female impersonator Jeff Jones was one of the featured acts at Weber County’s Old Folks Day Outing in Lorin Farr Park. This event was for Weber County Pioneers over the age of 70. And if that is not proof enough for you, in 1946 female impersonator “Madam LaPura Devonovitch” (Herbert Osmond Traynor) performed at the Deseret News Old Timer Club in the Lion’s House. Two Mormon Apostles, Elder A.E. Bower and Elder Mark E. Peterson were in the audience. Can someone tell me when Mormons became such sticks- in-the-mud? Peruse the entertainment section of Utah’s local newspaper for Vaudeville shows from the 1890s to the 1920s and you will find female impersonators as part of almost every one. In 1902 the Deseret News reviewer of the play The Country Fair simply gushed over Neil Burgess’ farewell tour as “Abigail Prue,” the play’s elderly “spinster.” He wrote that Burgess “has become to be almost so much a household word where ever theaters are known, that his reappearance hardly needs describing. As a female impersonator he occupies a place all by himself, and he has for so many years that it is impossible to think of him in any other habiliments [clothes].” Another female impersonator the critics raved over was Ray Lawrence who, in 1915, played at Salt Lake City’s Pantages

Vaudeville. A Deseret News critic wrote, “Ray Lawrence promises wonderful impersonations and delinations of feminine roles. He has an unusual falsetto voice with his natural feminine cast of coutenances and ability to wear stunning gowns with the grace of a show girl enables him to carry the deceptive role to perfection.” He added in another review, “Ray Lawrence, a female impersonator, looks stunning as he parades in attractive gowns. Also he sings a fair soprano. ” As long as these cross-dressers kept to the limelight they were praised and adored, but they ran smack into the arms of “Lilly Law” whenever they ventured of stage as recorded in 1906. “Roy Bland, one of the members of the Mahara minstrels, was arrested last night by [Provo] City Marshal Henry for masquerading as a woman. Bland left a $10 forfeit which he probably will not call for. He is a female impersonator and has been in the habit in other towns of carrying the impersonation farther than his contract requires. He attempted the same thing here and was arrested by Mr. Henry at the back door of a saloon and all his protestations that he was a lady did not avail him. He gave a sprinting stunt which would have been more effective in enabling him to escape from the guardian of the peace, had he not run into the arms of Officer Olsen, who was at the end of an alley through which Bland was making his exit.” The tradition of men performing on the


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ideological deep end (Cleon Skousen, Russell Pearce, Carl Wimmer). But I want to talk to all of those disingenuous “get in line and immigrate the right way and we won’t have a problem with you” blowhards out there. They are stepping on my last nerve. For them and for all of those Tea Party commentators on the message boards of KSL and The Salt Lake Tribune who only see the world in brown and white, I dare you to do this. Before you make any blanket statement about legal immigration and how everyone should go through the legal channels, just walk one applicant through the immigration and naturalization process. Just one, that’s all I’m asking. I’ll even make it easy for you and let you pick one from an English-speaking country that can comprehend the byzantine forms. Walk them through the mind-numbingly exhaustive and expensive 10-year process. Wait with them while their paperwork gets lost three times, or returned five times for arbitrary technical problems and see how it feels. For those of you who have never had any interaction with the agency, ICE is about as user-friendly as a DMV staffed by capricious IRS agents. Our church congregation sponsored a refugee family through the immigration process. After that fiasco our plans for a refugee program were promptly dropped. No one had any idea how Kafkaesque and completely illogical the process was. For every flag-waving, newly naturalized immigrant thrust in front of KSL at the Provo Freedom Parade, there are thousands upon thousands who never make it through the bureaucratic nightmare and red tape that is “legal” immigration. Even if federal immigration laws change (don’t hold your breath in an election year, kittens), it won’t mean anything unless the federal immigration bureaucracy is given a major overhaul, a clear mandate to increase their capacity and decrease their processing times, and an exponential increase in their budget. Until then, states like Arizona (and maybe Utah) will create immigration policy with the nuance of a bulldozer (which is probably operated by a Mexican). In the meantime, God help anyone in Arizona wearing an Edmonton Oilers jersey. Ciao, babies! Q You can see Ruby Ridge and the Matrons of Mayhem in all of their polyester glory at Third Friday Bingo (every third Friday of the month at 7 p.m.) at First Baptist Church, 777 S. 1300 East.

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Woke up With my ass hanging halfway off the bed, courtesy of my 12-pound dachshund. I then jumped on Facebook, well not literally. Squinting to see the smudged screen, I searched for my glasses in my purse and under my bed, and then I tore apart my closet with no luck. Afterward, my basement apartment was a bigger mess than what a 7-point earthquake would leave behind. I went back to my computer. A chat message from my friend said my glasses were at her house, as well as my hat. Just an average day in Honey-land. But I guess that’s how any person would turn out if they shared the same name with a breakfast cereal and a graham cracker. Taking a long sigh, I headed upstairs to my parents’ dwelling to fish my cell phone out of a container of rice. When I plugged it in a few sparks crackled, almost electrocuting me. Damn, next time it might be better not to let my phone take a dive into the Tavernacle Social Club’s toilet. And speaking of toilets, there went another 50 bucks down one, leaving my checking account on the big, fat zero when I had a week left until I was paid by the big man in the country. Needless to say, I slid back under my covers as my dog surrounded me with kisses. I went to sleep, forgetting to set my alarm for the anxiety group. A few hours later, I took my morning Paxil and then headed to the shower, hoping the warm water would make me feel better. It did a little, giving me enough energy to attempt yoga. When that failed, I went to writing and lost myself in my YA novel. Until a migraine seeped into my brain and girl cramps became so strong that I collapsed on the floor. My depression and anxiety constantly makes me feel like an industrial-sized knife is being jammed into my insides, so when you toss in physical pain it’s like adding a chain saw and running it all over my body. The pain joined together to swallow me up whole until I couldn’t separate the mental from the physical. It was all the same to me.

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doing your damnedest to dictate other peoples’ lives as well. The more personal (like, none-of-your-fucking-business) the matter, the better. So just why was Congress so apathetic about the Massachusetts ruling? Santorum argues that they were lulled into complacency by the Defense of Marriage Act. Santorum knew better. And yet, the federal marriage amendment didn’t pass. And Santorum was voted out of office. And now a federal judge has ruled that DOMA is unconstitutional. DOMA was passed in a panic after Hawaii’s Supreme Court ruled in 1993 that gays should be allowed to be married there. “The concern (in the ’90s) was that other courts, using the U.S. Constitution’s Full Faith and Credit Clause, would force other states and the federal government to recognize these judicially imposed marriages,” Santorum writes. OK, wait a minute. Santorum says he was worried that courts would use the Constitution to legalize marriage for gays and lesbians. This same Constitution he earlier said he used to justify his opposition to abortion. So it’s OK for Santorum to use the Constitution as a guide, but it isn’t OK for judges to use the Constitution as a guide — especially if they make legal rulings Santorum personally disagrees with. Got it. Sadly, even with DOMA on defense, Santorum doesn’t think anyone is doing enough to “save marriage.” “With the exception of a core group of conservatives, most politicians — including the president — continue to publicly back marriage while eagerly awaiting the day when judges will take this issue out of their hands. In this case, silence,” he writes, “is not golden; it’s yellow.” What a bunch of gay-marriage-loving pansies. Sickening. Incidentally, “golden showers” are also yellow, not golden. Q
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My Last ‘Shot’ with Meth
by chester knight

My name is chester knight. i originally wrote this story earlier this year while incarcerated in the Salt lake county Jail on a six-month sentence for attempted drug possession. i was approved for early release to a drug treatment program. Traditional rehab programs and 12-step recovery hadn’t worked for me and, while in jail, i discovered a somewhat controversial point of view on addiction and recovery. Despite a minor setback when temporarily homeless after being released from jail, i’ve since received loving support from the good people at the Veteran’s Administration and my forgiving father and friends. For their timely and critical support i thank them. For the wisdom to makeby JoSelle Vanderhooft the choice and the courage to truly love myself i thank, well, me. To demonstrate my commitment to recovery, i share my story n the last decade, crystal meth has becandidly and hope it will help even one other queer pioneer like myself get “real” about the effects of sexing and illicit drugs. come not only one of the most popular drugs
had believed that i could flood my veins and brain with 50 cc’s of a honey-thick mixture of crystal meth and recover in time for the day after Christmas. So, on Christmas Eve, I headed to my dealer’s house, alone. My odds of keeping to my plans of spending Dec. 26 with my two teenage sons would be better if I didn’t turn Christmas Eve into a “party.” Usually the sexual rampage which followed “slamming” crystal carried on for hours, if not days, if I had guests involved. So, I’d spend my first Christmas without family pleasantly checked out socially, but well-connected sexually, albeit with my PC and over 100 gigabytes of bootlegged porn. I wasn’t expecting Santa Claus. As I pulled up in front of my dealer’s house, the long driveway was full. I reminded myself that I would grab a bag and leave. I reminded myself that I wouldn’t overdo it if I did it alone. I walked past the cars to the garage behind the house that most of its frequenters call The Pleasure Dome. The Pleasure Dome was an ongoing project, regularly upgraded, tweaked and rearranged to accommodate the open-door policy which brought a growing number of new faces, and other body parts, each week. Facing in from the garage door was a huge solid-state TV with a substantial porn library on the adjacent bookcase. Across from the TV, in the corner, sat a queen-size bed with an easy-to-clean leather sofa at its foot. In the next corner, a black leather sling hung from chains with a system of pulleys and hoists to adjust the height and canter quickly and conveniently. Pants, underwear, a couple of large cans of Crisco and the odd needle or glass pipe littered the room. A dangerously-full basket of condoms sat on a lone side table. Sadly, the best use I had ever put those condoms to came from tying them into a constriction ring with my “morally straight” Eagle Scout square knot. I had resorted to tying rubbers into cock rings after a series of expensive ones had vanished from my bedroom during three years of hanging with tweakers. (Not to mention my digital camera, jewelry and, once, my entire wallet.) Though a Boy Scout, return missionary, Brigham Young University graduate and ex-Mormon divorced dad, I had become an over-sexed, unprotected, unemployed, deadbeat meth-head. Back in the garage, I knew most of the faces. They asked if I would stay and how much “stuff” I needed. Naked, or clad in jock straps

Crystal Meth and Utah’s Gay Community


among men who have sex with men (MSM), but also a problem facing gay communities or leather, most of them were already high or had been or soon would be. The rope across the country, and particularly in Utah. In lights dimly lighting the “Queer Eye for the Meth Guy” space put a twinkling touch on 2000, the Utah Substance Abuse & Anti-Violence the festive evening. Still, no Santa Claus. Coordinating Council estimated that the Beehive I considered staying, and likely would have were it not for an attractively distant, yet State takes in meth users for treatment at three masculine, sweet, 18-year-old guy who asked if he could return home with me. We’d times the national average — or 82 per 100,000 hung out once before and “partied and played.” people versus 29 per 10,0000 nationwide. PnP Statistics on how many Utahns use meth, on PnP — that’s the acronym for getting high and enjoying a gay orgy for hours and hours the other hand, are not only unavailable, but im— usually without protection. These events are not the norm in the gay community, possible to pin down, said Lynn Beltran, STD/HIV they’re easy to find online or through other gay meth users. Program Manager of the Salt Lake Valley Health My initial, and last, experience with the 18-year-old was stifled by his then-boyfriend. Department whose department often counsels I’d thought of him several times since and hoped I’d have an opportunity to “hook-up” HIV-positive MSM who use meth. The reason, with him without the boyfriend. And there he was! Maybe there is a Santa Claus. she said, is largely because health officials have After telling him he’d have to be gone by the morning of the 26th, I blew part of my no choice but to rely on meth users to report that sons’ Christmas money on a bag of dope big enough for the two of us and we headed they use — which many deny. to my place. “Whenever you’re dealing with an issue relyDid I mention I spent two hours earlier that evening in a pawn shop during Christmas ing on self-reporting data, it’s never going to be Eve rush to hawk my $1,800 multi-media PC for $400? I then went home and prepared reliable,” she said. “It’s also true as a state and my needles so I could settle in for a long winter’s night sex party. a community that we and our legislature don’t The rest of the details that led to my arrest on the following “jolly” day are sordid and want to acknowledge this [meth use] is going probably best left for another time. Suffice it to say it wasn’t as easy to outwit the team on. We say these are the throwaway members of of sheriffs as it was to outwit myself and my ‘smart’ original plan of making my night a society, so we don’t need to talk about it.” less eventful pity party. So without permission to enter my basement apartment and Regardless, Beltran said that meth use is an without warrant, they cuffed me in my own living room and hauled me to jail on my un- issue that divides the gay community, often merriest Christmas ever — my first without my family gathered around. polarizing MSM on lines of those who use and those who do not. It is, she added, also a probMy Own Personal Rehab lem in Utah’s gay club scene. Jail ironically became my own, personal rehab. The first few weeks without access to “Cocaine and meth seem to be like party drugs were like a makeshift detox. I decided to focus on getting past the daydreams favors,” agreed Jerry Buie, a gay therapist who and nightmares of wanting to shoot up and sex it up. Day and night I fought the conscious and subconscious patterns of addictive thought within the walls of my cell. I was primarily counsels MSM. “I think people go into it underestimating the power and addictive quality determined to find freedom in jail and blessings in its hell. Each day I reinforced constructive habits and structure in my life. My mini-day plan- of meth, and so one time turns out to be this great party time and then they keep resorting back to it. ner (an idea from my Mormon mission days) for each day had a busy list of reading, We’ve integrated it into our social scene.” writing, working out, etc. Prior to jail Native American sweat lodge ceremony was one practice that had helped “If I were to take the three top mental health issues in the gay and lesbian community to be me, so I walked circles in the rec yard — one for each of the seven Native American dealt with, the first would be substance abuse,” directions — before prayer and meditation. I learned origami and taught English to undocumented immigrants and worked to redevelop meaningful relationships with my he continued. “I think it’s highly prevalent and very, very problematic and destructive.” children and an ex-boyfriend through letters and insanely expensive phone calls. I read and studied brilliant books on recovery by Stanton Peele. I’ve schooled myself Having Sex With God in ethics, evolution, the Tao, yoga, Nietzsche and geology. And I became a vampiry Meth, short for methamphetamine, is a powerful goth fan of Kat Richardson and Stephanie Meyer — rediscovering that the joy and gift of stimulant derived from the class of drugs known reading, and now writing, are wonderful therapies. (In retrospect, putting this story on as amphetamines. As a stimulant, it creates a paper and it’s acceptance by QSaltLake proved un-measurably healing.) feeling of energy and euphoria and also speeds Perhaps the most fantastic accomplishment of all is that I’m doing this all for myself up metabolism. — for me. Plagued by the incessant need to please and garner my worth from others, “The biggest percentage of meth users are gay I’ve started to break free from my emotional unintelligence. I’m reconstructing my life men and housewives who want to lose weight,” while I have the time and focus to acutely examine it, and my habits and patterns. I’m said Beltran. mindfully striking anything that “just isn’t me,” finding more freedom while locked up Along with weight loss and increased energy, meth can also increase pleasure during sex. (and since) than you can imagine. One of Beltran’s clients, she said, described the I take my inspiration from my optimistic mom on “the other side of the veil” and Peele, who says “addiction can be beaten. People do it all the time. There is no reason experience of having sex on meth as “having sex to take the government’s or Alcoholics Anonymous’ word that people are lifetime slaveswith God. And once you’ve had sex with God, why would you want to go back to the other?” to addiction. It simply isn’t true.” Q


These qualities make the drug not only popular among people who frequent highenergy environments like clubs, but also highly addicting. Given that it’s easy to produce and less expensive than similar drugs like cocaine, it’s also accessible to people of all incomes. But while the price may be less than a lot of street drugs, meth’s side effects are just as strong. In the short term, it can cause dangerous spikes in body temperature, convulsions, hallucinations and paranoia. If used long term, it can destroy vital organs like kidneys and lungs, repress the immune system and even kill. The risky sexual behavior that it encourages can also expose users to a number of STDs, including HIV — STDs that then spread at what Beltran calls “sex parties” where the drug is present. “We know that many HIV-positive men are using [meth] and they’ve developed very strong sex networks,” she said. “A new person [outside that network] will come along and suddenly they’ve got it, and they’ll bring it back to their network which isn’t positive men.” Meth can also damage more than physical health. “I had a client who two years previously was making $200,000 a year. When he came into my office after being hooked on meth he was down to $30,000 a year,” recalled Buie. “He’d destroyed his career and lost his savings. He’d done some brain damage and contracted HIV. His life, in a very short period of time, was destroyed. I see that story over an over and over again. I see it personally and professionally.” “People think they can handle it and they can’t,” he continued. “I have never seen a good story come from it.”

Anatomy of a Meth User
Energy and great sex aren’t the only reasons that people — and MSM in particular — get caught up in the drug. John Bonner, a licensed clinical social worker who counsels meth addicts through Volunteers of America of Utah, said that meth addiction, like addiction to any drug, often has psychological roots. “They’re self-medicating, and I think it’s a symptom of the real cause which is underlying stress, grief and loss issues, family issues,” he said. Bonner, who is gay himself, noted that several of the MSM he counsels come from LDS backgrounds. While noting that he did not want to put the blame for meth use squarely on the church’s shoulders, Bonner noted that many MSM who use meth have faced rejection from their Mormon families because of their sexuality. And when these men lose their communities of faith, Bonner said that they often turn to destructive behaviors. “I see a trend where a lot of gay men who come out from orthodox religious backgrounds, including LDS, often act out in myriad ways,” he said. “They go to excess with substance use and sexual behavior. They don’t have a framework for what healthy development of a gay man looks like, or what [gay] relationships look like because they don’t have a lot of role models for that.” Worse, Bonner said that many of these men have internalized anti-gay messages from

church and media, and believe that being gay means “that you drink, you use drugs, and you shouldn’t expect stability or monogamy.” “The common denominator is ‘I don’t know who I am and this drug helps me feel accepted,’” Buie agreed. Although MSM make up the bulk of meth users visiting Utah’s clinics, Bonner pointed out that he sees “a significant number of women” in therapy — many of whom are lesbian and bisexual. These users, he said, are more likely to get into meth because of relationships over an interest in sex and partying. “Often times, early on, they got into a relationship with a male who introduced them [to meth]. Then they got hooked and their addiction was perpetuated outside the context of that relationship,” he said. He added that women who get into relationships with female meth users can find themselves picking up the habit, too. Bonner has also counseled transgender women who inject meth. One of these clients, he said, has faced “significant discrimination” because of her gender identity and worries about being able to “pass” as female. And fears about facing anti-gay and anti-trans discrimination and violence aren’t the only things queer meth users have in common. “I don’t wish to stereotype or over-generalize, but I do see with queer female clients as well as with MSM [that] there’s often an abuse history — particularly a sexual abuse history,” said Bonner. Often, he added, clients have also experienced emotional, verbal and physical abuse as well as exposure to substance abuse by family members during childhood. Meth use can also be a coping mechanism for any number of mental illnesses, including clinical depression, a symptom of which is often substance abuse. For years, Utah has led the nation in mental health diagnoses. In 2008, a study by Mental Health America ranked Utah as number one in the country in cases of diagnosed depression. “In Utah, in general [mental illness] is not something that’s talked about openly enough,” said Bonner, noting that Utahns are also more likely to abuse prescription drugs than residents of many other states. “I think it’s a state that’s often overmedicated, and that’s something we don’t like to discuss.” “If I were a betting person I’d definitely say yes, there is a correlation between mental illness diagnoses and meth use,” said Beltran.

Kicking the Habit
Although meth is highly addictive, it isn’t as hard on the body or as hard to give up as drugs like heroin, which often require medical assistance to quit. The difficulty many users have in giving it up, said Beltran, has more to do with psychological addiction than physical dependence. “I think with meth use they get addicted to the lifestyle and the sex activity that seems to accompany the meth use,” said Beltran. “They can recognize that it puts them at risk for HIV and other issues, but many of my clients say they can’t get away from [meth] because even if they try to, the guys will pull them back into it.”

“Yes, yes and yes,” said Buie, when asked if meth users had a high relapse rate. “In our community it’s highly socialized, so [one’s] circle of friends are doing it, the club kids are doing it, it’s everywhere” — to the extent that giving up the drug means giving up socializing. “For a lot of people, there’s a sense of isolation and loneliness,” he explained. “[They] know who [they] are at the club and parties, but without those circles [they] have to reinvent [themselves] and that takes a lot of energy.” For this reason, Buie said that he supports group therapy for meth users as well as other forms of therapy that can help them seek “healthier socialization.” Still, even a good therapist and a supportive social circle aren’t enough. “Unless something has happened to them in their life to force them to make the change, they often don’t,” said Beltran. “They may go to the first meeting and they’re done, or they may not show up. It has to come from them, and most are aware of the options.” And right now, the options for treatment — especially programs that receive public funds — are swamped. And some, like the Utah AIDS Foundation’s short-lived Utah Tweaker project, are long gone. “[Salt Lake County] has poured a lot of money into trying to effect change, but the resources can’t seem to keep up with the demand,” Beltran continued. “So if today I felt like I was ready to take the step, if I had to wait a week to talk to someone, by the time that week rolls around I might be back using in someone’s garage.” “I think we’ve almost come to an acceptance now that it’s just rampant,” she added. Ultimately, said Buie, the only way to stop meth use in Utah’s gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender community is for the community to stop treating the drug as acceptable. “I don’t think collectively we have been willing to embrace more profound stories of who and what we are, so we settle for this club existence and this really superficial way of existing that leaves a lot of permission for drug use,” he said. “I would love for our Pride events to really focus on what it means to have Pride in who we are,” he continued. “But even [the Utah Pride Festival] is a big beer party, if you think about it. Everything is centered around going to the clubs and having that beer garden, and I think on many levels we’re communicating permission to not take care of ourselves in that way.” And while meth programs are strapped for funds and staff, Buie insisted that a change in attitude will go a lot further than dollars in saving lives. “It’s about having dialogue on issues that are relevant to our lives,” he said. “But we seem to have this reluctance to talk, and that reinforces these narratives of ‘poor me, I’m a victim.’” But the good news, said Beltran, is that SLVHS and other health organizations can give referrals for meth addiction treatment for those who want to quit. “It’s never too late to change,” she said. “It’s worth stopping.” Q

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gay agenda
What the Flip!
by Tony Hobday

save the date
August 20 Cyndi Lauper, Wendover, Nev. wendoverfun.com August 22 Utah Pride Center Golf Classic utahpridecenter.org August 22 Gay Day at Raging Waters facebook.com/simplysocial September 12 AquaAid utahaids.org

last weekend i attended my friend Jake’s 30th birthday bash. it was interesting to say the least; though there was enough alcohol to destroy Godzilla’s liver, some partygoers felt it necessary to hide beer under rocks; a Spanish-speaking-only neighbor dropped in, dropped his pants and one partygoer dropped to his knees; Richard cocks hooked up with bedazzled twin flamingoes ... lucky bastard! but the best part was we all got to listen to kylie Minogue all night long ... always a wonderful treat. love you Jakey Poo!

Jake Shears Works Hard
by Sean Johnson

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thursday — Art has the ability to take on a powerful role within a community to evoke emotion and raise awareness. Ririe-Woodbury Dance Company addresses this topic of arts and social change, with a short dance piece by renowned choreographer Bill T. Jones who has promoted topics on homosexuality and AIDS in his choreography. The preview will be followed by a discussion panel surrounding the topics that Bill T. Jones exposes in his art, and will feature several local community members.
5:30pm, Black Box Theatre, Rose Wagner Center, 138 W. Broadway. Free, 801-297-4213 or ririewoodbury.com.

sunday — It’s that time again to paint Lagoon red. QSaltLake’s Gay lagoon day (the Gay is silent, though) returns with another raucous group of homos screaming bloody mary on the Log Flume and in the public bathrooms. Ah, good times, good times! Don’t forget there will be bingo and a group photo around 4pm-ish. Red Q Lagoon Day T-shirts, that Michael slaved over, are for sale for $5 at the Q Towers office.
11am–10pm, Lagoon, 375 Lagoon Dr., Farmington. Tickets $35 with discount coupon, call 801-649-6663 for coupons.

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saturday — Led Zeppelin were a hard rock band of the 1970s, with Jimmy Page and Robert Plant. You may remember them by their hit

sWerve’s Oktoberfest swerveutah.com September 18 Walk for Life, Bike for Life utahaids.org September 25 ROTC Military Ball rotcslc.com September 25 Wanda Sykes, Wendover, Nev. wendoverfun.com September 28 Equality Utah Allies Dinner equalityutah.org October 9 National Coming Out Day Breakfast utahpridecenter.org October 16 sWerve’s Halloween Bash swerveutah.com October 16–20 Living With AIDS Conference pwacu.org October 18–22 UofU Pride Week emanzanares@sa.utah.edu November 25 Thanksgiving Dinners at the Utah Pride Center, Club Try-Angles and The Trapp December 10–11 Salt Lake Men’s Choir Christmas Concert saltlakemenschoir.org January 20–30 Sundance Film Festival, Park City sundance.org

o promote the neW scissor Sisters album Night Work, the band’s front man Jake Shears placed an ad, including erotic nude photos, on the male escort site, Rentboy.com. He lists his talents as “go-go dancing and stripping” and his out rate as $11.99, the price of the new album. I chatted with Shears as he prepared to embark on a 26-city world tour to promote the album. Do you have a fascination with rentboys? Rentboys and sex workers operate outside the lines of our society. They make their living through sex and showing people a good time. We, in the band, feel we’re on the same team. Except you’re not selling sex. There should be no shame in using sex as self-employment. I have an incredible amount of respect for sex workers. I think it’s a fully valid profession that deserves to be treated as any other. The Night Work album cover is a photograph of a ballet dancer’s butt by artist Robert Mapplethorpe. Mapplethorpe was someone who relentlessly explored pushing his own limits. According to Patti Smith’s memoir Just Kids, Mapplethorpe worked as a street hustler in New York City to support himself as a struggling artist. Reportedly, he loved the mystery and glamour of the hustler lifestyle. He was a fascinating man. By all means an outsider who was turned on by very dark stuff. He was able to turn those influences into something incredibly beautiful. Is it true you worked as a go-go dancer in New York City? Go-go danc-


ing is what got me into performing in the first place. It was a great way for me to get up in front of a bunch of people, shake it and not be shy. When I started getting bored with it, I wondered how I was going to make it more interesting for me. That’s when I started singing. Has your go-go past helped you in your career today? There’s not a huge difference to what I did then and what I do now on stage. How do you feel about today’s party scene? I think it’s a great time right now for dance music. There’s so much good stuff coming out, and I feel like it’s a great time for people to really dive in. “Invisible Light” is a particular standout on the album. It’s a magical, mystical dance song with overtones of Gandalf, Lord of the Rings and Pink Floyd. It’s about tripping the light fantastic. I wanted to make a song that brought you to the edge of a void. It really takes you to Mars. It’s like just staring into a storable light. Has your singing style changed with this third album? I hear less falsetto — which you are known for — and more passionate mid-range singing. I wanted to rely less on the falsetto, to give people an idea of what kind of range I can really do. I wanted to sound a bit sexier this time around. And Ana Matronic appears more on the new album. Ana’s on this record more than ever and has also co-written more tracks than ever before. Tell us about your new musical based on Amistead Maupin’s Tales of the City. Everybody’s a ho in Tales! No, really. It’s a very sex-positive show, and there is plenty of gay action. In a lot of ways it’s a really queer musical, though I think it will accessible to just about anybody. It’s co-written by Jeff Whitty of Avenue Q fame. Do you have a final message you’d like to relay to the thousands of rentboys around the world? Fight for your rights and never let anybody make you feel less than the truly beautiful person that you are. Q
Visit Jake Shear’s Rentboy profile at www.rentboy. com/Nightwork.

single “Stairway to Heaven.” Anyhoo, the Utah Symphony presents the music of led zeppelin. All that brass and

horns playing classic rock songs like “Heartbreaker,” “The Song Remains the Same” and “All My Love” could be really flippin’ groovin’. Larry Baird conducts.
7:30pm, Snow Park Amphitheatre, 2250 Deer Valley Dr., Deer Valley. Tickets $30–85, 801-355-ARTS or arttix.org.

friday — Well silkscreen my butt and call me Andy Warhol, it’s the 41st annual park city kimball arts festival. This really is a fabulous festival, though the past three years I’d spent too many hours on the Wasatch Brewery patio, had been detained by police officers for my not-so-concealed sterling silver-handgun belt buckle and had been hit on by a burly, straight-acting biker in the No Name Saloon ... what the flip!
6–9pm today, 9am–6pm Saturday & Sunday, Historic Main St, Park City. Donations suggested for Friday’s entrance, Saturday & Sunday $10 entrance fee, kimballartcenter.org.

monday — In the German lesbian film four minutes, Traude, an elderly music teacher who gives piano lessons to prisoners, finds an unexpected prodigy in Jenny, a brooding young inmate, and devotes herself to developing Jenny’s talent in the little time they have together. But while Traude teaches Jenny valuable lessons about music, Jenny herself inspires Traude to examine her own past and the meaning of her life — and what might have passed her by. 7pm, Tower Theatre, 876 E. 900 South. Free, 801-359-5158 or

Q Toronto-based alternative rock band the cliks is led by transman Lucas Silveira. Their Guts ’n Glory tour lands in Salt Lake City tonight. With pop hooks lacing the rock spines the band is known for, their songs inhabit the specificity of the circumstances under which they were written, all the while appealing to broader audience. Hunter Valentine and Killola open.
7:30pm, The Complex, 537 W. 100 South, Tickets $8, 801-4678499 or smithstix.com.

Q Event organizers Utah Rox and Master Tiger bring the fifth year of rebellion, which draws hundreds of leather, BDSM, power play and other enthusiasts to Club Try-Angles for a three-day festival of kink. TitanMen performers Tony Buff and Derek da Silva are the special guests; great prizes will be raffled off; and demonstrations will be shown in Flogging ... been there, done that, never again!, in Mummification ... what the flip!, in Rope Bondage ... please girl, I wrote the book!, and more.
Hours vary, through Sunday, Club Try-Angles, 251 W. 900 South. For full event schedule visit utahrebellion.com.

thursday — I feel slightly ashamed of including this and the photo ... but, what the flip, it’s all about hot guys right? the tWilight saga: neW moon is being screened outdoors for free. Need I say more! Well, beyond Robert, Taylor, Jackson — ooolala!
9pm, State Capitol, 350 N. State St. Free, 801-746-7000 or slcfilmcenter.org.

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and of course, beer gardens, this Sunday will include a cooking demonstration by Q’s own Drew Ellsworth and a Miss Park Silly Drag Contest, hosted by Nova Starr. Did you know pink is my favorite color ... well, next to mulberry. What the flip, Could I be any gayer!
1–5pm, Lower Main Street, Park City. Free, parksillysundaymarket.com.


sunday — Paint Park City pink with QSaltLake at gay park silly day. Along with the weekly arts & crafts booths and locally grown produce

Q “This year Heidi Fleiss will be opening the Stud Farm, her all-male brothel outside of Las Vegas. This is for women to find men. If you’re a guy looking for a guy, you still have to find it at the airport bathroom.” The Belvedere vodkaswilling hussy really does love her gays. chelsea handler whoops it up tonight with a guest performance by Heather McDonald.
8pm, Abravanel Hall, 123 S. West Temple. Tickets $65, 801-355ARTS or arttix.org.

AUG 20 Cyndi Lauper, Wendover, Nev. SEP 25 Wanda Sykes, Wendover, Nev. OCT 16 Spencer Day, Rose Wagner The Rockettes, Maverick Ctr 8pm, through Aug. 22, Egyptian Theatre, 328 Main St., Park City. NOV 26-29 Tickets $18–25, 435-649-9371 or parkcityshows.com. APR 11 Lily Tomlin, Kingsbury Hall

friday — This event is definitely scary enough for Friday the 13th. The Egyptian Theatre presents an interactive, improv show the aWesome ’80s prom. The audience becomes the characters as the show unfolds. Reminisce about all your favorite ’80s movies with the characters you loved from the snot-nosed geek to the hottie quarterback. What would Prom be without a king and queen? The audience will decide who that honor goes to, all while break dancing ... really!?! ... to all the retro ’80s hits you love.

uPCOMinG EvEnts

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hear me out Plan-B Theatre Co: Celebrating Locally Grown Theatre for 20 Years
by chris Azzopardi

in celebration of 20 years of fine, original, award-winning works by local playwrights, Plan-b Theatre company is offering five ‘free’ anniversary events. And, as in seasons past, Plan-b partners up with the utah AiDS Foundation to bring you Since rolling out the highthe first of the five events — a free ‘reading’ of larry kramer’s ground-breaking play The Normal Heart, Aug. 14. Then, camp glam on in october is Radio Hour: Marathon, a rebroadcast of the five previous Radio Hours, 2006-2010; in December, in their six-yearpartnership with kuER, there will be a free reading of David Sedaris writings; and, dotted throughout the seaold debut, Scissor Sisters have been irresistibly cheeky. son, the Script-in-Hand Series, readings of new plays-in-progress by utah playwrights, will be showcased.
by Tony Hobday

Scissor Sisters Night Work

lan-b’s artistic director Jerry Rapier talks about the company’s 20th anniversary productions; the relevance of a 25-year-old AIDS-topic play in today’s society; and the company’s continuing mission to support local artists. Explain how the ‘reading’ of a play works — is it like a table reading, raw and unrehearsed? Raw yes, unrehearsed no. A reading can have just as much impact as a full production if presented correctly. The actors will be seated with scripts in their hands. But the show will be lit, with sound. My goal is to execute things in such a way that the audience forgets about those scripts! We will rehearse for four days prior to the reading. And, it’s meant to feel a little more adrenalin-propelled than a full production, much like our reading of The Laramie Project: Ten Years Later...An Epilogue at Kingsbury Hall last fall. And the actors involved: Kirt Bateman, Matthew Ivan Bennett, Daisy Blake, Joe Debevc, John Graham, Doug Fabrizio, Jay Perry and Christy Summerhays, are fantastic. Give a brief synopsis of The Normal Heart. It chronicles the rise of the HIV/AIDS crisis in New York City between 1981 and 1984. It was literally written in real time by Larry Kramer as he documented what was happening to himself and his friends before anyone knew what HIV was. How relevant today is Kramer’s play to its premiere in 1985? The complacency over HIV/AIDS; the increasingly frustrating access to health care; the difficulty our community sometimes has in truly coming together as a community — all of these make The Normal Heart feel as if were written for us, now, rather than 25 years ago. This reading is, I guess, a precursor to Plan-B’s 2010-11 season, its 20th season. In what ways does this reading mark the future endeavors of the company? To launch our 20th anniversary we wanted to do something free to thank those who support us. And we wanted to highlight our community partnerships. Meanwhile, the Utah AIDS Foundation approached us about working with them on an event for their 25th anniversary. Since we have a history of partnership (The Laramie Project, Hedwig and The Angry Inch, Patient A, Facing East, The Tricky Part) it made perfect sense to partner with them on a joint anniversary event. And once I realized The Normal Heart is celebrating its 25th anniversary this year as well — well, the stage was set!


Seriously — check out that clenched ass close-up on the cover of the New York foursome’s disco-new wave third album, their ebullient follow-up to 2006’s Ta-Dah. It’s set This project speaks to Plan-B’s future in a couple of ways. We in motion with the robo-strobing total club cut “Night Work,” a positive ode to ... prostiwill continue to partner with community organizations with each production (we’ve helped 33 non-profits raise funds via our Benefit tution? Who knows, but it doesn’t really matPerformances Program over the last decade). And we will continue ter since it’s a hoot-and-a-half — drenched to stage at least one production of special interest to the LGBT com- in frontman Jake Shears’ falsetto and electric munity each season as part of our mission to “develop and produce guitar doodles. The party keeps hoppin’ with the flirty, psychedelic punch of “Whole New unique and socially conscious theatre.” Way,” dropping smutty innuendo about rubAny plans to do a reading or full production of The Normal Heart’sbers and “big surprises;” and “Any Which Way,” a sharp, siren-started partier with sequel The Destiny of Me? We initially considered a marathon reading of both plays on the same day but we decided that focusing some menacing laughs, shrieks and a frisky on The Normal Heart HEART was the best way to focus on the work spoken-word bit from groupie Ana Matronic. Elsewhere, they go for big, uplifting balladof both Plan-B and UAF and our anniversaries! turned-dance anthem on “Fire with Fire,” As mentioned above, our mission is to develop and produce perhaps the most mainstream they’ve ever unique and socially conscious theatre. We’re currently accomplishsounded; give Sir Ian McKellen a spot on ing that through new plays by Utah playwrights. So, producing The the dark, atmospheric lead single, “Invisible Normal Heart isn’t possible. However, the reading gives us a great Light,” and offer a homicidal sequel to their opportunity to share a fantastic play that has never been staged in last LP’s “I Can’t Decide” with the thrusting Utah. second-best “Sex and Violence.” Elton John, Out of the upcoming season’s productions: She Was My Brother, Erasure and maybe even Cyndi Lauper (hey, aren’t those her trademark hoots on “Skin Mesa Verde, Borderlands — which do you think will have the Tight”?) sound like main players on this slutstrongest impact on the audience/community, and why? Wow, ty throwback project, but actually, if Scissor that’s a hard question. I would hope they would have equal impact Sisters become as big as they deserve to be since they each deal with issues germane to our community. with this, a career best, co-producer Stuart Julie Jensen’s She Was My Brother (Oct. 28-Nov. 7) follows two Price is the man to thank. And, yeah, maybe Victorian anthropologists into their relationship with a two-spirited that ass. Grade: B+ Zuni leader in this exploration of love, gender identity. The play kicks off Transgender Awareness Month. Robyn, Mesa Verde (Feb. 24-Mar. 6), the latest by our resident playwright Matthew Ivan Bennett, explores the relationship between two esBody Talk tranged sisters and their late mother. It’s a play about facing family. Part 1 Eric Samuelsen’s Borderlands ( Mar. 31-Apr. 10) explores the proNo one lately cess of coming out — just not in the usual sense — within Mormon does downculture. What does one do with questions within a faith that doesn’t in-the-dumps allow for them? It’s a journey into unexpected honesty. dance better than Robyn – Those who’d like to attend the free reading of The Normal Heart the Swedish (general admission; cash bar), please rsvp to Jerry Rapier at jerry@ “Show Me Love” singer who beat the planbtheatre.org by August 13. Walk-ups will be seated after those one-hit-wonder odds with her finest work, who have RSVPd. Q 2005’s self-titled synth-pop CD. And now You can subscribe to the whole season (including And the Bannedcomes “Dancing On My Own,” the introducSlammed On, Plan-B’s annual fund raiser) at planbtheatre.org — click ‘tickets & giving’ for just $87. Single tickets are $20 to each of the plays and $40 for the fund raiser. The QSaltLake staff congratulates Jerry and Plan-B on 20 outstanding years!

tory single — a dynamic disco downer that’s powerful and devastating and one of the year’s best — from the first chapter in this three-part Body Talk series. The song’s so revolutionary — such a smart piece of sad dance-pop that unites rejection and self-love — that it rivals her wonderful “With Every Heartbeat.” Cued from cuts on its predecessor, this tease of a disc — at only eight tracks — would’ve fit snuggly on her comeback LP: she spits some slick verses over the electro squiggles of the inescapable “Fembot;” monotonously intones word repetitions over a booming bassline on “Don’t Fucking Tell Me What to Do;” and, with the ska-flavored “Dancehall Queen,” gets fantastically funky. Robyn’s no binary machine, though. Her feelings are all human: the hooky pop pleasure “Cry When You Get Older” is a wise-up anthem and “Hang With Me” is a lonely, hearton-sleeve lament. Piano, swelling strings and lots of vulnerability — the latter makes Robyn’s heart talk as loud as her body. How can you not show her love? Grade: B+

Also Out Kelis Flesh Tone
Her “Milkshake” brought all the boys to the club, and now all these R&B-free jams should do the same. But even though there are razzmatazz beats booming and bopping with their techno tone, there’s only so much Chicken Soup for the Dance Soul a person can handle — songs “Brave” and “Emancipate” pretty much say it all. Many of the nine though, especially the Madge-made “4th of July (Fireworks),” are undeniably hooky without trying to be the next big thing.

Indigo Girls Staring Down the Brilliant Dream
Just as they hit the road again, the duo releases their second live album — a deluxe 31-song set that gleans from several recent years on the road. Many ditties are culled from the last decade, but they don’t ditch fan faves like “Closer to Fine,” given a new spin with some guest vocals. They even throw in a wonderful reading of the Rolling Stones’ “Wild Horses” to close out the collection. As cool as they come, the Indigo Girls live is just how they were meant to be heard.
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o, it has been aWhile since I have talked about one of the fastest spreading infections in Utah: syphilis. Interestingly, syphilis was once thought to be eradicated. It had its time back in the 1930s and 1940s and was so noteworthy that it generated one of the first public health interventions at the hands of the U.S. Public Health Services. Syphilis cases were so endemic in many communities in the United States that at one point in the ’40s, an estimated on- in-four black men in the South were infected. Syphilis was also behind one of the worst moments in the history of U.S. public health services: the Tuskeegee syphilis experiments, in which health workers withheld penicillin (which can cure syphilis) from black people with the disease who were participating in a study. Syphilis is an infectious disease that drives fear in many clinicians. It is a bacterial infection that is very infectious in its early stages and is transmitted through sexual contact, which includes any intimate, skin-to-skin contact (even oral sex!). The bacteria can penetrate intact skin and tries to work its way into the central nervous system, where it can cause neurological damage or sudden death. It has long been referred to as the “great imitator,” as its symptoms are somewhat generic or often mimic those of a long list of other diseases. Many physicians and medical providers were not trained to diagnose syphilis because it was so rare. As a result, many cases are either misdiagnosed or undiagnosed. Why is all of this important? Well, currently, we’re in what can be considered a syphilis epidemic here in Salt Lake County. The majority of cases — if not all recent cases — are among men who have sex with men. Worse, well over50 percent of the diagnosed cases are within the HIV-positive community — which means the epidemic has permeated many networks of HIV-positive men who are having unprotected sex. As a result, many people getting syphilis are also being infected with HIV. Dual infection with HIV and syphilis can be very serious and can allow cases to rapidly progress to neurological disease. Symptoms of early stage syphilis often present as sores or lesions, usually


at the part of your body where you were exposed to it. These sores are not painful, so if they appear in an area that is not visible, such as the rectum or inside the shaft of the penis, many patients have no idea that they are there. Many patients will present with sores in their mouth after engaging in oral sex; these are often dismissed as cold sores. Other symptoms include any unusual skin issues, such as a rash or bumps, or patchy hair loss. Some patients will experience lymph node swelling in the groin area, others will experience significant flulike symptoms. Many patients do not show or develop any symptoms, and symptoms will go away usually within a few weeks with or without treatment. Treatment usually involves between one to three shots of penicillin, which is often provided for free at the local health department. It is also critical that all sexual partners be tested and treated, as it is very easy to be re-infected after treatment. If re-infection occurs, it may easily go undiagnosed for reasons I’ve mentioned. Testing involves a simple blood test, and results usually take about a week to be returned. This epidemic isn’t just here, though. It appears to be occurring throughout the entire country and in other countries. The Prague Monitor recently reported an increase in syphilis cases in the Czech Republic, the majority of which were also occurring in gay men. Like here, many cases in other areas of the country are occurring within the HIV-positive community, and are driving many new HIV infections. Due to the epidemic, the Salt Lake County Health Department is recommending routine screening twice a year for all MSM. In the meantime, there’s a lot you can do to protect yourself from syphilis and from other sexually-transmitted diseases. Condoms are certainly an effective barrier (and remember it can be transmitted during oral sex.). As always, don’t rely on just “knowing “ your partners as a prevention method. There’s a really good chance that your partners have no idea that they are infected and are spreading a disease to you. Q
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es, indeed, there are tWo places in France called Champagne. The largest and most prominent is the ancient province of Champagne in the north of the country. This is the one that’s famous for the elegant and pricy sparkling wine of the same name. The lesser is two small grape-growing areas in the South of France, just above Bordeaux, which are a part of the Cognac. These areas are called Grande Champagne and Petite Champagne — who knew? Cognac, by the way, is what is thought to be the finest brandy in the world — a spirit distilled from a particular wine using a time-honored process. Anyway, I was recently in Washington, DC at the French Wine Society where I tasted over 100 wines from all of France, plus six excellent Cognacs. Let me tell you about them. First of all, I’m hoping my editor will print a small map I was given that shows the Cognac region. Even though I’ve lived and traveled all over France, this was an area I knew nothing about. There is, actually, a town called Cognac right in the center of the area. It is on the north end of the district known as Grande Champagne along with another town called Ségonzac. (The suffix “-ac” in this part of France, means “of” or “coming from,” so many town names end in “-ac.”) The eastern edge of the Cognac is flanked by the city of Angoulȇme, and on the west by the

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cities of La Rochelle and Rochefort, which are situated on the Atlantic coast. Coastal breezes, salt air and proximity to the Gironde River out of Bordeaux, all influence the grapes. Cognacs are made, most importantly, from grapes called Ugni Blanc — pronounced “oon-yee.” Hopefully, you can see from the map that the area growing grapes for Cognac is huge. Each area makes its own types of Cognac which are bought and sold by many makers. There are more than a few “houses” that produce old, traditional name-brands of this spirit. With only a few exceptions, the finest products come from the “Grande” or the “Petite” Champagne. On the map you can see that there are six names or Appelations of the growing areas in the Cognac. They are: Grande Champagne, Petite Champagne, Borderies, Fins Bois, Bons Bois and Bois Ordinaires. Many of these lesser Appelations are made into regionally accessible spirits and are usually not exported; however, the finest of the lessers may be sold to the big houses for blending. (Courvoisier — which is the least expensive and commonly sold in the United States, is a carefully formed blend of Cognac made, mainly, from the outlying areas.) The aging process, also, as with all brandies, is marked by three aging periods and corresponding names: 1) VS or Very Special, 2) VSOP or Very Special Old Pale and 3) XO or Extra Old. The French have recently changed the criteria for XO, now insisting that Extra Old must stay in the barrel for 12 years. The other ages are two to four years and six to eight, respectively. The Cognac shown in the glasses below are: 1) Remy Martin VS, which is aged in Limousin oak and distilled on “the lies” (e-mail me if you want to know what that means.) Remy Martin is situated in the Petite Champagne and it sells for around $32. As the price indicates, it’s not the best one, but when you’re not comparing it’s fine. All Cognac is full of perfume and many layers of flavor like a fine scotch or bourbon. The fragrant esters in Cognac are so strong, for example, that when we entered the room for our seminar the air smelled like honey, toasted vanilla and burning sandlewood candles! 2) Martell VSOP is aged in toasted French oak and is older than the Remy and quite a bit darker. It follows a different distilling process than the Remy and is from the Borderies Region — not one of the Champagnes. It was smooth and rich and I loved it! It costs $42. 3) Painturaud VSOP is from the Grand Champagne and was beautiful and elegant but lacked the structure of the Martell. 4) Paul Beau, which I have not seen in the United States came from a “higher cut” in the barrell and had a spectacular honey and butterscotch quality. It comes from Grande Champagne and is $58. 5) Jean Doussoux XO, at $83, was my favorite. Neither from Grande nor Petite Champagne it is made in the Fins Bois. It was the most fragrant, the broadest on the mid-palate, and had the smoothest and longest finish of butterscotch and buttered popcorn. 6) The last one of Delamain Pale and Dry XO, which had been aged 10 years. Delamain uses old, French barrells which enhances the aged flavors. It comes from Grande Champagne and truly was pale and dry but extremely elegant. It costs $91. Many conference-goers preferred the Delamain, but I was smitten by the Doussoux and the Paul Beau. Normally, spirits are not my thing, and wine, for me, is “safer.” But I loved tasting and learning about Cognac and its deep tradition and influence on the culture of France — especially if you’re into spirits. Next time, skip the scotch and go for a good Cognac. One other thing: The new Wine Store on 300 West carries a special order Courvoisier called “Exclusive” which is a carefully made blend of distillations from throughout Cognac. It’s around $50 and I highly recommend it. Q

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Michael Aaron couldn’t pass up photographing a drag race — especially when the rules required 3-inch heels and it was put on by the Salt lake city Gay Athletic Association. Max Martinez (first photo, left) was the winner and ran as if he were barefoot. of course, he has the legs of a horse, so the outcome may have been predetermined.


ately, i have found myself (along with many others) staying in from the heat, and until this moment I haven’t been able to figure out the cause of this “rut in my gut,” if you will. “So I don’t go out every night.” No big deal, right? But the more I said this, the more I realized that it was becoming an excuse; “So I don’t go out every weekend” turned into “Wait, why am I not going out?” It was a strange thought to have — that I went from going out nearly every weekend to barely once a week. It wasn’t until this past weekend (known as Mormon Mardi Gras in some circles) that I finally got out into the nightlife world, and I must say I have missed it. So many great people were out in full force enjoying themselves, relaxing as we near the end of the month. This truly reminded me why, regardless of the establishment, it is the people that make a night worthwhile. Seriously, think about the last time you went out. What was your experience? Was it positive? Was it negative? Now ask yourself why. I’m willing to bet your answer will be positive, negative or indifferent based on the people you surrounded yourself with that night. The lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community is inherently social — it’s truly a borderline obsession with some people, but social nonetheless. Everyone — gay, straight, bi, lesbian, transgender

— wants some form of attention, whether it’s being noticed for being at every event, party or BBQ, or through winking at the bartender pouring your vodkaRedbull. Personally, I think the concept of “see and be seen” works in a lot of ways here: You’re single and seek attention of others; you’re in a relationship and only seek the attention of your partner, or a combination of both! What I have seen lately (and think is a wise promotional and marketing ploy) is creating evenings with an inclusive language marketing campaign. This draws in a sense of commonality and in some cases camaraderie for those without either a group or someone special to venture out with. Ultimately, we all go out to see and be seen regardless of who we’re with, where we are or what we’re doing. It’s in our blood to get dressed, glittered and all dolled up as we head out into the evening. I leave you with this: Dear Weekend, I, like many others have missed you, and I am sorry for hiding during the past few weeks. I wish you to open your arms as you once did, shielding us from the long week we endure. I look forward to the familiar faces, places and new adventures to come. Sincerely, Hunter + Friends. Q

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video in Jane’s sports bra and boxer shorts!” Though it had been a year since JB’s unfortunate break into ‘reality tv,’ he’s occasionally still pestered by TMZ cameras hoping to catch him in another compromising position. This news had made me initially wary to accept JB’s invitation to stay with him for a few days, so I asked if I could bring my boyfriend Vance, who enjoys “making love to the camera,” to which he agreed. Vance and I arrived in Long Beach a week later; we deplaned onto the tarmac and while waiting to retrieve our luggage from the baggage return located in the breezeway of the singleterminal airport, I bought an Orange soda for Vance and a Dr. Pepper for myself. We waited a short time, in balmy thick August air, at the taxing area in front of the airport, before JB’s black Ford Expedition pulled to the curb. In the passenger seat was a man I didn’t recognize, but looked uncannily like John Lithgow. Vance and I placed our bags in the back of the truck then hopped in the backseat. JB and I kissed each other, in that gay brotherly way. “This is Vance,” I started the introductions. Then when I tipped the Dr. Pepper to my lips JB said, “Tommy, this is John,” referencing the Lithgow look-alike to his right, and I immediately spattered the prune-flavored cola across the back of John’s seat. Sufficed to, say the hour-ten-minute, 18-mile drive to JB’s apartment was spent in awkward pleasantries, less the randomness of Vance’s disappointment in not having witnessed a high-speed freeway chase. It took little time, thankfully due to a few beers between us, for the awkwardness to subside and I revealed the reason behind my sticky impropriety in the back of JB’s $30,000 Expedition: “I wasn’t sure if I

should tell John about the mishap with ... the other John, because of how embarrassed you still are over it.” “Oh,” John jumped in, “I saw the coverage on TMZ late one night, and I said to myself ‘I need to meet this guy, he’s a celebrity who’s as dirtyminded as I am!’” “Shut up.” JB heartily replied, followed by his oddly infectious train-screeching-halt of a laugh. Later in the evening we readied ourselves for a night in Boys Town. I realized, as I looked myself in the large mirror of the pink-and-turquoise tiled bathroom, that no matter how much one may look like Jason Stackhouse ... OK, maybe I’m giving myself too much credit ... but, a person from Utah always seems to only fit in in Boys Town as a muscle boy-repellant from the sticks, especially at the age of 40. So I was quite thankful that I’d have Vance by my side, and decided to not give anymore of a damn about it. The next three nights were spent much like that of the first; we hit all the clubs along Santa Monica Boulevard, from shooting pool at Trunks to watching showering go-go dancers at Rage to bumming it at Gold Coast to paying outrageous prices for The Abbey’s infamous martinis. Each night, returning to JB’s apartment, he and I

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