Sociology - III

SINGLE MOTHERS BY CHOICE

Vidit Harsulkar
2015-021
Roll No.: 20

which also helped me in doing a lot of Research and i came to know about so many new things I am really thankful to them.Acknowledgement I would like to express my special thanks of gratitude to Miss Kajal Chandiramani and Miss Nikhita Patil as well as our respected Vice Chancellor Bhavani Prasad Panda who gave me the golden opportunity to do this wonderful project on Unwed Mothers By Choice . Secondly i would also like to thank my parents and friends who helped me a lot in finalizing this project within the limited time frame. .

There is a new trend where women are going ahead and taking a bold step to become a single mother by choice. For instance. Not so quick. The presence of a stepfather actually exacerbates. fatherless boys are more likely to be aggressive and to ultimately become incarcerated. Much of the research controls for income and education. But the new single mothers by choice may discount this evidence. rather than relieves. many of the problems of unmarried parenthood. And an extensive study of family structure in Sweden took account of the mental illness history of the parents. For instance. Yet even in the most generous welfare state in the world. accomplished professionals. Children in step-parent families show more developmental difficulties than those in intact nuclear families. youngsters have denied the traditional model of marriage and have opted for live-in relationships. educated. Since last some years. the problem doesn’t end here. This means that even children of relatively well-off mothers would do better if their parents were married to each other. The career woman who becomes a mother on her own undoubtedly is counting on placing her child in some form of daycare. much of the impact of divorce on the child’s propensity to drop out of school is due simply to the loss of income associated with the divorce. since it is weighted by the large numbers of poor single mothers. The new single mothers by choice are often affluent. The step-father and children can easily become rivals for the mother’s attention. the answer is no. A married mother has options about what to do with a vulnerable child. However. The introduction of a new parent disrupts established loyalties and . as well as the family’s socio-economic status. The unmarried mother will likely have to leave her child in daycare. the children of single parents were at significantly higher risk of psychiatric disease. And what if the mother discovers that she really would like to be in a relationship? Does her subsequent marriage to a different man help the child? All too often. A recent British study offers tantalizing hints about the possibility that the children of single mothers are more likely to become schizophrenic. The adjustment of children in step-parent families is similar to that of children in one-parent families. But is this new development really anything to celebrate? Consequences for the child Numerous studies have established that children of single mothers have poorer life chances than the children of married parents. and substance abuse. suicie attempts. But not all children do well in daycare. Perhaps her child will prove to be one of the lucky children who comes home from daycare with a better vocabulary and social skills. even accounting for income. even if he does not do well there. The fact that problems are statistically unlikely is no comfort if your child happens to be one of the children who becomes aggressive or does not bond properly. They may imagine these advantages will surely overcome these well-documented disadvantages.SINGLE MOTHERS BY CHOICE A VALID “LIFESTYLE CHOICE” OR ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF DUMB SEX? The world is changing rapidly and with that the thought process and the lifestyle of people are changing every minute. with very accepting attitudes toward unmarried parenthood.

They have very definite feelings about having no fat her: They don’t like it.” ends up instead with a lifelong relationship with a man she didn’t like well enough to marry. The anonymous sperm donor approach has the advantage of avoiding complications with the genetic father of the child. many prefer to marry younger women. She may decide a year or two later that being a single mother was more difficult than she expected. When a woman chooses to have a child using an anonymous sperm donor. The trouble with this verbal agreement is that it is not enforceable. she may take him to court to force him to pay child support. A woman can become an unmarried mother by choice by two different routes. or the mother ejects him from the household. Even in those sad cases. many well-educated women nonetheless choose single motherhood. Sometimes the father dies. she is making a plan that her child will never have a relationship with his or her father. Two paths to becoming a single mother by choice In spite of all these uncertainties and difficulties. they find themselves with limited options. She can have a sexual encounter with someone she knows. The mother may assure the father that she has no intention of asking for financial or emotional support. Retreat from relationship The trend toward single motherhood among the well-educated is unmistakable.creates conflicted loyalties. creating complications for discipline. Even with the best of intentions and efforts. than even those in single- mother households. he deserts the family. By the time they have achieved enough career succe ss to feel comfortable embarking on motherhood. children and their fathers can sometimes create a connection. On the other hand. the father might be thve one to change his mind. But she has no right to deprive her child of the paternal relationship. the choice is more by default than an actual decision. in that these couples may not even live together. Sometimes. For many wom en. By the time a woman . Or. She may even refrain from putting his name on the birth certificate. fathers and children sometimes have no bond. she can be artificially inseminated with the sperm of an anonymous sperm donor. He may find his child more interesting and attractive once he or she is out of diapers. But what may seem like an advantage to the mother is a problem for the child. Using an anonymous sperm donor deliberately cuts off the paternal affiliation from the very beginning. he may take her to court to have them enforced. Of t he smaller pool of available men. one thing is certain: The mother who intended to have a child “on her own. Agreeing to have a child together without any kind of commitment differs slightly from children born to cohabiting couples. If the mother refuses to honour visitation and other paternal rights. Some children of anonymous sperm donors are beginning to come forward to tell their stories in op-ed articles and on the internet. choosing not to marry. No matter which parent initiates this dispute. They have taken their career ambitions more seriously than their fertility ambitions. The probability of a boy becoming incarcerated is greater for the sons in step-parent families. If the father declines to help.

her peak fertility is typically past. but by a slightly different route. She wants a baby. This is all very sad. We modern women do not have to take seriously the possib ility of having a baby with every man we hook-up with. The single mother by choice has also retreated from relationship. She feels the desire for motherhood more urgently. All of us.enters her thirties. has become detached from ge nuine human connection. Young women now view the “hook-up. not just because of the risks for any children who result from these non-unio ns. but has given up on finding a suitable mate. It is sad that sex. finds herself in a surprising situation. And so the modern. at exactly the moment that her marriage options have become limited. deserve better. women. children and men alike. Fear of relationship is at the heart of the sexual revolution in which sexual activity without a live baby is considered an entitlement. But these two distinctively modern situations are linked by a common fear: The fear of relationship. that most intimate of all human activities. Having a baby without having sex might seem a little bit like skipping dessert and going straight for the Bruss els sprouts. as a substitute for the relationships they fear. She wants to have a baby without having sex.” a short-term unco mmitted sexual encounter. emancipated woman who spent years trying to avoid having a baby. We can be sexual with someone we have no intention of being connected to. .  Vidit Harsulkar Roll No 20.

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